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Discussionsynaps-bro/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:59 PM
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To me that's what I think you are saying that I should date people who had casual sex. The reason being is that I would break up over someone due to my insecurities ie my dislike of casual sex and you said you said how can you grow if you break up over your insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:13 PM
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Why do you want me to date women who had casual sex I don't understand this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:07 PM
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I am not sure if I am understanding but don't people have the right to find a woman who is more compatible with them? I am sorry that men have standards but thats what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:02 PM
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So if someone hurts me I am not allowed to tell them I don't like what you did?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:01 PM
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I feel like whatever I say will just agitate you, I have no interest in talking to you by
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 09:00 PM
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I am arguing against the phrase people are emotional to denote their maladaptive behavior. I am going to delete my reddit account since I am to addicted to reddit and need to work on my world building project
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:57 PM
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Because they are more compatible with me than the other person.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:52 PM
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I can offer some insight as I have OCD. So it sounds like the maladaptive behavior in them. For them to get better they need to stop reassurance seeking and process their emotions. This is why negative emotions should not be demonized as maladaptive behaviors will emerge like the constant reassurance. I agree it's problematic for him to seek your phone but his emotions aren't the problem it's is inability to process his emotions that's the problem and maybe his upbringing. To blame the emotion i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:43 PM
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The problem is that women and men tend to blame the insecurity rather than the maladaptive behavior. My resistance to overcome my insecurities is because people are resistant to be empathetic towards me or understanding where I come from. The general behavior I have observed by interacting with people is that they are not empathetic and only think about themselves. It's like helping others or seeking help from others is looked down upon. I am not saying men are sunshine and roses either they als…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:30 PM
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Because I am not a relationship that I don't enjoy being in duh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:23 PM
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We evolved to be social animals to help each other in a mutualistic manner. Why do I want to be friends or partners with someone who will not help me fix my problem if I offer to help them, you know? This cultural narrative of keeping your problem to yourself only further alienates people. I come from a collectivist culture in which is the norm for guys to help each other out. I am helping someone with social anxiety, and they are helping me with my OCD. I disagree with your last statement. I th…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:21 PM
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how is communicating your feelings to others selfish?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:11 PM
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yes they allow for growth and development
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:57 PM
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Well at least I can point out their problematic understanding of emotions
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:56 PM
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Thank you for your response it is well thought out and makes sense to me, in all honesty. The lack of empathy is really problematic and in my opinion lead people to cling to their maladaptive emotions. It's easier to trust people who are empathetic toward you. I like how you brought up two genders facing the same kind of issues I am tired of this being a gender thing when in reality, it isn't it's a human thing. Even if someone has unreasonable insecurities or jealousy it's best to process those…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:54 PM
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I largely agree with you, but here is the thing about maladaptive emotions: they come from traumatic experiences. Anxiety is healthy, but anxiety disorder is problematic. Another thing is that our environments and culture usually cause traumas like people were not born with PTSD. Let me give an example of what I am ultimately conveying. A man grows up in a city of thieves. From living in the city his life, he has developed trust issues. So would you blame the man for having trust issues or the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:39 PM
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So, actualliy listening to your negative emotions and processing them is selfish lmao.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:25 PM
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But negative emotions evolved to protect you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:21 PM
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Sure I think DBT merits can work for some people but not all people but the thing is that it does not resolve the actual problem, which is the unhealthy environment. I am not sure how liberation psychology works as the papers I tried to access are blocked.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:19 PM
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Don't encourage men to stay in relationships that go against their values. Why should men with little to no experience be with women who had casual sex that makes no sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:10 PM
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No, I mean, why would they get upset over a dude leaving her, or at least to the extent you make it out to be? Sure, it hurts, but they could easily get over it and find someone more compatible, right? I would have a word with those men, but just like the sex-positive feminist, they don't engage with the content of my argument but rather parrot silly phrases, you know, like notallmen. People tend to see things in isolation and independently from each other, which does not allow for interesting c…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:03 PM
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Why would you judge someone for leaving a partner for having a past, though? We have the right to leave relationships right?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:54 PM
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Wait though why would someone who had casual sex be upset at her partner leaving her? Wouldn't she be used to leaving other people?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:41 PM
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People hate uncomfortable emotions, which is the problem. I have seen both men and women mock women with insecurities. I am not on the men's or women's side. I am on the insecure side. Therapy is part of the problem as it atomizes the issue to the individual. I prefer the ideas of liberation psychology, which presupposes that an unhealthy environment produces unhealthy people, so we ought to build healthy environments. I am not the only one who believes, as a radical mental health group also bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:39 PM
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Because demonizing emotions will lead to maladaptive behavior and erode trust, it is only through empathy we can actually heal.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:32 PM
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My argument is not to say it's the partner's responsibility to cure their partner's insecurity but rather empathize with their insecurity and work together as a team to overcome it instead of just expecting him to overcome it alone. While it is ultimately his responsibility to overcome it, having help makes it easier for him to overcome it. But being perpetually treated with suspicion is a behavior, not an emotion. He needs to learn to express his emotions healthily, but it's not his fault for w…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:29 PM
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Then, I would rather be single. Why should I sacrifice my values to be with someone who isn't compatible with me? It's like asking women to sacrifice their values and settle with someone they don't like
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:24 PM
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Yeah, we don't demonize the feelings but rather address the problematic behaviors and work on better ways to express these negative emotions. I am trying to figure out how to address your second point, as I need clarification on what you mean. But usually, in that situation, its best to go for a partner who has the same level experience
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:17 PM
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You are correct we must assess the situation instead of just blaming ourselves or other people. But it's important to address that in our culture black and white thinking like this is pushed. It's either us or them. We must teach people to analyze when they are young so they can asses situations properly. By communicating he is processing his emotions and is opening up which could lead him resolving his insecurities. By giving him empathy and validating his past you are building trust
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 06:03 PM
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I think you have it wrong in my opinion. Our fears do not stem with us but from our experience and external factors. Like if I think my partner is going to cheat because I experienced someone cheating on me that's not my fault but the cheater. They should be blamed for giving me this insecurity not me. Sure I can work on my insecurities but we need to do something about cheating. Or another example, if a black person is afraid of white racist person and is anxious about being in white community …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:56 PM
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This is a good thing in my opinion as is lonely virgin men would have eachother 😊
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 05:44 PM
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Emotions are neither constructive or destructive their protective mechanism and motivational mechanisms. Behaviors are either constructive or destructive. There is always someone with similar level experiences as us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:43 PM
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Find someone with similar past as you duh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:41 PM
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But if people blame themselves constantly that will lead them to blame themselves for the abuse they get. Don't some women already do this where they blame themselves for the way their partner treats them. To address your hypothetical, what if you partner communicates with you or breaks up with you over his insecurities. That won't make him a bad person. Him being passive aggressive and constant arguments is what the problem is not his jealousy or insecurities
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:40 PM
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Yeah you are correct but my point is that insecurities don't always lead to controlling or abusive behavior. Breaking up or communicating your feelings is also another way to express your insecurities in healthy manner
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:19 PM
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Why would I be with someone without empathy
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:02 PM
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Yeah but breaking up isn't problematic. Women have been breaking up with men over things such as not feeling spark anymore. Should we villinize those women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:01 PM
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I disagree that jealous and insecurities always damage relationshipa. I am insecure and jealous but I still have good friends. Maybe the people who we push away are bad people. My friend would be judgemental towards my intelligence so I cut him off. I had a friend group who would just insult me and make me feel bad so I cut them off. If I get too insecure over loosing in video games I tell my friends I want to break and get better before playing again. The other thing I want to point out is that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:59 PM
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I don't think you actually understand my post at all. I am saying the behaviors should be seen as the problem and not the emotions. If man who controls his gf because he is insecure about her past is not the same as the man who breaks up because of his insecurities.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:45 PM
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People don't outgrow their emotions though. As people get older they get better at suppressing their emotions which in fact is not healthy pointed out by therapist. In fact the suppression of these emotions could lead to maladaptive behaviors that actually harms people. Emotions aren't meant to harm people they are meant to protect. If people would actually take the time to understand the evolution of emotions they understand emotions evolved to protect us. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/artic…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:27 PM
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I have learned that emotions such as jealousy, insecurities, and fear are all evil and it's our fault as men for have such emotions and that man have obligated to go to therapy. I also learned that choices exist in a vacuum and external factors have no impact in human behavior. Oh and that hookup culture is the natural state of humanity because we have freedom now so this is how it is supposed to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:45 PM
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I think I would just continue to work on my hobbies and hangout with my friends. I would accept I would feel lonely and sad sometimes but that's ok I welcome those emotions instead of pushing them aside
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:33 PM
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I am man I am the freaking synapsisd bro for godsakes
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:27 PM
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Research has shown that hypersexuality is significantly correlated with a proneness to sexual boredom and ED.1 https://wchh.onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/tre.791
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:26 PM
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You are welcome 😊
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:19 AM
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How else do you measure intelligence?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:08 AM
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The paper moth is a good example. So paper moths are white to camouflage against white trees. But when the trees became cover in black smog or sut from industrial revolution the black paper moth displaced the white ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 05:03 AM
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Environment selects traits over another
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:43 AM
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There was a desire but it wasn't as strong as it is now. They amplified that desire
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:42 AM
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That's just nature though besides boring is in the eye of the beholder.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:38 AM
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If the environment suits the marrying young culture that behavior will be selected over the other. It's like saying fish has option if they want to swim in ocean or walk in the ocean. The fish is obviously going to swim because ocean supports swimming over walking. Sure there is some fish that walk in the sea floor but they are rare
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:27 AM
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What do you mean weaponized
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:12 AM
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What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:10 AM
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Having options is not going to help anyone. Certain environment favors one option over the other. Nothing is as equal as liberals present it. Plus we don't want options we want an environment that suites us. Sure maybe not everyone but enough so that we can find partners much easier than now.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:06 AM
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This is how you liberals argue you presuppose people choice exist inside a vacuum. But the thing is people choice is influenced by external factors such as economics. There are studies that found out people get married late because of economic situations. If we were to change things than more people with marry earlier. It's not because people have more freedom like what liberals wants us to think. So if we fix up the environment I bet more people would marry earlier. But if I were to predict you…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:44 AM
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Yeah I am sorry sex is more important than validating our intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:20 AM
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I don't think you understood my point. You cannot have two cultures coexisting. I specifically even said hookup culture is not just how phase but idea you have hoe phase young and marry when older. Romantic courtship culture is not romance but idea that how phase isn't needed for romance and romance happens when we are young. You prove my point here because courtship culture is idea sex shouldn't exist outside of romance but hookup culture says sex exists outside and should exist outside when yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:16 AM
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I am not comparing humans to great whites. What I was trying to get at was not all animals are sex obsessed like others make them out to be. Chimpanzee and Bonobos have frequent sex because of the conditions they live and how they evolved. Not all primates are like them. Heck given enough time their mating behavior changes. My main argument is mating behavior is not innate or permeant like how red pill bros or sex positive feminist make them out to be
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:10 AM
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You mean why society would indoctrinated men like this, it's simple profits. Sexual appeal grabs attention fast. Have a car you want to sell, add sexy women to the add to entice men.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 03:05 AM
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Worldbuilding
/r/AllPillDebate08/10/23 02:57 AM
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Hook up culture is idea that young people are too immature for love and need sexual variety as a necessity to form long term relationship later in life so you can get it out of your system so to speak. It separates sex from romance. Traditional courting culture you engage in long term relationships to see if your compatible if not you move on until you find the most compatible one. You believe sex is intrinsically romantic.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:40 AM
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Sex is free already though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:14 AM
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Probably because people on this sub lack a functioning brain. I have seen sharks exhibit greater cognitive power than the women and men here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:09 AM
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I am convinced you are a bot
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:07 AM
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Men are indoctrinated to be hyper fixated on sex. If you look at some animals you will see that they are not horny as you'd expect. Great White sharks for example don't mate that much. I am a 24 year old virgin and I have no desperation to loose my virginity. I am not trying to virtue signal here, I just grew up with different values than men who are indoctrinated.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:31 AM
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Because they have conflicting values for them to coexist in one space
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:21 AM
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The boring response I expected from redditors lol. Someone actually gave better explanation than you so you might want to check that out lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:19 AM
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I think I have told you this before but the men here tend to atomize the problem to the behavior of individual where as I understand this to be a cultural issue. Hookup culture is just taking advantage of dying romantic courtship culture. If we understand the problem like this than we can develop a solution. But redpill bros suffer from the same mind set as sex positivity which presupposes that human behavior exist outside of external forces and there is a natural way we are supposed to do thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:14 AM
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I believe some women don't go through a hoe phase and don't subscribe to sex positivity bullshit. Those women are worth trying for
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:59 AM
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Why do men even care about sex, most men around me only cares about grades and hobbies more than sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:51 AM
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Ok Mr horny
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:43 AM
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It is indeed all dumb
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:51 PM
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I don't care about my SMV
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:47 PM
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I wish more people can look at the world like you do then we would have interesting conversations
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:40 PM
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I find comparing dating to economic market to be cringe ngl
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 09:37 PM
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That's a refreshing take that I don't hear often. Most people on reddit ignore about external factors entirely and look at this situation as freedom of choice as if choice exist in a vacuum or this is how humans are supposed to be given freedom. The idea of how things are supposed to be is incorrect as we know that not only things change but things change due to specific reason. The tectonic plates move due to the core of the earth, the winds flow due to uneven heating of earth, and ant eaters e…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:47 PM
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Why is there a cultural push for women to be promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:57 PM
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Isn't there data showing men experiencimg post coitus dysphoria
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:20 PM
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Op I am not sure you still are responding to this post but I largely agree with you.The thought of how people date differently disturbs them. I remember in one post where women were stating their ideal way of finding partner and this dude called them the Taliban. They are using coercive tactics to reinforce their culture onto us. I also agree men need to collectively do something about the toxicity that spreads in our gender. I hate them as much as I hate sex positive feminists.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 05:09 PM
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Choices aren't made from vaccine the external factors shapes a person and their choices
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:38 PM
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I don't make those posts nor do I care to get laid. I guess they must think you women must be valuable I suppose. But they should ask themselves are women really worth all this trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 04:34 AM
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Yes exactly 💯
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 10:18 PM
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Why even date women who have had hook ups in the past, if you don't like how a women date then don't date her. I understand the insecurity but it's something that could be overcome by finding a compatible match. It's like a Jewish person getting upset at his Christian gf dating a Christian to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:48 PM
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You actually did a good job talking to OP here as you were actually understanding where he was coming from and provided him with thoughtful ideas. I didn't think people like you existed here
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:05 PM
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Yeah I have that fear as well but sex positive liberals crowd will shame you for just having the fear. They are obnoxious bunch
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:59 PM
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No I didn't
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:56 PM
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I don't get the point of this tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:45 PM
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You do make good points I suppose I just have to be on the look out
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 08:11 PM
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What do you mean I am still alive
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:38 PM
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Mutual friend
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:34 PM
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I know what you are doing and it's not going to work. Because in that case there are safety measures when it comes to driving along with habituation. But other fears have no habituation or security measures. Nice try though but I rather cling onto my fears as I see fear as positive thing rather than a negative thing. Fear evolved to protect us
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:18 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:12 PM
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Yes but I hate driving
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:10 PM
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You have a good point but the church thing only works if you are Christian. I don't think you can really meet people at gym or library as people are there to work on solitary.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 06:05 PM
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Men need to ask this first, are women even worth meeting?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:42 PM
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Asteroid impact, climate change, extinction of my favorite mammals, death of my culture, and more. But I don't need you to validate my fears as we are entitled to our emotions and no one not even a redditor can say otherwise. But the thing is humans evolve to obsess over threat to protect ourselves. https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/15225975/
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:33 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:24 PM
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Just why
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:15 PM
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How so? It makes logical sense to be obsessed with threat so we can avoid it no?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:15 PM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:05 PM
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Is this a stab against men who value paternal certainty?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:04 PM
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It is within the human condition to obsess over things we don't like because we want to protect ourselves and our attachments
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:52 PM
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I just find it funny how petty some people are
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 03:54 PM
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Protection against individualism, corporation, government and anything that threatens to take away our attachments from us. I It's not supposed to do anything of the sorts though. It just does. People don't understand that the universe isn't meant to be this way it just does. The idea of supposed to is an archaic way of understanding the world and limits our understanding of things. Sure culture flow and change but it doesn't always do so for the best and we have the power unlike other animals t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 03:35 PM
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I got down voted for basically saying I want to protect my culture and someone got pissy from that.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:59 PM
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What's wrong with wanting to protect your own culture?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:47 PM
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Lmao 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 02:40 PM
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I am a meme
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 05:01 AM
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Boy math? Is there a new field of math I wasn't aware about?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 04:43 AM
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I do not represent all the men hear so I can only speak for myself but I am protective of traditional courting culture and promiscuouity becoming the norm threatens the culture I grew up with so I am resentful towards promiscuouity but I am not malicious towards people who are promiscuous though. I am more interested in critiquing hookup culture than atomizing the problem to an individual behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 05:43 PM
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Yeah that's what I am talking about how it's wierdly normalized. The fact it's being normalized is disturbing
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 02:09 AM
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Just the vibe I have been getting from people
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:02 AM
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I am talking about the guy who says women leaving cheating husband are stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:59 AM
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Then you are lucky to have well adjusted people around you
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:56 AM
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This is exactly what I am talking about people being wierd about cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:54 AM
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If a tree fell and no one hears it does it mean the tree didn't fall?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:53 AM
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It could spread across culture, people are already weird about cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:34 AM
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Fair point
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:33 AM
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I don't claim that at all but rather want to point out how we are not dealing with cheating properly and how culturally we are becoming wireder with cheating. I saw a video of man interviewing Japanese women being ok with their husbands seeing prostitute and does not see that as cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:31 AM
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What subs in particular?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 12:24 AM
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No I am misogynistic and I am not gay lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:58 PM
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If I make a post about how I think there is subculture of cheating on reddit I notice, would women of PPD be defensive?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 11:58 PM
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For OP and others this concept might be too difficult to understand. Emotions and Hormones don't always cause specific behavior we often observe.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 05:16 PM
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On about what?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 02:19 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:08 PM
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I feel like competitive culture is just strongly enforced in men than women
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 09:11 PM
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Yeah I am of those who feel lost because of the culture shock I faced and loneliness. Empathy is being eroded in society in my opinion in favor of the individualism plight we face. Look at how we talk to each other "they don't owe you a reply" instead of "they maybe too busy to reply". This kind of language only fosters resentment and erodes empathy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:19 PM
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I am not sure about women they don't seem to experience same competitive environment as men do apparently but I do know women are more than capable of struggling with low self esteem beyond looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 07:08 PM
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As a fan of zoology I don't think bonobos are all sunshine sex hippies mainstream media makes them out to be
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:58 PM
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Normal does not equate good or favorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:48 PM
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I don't understand why men want attention as a man I don't like receiving attention from strangers feels like I am being judged and people wanting me to mess up and laugh. I really don't see the appeal. It's better to receive attention from loved one than strangers
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:43 PM
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This subreddit is meant to further divide men and women as I have witnessed the topics and comments here. It erodes empathy and reinforces prejudice on both sides. I
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:38 PM
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No it's not the nature of male friendship rather the competitive culture we we were raised in
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 06:06 PM
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Exactly 💯
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:59 PM
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Oh I have not thought about that but it makes sense
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:18 PM
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Are you an AI with low self esteem looking for reassurance?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 05:42 PM
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They do infact in modern day hookup culture they are in fact using men. There is evidence of men feeling sad after sex. It's called postcoital dysphoria
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:55 PM
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It's all part of the nonconformist sub culture. They believe nonconformity is morally good while conforming to traditional relations and courting culture to be patriarchcal so they see hook up culture as liberating. But it's not as if women are being used they are using men.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 07:52 PM
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But presenting the same concept as new is beyond stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:53 PM
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My God I feel like they just want to attention
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 04:49 PM
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Fine I suppose it's not the best way to categorize them but I think we can categories them as the mainstream culture. What ever they are they annoy me
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:34 AM
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Can't this generation not try to invent something stupid for once. Even insects are more innovative than this boring generation
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:18 AM
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Maybe in general but I have no problem expressing affection or empathy. I have hard time expressing sadness and anger though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 06:09 AM
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I was indeed putting it lightly so I don't hurt their feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:25 AM
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Are they trying to invent "new kinds of relationships" I guess I don't need to go to the circus to see the tomfoolery of clowns these days
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:22 AM
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Sure...
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 05:20 AM
1

How is there any correlation between ASPD and Machiavellian?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 09:07 PM
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Pink capitalism in which women have the same equal opportunity as men to exploit workers accumulate capital and own private property. If women had these privileges too then we will see a better world where currency is pink.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 10:07 PM
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Don't you think you being hypocritical here, your post implies you have problem with women being turned of by inexperienced men but yet here you are proclaiming women in your position to be less than attractive. Can you understand your own hypocrisy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/23 01:48 AM
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I am not denying that but pointing flaw in their argument which renders their arguments useless
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:19 PM
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My point is to show how they are being logically inconsistent
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 08:02 PM
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I respectfully disagree as they only support the nurture argument for their benefit and opposite when it doesn't. For example a lot of women particularly in this sub believe casual sex and polyamory are natural in that this is how most humans should mate kind of attitude. They often resort to narratives like the ones pushed by the book sex at dawn to support their arguments and beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 07:36 PM
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That women are romantic and cares about paternal certainty as much as men do
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 02:53 AM
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Who
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:37 AM
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Again the problem is that you will never understand us or where we come from which is ok but don't expect us to listen to your advice we didn't even ask for. Who cares what you think is a win or not people like me care about societal standards such as in academia or competitive sports. I think you calling me larping just tells me your upset I don't see the world like you do. Your last sentence is pretty snarky which only solidifies my hunch about you. Your fist paragraph screams the culture of p…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/09/23 01:36 AM
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Like I said I thought you defined real sex to be only outside of relationship. I apologize for misinterpreting you.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 11:04 PM
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I thought you define real sex to be sex outside of relationship and sex under relationship to not be real sex. So idk
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:59 PM
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Not towards you but towards liberals who think sex outside romantic relationship is real sex
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:53 PM
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Oh ok
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:40 PM
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I am the Synapsisd bro I live on the metatheria lane
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:39 PM
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Again why do you think sex inside romantic relationship to not be sex and sex outside of relationship to be "real" sex?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:35 PM
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You can like sex exclusively in romantic relationship. Sex in romantic relationship is sex. I don't why you liberals seem to think real sex exist outside romance
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:28 PM
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Sex and Gender issues are political
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 10:03 PM
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I disagree we need to segregate to maintain "sexually conservative society". I don't necessarily call my sexual beliefs conservative but the primary tenants of my beliefs is paternal certainty and sex being exclusively romantic like kissing. To uphold these values all we need to do is get women to care about paternal certainty and men to be romantic. Modern world men typical prioritize sex over romance because of they were socialized and in response women grew apathetic to the nature of paternal…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:39 PM
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What are you doing get out of there for your own safety
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 09:21 PM
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America is a multicultural hub in which there are communities from different backgrounds so they are entitled to have different social norms when it comes to dating as long as those norms are ethical. As for which one I think is the best outcome I think the one at the time model which the AITAH OP follows is the best because you can focus on one person at the time instead of worrying about the other prospects and using more energy and time on multiple prospects. But people should be allowed to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:49 PM
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I am confused then what you are saying
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 07:21 PM
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If it appears to be rare why do men think women are evil from this low number?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:54 PM
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Why is it hard for men to trust women with regards to fidelity and paternal certainty?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:21 PM
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You make good points but there is no real effort to raise better men in modern society that I am aware of. People are more interested in sex ed than they are in ethics and relationship skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 06:17 PM
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The real problem is that this dating culture in which we all date polyamorously is the default which doesn't work for everyone such as the op of the AITA post. This my biggest gripe with modern dating culture. So many progressives want diversity but not diversity of dating culture
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:45 PM
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But why should that culture be hegomonic and restrict other dating culture. You progressives want more diversity so allow diversity of dating norms to exist instead of trying to justify your norms as hegemonic and the only way to date
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:41 PM
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I mean I am not going deny I have darkness in my soul and I actually enjoy it. I always been more attached to the villains than boring heros in media. So you admit bullying people is good if they earned the privilege to do so? It seems like that is what you are implying. Nah I rather not listen to someone online and rather cling onto my insecurities. There are reasons why I ought to cling onto my insecurities. For one I rather not submit myself to mainstream culture and it's boring values. Two m…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 01:25 AM
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The term dating market is the stupidest thing I have heard
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:50 AM
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I suppose your argument on character flaw is valid but you minimize the cost of loosing. You might not think games are significant but to it is all we have. We struggle to get good grades and have to growing accepting we are failures. We will never get those ap courses or attend those prestigious colleges. Heck most of us don't go to colleges. In nature if you are the bottom you go extinct. We have internalized the social darwinistic believes too much to the point of no return. Not trying to cre…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 12:42 AM
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Because mainstream culture blames insecurity as the problem not the cultural environment we grew up in or the bullying we have faced. Social darwinism is deeply ingrained in my brain not because I am insecure but because I grew up with it's ideals. Two I tried CBT but CBT is terrible in my opinion and I am not the only one who thinks, in fact many OCD patients have said CBT made their OCD worse. I don't want to get rid of my insecurities because they are not the problem it's this toxic culture a…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:58 PM
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Again I have said it before insecurities are feelings not behaviors. People don't need to be happy loosing they can be upset and show it in healthy manner such as taking a break like I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:46 PM
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Not all insecure people attack others to cope you know, that's the behavior not the actual feeling itself. Tell me if you met an insecure person who does not hurt people to cope would you care that they are insecure?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:43 PM
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For one I do not want to submit to mainstream culture. The other reason I want to achieve my goals and crush my opponents and feel superior
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 10:16 PM
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There is nothing wrong with getting mad we are entitled to our feelings and emotions. That's not the kind of competitive culture I am talking about but ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 09:57 PM
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I think you are atomizing this and blaming insecure men on their insecurities rather than take a look at it culturally. When you understand we were raised in competitive environment you will understand where we come from. Not everyone expresses their insecurities in the same way right. In my friend group I am the most insecure person I know but no one in my friend group has complained about. I can even ask them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 09:44 PM
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No the point was she was painting insecure people in bad light. It's as if she thinks people should be happy loosing. Not everyone is like that and people just have to accept insecure people exist and we aren't getting rid of our insecurities for others not even for a romantic partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:56 PM
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Yeah I am one of those men I do take it worse from a woman than a man. It's because men had more time getting good at game while women had less time. So when a woman beats us it doesn't seem fair at all how can someone who has not picked up a control instantly beat us so easily. But ultimately experts don't like newbies beating us easily and consistently. But someone like you will never understand us just demonize us. And no I don't think women should be restricted from video games
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:54 PM
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Nice too meet a fellow romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:44 PM
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Wait ago demonizing insecure people. I bet you are they same person who bemouns muh character flaws in media but hate character flaws in real life
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:30 PM
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Anime and video games could definitely do better at representing women as autonomous human beings with personality. As a man love seeing women characters with strong personality and struggles that I empathize with. But what I have problem is with this argument "continuously depicting romance in media objectifies women as romantic objects" Yeah sure not every media needs romance per day but reducing romance in media by marginal amount might make more people desire romance which in turn could make…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:29 PM
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No one like when some is better than them at their specialty though
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:05 PM
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There are new female protagonist videos games coming out like soulsfram, afterimage, and princess peach show time
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 08:03 PM
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The gender conflict we see on the Internet obstructs of from the real problem we face when it comes to gender relation and that is heavy working conditions. If we can reduce working hours and reduce the price of feminine products we would see more feminine women. But ultimately you make a good point on how men should focus on alleviating stress in romantic relationships. I believe romantic relationship should also functions as a stress reliever.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:37 PM
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Why are men so wierd about age gap relationships and women weird about cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 02:52 PM
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It depends on your value but I would say it depends on the person. Marriage is like driving the quality of experience is dependent on the quality of the car you drive and the road you drive on
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:31 AM
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You mean shagging every guy from different cultures if fun? /Jk
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 04:30 AM
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It depends on the specific type of feminism. The main stream feminism advocates for hook up culture and demonizes old courtship ideals. There is another branch of feminism that advocates for liberation from oppression.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:15 AM
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I mean mostly teach new generation to be better. We can do something about younger men but it's the new generation who we can mold and shape into better people. I don't mean it should be up to women but rather as society as whole to do so
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 10:31 PM
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I wouldn't leave a 16 year old boy with that man
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:36 PM
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That's weird of them to use sex as the only metric to measure the success and health of a relationship. Yeah from what I have seen us men have sucked at marriage historically. But the issue is the feminist only care about divorce rather than creating healthier men. Even progressive men don't care about creating healthier and more ethical men they are too concerned about winning debates and bullying people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 09:18 PM
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When I was younger I called myself principally romantic but it goes deeper as I believe we ought to maintain all our relationships long as possible and not see each other as disposable consumer products. It goes beyond monogamy as it's not about the structure but the journey to build the structure
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:52 PM
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Ideally I would have been with a highschool sweet heart and married her by now. We would hangout with each other and friends and set up weekly game nights with them. We can all be one big happy community
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:43 PM
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You are a freak according to the liberals hear, you are supposed to have casual sex in youth so you don't miss out otherwise you are a taliban
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:40 PM
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You still had casual sex though, what sets apart these trad women which honestly isn't what I'd call them don't want casual sex to be apart their ideal dating journey. Not saying you are a bad woman in fact you did a good thing by marrying someone who shares your values and experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:37 PM
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I noticed this too I thought the men would be hopeless romantics, some of the are but others aren't which is weird. I wonder if the ones who aren't romantics are the same ones complaining about female promiscuouity
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:36 PM
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Apparently it is for him he represents what these people really want they want hegomonic control of how people should date since they see it a threat to their dating ideals.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:27 PM
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I noticed the people who advocate free choice here shame others for having different courtship ideals
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:23 PM
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What's your problem
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:07 PM
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I have the same romantic beliefs as you as I believe having the one true love as early as possible so we spend the longest time with each other. We need to come up with a label for ourselves to distinguish ourselves from normies. I am tired of people telling us we need sexual variety or we will regret it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 06:05 PM
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I didn't know that about divorces or no fault divorces. I do notice liberals push the idea of divorce without trying to understand the root problems of said unhealthy relationships. The problem is that people don't want real change and they believe and want others to believe unhealthy relationships are inevitable part of life and spliting up is what nature intended. But I do believe a real no fault divorce case is rare
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 04:43 PM
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Why and are husbands often blamed for no fault divorce. I am not doubting I just want to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 03:02 PM
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In this context a trad man is someone who values sex to be exclusively romantic in the same way kissing is. You can argue this isn't trad and I am open to calling us a different name. When I mean our I mean old romantics like people who view sex should only exist within a committed relationship kind of folk. People seem to believe sex only has two purpose procreate and instant pleasure when in reality sex is also acts as bonding mechanism the strengthens bond between partners. We are believe in …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:54 PM
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I know the lives of bugs as I am a zoological nerd. I am just saying bugs are not pathetic animals
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:26 PM
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What do you want me to describe exactly? No I don't understand why any trad man would participate in casual sex. My trad friends don't. Even if a self proclaimed one does it's not some I'd call trad. We must protect our traditional courting culture against hook up culture
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 09:23 PM
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Bugs are the most successful animals all of history as they are very diverse and high number of population
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:55 PM
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That's good for but us trad men aren't really looking for women with a history of casual sex as it's not how we value and view sex. I don't know why men here focus on the behavior of individual women when in reality we need to protect our culture
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 08:51 PM
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It's is controlling and misogynistic to try to change how a woman dresses. But it's ok for you to date a modest women. We just have to find the modest women we are looking for. I understand your sentiment though our culture is producing these "sexualized women" through media and sexual empowerment. This makes it hard for us to find women of our type. But that doesn't excuse us for trying to control women
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:42 PM
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Or he could just date a nun instead
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 06:34 PM
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Ok my bad for misinterpreting what you said so you have a fair point. I guess men need to understand what they want and the consequences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:42 PM
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It's sad to hear men don't contribute to the marriage at same level as women do. But hopefully men are realizing they need to do more in their relationships. I cannot cook but I do want to learn to cook and I already enjoy doing some chores so I would definitely do my share of the house work. I don't understand why men hate marriage since I always thought feminist are the ones deconstructing marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:28 PM
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One you assume I want a women like that two you assume some who is more traditional is aversed to sex. I just think you are peddling a specific narrative if I am being honest so I don't see the point of discussion any further. I hope you have a good day. Remember be brave and stay wild
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:11 PM
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Look lady I don't care about you or other women just let people be sad I don't understand why you cannot let us be sad. Have you been raised in households where we are pressured to hide and suppress our sadness. I still miss my dead pets and relatives and thank God I can finally be sad. My parents forced me to not be sad and look it another way they say shit at least your uncle isn't suffering anymore or think of your pets as toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:04 PM
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Why do they need be shouting
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 04:00 PM
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Seals are amazing honestly. Team synapsisd
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:22 AM
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Spyro is correct here, there is a difference between women desire sex from a partner intensively compared to women who has casual sex. Not to say women who have casual sex are immoral but are incompatible with men like us. Not justifying this but a man could leave their women for being a good in bed when in the past she wasn't and suddenly became which might give the man suspicion of cheating
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:21 AM
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I don't like the term but sluts refer to women having casual sex not necessarily women enjoying sex. In some religious communities that "suppress" sexuality encourage sexual intimacy and women agency in their relationship. What the word slut really alludes is a women who creates paternal uncertainty. At least that's the history of to myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:15 AM
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Do you have a lepords seal pfp? That is so awesome they are such underated guys sadly.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:07 AM
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This isn't just the blue pill shit thing it's also in modern therapy CBT. CBT is helpful in some cases but the belief that thoughts are the problem and replacing thoughts is solutions is terrible analysis and conclusion.
/r/AllPillDebate24/09/23 01:44 AM
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I don't like the narrative you are trying to push, why can't we feel sad about things we don't have. It seems like you are pushing toxic positivity. Sure I am happy with my hobbies and such but I sometimes do feel sad without a gf. If you focus too much on the positive I believe you will just simply not want one anymore. It's ok to feel sad it's a healthy and positive emotion that we as society must embrace instead of toxic positivity bullshit. The point of being sad is to motivate you to get wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:43 PM
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Exactly 💯
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 11:03 PM
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Body count shouldn't be the topic of discussion here it's more about having similar cultural values on sexuality. It really depends if she sees sex as a romantic activity exclusively and if she buys into the one night stand and FWB culture. If she had sex in committed relationship I wouldn't be bothered although I prefer virgin because I am a virgin myself. It all comes down to cultural values not numbers.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:43 PM
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I can rubuttle your argument I think. Should gay men marry a women if he is out of options. Us more traditional men rather die alone than marry someone who doesn't match our values. Our values are important to use and we aren't willing to sacrifice our values. It's about passing down our value. A sex positive women won't pass down our values so there is no reason to date them right.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 05:00 PM
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Individual single people who feel like they don't need relationship are ok. It's problematic when they push their philosophy onto people who are single and sad about it. It's ok to be single and be sad about it. We don't feel sad because societial pressure says so we are sad because we don't have what we want which is normal. Like it's normal be sad for not getting what you want
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 03:05 AM
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What's wrong with spouses traveling alone, how else are men suppose to gawk at women without our wives nagging. I am joking
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:53 AM
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As an avid synapsisd fan let me share you my thoughts. I think as men like us are in environments and culture that are not incompatible with our values and preference. So we grew resentment towards our environment. What happens if you put a saltwater fish in a fresh water ecosystem it dies. We are being starved of our desire and wants and blame our suffering on women which is counter intuitive. Instead we need to look for ways to meet women who share our social values and beliefs and we must pas…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 02:46 AM
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