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| 6 | You cant survive the modern dating market unless you are good in bedRemember when some LA celebrities were talking about how you can optimize your mansion space usage for optimal enjoyment during covid? People got pissed. Most people were/are just making sure they can pay rent. What mansion? It's like putting the cart before the horse. Just pointing it out if you're still actually surprised, but chances are you just kinda wished you got a little bit more acceptance from your post. But yes, it's a different game, and usually takes practice, or very good chemistry… | /r/seduction | 30/04/25 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Should i seduce girls i’m not really into?Do you like having your time wasted? Do you feel like you're wasting other people's time? Sometimes you don't really know. Other times you KNOW. It's good to find out, but it's also good to not be too much of an asshole if you can help it. | /r/seduction | 11/10/24 02:06 PM |
| 1 | Any former fat guys that have gotten through it?What did Jim ever do to you? | /r/seduction | 27/09/24 05:59 AM |
| 4 | I don’t like that my boyfriend is a gamer.Gaming may be the symptom but it sounds like he just isn't cleaning when he said he would. If he was pumping iron instead of cleaning you'd probably equally pissed off at him. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/08/23 03:33 PM |
| 1 | 28 years old female virginTherapy is a good way to tackling your problem instead of giving random ideas a try and regretting them (as well as getting other people involved in your experiments). I mean, a bunch of people and friends can tell you to just go ahead and do someone, but that's definitely a less healthy approach than discussing your intimacy and sexual issues with a qualified therapist. | /r/seduction | 30/11/17 02:24 AM |
| 1 | I got brutally rejected twice regarding race last night. It actually hurt.Just talk to Steve Harvey. | /r/seduction | 28/05/17 03:33 PM |
| 87 | I just turned 20. About to finish my sophomore year in college. Virgin. Haven't kissed or had a girlfriend. A perspective from a lurker for years here. What am I doing wrong.When I first learned about PUA/seddit, "The Game" was the book to read, and Strauss himself said that the tools he picked up (picked up, lol /dadjoke) on that path didn't lead him to a "happily ever after" relationship. Even if he did get a girl, he still had problems to deal with, and sometimes they (the problems, or himself) got in the way. Just imagine: You could always just get any old job, save up anything from 200 to 1000 bucks and go get a hooker somewhere. No longer a virgin! Or you coul… | /r/seduction | 14/04/17 12:34 PM |
| 1 | When you meet Tinder girls who say "I met other guys but they just wanted to hook up"Have your friend read the basics (see: sidebar), and do the "inner-frame" stuff, work out, go around socializing more, give less of a F#$@ Find your local lair and just go talk to some people. Now there are always certain extremes, but after seeing how some PUAs work a party floor going around and talk to people really drives in the theory that is so often discussed in the books and stuff. It's not all good, and it's not all going to work, but the texts mentioned in the sidebar are popular and t… | /r/seduction | 18/05/15 05:25 AM |
| 1 | Should you open up on first dates/first coffee with a girl? Is it attractive?Sharing silly secrets always work - especially when it concerns a mutual 3rd party. It can be turned into a game. | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 03:15 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Met a girl at a restaurant, K-Close with a near miss on F, need help with what to do next.push/pull | /r/seduction | 30/07/14 03:12 PM |
| 3 | [fr] my very first attempt for a cold approachFor some reason I misread 9 as 9 year old for a few seconds. Shock and horror for a while. Other than that, nice FR. I wouldn't worry about the lack of extra conversation, because if you guys do meet again, you've got a much better chance of getting things going in the future. You've payed her a genuine compliment, but also utilized time scarcity and raised your value at the same time. | /r/seduction | 18/05/14 10:25 PM |
| 13 | (FR) Finally F-closed.I asked a bunch of different girls what they liked so I could be ready for when I did. and what did these girls tell you? | /r/seduction | 28/05/13 12:49 AM |
| 1 | Still a virgin at 19The thing about being a virgin, is that it's really only a label that you, and only you pay attention to. The only other time it's an issue is when you're in bed with a girl. To be frank, if you're already there at that stage... it's not an issue either. | /r/seduction | 03/05/12 03:18 AM |
| 1 | Peackocking, Without Even TryingTake that confidence from work and spread it out @ the home. A little cheap, but use it to keep that energy state with you. You'll soon be seeing results I believe. | /r/seduction | 25/04/12 04:59 AM |
| 1 | What's Wrong With Me?then forever live life the way you've intended to :) Comfortably. Think for a minute though... Are you satisfied being this comfortable? Or do you want something more? Some people say there is no such thing as a free lunch. | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 03:51 PM |
| 1 | What are you supposed to do when bombing?For me, the things that I could possibly be "self-deprecating" about I turn into a conversation as "something I want to learn more about or get better at" instead of "this is something I'm not good at". Focus on the positive aspect? Just more pleasant and constructive in general. Don't know how this works with emotions and threading though. | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 02:41 PM |
| 1 | What's Wrong With Me?You're afraid of getting out of your comfort zone. This is huge for everyone. Even me. You know what? I want you to find something that's obviously good for you, or just a lot of fun and not dangerous to you in any way (in theory). Then do it. Step out of your comfort zone and reap the rewards. Make a giant list of these things. Do them. Now, if going out to meet women isn't on that list, then add to it. Now it's just another item on the list. Do it. | /r/seduction | 04/03/12 01:34 PM |
| 2 | Still have one-itis after 5 months...The unfortunate truth is that if you love her, you just simply have to ride out the pain. Try to channel that energy into something else, like what PUAdept said about self improvement (in all physical, mental, and social aspects) Thing is, that pain may be there for many reasons. Some although related to her, are just issues you have to deal with yourself. It'll take time. Nothing wrong with thinking about it and talking it through with good friends once a while, but you simply have to move on. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 09:17 AM |
| 1 | Seddit is continuously changing my life for the better. Thank you guys.this works to your advantage. Be the guy who makes small talk with many people - Many acquaintances. Those you get along pretty decently or see a lot will soon become friends. Now, a guy who knows many people, has a good image, a good attitude as well as friends/acquaintances... is going to get female attention. So keep talking to people, keep working on bettering yourself. Get to know your shit, get to know yourself. Get to know the people around you. Have fun with it, explore. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 08:19 AM |
| 2 | I broke my own rules and it sucks. How do you stick to your limits?Know what you want. Be clear with her about your intentions. Even if you part ways, give her plenty of assurance, care. Help her move on. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 07:52 AM |
| 2 | Video: How To Make Your Conversations More Fun and ExcitingMain points: Write down what has happened this year (2 months) reread it back to yourself. how does it make you feel? Would you want to hang out with the person you just wrote down? Make it a yes. Highlight the things you don't like. Change those things! Then become the person you find interesting. You'll have no problem sharing stories, have fun and be confident. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 05:58 AM |
| 3 | Socially awkward penguin embarrassing myself a lot, should I just keep going?Have fun with it. If you can't, change it up a little, but don't be afraid of putting yourself out there. | /r/seduction | 24/02/12 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Why and How did you get into pickup? Here is my Very Unusual Story.A relationship with a girl who had an unfortunate history. She chose me as a nice guy. She wanted a lot of commitment, I wasn't ready to deliver (both logistically and emotionally), so she found someone else who presumably would be. Despite everything she told me about how much she loved me (we talked for 6 hours when we broke up), she thinks the next guy is her soul mate. I need to move on, and to understand people more. | /r/seduction | 19/02/12 02:35 AM |
| 1 | How to have a Successful Relationship - Part 1: Leading (Everyone should read and understand this)I think this only works if you have an (near-unrealistically) amazing read on everything she does and wants. | /r/seduction | 19/02/12 01:56 AM |
| 2 | More of a relationship question, but looking for quick advice..No need to be jealous, but it's a good opportunity to show how much you care for her in a positive way. It's also a good opportunity to DHV by not sinking to the "petty jealous boyfriend" level. It could also be a cue to "value her more than just another piece of meat any guy wants to hit on". Your latter response is a lot better. You could always respond with something silly like "maybe I should just get a stamp on you that says 'taken'! on it." It really depends on the dynamics of the relation… | /r/seduction | 17/02/12 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Thank you r/seduction. Making progress already in one day!Good work! Keep it going! | /r/seduction | 16/02/12 01:48 AM |
| 1 | this girl...use something from your off-topic conversations to get an excuse to isolate/escalate. Or just invite her over to study over some pizza at your place even if it's some easy quiz or exam. More time for extracurricular activities. | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 10:02 AM |
| 1 | Holly shit, your advice really works.only an idiot would tell his boss he hates him proper... just saying | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 07:23 AM |
| 1 | 19f here. Seddit, how can I be more approachable?you already have the answer: "I don't really take them seriously so it's easy" | /r/seduction | 16/10/11 04:01 AM |
| 2 | How I Beat the Friend ZoneIf you will, could tell us about the afc story and maybe some of the hookups in between? I'm very curious about the "transformation" process/picture. Seddit and PUA has a lot of stuff, wondering about what you might consider as major milestones or differences in between. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 03:07 PM |
| 2 | How I Beat the Friend ZoneProbably a good call, hard to commit to change like what you've described if you play WoW like I did. Love the analogies though. | /r/seduction | 15/10/11 03:05 PM |
| 1 | looking for advice... i suck at dating.Other comment on sidebar is right, you can probably skip the first few lessons on approaching and initial attraction, but you need to focus on framing things, escalating and logistics/timing. Before you get "this far" and they "disappear" do something about it. Change whatever it is you've been doing before. | /r/seduction | 23/08/11 06:10 AM |
| 1 | THANK YOU SEDDIT! #-closed and had a great time at a group picnicThis is a learning community, once you can internalize what you did, how it happened please share! | /r/seduction | 11/08/11 06:52 AM |
| 1 | Kino: Two video series, from Lance Mason, and Lovedrop & Mysterycommenting so i can come back here | /r/seduction | 09/08/11 06:51 AM |
| 1 | My hot 17 year old neighbor wants to be FWB. I'm 26. Is this an awful or awesome idea?The legality you have to deal with is not age of consent persay. It's when she gets busted, and decides to blame you for everything. Then you're suddenly a friggin' pedo (as opposed to another guy who slept with an irresponsible woman) and your life is ruined. | /r/seduction | 05/08/11 01:51 AM |
| 2 | DJ Fuji here to answer your questions!Can you elaborate a bit more about jealousy plotlines? Don't really understand what you mean. Also with maintenance, are you talking about just keeping people interested as time goes on? Or making a deeper connection/something else? | /r/seduction | 22/06/11 07:25 AM |
| 6 | IAMA PUA who works for Neil Strauss.What was the worst thing that happened to you? Like worst FR. Best? | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 06:52 AM |
| 1 | How I Developed Awesome Self Confidenceany favorite resources on this? Don't see it on the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 06:32 AM |
| 1 | How I Developed Awesome Self Confidenceany favorite resources on this? Don't see it on the sidebar. | /r/seduction | 07/06/11 06:32 AM |
| -2 | [Life Report] Dear Seddit...I think you've posted this in the wrong subreddit | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 06:27 AM |
| 4 | The men who analyzed all the porn on the internet (x-post from r/psych)AOL Dataset Ok, credibility out. | /r/seduction | 31/05/11 03:38 AM |
| 1 | [FR] First Time. HOLY FUCK, YOU GUYS ROCK!You want a date, and you want a good one? Figure out something the two of you would probably have fun with. What others said about continuing to meet other women is too true, especially since it's a flight attendant. | /r/seduction | 26/05/11 07:21 AM |
| 1 | How can I F-Close with a girl if I am staying at a friends place?bribe your friends for privacy if that's an issue. Otherwise when you're with your girl just act like you own the place. I recommend bribing your other buddy for an all night access to the room he's staying in (he can go get smashed somewhere). Start on the couch obviously, but don't be afraid to lead your girl to the guest bedroom to help escalate if it goes there. | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 10:40 AM |
| 2 | Seddit, what thing/event in your life has affected you the most?Sounds like AMA material. Consider it if you think you want to talk about it more. I assume when you hit 18 you were able to go independent and run away successfully. Also, how's life now? | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 10:30 AM |
| 1 | Seddit, what thing/event in your life has affected you the most?Cool story bro. Just focus on the basics. Health (physical, emotional, social), hygeine, and being self sufficient to get some confidence, the rest will flow as you travel the path you find most interesting. Think of it this way, you play music and you've already gotten laid. No need to worry too much. | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 10:26 AM |
| 1 | AFC seeing an HB8 this friday. Need some help.Sit side by side. Do whatever feels natural. If there's a reason to lean in and talk, do it. Rest is covered by others for sure (like kino escalation). So, I'd say. Take command by picking out a seat that almost prompts you guys to sit together because it looks more comfortable or something, but maybe not the counter since you won't get isolation space. However, the counter can work if you're on very good terms with the waiter/cook and make the dinner a good experience by having them help you ma… | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 10:08 AM |
| 1 | 5th date with a girl and things went very well. Today she doesn't call me or respond to my text. What should I do?she's dealing with you not escalating that night, so let things cool off and go for a reset. Next time if you get anything close to the vibe you had that night seal the damn deal and give her what she wants. Or she's busy. Because while she likes you, she doesn't like you enough to drop whatever she's doing right now to answer you. | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 09:49 AM |
| 1 | Guys in this forum are douche-bags...NOT, and here's why!Man... /r/circlejerk is that way -> lol. I agree with how Seddit's much better than the average lair forum (other than for specific locales) the discourse and information is more helpful than others I've seen with less advertisement. I'll admit I don't try very hard though. | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 09:32 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Failed with LMRSo he stops, and then... just sits and watches tv while almost ignoring her? Obviously ejecting wasn't the right thing, but I'm just thinking what he should've done? | /r/seduction | 19/05/11 09:29 AM |
| 5 | 23 y/o guy and haven't really had a girlfriend beforeHow well do you know the women around you in your life? Or girls? PUA/Seduction is for people who want to know them better (to put it in a more classy manner). PUA logic would say: This girl could be the girl of your dreams, or she might not. You and her could have a blast, for 1 night, or 5 months, or 15 years. However, you're not going to get to know her if you don't approach her, talk to her, and run "game" on her. Oh, yea. You still don't know who "her" is, so you'll just have to run game on… | /r/seduction | 25/04/11 02:08 AM |
| 1 | Would you take on a Protégé?Don't micromanage. Just give him simple tasks to do, and make it his responsibility to do it. Like a tutor who gives direction, but doesn't sit next to you to make sure you're studying. If he's serious, he'll follow through. If not, then you don't really lose that much time and it's not your fault. You can always ask his sister what she thinks of this. | /r/seduction | 04/03/11 04:06 AM |
| 1 | I'm a guy who can talk smooth but...You're 16. By the time you're 21 all those memories will have serve as a lesson learnt. Just go for it, don't be a dick, and wear protection (be responsible). | /r/seduction | 15/01/11 06:29 AM |
| 1 | Why do you all believe one another's FRs? Everywhere else on Reddit, people are skeptical about stories puffing up the ego of the OP -Have you read FRs on other lairs/forums? They're even more puffed up than most of the stuff I've seen so far. I treat every FR like I do all PUA material. Some truth, some BS. Just take what you will from the material and apply it when you can. | /r/seduction | 04/01/11 09:34 AM |
| 2 | Putting seddit principles to work at new job. Not trying to be PUA, but this stuff still works.Don't know about warehouse work culture, but "pen, company ink"... yada yada. Otherwise keep trucking. Being gay is not a problem as long as you can escalate correctly. | /r/seduction | 08/12/10 01:33 AM |
| 1 | Need advice on dropping girls!Don't escalate? Don't ever be emotionally available? Don't be as responsive? | /r/seduction | 22/11/10 03:57 AM |
| 2 | Girl you have crush on and are not already dating = girl you will never date?I don't understand your last question "was she worth having a crush on in the first place?" | /r/seduction | 18/11/10 06:21 AM |
| 3 | Scheduled a dinner, but unclear as to whether it's a date- Advice?You don't. If she's uncomfortable with just being around with you she would invite a friend. If that happens you show them both a good time so she knows you're good company. In fact, normal PUA routines would tell you to make sure her friends get more attention (until you get into a situation where it's the two of you). One thing to note, ideally you would sit next to her, not across her. This gives more opportunities for intimacy and escalation. Note that the usual dinner date table would not h… | /r/seduction | 17/11/10 03:13 AM |
| 4 | I want to have my cake and eat it to.what's the provider storyline exactly? | /r/seduction | 05/11/10 03:14 AM |
| 1 | Talk to everyone, sounds cool. How?Start with small talk, if something interesting comes up segway into that branch of the conversation. Do you get the same cashier all the time? Make the small talk a routine, then someday break the routine by going into a more interesting subject and see if you get something positive out of it. | /r/seduction | 29/10/10 08:34 AM |
| 1 | Finished "The Game" last night...Primarily the Game is a good "eye opener" and back then was a totally new perspective on the whole "hit on girls" game. I like to read it as a semi-fiction, because who knows what truths were embellished and omitted when the book was written. Some things I still like to take home with me and I think just make darn good sense. Other ideas are just better ways to communicate and phrase certain preexisting beliefs that could have been better defined before The Game. Remember the movie Hitch? What a… | /r/seduction | 28/10/10 07:26 AM |
| 2 | I invite her to a first couple date; she asks to bring friends. Is this bad or should I play it cool and go along?This is when you start to work the magic. DHV, kino, open sets, have a good time, neg. Then if things go well enough, isolate, escalate. I'd say something about frame as well but I'm not as familiar with the concept. | /r/seduction | 07/10/10 01:29 AM |
| 3 | FR: Crazy chick failpush/pull, don't forget the latter. | /r/seduction | 06/10/10 03:08 PM |
| 2 | How do you keep yourself motivated?Not sarging, but hopefully relevant. I went through some kind of hell week a few months ago. That Saturday I HAD to go out, get some friends and smash down a few beers and party, finish that week with a blast. The day after: Do absolutely nothing, convalescence. | /r/seduction | 01/10/10 02:20 AM |
| 1 | **** it. I'm really ****ing tired of never having a girlfriend.do what pickuo_startist says. Also enjoy and explore life. Do what you love, expand on it. Find out new opportunities to try out new things, and check out new places. Put yourself in situations/positions where you'll meet new people. Have fun, before you know it, the girl thing won't be a problem anymore. | /r/seduction | 28/09/10 07:51 AM |
| 1 | I cannot attract a woman, which makes me feel bad about myself, which makes me even more unattractive. How am I supposed to stop feeling bad about myself, and gain self-confidence?Listen to the other posts. Here's the deal: You're still 22, and you're in shape at least. Let's just say things could be worse. Project confidence, learn it, fake it, practice it. Personally, I say just do things to make yourself happy, so you don't feel bad about yourself, take things you're not satisfied with and turn that negativity into motivation to better yourself. | /r/seduction | 23/09/10 05:59 PM |
| 1 | "The Game" made me worse with women. Anybody else like me?The game and PUA just delivered a system and vernacular to correctly discuss, communicate and analyze relationships between people (perhaps with an extra emphasis on men/women). That's really the biggest thing it did for me, I don't really follow Style and Mystery's method. I abhor canned openers as a concept. Do not hesitate to change it up and find something else that you feel more confident about. | /r/seduction | 15/09/10 08:48 AM |
| 1 | The 2 topics you should never talk about.Just to clarify, add beer to the list of things you don't talk about? Or add beer while talking about those topics? Or? | /r/seduction | 15/09/10 07:35 AM |
| 1 | [FR] A new first-date ideaI dunno, I thought you're suppposed to also engage the guy but you make sure you get the DHV thing going, and make sure you don't get AMOG'ed. | /r/seduction | 02/09/10 08:30 AM |
| 5 | Exercise / Lifting Benefits on Seduction?Working out in general helps your health and physique. Also for most people you'll eventually hit a tipping point where a workout doesn't drain you, it makes you feel damn good and energizes you. This improves confidence, poise. It helps. | /r/seduction | 31/08/10 01:29 AM |
| 1 | Post grad Sedditors, let's help out the college kids.Well, it can work both ways. Most people have a few interests outside of their main specialization and focus that have some academic relevance. Engineers might have an interest in music, or art, or foreign languages. Those classes have a much better ratio and you could still have fun learning things that benefit you. | /r/seduction | 30/08/10 01:23 AM |
| 2 | For the past 4-5 years, I've been immersed in PUA and self actualization material. My life has improved in several ways as a result, but I have yet to have a wholesome sexual experience.Yep, After doing all the reading and generally working on certain aspects of inner game I realize the final bridge is to be able to transfer your confidence "more" to your body-language physical being. AKA - do more kino, get good at it, and know when to do it etc. | /r/seduction | 28/07/10 02:51 AM |
| 2 | [FR] The 52 year old noob PUA's first FRshare the routine next time, I like the story in full. | /r/seduction | 23/07/10 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Advice for a speed-dating event?well, that's the strategy I'm recommending. Listen and let them talk more than you do. This way you'll learn more about them (quite important in your own interests i say). For some reason, however, this leaves them with a better impression of you (despite how they've done most of the talking). I'd say that's almost a win-win. This line of advice is a combination of either David Deangelo or David Wygant (dunno if it's the same person), and Dale Carnegie's "How to make friends and influence peolpe… | /r/seduction | 21/07/10 09:04 AM |
| 2 | Advice for a speed-dating event?Pua-wise I can only think about this: Think about that scene from Hitch. I think it's simple and practical. Just keep talking about yourself short. Ask them some basic questions to get the ball rolling and listen, respond. Make the short few minutes about them. Observe. Most of all try to have fun meeting new people. | /r/seduction | 20/07/10 10:25 AM |
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