swearbear3 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	Dating is a nightmare Be grateful they broke things off when they did. The sooner the better. Try not to talk about your ex or your divorce or your kids. Try not to rush things. Pretend like you don’t care. Go into every match and date as if it has no meaning and that you don’t expect it to result in marriage.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/09/24 05:37 AM
5	Should I attend daughter's birthday party if ex brings her new boyfriend, or just have a separate one? I went to a Halloween party six months after we separated and I met her bf. There was a lot of drama when they started dating so everyone was on eggshells when I got to the party. For whatever I was super alpha and outgoing and just dominated the whole mood of the party. It really helped me get over some stuff.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/09/24 12:07 AM
5	Did you clean out your social media? This is what a healthy person does. If there’s photos of you and your ex kissing, yeah go ahead and delete those. But the people who think you have to scrub and delete EVERYTHING clearly need to hide something from the public or themselves.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/08/24 05:02 AM
2	What are the top things that you don’t miss “Hey is it okay if I go mow the lawn” “Oh and just leave me here with both kids” “I’m so sorry I didn’t mean it like that” One year later “You never did anything, you couldn’t even mow the lawn”.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:58 AM
0	What are the top things that you don’t miss 28-32 is fucking intense for women. They know that’s their last years of being hot. Now that social media gives them justification for any and all behaviors, they cut and run at the first sign of imperfection. I assume that the older they get at the onset of divorce, the nastier they become. If I was a woman in my early 40’s and getting divorced, I would rage with the fire of ten thousand suns.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:56 AM
0	What are the top things that you don’t miss Did you like it to some extent?!	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:52 AM
3	What are the top things that you don’t miss I remember when I had to plan out my life as a “single person”. In terms of housing, finances and kid schedules. I got it all figured out and then was about to text her a picture of it all and then I remembered I don’t have to anymore. The decisions I made and how that affected her were not my problem because I was an independent soul and if she was upset by those decisions it wasn’t my problem.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:52 AM
4	What are the top things that you don’t miss My ex would not respond to texts for hours and hours and I would have to take certain responsibilities into my own hands (making dinner for the family) then she’d come home and be mad at me for using certain ingredients because was going to use them for blah blah dinner. What was I supposed to do?!	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:49 AM
2	What are the top things that you don’t miss Probs should quote Kevin spacey	/r/Divorce_Men	27/07/24 02:45 AM
1	Women keeping their ex-husbands last name after the divorce My ex doesn’t want her last name associated with her pedophile father, who is now in prison. Plus changing a last name is a pain in the ass and I’m sure she intends on remarrying and getting his last name, so she’s just eliminating a step.	/r/Divorce_Men	14/05/24 02:40 PM
6	When did 6ft tall become the barrier for entry to dating? As an experiment once I changed my height on all the apps to 6’2” and it didn’t change anything. Still got the same quality and quantity of likes/matches.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/24 04:33 PM
4	When did 6ft tall become the barrier for entry to dating? It’s not. Get over it.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/05/24 04:32 PM
6	Children stopped talking to me This is terrible advice	/r/Divorce_Men	01/05/24 10:35 PM
2	Taxes Yeah man I just had something somewhat similar. A couple weeks ago I let her “forge” my signature on something so she didn’t have to drive all the way across town to have me sign it. A couple days ago I started to make an appointment online for us to have our taxes down. It required her digital signature so I sent her a picture of the screen and asked if it was okay to type in her name. She immediately texted me and said don’t, I just called and left a message to make an appointment, can you fin…	/r/Divorce_Men	07/04/24 12:51 AM
1	Is it okay to talk to another woman during 12 month separation & couples therapy? I very casually dated through the first year of my separation/divorce and she IMMEDIATELY got into a very serious relationship. I had fun and learned a lot and was able to process our divorce. I’ve grown and felt pain I never thought possible. I’ve also fucked chicks that would make her khs if she knew I was with them. Having that power over her was one of the only ways I could move past her dating an ugly guy. Dating had changed quickly and you need some training to readjust.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/24 05:52 AM
1	Is it okay to talk to another woman during 12 month separation & couples therapy? lol… yes	/r/Divorce_Men	21/02/24 05:47 AM
-3	Ex is depressed and wants to die 2yrs out from the divorce Because we’re men and a lot of us have been through the same thing and can offer advice on things that helped. I think it’s a good idea to ask in this sub but unfortunately it gets overwhelmed with incels who refuse to admit their own fault in their failed marriages.	/r/Divorce_Men	09/02/24 10:17 PM
1	Divorce Songs List Recommendations September Doves - Lost Dog Street Band	/r/Divorce_Men	02/02/24 04:27 PM
8	Infuratiated by Instagram Post Social media is so terrible for women. I could go on and on but it’s just true.	/r/Divorce_Men	26/01/24 11:34 PM
1	I screw up, does it get better? Dude I’m in a similar boat. I fucked up a couple times with substance related issues, and my actions ended our marriage in the end. As I’ve got farther away from it all I’ve realized she didn’t treat me well and talked very negatively to me and has little to no empathy for any struggle I had, work, health, family etc. Even though at the time j was aware of that, I felt so guilty about the things I had done and hid from her that I didn’t realize a lot of those things I did were because I knew she…	/r/Divorce_Men	17/01/24 03:11 AM
2	I just can't believe I'm here You sound just like a woman’s best friend. Telling them what you think they need to hear. Telling them they are never wrong and it’s always the ex’s fault. This doesn’t do anyone any favors.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/12/23 04:16 AM
0	Should I or should I not do marriage counseling if suggested This isn’t true. This was just one man’s experience and this sub is over saturated with the angriest (perhaps rightfully so) divorced men in the world. Sometimes there is good advice and this sub helps to realize the patterns of behavior that many women exhibit are very common, but you’re often getting an overly negative multitude of examples.	/r/Divorce_Men	23/10/23 05:00 PM
3	It's always one straw that breaks the camel back... My ex did this as well. It started the moment she had a lot of trauma resurface. That situation eventually led to our divorce in just a few months. I swear to god it’s over. She doesn’t want to admit it yet maybe, but it’s over. Get out before she finds a reason to blame it all on you.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/10/23 04:03 AM
2	Update: STBXW introduced AP to our kid already. I agree with both of you. I lost it a couple times on my ex but the things I said were relatively harmless, especially compared to how angry I was. Things have gone so much better than most of the stories I hear. Neither of us have lawyers and now we’re just waiting out the required 6 month window until it’s finalized. Grey rocking worked brilliantly especially when she was accusing me of things that she was clearly projecting about. Most of the advice on here is to go scorched earth, which usua…	/r/Divorce_Men	13/09/23 01:13 AM
5	Be kind to yourself Dude this sub needs more posts along these lines. Much less “here’s how to be vindictive and punishing to your ex because women are evil monsters, and much more “having emotions and being mournful about your relationship is actually healthy”. Well before my marriage was obviously over I fantasized about what single life would be like and how much better off I’d be as an independent adult. For the first few months of my separation/divorce I regretted having those thoughts because the loneliness a…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/08/23 11:29 AM
6	Terrified my wife might turn into a viper Don’t do this shit. It’s toxic. If things are cordial, behave like a rational adult and keep it cordial.	/r/Divorce_Men	08/08/23 10:53 PM
4	You can't have a successful relationship with someone who doesn't know how to be happy and content with themselves on their own No way dude, there are plenty of people willing to work with each other and change and have happy successful marriages. We all just happen to get a few things wrong.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/08/23 07:37 PM
2	Did anyone else’s ex become a “strong independent woman”? Dude my ex did this! I’m a runner and all of a sudden she starts going to my towns ONE non-alcohol based social activity which is running club. Then she started hanging her participation medals on a wall, which she used to tell me was tacky. She’s moving one block away from me. She hosted a work event in my building. I think there’s others but those are what come to mind.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/07/23 03:14 AM
5	Just dawned on me!!! I’d be curious if you could describe the relationship prior to this experience.	/r/Divorce_Men	07/07/23 01:35 AM
4	Gone Girl Spoiler What are real movies?	/r/PussyPass	03/02/15 04:42 PM