sunnierrside Archive

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4	This shit really effected my self esteem and I don’t know how to get back to normal again That feeling you describe when you don’t read TRP content sounds quite clearly like addiction. In addition to some great advice already shared here, I would seek out information on dealing with addiction. If you have access to a quality therapist, that could also really help you figure out the best next steps for you to heal. As a recovering alcoholic, kicking the addiction often takes care of the depression too. But treating the underlying issues that probably led you here is also necessary to …	/r/ExRedPill	20/06/24 10:37 PM
1	I resent people who are more fortunate than me, and I don’t know what to do to get rid of these negative feelings of contempt and envy. I love that perspective - what kids of struggles you’d like to have in your life. It’s not often the internet serves up a new thought to consider . . . Thanks!	/r/ExRedPill	31/05/24 03:50 AM
1	Contradiction I’ve noticed I was just listening to this episode of one of my favorite podcasts that was discussing why sleeping around (and worse) can be seen as powerful for men in Christian circles. https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/straight-white-american-jesus/id1441649707?i=1000655225453	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/24 10:53 PM
3	What was your experience as a red pilled? You control for it in the design of the survey: https://www.smartsurvey.com/blog/how-to-reduce-social-desirability-bias	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/23 01:27 PM
4	What was your experience as a red pilled? Also, these are all pre-written choices that were then ranked, so 12 out of 18 for financial prospects for women is pretty low on the list. and it was higher in importance for men at 10. While good looks was at 8 for women and 12 for men, meaning the actually rankings are switched from what OP was supposing. And yes, social desirability bias is always a possibility, but if this was a well-designed study, they would have controlled for that.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/23 03:11 AM
8	What was your experience as a red pilled? I never said anything was some biological universal. We’re humans, very little about our culture is biologically determined. And I also said everything here was backed up by the people I know. I don’t know a single married couple where level of attractiveness or financial status is isn’t of the same general level. Yes, people want to be physically attracted to their romantic partner, but what that means to each person is different. And very few people get married just because they think someone …	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/23 03:05 AM
8	What was your experience as a red pilled? It’s interesting that you’re holding onto the idea that women look for resources and men look for good looks. Is this assumption based on any data that you have? Here’s a summary of some data comparing what men and women value in a partner from 1939 and 2008 - a little dated, but the results line up with every married couple I know. Namely, that most people are looking for love and connection over all else: https://wapo.st/3S8lGvN (gift article) We also mostly end up with people of similar attra…	/r/ExRedPill	08/10/23 11:36 PM
3	How to stop myself from falling into redpill ideology. I think it could be helpful to learn more about misogyny, the patriarchy, and feminism - the actual research and ideas, not “anti-woke” warriors’ take on them. One of the biggest problems with RP ideology is that it removes a lot of context from the picture it paints. It get upset about things hurting men, when they actually hurt women more than men (like impossible beauty standards leading to eating disorders, complying with sex that they don’t want to have, mutilation through plastic surgery, …	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/23 03:17 PM
50	This is my list of Redpill/MGTOW beliefs. I need help with challenging them- the world right now seems to confirm them. These are all complete fabrications designed to play off of some men’s insecurities in the face of internalized and unrealistic standards of masculinity, CREATED BY MEN. Take some time to research actual data - Google exists. Most marriages meet in person (2/3), people tend to marry within their socioeconomic class and to people of similar levels of “attractiveness”, and most women are NOT looking for muscles and money. Most women, like most men, are looking for connection, shared values, and so…	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/23 02:50 PM
23	I wonder how many people in real life think the guys who believed in the red pill are incels? Don’t many incels start with the red pill before they move on to the black pill? From my own outside-looking-in perspective, the biggest difference is that RP’s are still trying to have sex and interact with women, while incels have given up. So, more a matter of scale on the level of bitterness. Both seem rife with misogyny and bad treatment of women, but maybe I’m missing something?	/r/ExRedPill	21/09/23 06:49 PM
2	My boyfriend started watching redpill content, it really worries me and I don't know how to deal with it. I recognize a lot of past myself in your approach to this relationship, even before the rp stuff came into the scene. Things like putting his feelings before yours, trying to change your behavior to please him, and having these highs when things are good and deep lows when they aren’t. Now my present self is married to the guy I would have said these about over 15 years ago, with a kid. After finally getting my own act together, I find myself entangled in an unpleasant relationship with someone …	/r/ExRedPill	16/09/23 01:28 AM
9	How to exit redpill when I had to learn about biological human attractiveness at uni? Also, take a look around you - how much of modern life aligns with biological urges / instincts? The human mind is complex in ways that often override basic biology. I am very skeptical of anything that explains modern people through biology. It is a piece of the puzzle, but rarely the defining piece.	/r/ExRedPill	10/09/23 08:09 PM
3	My friend's behaviour has been triggering redpill thinking She’s just not that into you. It’s okay. Lots of people aren’t into lots of other people. But you can’t be actual friends with someone you have feelings for. Trust the millions and billions of attempts the rest of us have all made. It will hurt you. It will make you hate her. She will lose respect for you, not because she’s bad or you’re not a ‘real man’, but because there is an inherent imbalance when one person has feelings and the other doesn’t. It’s just a sucky situation. My advice is to cu…	/r/ExRedPill	09/08/23 11:57 PM