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/r/PurplePillDebate12/02/24 04:28 AM
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I pretty much completely disagree with your entire post UNLESS the “you” who you are, completely sucks.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 04:19 AM
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I agree, but I think about it in a different way. A guy approached a woman, that woman makes a judgment based on every other guy that has approached her before. Unbeknownst to the guy, she’s had some really awkward interactions with a lot of guys in the past, and she’s already defensive, and shuts down as a default. The guy might be totally normal, but in order to overcome all of her bad expectations based on past experiences, he needs to knock her off her fucking feet. The odds are SUPER agains…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 10:26 PM
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It’s a real conundrum; lots of women don’t like the harassment, and lots of men don’t feel comfortable with the burden, but that’s still the societal norm? It’s a really shitty place to be.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 09:55 PM
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Yes, it’s brutal, I agree. It’s important to realize that while that is the general societal rule, people don’t always follow every social rule strictly. This is where subculture come in. People form micro societies that operate with different social rules versus the general public. My point is, there are other people out there that share your complaints, and we can usually all find a niche that fits our differences.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:44 PM
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To be fair I think I am the one who used the phrase “emotional attached”. I believe the researcher simply says “emotional” but in context I think they really intend to say “emotional attachment”, however, you’re right, there may not be a significant different in the two phrases in the context. I used the phrase “emotional attachment” to specifically refer to a persons emotionality towards a romantic partner. Men/women are more “emotional” is much more broad, outside of the context of the study a…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:42 PM
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I agree, totally!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 08:38 PM
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It is men who is legally screwed after break ups, losing sizable chunk of income, often kid access, almost always own house. So, yeah, there will be mightly "upset" mood on that other side, which could be attributed to "emotional attachment" of course, chuckle. I don't think the study was referring at all to how people react during breakups. You could assume that the more emotionally attached partner would be more upset by a breakup, and of course there is some logic there, but that would also h…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/22 07:30 PM
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Side note: there's a theory that men are far more emotionally attached in relationships than their female partner. This goes against the traditional stereotype of men being rational and women emotional. The theory goes that women are biologically wired to care for their children, while men develop emotional connections to their romantic partner, keeping them committed and attached to the family unit. Obviously, no one theory explains dating entirely, but it's an interesting one to think about.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:37 PM
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I agree with you. I see both sides of the argument play out in this sub; many people tightly latch on to this metaphor while others don't. I think this is because of the difference in desired dating goals. Conceptualizing romance as a marketplace can be effective for certain outcomes, but can be wildly ineffective for others. This difference in goals can be explained by different ideas of a person's value or place in society. Oftentimes these are reflective of contrasting cultural values, someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 03:34 PM
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It’s not reasonable to criticize your target demographic for rejecting your product, criticize your product 100%. But, I have a better suggestion: stop giving a fuck about people who don't like you, and find people who do. And if the problem is that you don't like yourself, be honest that that is the issue and work on it. Hating yourself is not anyone else's problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:50 PM
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It really depends on the individual. Most people that need this kind of advice are in pretty bad shape originally and don't like how they look. When you feel unattractive to yourself, you generally won't be confident in a dating scenario. For a lot of people, after they start working out they start seeing improvements in their body shape, muscle tone, or weight which in turn begin to change they way they feel about themselves. Over time, these guys will start to feel that they themselves are bet…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 02:44 PM
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Being bitter and insecure are BAD personality traits. You might have great character outside of your Reddit posts, I’m just going off what you’ve said.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:47 PM
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I’m saying your bitterness shows that you have bad character, not that success at dating means you have good character. What the hell are you talking about? Get over the fact that your short dude, no one gives a fuck. The fact that you’re insecure and bitter about your height is way less attractive than your stature by itself.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:30 PM
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Dude. Drop it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:06 PM
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Lmao, it’s so annoying. I’m trying to agree with this mfer and move the conversation forward. My best guess is that reading comprehension skills are far below the norm in this sub, yet people act like they have grad degrees
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:05 PM
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No, i still think you’re missing the point. Going to the gym alone doesn’t guarantee anyone is going to be interested in you, and no amount of blaming other people or becoming bitter will change that. Actually, the bitterness and lack of character might even be what’s keeping them away for you. Food for thought.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 09:01 PM
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I don’t think this post applies to you. For you, I would say you’re believing in something that is so oversimplified has actually made you take on more responsibility for the outcome, which is not what my post is about. I still don’t agree that believing all women are shallow or hypergamous is accurate or ethical, but at least you’re not using it as a crutch.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:50 PM
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This is a good point! I think since we can't see each other through this forum, we lose 99% of the context we might have if we were talking in person. As a result, we assume a lot about the people behind the text, which may or may not be accurate. I think cultural differences can explain A LOT of the disagreements on this sub. Thinking about how different it might be based on age groups is a huge factor that I had not considered before.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:46 PM
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It’s not misinformation, there are mountains of evidence on both sides of the debate. Reasonable minds can disagree, but it’s not misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 05:15 PM
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“There are a lot of ways that these are actually different” would definitely include one being real, and one being false. I chose to focus on a different reason because we don’t have to get into a tired argument about feminism. Again, I’m not arguing whether that’s real or not, and I don’t think we need to.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:52 PM
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What things, specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:39 PM
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You clearly didn’t understand what I was saying at all. I’m sorry you’re so triggered by mentioning feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:33 PM
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Excuse me, you did not understand my point. I’m not arguing for or against feminist ideology. So please, back the fuck off.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 04:26 PM
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Are people pretending it isn’t true? Or are you just refusing to acknowledge other people’s honest experiences?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:50 PM
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And all I hear from you is excuses, and bad ones. How is women’s weight relevant to this conversation???
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:48 PM
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Becoming bitter just shoved you further down the ranking of potential partners and you fall into a deeper hole. 100% agree. The mindset suddenly becomes even more of a detriment to their outcome than the original flaw. That being said society does this in all aspects. Very true. Women do it constantly. Women, and lots of minority groups. How often do you hear something along the lines of “it’s harder for ____ group to succeed in the workplace than it is for white men” and many accept it as both …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:39 PM
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Why is the go-to always talking about women’s weight? Actually, I would argue that because you married her, you have a responsibility to support her, and be with her, and yes fuck her too, in “sickness and in health”. So, this is actually the WORST example you could have brought up.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 03:09 PM
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The above commenter didn't say "you have to get super fucking jacked" he just said "go to the gym and stop being fat and lazy". Working out and taking care of your appearance doesn't mean you have to be super swole. You can maintain your health and weight without getting giant muscles, there is a middle path.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:43 PM
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This is 1) not true, 2) a misrepresentation of what the comment was saying and 3) a perfect example of what I'm talking about in the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:17 PM
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The existence of Variation does not necessitate a high enough variance among a data set to necessitate for their not to be strong predictive indicators. And the observation of a pattern in a system does not mean that that pattern is accurate nor predictive, especially in a complex system where the observer lacks most of the necessary data points. This is just the bootstraps arguement repackaged to the sexual market. In the sense that the bootstrap argument creates a false narrative to blame shif…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 02:31 AM
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No, I actually think it’s painful, that’s my point. People want to avoid the pain.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:42 AM
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Yeah, I agree with you, it's fucking lame. Something being not true SHOULD be enough to make someone stop, but unfortunately, oftentimes it's not. So, we gotta hammer home the point with additional reasons to make it really clear for people who are stuck in their heads about this kind of shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:31 AM
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You could have read the post in the time it's taken you to make these comments.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:28 AM
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I dont care Then this is pointless. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:23 AM
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Read it first, then understand it, then ask questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:22 AM
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Done. Now what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:21 AM
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Well said!
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:56 AM
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Did you read my entire post?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 12:56 AM
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Depends on what arbitrary weird you mean, you guys are just making this shit up it has no logic of any kind whatso ever, swear to god some girl wrote texting "hey" in an online dating app is a sign of being a social outcast, just lol. It's way more logical than your gibberish. Where are you from? Is English your first language? Go out side talk to guys, 90% of them wont be weird, if you find them weird its probably because you dont find them physically appearing, You know I'm a guy, right? You c…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 11:29 PM
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I really don’t think he’s acting that weird Tbh. People understand that he’s joking
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 08:23 PM
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What kind of activities do you do for fun? It's always easier to meet people when you have a common activity or interest. It helps break through the stranger/weirdness barrier.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 06:37 PM
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Right, I think these are pre-existing problems that are dramatically exacerbated by a rapid and unprecedented change in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 05:34 PM
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Sure, there are other factors involved, but the internet has made the problem exponentially worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:55 PM
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There are ways to learn social skills online and become socialized, but nothing today can replace in person interactions.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 04:53 PM
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Im not talking about Tinder, these results are well established in in real life dating scenarios aswell, Women and Men have the same amount of emphasis on physical appearence for attraction. I never said women don't think men are hot. I actually agree with you that women are probably attracted to men physically just as much as men are to women. What I actually said was that women don't want to fuck weird guys, and that's true. There are a lot of possible explanations for this, none of which I ad…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:44 PM
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As long as men are hot women want to fuck them, the biggest factor in sexual or any type of attraction of two opposite genders (even romantical) is physical attractiveness, the reason why this shift happened is because men actually give less of a fuck who is very hot and who isnt if she is fuckable meanwhile women do not, this gives a power dynamic where the women have options and the men do not, its funny how you say oh men became weird because of no interactions when they are seeking out the m…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 01:29 PM
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Google “effect of social isolation on health”. There’s a lot of info, too much to type right now.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/22 03:18 AM
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I didn’t say “jocks don’t get laid”, I said WEIRD guys. This guy is having fun, confident, sarcastic, funny, has good looks; he’s corny as shit… but I never said corny dudes don’t get laid. I’m talking about incels that don’t know how to talk to people.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 11:50 PM
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That's legit dangerous! Try to get out, it's good for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 09:37 PM
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Got it. Well, staying isolated all the time is also bad for us. You know what's best for your health!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 08:56 PM
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Are you vaccinated? You should be able to get a second booster soon. Be safe, but you don't need to completely isolate unless you are immunocompromised or take care of someone who is.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:58 PM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 07:47 PM
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There’s nothing preventing men from becoming socially maladjusted? Well, not unless they have never learned how to be socially adjusted. You can’t act on what you don’t know.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 05:00 PM
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This sounds really tough, I'm sorry to hear that. Just don't give up on life altogether, you can get through this!
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:17 PM
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This sounds rough, but the more you interact in person, the better you'll perform.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:16 PM
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I think this is a result of society shifting away from irl interactions towards online socializing. In the past, there was no option for online socializing and people were forced to interact in person. This gave people much larger chance of developing healthy social skills, belonging to a small group, and eventually becoming fully adjusted member of society. This process of socialization provided people with normalized rules for social interaction, providing people with the social skills necessa…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/22 04:04 PM
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Are women less horny than men?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/22 03:26 AM
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Idc, stinky
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:53 AM
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YOU shouldn’t be yourself, OP will be fine though.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/22 11:41 AM
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This and redpill is a place for the emotionally sick. Don't worry. Just be yourself, you're going to be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:22 AM
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Is the dating market drying up?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:51 AM
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I’m so sorry you went through this
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 05:07 PM
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It’s possible that it’s true again, but my point is that just because it was that way in the past, doesn’t mean it’s that way now. It’s still possible that while video games didn’t cause violent behavior in 90s kids, social media today could still be detrimental. Assuming that life works in these identical repeating cycles could be totally wrong. You have to study it and really weigh the facts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:42 PM
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100% they are staged lol. It’s so obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:23 PM
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I think this is a good point. Social media is probably not the full picture.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:23 PM
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Part of your assumption here is that all new media are more or less the same. The fact of the matter is that TV and the internet are wildly different, so they will produce different effects on people and society. For instance, when TV became ubiquitous, we didn’t see a rise is social isolation and youth suicide. Today, this is rampant. Even children themselves blame social media for problems in their lives. I’m not saying I believe this 100%, but I think it’s a false assumption to assume there i…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 09:22 PM
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Hahaha, I was making a bad drought joke.
/r/seduction04/06/22 01:42 AM
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No, just California.
/r/seduction04/06/22 12:12 AM
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Adding to the “depends on the accent” comments - it also depends on the women. American culture is pretty varied, so changes in location, age, education, etc. could have a big effect. Are you trying to pick up girls in rural Iowa? Or Brooklyn?
/r/seduction04/06/22 12:12 AM
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They are called the Mosuo, located in the Tibetan foothills. They have a system called a "walking marriage" where the husbands live with their sisters, and their wives call their husbands over for sex in the middle of the night. Don't worry, it is already a prime destination for Japanese sex tourists, who wait to be "chosen" by the matriarchs. You should check my facts on the wikipedia page, I got some details wrong. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mosuo#Walking_marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 08:19 PM
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There is no one-size-fits-all formula for sexuality. On top of that, much of gender norms are ascribed to us by society. You can see how obvious this is when you look at other cultures. In China, there is an ancient ethnic group that is entirely matriarchal. Women run the family, the businesses, the governing body, etc. Th men are predominantly domestic, and take care of the women’s sexual needs, raise the children, and take care of the household.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/22 01:30 AM
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Lmao, your last point is spot on
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:45 AM
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Lmao, ok, understood. Thanks for the clarification
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:44 AM
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Sorry if I’m misinterpreting your comment but, do you mean to say that she will get better matches if she conforms more closely to a black celebrity or stereotype?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:39 AM
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Who abuses you for existing?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:24 AM
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You’re right, it is totally ridiculous, but I actually think that it applies to a lot of men. Like, maybe “intimidated by success” isn’t completely accurate, but “not completely comfortable talking to intelligent women” or “not confident when the perceived power balance is not in my favor” would be.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 10:22 AM
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Lol, I'm from Virginia, sounds like you're In the mid-Atlantic too. I had a friend with a figure like yours who wanted to be an environmental scientist, and she got a job doing air and water testing. They pretty much had to hire a bodyguard for her to go to any jobsite, it was ridiculous. I also have another friend that went from like a DD down to an A cup because she couldn't stand the attention she got. She would never go back. I really don't blame you. Generally, I think par of the "crisis" t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 05:00 PM
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Sucks that its a part of anyone's job to take abuse, but then again, that's nearly every job to some degree. When I lived in Taiwan, one of my close friends was the head of her department, but when they met with Mainland Chinese clients, they had to pretend like she was the inferior and not the boss. It was so bizarre and infuriating, but there are so many parts of the world that are still like this. It's just much more surprising when I see this attitude from men in my own community, because I …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:43 PM
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Well, for one, that’s horrible, it sounds like you work in a pretty bad work environment. But, it’s not surprising. I know the culture that you’re referring to, I live in it and know those kind of men. It’s just that the logic to it doesn’t make any sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 04:23 PM
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And why do you think THAT is? Conversation is fun; being friends with women and having good relationships is a desirable ends in itself. Why don't they see that as another possibility? Not trying to be annoying, I'm seriously curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 03:54 PM
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https://youtu.be/3Lw8VyxCr9c
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:21 PM
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I realize that, lol. Why do you think that is?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:21 PM
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You don't just date women you don't like to lock one down so that you're not lonely when old. You date a woman and get married because you like her, and this should be mutual. Well said. Our bodies are going to shrivel up, dry out, and blow away into dust; and if you pass the time while you're alive engaged in petty sexual competition you're going to miss out on one of the great joys of being alive - being with someone you love.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:05 PM
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It's really mind-blowing that some people think sex is the only reason to be in a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 01:00 PM
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People who are sincerely looking for a partner, and can't find one, and can't meet their needs, I have a lot of sympathy for. People who just cant get laid with enough are just annoying and I don't think are worth the time debating.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 11:28 PM
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So would this hypothetical person stop playing the game when they got a girlfriend? It seems to be surrounding people who just want to fuck a bunch of people, not settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 10:36 PM
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But, if your goal is just getting laid, isn’t looking for a long term partner more cost effective than constantly “playing the numbers”?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 06:59 PM
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You can walk around being friends with women who aren’t attracted to you, and you to them. But, I hear you. I guess what I’m getting at is that it feels more like guys who play the numbers game want to be able to sleep with every woman they meet, rather than date someone they like, and they’re mad that they can’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:08 PM
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Why don’t you just find a girlfriend? The “numbers game” thing feels so exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 09:00 AM
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I think the big city - attention correlation makes sense! More people, more interaction. Also, in suburban/rural communities you're more likely to be in your car; and more likely to know the people around you, which would make it more awkward to hit on people. There's also lots of cultural differences that this sub seems to ignore.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 08:30 PM
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Would like this better with the most used examples of each
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:01 PM
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This is incredibly depressing. I'm not sure how you live with this view of the world and people. You need better examples of people living happy lives, it does exist, contrary to what you might believe.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 11:11 PM
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Look, if you lack ALL ABILITIES in life, finding a romantic partner is going to be the least of your worries, because you’ll need to think about how to eat, walk, survive first… but, maybe you even lack the ability to think so, you’re fucked. But, if you feel you lack a SPECIAL ability; feel like you’re not very good at anything in particular; or if you feel average, then that shouldn’t affect your confidence level, because confidence is something that comes from your inherent sense of self-wort…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 08:59 PM
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Then confidence in this case would be is being secure with having no abilities. It's the "being secure" part that matters, not the abilities part.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:41 PM
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This is terrible advice. How much you talk doesn't have much to do with confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/22 07:39 PM
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I live in the US, mostly on the East Coast, big cities. And yeah, I agree! Just because I don’t see it, definitely doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. That’s why I’m asking. It could easily determine why we’re having different experiences. I don’t think people are asking about this enough in this sub. When we can’t see each other, it’s easy to assume we are talking to people with shared experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 02:51 AM
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If someone gets mad because their friend buys them a cup of coffee, this is crazy. I don't really think that happens in real life. The problem is in public, with strangers. Unless you're being really weird towards a friend who obviously doesn't want to fuck you.. it's hard to tell.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:15 AM
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?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:14 AM
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I'm serious!! And honestly, I'm super social. I get asked my credit score and income level. I am rejected because I don't own a house. This is INSANE to me. I've never even met a girl like this, or at least one that would say so out loud, because it's really fucking dumb. You need to hang out with cooler girls lmao. I have a feeling that people on this sub just live in really different social circles, that have different values. I think the blue pills on this sub think the red pill dudes are del…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:13 AM
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So weird, where do you live? I've never known anyone that actually thinks like this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:06 AM
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It's so weird to me that you see women this way. I'm not doubting that you've experienced this... but... where?? I see it on TV, sure. But I've never met any women actually like this in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:05 AM
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Because that's the forum we're discussing on.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:03 AM
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While I think the distinction between entitlement and hope is important, ultimately it doesn't matter, because it doesn't address the root cause of the issue. The issue is that women don't want strangers approaching them, they don't want random guys buying them coffee. Some women do, sure, but we have to operate as if they don't want it unless we know specifically that they do. Why? Because women get harassed, constantly. They are getting whistled at in the parking lot, they are getting heart ey…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:03 AM
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No, don't buy her coffee in the first place. Mind your own business.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/22 01:02 AM
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The most effective way to deter hypergamy in women is to give them equal opportunities in society.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/22 04:48 PM
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lmao, this comment made my day 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 03:05 PM
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You start off with a false premise: "Men biologically are inclined to want to procreate with many women." Where's your proof?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 02:06 AM
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A Sadie Hawkins dance..
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/22 01:37 PM
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He’s responsible for HIS behavior, not hers, moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/22 01:27 PM
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But, you have to see her as an innocent party too. Not at all. As innocent as you see OP. What is is about her actions that make her more wrong than OP? I’m not advocating for victim blaming, I’m advocating for taking responsibility for your own actions They're not mutually exclusive. I never said they were. Just because we all relate to the sadboi doesn’t mean his actions are right. I didn't say his actions were right, I said her actions were wrong. And I'm saying his actions were wrong. I thin…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:14 PM
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Of course, I’m not advocating for anyone to lead anyone on. But, you have to see her as an innocent party too. If he didn’t know better than to beg at her feet for her affection, then she also didn’t know better than to take it. I’m not advocating for victim blaming, I’m advocating for taking responsibility for your own actions, rather than blaming someone else for a heartbreak that you were culpable in producing. Just because we all relate to the sadboi doesn’t mean his actions are right.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 05:56 PM
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Oh, definitely. Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 04:11 PM
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You were always in control of your actions, never in control of hers. 2 years wasted is on you. I think you probably see this now. I’ve been through really similar experiences, and learned a lot from them.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:45 PM
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This kind of behavior is 100% your fault. I'm glad you learned your lesson.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:34 PM
2

I like this analysis! I think "HVM" is still the right conceptual framework, but I like how you redefined the "V". I think looking at "value" as being a non-tangible quality in a man that makes women want him - "charm", "it", etc. - is a much more realistic, and actually reflected in society, than the 2-dimensional definition TRP uses. However, one thing that always bothers me about discussions in this thread is the tendency to try to come up with one rule that fits for all circumstances, and al…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 03:00 PM
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Not that my small sample size is representative of the macro trend, but In my experience this is very very wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 04:26 PM
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I honestly don't really believe that's what's happening. I think if you're pursuing relationships with women, and they end in friendships, that means they don't want to fuck you and want to be friends. They all told you they thought you were gay? And then after you told them you weren't gay, they still didn't want to sleep with you? Either you are interpreting that they think you're gay cause they don't want to sleep with you, or they are coming up with an excuse that they think you'll accept. E…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 06:19 PM
1

Lol yes, absolutely.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:30 PM
2

I agree, attractive people can make more “mistakes” and be forgiven for it. Less attractive people are more likely to be judged harshly for their social missteps.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 12:06 PM
1

Lol, yeah you couldn’t be more wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 11:44 AM
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Oh the red pill shit is so dumb. It’s really hard to find honest, good advice on the internet through all the noise. PM me anytime if you want to talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 07:05 PM
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Oh man, I’m 36, this has taken literally a lifetime to realize it. Thank god there’s a reddit thread that even attempts to address the issue. You have no idea how much this would have helped me when I was young. We were totally completely lost. Didn’t even know to ask for directions!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 06:50 PM
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Then you’ve got nothing to worry about. Even thinking about it as “an approach” starts to put you in the wrong mindset. Women are people, just talk and be normal.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:35 PM
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This is a great response! As a guy, I will add: Guys, stop thinking about “an approach”. Just try being friendly, being yourself, and talking to people. If talking goes well, pursue what naturally happens next: that could be sex, romance; it could be something totally different. Try to get to know someone before you pursue sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:21 PM
0

That would be a much better question, without any assumptions
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:33 AM
1

That doesn’t reflect reality
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:32 AM
0

Key word is “seem”. They “seem” more content to live alone. What makes you think that?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:25 AM
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No, this isn’t true. What makes you think women are living alone more than men? Show me some evidence beyond what your general feelings are.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:08 AM
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Haha, I’m just kidding. The article from OP is a “study” from a fitness website. It’s bullshit, of course a fitness website is going to tell you that women like dudes that workout.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:46 AM
2

Wait, do you think “fitness volt” might not be giving reliable info?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:34 AM
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I see absolutely no reason not to trust the results from the hard hitting scientists at “fitness volt”.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:22 AM
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The problem in your argument is what you think makes a man an attractive partner. You evaluate men on 3 categories: 1) "professionally successful", 2) "spend time in the gym", and 3) put "effort into their game and social skills". By "professionally successful" I'm assuming you mean make more money. Making money, and success in a career generally, is incredibly important in life and does contribute to making a guy more attractive to make. However, men tend to wildly overvalue how important money…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/02/22 01:39 PM
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Stop thinking of yourselves as “average men” and “chads” you’re going to drive yourself nuts
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/22 02:14 PM
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High schoolers going to the gym sounds new, but young people college age and older doesn't seem very new to me. I've never been to a gym that's only old people; college gyms have always been packed. Cleary there's been a resurgence that I'm not aware of, and seems to make sense that it correlates with social media, for sure. Side note: I wish dudes realized that they should work on their personalities as much as their bodies, might see more results.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 03:39 PM
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I think the real sea change happened after Brad Pitt (Fight club, snatch), what “gym boom” are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/22 02:07 PM
1

Every dopamine stimulus can be an agent for dopamine addiction. There’s a small percentage of people who actually become porn addicts, the vast majority dont. Video games can also be addictive. Should we stop playing video games too?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 11:43 PM
1

No, it’s a lot more entertaining than “educational material”
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 11:04 PM
1

Lol I’m dead serious.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 06:07 PM
1

Ew no, those subs are for fucking losers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:17 PM
1

No, it’s not ignorant. I’m just not repressed and terrified of human sexuality like 99% of this forum.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 05:14 PM
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Not at the moment, why?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:41 PM
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I think it’s something we should look critically at, but calling it a “crisis” is a bit of an exaggeration.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:28 PM
2

This thread is so repressed
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:26 PM
1

The truth is hard to hear sometimes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 04:24 PM
4

Porn doesn’t warp brains.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/21 12:19 PM
1

I think men are more like this then we think
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 07:04 AM
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I concur. I think men would understand what it’s like to be pursued by someone they don’t find attractive, if they had more experiences being hit on, but unfortunately given our societal gender roles (male pursuer, female “catch”), that generally doesn’t happen. I have been relentlessly hit on by women (I’m a guy) that I find genuinely unattractive and it was repulsive, and even made me angry. If more men had these experiences they would probably understand it a little bit more from the women’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 03:48 PM
4

Lol what
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/21 03:41 PM
1

What do you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 04:25 PM
10

You’ve gotta post your sources
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 05:02 AM
2

Uhhhh, yeah... how about getting OFF of social media
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 05:00 AM
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Find some evidence to show how widespread it is. The problem is that you are looking at society through the lens of social media. So, what you are seeing is more skewed towards people who are active on social media, in particular people who get attention for themselves on social media. There are a lot of people that don’t use social media in this way, but they are less visible through that medium.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/21 04:58 AM
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So, I agree with OP that promiscuity is good for men. But, I also believe promiscuity is good for women. I think having the option in society to be promiscuous, if that is your desire, is good for everyone. So, while I don't disagree with OP's conclusion, I do disagree strongly with OP's analysis. I see the biggest flaws in these elements: 1) Quantifying any net "benefit" based on who orgasms more during sex is majorly flawed. Benefit cannot be measured based on rate of orgasm alone. Also, a soc…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/01/21 08:31 PM
3

I think charisma is something that happens between two people. Both sexes underestimate it’s importance.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/21 11:39 PM
2

Post a video and ill give you feedback!
/r/seduction06/07/20 08:08 PM
1

For a guy "going his own way", you are awfully obsessed with women. Maybe just ignore them and actually do your own thing?
/r/MGTOW01/07/19 06:09 PM
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Would you fuck Danny Devito because of his personality?
/r/MGTOW01/07/19 05:52 PM
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Dude, you are such an idiot.
/r/MGTOW30/06/19 05:59 AM
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