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| 3 | I don't get it. The only people doing and teaching cold approach and game are redpill types.Sorry, that was meant to be directed at OP | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/26 06:19 PM |
| 3 | I don't get it. The only people doing and teaching cold approach and game are redpill types.If your problem is that you have anxiety when you try to initiate conversations with people, there are lots of people who can help with that but they are marketing it as therapy for social anxiety rather than "game". The other thing that might help you is something like speed dating. You get "volume" you're looking for without the additional difficulty imposed by approach women who have not opted in and are trying to suss out whether you're looking for directions or intending to mug them when yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 13/07/26 10:15 AM |
| 6 | Dont know how to not resent women when having a small penis? (Please help)You need to stop reading that sub. Lemme tell you a story that sounds unrelated. My first job was in a psychiatric ward, and there were a bunch of really experienced staff who seemed convinced that nothing we did worked. Like they always just seemed to expect the worst possible outcome. It wasn't all of them though, and over time I realised that the people who still had hope had worked in a bunch of different places, while the cynics had worked on the same ward, seeing people from the same area … | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/26 12:35 PM |
| 5 | Dont know how to not resent women when having a small penis? (Please help)She almost certainly misunderstood that question and may have even assumed that you were feeling awkward about it so played it down. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/05/26 12:20 PM |
| 6 | do non red pill men exist?Well this sub is mostly full of non red pill men. Most are ex red pill, some never have been but are lurking out of curiosity or wanting to help. Even if that stat about gen z is correct, that's still 2/3 guys who aren't total chuds right now, and some will improve in time. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/05/26 09:58 PM |
| 3 | 17M about to be 18 soon, struggling with virginityYou are not the only one who is lying. They're also looking at you (who has apparently had sex) thinking that you'll judge them for being virgins so they say they've had sex and make up some details to sound convincing. Sure, it's not all of them, but it's way more of them that you think | /r/ExRedPill | 12/04/26 07:25 AM |
| 2 | Do you believe men have a peak?If you want to date women in their early 20s, you're likely to have the best chances in your early - mid 20s If you're just thinking about your chances of getting a date with a woman, it's a lot broader and more influenced by local factors but you can probably define it as the time when most women around your age in your area are still looking for dates. It's hard to get actual numbers on this but the average age of first time mothers where I live is around 31, average age of first marriages is … | /r/ExRedPill | 26/03/26 09:48 AM |
| 6 | Was the red pill so wrong or right?Places and creators where the self improvement is the point. I learned to lift from a powerlifting club at the gym. I learned a lot of productivity stuff from a YouTube channel called howtoadhd, and a friend swears by atomic habits. I honestly don't think a lot of them have anything useful to say about careers or finances especially now the online course landscape is thoroughly oversaturated. Where I live there's adult career guidance centres that can give you advice on training options and you … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/03/26 08:56 AM |
| 2 | Red pill and other ideologies are just marketing scams, but what about “mental disorders”?So almost anything that's a symptom of a mental health diagnosis exists in the general population to some extent, it just doesn't come up enough to be a problem. If you have a framework in your head that says that all women do a thing and men don't, you'll notice and remember that thing in women's conversations and not men's conversations, and you're less likely to notice times women definitely don't do the thing (and if you do, more likely to find an alternative explanation). This is not a pers… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/26 06:39 PM |
| 1 | Red pill and other ideologies are just marketing scams, but what about “mental disorders”?Off the top of my head, the book "reinventing your life" by young and klosko is really helpful for spotting unhealthy relationship patterns in both yourself and others and suggests ways you can get out of them | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/26 05:19 PM |
| 4 | How to desconstruct the toxic idea of "She's settling for you but really wants the "hotter/alpha" guy who didn't commit to her"Consider why men might be less selective in casual encounters. If all women were as enthusiastic about having casual sex as men were, men could afford to be as selective as they liked. This kinda indicates that there are either fewer women participating or they're participating a lot less often or both. This kinda makes sense; the risk of pregnancy, they're likely to be socially punished rather than rewarded in a lot of situations, and research suggests that women are less likely to orgasm in he… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/03/26 09:17 AM |
| 14 | How to desconstruct the toxic idea of "She's settling for you but really wants the "hotter/alpha" guy who didn't commit to her"Most of us now have access to casual jobs and we all like earning extra money. But to assume everyone you meet has worked for Uber wouldn't be accurate. Just because someone theoretically has access to something and it's theoretically desirable doesn't mean that everyone is going to think it's worth the time and effort or risk of ill treatment. Many women aren't into hook ups and have a dating history that looks more like serial monogamy of generally increasing seriousness. They might look on pa… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/03/26 10:56 PM |
| 4 | Galera tenho uma dúvida. To conhecendo uma mina até que e maneira e tal, porém ela tem os emojis de Lobo e Às de espada no perfil, qual significado?Ask her | /r/ExRedPill | 23/02/26 05:40 PM |
| 6 | Red pill and other ideologies are just marketing scams, but what about “mental disorders”?I think no experience is ever truly wasted if you reflect on it afterwards. Even if all you gain is advanced scam spotting skills or how you don't want to be as a person. If you've learned anything or been inspired to improve yourself, great. However, I think if you want to learn about relationships, red flags, or mental disorders, there are plenty of professionals that produce books, podcasts, and videos that have some evidence to back them up and won't over generalise or throw in random specul… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/02/26 02:38 PM |
| 1 | I saw a video of a woman saying she wants a tall, handsome, rich boyfriend. It really touched me.Hey, I'm 1.7 and married | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/26 10:54 PM |
| 5 | The Red Pill is like The One Ring to meIf you went on to a sub that was all about peer support for people who used to be in a religious cult, extreme political movement, or addictive behaviour, you would probably see some similar trends; some people talking about how the behaviour/group totally fucked up their lives and ruined their relationships, and some other people talking about how they were in a relationship with someone and then the group/behaviour fucked it up. Would you conclude that joining the Scientologists or developing … | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/26 10:39 PM |
| 4 | I don’t want to be “red-pilled”, but I’ve seen too much and am kinda low-key traumatized (please help me)Fair enough. The grind can isolate. Find ways to do things with people outside of a business context. Take a dance class, learn a new language, volunteer. There are women who will give zero shits about your height, your current lifestyle is just not bringing you into contact with them. I say this as a short chubby dude who is happily married. Have courage and try, because no matter how much you doubt it will work, it is guaranteed to be more effective than doomscrolling | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/26 06:55 PM |
| 8 | I don’t want to be “red-pilled”, but I’ve seen too much and am kinda low-key traumatized (please help me)Being "invisible" when you go out is kinda the norm, but just being out isn't how you meet people. You need to go to stuff that gets you interacting with other people. It can be something like a singles event or some hobby thing like a dance class or rock climbing or some shit. You build a social life. Rocking up to a club in a flashy car will get you attention, but some of it will be from girls who like money and flash cars rather than you, and bed rotting while looking at red pill content will… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/26 04:37 PM |
| 3 | If I risk looking like a simp, my gut instinct says just don’t do itThere's a lot of fragile links in the chain holding up your self esteem It's based on feeling you're attractive Which is based on your perception of whether you're awkward or simping Based on your guess about whether the interaction you're having would be judged negatively by other guys Attractiveness is deeply subjective, and basing your self esteem on it is giving control of your self esteem to random observers who are likely to disagree, virtually guaranteeing you an emotional rollercoaster W… | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/26 03:21 PM |
| 3 | If I risk looking like a simp, my gut instinct says just don’t do itDude, you know you're capable of both forming friendships and getting dates with women. Why would you assume that 40yo single guys and "other losers" making fun of you means you're doing something wrong? That's like a football player taking advice from some middle aged guy who hasn't played since high school drinking in a sports bar who swears he "could have gone pro". They are coping hard. | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/26 02:49 PM |
| 12 | Do you think a short, nerdy, or non-dominant man can be loved by a woman?I'm 5ft 7 and I run a larp system, neither of these things bother my wife. I'm not sure what you mean by non dominant, I would describe myself as reasonably assertive, and I know guys who are very shy and guys who are submissive as a kink thing who have wives and girlfriends. It is definitely possible, and anyone who tells you otherwise is crashing out about their own poor luck in dating, or trying to manipulate you for clout or profit. Are there girls who won't be into you? Absolutely, but some… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/02/26 10:41 AM |
| 6 | Do you think a woman can be with a man who earns less, or does his hypergamy prevent it?I know plenty of examples IRL but they may not be convincing as I am a random person on Reddit. So I invite you to consider multilevel marketing. If you look at Monat or Mary Kay or what have you, their participants are often apparently traditional Utah Mormons who would never class themselves as feminists. And yet, part of the pitch is often "retire your husband" - make so much money that your husband can chill at home with your family (but you're working from home so you're not one of those na… | /r/ExRedPill | 03/02/26 10:26 AM |
| 4 | How do I stop romantically distrusting women when they have judged me for my bisexual past?There are some bullshit stereotypes about us out there - that bi people are more likely to be unfaithful and that all roads lead to dick (bi women are straight and doing it for attention, but men are gay and not ready to come out all the way), and sometimes even people who don't consciously think those things will suddenly have them pop out of their subconscious to bite them when they find out they're dating a bi person. This is not an excuse for your exes' behaviour but it might explain why the… | /r/ExRedPill | 01/02/26 02:20 AM |
| 19 | Do you know any women who are protective of their husbands, not possessive, or who take the lead in the relationship?In this economy? Most households are dual income these days. I will say that I know a few guys that have lost their jobs due to illness, disability, layoffs, whatever, and their partners stuck around and picked up the slack as best they could, same as the men I know whose partners couldn't work. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/01/26 10:09 PM |
| 8 | "You're the type of guy women will only appreciate when you get older"It is harder, yes, but you're not the only one in your position. Life is hard and complicated and there are lots of people out there that spent their early life trapped in a shit situation and their early adulthood digging themselves out of it. There are also plenty of people out there who got to 18 mostly ok but then got hit by illness or injury, caring responsibilities, any number of things, and find themselves at 25 or 30 looking to figure themselves out for the first time. There are still ot… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 07:52 PM |
| 19 | "You're the type of guy women will only appreciate when you get older"Then here's a different proposed reading. You were mentally in a very different place from most of your your peers at 21. This isn't gendered or anything to do with attractiveness. Many (though not all) people who have been through shit and taken on responsibility too young prioritise safety and stability over fun and exploration. If that was you, then relationships with your peers might be difficult; to them, focusing on the long term might feel threatening because they don't know what they wan… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/05/24 04:29 PM |
| 12 | People claim on Incel Tears that they can spot an incel in real life a mile a way, is this true and if so how?They're exaggerating. They reckon they can spot anyone into the subculture a mile off because they've seen guys referring to femoids or desperately attempting seduction by NLP in the wild. No one can tell you're having insecure thoughts. Honestly stay off both incel forums and inceltear, they'll both make you feel miserable and won't solve anything | /r/ExRedPill | 17/03/24 06:47 PM |
| 8 | I want go villain arc I just really i was delusional beta orbiter the whole time (need advice and motivation)Asking to hang out is not a safe way of asking her out. If you're not making it clear you're asking for a date, she could believe you just want to hang out as friends and agree, and you could believe this means she's showing interest or flirting, which sounds like how you got here. Communicate clearly if you want to avoid delusion As for the "villain mode" thing, I wouldn't do it. It is guaranteed to look over dramatic and cringe and will not help your chances. If you have been clear about your … | /r/ExRedPill | 28/01/24 11:07 AM |
| 6 | women gushing about their husbands make me feel put offPerhaps I can help you as a dude who could be described this way (am 5'7, not super ripped, and engaged). TRP would have you believe that I was sat around waiting for someone to finish riding the cock carousel and settle for me. Nah, I was dating around with varying degrees of seriousness all along. Most of my friends who are physically similar (apart from the few who are in long term relationships with a high school sweetheart) have also actively dated through their 20s, some into their 30s tho… | /r/ExRedPill | 27/01/24 07:30 PM |
| 18 | RP damage/ life advice?Step 1. Stop consuming red pill content. Block any accounts you're following, hit do not recommend channel on anything coming up in your YouTube feed, actively search for unrelated content to flood your feed with something else. That shit will make you anxious Step 2. Stop being an asshole to your girlfriend. You are anxious but that is not her fault and it is your responsibility to refrain from taking it out on her. When she asks you to change something stop and take a breath before you answer,… | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/24 01:43 PM |
| 12 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?I don't think there's just one reason People want to get into relationships and a lot of people get anxious about it and go looking for advice on it. People will click on content that makes them feel angry or scared. We're hard wired to pay attention to anything that looks like a sign of threat on our environment. This also makes it hard to stop watching once you start because ignoring a perceived threat feels like a bad idea If you've had a hard time in a relationship, or you're having trouble … | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:25 PM |
| 9 | The red pill makes me feel like I should have an arranged marriage?Those channels are selective. If I wanted I could create an entire channel with stories about marriages that ended because of the husband cheating. Even if 99% of all men were faithful and I didn't make anything up, there are enough people in the world that I would never run out of content. Would it be enlightening for a woman to watch that channel? Would it tell her what her chances are of having a happy marriage? Or would it just make it seem that husbands cheating was much more common than it… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/24 02:07 PM |
| 10 | What do you think of transmaxxing?I've looked through some of their posts and to me it looks like at least 90% fantasy, whether that's guys with a feminisation kink or guys who have overdosed on the black pill looking for the naloxone of hope. Then there are some deeply repressed trans people who have spent too much time on 4chan. As someone who has travelled in the other direction, it would be an incredibly dumb thing to do. The red and black pill types severely overestimate how easy it is living as a woman. The freebies are no… | /r/ExRedPill | 05/11/23 05:40 PM |
| 3 | Why do you believe RP is wrong?I had a module that went into it as part of my degree the main thing I took away is to be wary of "just so" stories that start with an observation or idea about how the world is now and try to work backwards to an evolutionary explanation for it, because you will be able to come up with something and it will probably be unfalsifiable nonsense with all the scientific merit of a fairy tale about how the elephant got its trunk | /r/ExRedPill | 21/10/23 02:34 PM |
| 2 | I am slowly working my way out of redpill ideologies, but I still struggle with this aspectYou can never be 100% sure what another person will do. Choose to trust your partner or choose to leave, but getting twitchy about her male friends is going to make both of you miserable while never giving you the certainty you're looking for. Remember that she's taking a risk in trusting you too, even if you can't imagine ever cheating. | /r/ExRedPill | 26/05/23 07:03 PM |
| 4 | Expecting women have a low body count is hypocriticalBy your description, men are, as a collective, morons. If most men can't get laid because we have no standards meaning any given woman always has better offers the absolute last thing we should be doing if we want an even playing field is disrespecting women who fuck more or have standards more similar to ours. Like if the market is oversaturated the last thing you want to do is reduce demand, right? I mean sure you could try to throttle supply but I don't think any of us are going to not fuck s… | /r/ExRedPill | 08/05/23 05:33 PM |
| 1 | Is it understandable to dislike RP, PUA, Manosphere, but also dislike FDS?Absolutely understandable. All you need is the entirely reasonable belief that separating the opposite sex into high value and low value is shitty. | /r/ExRedPill | 25/02/23 07:54 PM |
| 8 | What hobby to choose in order to meet women organically?Board games events tend to be a bit less male dominated than chess. A lot of women do crossfit and it tends to have a social side. Most volunteer groups that aren't just doing math tutoring have quite a lot of women in them. Is there anything you wanna learn? Go do a night class in that thing. And try not to fixate on meeting a woman, enjoy the activity, make some friends. That way it doesn't feel like a total waste if you don't meet someone, and you'll have more chance of meeting someone indire… | /r/ExRedPill | 21/02/23 07:50 PM |
| 9 | Hey r/exredpill, question; How do I tell my girlfriend that she sucks at being a girlfriend?If you have reached this point just dump her and move on. Trying to tell someone what isn't working is a conversation to have if/when you think a relationship is salvagable. That conversation goes "hey, when you do x, it makes me feel y, please do z instead" If you think your partner all around sucks, having that conversation is a giant waste of both of your time. Either she doesn't care and you'll feel bad, or you'll get entangled in a long conversation where she tries promising to fix things a… | /r/ExRedPill | 17/02/23 06:10 PM |
| 5 | No one talks about the loneliness men go through.I spent my 20s moving from town to town because of short work contracts. Here's what I learned: Nothing happens if you don't make it happen. Think about it. If most men are lonely, and most men struggle to make friends after college, that's a lot of men around you all the time that you could be making friends with, but none of you are making the first move. Be the one who does. Clubs are indeed shitty places to meet people. They are places to go with your existing friends to get drunk and dance … | /r/ExRedPill | 16/02/23 11:16 AM |
| 3 | Has anyone woman that is in her early 20s or prime as the red pill would call it ever dumped a guy if she found out he was redpill or find men who are redpilled repulsive?I'm a trans guy, but was pre transition in my early 20s and bi, and I gotta say, being hit on by rp guys is not fun, do not recommend, never went for them it. And nah I dont think it was cause I dont really think like a woman, the women around me also found them annoying and cringy. It was painfully obvious when they tried to neg or play friends off against each other and every time I saw it the dude was shot down in flames. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/01/23 01:02 AM |
| 2 | Out of redpill but still feeling bad about my heightYou're within the average range, so close to the middle of the bell curve most people would need a tape measure to know the difference. You are not short. You are average. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/23 01:33 AM |
| 1 | How can I overcome the sexual inequality?Nice | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | How can I overcome the sexual inequality?Hi, I'm a trans guy. While i can't speak to the totality of the female experience, or the cis guy experience for that matter, but I have walked the world looking like an average looking girl and like an average looking guy and honestly the difference isn't as big as you think, for the following reasons: Dudes being desperate for a woman, any woman, is not the same as them desiring you personally. It does nothing to make you feel valued or worthwhile getting a whole bunch of messages on a dating … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 05:05 PM |
| 1 | Contradictions of body count policingFar as I understand it, the basic RP belief here is that given a choice, all women will only ever fuck the alphas/chads/top 20%, and will only resort to other guys to fund their lifestyles. The pua types' answer to this is to try to become one of the chads through changing their looks or behaviour. Anything bad they have to say about promiscuous women is probably mostly a head game to make themselves less terrified of approaching them Black pill response is to despair, give up on dating and rail… | /r/ExRedPill | 22/01/23 01:34 PM |
| 2 | This shit is complete suicide fuel. Cant tell me this isnt how most modern women areThe girls who film themselves swiping are a small, self selected group, performing for outrage clicks. They don't represent the majority | /r/ExRedPill | 21/01/23 07:06 PM |
| 3 | As a young man was everything in the red pill and black pill that was told to me a lie?I'm neither 6 foot, nor earning 6 figures, nor blessed with a 6 pack and yet I fuck | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 09:17 AM |
| 3 | What turned you away from the red pill?Anyone who says that people (of any kind) can be predicted and controlled by a simple set of rules or system is a fool or trying to sell you something. People are complicated, their circumstances are complicated, there are too many variables to create such a system. I think TRP has a couple of good insights, but they aren't new and they're surrounded by bullshit. One is sort your own shit out first, don't be going into a relationship looking for them (or being in a relationship) to give you self… | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/23 02:31 PM |
| 4 | What turned you away from the red pill?I was never really into it, but things like you've said in your post would have put me off, like, I look around at my friends in their 30s and none of them are millionaires and a lot of them are in solid long term relationships. TRP guys will tell you that the girls are all secretly cheating but occam's razor applies, so I'll believe the evidence of my own eyes over some guy who wants to sell me a course any day | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/23 01:18 PM |
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