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CMVswiftexistence/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:58 AM
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Are you happy with the quality of people you are attracting while acting as this new person? If yes, then keep doing it. If you are seeking something more then I say that you stick to being the person your heart says you are because good people are out there and are worth finding. Be at peace with who you are, whoever you decide that is. Your statistics will only be impressive to other people. Your opinion of yourself is what matters the most to you in the end.
/r/TheRedPill07/02/23 06:04 PM
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I've said this before and I'llsay it again... it's your character that makes you most attractive. And the best way to build character is by challenging yourself to understand that which you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/19 06:39 PM
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None of this applies in terms of a spiritual connection. I appreciate the analogy but these are basic generalizations.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/19 03:13 AM
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LOL I love how you believe that you are better than at least 80% of men. In what respect? That a certain brand of women will want to sleep with you? Those are shallow women - not better or worse, but you are comparing them against a brand of women that wouldn't go on Tinder and are still very attractive - perhaps even more so to a brand of men who also actively stay off of Tinder. They are not worried about "competing" with other women, or even taking dating advice from other women because they …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 05:18 PM
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i don't feel that it is, either. i think that a lot of things that may seem like a big deal can often be resolved with communication. humans can be surprisingly flexible!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 10:30 PM
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chicken butt?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:59 PM
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not everything that is hot to one person is hot to another. for me, the sexiest things about a man are his mannerisms - does he hold eye contact, does he help people in gentle, natural ways, does he shake hands with gusto, does he show authenticity. seriously gets me hot when a man is super personable and genuine. i get all tingly watching a man like that, NO MATTER WHAT HE LOOKS LIKE. seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:59 PM
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Brother, honestly, I have been rejected many times. I have been rejected by men who I don't know, I have been rejected by men who I know. And perhaps most importantly in this context, I have been rejected by women who I don't know MANY TIMES on a human level - i.e., not being cool, hot, cute, personable, etc, etc - whatever it could take to be their friends or have a conversation with them, I DID NOT HAVE IT! Women face rejection, too, from other women. I am super open and anyone can approach me…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:55 PM
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Three easy keys to sexual tension: 1) Be attentive (ask questions + listen + notice things) 2) Smile 3) Hold eye contact for just a bit longer than usual All of these are easiest to perform when you actually like the person. All of these will endear you to an evolved female
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:45 PM
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Maybe don't choose to be with someone who makes you feel inferior. I chose to be with someone who has been with only about 3 people and we're both accepting of each other's choices. No one should be forcing you to consider being with someone whose ethics clash with your own.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:41 PM
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There are no limits to my way of thinking. I tread where I am called to go with the aim to share love and support. I plant seeds and help them grow.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:17 PM
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I am not guided by fear or consequence because my heart is honest today and I forgive myself for my past mistakes. I see that you mean well and are guided by a conscience but your conscious mind will not hand over control. So much potential, though! Hey, have you tried BDSM? A lot of what you say you like is embedded into BDSM relationships where you can enter into one or many consenting relationships with women who will be submissive to you. I believe that it can teach you a lot about what you …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 06:22 PM
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As if things are so one sided. You evolve. I evolve. We all evolve. And we must all look past or be burdened by our limitations. Feel free to live by whatever strict rules that only you can adhere to, or bend and be more humane.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 11:55 AM
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Why wouldn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/18 11:51 AM
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medium
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:21 PM
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aww, you're so angry. so many comments with so much spite. i'm sorry that you feel that way. let me know if there's something that you'd like to know, rather than zoning in on parts of what i said and interpreting them in your angry light.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:11 PM
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that's nice :)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:08 PM
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why reddit nerd? that seems kinda sweet. and i will probably definitely continue to do as i feel is good and helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:07 PM
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Chads are often the easiest to get for casual sex encounters. It's the guys with integrity who rejected me because they saw the baseness in a casual sexual encounter. Truly remarkable beings who I learned so much from. Their restraint then is my strength now and I love them dearly for rejecting me.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:05 PM
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It makes me sad that you have to forego your expression of your full self in order to connect with women. It makes me feel like they may not hold much value in your life, and I feel like they may not be the right type of women for you. But it's not their fault, it's yours. You are allowing yourself to settle without learning that there is a whole other caliber of women who can be friends with you first and who will want to be friends with you, only to find ways to love you and find you attractiv…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 08:03 PM
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you might be right, you might be wrong. depends on where your perception lies. a sort of quantum entanglement.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 07:37 PM
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never!!! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 07:36 PM
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you guys truly have great cryptic terms. is it ironic to you that you make yourselves all but unintelligible to the people who are actually good at connecting and communicating - the people that you likely want to be with?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 07:35 PM
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Good luck with that, homie. You sound like a dream.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 12:54 PM
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Wow, that's so lovely of you to be so concerned for my wellbeing. I am not sure how you have problems with women. Just a question, have you tried pursuing older women? What scenarios are you engaging women in? I keep bringing up friends because if you can make friends with women, it's a great opening for flirtation in the long run. Honestly, most women are afraid of unknown men approaching them. Many of us have been sexually harassed, assaulted, abused and more. Many. So becoming friends is the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 12:02 PM
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Yes we do need to tend to people we have touched. We are spiritually beings who are all connected. Our actions have deep consequences. This is a universal truth that many people on this board seem to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:48 AM
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True. And again, this is something that I need to work on with women... getting them to admit that they are not into casual sex with random strangers. I can't see how any woman will not look back 10 years later and not cringe at her choices, chad or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:46 AM
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It is something that I learned about casual sex... we do it because we're unhappy with who we are. Maybe one day you will too.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:43 AM
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Lol.... horny??
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:41 AM
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You seem to think that your current situation applies to all men. It doesn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:41 AM
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Nope. It's a phase. For evolving beings, it's normal to be one way one day and change the next, never to go back again. Fool me once.....
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:39 AM
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Not true. You can't blanket a whole half of the population with those kinds of statements. Many of us do exert self control around Chads and some of us make every effort to let them know that we're not even looking and they can put their egos away. And too bad about the sexual experience difference. You gotta get over it. Evolved men do. No need to be spiteful about things that don't really matter in the face of true connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:38 AM
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How am I equating them? Character trumps looks any day for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:33 AM
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Why do you guys keep talking about quantity and not realizing that you need to drop your standards to achieve that? Literally everyone does! Just cause you see insta celebs fucking models doesn't mean that's what it's like for them every night, or that it's any better than taking a fatty home. Drop the expectations and learn how to talk to people. All kinds people can have game. If TRP is about educating yourselves on the game, many of you dudes can do a lot better. Drop the woe is me act and ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/18 11:32 AM
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Wow, you sound great! Don't let that receding hairline get you down because you sound attentive and genuinely lovely. And you sound like my current boyfriend, plus 10 years (he is in his 40s). I don't know if this is like you but he didn't have many girlfriends before me. What won me over about him was his kind heart and attention to who I am as a friend. It made him so sexy, even though he didn't spend a dime on me to win my affection. He spent time. Maybe 2 months in total before I gave it up.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 10:08 PM
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oh baby, you better believe that i'm working both sides. i have immense love for men and women - in their own rights - and humanity as a whole. i am 100p working with women to make choices that are filled with love, compassion, respect, and awareness. this is my promise and my gift to the world. i have gone through many experiences in my life, many of which i accept may potentially have been from a place of privilege, and many from a place of defeat. and yes, i will absolutely take your suggesti…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:52 PM
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if using people means living with integrity and upholding my ideas, despite past lapses in personal ethics that i may have made..... then i still can't accept the term "using." i was using myself as a tool of attraction when i gave it up to guys (they were not all "hot" by conventional standards, some not even close to hot). i wanted that validation, too. but i saw the emptiness in that methodology quickly and moved on to being my true self, full of integrity. i wish the same for everyone else. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:47 PM
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wonderful! that sounds excellent! i wish you many blessings on that path.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:43 PM
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thank you so much for sharing, sister. are you sure that's what you want? have you had this type of guy before and it's something that you'd like again? if not, what is it that makes you want this type of guy?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:42 PM
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because i made lapses in judgment doesn't mean that i have hoops that some men go through and others don't. it means that some opportunistic men took advantage of a situation when my guard was down, because i needed to feel value in the opinion of another. that is no way to connect, even on a one night stand. and it was no way for myself or for whatever partners there were in those scenarios to conduct ourselves. it was wrong on both ends, regardless of how you perceive it. it was hurtful to me,…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:41 PM
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even if she was in her darkest moments? do you have so little concern for the spiritual energy that binds us all? i also gave it up to a "3" (about 10 inches shorter than me and very baby faced, but keep in mind, i loathe these designations as false and contrived) in my darkest moments. does that make you feel any better? i suppose it made him feel great - he still messages me all the time! and guess what - i'm there for him and there to support him always! doesn't mean that i'd want to fuck him…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:37 PM
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maybe i don't get what the red pill means. the way i see it, trp are a bunch of guys who want pussy to be splayed out for them, just like they assume that it is for guys who they perceive to be better looking. looks don't make you attractive to all women, or even all women of "high-value". and no guy is going to get all of the pussy that he wants. it is a misconception to think otherwise, or that there is even a great satisfaction to be found if by some miracle you get every pussy you ever want.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:32 PM
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it seems like an impossible ideal that he is setting for himself, especially with you as a shining example of what's possible if what you say about yourself is true. and did you fuck all of those women who threw themselves at you? i'm going to guess probably not because there isn't as much value in it as people perceive from the outside
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:28 PM
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so what would he get from casual sex that he is lacking now? could he get it from a sex robot? or does he want intimate, casual sex? because i don't quite get that, aside from befriending a bunch of women and having a mutual friend fuck every now and then.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:27 PM
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so why pursue them? edit: there are many millions more out there...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:24 PM
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no, those were two different things. my comments are becoming conflated at this point. i think i've written a phd thesis today, if not in content then in length. i did give it up on a few one night stands in times of self-deprecation, where i didn't fuck on an ethical basis with two willing participants. i gave it up because i felt like it was the thing to do in that moment, because i wasn't feeling value in myself and i was looking for it outside of myself. that's not a healthy way to live. and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:23 PM
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with high-quality people? women who are genuine, loving and caring? doubtful...
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:20 PM
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what exactly are you suggesting? should we ration hot pussy so that every dude can have his turn? do you realize what you are saying? what makes you think that you deserve anything? i may have had a chad or two, but those were not valuable exchanges for me. if you want one-sided value in a sexual experience, then you are damaged. please, for the love of humanity, work on that. i'm working on trying to understand my "privilege" by investing many, many hours of my time to share a differing strateg…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:19 PM
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Thank you so much for chiming in! You are a very sensible perspective that adds much value to this thread. Kudos and blessings to you!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:13 PM
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but what was he confident about? was he confident that he read a lot of great books and understood them? was he confident that he was expanding his perspective at every turn? was he confident in his choices being ones that were helpful to humanity? because women are more often than not very intuitive and we can smell false confidence from a mile away. i'm happy for you that you're in a relationship but i'm sad that you haven't been able to empower your friend, despite telling me that i'm leading…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:10 PM
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i broke the rule and didn't go back. so i'm assuming that you want only one night stands. i won't help you with that. that's not what i'm here for. want to find value in connection with women and i'm here for you, 100p.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:04 PM
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wow, existence is dire on some ends. come back in to the fold! it's warm, cozy and loving here. all it takes is for you to hold any kind of value, which i have no doubt that everyone on this board is capable of. stop living in these negative paradigms where the whole world is out to get you. you can create the world that you want, just as we all do. being good looking is NEVER enough. just ask one of those people who you think of as good looking and they will tell you exactly what they believe t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:03 PM
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they all jump through "hoops" with me (not my term) if hoops means being a decent person that i find attractive. and to me, looks and money are not the epitome of attractiveness, or even staples in that equation. we all interpret what we see in our own ways, so your interpretation of my post is as fair as any. it's just that you are seeing the world from your own box (and yes, i am seeing mine from my own). regardless, i'm still here to share an enlightening message for the men who want to hear …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 08:00 PM
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or they can befriend some girls, learn first hand from them what they are looking for, and use that knowledge as power. does any of the other advice that men get here work? it wouldn't for me! get more buff, get better opening lines, etc. But you know what, I can't speak for the type of superficial experiences that you are speaking of. If I guy wants to experience any sexual relationship of any type with a woman who is smart, interesting, and sexy, then being a "Chad" is not the way to do it. We…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:45 PM
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i truly mean it, friend. anytime. this is my gift to any of you who want to take advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:37 PM
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hey man, that's a fair assessment of me. i can't argue with that if that's what i have projected to you about myself. i'm glad you filled me in on that secret that you know about me because it helps to hear it. but, i won't let it stop me because i know another secret and it's that i agree with you! i know that men want all of those same things. but i also know that not ALL MEN and ALL WOMEN can be judged by any set of standards. i'm trying to tell you that there are women like me who don't care…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:36 PM
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i can agree with that, wholeheartedly, but you are assuming a lot about yourself, too. do you genuinely believe that you have no feelings and cannot become connected through the right type of experience with another?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:28 PM
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that sounds really self-defeating but i may be misinterpreting. do you refer to "settling"? because i want to empower a new type of human who care about connection and sharing in this existence with like-minded, loving, respectful humans. i'm disappointed in the negativity that i am reading on a daily basis because i truly feel that there is a way out. and i'm trying to share that here, but at the same time trying to evolve my understanding of the male mind that populates this forum so that i ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:27 PM
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i am wanting to share in the creation of a better world. one that is based on mutual respect, love and awareness. you may be my opposite. best of luck! i'm a tough challenger, but i respect your right to challenge the ideas that i've put forth. i don't, however, respect the idea of using others for our own gains. i hope that you don't, either.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:24 PM
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good nitpicking. mega bonus points for abstaining from trying to understand! i think chads are way overrated and i'm hoping to empower some men on this board to believe in themselves, pursue what they love, and reap the benefits of making real connections with real humans.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:07 PM
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same same.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:05 PM
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because of the things that you learn from someone who you have a connection with. sex is the bonus in that equation! but do what you must to feel satisfied. it's just a bit shallow in my view to want only sex, and a bit evil to want to be someone's regret, don't you think? do you know what that kind of regret feels like? i'm sorry to be so harsh in my reply but your intention feels malevolent.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:05 PM
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i wasn't referring to dead bedrooms, but i can see how you assumed that. i meant evolving past sex being at the center of everything. sex is wonderful, but it's not mandatory for anyone. your body will do what it needs to get the release that it needs. but to have shared things and experiences that you both love and respect about each other are the things that bring fuel to sexual attractiveness in the long term. by focusing on what we love, we become more sexy, naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 07:02 PM
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i worry that my man may feel the way that you do sometimes, so i talk to him about it. i give him handjobs and blowjobs when i feel like i haven't been into sex enough, and i encourage him to watch porn/masturbate if he feels the need. if he ever feels unsatisfied in our relationship, he knows where the door is. i don't know any other way to be happy with myself, because when i fuck, i want to be into it. and trust me, i am very stoked by him and have no desire to look elsewhere. ftr, there are …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:58 PM
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can't win them all. enjoy the single life, dude! i have no doubt that you feel satisfied in your choices. i only worry for those who must be used to satisfy you, if i interpret your comment correctly. i have been used by men before and when i say used, i mean raped and sexually assaulted on more than one occasion. please don't be those men. i am not suggesting that you are, but i ask you please, don't be.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:50 PM
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because chads were the most confident and therefore most convenient for my moments of self-deprecation. conduct yourself how you feel you must. i'm just sad when that involves taking advantage of another's weakness to get your needs satisfied. an wanting to be desired and lusted after are weaknesses that both sexes are subject to, until we find a way to see beyond. i hope that you find it someday, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:48 PM
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not always true. please, don't limit your thinking!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:44 PM
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what do you mean you are not good looking? what about you is not good looking? i can promise you that as a woman who is deemed relatively attractive by society that i have always found men to be most attractive when they were attentive to me, asked my opinions in conversation, and valued what i had to offer in the moment. what i would recommend to you and every man on this thread is to befriend as many women as possible. don't make these women obvious prospects, but talk to them and learn from t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:43 PM
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i agree with you totally. on a case by case basis, all of this can be understood. i'm just trying to say - and i'll put it clearly as i can right here - to "get" a woman like me, all it has ever taken is to be a kind, attentive man who wanted to get to know me and showed me respect. add a little flirtation to the mix and you've got me excited! and i know that there are other women out there like me. and they are good humans who care and who will give you what you need to the best of their abilit…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:35 PM
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oki doki! become the chad! see where it gets you. sometimes, the only way to learn is to flip the lid and do the reverse of what you've been doing. i can't knock that. but i can tell you that being a chad is not the be all and end all by any means. not interested now, wasn't interested then. i may have thought i was temporarily on a few occasions, but i quickly learned that i was not. but yes, you need sex right now and all the time so go be the chad. i have no other advice to give in this vein.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:32 PM
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ok, well that's the game you're playing. it's not a fun game in my opinion, but what do i know. as many respondents to my post have cleverly stated, i'm not a man! but i am a human and i know that not every human thinks in the way that you do. we're all different and that's ok. but you're not going to get laid every time you try. it's a fact of life for every man who wants one night stands. i don't believe that chads have as much success as you guys all assume. and if they do, they have a lot of…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:28 PM
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that hurts, but it's ok. i can see that you are hurting, too. i guess it's hard to tell what kind of woman i am because here i am, pandering to you on your level. but how else can i get you to get yourself out there and share yourself with the world! i love you and i wish you well <3
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:24 PM
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umm... why are you fat and sitting along in your basement? that's not a healthy way to be living. if these are the terms that you'd like to win anyone's respect or love by - woman or man - then i will admit that it's not a winning strategy. still, i believe that you do have a lot to offer. you are a sensitive person who likes to feel engaged - sitting alone while playing videogames shows that you are both of those things. you like your own company for a reason - why not share it with others? and…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:23 PM
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i don't know what an average man could be. i only know that i'm attracted to men who have character, and i believe that a lot of the men respondants in this thread are building character, which i appreciate. any reply to my post shows that they are stretching their thought boundaries and that's sexy as all!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:19 PM
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he is not a bad boy. from what i know, he has had very few relationships and only a few sexual partners (i don't pry into his history and accept what i hear from him as truth). we have been together since that time (1.5 years) and i don't see it as friends with benefits... just a slowly evolving relationship that didn't involve me wanting anyone else. i can't speak for him about if he was playing me at the start and he may have been. but the friendship and respect that we had blossoming was enou…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:18 PM
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what's smart to you is just that. i am motivated by my own calling and part of that brings me here. i seek to empower men to feel loved. that is my choice right now as a woman and a human being in this shared existence of ours. you are my brothers. i am choosing not to feel disempowered by this contrived paradigm of how women are to be understood - these are my sisters and i love them, too!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:15 PM
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well, that's a fair perspective. i'll take that to heart and reflect. but it won't stop me from my mission to empower men. i love you guys. i am sad that you feel undervalued by women and i want to help. is there some way that i can help better? i'm happy to give more specific answers to any questions that you may have, even by pm. anytime. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:12 PM
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most women i know don't get 30 attempts. i am an adventurous spirit who wants to experience as much out of life as possible! that means making love with those who i feel connected to in the moment. most of those 30 men were my close friends and we shared a few great experiences with mutual love and respect for each other. any of those men had the same chances as i did of rejection. and i have been rejected many times too. and i'm proud to say that i have rejected more than a couple of chads in m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:09 PM
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wow, you really seem like you've got a healthy perspective! truly, i believe that you are on a path that will lead to what you want. i don't really do social media for those reasons. i can't live my life in constant comparison to the lives of others, especially in such a contrived reality. can i really compete with a yoga princess in her 20s? not by the standards of this board. but i can compete when it comes to the alternative definition of sexiness: a calm, sensible, sensitive, intellectual, h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:06 PM
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i made them all wait, except for a select few that i regretted instantly because i made those choices in dark times. there is nothing wrong with waiting for sex. it builds tension that is great for learning about your character and what makes you (surely you're not made of 100% ejaculate)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 06:01 PM
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i wouldn't say they were losing. i'd say they were gaining far beyond an orgasm.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:59 PM
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no doubt! sex for all!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:59 PM
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the humanity! how dare they think outside the box!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:59 PM
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i think i already answered this same comment elsewhere but thanks for the extra emphasis!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:58 PM
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if you want to have a series of one night stands, be a chad. or be a decent guy with charm, intelligence, and humor. those two types of guys will get a series of one night stands. but to truly receive a woman, and to be received by her, it takes much more than looks, charm or confidence. it takes character and building character takes the most effort of all. i believe that you all all well on your way to building character and i'm just wanting to be here as one small push in a helpful direction.…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:57 PM
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thanks! blessings to you also! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:53 PM
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but i haven't been chadpicking. i have been with a whole assortment of humans who have challenged me in a rainbow variety of ways. and i have gone hungry many times, facing much rejection when i was at my most self-deprecating states. that's the way energy flows.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:52 PM
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ok sure. i'm just saying that there is so much more to life than sex and sex-based relationships. there is spirituality. there is consciousness. there is love for any and all and feeling connection with the whole of existence. these are beautiful things to aspire towards! i'm sorry that i projected onto you and suggested that you might be miserable. i meant that i would be miserable if i thought in those ways. it's fair that you are not. we're all different!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:30 PM
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thanks! ;D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:27 PM
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yes and no. i think that i had a lot of lessons early on that contributed to this: one of which was the example of my parents who stayed together, despite my father being an alcoholic with wandering eyes and hands. the other was being molested as a child and repressing that until after my first sexual experience at the age of 18. straight after that, 9/11 happened and my mind was open to all kinds of new realities all at once. but instead of giving into my depression, i stuck my nose into books …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:27 PM
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look, if you want me to say that i put out for chads more easily, i will. i have on a few occassions, as listed in other comments. but i regret those times more than any other time i've been with a man. it made me feel like i used myself for another's gratification because i thought that was the right thing to do at the time. i'd rather give it up to a nice 5 guy who cares about me and cares about the world (read: does not mean gifts me things or takes me out places. that shit holds little value…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:21 PM
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nope. because after about the age of 14 after my hormone shock settled down, i stopped being attracted to the backstreet boys, ditched my teeny bopper programming, and became a human with integrity. i picked up philosophy books, history books, dystopian fictions, and then broke into the world of seeing beyond the projected reality by the global elites. i found value in the people who were doing the same, regardless of what they looked like. there were two guys that i had 1 night stands with - th…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:13 PM
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oki doki. those are the cards you want to play and that's the pot that you will win. congratulations! i will continue to enjoy a depth of existence beyond finding excitement, fun and drama in sex only.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:05 PM
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nice cutting my sentence off at evolve past sex... well, there's no helping everyone right away. i'll keep working on it and trying. ftr, i love sex. i just don't make it the center of my world and don't see the value in anyone else doing that either, when there is truly so much more out there. have you explored your consciousness much? do you know that there are ways to have orgasms without touching another person? for men and women! do you know about tantra? do you know about the flow of energ…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 05:03 PM
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i didn't realize the UN was composed primarily of women. might be the case, i don't know. but you've got one woman's vote. why not? whatever helps you guys feel better about who you are inherently is what i'm about. i truly love you all!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:59 PM
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no settling at all. finding value in real things that go beyond the superficial. every chad is going to get old. so am i. and so what then? do we all just kill ourselves? you'll get through this time. my earlier life was filled with misery, too. the misery does go both ways. i felt undervalued because i was looking for validation. then i realized that the only validation i needed was from myself. i hope that everyone can learn this!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:58 PM
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but how many times will you blow you load in your lifetime? i'm sure that it far surpasses anything that i can do. so where does it get any of us? just do what makes you happy. i'm just trying to share the idea that not all women think by the terms that certain men have contrived. i feel like i am a great woman and i can't be bothered with any superficial people in my life. out of those 30 men, most of them wouldn't have ranked above a 5 by many standards presented on this board. but that didn't…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:56 PM
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ok, fair feelings. i'm sorry that it's that way. i also have to work on myself. i read every day, i study all kinds of subjects, i work multiple jobs, i work out every morning. i don't wear makeup or care about high fashion, but i present myself in a clean, tidy and colorful manner (i love color and second-hand, vintage clothing). those are things i do for me, though, more than anyone else because i feel good about myself. there's only good in that! that doesn't make me a chadette and wouldn't m…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:54 PM
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oh sheet, i didn't realize that i was a classic case. oh boy, what should i do? i guess i'll just go on feeling blessed :D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:51 PM
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these are non-sequiturs - i was commenting on the women who live in a sex-driven reality, who care about their own looks more than anything, and who haven't accepted the nuances of what it means to be human into their perspective. but that's cool if that's what you care about. i'm not here to judge so much as i am to help understand a real woman's point of view, not a young hot thing's. it's not going to be for everyone, but i am hopeful that someone might vibe with what i'm saying. i've been lu…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:42 PM
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but for how long....? maybe they want you when they first see you. but 6 months in, do they feel the same? and i mean no offense to you - i don't know you from anyone else - but i do know that there are no amount of abs that can motivate me to truly like or love a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:39 PM
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every man has waited to have sex with me. every man i've ever slept with has been my friend first. it has been my rule since day one (yes, i have broken it once or twice to MUCH regret) and i choose to do so out of respect for myself and for the other person. one night stand sex is yuck to me on so many levels. i'm sorry that other women don't feel the same way. i truly hope that you meet a good woman soon, one who will respect your needs and help you understand how to respect hers, too. i get t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:37 PM
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thanks! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:32 PM
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not for me. in a world where sex is all that is important, it makes sense that women choose chads. i don't live in that world. i love and respect sex, but it is not my prime motivator. i work to serve others by serving myself and my soul. if i ever get too horny, i always have my shower massager. not worth it for me to get involved with a chad - too much stroking of the ego and the dick. my arms would fall off. Edit: but i get that that's what you want and i don't want to judge that. i mostly wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:30 PM
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what a way to break things down. you can only be good looking or ugly, socially awkward, and boring. no one has ever been invisible to me. maybe as a teenager, yes. if you or anyone else here are teens, this is not the time to be judging humans at their best. i'm sure you are all wonderful guys who will find their own value in time. if you're not a teen, well dang... i'm super sorry that you feel that way. i truly love all humans and i've slept with super short guys, fat guys, ugly guys, hot guy…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:24 PM
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success!! woohoo me! do you not think that i've had my heart ripped out nearly as many times? perhaps those who rip your heart out are just another lesson on your path to joy and fulfillment with the right person? i sure hope so! don't be so hard on yourself :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:19 PM
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they spark ALL of the sexual attraction in me. absolutely all of it. there is no exploitation involved because I have much to give, too. I aim to be all of the things that I appreciate in another. Isn't that how attraction really works for real people? Am I talking to programmed robots who work on an input-output basis? Humans need flexibility and adaptation. At least that's what I've learned. I am sad that people feel otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:18 PM
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Wow, very cool skill to be able to speak for every guy on the planet. Why are you not president of the planet yet? p.s. I guess I like "losers" aka good humans. weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:14 PM
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Nope! I guess that's called being human. We're not all the same. I also am cutting my options with my choices and I recognize that. There are a lot of guys that I can't be with because of my choices and I ACCEPT THAT! woohoo!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:12 PM
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LOL! oki doki! that's one way to play life. *Also, sorry for insulting Barbie Princesses everywhere all over the world. They are beautiful and deserve to exist as much as anyone else. I hold no scorn towards them at all! Just not my cup of tea! Let me tell you a quick story. I am a woman who is intelligent, cares about my body, loves to have fun, and has lots of men and women friends (still a loner a lot of the time, but i love people! and life!) My current partner is someone that I befriended b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:12 PM
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no one likes a complainer of any kind. that sheet gets old very quickly for anyone. if you put up with non-stop complaining, stop, drop and roll on out of that situation before it eats you alive! no relationship is worth that!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:06 PM
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i can hear it!!! :D
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:05 PM
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gross. not anymore. maybe as a dumb teenage (not calling all teens dumb, but i was for a while!). we quickly grow out of that when we realize what a pain chads can be, especially if you are not a chadette (or whatever the female equivalent is). you may forget that there are different ways to be attractive, and being the chissled guy or yoga princess is not the be-all, end-all of attractiveness. there are things called intelligence, humor, emotional connection, spiritual connection. Caring about …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:04 PM
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i don't understand your comment. i'm sorry. i wish i did because i'd love to reply. you deserve a reply. feel free to rephrase with a little less angry code words and i'll be here waiting to reply :)
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:02 PM
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hmm... ok you have a fair interpretation of what I said, but not my intention. First, the women who "fuck" hot guys do so because that's what they think they are supposed to do in a world that only cares about sex. BUT, when you evolve past sex as the central sun in your universe, an evolved person (woman in this case) will want to be with someone who is good and who values who the woman is, and vice versa. It's simple when you are your true self, you will attract those who vibe with who you are…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 04:00 PM
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Please, enlighten me! I am always willing to learn what I don't know. Honest!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:57 PM
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I wouldn't want to commit to a Chad. That's too much work for too little gain for me. I'd rather work on making myself happy than finding fulfillment in capturing a beautiful show pony that's going to require massive maintenance. You guys forget that for women, being with a Chad comes with pains, too. These men are damaged in their own ways!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:38 PM
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:) i'll join in, too. i support all passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:36 PM
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A good human... a good man... a good woman... is the type of person who embodies their true self... their true purpose. They read, they listen, they learn, and they share. They are honest. They live with integrity. They work for what they want and they don't hurt people to get it. That's what a good person and a good man is. Nothing more, nothing less.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:35 PM
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I love average men. I love honest, genuine humans. I can't stand fakers, try-hards, or show offs. I don't know many women who can. Perhaps those people are not the best representation of a relationship ideal for you? And I'm not suggesting "ugly" people are your bag... just not the show ponies - both men and women show ponies belong together. Why would we want to get in between that? You honestly wouldn't even want them if you had them. You know how much maintenance it takes to own a show pony?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:34 PM
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You think so? How do you explain men almost never leave the market voluntarily. While women do it voluntarily quite frequently? You seem like a good guy. A thinking guy. But I'm not sure (still) what this market is and how you leave it voluntarily. are you being taken prisoner by women who capture you and take you off the market? that's not cool. no one should do that to anyone. Please. Confidence is but a small aspect. There is this old joke of the ugly or fat super confident guy who never has …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:32 PM
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ok, well that's cool for them. i'm trying to help you guys attract women like me. women who are worth the effort, who will give back, who are filled with love and hope, despite what the world might be projecting. women who work hard every day, hold multiple jobs to make their own dreams come true, and women who work hard to look and feel HEALTHY and beautiful. if you want a barbie princess who wears too much makeup and high fashion, then i can't help you. but no one can. enjoy!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:20 PM
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reading between the lines is your own problem, not mine. i wrote what i meant and nothing more. i love real men. real humans. i've been with women, too. i love good people. not fake, trying to be someone else people. and i know that a lot of my girlfriends feel the same. don't forget that in your teens and twenties, the whole world is confusing and hormonal. that changes. don't get caught in an echo chamber.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 03:18 PM
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Ok, I can get down with some of what you say. Taking pride in yourself is important for every human. At least until we evolve past that and can become genuine good people. But sticking to the subject, do what YOU love and that is where you will unexpectedly meet the people who will see you where you shine brightest, without you trying. You can do it!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 02:44 PM
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As a woman in her 30s who is relatively good looking, I will tell you that you are wrong about what women like. I love it when i build a friendship with a man that unexpectedly becomes an attraction because we get along well. It is the most satisfying type of attraction in my opinion. Also, not every woman is marriage or child minded. I am neither.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 02:42 PM
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Not at all the message I was trying to get across. Sex is unfulfilling for women like myself if it's with a hot guy who has no character. I will always choose character over hotness. Hands down, every time. But I understand the women who would choose a hot guy as a status symbol, for lack of any choice of a man with character and integrity. And at no.point did I speak about love. I specifically said like. We can like many men consecutively until we find the right one. That means that for a woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/18 02:39 PM
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Whoever taught people that "unicorn" women were robotic in their responses was misleading, in my opinion. Speaking from the perspective of a woman who has tended to be popular with males (and not a slut), in my present relationship, when my bf first told me he loved me, although I appreciated it immensely, I didn't say it back right then. We stayed in the moment of his loving expression in gratitude. Some days after that, I told him I love him and he didn't reply with words, only gratitude in hi…
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