sunshinevante Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Single and Happy? Are they? i will say, i 90% doubt things are a permanent lifestyle choice. in the sense, i doubt this is something they decided upon since youth rather prob experienced (even if vicariously) something made them choose that lifestyle and same can be vice versa (didnt want to be marriage then experience something otherwise). i was a very anti marriage and romance since my early teens. im just less anti those things today like (100% anti to like now 80% lol) another thing, there is a lot of influencers who p…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/26 05:45 PM
8	Single and Happy? Are they? Single and happy here, i know people who are single and not happy. I know people married and not happy and people married and happy (esp as a therapist). You can be single and sad, you can be married and sad. Happy is an emotion and emotions come and go. Life is just what you make it! I will say as i am single and happy. I dont think im happy because im single... but because i have time to do things i love and surrounding by people i love. ive been in relationships and if i was happy it wasnt be…	/r/RedPillWomen	18/05/26 08:44 PM
1	Nightclubs are not the right place to meet women I think its case to case also i dont go out often (5 times in one year) so this may be different then girls who go out more frequently! two occasions, I exchanged numbers and I really enjoyed talking to them that. I would say "I need to go back to my friends" however I would check in w my friends and say hey this guy us cute and they would encourage me to go talk to him more. I dont want to abandon my friends esp as the "mom" friend. you can meet women but some encounters may turn into casual da…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 01:18 PM
1	So how exactly do men "deceive" women into sex? My friend was talking to a guy and was going to fly out of state to see him (old friends also he bought the flight) and he first said he date around which she was fine with. Then he said he wanted to be with her, a commitment. to her arrival date. They had a great time when they met up, slept together but then when she was leaving, he said he wasn't mentally / emotionally ready for a relationship and he needed to get therapy first. He never made an effort for to get therapy after that & stopped …	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 02:41 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread I think girls go to other girls for advice rather than reddit / social media. Also note things like tiktok, twitter, ig, have the algorithm of what you are interested. So if girls have no interest in self improvement they are not going to look be in spaces / consume content that is about self improving bc that is not what they are "liking". Self improvement also requires first self awareness that one needs to change. Like everyone a lot of people dont have that awareness or ignore it. Those peop…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 02:58 PM
5	Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all? honestly, I'll wouldn't really care, weird take but I feel validation from men is low value from me. even if men are attracted to me it doesn't really give me much of an ego/ confidence boost either? so no validation or attention whatever wouldnt hurt my confidence necessarily. its like cherry on top of everything else I have going on. I have idea of what I want from life that would give me major fulfillment and a man is not part of that but I wouldnt be opposed to relationship/ marriage either.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/23 04:05 PM
1	Women lack men’s physical and mental advantages and so take out their revenge with lies who says we are chunkers? dont even know what that means but lol alrighty	/r/AllPillDebate	02/08/23 02:24 PM
1	Women lack men’s physical and mental advantages and so take out their revenge with lies tinder is the worse place for people in general. also I know guys 5'6 has a gf, 5'4 (I dated him also he had way more experience in the dating world than i did so), also 5'2/3 and my friend was interested in him but red flags there. note these were actually people we knew from school or work not dating apps so its not all is loss.	/r/AllPillDebate	02/08/23 02:19 PM
2	Can men have healthy boundaries without appearing toxic? sure, so lets stick with the investing one. im not telling them they have to invest in the connection but just giving a heads up if they dont then im leaving. yes its control but not of the other person, they have free will to show up for the friendship or not to show and if they choose not to them they know the consequence of losing the friendship and are okay with that consequence. controlling their behavior would be me constantly nagging them & manipulating them or guilt tripping them into re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 04:52 PM
4	Can men have healthy boundaries without appearing toxic? controlling is telling others what to do. "you are not allowed to have other friends besides me, if you have other friends ill leave." vs "if you consistently neglect our friendship while tending to other relationships in a obvious manner. then for my own sake, I will stop investing in a friendship that is supposed to be mutual now one sided." im not forcing that person to invest but if they are putting our friendship on the back burner then why would I stick around? also the boundary usually go…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 03:51 PM
5	Can men have healthy boundaries without appearing toxic? this!! people think boundaries are to control others but boundaries are for you. I love everything you said, as someone in school for counseling, this is the nail on the head.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 02:53 PM
2	Most men catch feelings for their female friends, women rarely for their male buddies I see it ways where in friend groups or even in school, majority of girls will like the same guys. I got made fun of because of my crush on this one guy who wasnt attractive physically, so no other girl found him attractive yet I did also there was potential for him to look better but that didnt rlly matter. anyways he was sweet and always made me laugh, which is like if you always make me laugh boom marry me. he knew I liked him and even if he didnt reciprocate, he asked me to prom in the sweet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 02:06 PM
1	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated oh wow i see what you mean and I can see late 20s/ early 30s being the best time also	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/08/23 01:18 PM
2	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" yep w therapy & self awareness, im definitely the generational cycle breaker in my family being the first to speak out about mental health & breaking the stigma in my family. hope that can be the case for other family of all backgrounds too one day	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 11:14 PM
5	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" I mean the doctors dismiss the women when we bring it up. not us ignoring our pain. here is an article on racial bias in medicine, physicians are twice as likely to underestimate black patient pains. https://globalhealth.harvard.edu/racial-bias-in-medicine/#:~:text=The%20piece%20goes%20on%2C,to%20underestimate%20black%20patients'%20pain.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 08:23 PM
4	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" I will agree with that but its still a stereotype for black women that even cost them their life. if you look at black women giving birth / pregnancy, a lot of them are told the pain they feel arent real or they are over exaggerating so they don't receive proper treatment which often leads to death. Medically, black women pain are still dismissed for majority bc of stereotypes today.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 08:14 PM
3	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" I will agree black women say it explicitly but looking at our parents and things they may have been though ( my parents are from haiti and came to america) its like there guilt to feel sadness or "weak" knowing what my parents been through to be here. I feel like that goes up the family line with slavery, war, violence, etc the generation above had it worse so I should be thankful with what I have.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 08:00 PM
5	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" I think its generational bc how we were raised. im 23 and my mom just apologized for how she treated me growing up bc thats how she was raised and thought it was normal. she never thought she had to apologize because she was the "mother" & her mother never apologized to her. depression is seen as everyone deals with it and normalized & everyone has suicidal thoughts ur not special. this is common I feel like poc in general with mental health. anyways some may feel guilt because our ancestors and…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 07:57 PM
20	What's the female equivalent of "manning up?" my godmother always told me to "be a lady" which was mostly growing up eating slow, dont be obnoxious, etc so like behaviors wise. I think also the manning up is very common idea for black women as well because of the strong black women stereotypes, idea black women can handle pain than other races of women. never ask for help, be independent, shut up & bear the pain, etc	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 07:40 PM
1	What % of zoomer girls would date a manlet? height alone probably not	/r/AllPillDebate	31/07/23 07:27 PM
2	Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstated I think there so many factors with age. I am 23F and would rather go older rather then my age only because im in grad school & pretty independent (living in my own apartment, financially independent, already know what i want for my future in career etc etc). I havent found a lot of guys who dont even know what they want for themselves nor in a relationship at my age. I guess again this could be their peak years and they want to make the most out of it / get it as much as they can while they can.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 07:14 PM
1	Take the Robot Test and Let's Share and Compare Results Score: 142 (Successful) I feel like more average though but I guess tbh...i will say well being a girl gave a boost mostly maxxing out mental & accomplishments then physical then social but still checking off majority	/r/AllPillDebate	31/07/23 06:56 PM
1	How many men here have a victim mindset? im implying anyone is saying they hate all women, its an example. but I do see some guys generalizing that all women are shallow but there is a sense of we have no control of who we pursue a relationship with and also just assuming everyone is one way so we give up again or settle, this is for both men and women.	/r/AllPillDebate	31/07/23 06:28 PM
-1	How many men here have a victim mindset? victim mentality is seeing that things happen to only you and you have no control over your situations which usually doesnt apply to abuse, violence, rape. but for example, my ex cheated on me but instead of saying "why did that happen to me, I hate all men" I realized he was going to cheat regardless if it was me or some other girl (which was proven) and made it circumstantial rather then generalizing and hating all men after or just saying im never dating again. also to note, my dad was a chea…	/r/AllPillDebate	31/07/23 04:46 PM
3	Most men catch feelings for their female friends, women rarely for their male buddies thats true also	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 04:27 PM
1	How many men here have a victim mindset? I will say yes overall but one thing I realize for both men & women who say the dating scene sucks blah blah is they forget that being single is an option & creating community aka friends , family etc. for women, female friendships are more emotionally fulfilling then with men ( those who dont live their life centered around male validation and/or romantic relationships) yet this being said, ive heard and observed male friendships arent as emotionally nurturing as female friendships. my guy frie…	/r/AllPillDebate	31/07/23 04:18 PM
15	Most men catch feelings for their female friends, women rarely for their male buddies 23F, so my observation with this...I have witness my guy friend pursue after our mutual friend for months and she rejected him several times... she claims she doesnt find him physically attractive yet she's emotionally invested into guys who string her along & or her crappy ex mostly i feel for her own validation. I had to teach her that sexual attraction, aesthetics/ physical attraction and emotionally attraction are not all the same & sometimes always be 10/10 across all categories, she was sh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 03:22 PM
1	What exactly should one change or improve upon if they're called "too nice" as a negative? I think it's this sense of girls liking guys but then once its obvious it's reciprocated, they lose interest. that's mostly because they were emotionally unavailable to begin with & and not the person you want to be with so I wouldn't take their advice. I say this bc I was one of those girls but im very self aware & worked on it but just bc I am self aware doesn't mean other girls are of this.. so keep that in mind	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 02:51 PM
2	Would you consider dating or even marrying an Average Joe or Plane Jane? this!! I also am aware that some people also aren't photogenic and on the other hand know their angles so I always take looks w a grain a salt when I do look at dating apps however not everyone always takes this in consideration	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 02:35 PM
1	Would you consider dating or even marrying an Average Joe or Plane Jane? i would date an average joe, looks alone sure and if they had a good personality then yes. I was talking to my friend & she and I agreed (cant say this may be true for every girl) but based on past experience we can find a guy who is a "chad" or physically attractive right away but then getting to know him his rating rarely goes up but usually down after getting to know him while we can find an average guy and if personality / character traits are good his attractiveness goes up. I think also my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/23 02:16 PM
1	Creepy hobbies hey to each their own! some girls arent much different in what they are into so I feel like we have no room to judge.	/r/AllPillDebate	27/07/23 01:37 AM
6	Creepy hobbies i say ignore them... its funny I had a crush on a guy and he really liked gundam also & collects the figures. I bought a set as a tactic to build together / hang out and get to know him lmao. so I feel like the right person wouldnt mind or ask you about it without being degrading if they genuinely liked you. I think the weirdness possibly is the guys who are like they want their "waifu" and fetishizes asian culture.	/r/AllPillDebate	27/07/23 12:16 AM
3	"Women these days want men who are emotionally available and emotionally intelligent" emotionally available means one who is not uncomfortable with their emotions or afraid of rejection of their emotions. someone who is emotionally unavailable is someone who continuously drop hints that they are "interested" but then run the other away. they will never initiate or reciprocate energy because they are scared of being disappointed. emotional intelligence is able to communicate how you feel and understand other feelings. you have ability to overcome stressful conflicts in healthy way…	/r/AllPillDebate	25/07/23 02:08 PM
1	If we know women are shallow, then why do we pursue them ? I think ask why do you feel the need to pursue a relationship in general? thats the problem with everyone is that they think they need to date / be with someone regardless if they like that gender or not like you know staying single is also an option... no one is forcing you to pursue someone.	/r/AllPillDebate	22/07/23 11:31 PM