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Morticia and Gomez, now that's love. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:10 AM
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My ex was an absolute horror story. Got together when I was low on self esteem, and he completely used it to his advantage. He didn't work for almost a year and suddenly when he got a barely minimum wage job, he was just hot shit. He'd get all crazy jealous of my friends and used to tell me I was worthless and all kinds of things. He got physically abusive, and I finally ended it and the night we broke up, he went and fucked my best friend. I moved on, finished my degree, started working out, lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 11:32 PM
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The worst part is growing up in an environment that fosters this. My family is Hispanic, and my mom grew up having to do everything for her brothers (2 of which are older). She even would have to go get their drinks and bring it to them and stand there while they drank it and then take the glass to the sink! (Side note: she eventually started spitting in their drinks) But my grandma basically STILL looks at men as people to care for and love and women to serve. My mom still had some of these hab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/08/20 09:50 PM
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YES. I shouldn't have to feel nervous wearing shorts and a tank top when it's 90 freaking degrees out, because men can't not be gross. "Aww, you should take it as a compliment!" Bitch, no it's not. It's harassment when I say no and you keep on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 08:36 PM
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It's so annoying. The SLIGHTEST bit of cleavage makes guys think they can just gawk at your boobs and your job tells you to dress more modestly. Like sure, let me just wear a turtleneck every single day of the year because I can't help that I have large breasts and you can't stop looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:56 PM
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You ever notice too that if you have big boobs, you suddenly get looked at as somehow being more slutty or dressing too "revealing" for wearing normal shirts?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/20 06:53 PM
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They only sound more sorry once they think you'll actually leave their asses, but it only lasts until they know you're staying, and they go right back to how they were. You deserve better and I know you know it. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 07:02 PM
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If he's looking to other women for validation, that's a HUGE red flag, and likely a precursor that he'll use that as an excuse to cheat if you guys ever get into a rut, which often happens once you have a family. It's up to you what you think and the level of conversation was, but if he lied and crossed your boundaries now, once you let it slide, they often don't have a reason to not do it again since you allowed it before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/20 03:39 PM
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Lol it's kinda long, but here we go. So, she (we'll call her Jan) had this weird and possessive boyfriend, and he basically didn't want her having any male friends. Of course, we had mutual guy friends, and one of them (we'll call him Jack) was pretty sad that he wasn't allowed to talk to Jan, considering they had a pretty close friendship before. He asked me if I thought it was okay if he still sent her a card for Christmas, and I said I wasn't sure and to ask Jan. So he did. Jan then proceeded…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/08/20 12:24 AM
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Learned this the hard way by allowing a former best friend to come back into my life after she apologized. She ended up trying to fuck up my marriage ON CHRISTMAS EVE, two weeks before our baby was due. Needless to say, that was the end of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/20 07:25 PM
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So her boyfriend is a former friend of my husband (I say former because my husband completely stopped being friends with him after seeing the things he was doing). Apparently when they were in high school this guy would post super lame videos of him crooning on the guitar as a way to get girls, and directly after their second child was FUCKING STILLBORN at 36 weeks, he was posting those types of videos again and my husband was like, "Yeah, he's cheating. He even told us when he'd do that shit be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 02:06 AM
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My thoughts exactly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:34 PM
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He's an atrocious man, also. Cheated on her while she was pregnant, but blamed it on her "attitude." He's disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 10:23 PM
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Sadly enough, same girl got hooked on percocet after a car accident and took off to go be an actual online prostitute to feed her addiction and left her kids with him. He actually takes good care of them, and now god only knows what happened to her. All stemming from her lack of self esteem that was exacerbated by their awful relationship. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/20 01:22 AM
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I had a friend like this. She had FIVE kids with the guy, and he had been cheating on her since the first MONTH that they were together. She just told herself that bullshit, "Oh he fucks other girls, but he only loves ME, because he comes home to me every single night." Uh, girl NO. He just uses you because you're dumb enough to support him and let him cheat. 🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 09:29 PM
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it still feels like rejection that I’m not worthy of the respect I want to them You have to change your frame of mind with that, and it can take time. Think of it instead as, "He KNOWS I deserve better than his bullshit, and I obviously carry myself in a way that shows I know it, too." Men who run from something as simple as respect aren't rejecting you, they're preserving their laziness and nothing more. It was never about you. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 11:45 PM
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I will say that I enjoy doing it, but definitely not an everyday level. Few times a week, sure, and especially not after it's been a really hot day.🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 11:28 PM
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"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. -Wayne Gretzky" - Michael Scott
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:54 PM
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I made this mistake at 17. Dropped out of college for a (crappy) boyfriend at the time, even though I had a full ride. I could have had everything paid for, and instead I fucked up and now am paying back student loans for years. 🤦‍♀️ Thankfully my husband is so supportive of my goals and has helped me pay for my master's program because he knows how much it means to me. STAY. FOCUSED. ON. YOUR. GOALS.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 11:52 PM
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I remember mine came in all sneaky one day and went into the kitchen and told me to stay in the living room. About 10 minutes later he came out with the most beautiful bunch of wildflowers all put into a vase. He said he saw them on the way home and thought they were so pretty and how much I'd like them, so he pulled over on the side of the road and cut them for me. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/06/20 11:14 PM
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Agree. I got dragged once for saying I suggested coffee for a meet up, but I don't want to go on a date that'll last hours and be miserable if there's no connection. Coffee is a good way that you can be out quickly if needed or sit and talk longer if you're enjoying yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/20 07:27 PM
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That first part...."I've taught her about the universe, freedom and how marriage is a trap...." translates to, "I'm a condescending asshole who got her to settle for my subpar excuse for a relationship by pretending I'm smart." Puke city.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 12:50 AM
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I have a girlfriend whose husband did this shit to her. She now has 2 kids that are 11 months apart because not only did he demand sex, but he demanded it without a condom. She left him finally, but this shit is straight up ABUSE.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/20 08:28 PM
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Why don't you want to get married, if I can ask?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:58 AM
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Exactly. They do what they say, and you literally don't have that awful ambiguous stage of "How does he feel about me? Are we a legit couple? Are we just 'seeing' each other?" that I've gone through in other relationships. When it's THE person, you don't ever have to question how they feel and what they want, because they show it and you know. It's amazing. I'm so happy for you! ❤❤❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 02:06 AM
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Right? You just feel it and you know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 01:21 AM
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Weddings cost what you want them to. Your wedding is entirely up to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:14 PM
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Ex boyfriend and I were together almost 5 years, no proposal (to be fair, I would have said no). Husband proposed after 6 months and we'll be married 5 years next month. I know 6 months is fairly quick, but if a man wants to marry you, it won't take 3, 5, 7+ years for him to not only figure it out, but show it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 11:13 PM
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This is why I'm grateful for my husband. He is continually open to growth and learning new things, and he's been that way since before we got married. It's who he is. He genuinely wants to learn and improve upon himself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 10:23 PM
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Her videos are gaining quite a bit of traction on Facebook, YouTube and TikTok. She doesn't do anything else that I'm aware of. Her job is championing for men. There's a lot of her clips here. https://www.distractify.com/p/chloe-sunderland-tiktok
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:25 PM
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Look her up on Facebook. She's all about supporting men's rights.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/20 09:35 PM
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Damn, I had coronavirus for 29 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/04/20 11:30 PM
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THIS. My husband tells me he loves me, but he also shows me constantly. The things he does for me on a regular basis show me how he feels. I've always said that people will only treat you as well as their feelings compel them to. If a guy cares for you, there will be no doubt, because you'll see it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 10:46 PM
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Omg that's awful! He used to tell me I was ridiculous and overreacting all the time, and I really started to believe asking for monogamy and faithfulness was too much. I look back on that relationship and just shake my head at myself. Like wtf, girl. So glad I'm not there anymore and that you're not either! ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 08:38 PM
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TRUTH. My ex would cheat on me and say I should have just trusted him and he wouldn't cheat on me. It was my fault for continuing to distrust him, because it made him want to cheat more. And that I was ridiculous for getting upset when I could fix it by just trusting him. What in the fuck kind of logic is that?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 07:04 PM
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I let lurkers follow me, too. They're gonna lurk in silence, hoping I fail, and instead they get to be salty af that I'm succeeding. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/20 02:03 AM
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It's hilarious how you immediately turn into a "fat bitch" right after you reject them. 😂😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 11:52 PM
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Don't forget when creepy dudes compliment you (i.e., "You have great legs") to say, "I know." Watching a man who get floored when you don't need his approval is priceless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/20 09:54 PM
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Thank you. I promise, he's really a great man. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:53 AM
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Let's check the boxes and see. He has never cheated on me. He paid for every date out to every restaurant and other activity we did. He respected my boundaries. He always did (and still does) what he said he would. He listened to everything I said and ALWAYS takes into account my feelings. He has a wonderful job. Constantly shows appreciation, and did from early on. Takes good care of himself. Is extremely focused on me in bed. And he's so incredible as a father. ....what about this doesn't meet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:40 AM
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If you'd like my social media, I'd be glad to give it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:02 AM
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My ex was the WORST about that. I definitely was at my lowest in life and he monopolized on it. Once I finally was like, "No fuck this, I'm not doing this anymore," and left him, he was like, begging me to take him back. It's like the meaner I was to him, the harder he tried. So freaking weird. Of course by then, I wanted nothing to do with him. Haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:31 AM
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I agree, I had my concerns at first also. I don't think it was so much of the Virgin thing you're referring to, but I get where you're coming from. I know a lot of women don't mind sleeping with men fairly quickly, especially in this town where he and most other people already know each other (we run into someone he knows probably 85% we go out somewhere). It's really odd. Everyone literally knows everyone so it's like they forgot about how to get to know someone new. I'd have to disagree with y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 01:28 AM
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Haha. Explain. My husband adores me. He STILL does things on the regular to show me how much he loves me. He provides so much for us, and never once complains. He goes out of his way on the regular. So, where exactly did I lose? 🤔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 12:02 AM
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Plus, what other methods of communication would you suggest? We didn't meet on a dating app. I didn't want to give him my social media. I don't use kik or any of those things.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:56 PM
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I suggested coffee because I had already gone out to dinner with my family that was in town, and I wanted to see what he was like conversationally before anything else.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:54 PM
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Lol my husband had struggled with depression, so he can't be an amazing husband?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:52 PM
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I definitely think it's all about setting your boundaries explicitly for sure. No two women are alike, so for him to know what it is for you, you have to be clear with it. It's what he does (or doesn't do) with the information that matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:51 PM
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That's the biggest takeaway you should look at. He didn't whine or make excuses why you should tolerate it. He just got rid of it. Plus, haven't you ever really loved someone and saw that it changed how you look at strangers that you might have found super attractive before? You just find your partner more attractive than just about anyone, regardless. If he treats you well and really cares for you, focus on those things. Don't fall into insecurity and what ifs. Don't listen to his words. It's w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:49 PM
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I've heard of that. I still work on myself. I'm getting a graduate degree and have a great job. He's encouraging and supportive about my going to school and helps pay for my classes, too. I'm always prepared to take care of myself no matter what. Thank you. ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 11:12 PM
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Is it nowadays? I feel like I know so many couples that didn't even make it to their 2 year wedding anniversary, and a lot more that are steady unhappy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 08:14 PM
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Lol he got what he wanted as in a happy marriage and family?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:56 PM
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His phone is open game at any time. His lock code he made the same as mine, and if I ever ask him to use his phone for anything, he has zero issue handing it to me. He's not hiding anything at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:55 PM
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I didn't really have to do anything to him other than set my expectations and boundaries. He either respected them and lived up to them or not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:50 PM
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I don't see it as work to make sure you're not going to settle for crap and spend years being unhappy just to be with someone. It's investing in yourself and what you're worth, and I think it's worth it. 🤷‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:44 PM
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He didn't have a ton of dating history. I moved to where we live now on my own before I met him, and it's not a huge place. There's only about 70k people in the entire town, and most people grew up here. The majority of his dating history was high school stuff.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:28 PM
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Men are like kids. They like to see what they can get away with and what little effort they can put forth to get what they want. I've never understood that myself. They look for the easiest way from point A to B.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:16 PM
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The fact that he did it on his own instead of making an excuse I think is a good thing. I do believe SOME, as in very few, guys can be LVM with HVM potential. Men by nature, are lazy, and most will do the bare minimum get what they want from a woman. There are those who find the woman they want but will still just walk away if it's too much work. There are also the few that will learn and live being HVM because they see it not only is what they have to be for her, but that it betters them as men…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 06:02 PM
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Why is it okay for men to have 'man caves' but women can't have a room for their stuff? I've never understood that. My husband would literally build me a room if I said I wanted one. He seriously makes me realize how long I settled for crappy men and how much better I deserve.❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 10:23 PM
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