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| 115 | Should we try to discourage grown men from flying their red flags?Definitely I’d want any advice for men to be character building so they can be HV (go to therapy, volunteer, be genuinely kind, help and stick up for others, groom yourself, unlearn entitlement, etc.). Those articles you’re describing are about tips and tricks to hide their true nature to get dates; not putting in the hard work to be a better person in general | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/21 06:09 PM |
| 161 | What’s something a man did that gave you “the ick”?Used the 🙄 emoji at me (eyerolls are a sign of contempt) boy bye 👋 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 09:53 PM |
| 27 | Anyone else notice guys settling and rushing into marriages after you rejected them?Yeah nvm 1) try to prove that they’re not the problem by finding someone else who accepts them and proceeding to 2) regret being stuck with someone they don’t like and 3) punish her in your place and for his general unhappiness. It’s pathetic. Don’t be so entitled and go to therapy, bro. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/12/21 05:54 AM |
| 98 | I thought for a long time that my male friends were actual friends, but everyone of them ended up trying (aggressively) to get me to sleep with them. So it's a NO for me.Even if everything was platonic, men are just meh friends. Every amazing birthday I ever had was thrown by close girl friends; dudes at best chip in for a gift or bring a gift card. Women friends are the people I can confide in and relate to and they with me. Going deep with a dude is still superficial and usually after the fact. I feel like my friendships with women are very intimate and life giving. Guy friends are kinda just there. They show up but that’s it IME | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 11:52 PM |
| 110 | This man really thought I was gonna pick him up in my carStupid, lazy, entitled ➡️ the audacity | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 08:55 AM |
| 177 | What does FDS think about the rise of the “stay at home girlfriend?”FDS generally doesn’t approve of being a SAHM because of the financial compromise but at least they’re a little protected legally. A stay at home gf doesn’t even have that. So no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/12/21 08:13 PM |
| 539 | Does anyone trust their pets when they don’t like a guy?In the gift of fear (an FDS favorite) Gavin debecker says that dogs sense when you’re tense and will react to people like your ex. It’s not that pets can tell when people are nv it’s that they are picking up on the negative emotions you’re feeling and that women are conditioned to ignore. So yes trust your pets and your gut! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/21 08:38 PM |
| 3 | :)Yeah I think hvw/hvm have yet to reach mainstream lexicon | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/12/21 02:28 AM |
| 6 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?You’re right! The illusion is more about humans being lousy at predicting their feelings. (My bad for not being super clear). It still helps me because it’s a weird brain trap | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 12:11 AM |
| 64 | Have you ever been depressed about being single? How did you get out of that state of mind?A couple things help me: 1) singleness is a gift. It really is especially for women contrary to popular belief. The peace and freedom are delicious. 2) this is destination illusion. “I’ll be happy if I have/accomplish __” doesn’t work. If you can’t accept and love yourself as you are now you never will be. 3) I’ve heard it said a lot of times: single people want to be married and married people want to be single. How sad is that? I’d much rather be in the first camp tbh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 05:19 PM |
| 33 | You can’t be treated like a king if you can’t act like a kingIt’s like she’s half cartoon 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 07:26 PM |
| 55 | Filter questionsIf his fav rapper/artist is Eminem, I’d run | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 05:38 AM |
| 9 | Why we should quit the diets/eating habits that make us miserableIntuitive eating, checking in with your body, learning what you actually like and letting yourself have it, and unlearning all the shoulds, mindless bad coping habits, and social conditioning around food is TOTALLY in line with FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 03:39 PM |
| 10 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?THIS. The compound interest I missed out on is staggering. Also wear sunscreen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 07:55 PM |
| 9 | Jealous scrote tells his girlfriend that he hopes she gets raped - she asks ‘Should I end this relationship?’The way he’s trivializing... God forbid something does happen to her he would count that as cheating and dump her. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 45 | When kids find out their dad groomed their mom when mom was a kiddo...I’m reallyyyyyyy glad that OP can recognize that this is wrong and predatory instead of using this as proof that “there’s nothing wrong with huge age gaps! My parents marriage worked out!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:58 PM |
| 1 | Will I ever be over Lee Jeno?Yoooo Johnny is my absolute FAV of the hyungs but crazy underrated so its nice to see a johfam! Both are super chill and reliable (don’t make me write this essay). Jeno is literally so dreamy 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 11:32 AM |
| 4 | Will I ever be over Lee Jeno?I’m sure he has a day/night routine, dermatologist, and spectacular mua on top of good genes and youth on his side | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Will I ever be over Lee Jeno?You guys plssss haha 😭😭😭😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:14 PM |
| 87 | This guy gets it.“It’s not simping. It’s called being strong” please say this repeatedly to every man starting from childhood. Being strong isn’t about being abusive but reliable! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 08:38 PM |
| 1 | Jeno Lee is a sculptureIsn’t he?? So adorable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/21 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Aldis Hodge 🥰If you like his work I’d def recommend watching leverage (tv) and invisible man (movie) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 10:41 PM |
| 12 | What are your basic standards that others consider high standards?Kindness and gentleness! Treat children, animals, old people well. not just people they already like, can use to network, or want to bang. Never abusive even as (especially as!) a joke or kink. I like calm, masculine energy and feeling safe 😌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 04:54 PM |
| 7 | THE LOWEST VALUE MEN ON TELEVISIONAhh desperate housewives my old guilty pleasure It’s cuz he doesn’t sleep around like the other husbands (excluding mike) he just had a secret family for years and but then divorced Lynette when she had a mutual crush on an employee who appreciated her that she never acted on. He was such an mediocre, insecure baby that made Lynette look like a harpie. (At the very very least gets didn’t abandon her with 4 kids when she got cancer) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 02:52 AM |
| 94 | THE LOWEST VALUE MEN ON TELEVISIONHomer Simpson and all of the other bumbling dads aren’t really sold as dreamboats but it still feels like women are brainwashed to accept these guys. “Yeah he’s lazy, mean, and selfish (so relatable!) but it’s ok cuz things work out at the end of the episode” propaganda | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 09:32 PM |
| 54 | A woman I know shared this...😬HES INNOCENT & YOU ARE NOT This is gaslighting, downplaying, blame shifting all sorts of mindfuckery | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 41 | Self Appreciation or Gratitude: what do you love about yourself?The best lesson I ever had was: Self love is the realest love. You should always be on your own side. No negative self talk/hate/sabotage/destruction. Life seriously works better when you don’t have to fight yourself all the time. To answer your question: I biked 18 miles one way to work this morning and am almost done with my master’s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/21 03:50 PM |
| 13 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallIsn’t he a statutory rapist? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 08:06 PM |
| 33 | Some examples of men who have hit the wallAndy samberg is the only wholesome white man and it shows. Everyone else looks like some combo of cottage cheese, a baseball mitt, or an ad for the faces of meth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:58 PM |
| 76 | We’re both mid-30s lawyers. This is first date offer lol.“Explore together”= you suggest the trail/hike. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 04:41 PM |
| 6 | Daily reminder that men don’t consider women’s backbreaking unpaid labour as real ‘work’I really wish retirement and finances were taught in high schools before you even enter the work force. I learned about all this in my late twenties and felt like I missed out on so much compound interest. Thankfully I live well within my means and have been able to level up and CATCH up. Now I see the SAHM route is risky af. You may never be able to retire if anything goes sideways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:19 PM |
| 48 | "Boys Being Boys" vs "Girls Being Girls"Boundaries | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:53 PM |
| 260 | Be cautious with your lifeWomen’s intuition is God lowkey warning you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | The way I cackled 🤣Dang... did not search back hard enough ig. Thanks! Will take down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 01:31 AM |
| 10 | I'm sick of pop music!I know there is an anthem flair here but is there a Spotify playlist that curated/gets updated? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/21 09:53 PM |
| 30 | Insecure short scrotesI’m 5’9” and East asian. You get called gross by insecure short guys at worst or kinda not even register as a woman the rest of the time. Honestly, I just laugh. It’s not my problem, so it’s not gonna ruin my day/life. What I really don’t get is if they obviously know you’re tall but still take issue about it (like your date). Also I think small women in their minds are just easier to push around or infantilize. No thanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:45 PM |
| 13 | Organised Religion is the patriarchy’s weapon. The tenements are written by men for men, to help keep women under - and we willingly bow our heads and slip our own necks in the yoke. Look at the things you are taught criticallyMy fav verse is the one where Jesus tells men to pluck out their own eyes to avoid lust instead of telling women to cover up. Tbh I think God/Jesus have a heart for women but men have been extremely shitty and contorting scripture to fit their preconceived faulty, evil beliefs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 04:38 PM |
| 13 | Men's friendships aren't 'stronger' or 'deeper' than women's friendships.Pure projection. I and every woman I know has at least one 10+ year friendships that are also intimate and supportive. This reminds me of that tweet about American English. Are male bffs bad everywhere though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 09:57 PM |
| 4 | Relationships “built on friendship”Bonus points if they later say they “don’t want to ruin the friendship” by taking things to the next level | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 08:07 PM |
| 14 | The feeling you get when you or your friend finally leaves a soul-sucking relationship.It happened in a kdrama (https://images.app.goo.gl/J1ScZvrU9kzsmEsi9). Don’t know which show it is though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 09:39 PM |
| 39 | TLDR; suspected pickme who formerly was "okay" with not "doing" dates, holidays, is sick of lack of gifts for her and her children from lvm husband. Lvm (OP) doesn't want to buy Christmas presents for his wife or kids and stands firm on it, says she should buy the giftsHe doesn’t appreciate anyone in his life and has never done a generous thing. When the time to give comes up he immediately opts out? There’s joy in giving to people you love/are close to. I feel bad for these kids for not feeling or learning this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 07:26 PM |
| 7 | Not funny in any way, shape or form.This. It’s sick to feel pleasure over seeing someone (you love) flinch | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 01:32 AM |
| 43 | Is this a neg??Why send me a screenshot of my own pic? Why tell me his first impression now? It feels like he’s going out of his way to say a non-compliment | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/20 08:28 PM |
| 5 | The man 🔥🔥🔥This guy was the dating coach for Lori Gottlieb, the author of “Marry him: the case for settling for mr. good enough”. It’s an... interesting (in a horrible way) read but the bottom line is “guys aren’t perfect princes but he could still make you happy. If some meet your core requirements (like good character) but aren’t the right height/weight/bald/weird idiosyncrasies/etc, maybe give them a chance cuz you’re not perfect either”. I understand what they’re trying to say but I think it’s a messag… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 08:19 PM |
| 4 | r/GayBrosGoneMild is a reminder that straight men could be doing better physically but they choose not to. I mean look at all these guys who look like they drink water and moisturize.This is kinda like kpop aesthetic. They’re selling the soft, sweet, silly, well-groomed, in-shape, well-dressed, non-threatening bf fantasy. It has messed with my visual standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 02:47 PM |
| 4 | I love it when men put LVM in their place“It’s just a f-ing date” by the same author! I’m working through the FDS booklist and I like him. He’s def the older brother every girl needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 12:07 AM |
| 76 | If he gets it in 1920, he has no excuse in 2020.Didn’t he steal zelda’s writing and pass it off as his own? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/10/20 08:14 PM |
| 318 | Good men hold other men accountable. End of story.“Men get raped too” is just a statement to derail women’s arguments and downplay their pain. They don’t actually care about male rape victims. Like at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/10/20 05:58 PM |
| 34 | Another trash Tinder profileInteresting that she has a career but he doesn’t | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 03:03 AM |
| 7 | Can we talk about OLD fatigue? I feel like this is a job interview lolMy issue is the guys I match with are just perfectly ok with chatting forever. Nothing comes from it. It’s a waste of time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 07:57 PM |
| 4 | This is why you don't marry after 10 years togetherI wish Uber would clap back and shut down these pathetic psychotic lies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 11:06 PM |
| 11 | Ladies what's your beauty routine like?Same questions. Also how often do you wash/use the products? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:41 PM |
| 33 | Ageing married scrote with kids looking to cheat on wife seeks woman that must be younger than him and states 'his pleasure must be the most important.'Wow he is SO proud of how horrible he is. He doesn’t love his wife. No one that hates women this much can. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 07:38 PM |
| 1 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?It’s not really about who’s innately better at what. The author describes a dynamic where the feminine person in the relationship should respect the choices of the masculine person, who cherishes feminine person(‘s feelings) and takes them into account. If the feminine person doesn’t feel good about a decision, s/he can veto. Again, I have doubts about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?I agree that “male energy” sounds very oppressive/aggressive and “female energy” sounds weak. But she defines it more like masculine energy is giving, pursuing, and protecting while feminine energy is fun and receiving gladly and thankfully. I think that society has trained women to be overly giving and desperate and men have become really passive and exploitative (instead of generous). So her viewpoint was kind of refreshing imo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:07 PM |
| 1 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?She goes into thinking vs feeling dichotomy very seriously so take it with a grain of salt. That and some rule about taking a man back after a breakup within a 8 week window to give him time to sort through thoughts and feelings gave me pause. Otherwise it was worth reading. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 09:00 PM |
| 3 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?It’s on the FDS booklist so I gave it a try. Tbh I never heard of these terms before either and it rubbed me the wrong way initially. It’s pretty much women letting men be providers and taking initiative in the relationship. Women can be gracious receivers and return any favors but only to a smaller degree. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 08:57 PM |
| 5 | Career woman vs feminine receiver: pick one, or how to blend both?Have you read “getting to I do”? Pat allen says women can have male energy at work but female receiving energy off work. She also gave some pointers if you’re dating someone at work lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/20 06:50 PM |
| 3 | Guy treats his GF like shit because he thought she’d never leave. She leaves him and is gone for good. THIS IS A DAILY REMINDER TO TAKE ZERO SHIT FROM MEN!Ugh manpain. I hope that lady gets a book deal talking about his toxic ways | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 06:42 PM |
| 26 | Seems like the type of guy that thinks he can come home from the gym, sit on the couch and inhale an extra large pizza, 2L of coke and a sharing bag of Doritos, and its fine cos "he worked out" todayThis lack of awareness on so many levels... He probably eats like shit. I’ve seen men give up soda and instantly lose 20+ pounds, while women will lose 2. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 05:52 PM |
| 8 | WONDER WOMANMystique is a lackey (I still like her). WW is a princess who’s strong and fair and holds her own against Superman. Hmmm 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 04:06 AM |
| 106 | Indian scrote asks advice to stalk and harrasss an accomplished surgeon, for a 'coffee date'. Doesn't believe in rejection or consent.At least all the commenters see him as the creeper he is | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/09/20 01:25 AM |
| 71 | Saw this on FB and thought of you QueensHonest question: why Morgan freeman though? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 07:06 PM |
| 3 | Ciara’s definition of HVM/RussellLol Russell Simmons is kinda problematic. Russell Wilson is goals. Ciara had a kid with future so I don’t think she’ll ever be totally free of his annoyances. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/20 05:32 PM |
| 40 | Ciara’s definition of HVM/RussellThis was first posted in 2018 when Russell was getting accused of being “corny” for being a loving husband/father 🙄. This was the response 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Ladies, if you’re lucky enough for this guy to ask you to get a drink, you’d better bring a stopwatch! You’ve got one hour!Mall Santa sounds pedo af | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/20 02:13 AM |
| 37 | Broke up with my boyfriend and he immediately ran to one of my friends and vented to him about EVERYTHING personal between us.Your ex is abusive and trying to turn your friends and any potential love interests against you. Your “friend” is a run-of-the-mill dudebro that cares about the opinion of men they don’t even know more than you. Both trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:32 AM |
| 133 | I laughed so hard too good not to share with you ladies 🤣💯👏This guy’s pornrot brain smh he has to harass a woman at work | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:19 AM |
| 170 | The Audacity of some scroteaReddit men and their biology lessons and entitlement to forgiveness | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/20 02:12 AM |
| 31 | Scrote actually put 'thigh gap' as an 'interest' 🤮Only like 2 of these are hobbies MAYBE. The rest are generic, vague nothings (“passion” lol) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/09/20 05:18 PM |
| 15 | Relating FDS to Christian Values in Regards to Dating and MarriagePorn? Bible says if a man looks at another women with lust than he already committed adultery (grounds to divorce). Don’t let your community shame you into staying with this bum. There’s a difference between a leader with vision/moral fiber/humility/love and some incompetent dudebro that gets the title with perks and is actively driving off a cliff; no one needs to support the latter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:17 PM |
| 13 | Has anyone read “Never Chase Men Again” by Bruce Bryans?I totally understand this. I do think there are VERY FEW hv dudes out there that will pull the sheet back on men’s horrible behavior like “the gift of fear” “why does he do that” and lol “he’s just not that into you”. You can feel the best intentions for women from those authors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 12:18 AM |
| 9 | Has anyone read “Never Chase Men Again” by Bruce Bryans?A 99% of what he said is basically “the rules” by Ellen fein and “why men love bitches”. That being said it’s not a total waste of time since it just proves that truth is always true no matter what gender. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 11:47 PM |
| 13 | Women in the BibleMen twist everything in the Bible to make it sound like they are given the right to do whatever they want (ie oppress women and destroy the environment) instead of being kind, truthful, and giving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:21 PM |
| 11 | So this woman has been sleeping on this scrotes brown pillows prior to this?!!!Omg I thought those pillows were supposed to be beige or something but he’s just thoroughly disgusting | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 09:15 PM |
| 6 | Is this guy a waste of time?I agree. If he wants to talk to me, he could ask me out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:24 PM |
| 13 | Is this guy a waste of time?Good rule of thumb | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:21 PM |
| 12 | Is this guy a waste of time?I needed this. He’s not making anything real happen so time to move on | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 11:20 PM |
| 19 | Nope. He is not going to be my projectDang I read the first couple lines going “yeah let men be vulnerable, affectionate, and support each other. This is healthy.” Then went “ohh they just need a therapist and a real community.” Male patriarchy victims. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 03:47 PM |
| 31 | JFCHow can anyone sit at home, watch your wife do all that to support everyone, and still not feel compelled to help at all? That lady belongs on breakingmom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 05:27 AM |
| 158 | Imagine Expecting a Period and Getting a Kid Like This Instead.Having a son turn out shitty is my worst fear. Even if you set an example to cherish your wife he could still become a POS due to toxic outside influences. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 11:15 PM |
| 183 | This HAS to be a bit, right??Wtf. Coming out can be really vulnerable for people and this douche 1) trivializes the moment and 2) objectifies the sister IN FRONT OF HIS GF? Also “ohhh me likey” is not quick wit or a sense of humor. It’s lazy and creepy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 10:10 PM |
| 8 | 3 Quality Traits Most Important to You in A HVMGenerous, loyal, values my opinion | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 05:43 AM |
| 11 | Don't ever allow a man to "we" youCame here to say this. It’s a tactic to make you think he’s on the same side as you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 01:51 AM |
| 10 | Cracks me up EVERY time.As an asian woman, I think the only real positive thing about dating a white guy js the amount of wife responsibilities/expectation is basically nil compared to marrying into another asian family. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 09:40 PM |
| 16 | HVM starter dating advice“Get as much as you give” men perceive their help to be way more than it actually is so equality is lost on them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:11 PM |
| 26 | Yesterday, I was literally surprised that a attractive man hold the door for meThis gave me hope. Lvm don’t even SEE women they don’t think are attractive much less do something nice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 07:04 PM |
| 49 | BF of 7 months thinks OP, a mother of a disabled child, should put him in her will.Is she in HIS will?? Wtf literally so entitled | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 04:25 PM |
| 26 | So they’re putting their girlfriends through physical trials now ??? She’s got a bad case of pickme to accept thatIt’s almost as if he’s saying he will FOR SURE use her as a literal punching bag and abuse her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:29 PM |
| 49 | Being a Tall woman5’9”. Dating shorter guys have been fine. Can you imagine how great the world would be if men had Bruno Mars energy and it was a non-issue? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/20 11:16 PM |
| 40 | My friends and I love this one: this LVM told me he didn’t believe in condoms on a first date and when I ended the date he unraveled.Sour grapes. The contempt he has is so pathetic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/20 08:55 PM |
| 173 | *long, exaggerated, justifiable sigh*First, she was sick?? He didn’t care about her well being, just his dick. He was going to force her to watch porn?? Why couldn’t he just very well leave her alone and do this disgusting habit by himself? He didn’t care about her time and priorities, just his dick. He still has a sextape with an ex?? AND he was going to make her watch it? Emotional abuse. He doesn’t care about her feelings, just his dick. The entitlement and disrespect is ridiculous and evil. I hope she leaves him after this crue… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 03:30 PM |
| 108 | You don't make HER look bad when you ask that question, pea brain. You make YOURSELF look bad.I kinda feel like my pickmesha parents/aunts would just zero in on my lack of husband despite all other accomplishments sadly | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 08:35 PM |
| 58 | STUDY: Most men do not consider living together with you being committed or the same thing as wanting a futureLiving together without a commitment first is him holding out for someone better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 06:22 PM |
| 20 | I bet he’s fun at partiesShitty men will always use that Colossians verse to abuse women but ignore the immediate next verses that say men need to love, nourish, cherish, and never leave their wives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 10:33 PM |
| 11 | Just no!He’s projecting ig | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 06:04 PM |
| 52 | Just no!Is this entitled manchild also not aware that women can learn/do 2+ things? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 05:12 PM |
| 36 | "Mostly all of the other girls I dated did xyz" what is this manipulation called?“My ex was crazyyyyy for doing this (insert random harmless thing). It’s unacceptable behavior to me, so you’d better not do it too.” He’s basically controlling you and telling you how to be. He’s also triangulating you by bringing in another person into the relationship (not literally though) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 08:01 AM |
| 43 | Blocked and deleted: I disclosed I wasn’t into sports on our first date but shouldn’t have let him waste my time. (full story in comments)I like sports as an activity but the culture around sports goes hand-in-hand with misogyny and toxic alpha male bs. You dodged a bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 04:56 PM |
| 50 | How do you tell if a guy is boring or if you're just so used to toxicity in relationships that healthy feels boring?From Attached: Quite soon into the relationship you start to get mixed signals. He (or she) calls, but takes his time about it; he's interested in you, but lets you understand that he's still playing the field. You are left guessing. Every time you get mixed messages, your attachment system is activated and you become preoccupied with the relationship. But then he compliments you or makes a romantic gesture that gets your heart racing, and you tell yourself he's interested after all; you're elat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 03:43 PM |
| 3 | Slapped a girl, BuT iS oK bEcAuSe I WaS DeFenDinG mYSelF - Here's what that says about YOU and the other men who get off from those kind of stories.He’s not sorry. I bet he didn’t even check if she was ok when she was on the floor crying. This dude truly doesnt have empathy for women (if he did he’d know he was wrong) so he’s justifying his shitty behavior with the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 05:49 PM |
| 11 | What happened when I invested all my time and energy in myselfDiversity (asian here), weather (nuff said), things to do (lots of tours pass through), work (biotech hub) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:34 PM |
| 99 | What happened when I invested all my time and energy in myselfCONGRATS!! I live in the Bay Area so cant relate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 12:03 AM |
| 16 | Some real tea: You should only get married if the guy treats you like a queen and/or if he has money.I just finished reading Attached by Amir Levine. All of what he wrote is in line with FDS. HVM/HVW are SECURE and have happy, healthy relationships were the individuals are treated like “royalty” and “inner circle” (literally his words, not mine). Being treated like a queen/king and being consulted first is actually not hard or rare with these individuals and shouldn’t be seen as unrealistic. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 06:27 PM |
| 9 | Rewatching How I Met your Mother through fds eyes makes me so sad how women are portrayed in mainstream mediaDang these are good points. I used to like this show before FDS and that awful finale. Ted was basically Ross Geller 2.0 though | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 06:06 PM |
| 151 | Why do I need to give you my name?Seriously, you were smart to shut that down. Give a man an inch, he’ll take a mile. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 04:57 PM |
| 2 | Bio updated! I think by this age, people should know what they want.The last two sentences are opposite??? Also he lowkey sounds like a sociopath. You can really feel the avoidance in his words. Men that only want “calm”/chill women are basically looking for doormats/low-effort fwb types. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:36 AM |
| 109 | Girl, if some video games cost more than the ring, you are getting P L A Y E DEven if the price was an issue (diamonds ARE super inflated and that could be down payment money) a Walmart ring is just thoughtless and lazy. There are plenty of beautiful alternative/recycled/handmade/lab rings that are unique and creative and most importantly the woman LOVES to wear that are STILL way cheaper than an Xbox. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 05:12 AM |
| 38 | What Living With a LVM Looks LikeI was made aware of r/neckbeardnests and have not been the same since | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 01:05 AM |
| 15 | Has anyone successfully quit online dating and began finding men in the Wild?There was a reddit post about how a man stalked his wife for months then caused a car accident in order to “meet” her, set her up in multiple fake bad relationships, so he could he comfort/trap her. It was crazy. So yeah sounds totally possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 10:41 PM |
| 68 | Anything > married to a LVM gamerThis literally looks like a mom and child | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:59 AM |
| 376 | LVM and their heinous tactics about pressuring women for sex.See? Men can make their own sandwiches. Too bad all this effort goes into torturing/manipulating women | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:58 AM |
| 50 | When Pickmes tell you that “you’re too picky” and you think...Sometimes I do get sad thinking “man I wish I were married by now” (I just turned 30) but then immediately go “well I’d rather be single than married to the wrong guy who’s destroying my credit and emotional landscape” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:27 PM |
| 12 | I think we need to show this woman FDSImagine if she got a breast reduction for her health/confidence. 100% sure he would leave her | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:41 PM |
| 59 | A perfect example of a LVM and his self-centred thought process 😑The lack of awareness/empathy is legitimately terrifying | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 04:08 PM |
| 68 | A mAn CaN hOpeSad. Even in their dreams they’re overweight and unkempt. Ofc they’re not doing any work outside of games | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 04:17 AM |
| 60 | 😒 Oh yeah we're jumping at the chance to be taken advantage of by an older, cheating, scummy power-hungry LVMThis creature has never respected a woman in his entire life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/20 02:47 AM |
| 29 | Don't be an unpaid therapist for men who never learned healthy coping mechanismsWhy not both? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 06:49 PM |
| 18 | Providing for a man is not “empowering,” it’s thanklessLol thanks for the cold bucket of water | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 02:33 AM |
| 34 | Providing for a man is not “empowering,” it’s thanklessLeft for a nurse what a cliche. Tbh I’m still brainwashed by “my wife put me through med school” stories with happy endings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:22 PM |
| 12 | Scrote believes men are victims because women sadistically enjoy refusing to have sex with them.Usually women aren’t even teases, so men get their hopes up. It’s that they don’t listen to no and interpret letting them down easy/politeness (which women are conditioned to do) as a chance. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/20 09:13 PM |
| 53 | LVM on TikTok “pranks” his wife by saying she could be nicer 🤢The audacity and judgment in that “damn”. He really thinks he can criticize her attitude because he’s so entitled to her labor. This lady needs appreciation wtf | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 07:02 PM |
| 135 | This.Holy shit. I never thought about this but it’s true. They are totally complicit in gaslighting everyone into thinking the husband is a good person. These predators have no consequences at home or the world because pick mes are so desperate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 04:43 AM |
| 24 | Thought this belonged hereHe’s either truly pathetic or faking it so she’ll do it for the rest of their lives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 04:07 PM |
| 32 | NVM writes an essay on what he wants in his partner. It is not a satire. Comedy Gold.The responses are also gold. Go off, saakshi!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/06/20 03:05 PM |
| 59 | The ideal red pill marriage (credits to r/inceltear)he totally molested his own daughters | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 03:12 AM |
| 21 | Scrotes are raving mad! Scrote slides into my inbox to mansplain to me why " FDS is Anti-Male"Or “there would be world peace if all women just put out” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 02:10 AM |
| 40 | Scrotes are raving mad! Scrote slides into my inbox to mansplain to me why " FDS is Anti-Male"he's blaming women for the wars and power structures that men create... for not wanting to date abusers/losers. he's really fixated on the "high value/level" idea, but he's equating ambition/being paid as being a dominating alpha imperialist (typical patriarchy macho shit). it's the opposite on FDS; HVM respect boundaries (not imperialist), are generous (not capitalist) and responsible. also claiming that women "have power over society" is just untrue and makes it sound like men are totally inno… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/20 12:51 AM |
| 158 | This lady knows how to treat a piece of shit cheater.This. I like that she’s exposing him but people can think this behavior is “crazy” and might blame her for the affair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/20 01:34 AM |
| 9 | Saying so much nothingness and yet so much entitlement, insecurity, bitternessSame. There’s a lot of self-hate going on. Like dude this is a profile, a chance to sell yourself, you can talk about anything you want but you’re mentioning random things you can’t do and don’t have and bringing up stereotypes that you do and don’t conform to why? I do have a preference for asian guys but so many think that people don’t like them because they’re seen as emasculated/short/ugly (which is a valid form of racism in media) but usually they’re just lazy, unaware douchelords that woul… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 11:47 PM |
| 8 | Saying so much nothingness and yet so much entitlement, insecurity, bitternessOr get mad that women want to read about them and force men to take “a really long time to write a profile” which MIGHT be lies anyway??? He would be mad with the flip side and if women were totally shallow and only went for pics too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 10:42 PM |
| 76 | This lady knows how to treat a piece of shit cheater.Fr kids should know what happened so that 1) they don’t think marriages randomly fall apart or 2) think cheating is acceptable normal behavior to do or tolerate instead of the straight disrespect/abuse it is. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 10:26 PM |
| 19 | Prepping you for zero effort 101 - a 38 year old’s journey of nothingness.“Co-parenting” = I babysit my own child every once in a while and consider that the same as the real responsibility of being a present, supporting father. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 04:22 PM |
| 40 | Saying so much nothingness and yet so much entitlement, insecurity, bitternessthe things that stood out to me: 1) the sheer volume of things he can say about himself 2) when prompted about the potential date, it was ONE thing and how he wanted her to behave/make him feel. 3) who tf still talks about the SAT in their thirties if they didn't peak super hard in high school? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 02:25 PM |
| 31 | You like to laugh and eat? What are the odds?! At 40 🤡I’d pass. This is half of the profiles in the Bay Area, and I feel like specifically engineers with dogs (dogs are the perfect lovers) are the least likely type to handle human failure/relationships | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/20 10:03 AM |
| 3 | What are fictional characters that you consider HVM ?I recently watched the gnome episode. Hank struggles sometimes but always supports, protects, and sticks up for Peggy in the end and cares about her happiness. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Rachel Hollis (author) splits from her LVM husbandI remember she was 19 when they started dating (i forget how old he was, but it was way older so red flag right there) then would proceed to refer her "the 19-year-old" with his friends. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/20 04:19 AM |
| 3 | Hating misogynistic behavior = / = hating menMen have problem speaking about their issues because other men shame them for having feelings. Toxic masculinity hurts everyone. She just sounds like she has been conditioned to prioritize men’s feelings over everything else. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:57 AM |
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