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I wouldn't have got married the second time except it made life a whole lot easier as we are of different nationalities and the immigration issues (both ways) become easier with marriage. 24+ years later no regrets.
/r/Divorce_Men10/04/26 03:06 PM
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Listen to your dog, you can be better off doing that than having a bunch of sycophants whispering conflicting advice in your ear. Leave her and her baggage behind.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/26 08:10 AM
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I divorced my 1st wife after 23 years. From year 18 to year 22 it was chaos. Fighting, cheating (both sides). Eventually we stopped caring about each other in a romantic sense. We started communicating normally, even joking about our respective APs. We even met once at Heathrow Airport, I was coming back from a week away working and seeing a girl in the Netherlands and she was heading out to see someone in Switzerland she met on the Internet. I told her that was dodgy and got her to give me all …
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/26 04:43 AM
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She reversed course when she realised the high COL? DONT EVEN TRY!
/r/Divorce_Men13/03/26 05:50 AM
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Sex vacations are best when you hook up with a girl for the whole time, just a temporary girlfriend. I only know about Thailand but the trafficked women are in the cheap brothels used by locals, the source of the AIDS epidemic now thankfully waning. The women looking to hook up with foreign tourists will not be trafficked, they will be locals looking for a foreign husband or sponsor. I live in Thailand with my Thsi wife and local women often ask if I have a friend who wants a Thai wife.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 02:46 AM
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Dont worry too much a out STDs, professional escorts are strict about precautions, their business suffers if they catch something. STDs are far more likely from drunken casual hookups. You can decide what you are in the mood for, a short time hookup and done or a nice evening with sex. Say what you are looking for and let the escort decide how to deliver it.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 02:37 AM
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Women think that their phone is private but will discuss your sex life with her friends without asking you first (another thread,)
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/26 07:14 AM
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An hour with a 3 year old! Amazing to keep their concentratio for that long. Keeping hydrated is important. Make sure that your child has plenty to drink, especially just before mother calls.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 02:31 PM
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Marriage/reconciliation requires 2 participants. She is nixing this. Divorce requires only 1 participant, get on with it. She thinks she has the power and is bullying you because she thinks you want reconciliation at any cost. It is easy to remove that power by asking for divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/26 05:55 AM
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You did the 25 years but there is now no value gained from doing that. Just time passed. The value in a relationship is in the present and in the potential for the future. How it was 20 years ago is irrelevant.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 01:09 PM
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It makes clear that the divorce is a one way process and that her promises are worthless. Let everyone see that. Post the photos together with her promise.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 02:56 PM
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Dont blame yourself, this is all her. There are 2 aspects. Her thoughts and actions and what she I'd posting on social media You might have been able to disrupt the social media in some way but she most likely have the same thoughts and actions just hidden better.
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/25 01:22 AM
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Curious fact if you hire people to do cooking, cleaning, laundry and child care it works out cheaper than a wife. For example how much do you pay tour babysitter? Do you have to pay her clothing, hair salon, nail salon, lunches with friends. You need a cleaner, but a full time cleaner? When my kids were young my wife wanted to work. Turned out that even with her low wage we broke even on the nanny, cleaner and aupair.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 07:30 AM
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I felt like that at 47, before the divorce. My life was over, certainly my romantic life. I was working in Australia and I met a lady through the daughter of my godmother. (Everybody from the UK has connections to Australia). I fell in love with this lady and we had some fun but the love was not really reciprocated. What I learnt from her was that my heart was not dead yet. I opened my heart and had some good and bad experiences before meeting my 2nd wife.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 08:21 AM
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Still young!
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 02:35 AM
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When she tells you that believe her and act accordingly. No pickme dance, no couple therapy, just grey rock. Put your effort into grief counselling because that is what you are feeling. Improve yourself and start the next phase of your life with optimism, you are not dead yet. Edit: I divorced at 50 after 23 years I got married again at 51 and it was the best thing I ever did. 25 years together and still in love.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/25 02:24 AM
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Start planning for the next trip. Make sure the court knows.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 02:25 AM
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Document everything. If you have to cancel claim for the cancellation costs. Make this game costly for her.
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 04:40 PM
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I am from the UK. When my marriage was failing I got a job in the Netherlands. I can work in Dutch. While there I met a Thai woman, she worked in the canteen and we started chatting. We became friends and then more than friends, no real romance. We agreed a trip to her house in Thailand. I would buy the tickets and she would provide accommodation. At the airport checkin a big surprise. Her estranged husband had seen her ticket and had surprised her by booking the same flight. So on the plane we …
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 01:52 AM
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My wife is going throught menopause. I have been direct fault with everything I did and stuff like that I asked her why she was doing that. She couldn't answer so I asked her to see a doctor about it. She refused. So every time she did it again I said go see the doctor. Eventually she gave in and saw the doc, got some meds and it is more fun for both of us now. Occasionally she slips back and the meds have to be adjusted. My questions are If women are so aware of the effects of menopause why are…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/25 01:40 PM
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I have remote worked from Thailand a few times. In my case from a UK base. The time difference was great. I was free all day, early evening got through my emails and was ahead of colleagues in the UK. Only had to worry about meetings which were mostly in the evening, later meetings could be a pain. Cheaper COL, great internet, even in a small remote village. Friendly people and I feel safe.
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/25 04:30 AM
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Get your bike and live your life. This is not a rehearsal, you dont get a do over later. If you save your money and live frugally you will be able to buy things you dont want as much as a bike. If you change your mind later you will be too old to enjoy it. I did a similar thing. I spent money on a yacht and travelling when I was in my 30s and 40s. I was also divorcing in that time. Now I am old and I have cancer. I dont regret spending that money at all. I can close my eyes and I am sailing with…
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 08:38 AM
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So date younger women. At 51 I married a woman of 28.
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/25 01:05 AM
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If the higher earning partner pays more that can seem incompatible with 50/50 equity if only dollars are important. It should be possible to calculate an hourly rate for both partners and then split the mortgage on the basis of equal hours, not dollars. If they are putting the same hours into the mortgage then 50/50 equity is fair.
/r/Divorce_Men07/11/25 02:37 PM
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Mid/late 30s and your life is over? I got remarried at 51. Get your head out of your arse, stand up straight, improve your diet, go to the gym and get on with your life. Stay away from alcohol.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 06:12 AM
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Technically going into mediation means the relationship is over, just the division of finances and assets to go. You can move on to another relationship. I would caution you to take it slow to be sure it is not a rebound/revenge thing. Dont stop it altogether, you new girl might turn out to be the love of your life. Talk to her explain what happened and your feelings. If she is understanding enough to go slow for a while then go ahead. By go slow I mean no moving in together, no long term commit…
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/25 02:02 AM
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File ASAP. I went through years of this shit "For the kids". I wish I got out at the beginning. No rehab or treatment necessary because she doesnt have a problem. Maybe when the wheels come off she will understand she has a problem. Be ready to protect the kids. Gather evidence to get custody of them. If she gets custody look out for the kids when she fucks up.
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/25 11:28 PM
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Go back to the court and ask the judge to approve the passport application.
/r/Divorce_Men13/10/25 12:01 PM
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Criticising your partner for something he can do nothing about is very low behaviour. Redditors get upset when a guy says his wife is too fat ffs
/r/Divorce_Men27/09/25 07:47 PM
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Best wishes to you in your struggle to break free.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 12:54 PM
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You have to stop mourning the marriage and take a positive attitude to life after marriage. Concentrate on what is best for the kids and yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men15/09/25 09:56 AM
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There is a difference between hiding assets and protecting them. A bank account in your name is a good idea, if all bank accounts are shared she can leave you penniless at any time.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/25 07:00 PM
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You have 'longevity' in the title and then talk about 'success or failure' in the text. Those are not the same thing. If divorce was made much more difficult then longevity would go up but marriages where one or both partners are unhappy would also go up. I wouldn't count those marriages as successes. People make mistakes. Some maŕry the wrong person, are coerced into marriage, the person they marry becomes abusive or is hiding their sexuality.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/25 03:36 AM
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The reason to invite a member of the family to observe you packing up her stuff is to avoid any accusation of mishandling her stuff in the future. If they are not friendly towards you then that is not a problem, they are just representing her interests.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/25 04:04 AM
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Before you do that invite a member of her family to help you with it or at least observe, at most to take some of the stuff away.
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/25 02:31 AM
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Wow! She is being abusive and wants divorce? Say yes please and get a lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/25 04:42 PM
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Hang in there. Get help from a therapist, maybe a sex therapist. This too shall pass, you are still young enough to have a wonderful sex life. It may be all in your head but dont neglect your body. Aerobic exercise outdoors, gym and healthy eating.
/r/Divorce_Men24/02/25 03:27 AM
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Yes this happens. I have 3 sons. Oldest was grown up and away, I stayed on good terms with him. Second was always closer to his mother and shut down communication with me, still difficult 25 years later. He is the one most like me, got divorced as well. Youngest stayed with his mother but had good comms with me to this day.
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/25 04:14 AM
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