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szclimber/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 08:48 PM
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Because the blue pill is difficult to monetize. The advice is some combination of be yourself or be kind or be a good person. The red pill requires improvement and action where a program can be sold. And the black pill is be tall and handsome.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/26 03:56 AM
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Rules 1 and 2 of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/26 01:53 PM
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Talk about lazy!
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 11:27 PM
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Check out the video on YouTube called Optimistic Nihilism by Kurzgesagt. It is profound, not lazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 11:07 PM
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The blackpill is not well defined. It means very different things to different people.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/26 10:04 PM
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Look how women are desired. Men want that but only a rare minority will experience anything close.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 01:55 AM
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This is it. If men were wanted the same way women are this subreddit wouldn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/26 03:57 AM
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The number of struggling men exceeds the number of bullied men. Bullied men are a subset.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/26 01:30 PM
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It depends. Many young men struggle in dating so even small improvements as they age seem significant.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/26 09:36 PM
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The number of single young men greatly exceeds the number of single young women. Edit: changed to women, English isn't my best
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 11:21 PM
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How old are you and how many years have you been involuntarily single or sexless?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:57 PM
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Your post left out the most important part. Are you able to have romantic and sexual experiences. Most women have these opportunities in abundance at baseline so don't need to put in extra effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/26 05:21 PM
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Most men have few options and aren't filtering based on hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:41 AM
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Most men don't care about a women's hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 01:35 AM
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Guy gets 30 dates in 3 months and is talking about hobbies... Completely clueless.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 11:51 PM
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Sexual power allows women to get what they desire more easily (whatever that happens to be) assuming they apply the correct filters and select the right men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:25 PM
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I mostly agree, but what you write only applies in free western society. Also, most young women are completely clueless to this super power.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:13 PM
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Options for dates, relationships, money, sex, love, attention, and family. If you play your cards right.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/26 08:07 PM
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When women give dating advice they describe behavior they want from men who they are already attracted too. Her dating advice won't turn an undesirable man into a desirable one.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/26 04:42 PM
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It's complete nonsense. Men don't attract women by doing chores. Women want the guy they are in a relationship with to help with chores. But doing chores won't get you a girlfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/26 04:06 PM
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There is no correlation between emotional safety and comfort to romantic and sexual success. Look at men who get routinely friendzoned. It's mostly about looks, charisma and status. Unfortunately, most men have a difficult time giving an honest and accurate assessment of these qualities in themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/26 07:04 PM
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No it isn't. Most of the women I know are not involuntarily dateless, single or sexless. Women have abundance and generally get a guy they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 01:30 PM
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Complete nonsense. Right wing places have extreme censorship too. Social media, the internet and podcasts have made people dumber. The world is sliding into idiocracy.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/26 12:18 AM
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I know a women who worked in a male dominated industry (construction). She told me when she was young and would show up to a work site she would hear the guys complimenting her ass. Now that she is older (50+) when she shows up to a job site she hears the guys complimenting her truck. Time is undefeated.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/26 04:15 AM
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Pm ha
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/26 06:26 PM
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The entire premise is wrong. It's not a sacrifice if it is something you actually want.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/25 06:22 PM
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I mostly disagree. Most single older women I know had romance and sex when younger. They got all the experiences they wanted at the time. Marriage, kids, adventures, etc. Of course women like your examples exist but I find them to be rare and not typical.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/25 08:00 PM
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Thanks for the response. Your last sentence answers the question well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 04:00 PM
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I have never tried to pick up a girl at a gay bar but maybe you are on to something.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:26 AM
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Almost none I would guess. Most women have experienced a longterm relationship by the age of 26. It's a normal part of young adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:24 AM
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Why? Is she asexual? Does she not desire a longterm romantic partner?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/25 05:22 AM
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Anecdotally, only 1 man in my entire social circle wanted a virgin gf/wife and he is very religious. All the other guys don't care unless her sexual experiences number is extremely high. Even then some guys don't mind this either. Most men want to be desired more sexually and are envious that women have this experience with little to no effort required.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/25 08:08 PM
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This is complete nonsense. Young men should be doing the basics but a death grind with only 4 hours of sleep is ignorant and won't help. The most romantically successful men I know didn't even try hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/25 08:37 PM
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Many young men are involuntarily single and sexless. They are only able to get a few dates a year at best. They are frustrated so they say women have high standards. Women have an abundance of options so they dont feel their standards are too high.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/25 02:14 PM
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I can relate and know many guys with similar teenage and young adulthood experiences. It's difficult to recover from.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/25 04:17 AM
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I wouldn't say most. Many men find success in high school and some in college. Generally being successful earlier is better but not everyone is so gifted.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/25 03:05 PM
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Lose the fat and men will approach. Everything else is over complicating the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/25 04:16 PM
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The life of young men will continue to get worse. The results and struggles will speak for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/25 10:32 PM
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That's a silly fantasy. Some become the president of the united states.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/25 11:57 PM
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That's creepy and nothing lasts forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/25 04:44 PM
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I dont think it matters that much. The good looking people are attractive regardless of their outfit. For most people being well dressed is a minor improvement
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/25 10:20 PM
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This is nonsense. The average mem cannot have sex with many women. Most men settle and some settle hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/25 02:59 PM
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Sex with you or sex in general?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/25 04:46 PM
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The women I know live fairly successful and easy lives. They go on dates, have sex, and find boyfriends without difficulty. Women have abundance both for short term and longterm relationships unless they are very picky.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/25 04:09 AM
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I don't normally. If the topic comes up I try to make statements that I believe are true which are also funny. Such as... there's no gym for your face.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/25 12:25 PM
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The halo effect is powerful
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/25 12:27 AM
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I have never heard of a girl rejecting a guy for having a skin care routine. Looks are most important. Having clear healthy skin is attractive to women.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/25 11:17 PM
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Being fit and lean will help you reach your aesthetic genetic potential. It's not overrated for most people because most people are overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/25 04:49 PM
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All but 1 of those involves children (optional choice). You ignored all the romantic and sexual experiences before this.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/25 03:44 PM
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Validation. Orgasm can be reached by putting in effort. Validation can't be reached by putting in effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 09:34 PM
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I mostly agree, but some alone time is healthy too. Parents are having more only children and being over protective which makes everything worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/25 03:11 PM
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No. Most women don't approach because it is not required. They have abundance already.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/25 10:40 PM
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Money helps but you must be bottom 1% in looks. Plastic surgery might help
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/25 12:57 AM
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Young men are constantly told "be yourself" or "be confident".
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/25 05:04 PM
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You only get one life. I know it's not possible for everyone, though. Many successful stories from passport bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 09:03 PM
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Time to move
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 08:59 PM
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If kindness attracted women the world would be filled with kind men.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/25 03:58 PM
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First, you should be grateful you have the genetic potential to be good-looking. Most men do not. Second, depends on what you are looking for in self-acceptance.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/25 09:43 PM
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The desire for romance, sex, companionship, love and a family are all normal. Accusing someone of being entitled for any of these desires is ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/25 01:49 AM
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This is probably true. I would love to see data even though it's difficult to accurately collect this. Relationship expectations have changed a lot in even the last 30 years. Still, some women want a provider man so she can have kids and focus on being a mom without dealing with the financial side
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/25 02:39 PM
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Obviously you wouldn't, that's the point. I don't know the percentages but it wouldn't surprise me if 1/4 women selected their partner mainly for the resources he provides. This 1/4 wouldn't survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 11:10 PM
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Women won't admit "I would dump my average provider husband for a hotter guy"
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:45 PM
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Women's selection criteria would no longer include resource provision. My guess is selection pressure would increase in physical attractiveness, charisma and whatever status symbols exist in this future.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/25 06:43 PM
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I'm not whining. I made a distinction that triggered you for some reason. I recommend men maximize their attractiveness and not their goodness. Young men are often told to be good but not informed to be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:09 PM
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I don't expect this. You can have sex with whoever you like.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 09:04 PM
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Good is optional. Attractive is non-negotiable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/25 08:05 PM
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I don't care about dying a little earlier. Quality of life is more important
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 10:37 PM
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They are more likely to be ignored and treated as though they are invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/25 12:59 AM
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Ty
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:51 PM
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It is lying. It's lies of omission.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/25 08:17 PM
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"Well adjusted".... women experience the dating landscape on easy mode and praise themselves for how successful they are...
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/25 03:29 PM
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I saw the same with a female coworker. She was overweight single mom of 2 kids with no money in her 30s. She was going on dates and having sex every weekend. All expenses paid.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/25 03:40 PM
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I prefer the 3 f's advice for women. Be fit, friendly and feminine.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/03/25 05:07 AM
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It's a privilege because most women want sex and can have it easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/25 01:40 AM
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Most women are easily having sex with men they desire. Everything else seems like nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/25 07:22 PM
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Most women are not interested in climbing the corporate ladder
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:24 PM
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Depends how you do the rating, especially when factoring in age. When I was in college the average college age female is higher than 5/10. Attractive women everywhere. In my 30s the average women is like a 4 or maybe 3 depending on location.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/25 08:20 PM
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No. Luck plays a larger role the less the odds of success. For average and especially below average men luck plays a massive role. For average women and high value men luck is not as important because abundance exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 11:10 PM
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It's terrible advice. Humans are social creatures and the desire for romantic and sexual experiences is normal for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/24 01:33 PM
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Is your face hideous? Tall, white, and fit is generally enough
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/24 05:51 AM
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Sadly most people just don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/24 05:59 AM
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Yes. The current dating landscape is mostly unregulated free market. The winners win big and the losers are ignored. Most settle to avoid starving. I don't see it getting better for the losers anytime soon.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/24 06:33 PM
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I didn't say it does. Learn to read
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:38 PM
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No. Many young men are single and sexless. This is the main problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 08:18 PM
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This plus being told "just be yourself." Also, when you are young, you might not know how to improve if nobody helped point you in the right direction.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 07:08 PM
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Because humans are fools. Between the red hat wearing cultist and the far left crazies, America will continue to suffer.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/24 04:37 AM
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Not hardest but still highly desirable. Women who take care of themselves are easily desirable into their 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/24 07:39 PM
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It's important for both. But a lot more men are being left out so you hear more from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/24 05:25 PM
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No. Sexual reproduction and evolution is a competition. Genetics that are desirable in a given landscape will be preferred.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/24 06:05 PM
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Your post is incorrect. Short, and ugly men have very few options and rarely do well in dating. They often have low quality and quantity available to them. Just because outliers exist doesn't mean it's some mystery.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/24 06:44 PM
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I have seen the same. Women can be extremely passive aggressive and jealous toward each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 01:55 PM
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Dude is very tall. His height alone would pull women so he wouldn't be a virgin. His face is average, not some ugly guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/24 03:05 PM
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Depends on the guy but the need exists. I know many guys who have settled hard. It was either settle hard or remain single forever. Many men want a gf/wife and some really want children/family. I know guys who tolerate deadbedrooms, insane women, and toxic behavior because to them it's better than single. I also know guys who choose to remain single as well. It's a personal choice in a very difficult circumstance.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/24 04:43 AM
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What revenge, no? Many guys do feel resentment and frustration for missing out in their 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/24 01:41 PM
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I find these types of responses ignorant. It's like telling a financially struggling poor person that rich people have problems too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 12:11 AM
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First, it's terrible that you are extremely unattractive. Anyone in the bottom 5% of looks is in a terrible position and life isn't fair. Second, I disagree with your post because nobody cares. Most women have options and a small minority are invisible. In real life unattractive women are simply ignored. Men aren't actively roasting them unless they're horrendous or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/24 06:12 PM
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Many guys want a longterm relationship. Women can focus on these men and not the fuck boys. It's not hard
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 09:34 PM
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They don't need to do anything. Just enjoy the good life would be my advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 08:02 PM
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This combined with a "been there, done that" attitude. They have already experienced most things
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:57 PM
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The internet gives women an abundance never before seen in history. They can have a guy tomorrow if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/24 07:47 PM
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Eh. Single women with kids prioritize different qualities than single women without kids. Classic alpha fucks and beta bucks. Some women do love and respect their beta man as long as he provides resources and is good to her kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/24 07:59 PM
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The sooner you know the truth, the sooner you can make the changes needed. If improvement is possible, then do that. If not, then acceptance. Many young men are gaslit and aren't improving when they are younger to give them the best chances. Concerning long-term relationships... the truth can protect your assets and reduce risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/24 07:04 PM
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No. They still have plenty of options. The bar is higher for commitment than casual sex so these women may notice things being more difficult, but that's simply because guys want more in a long-term partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/24 01:19 PM
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This is half true in my experience. Many women ignore obvious red flags and bad behavior. These women lie to themselves about the men they find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/24 03:09 PM
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No. The men having less sex and relationships are not doing it voluntarily.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/24 04:13 PM
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Because women have abundance. Men do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/24 09:38 PM
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True. Most women have more options than they could ever explore. It's strange that so many young women are insecure despite having relationships and so many options. They hear some bad jokes or a bitter person say something rude and their mind goes full doom.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 11:16 PM
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Bad question. Good looking and wealthy are a much bigger filter than child free.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/24 10:39 PM
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At what age did this preference for bald men change?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 07:12 PM
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Accepting things completely out of your control is the black pill. Welcome home
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:40 PM
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Concerning weight, caloric restriction is all that is needed. Literally eat less. That is it. Most women who are thin are attractive to a large % of the male population. Obviously you can't control everything and shit happens in life. Getting your nails done, or clothing changed isn't that big of a deal most of the time. Our looks decrease with age but not being fat gives women plenty of options into their 40s. Most women won't hit an abrupt wall unless they get fat, abuse their body, or get unl…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 06:09 PM
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Most women can't handle putting in the minimal effort needed to age gracefully. The most important factor is simply don't get fat. They will create 100 excuses instead of just eating less. After that alcohol consumption, drugs, sun damage, bad genetics, illnesses, accidents, difficult pregnancies and random factors can play a role too. Men can also make the similar mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/24 04:19 PM
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Ignorance is bliss
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/24 03:02 PM
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It's a biological need
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/24 02:54 PM
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It was not right for them to call you a hillbilly or white trash. Looks are definitely more important than hobbies. I hope you meet someone who likes you and supports your hobbies.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 06:18 PM
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I just assume all women want me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 11:42 PM
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They are heroes who have sacrificed so much. Just ask them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 04:09 PM
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Yes they are because people lie to themselves everyday. People normalize toxic and unhealthy relationships all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 09:26 AM
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This isn't wrong either. Being ugly is going to make life miserable regardless of gender.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:42 AM
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This data is not great being self reported. People in toxic relationships, with cheating or deadbedrooms claim they are happy all the time. I have seen this many times in life. I'm not sure a good way to gather this data objectively
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 08:39 AM
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It depends. But if an older woman tells me she is a virgin, I will assume she is asexual or has a very low sex drive. That's a red flag for many men.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:35 AM
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A lot of rejection, a lot of settling and difficult compromises. About 1/3 of average men who are in a relationship are in a healthy and happy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 02:38 AM
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You are fit, cute and childless. You should have no problem getting men in general. Not sure about HVM though because HVM will still have sex but may not commit and you won't know until you try. Why are you dodging the question? At least provide a range. How did you meet all these partners?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:50 AM
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What is a high body count for a 39 year old?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 03:39 AM
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This is a fair counterpoint. Men sometimes forget women get hit on everywhere and have unimaginable abundance available at all times. If she wanted to cheat, she could easily. Most women desire monogamy and don't fuck random hot guys when in a committed relationship. But they will flirt and get their ego filled by hot guys. People cheat for different reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/24 06:21 PM
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It's only unreasonable if it is unattainable.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 01:20 PM
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It's an end of an era and a reminder of mortality. Eventually everything will pass into nothing. We can all grieve for this.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/24 09:48 PM
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I know many upper middle class guys who struggle. It isn't a cure.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 03:03 PM
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Most people are codependent. Men dont want to be single and don't want to fight with their partner so they just surrender. I've seen it a lot too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/24 07:52 PM
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60% of young men are single. There is trouble.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/24 08:51 PM
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If you are unattractive then you are desperate.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/24 12:51 AM
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I agree. It's more important that the other person is interested in you. Not that you share the same interests.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/24 05:43 PM
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Anecdotally, I would say about 1/3.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/24 12:06 AM
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Fair enough. But he is tall and handsome. He should not be kissless at his age. Unless he secretly is asexual or gay or something. Story is suspicious
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 10:06 PM
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Jake isn't real. He isn't as attractive as you say for sure. Maybe his social skills are bottom 5%? Using online dating he should be able to get dates unless he lives in another dimension empty of women
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 09:50 PM
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I'm a man and I encourage women to not be fat or crazy. Also, don't date deadbeats or assholes. Seems like solid advice that benefits women if they are having troubles.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/24 03:58 AM
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"Believe women" was always a bad idea. The chant should have been "Take women seriously." You can't believe anyone, follow the facts. All accusations of rape should be taken seriously.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/24 03:00 AM
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Obviously this matters but most men are not entering tearful rages. Emotional stability is not a good predictor of success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:23 AM
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No. Control of emotions is not correlated with high value to women. Looks, status and charisma each play a bigger role
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/24 04:02 AM
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Lol. I'll put this dream world right next to world peace, ending racism and the elimination of poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/24 06:20 PM
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This is very true and underrated. Women would rule the world if they didn't hate each other. Also, skinny women I know often deal with passive aggressive behavior from heavier women.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/24 11:58 AM
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My top 2 are probably Rehab Room and Gerbert Johnson. I don't agree with everything, but they point out some harsh realities that others ignore, and they include some necessary humor.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/24 01:18 AM
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No. Most young women who are not involuntarily single or sexless for an extended period of time. The alone women are mostly alone by choice. I'm mostly talking about young women
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/24 06:19 PM
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The rest of us are in the trenches
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/24 03:47 AM
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A lot of men settle hard. If they want their own kids and family, extreme compromises are made sometimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/24 02:37 AM
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You are competing with the abundance of options in the present and future available to her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/24 02:03 PM
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Yes it is. Women get pregnant by rich men to obtain financial freedom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 12:23 PM
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Not completely. Some women still use the strategy of getting pregnant to have a man financially take care of her.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/24 04:55 AM
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This is nonsense. Most young women want and are having romantic and sexual experiences with men. The desire and ability to have children is a more complex issue
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 06:06 PM
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This is the answer. Womens ability to manipulate or be a financial danger is not illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 04:18 PM
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Most men are settled for and most marriages are unhappy. It's not unavoidable though. I hope you get lucky and find a good match for yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/24 01:56 PM
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Wow. Googling this it seems to be true. I had difficulty finding data for men vs women windowing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 10:39 PM
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These stats are from 2012. It's even more difficult now for young single men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:54 PM
2

This is irrelevant because the stats are for people under 65 years old. Death is not on the menu for most people in these ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/24 08:53 PM
1

The quality and conditions of the relationship are important to consider.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/24 12:27 AM
1

Many guys struggle in their 20s and settle hard in their 30s. It's not exactly happily ever after.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/24 04:29 AM
18

If people did this most marriages would end tomorrow.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/24 04:16 AM
1

I would recommend house parties and exploring options in your social group if you have one. It won't be easy but you might get lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:14 AM
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Military men overall do poorly. Many of the men are single and often have to settle heavily to get anything. Their relationships are often filled with cheating and toxic behavior. Not ideal for any man, especially not one without experience. Being poor as a man won't help you fuck. That is so ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/24 03:11 AM
-1

Thats like walking into an Arts and Crafts store and asking how is this different than any other store.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:55 PM
1

Pinterest is very different to the rest. Not an accurate comparison.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 11:34 PM
4

I would say perceived unfairness. A similar feeling appears in dating
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 02:39 PM
3

Why do poor people get mad at rich people?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/24 01:40 PM
1

Don't reproduce with broke losers. I know many single moms who were successful and handled the divorce without living in poverty.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 10:55 PM
-1

The only thing stopping you is fear. It's completely in your control to break up with someone and start over
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:52 PM
-1

They can break up and find another guy. Easy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/24 07:49 PM
1

It depends. Some older women just want a guy with money/resources that she can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/02/24 07:21 PM
14

Not accurate. Being a fit young man isn't enough for most men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/24 11:48 PM
1

Yes because most women want monogamy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:38 PM
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I don't think it's an issue, but my friends are all middle class or upper middle class. If I could solve my problems by throwing money I wouldn't have any problems. Looks are most important in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/24 05:08 AM
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I've seen women do this because the man had resources/money or she wanted to be connected to his status/position of authority. She didn't actually like him as a person but he offered something she wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 10:46 PM
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The 10. Tendencies was never an issue. I have desired many tomboy girls in my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 07:32 PM
2

All is fair in love and war.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/24 11:05 PM
23

This is the worst and most dangerous common advice. It sets men up for failure. Many young men think simply being kind, honest, caring, curious, helpful, etc will allow them to have a girlfriend. Many of these men will fail and become frustrated or angry.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:21 PM
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Story doesn't add up. No way an attractive girl goes her 20s without a serious relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/24 05:16 AM
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Pew has data from 2022... https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/02/08/for-valentines-day-5-facts-about-single-americans/
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 02:03 AM
14

There is data on this. In your 20s, there are twice as many single men as single women. Its a game of musical chairs and not enough spots for all the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:20 AM
15

This is a good starting point. Other physical improvements can help too... fixing teeth and grooming hair/beard can also make a big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/24 07:00 PM
1

Yes. Especially young men. Most men think about and desire women daily.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/24 05:18 PM
2

I would add that there are a lot of desperate and single lonely men who will settle for crazy women because they don't want to be single.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 05:45 PM
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Only a women would say this. Plenty of men don't enjoy arguing.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 04:56 AM
19

Free sex too (if desired)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 11:40 PM
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Most women prefer monogamous relationships. The attractive girls can lock down a guy easy for this. Some less than attractive women sleep with guys hoping he will stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/24 06:00 PM
13

I don't think so. Most young men have not given up, they just aren't being selected by the young women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 04:45 AM
18

Probably just luck. There is a certain probabilistic randomness in life that humans want to pretend has a pattern or reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 04:49 AM
5

A 35 year old women who is fit will do just as well as the guy. She just doesn't have it as easy as her 20s.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 04:02 AM
12

Modern dating is completely different from pre internet and social media. The landscape is completely different. Handsome face does help a lot, but that is genetic. Fitness helps but no guarantees. Shorter men have less quantity and quality available to them. They often settle. Crazy women and dead bedrooms are not uncommon. Short guys who are in a healthy and happy relationship are rare and lucky. The number of short men far exceeds the number of women willing to date them.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 10:52 PM
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Maybe you had a desirable personality in your teens or have more charisma than your peers. Maybe you just got lucky. The dating scene has changed a lot since your youth. Also, natural selection pressures are gradual and can filter out characteristics gradually over generations.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:49 PM
12

Congrats, but if you have sons and they are short they will most likely struggle compared to their peers. You were most likely a lucky outlier.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 07:34 PM
1

Yes. There are different types of intelligence though and some have become more valuable. Social, entertainment and attention intelligence are more valuable now than ever before. Math and science intelligence are less valuable.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/23 06:41 PM
2

Probably not but depends on what you are talking about. Young women typically have higher standards when it comes to looks and fun. They have lower standards when it comes to responsibility, kindness and reliability. This often changes as they age
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 11:48 PM
3

Being single and/or sexless in your 40s is very different than in your teens and 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 04:58 PM
0

Move to a city. If you are tall and fit life should be easy unless your face is a disaster.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/23 03:34 PM
8

Prolonging life expectancy is good as long as people remain healthy and can work. Increasing retirement age will solve a lot of the problems but it's not politically popular.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 09:15 PM
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No. Many jobs don't care about this. Introverted guys often have friends. Dating will be harder but it's not nearly as important as looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/23 06:02 PM
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I haven't been married but know some guys in this situation. I think it is often more obvious to outsiders than the guy actually going through it. Signs include dead bedroom, infidelity, and she mostly cares about your resources.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 03:11 AM
32

Yes. Missing out on your teens and 20s is not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/23 12:01 AM
1

I'm in a medium-sized city. In my experience, most young women want to be in a relationship. There will always be exceptions, but in general, women want romantic and sexual companionship.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 06:32 AM
2

That sounds healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/23 05:09 AM
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Makes no sense. I don't know a single example of this. All the women in my social circle are in a relationship or situationship. None are choosing to be alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 04:09 PM
1

They could listen and look for indicators.... level of education, career position/title, car, house, where you grew up, life style.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 06:47 AM
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I don't think they do. I only empathize with a small minority of women who actually have difficulties outside of their control. I ignore fat or crazy lonely women. Having said that I always am positive and give fat people compliments in the gym to encourage their progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/23 01:21 AM
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It's ok that women are born with privilege but if men try to obtain a position of privilege they are toxic.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 04:54 AM
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Lots of people don't want kids
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/23 06:44 AM
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I always had a small group of male friends that would not describe me as boring. We have shared many fun experiences. I struggled with women though but don't think they would call be boring. Most didn't even learn enough about me to have an opinion.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 09:07 PM
1

I have never seen a man take the safe option. Sometimes they settle for the fat girl or deadbedroom or crazy girl. I wouldn't call it safe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:04 PM
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No. Looks and charisma are more important
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:52 AM
2

Great question. Imagine 100 random guys who are all average attractiveness and autistic. What percentage would succeed? I'm not sure. I think luck is very important though.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 11:11 PM
8

Maybe they just got lucky?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 10:37 PM
1

You are confusing different things. Generally speaking beauty declines with age. Still older women can be attracted and desired naturally.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/23 02:51 AM
4

I'm confident what I read is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 04:49 AM
1

They will settle for casual sex and participate in it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 09:09 PM
3

Generally speaking yes. Unless you are uniquely attractive or charismatic.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/23 05:01 AM
6

This is definitely not the complete story. Some women have sex with a guy in hopes of locking him down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 08:10 PM
1

Because most people are meeting online, especially after exiting school/university.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:47 PM
3

I'm confused by your statement. All life is a result of genetics and environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 05:24 PM
7

No they don't. Most mothers give bad dating advice to their sons.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 02:12 AM
2

That's true. A lot will depend on how advanced the AI technology becomes. I can imagine AI generating online content that is just as good if not better than most humans in the next 5 years.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 05:46 PM
11

No because human males are readily available to most women. Some women even make a living just talking to men and sharing a few pictures.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:50 PM
10

Many women are crazy and dysfunctional. The normal ones are rarely single and available.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/23 02:45 PM
0

Acceptance.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/23 08:34 PM
9

Most young women are in relationships, they are not single. The vast majority of women are not involuntarily single or sexless. The ones who desire a Chad but refuse less I have no sympathy for.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:49 PM
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I only half agree because it is only more difficult for men. Women have never had it easier with an abundance that allows them to have more options than they could possibly explore in multiple lifetimes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 08:05 PM
1

Because he doesn't have options. It's settle or be single. For most men dating is difficult and women have abundance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/23 07:30 PM
7

Makes sense. Essentially having the quantity and quality of sex you desire.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 09:46 PM
4

No. If all guys were 6'2" then height would no longer be a filter, women would place more value on other characteristics like face, money, status, charisma etc. Freakishly tall is not attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/23 02:20 AM
26

Many women find this behavior boring, uninteresting, and unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 03:29 PM
21

Because women don't need your money anymore, they have thier own. They value looks and status more than ever.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:44 AM
3

Stop treating everyone like babies. 18 is fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:41 AM
1

Your post makes no sense. Women between the age of 18-29 easily get attention everywhere. School, work, bars, online, parties, grocery store, etc
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 11:56 PM
1

For many guys in their 20s they are looking for this... success is a rare occurance and failure is common.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:43 PM
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It's not about caring or empathy. Most women don't even acknowledge there is a problem. It's complete gas lighting of struggiling men most of the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 02:42 PM
2

No. The vast majority of young adult women are desirable just for being "who they are"
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:54 AM
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Breakup. She plans on leaving you for another guy as soon as she finds him.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 04:11 AM
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Some women find bad behavior exciting, dramatic and interesting. Especially young women. Not sure it has to do with logic.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/23 01:43 AM
19

No. A man can pursue women anywhere. Succeeding is a different story. Most guys have to try everything and then eventually get lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 06:41 PM
6

Good luck. Safe travels and report back
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:40 AM
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It's called "just don't be fat"
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 03:22 PM
17

More like wives don't want prostitutes available for their husband's
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 04:40 AM
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Women often pretend this isn't a thing but so true. Men who complain about dating struggles often get labeled as bad character. Creepy, violent, mean, etc. But most of the time it's not true. They just aren't hot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/23 12:06 AM
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Both guys I known who did really well with women were also very critical of the gender overall. They didn't hate women but the vast majority of women were just to be used for fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 03:31 PM
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The majority of young women both want and are in a relationship at any given moment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 04:49 PM
4

They don't get 0 matches. They might average 1-2 first dates per year. Eventually they get lucky or settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 04:03 PM
3

I haven't seen any correlation between political belief and success with women. What do you mean by far right?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 01:33 AM
-5

That's fair. I think most women do whatever they want and get what they want. It's easy life for them. The complainers are usually the crazy ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 07:16 PM
1

The thirst is overwhelming
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:47 AM
5

Both my parents gave me bad advice for the modern era.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 01:40 AM
10

Nobody cares. Everyone is busy with their own lives and a man's inability to have sex outside of a committed relationship is the man's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/10/23 02:12 AM
3

Not really. I think it just causes a lot of men to fail at getting a relationship or sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:40 AM
10

I agree with the sentiment. People will often point out exceptions but it is still true as a general rule. How old are you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 04:14 AM
0

Is she still with him?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 01:20 PM
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It's all nonsense. Women have plenty of options, even as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:57 PM
2

My parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:47 PM
30

No. Men are way less picky than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 06:11 PM
2

Those numbers sound like fiction
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 10:28 PM
13

Most young women are serial monogamous. They jump from man to man with little time in-between. They might sleep with a few guys when single to either experiment or try to lock down a guy. Most young women want relationships and have lots of options.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 08:13 PM
14

For most young adults, especially men, extremely important. This issue is often ignored
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/23 03:25 AM
4

Or extra crazy with a lot of baggage
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 09:52 PM
8

Most short guys I know settled hard
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 07:00 PM
2

Who is telling men to ignore women in your 20s? This is not common advice of redpill or anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 07:54 PM
3

You have selection bias. You look at couples and make statements about single men...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 04:01 AM
3

Don't get fat or be totally insane and you'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 10:54 PM
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Maybe being invisible is worse. Or an annoying nuisance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 08:09 PM
2

It's a man most women want sexually.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:40 PM
7

When you live in a desert, water is never far from thought
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 04:58 PM
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Welcome to hell, enjoy your stay. Your statement is true for men and false for women. Women have plenty of options in their 20s and 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 04:03 AM
5

Yes. But they had their first date and after a few weeks it becomes LTR. They aren't still active on the dating site
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:33 PM
9

Anecdotally. At least half of women looking for a LTR find it in less than a week of online dating. Fat women or those with a lot of baggage can struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 05:20 PM
5

Women do complain about too much unwanted attention
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 07:28 PM
1

Some combination of romance, love, sex, and companionship. Other people may also want a family with children one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/10/23 11:47 PM
3

No, it's social media and dating apps. They have unlimited options.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 03:44 AM
10

Because an inaccurate world view made life harder than it needed to be
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 07:28 PM
1

I knew a girl who did this on the regular. She was a poor single mom and would get a free dinner with drinks every weekend. If she liked the guy, she would have sex with him. If not, she liked the free stuff and attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 02:55 AM
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Depending on age and location finding single women in the "real world" can be very difficult. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 01:14 AM
1

If you look at men and women in their 20s, your statement is not true. Young women are highly desirable as long as they aren't fat
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/23 01:44 AM
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Same thing to different friends of mine who find themselves single in 30s, different details but many similarities
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 11:51 PM
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Improve what you can, accept what you can't. This is such a bitter pill to swallow sometimes though. Life can be terribly unfair and most people don't want to accept reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 10:43 PM
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I have seen your story many times.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 09:30 PM
7

How do you know it is minimal effort?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/23 07:41 PM
3

No. Vibration is something totally different and many women enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/23 11:35 PM
21

I agree. Nothing catastrophic will happen on a societal level. Some men will suffer and be miserable but life will go on without them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 06:14 PM
7

Dating non-exclusively is very different than a longterm relationship especially if marriage and children are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/23 05:15 PM
7

An additional issue is historically people had family's and children younger. So more consideration was placed on a man's ability to provide and support a family. Now in your 20s it's more focused on fun and pleasure.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:16 PM
6

Some guys lack self confidence, some are attracted to toxic situations, some refuse to divorce, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:27 AM
4

It's not about belief, it's about desire. Some men desire longterm monogamy and will happily committed to a women they like. Other men desire variety, novelty, and many women
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/23 02:16 AM
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Monogamous longterm pair bonding is biology. Humans have created social and cultural practices, marriage, around it but it is more than that
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 09:16 PM
1

More many its just a biological desire. It's the human algorithm evolution gave us.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 08:41 PM
3

This is true for most young men. When I was in my 20s I wanted a girl in her 20s who wasn't fat, crazy or a mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/23 06:58 PM
5

It depends on the individual in question and the situation. Can't make any accurate generalizations about men vs women like that
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/23 01:55 AM
4

Yes. Selection bias in its various forms is a common human error.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/23 01:52 AM
8

It's normal and common. Most people are lying or in denial when they say otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 06:50 PM
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Single women are more likely to be voluntarily single. They have also had many sexual/romantic experiences in the past. They can get dates and sex easy even when single. They aren't missing out as much as men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/23 03:51 PM
9

The problem is the vast majority of men rarely receive any attention from anyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/23 06:45 PM
21

For most of human history.... Paternal certainty Pregnancy was very risky/dangerous Women are the limiting factor in population growth
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 05:11 PM
5

I have never seen this. Nothing wrong with being single at 30+, break ups and divorce happen. Being a nun in the modern era does seem dumb though
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/23 01:11 AM
2

Many of these guys take what they can get. They might spend years single and then enter in a relationship that is mediocre. There is often drama, resentment, cheating, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 09:31 PM
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In a dating context they bring sex/pussy/boobs sexual desirability for heterosexual men. This is massive force
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/23 12:21 AM
1

This makes zero sense. Also the female in the video is clearly an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/23 04:40 AM
6

No. Men are attracted to lots of women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 04:03 PM
13

I peaked in elementary school
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/23 04:50 AM
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Depends on the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 03:08 AM
11

Good question. I have seen similar men. Improving yourself improves your chance of success but doesn't guarantee it. Most men will usually get a girlfriend by the time they are 35. All you can do is improve your chances and hope for the best. Good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 02:02 AM
1

Brutal but true.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/23 03:03 AM
1

Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 11:51 PM
1

Fair enough. There needs to be education and a class on how to deal with breakups. Mandatory.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:52 PM
2

No. Adults kill themselves too. It's not an age thing. Education and preparation is important. More reason to teach the youth
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 10:45 PM
1

This is so dumb. Society makes an effort to teach teenagers many things. Academics, driving, health, safety, social issues, etc. Guidance on matters of relationships is a good idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 09:39 PM
2

Can you elaborate? I didn't get any good advice or teaching about relationships in my youth. Something would have been beneficial.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 07:56 PM
1

I think it does. It depends on what you focus on and how you define alpha. Getting fit and improving your appearance helps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/23 02:54 AM
5

The people I know who participate in this are physically unattractive. Both the women and the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 07:17 PM
1

This is becoming more and more common
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/23 04:37 AM
3

That won't work. Most people have a deep and powerful biological desire for romance and sex. Also many people want their own family and kids
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 12:12 AM
16

How are they not prostitutes? The definition is sex for money. That is literally what is happening. Just because the women work part time and charge a lot doesn't change what it is. I think it makes sense for him and as long as they are both consenting adults nothing wrong with it. Social media has changed the landscape
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/23 04:16 AM
1

Are you not entertained?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 04:11 AM
13

Neither. Gun to my head, I would paper bag one of the 50 year olds
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:49 AM
9

Some are just jealous and not resentful.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 12:27 AM
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No. Women have more options than they can possibly explore. Even with a height filter, they have plenty of options. All the women I know in their 20s and 30s did well in the dating game. Online dating is easy for them. Plenty of single guys to choose from.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:11 PM
29

"Just be yourself". Terrible advice, sometimes changes are needed
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 07:00 PM
3

This is from 2009... current data would be nice....
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 04:40 AM
13

Not in my experience. Men are often attracted to a wide variety of women
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:10 AM
10

You are 20 years old. You have no idea what you will be attracted to when you are 30. Come back in a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:28 PM
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They have an aspirational dream... they don't consider the risks...
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:40 PM
7

Freaky Friday Chad edition... the guy in the handsome body will find everything to be easier and people more receptive to him. Women will treat him exponentially better. The average guy will find women massively less receptive and everyone else to treat him more neutral.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 07:22 PM
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Makes sense, especially when you are young
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 02:12 PM
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Can you elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:15 AM
10

There is no war. The laws simply protect women more and give them an advantage.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 03:23 PM
21

You never say why coffee dates are bad... I don't get it, some people like coffee, tea and/or paistries. My city has some very cool coffee shops
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:07 AM
6

Tech industry is full of single men who have money and want romance, sex and/or love. Easy mode for the ladies
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:05 AM
2

I don't know. Women on social media and on the internet get attention from men globally. Some have money and looking to spend it on the right women
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 07:04 PM
1

Zero influence. Those men aren't desirable
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:35 PM
9

I actually find his ex wife more attractive than Sanchez. The new one looks so fake
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 03:28 AM
1

A high value women is a women who can have whatever she wants.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 09:25 PM
6

How do you not? Some guys are at a point in their life they want be promiscuous and have a variety of experiences. Some guys are at a point they want a longterm relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 12:48 AM
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You said what you are not but not what you are
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 10:12 PM
17

The future is difficult to predict. Maybe we will all be living in a computer. Maybe the government will manufacture designer babies in a laboratory, maybe AI will kill us all.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 12:18 AM
4

Yes. I know many. Most eventually get a girlfriend or wife. After break ups or divorce, they don'thave many options. They either got very lucky or settled.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 10:34 PM
1

Mayne not dating success but definitely dating value.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 07:47 PM
6

Who decides what is wrong? Do whatever you want as long as you are not hurting anyone it is acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 04:48 PM
2

No. Even if today is a success, tomorrow can be a failure. Changes happen and relationships end.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 07:53 PM
10

No. You have selection bias. You only notice the guys who are having apparent success at that moment. You miss all the times they failed. You miss all the guys who are currently failing. If you want quality the bar is very high but there is a large element of luck involved too
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 02:55 PM
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I don't want kids, your advice is useless. In the future, as humans merge with technology and artificial intelligence, life will be completely different than in the past. Biological/genetic evolution worked for 3.8 billion years, but intelligently directed evolution will be king.... maybe....
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 12:04 AM
1

Parental failure is underrated and not discussed enough. My parents were toxic and controlling and it held me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:27 AM
3

Most women are serial monogamous. They go from serious relationship to serious relationship with little time in between. Most women want a LTR and not interested in having sex with the entire basketball team
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 04:16 AM
3

No. Most young women have a strong desire for romantic/sexual relationships and don't like being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/23 01:31 PM
1

You don't know the definition of skinny
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/23 09:35 PM
3

It's terrible advice for men and ok advice for women. Generally women say this because they have a passive and clueless roll in dating. Most commonly the man needs to search, approach and initiate
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 10:25 PM
8

Very true. It's massive gaslighting. For most people sexual experiences are extremely important.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/23 07:45 PM
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Many men date younger too. Men in 30s dating women in 20s. Men in 40s and 50s dating women in 30s. Demand for women in 20s and 30s is massive
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 06:46 PM
12

I don't think it is bad for women. The women I know get dates, sex and relationships using OLD without much effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 09:24 PM
6

Sounds awesome. I would encourage. The weight lifting part of the gym is like 90% men so she will get a lot of attention. Need to be comfortable with that
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 03:50 PM
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They lack quality and quality women. They might have the rare fwb or sexual experience but most of their single life is sexless. If they get luxky, they lock down the first decent women because they can get consistent sex with someone they enjoy spending time with.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/23 02:49 AM
2

A women in her 30s and 40s who is fit and friendly will easily have options. The wall mostly hits lazy and fat women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:54 PM
96

There was never a 180 with any of your examples. The women got to know you and were not interested. That is just regular dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:46 PM
4

A, 100%. I have a successful career and know many guys who do. It's nice but being physically desirable is worth more maybe even priceless.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 01:45 PM
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He is the most subscribed individual on YouTube. He has massive status and money. Think top 0.00001% rare. A regular guy can't even make it into the top 10%.... it's worlds apart
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 02:32 AM
1

You are a guy.... dating is difficult for most men. Your successes were probably just good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 09:53 PM
3

All of the above
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 12:18 AM
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Control is mostly an illusion
/r/PurplePillDebate11/07/23 04:05 AM
1

How much money we talking?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 08:11 PM
2

Be be fit, friendly and feminine. That's it
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 02:14 AM
21

Eh. I would take it as an educational life lesson that costs money. Lots of people are willing to take advantage of you, got to be ready for those assholes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/23 04:20 AM
6

Note to self. Move to Eastern Europe.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 11:30 PM
12

The average women is in a monogamous relationship and most of her sexual partners are from monogamous relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/23 03:12 AM
81

Yup. In dating "you are owed nothing" however name any social cause and half the population wants free money for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:56 PM
1

I knew a guy like this in college. Women would give him their number in all sorts of places. Waitresses, retail store, gym, neighbors, etc. It was crazy how much casual sex he had
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:45 PM
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It's a massive tornado of misinformation. I know many young guys who struggled in their 20s. They lacked quantity and quality options when looking for women. Eventually most would get lucky but it wasn't easy. The stats are terrible for men. Most have to optimize everything they can and play the numbers game to succeed.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 06:36 PM
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Yes. Also most women are not chronically single and struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 05:41 PM
1

What were her relationship experiences in 20s and 30s? Most women I know have had many experiences by the time they in their 40s and have a "been there done that" attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 01:51 PM
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Yup. If you are attractive, literally anywhere. Seen it many times
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 04:57 PM
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Brutal. He should move to south east Asia and live the good life some
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 03:23 AM
4

Some people are not interested in getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 03:20 AM
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Yes. They do. Common interests help, a guy that enjoys skateboarding will like girls who do the same. Humor is an excellent quality. Women that can make men laugh have an advantage. Same goes for music. Looks are very important though and an easy one variable solution that works in many situations. Just be hot/attractive is good advice for men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/23 02:40 AM
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The asymmetry between the sexs makes this comparison difficult if not impossible. I'm not sure how to define a female player.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 02:35 AM
1

Sometimes ugly is defined as guys who get very little or no sexual/romantic interest from women. They don't need to be repulsive, most are just invisible to women
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:03 PM
1

Yolo
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:57 PM
5

Say "Hello"
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 04:24 PM
9

Paternal certainty and risk of pregnancy. For most of human history there was no reliable birth control so sex was a high risk activity for the women
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:11 PM
1

My observations are similar. Having said that most of the women I know have had short term sexual experiences at some point in their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:32 PM
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True. Also all women get to be young but only a minority of men get to be tall
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 03:42 AM
1

I know average women who have gone on a date everyday of the week by using online dating with minimal effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:03 PM
8

I disagree. Also, the number of women who hate other women far exceeds the number of men who hate women.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 01:23 AM
1

Romantic and/or sexual urges are a normal part of most human lives. You don't choose it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:00 PM
1

Beggars can't be choosers
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 03:12 AM
1

On average, Asian women are not fat and Asian men are short compared to white guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 04:04 AM
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Thanks for sharing. Awkwardness is a massive turnoff for most women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 04:03 AM
8

Keep the drinks coming sweetheart
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 01:07 AM
1

No. You just notice the extroverted ones more
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:47 PM
19

No. If they get what they want it is a win. Different people want different things
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:07 PM
2

Yea, "focus on yourself" can result in a lot of wasted time
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 11:50 PM
2

Yup
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:12 PM
5

This is good advice but most young men are not getting this information.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:07 PM
4

My parents did. They told me focus on school and girls were a distraction
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:02 PM
2

No. Hell no
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 11:28 AM
18

Online dating and social media have created some absurd realities for people to deal with
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 02:09 AM
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Not single ones
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 01:42 AM
1

Yea. The economy will be revolutionized for sure and relationships too
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 11:57 PM
9

Better looking (not fat) and more likely to be interested in you (less rejection).
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 11:56 PM
6

Artificial intelligence is the biggest social experiment to ever be conducted on human beings. I don't know what the future will look like but it will certainly be different than the past and present.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:15 PM
2

They should not. I am even against tax breaks for family's with kids. Single people with no kids already pay the highest tax rates. I also think the world has too many people so governments should not be incentivising more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 07:36 PM
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Most women quickly move from monogamous relationship to monogamous relationship. If they are single they may have a FWB or a wild phase at some point. Because of social media and dating apps most women can easily have sex with a man more attractive than her, lots of this is going on too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 04:00 PM
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Most men do. Most men want the availability even if they don't act on it. Short term, casual or FWB can be fun. The issue is most guys need to put in a lot of effort for minor success.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 12:53 PM
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How old is she? Why is she struggling? I would have an open and judgement free conversation to get an accurate description of the situation. Also "the one" is a stupid concept
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 02:00 AM
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What type of women do you want?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:23 AM
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No. You should count your blessings. You are still young and probably need to develope a little charisma and charm. In this dating market the winners take most
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:51 AM
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Some people are naive
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:51 PM
10

Your examples don't relate to dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 08:14 PM
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You must have a handsome face and body dysmorphia. Most men are no where that successful using online dating. Or maybe your bar is incredibly low. Obese women maybe. Your situation is rare
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 06:22 PM
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It's a factor for sure but most would still want a relationship. During the weekends especially. For most young men options are limited and the competition is high
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:53 PM
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No. I know a lot of guys who went STEM or trade schools. Lacking money is not why they single
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 01:57 PM
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A lot of women would be unrecognizable
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:48 AM
2

Lots of truth to this. Men lie to though, just in different ways
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 07:47 PM
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Looks are #1. Looking at your post history you are a 22M who has been consistently successful since 13 years old. You are an outlier for sure. Being tall at 6'3 helps a lot and if you have a decent face/body it's relatively easy. Your personality has to be terrible to scare young women away
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 05:37 PM
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Safe is boring for many women, especially the young ones. The safe men who are providers are more desirable in their 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 12:57 AM
2

It is for many, especially young women. Why you ask? Because evolutionary biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 04:40 AM
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They are the lucky ones. Survivorship bias. Also, average guys do have success, it's just that they fail a lot before and after, you are ignoring this part
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 02:40 AM
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I don't want children but its not hard to understand why some do... evolutionary biology. Many males in different species kill babies of women who are not their own. Biology is vicious. We are a biochemical algorithm
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:07 AM
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Your post is just a long way of saying don't be fat...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 06:34 PM
2

Women are most often bullied by other women, not men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 10:28 PM
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I know a lot of blue collar men, the story is more complex. Most have been married multiple times and have crazy ex stories. They generally start dating younger which helps them develope skills. Lots of cheating and drama compared to STEM guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 03:19 PM
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The value of straight men in the sexual market is determined by women. A low value man has little to no sexual options when it comes to dating and sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 03:44 AM
13

Oof. Can relate to this
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 09:39 PM
1

It's irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 03:41 AM
20

In my 20s I knew two guys who were tall and handsome. Both were constantly getting attention and sex from women. Women would just create random reasons to have sex with them. Single or in a relationship didn't matter. Some of these women would get rejected and generally did not take it well. The top guys just don't have enough time for all the abundance
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 09:05 PM
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It's offensive because you would not ask such a question to your friends
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 02:57 PM
1

Yep. I had similar sheltering and controlling parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:52 AM
1

You are a good cousin.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:04 AM
8

No. Video games are beautiful stories, art, music and fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 11:37 PM
0

You are funny. I'm sure if you lead with humor guys will melt in front of you
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 08:20 PM
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Yep. It's the just world fallacy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 07:04 PM
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The volume and high rate of rejection can be frustrating for some. Most men do not have abundance so that makes no sense
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 05:32 PM
4

Women would rule the world if they didn't hate each other
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:05 PM
6

You don't understand casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 11:53 PM
6

No they don't. Women in their 20s have massive options available to them. She can find a man who will commit unless she is looking for a unicorn. This only becomes an issue if they delay having children too long and age becomes an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:11 PM
2

This girl has serious infertility. Everything else is a distraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 08:58 PM
2

I was watching a podcast and a celebrity/athlete mentioned his social media account gets DMs daily from beautiful women. All he has to do is message them back. I'm guessing he has someone verify they are who they say they are before meeting but it's an endless line of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 10:28 PM
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No. It's more common that the 45 year old man dates the 35 year old women. And the 35 year old man dates the 25 year old women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:34 PM
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Because young women are most desirable, 20s and 30s. If you look at older women, 50s+ there are more single women than men. The ratio is about 50/50 but only when you average all age groups together
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 03:02 PM
1

You are successful if you can get what you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 12:02 PM
1

I don't know what the future of humanity is... but it will be very different than the past. Best case scenario humans merge with technology in a constructive way for most humans
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:36 AM
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You didn't get used. You got rejected. You are 19 and will find your way. You are lucky you are tall and decent looking, most guys don't have this privilege.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 11:04 PM
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Yes, but primarily not for the reasons you listed. I can imagine designer babies arriving in the next 20 years. Parents will select the characteristics they want. Imagine being able to select the genes of your child and seeing a simulation of what they will look like as they age before they are even born.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:28 AM
0

Your paradigm is wrong. Women have unlimited options, if they are having problems they need to choose better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:30 PM
1

I morally agree with gender equality. However a lot of men will be left behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:27 PM
2

The issue is women have unlimited options now and your competing with everyone. The genetically average man needs to improve in many areas just to have some minor success. Being "different" isn't really good advice for most men. You need to be attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 03:00 PM
2

Not really. It depends on what you want. Some guys are not interested in casual sex so it is irrelevant.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 03:18 AM
1

Life is meaningless, might as well have some fun though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 05:06 PM
1

If you can't beat them, join them
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:59 PM
11

Zero. Don't be a mass murdering asshole. Your dating beliefs are irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 09:35 PM
1

The number 1 green flag is if the person is putting in effort
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 05:08 PM
10

What is out of touch? Nothing I wrote is wrong. Young women have tons of options. Most are serially monogamous and living their life. They get dates and sex when they want too
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:57 PM
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No. Most young women are in relationships. When they are single they have many prospects and experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:14 PM
3

It never bothered me. I took it as a compliment and moved on.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 12:17 PM
1

No, although individual attraction has a subjective element, on the population level it is more objective. Certain characteristics perform well on average. Just because a guy isn't interesting to you doesn't mean he isn't "high value" in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 01:19 PM
1

Zero. You have to meet in person. Some people already use pictures that are not accurate.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:11 AM
9

There is not enough information here. People are complex and details can matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:14 PM
4

80% of men don't cause sexual attraction in MOST women. The guys on the bottom play the numbers game until they find a women who is interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 03:14 PM
0

Music would change. The female privilege would evaporate. Men would be less aggressive. And probably a few other things would be different
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:25 PM
2

Of course it hurts but the intensity and period of pain is far less. It's the difference between missing a meal and experiencing starvation.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/23 04:31 PM
1

I disagree. The vast majority of women in their 20s and 30s want sex, romance and relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/23 06:49 PM
2

It's what interests most women and makes them the most money. There are some good female science communicators out there. I like Dr. Becky and Dr. Sabine Hossenfelder on YouTube
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 11:01 PM
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Hookup culture is great for people who want it and can get it. Most women are not interested. That being said the ones who do live an easy life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/23 01:42 AM
2

Not really. Most women are blissfully ignorant of the dating struggles most men have. That will just extend to their children. The world will likely look very different 20 years in the future. Technology and AI will shape a future that is potentially unimaginable. Work, dating and human value may be very different.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 09:45 PM
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Women don't ever describe it like this though. They would say they are dating or in a relationship even though the guy sees it as sex only
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 05:32 PM
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No. Social media and dating apps are the biggest factor. Women have unlimited options
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/23 03:16 PM
13

Most guys will remain single forever if they don't chase. Unacceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 03:43 PM
3

You should have just eloped. Don't let social pressure control your life
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 03:38 PM
4

Doesn't matter. Looks are the great filter
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/23 02:05 PM
1

This may vary with age. Technology and social media really has rapidly changed the landscape.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/23 03:36 AM
1

It's not. Both these things are rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 08:53 PM
46

Women can easily find a guy to take care of them and enable behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:59 PM
10

Men want sex and most men take what they can get. Many medical doctors I know had to leverage their financial resources heavily to get a women interested. Also, you should not combine serial cheaters with promiscuity. Those are different things.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/23 01:19 PM
1

The problem with average is there are so many different variables that are weighted differently. At your height it is hard to compete. Sounds like you are making the best you can out of your situation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/23 09:11 PM
0

These numbers are made up and bull shit. No way 82% of women 18-24 are single and 89% of men single. At least half of the women in that age range have a significant other.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/23 03:15 PM
1

You could say this about anything. Our biology and desires are a product of evolution and randomness.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/23 05:00 PM
1

Most men want to experience some sexual variety before settling down until death. It depends on the guy though. Some guys need constant variety and some guys are happy with 1 girl forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/03/23 12:18 AM
2

Having sex in a committed and loving relationship is not slut behavior. Sex is normal and fun part of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 03:48 AM
11

Nope. Height is one of the best stats for men universally. It's not the only factor but increases the probability of success with women a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/23 03:45 AM
0

No significant affect. It can't make you actually more attractive in person
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 03:45 AM
2

Most women don't care
/r/PurplePillDebate20/03/23 12:00 AM
1

How dare you be thoughtful and reasonable
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 08:43 PM
9

Yup. Luck is a giant factor. Romantic and sexual success is underrated
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 06:02 PM
3

You are more attractive than you think. Post a picture? Cute girls that don't sleep around are high in demand
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 02:43 AM
15

I call bull shit on this. Plenty of hard working and successful guys out there. STEM is full of single guys with good academics and careers. Women ignore most good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/23 03:44 AM
2

I agree that being socially awkward or not knowing how to flirt is a turn off and even a deal breaker sometimes. Most women do want a man who can be romantically and sexually confident. The OP made a bunch of generalizations that are wrong or irrelevant. Also, looks are required to get your foot in the door. Most men are rejected before they even open their mouth or don't get matches using online apps.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/23 04:20 AM
1

No, it doesn't matter. Being attractive will decide if she responds positively or not
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 05:48 PM
2

The reason is that most women prefer monogamous relationships most of the time. Even if they have a hoe phase it tends to be brief.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/23 01:56 AM
10

Your family has a fucking castle? You are tall, rich, handsome, an attorney, and white..... if you are struggling the rest of us men are doomed
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 04:43 AM
10

I would find a shy, nice, cute and nerdy guy... then I would rock his world
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 10:40 PM
0

No. Just because we will all get old and die and the universe will experience a heat death is irrelevant. On average, looks are king and the most important factor. Not the only factor obviously. Having charisma and providing resources is important too
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:39 PM
8

I don't think your example is fair but your conclusion is correct. World famous musicians/artist will always have unlimited options. I don't think that translates well to the average persons life though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:20 PM
8

I half agree. I know many males that make good money (upper middle class) but struggle in dating. I don't know a single tall & handsome man that struggles. Looks are most important for men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:13 PM
5

In general, yes. But I think it is over simplifying a complex history. Men built the world but also destroyed large parts. For example, all the wars and genocides were results of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 06:04 PM
1

Maybe they got lucky? Maybe their girlfriend is a pain in the ass? Maybe they were single most of their life and now you notice them because they have a girl friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/23 04:28 AM
1

It really depends on the individual. With dating apps most women do have unlimited access to validation, dates and sex so desperation seems less common
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 02:55 PM
0

You are wrong. Sometimes violence is needed It should always be the last option
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/23 05:22 AM
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This is just not true. Many men are sexually attracted to tall women. Legs for days
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/23 06:15 PM
3

Well said. Sometimes accepting what you can't control is harder than changing what you can control.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/23 08:25 PM
5

Sapolsky is epic. His interviews are informative
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/23 02:06 AM
17

This is common in STEM fields. Lots of men who have good jobs/career prospects but are not sexually/romantically desired by women.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 03:57 AM
15

18-35 is a massive age range. I wish they broke it down for every age
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/23 12:12 AM
12

Most guys will not be happy fucking a land whale. The guys who enjoy fat girls are already in relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/23 12:24 AM
1

No. There are too many different variable too consider. Just averaging every parameter doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/23 12:55 PM
1

It will help. I hear many guys complain about their fat wives who were skinny when they first met.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 10:53 PM
0

Most people are happy? Do you have a source for this? Inequality is growing in the economic and dating market.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/23 08:05 PM
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No. Most women are living their lives getting dates, relationships and sex. They get to pick the guy they want
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/23 01:43 PM
1

Yes. The more she likes the man the more she wants to satisfy him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/23 03:43 PM
22

Meaning, to the extent it exists, is created by people. Each person can decide what gives them meaning and purpose. People want different things
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 08:21 PM
9

Sometimes it's labeled as annoying or even harassment
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/23 01:39 PM
1

This is not commonly assumed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 05:37 AM
8

Yes. 1 guy has no charisma/game. 1 guy is very short. Some fat guys and girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/23 03:36 AM
24

Social media and dating apps have changed the landscape. Much more competition
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:59 PM
1

Only if done more than once.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 11:25 PM
13

My thoughts too. Op is confusing preferences with good and bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 05:11 PM
2

Sure but life isn't some dream world scenario. He has been struggling and doing what he can. If he had many options with women craving him his life would be totally different. He is making the best out of his situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:01 PM
5

To be fair we don't know about the quality or his preferences. If he is unhappy he can end their arrangement
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/23 03:46 AM
6

Not a bad deal. He is paying less than most married man and getting better sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 04:48 PM
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This data should be pinned and stated more often. In your 20s there are about 2 single men for every 1 single women. It's going to be difficult for most guys
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/23 09:37 PM
0

I disagree. Most women find a man fairly easily.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/23 01:14 AM
2

Alimony is not rare when the wife is a stay at home mother and the father makes a lot of money.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 03:56 AM
4

No. Young people don't think that far ahead and generally don't plan for a divorce. Also, in the US the courts will massively favor the women in your example. Half his income is going toward child support and alimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 12:50 AM
2

Yup. Seen this many times. Some of these guys eventually get lucky and enter a long term relationship. It doesn't always last but it's better than nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:56 PM
2

Neither. The childless one doesn't exist. 30 years old, gorgeous but never been in a long term relationship? This type of women doesn't exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/23 05:50 PM
4

No. Healthy looking women have plenty of options either way.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/23 01:55 PM
7

Sorry you going through this, many men can relate to being invisible. Your condition sounds extreme, maybe bottom 5% genetically. Good job staying thin. Have you considered different surgeries?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:07 PM
3

No. Not having kids doesn't make you a burden to society. It's the single moms with the multiple baby daddys and government assistance programs they are on that is the problem. Only people who want kids and will be good parents should reproduce. Too many screwed up family's out there already
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:17 AM
65

Most men get zero validation outside of family or a partner. Bring it on.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/23 12:11 AM
2

Experiences are often required for growth, learning and self discovery. Whether for academics, friendships, romance, sex, etc... experiences in adolescence and young adulthood are often important and missing them decreases quality of life
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/23 09:44 PM
4

Because they can. Women have endless options during the early stages of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate14/01/23 05:53 PM
1

Most guys don't know this actually. The most common advice guys get is be confident and just be yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/23 12:11 AM
3

If you are hot and fucking a guy the complaints will be at a minimum. Rich men have disposable income too. It's the oldest profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 04:54 AM
29

Blue pill = just world fallacy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/23 02:19 AM
4

I would say most have experimented but only for a brief period of time in between relationships. Most women are not sleeping with the entire basketball team
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 09:48 PM
20

In my college days I remember at least half of the girls having a significant other who didn't attend the university (maybe more). Young girls meet guys everywhere they go. Social media has totally changed things too in the last decade. They get constant attention and add dating apps too. A stat that doesn't get mentioned enough is in your 20s their are 3 single men for every 2 single women. Competition is fierce. Also many girls in the 25-29 age range are with men in their 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 05:37 PM
20

Height is easy to quantify and filter for. Facial attractiveness is more complicated. Both are important.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 03:21 AM
6

In most cases, no. Also we are close to getting confused on definitions. I am defining a chad as a guy many women would have sex with if they are single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/23 12:18 AM
7

I defined it as a guy who many women find attractive and would have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/23 11:39 PM
1

In a few hundred years our designer baby descendents will be merged with technology to create a whole new species.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/23 05:06 AM
2

The science tag checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 06:29 AM
1

SoCal must be another universe. Have you considered moving somewhere else? Most women in America are not getting that spoiled
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/23 04:32 AM
1

I know an average looking girl who went on 8 dates in 7 days. Online dating is easy for them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:50 AM
1

Most people want romance and sex. You might regret letting opportunities pass you by. You are surrounded by young women with relatively little baggage and responsibilities. It's an individual choice and don't let anyone pressure you into something you dislike though
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:14 AM
1

One day in the distant future, not in our lifetimes is my guess. The technology is not there, not even close. Technological progress is difficult to predict though. We still don't have reliable self driving cars
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 12:33 AM
1

My confidence has always felt average. I don't really understand the emphasis on confidence though, it's mostly irrelevant outside of the extreme cases. I've become more black pill with age though. I find myself more apathetic and more likely to not care with age. It's probably just bitterness and resentment.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 05:17 AM
3

I'm ok with dyed hair and daddy issues. The rest I agree with
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/22 04:36 AM
5

Life is an existential crisis. As far as I can tell life is meaningless. We can create meaning for ourselves and loved ones but when we are gone that is the end. Relationships and children are often used as a distraction from the great void behind us and in front of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 11:35 PM
2

No. If she wants the same thing it's totally fine. It's becoming more common for people to get married and start having children in their 30s
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:24 PM
2

No. You said yourself you had success in your 20s so I don't see why it would become difficult in your 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 05:35 AM
18

You look like a professional athlete and still can't laid... There must be something very wrong with your personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 05:57 PM
-4

I never liked this analogy. Employeers are desperate for employees. As long as you show up, get the job done and have a decent attitude it's easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:23 PM
6

Not for me. I have been through adversity and prefer people who can relate.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 05:48 AM
2

You just defined a team or maybe even a business organizational structure (if more than 2 people). Romantic relationships are team work but the romantic and sexual elements make it unique
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 03:01 AM
3

Anecdotal evidence from my 20s and 30s. Also some data from dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 11:30 PM
6

No. I don't think average women have sky high expectations. What they have is sky high options. They can get endless dates, sex and short term relationships. Given time some of these become longterm.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/12/22 10:31 PM
1

No. Unless you getting with obese women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:44 PM
1

The statement is not precise enough. In general, a man in his 30s dating women in their 30s will have an easier time than a man in his 20s dating women in their 20s. Competition is less. If men are dating women around their age it does get easier. Not massively but somewhat.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 06:32 PM
1

Only about 7% of stats are real
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 04:02 PM
1

Most people are codependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 08:54 PM
11

We all get older, decline and die.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 01:04 AM
1

They having conseual sex with guys they like, thats not being used. Usually one of the guys enters a longer term relationship with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:39 AM
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No. Dating is only a modern activity. Relationships and marriages were completely different in the past. Also most of human history was terrible. Life expectancy was low and threat of violence was high. Women had few rights and were stuck having lots of children.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 02:06 PM
-1

They don't need to. Plenty of chubby chasers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 02:42 AM
2

Yes. Some people are just more quiet and introverted than others. Doesn't mean they not confident in themselves or their actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 07:32 PM
1

You are wrong. It's an important part of living a life worth living for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 03:00 PM
4

Some women do this, but you can always limit first dates to something cheap or free. Like coffee, tea, a walk on the park, etc. I knew a girl who went on dates every weekend for free dinner and drinks. If she liked the guy she would have sex with him too.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 02:34 AM
0

Yes. Not sure where to get data on this but I can imagine about 10% of women stay because they don't have many options.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 10:10 PM
3

Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:36 AM
9

Not possible young women have way more options and power in the dating game than young men. Also men are horny
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 04:17 AM
0

I disagree. I never cared about society's opinion. I wanted dates, relationships, romance and sex for myself. Struggiling men won't magically become successful either in your scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 02:41 PM
1

They are both hopeless and will live unfulfilled lives
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 03:53 AM
-4

I think they often are just lying. I think the most disingenuous part is the advice they give. Women often say something generic like be nice, or be respectful or treat her well or just be yourself. None of this helps men becoming sexually successful.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:35 PM
1

Not everyone wants a longterm/forever relationship. Also, most of us already have best friends and some of us enjoy alone time. Also, friendship is different than romantic or sexual feelings.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:21 PM
1

Get in shape/ don't be fat. Don't be crazy. Dress well. Makeup. Be friendly.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:03 PM
0

Easy. Tell him you are already seeing someone or have a boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:12 AM
3

Beautiful women don't struggle. Guys will be lining up
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:11 AM
1

Something like 50% of men and women don't want kids. Not a problem
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:59 PM
2

Very low. What reason would they have? Asexual? Religious?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 02:12 AM
1

No. Being fit is very helpful. Getting bulky isn't the most desirable but it's better than being fat. Gain 50 lbs and see how different things are for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 08:32 PM
1

Not really. This generally isn't an option for men. Also men don't mind providing for women they are attracted too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 02:06 AM
2

Most men are unable to have multiple options at once even if they try
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:56 AM
1

It helps. Most women want a guy who is fit and this only takes months for most men.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 05:02 AM
22

Makeup can't make you taller
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 11:35 PM
1

Well said
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 05:07 AM
25

Yes. But if women take care of themselves they will still have more options than men even as they age.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:46 AM
3

I don't belive you. Something is off with your friend or she is choosing only the very top percentage of men. She probably isn't attractive or has serious baggage. I have never seen what you describe.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 08:52 PM
3

What percentage of all adult women are promiscuous?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 02:59 AM
1

Nothing really. Men generally have a wider range of traits they appreciate
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:43 PM
0

No normal house costs 3m/year
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:08 PM
1

No. Adults are responsible for themselves but fault is more complicated than this.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 03:54 PM
44

No. Also, women often complain about getting approached too much. Women are constantly being annoyed by men asking them out in public when they are not looking/interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 07:54 PM
1

Yup. It's a massive inequality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 02:23 PM
1

No. Plenty of men in their 30s and 40s will be interested if you take care of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:55 PM
3

Men's standards are not too high. Just make a dating profile using pictures of an average women and see how many options you will get.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/22 10:22 PM
3

They would do whatever they wanted at the moment. If their interests/desires change then they would do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/22 02:39 PM
1

No. Most men don't care unless her number of sexual partners is crazy high
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/22 10:47 PM
1

Because women already have plenty of options without using a dating app. The ones that do use dating apps often pair up very quickly too so are not on them very long.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/22 01:11 PM
7

You left out involuntary. That's the most important part.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/22 11:41 PM
1

You are already attractive and considering plastic surgery.... that is insane.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/22 05:20 AM
16

Getting pregnant to trap a guy. All manner of drama. Financial abuse using the court system
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/22 02:45 AM
2

No. Most women are serial monogamous. If they have a "hoe phase" it is brief
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/22 03:27 AM
1

Because they want some combination of sex, romance, dating, long term relationship, love, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 09:58 PM
10

No. You can always find new guys and new locations. Women have more options than they can possibly explore in a lifetime
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/22 02:50 PM
1

Don't be fat, don't be crazy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/22 04:27 PM
1

Nope. There has always been slightly more liberal women than men. No big gap though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/22 12:45 AM
4

I mostly agree. Romantic love gives a lot of meaning to many people's lives. Being chronically deficient can greatly decrease a person's quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/22 03:57 AM
8

It depends on the details. I know men (and women) who are 40+ who don't want to date anymore. They have been there done that and life didn't work out. They are content or even happy single.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/22 12:20 AM
7

Dick is plentiful and cheap
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 03:36 AM
1

I think the problem is bad parents, not single parents.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/22 03:40 PM
0

Both the extreme right and left are ignorant and dangerous. The young don't realize this yet. In America the right is a danger to democracy itself. The left is obsessed with culture wars and demonizing men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/22 04:01 AM
2

I can relate
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 04:49 PM
2

Low quality women getting low quality men
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/22 03:58 AM
8

I appreciate your honesty. Some girls and women just want to be a SAHM and raise kids with a family. That is their dream and they should get advice to help them achieve their dreams.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:47 PM
5

You're awesome
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 03:29 PM
7

I think both men and women can age well if they take care of themselves. Most women in their early 20s are not trying to date men 30+. They just aren't interested
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/22 04:38 AM
2

It depends. Plenty of people have regrets and would make different choices. Some people only have bad choices and have to pick one anyways.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 09:01 PM
5

I agree in some ways. Certain professions women find more attractive than others. Looks are the most important though. Women assign all sorts of positive things to good looking men that may not be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 02:01 PM
1

The most desired men can do whatever they want and still have women interested
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/22 03:53 PM
4

In my 30s. I would say 3-20 is typical. Some people got in serious relationships early and stayed in them
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/22 09:34 PM
1

7/10 before, 8/10 after. Seems like she was really unhappy with her appearance for a long time. Hopefully she can now be happy with herself.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:59 AM
1

No. Also never be skinny??? Literally anyone can be skinny. Eat less.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/22 10:10 PM
1

I would say no. Women still have more options as they age compared to men. Yes it is less than in their 20s but it is still more options than they can possibly explore.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:27 PM
65

Struggling in this area is generally bad for people's mental health. Constantly failing at dating can drastically decrease a person's quality of life. I would have tried helping before 21 honestly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 04:21 PM
20

Some people don't want kids. How is that hard to understand? Different people want different things in life
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/22 09:53 PM
1

100% agree. I would even say it's terrible advice. Most men need to play an active role to succeed in dating and romance. Being passive is just a waste of time and puts you even more behind.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/22 01:02 PM
1

It's satire. Op is short and it has made his life difficult. Look at his post history
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:48 AM
1

Great satire. It's the confidence that makes them tall! I wish I would have thought of this sooner. You are ahead of your time
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 11:42 AM
1

Anywhere but the bathroom. I would like a compliment too. I never get those
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 10:47 PM
2

I would say very important. Individual experiences will have exceptions but in general it is important for learning and developing. The later you experience certain stages the more negatives are possible. Such as not knowing what you want, not knowing how to date/communicate romantically, lack of self confidence, have healthy boundaries, etc. Regrets and resentments may appear as you get older too
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 09:09 PM
1

Their are 2 dimensions that matter most: Physical attractiveness and craziness. Maximize your looks and minimize your crazy. That should work for most women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/22 01:35 AM
48

No. Modern society is very different than the world humans evolved in. Also plenty of people want love, companionship and sex without kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/22 07:04 PM
1

Your question is flawed. Peope can increase their chances of success. Maximizing looks and being more social generally help men and women. Success is not guaranteed though
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/22 11:10 PM
31

You will have more options than you know what to do with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/22 03:24 AM
30

I think you are mostly correct. Sadly there isn't a good solution
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/22 01:35 PM
1

You are probably more handsome than you think
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/22 07:07 PM
2

Many factors. In the 18-25 age range there are about twice as many single men compared to single women
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/22 08:32 PM
1

Different rules for different men is typical. There is a lot of censorship when men try express their feelings. Lots of struggling guys out in the world. Especially in their 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/22 04:08 PM
7

This is common. Many men struggle in their teens and 20s. Women have massive options. We can't change the past. Jealousy is a normal human emotion
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/22 01:56 PM
12

I think looks are the most important factor for men and women. Attractive people always have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/22 07:42 PM
159

Brutal. It's even worse than I would have guessed. Maybe online dating and social networks have increased height preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 06:03 PM
1

Conventionally attractive people can be and do whatever they want generally speaking. There will always be someone to take care of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 02:52 PM
5

This doesn't happen. Handsome, charismatic, rich men do not struggle.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/22 03:17 AM
9

Because you are interested in her.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/22 11:32 PM
19

I guess if you are ok with a fat, broke, and single mom then yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/22 01:55 AM
2

Improve your looks. Lose weight and get fit. This alone should work for like 75% of women. Improve social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 10:22 PM
1

Male. Losing weight will make most women attractive if they are not already.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:20 PM
3

I mostly agree except for the last part. My female friends find Liam Hemsworth more attractive than Chris. They are both tall and handsome but many girls prefer a leaner man than a giant muscular man.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/22 04:07 PM
1

Yes. Some guys are shy and nervous about making a move. I was like this as a young man
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 02:33 AM
1

In my experience, black men are more likely to be attracted to bigger women.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 03:50 PM
6

Not sure. I think it is best to treat parents as individuals here. Also, lots of bad 2 parent homes out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 04:21 AM
13

Where can we find statistics for this?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:38 PM
43

As far as I can tell there are way more involuntarily celibate and/or single men than women. It's just a challenge men have to deal with. Sadly I don't think there are any good solutions to this problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:25 PM
5

No. This is how you get friend zoned
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:25 PM
3

No. In general, more muscle and less fat is a good thing. It will improve your chances of success.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 01:57 PM
1

I think you are overestimating the importance of hair. It sucks losing your hair early though, like in your 20s. After that it really isn't a big negative.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 06:32 PM
1

Technology and the internet have changed things. It has opened up the world and increased competition. Many men get relationships and kids in their 30s. They might have struggled a lot before that though.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 01:42 PM
15

I feel bad for the 10s out there. How difficult their lives must be. Constant struggles and misery I'm sure. If only somehow they could make themselves less attractive somehow. Must be impossible though. They just need to suffer the life of a 10/10. Life isn't fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/22 05:58 AM
4

In general, people get bitter and jaded as they get older. Also, if you have done it all before its not that exciting anymore.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/22 01:14 PM
2

Getting in shape is great advice but it doesn't solve everyone's problems. Some guys are short or have undesirable faces.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:00 AM
1

Women. I think your question is wrong because society would break down quickly. Probably be a war that kills off many of the men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 03:23 AM
12

Yes. My first thought would be you are trying to sell me something though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 08:25 PM
6

Yes. This is possible but is not common. Most people are not asexual.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 06:16 AM
16

Physical connection comes first, it is needed for romantic and sexual feelings. Otherwise they are just a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 01:54 AM
0

The real question is are there more single women or single men in college?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/22 07:16 PM
36

It doesn't. If she takes care of herself she will always have options.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 04:12 AM
10

Yes. 1. Improve your looks 2. Be more social 3. Improve your career None of this will guarantee success but it increases your probability of success. There are many factors out of your control that play a big role too.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/22 01:53 AM
1

The issue is many single men have 0 women interested in them. When they get 1 its a big deal. If possible they would like to have hundreds of women expressing interest in them, but it just doesn't happen.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/22 08:28 PM
2

B. Obviously. All women have this option even if they don't think about it or plan for it. Men are thristy and willing.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/22 04:01 AM
1

Why are you pressured to make more money? I would recommend reflecting on your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/22 02:11 AM
5

Yes. Many people are in terrible toxic relationships and stay in them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 01:01 AM
5

Sorry to hear. Life just isn't fair. I wish you good luck
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 02:06 AM
1

Some women like beta men. Not every women wants an alpha. Some want a provider they can trust. Thats it. They will happily marry this man and stay loyal to him. They enjoy the comfort and reliability.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 01:23 AM
1

No. Technology has given us genetic testing too.... if you don't trust your partner or are a paranoid person you can always just check
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/22 01:58 PM
8

20s is hard for a lot of guys. I'm sure many guys can relate. Also there is close to a 2:1 ratio of single men to women in this age range
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:50 PM
2

Ask him. If he is introduces you to his friends or family.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/22 07:31 PM
3

It depends. Its hard to give general advice because different people want different things. Women in their 30s are still hot if they take care of themselves and will have plenty of options
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 04:52 PM
10

100% helps. Doesnt mean he will succeed just increases his probability of success. Height, bone structure, personality, charm, money and etc. Can be important too
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 07:49 PM
1

No. They can do both. Also, your reasons don't make sense to me
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/22 02:34 PM
8

I don't think most guys have any issues with their bodies as long as women are interested in being with them. Maybe if they have a unique medical condition or disabled in some way it could become an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 01:38 PM
3

I don't see it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:29 PM
1

My parents told me not to date and to focus on school. I didn't develope the proper social and romantic skills at a young age. They also had a terrible marriage and were not good role models for what a relationship should look like.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:07 PM
1

In general people should be true to who they are inside. Its a good starting point. If that doesn't get the results they want then they should start changing or faking it...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 03:57 AM
1

The issue is most women get way more attention than they want. Most of the time the guy is just annoying the girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:36 PM
1

The fact that relationships and marriages end doesn't mean they were not successful. Everything ends eventually. Hopefully the journey was healthy and worth it. I think that is a better measure of success. IME, at least half of married people are not happy but stay married. All sorts of problems, resentments, issues etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:01 PM
1

My personal experience is different. Having a partner, either short term or long term, drastically improved my state of mind at times.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/22 12:57 AM
3

No. Most women can get dates and sex whenever they want. Men are horny and are attracted to many different women for this. It's longterm relationships that can be more difficult, for some women
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 01:27 PM
2

Young men 18-25 can have it very hard because there are about 2 single men for every 1 single female.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:22 PM
2

Video games, science, art, and thinking about the big questions of existence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 04:26 PM
11

You are probably just physically attractive. Most guys don't get anything like this
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 05:31 PM
43

This happened to me once. The girl I liked then told her friend to move and she wanted to dance with me. It was nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 04:44 PM
3

Most women get what they want AND they still complain.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 09:39 PM
5

I don't know if the op is massively selfish or just trolling. Women do have to reject men a lot but they also get what they want so they have it easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 08:14 PM
9

I think just keep trying. People breakup, get divorced, etc. Relationships, romance, sex, and/or family make life worth living for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/22 03:56 PM
3

I think it's a bad question because most people lack fullmillment in some parts of life. Everyone has issues and can improve. I don't see a correlation between fullmillment in other areas of life and dating/relationship success.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/22 08:58 PM
11

Yes. A fit women will have it very easy. Being fit also helps men but not to the same level. Don't be fat is generally good advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 05:35 PM
5

Do you take care of yourself? If yes, then dating will be easy in your 30s. Not as easy as 20s but still easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 04:26 AM
1

Does gay sex not count?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:32 PM
3

Romance is a desire of most humans. It is biologically programmed into us.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 04:04 AM
1

Well said. For some people sex and/or relationships are the most important thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/22 04:05 PM
1

He might be desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/22 03:41 PM
1

In the modern era, both are equally bad. Historically a women cheating is worse because without certainty in paternity men would be tricked into raising another man's kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/22 01:24 AM
1

It depends. If you are fat or really skinny getting in shape can make you much more desirable.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/22 12:02 AM
1

I think it is mostly because of the obesity crisis. Lots of fat people who are less sexually desired.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/22 08:55 PM
1

I disagree. A women who takes care of herself still has plenty of options in her 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 04:02 AM
3

No. If he liked her he could have tried dating her instead. You are confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 08:06 PM
11

I knew a poor single mother in her 30s that would go on a date every weekend to get a nice free dinner with drinks. If she liked the guy she would sleep with him for free sex... She did this for years.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 04:49 AM
10

This reminded me of a post I read about a married guy who was happily married for ~15 years... But then covid happened and he was unable to provide financially for his wife/family. She said she wasn't happy anymore because he wasn't holding up his part of the relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 07:57 PM
2

You are wrong. A man can be successful sexually and professionally. Neglecting work and education was a mistake for you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 03:09 AM
43

I disagree. Most women who are happy alone have experienced it all and are now happily single. They have had short-term and longterm relationships in the past. Been married and had kids if they wanted it. Things didn't workout and they are fine. The guys on the other hand lack much of the experience. This is oversimplified though. And age matters a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:09 AM
2

You have sex twice a week using a dating app... you are clueless. Most guys don't have sex twice a year using dating apps
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 01:15 AM
1

Yes. Also, most people lack even the most basic introspective abilities.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 11:41 PM
2

Luck is a big factor. Luck is often not discussed because we have no control over this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/22 06:34 PM
2

I don't consider hookers a hoe phase... ideally it would have been during my 20s and women were messaging me and trying to get with me every weekend.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/22 08:23 PM
2

The most effective way is to be as good looking, and charming as possible. Or maybe choose a profession/hobby women are attracted to like musician/actor.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 07:47 PM
14

2nd one. Can't imagine a good reason the first one is a virgin.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 05:53 PM
0

No. Women I know enjoy sex and are getting sex. She is fucking someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 02:09 PM
5

Lol. The word advantage is in the definition of privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/22 05:28 AM
3

I think both are equally very important. Status in sports, celebrity, artist, business, religion, etc can play a large roll.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 08:17 PM
59

Women struggle with even small amounts of rejection. Men face rejection regularly.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/22 02:06 PM
0

A slim and educated women lives life on easy mode. In the west
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 07:26 PM
0

Women like to have sex. She probably didn't want to come off as a whore because she wants long term.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 06:14 PM
16

Terrible advice. Date in your teenage years, sooner the better. Learn, grow and have fun. Don't let anyone hold you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/22 12:53 AM
9

No. Having kids was not my dream. I do have other regrets though.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/22 06:54 PM
5

Your short friend is getting fat chick's or dudes
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/22 01:01 AM
1

I don't know about top 20% but I agree with the concept of self improvement. All we can do in life is make the best of it and hope it all works out. Their are no guarantees and sometimes our best is not enough but we still need to try.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 02:30 PM
1

Jobless. You can be a stay at home spouse. Cook, clean, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/22 06:02 AM
2

Simple and true
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 05:50 AM
1

You must be young. Lots of single people in 30s 40s 50s 60s etc. They fucking too
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/22 02:27 AM
1

Yes. Plenty of bad 2 parent households. 1 good is enough even if 2 is ideal.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/22 05:10 AM
1

Don't be fat or crazy. Be funny and kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 06:25 AM
4

See r/deadbedrooms
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 04:01 AM
1

I would encourage them to learn, grow and date! It's important to develope the romantic and social skills in your teens. Life can be much harder if you don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:40 AM
3

You have good intentions but you have failed your son in helping him in dating. Love and romance is critclly important for most people. Being a good person is not enough to make you happy
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:39 AM
1

Most of these struggling men will eventually find an ok relationship in their 30s. Even if they don't, they will just live with the lack of sex, romance, love etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/22 12:36 AM
1

Human trafficking is awful and evil. Not sure what the actual numbers are on this though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 11:01 PM
0

I'm sure there is truth to this in the past. Now days with online sex work I think women are free to make more money with less risk.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 10:15 PM
0

Then who will do the laundry?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/22 09:40 PM
3

I'm skeptical. My understanding is online sex work is the best for women. Technology has allowed women to reach countless men and make a lot more money.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/21 03:42 PM
5

Sorry this happened to you. My mom is Insanely controlling and I cut her out of my life so I understand. Nothing to do with age though. She was always insane
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 03:03 AM
1

Not true. Get in shape and dress nice. This is acceptable.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/12/21 01:04 AM
2

Women I know still get approached all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/21 03:43 AM
1

Improve yourself. Become the most attractive version of yourself. Hope you get lucky. Enjoy life. It's the only one you got.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:14 PM
1

Nonsense. I've seen the different experiences my female and male friends have. Not even close.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:00 PM
4

Eh. I just assume all decent looking women are sexually active. They fucking someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/21 05:55 PM
0

True except I wouldn't call it "used". Having sex with someone you like is a wonderful experience. Just because it doesn't become a longterm relationship doesn't make it bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/21 07:18 PM
10

Nonsense. Dating apps just more polarized the haves and have nots.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/21 12:33 AM
5

Haha. Love this.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 10:19 PM
2

Eh... nonsense. It's the same
/r/PurplePillDebate13/12/21 12:14 AM
2

I think sex is a need for many women. The difference is most women can get sex easily so don't understand the struggle the same way a man will. On average.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/21 01:27 AM
22

Nowadays? Relationships have always been a desire for people. It's biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/21 04:58 PM
1

Thanks, I see now. I can explain the trend for men with the digital age, not sure about women though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:10 PM
1

Thanks, I see now. I can explain the trend for men with the digital age, not sure about women though
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:10 PM
13

Not my experience. Women often have many options and guys orbiting them. Lonely guys have nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/21 05:39 AM
2

Not including married people misrepresents the truth. In that age range there are more married women than men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 11:17 PM
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I like Arya Stark from the asoiaf books.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/21 05:52 AM
1

This is very common. Seen it myself
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 06:28 AM
1

You are having sex already... and yet wonde why he wants sex? Maybe he doesn't have another girl and actually likes you
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/21 05:09 AM
23

It's just a numbers game for most guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/21 07:41 PM
1

Eating right is more important than working out
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 04:52 AM
2

I enjoy buying people I like food. I do it spontaneously for my friends. It's win win.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 01:05 AM
1

The only value to life is what an individual decides for themselves. It can be romance, career, hobbies, family, etc. It's not for you to tell me what is important or what is worth living for.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 12:27 AM
1

The guys usually just got lucky. I have had similar experiences to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:27 PM
1

It depends what individual people want ultimately. Evolutiom doesn't matter and modern day birth control has allowed for sex without unwanted pregnancy
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/21 09:15 PM
9

Most women are having sex in my experience. If they aren't fucking you they are fucking someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/11/21 01:17 AM
2

Yes. All types of relationships are important for growth. A severe lack in one is usually not good.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:15 AM
5

I hope good luck finds you. Still time in your life for good things
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:12 AM
3

Improving themselves and increasing their desirability. Still no guarantees though
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 05:09 AM
2

Many things but a solution to the problem is what they want deep down. If such a solution exists.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/21 12:45 AM
4

I agree. Men have a much easier time making and maintaining friends. Females are often passive aggressive and drama seeking... a lot of difficulty making friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/21 10:45 PM
0

Over simplified nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 07:00 PM
1

Seems obvious. Very few women are involuntarily celibate. They are fucking someone if they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/21 04:08 PM
2

No shoes, no shirt and I still get girls
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/21 10:37 PM
2

Getting guys to spend time with girls will help. Grouping a bunch of guys together is terrible, in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 11:21 PM
3

No. Most people in the US military are not impressive. They also lack romantic relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/21 10:26 PM
2

In the end everything will pass away... good and bad. The only meaning to life is what we give it. There is purpose in the short term but not in the longterm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 03:14 AM
2

Plenty of men are doormats to their girlfriends or wives. Seen it
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 11:25 PM
2

Both have potential to live an easy and good life. Doesn't matter
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/21 10:34 PM
3

Eh. Your friend's problem is that she is fat... In general I avoid giving advice. People can't handle the truth
/r/PurplePillDebate12/10/21 10:43 PM
2

Yes, college and high school are the best times
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 02:50 PM
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Nasty is my middle name. Nice to meet you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/21 04:50 AM
9

Makes sense. 20s and even 30s are great time for women. Maybe when they get older things equal out but many women are happy to be single when they older. They did all the fun stuff when they were younger. Lots of men get left out though and a small minority of women too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/21 07:50 PM
1

Body count matters very little. Age is correlated with beauty but not necessary. Women who take care of themselves look good and are desired as they age. Many just get fat and give up on their appearance though. Also, Milfs are desired sometimes. Stacy's mom has got it going on
/r/PurplePillDebate29/09/21 05:42 PM
1

My guess is women love popular musicians. Also teenage girls are attracted to teenage boys. This pill stuff from what I can tell is mostly about being a man... not a boy. I find most of the kpop boys physically unattractive but I am in my 30s...
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 11:28 PM
1

Some people are attracted to fat and obese people. Not sure how you find accurate data on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 11:11 PM
3

Not sure if this applies to most women but it's definitely a thing. The really attractive guys have lots of women and multiple at the same time. Women will make up reasons to fuck guys they find hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 12:30 AM
2

Yup. I've seen the same thing
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 09:22 PM
29

I was thinking the same thing. STEM educated women are surrounded by men. They got options.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 07:10 PM
1

Took me years as an average guy
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/21 03:57 PM
32

Women see introverts. They are not attracted to most
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/21 02:30 PM
1

I think it's mostly the girls/women you are interacting with. Lots of people cheat though so thats true.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 09:42 PM
27

Most college girls and girls in early 20s are dating guys there own age or a little older.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 12:42 PM
4

I have seen similar behavior. I find it disgusting and find independent women more attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 08:31 PM
24

~7 years age difference isn't much at their ages. Also I don't find many of their wives hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 01:04 PM
2

If she is decent looking she will have many options. Some of these girls like variety. They want to fuck a range of different people and have different experiences. It's like being at a buffet. Do you only pick your favorites or do you sample new things?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 06:21 AM
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Hahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 09:10 PM
1

Yup. Some women don't take care of themselves as they age though. Getting fat and being lazy. If you take care of yourself plenty of attractive women in 30s and 40s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:43 PM
1

Nothing significant where I live in the US. On average men privilege and women privilege do exist but are very different and difficult to quantify.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/21 05:33 PM
10

Online dating women ignore about 75% of men. This makes them feel ugly.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/21 10:07 PM
5

They don't hate each other. Lots of people just don't want kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 03:21 PM
157

The world is full of lonely men. They often pursue the opportunities they get in hopes of getting lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:35 PM
1

Red flag. Maybe she not interested in sex? Or not interested in romantic relationships? Or she is very religious? I'd listen to her reasons though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:27 PM
1

Great idea
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 09:23 PM
1

It doesn't bother me at all. These girls are providing a service. Have fun and enjoy life
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/21 09:08 PM
40

Most women want and are having sex. Lots of men are being left out is all.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/21 04:16 PM
1

This doesn't seem true to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/21 05:33 PM
1

Depends but most I've known are just lazy
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 04:49 AM
2

I don't think women are into this
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/21 03:34 AM
9

Perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/21 04:04 AM
3

No. I would encourage these men to make improvements to increase their chance of finding dates. Dates and romance is required to live a good life for most people.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 06:10 PM
1

Looks. You already have a successful career.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:56 AM
2

There is no hate for single mothers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/21 04:45 AM
0

If someone is being an ass just say No.
/r/askTRP21/04/21 04:32 PM
3

Just enjoy the moment and have fun. Do your best and let the rest go. Most girls monkey branch, that's life
/r/askTRP18/04/21 02:12 PM
1

This. This. This. Don't fuck up and let her trap you
/r/askTRP18/04/21 05:19 AM
4

She got another guy
/r/askTRP18/04/21 05:16 AM
1

Some guys just don't know how to flirt and make a move.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 03:21 AM
1

Wait until you realize you are not the first guy she did this with.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 03:18 AM
1

Women can be hot and attractive in their 30s. They just need to take care of themselves. Takes a little bit of work but many are too lazy to do so.
/r/askTRP18/04/21 03:15 AM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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