tacospitter Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Got a church girls number, now what? Absolutely!!	/r/askTRP	09/01/19 06:07 PM
3	Got a church girls number, now what? Yeah, perhaps that was a bit vague / an overstatement. I just like to remind people that simply 'subscribing to an alternative perspective' does not guarantee a quicker path to success. What I should've said is, "most men who hit on women consistently form their mating foundation from fairly cliched values and strategies (many of which do not actually work well), then convince themselves those fundamental ideas are good advice to pass on, because any failures are usually ignored and successes re…	/r/askTRP	07/01/19 09:54 PM
2	Got a church girls number, now what? glad to hear it!	/r/askTRP	07/01/19 08:03 PM
8	Got a church girls number, now what? a lot of pet stores have puppies and kittens you can take out and play with, etc. great arena to bond with a girl you don't know well. the idea is to find a low-pressure situation with an activity that doesn't require a lot of conversation, but that stimulates positive conversation instead (not seeing a movie, getting drinks, something competitive, etc.)	/r/askTRP	07/01/19 08:03 PM
42	Got a church girls number, now what? The easiest way to laying a girl is 1. making her laugh and 2. making her feel like a kid again. Being funny is fairly difficult, don't try and force it. Just be vulnerable enough to make jokes and be silly around her. Have fun with her. Girls get hit on constantly -- attractive ones literally every day for like 10 - 15 years -- and most of these guys subscribe to the same shit you read here. Don't have a 'template' or 'opening lines'. When you hang out with a dude you know, you just enjoy yours…	/r/askTRP	07/01/19 06:08 PM
3	I want to bulk and train strongman again, but I can't snap out of the mindset of "abs=girls". I know this is gay as fuck. But can I have advice pls. Girls don't like abs as much as they like MASCULINITY. Masculinity presents itself in many forms. Bulking and building muscle / mass is very masculine. It's also much more visible with clothing on compared to abs!	/r/askTRP	07/01/19 05:58 PM
2	Why are girls so flakey? What the fuck? True -- headhunting or hookups are things you should enjoy, but when they start to govern your daily thoughts and emotions, it's time to take a break and focus on something else. If you come back with fresh eyes and a renewed mind, you'll probably enjoy yourself more (no matter the outcome)!	/r/askTRP	04/01/19 05:12 PM
2	Why are girls so flakey? What the fuck? I think that’s a great idea! There’s nothing wrong with trying to find some random hookups or whatever, but you want to do it when you’re in a good place with yourself.	/r/askTRP	04/01/19 04:40 PM
3	Why are girls so flakey? What the fuck? I feel you -- I've honestly been there multiple times. I'm here as a fair and friendly voice to try and keep you centered. Focus on yourself, and make sure you aren't relying on validation from anyone else to feel okay with who you are. It's perfectly okay to feel overwhelmed and fed up with anything at times, which includes dating.	/r/askTRP	03/01/19 09:31 PM
21	Why are girls so flakey? What the fuck? 'Honor' is a male construct. Don't expect women to adhere to the same principles you would. You will probably be disappointed. Unless you plan on becoming celibate, you're going to have to accept that women have their own set of principles, which are mostly governed by their emotions. Its easy to assume a woman is very interested in you, when in fact she was interested in your attention at the time. Because you gave her attention and she enjoyed it =/= she owes you more time together. That is, o…	/r/askTRP	03/01/19 05:54 PM
4	Why are women so ungrateful? The concept of honor is more of a male construct than a female one. Women tend to embrace their emotions more than men. This could be where your confusion on gendered perspectives is coming from. Try and keep these inherent differences in mind when communicating with your partner. I wouldn’t say ‘women are ungrateful’, that’s a bit harsh. I understand you’re frustrated. Life can blow sometimes. When she reacts in a way that frustrates you, ask yourself, “am I frustrated because I would react dif…	/r/askTRP	28/12/18 08:33 PM
1	New girlfriend showed me she has a journal where she writes only about me/us. How should I interpret this? Depends on her age, but generally activity like that is very codependent, which is probably the most common negative trait women between 18-35 can possess. Worrying that much about her interactions with you seems like a strong indication that she needs her interactions with you to be extremely positive to feel validated, which is unhealthy. I wouldn’t worry too much if this is the only weird thing she does, but if she shows other signs of codependency I would rethink any LTR potential.	/r/askTRP	28/12/18 07:20 AM
1	Anyone here went from incel to chad? Over about 10 years I successfully transitioned from virgin who was anxious and hopeless with women to banging everything that moved to having more meaningful relationships with attractive women to having a (still) incredible relationship now. I wouldn’t consider myself a chad, but certainly a true alpha. I consider chads more along the lines of a false alpha. More importantly I developed self-confidence, self-respect, and am happy.	/r/askTRP	28/12/18 07:13 AM
2	Holding a conversation. I would say the most important part of holding a conversation is developing your own genuine interest. You shouldn't be faking reactions. You should try cultivating a mentality where you're actually excited to learn about other people, whether you plan on sleeping with them or not. This makes you seem more approachable to other people as well. It also builds your own confidence. Asking questions is the right direction -- conversation is basically learning about the person across from you. To be …	/r/askTRP	26/12/18 05:39 PM
2	Shall an alpha be wise and calm but still arrogant ? Being alpha is also about being secure with yourself. Most people interpret arrogance as a symptom of weakness or insecurity. If you want to say leader, independent, confident... these are attributes I would use to describe a true alpha. Arrogance and wisdom are somewhat counter-intuitive. Part of being wise is understanding there will always be people that know more than you. It's hard to embrace that mentality if you are also arrogant. To me, arrogance is more of a false-alpha trait, like brav…	/r/askTRP	26/12/18 05:30 PM
2	Girl at party asked me a question in front of the group, my answer seemed to at first surprise them, but as the night went on I became the go-to guy. TF? Well part of being truly alpha (not just some kind of overconfident douche) is being straightforward. Not being afraid to speak your mind, as long as its within reason and respectful, is a very admirable quality. It's also possible that the women were feeding off each other throughout the night. When a woman decides a man is attractive, it becomes apparent to the other women in the room, and a certain amount of unspoken value is attributed to him. This effect can snowball quickly in a small grou…	/r/askTRP	26/12/18 05:21 PM
1	I'm such a beta still. How do I get rid of this? You're welcome, man. Relocating probably won't change anything about who you are, and yes, it might even be tougher, but it could also present new opportunities to challenge yourself and grow as an individual. Don't be afraid to meet new people and make friends! Just be wise about who you decide to spend your time with. It could make the transition there much easier / more beneficial.	/r/askTRP	23/12/18 04:20 AM
1	I'm such a beta still. How do I get rid of this? I’m sorry stuff is so difficult for you right now. I think you were on the right track getting professional help from a therapist. You could also see if another therapist might take your insurance. I would search for books and podcasts, and see if any resonate with you in the meantime. It’s possible gear exasperated your negative emotions — I would avoid doing more until you make emotional progress with yourself. It takes a lot even to admit you’re insecure about your size. The next step is acce…	/r/askTRP	22/12/18 04:07 PM
2	I'm such a beta still. How do I get rid of this? Two options worth trying IMO are progressive hobbies and therapy. Hobbies that reward long-term effort usually promote a sense of self-progression and self-worth. Some examples would be drawing, working out, creating music, practicing an instrument, hunting, anything where you focus on yourself and progress at your own speed slowly over time. Some things I would avoid are team sports, video games, etc. -- things where you either compare yourself to others or end the day feeling like you haven't …	/r/askTRP	21/12/18 08:59 PM
8	I'm such a beta still. How do I get rid of this? It sounds like you have trouble with how you value yourself, and you're hoping that buy picking up girls, working out, 'becoming an alpha', etc., you're going to feel better about yourself. If you feel good about yourself already and focus on these things, it will reaffirm your positive view of yourself. But if you feel bad about who you are, doing these things becomes about needing validation from others, and it can reaffirm a negative image you have for yourself. It can create a cyclical syste…	/r/askTRP	21/12/18 07:10 PM
2	Have any of you wasted large chunks of your life It's easy to feel like you've wasted your life sometimes, but you are very young, and have a lot to look forward to. Sure you can't get your time back, but you can learn from it. You will make more mistakes in the future. Embrace your current failures and your future ones, because they often come before your successes. You could likely be nearing the bottom of your personal life right now, and have a lot of potential upside to look forward to and enjoy. Imagine looking back in a few years and th…	/r/askTRP	21/12/18 07:04 PM
4	Red Pill has made me mad for success Listen man I feel you — there’s a lot of negativity and insecurity circulating on forums and boards like this one, and it can be very contagious, especially if you’re in a vulnerable point in your life. I think you need to ask yourself not HOW to improve yourself, but WHY you need to improve yourself. Improving yourself should be a positive thing, but if you’re doing it because you’re not okay with who you are now, it’s only reaffirming that idea. I would challenge you to reflect on your current…	/r/askTRP	21/12/18 06:15 PM
2	Why do i need women in my life? Most people require a job to perform, a person to love, and something to believe in to live a balanced and happy life. You don't need to find all these things immediately to be okay. Most people in relationships are only in them because they don't want to be alone. This is a common and negative reason to enter into a relationship. It suggests you aren't happy alone because you aren't happy with yourself, and if you can't love yourself, you can't love someone else. It's possible you are happy wit…	/r/askTRP	20/12/18 04:03 PM
10	Does alpha widower exist? What to do about it? Who we search for and are attracted to is often a reflection of ourselves. It's important to ask yourself why you are drawn to a specific type of woman, because this is a great way to learn about yourself. People (men and women) present three different strengths -- physical, mental, and emotional. You can be insanely attractive, smart, or wise. These things come together to form the basis of who you are. If you are insecure about how you look, you will probably be drawn to physically-attractive …	/r/askTRP	20/12/18 03:57 PM
2	LTR wants to vacation with single friend This is an important exercise in trust and independence, which matters almost more than anything in a LTR, especially those just beginning (under 1 year). You should feel naturally okay with her going if you want your relationship to work long-term. You don't need to automatically feel okay about it (and you can't force yourself to), but you must understand that independence is paramount for the success of a relationship. You both have to feel okay with each other going off and doing your own th…	/r/askTRP	20/12/18 03:43 PM
2	Why do women purposefully lie to men about what they are attracted to ? I would agree that women are all attracted to MASCULINITY. However, how a woman interprets what masculinity is can vary wildly.	/r/askTRP	20/12/18 02:21 PM
1	Why do women purposefully lie to men about what they are attracted to ? to be fair I said 'successful and balanced' parenting. you can certainly mess up giving a child too much attention, unnecessary love, spoiling a child etc. i agree that just because parenting looks positive on the surface, it's not always positive for the long-term development of a child. i also agree the majority of attractive people (this includes men) are not necessarily well-adjusted. it takes a lot of effort to look attractive for most people, and the motivation can often come from a negati…	/r/askTRP	20/12/18 01:17 AM
8	Why do women purposefully lie to men about what they are attracted to ? there will definitely be statistic outliers, exceptions, etc. no argument here! its difficult to quantify nature vs. nurture, so I usually just call it 50/50 (excluding extreme circumstances). so there can always be a woman from a normal home who acts negatively, or a woman from a rough upbringing who really has her shit together. but i would encourage people on average to put forth more LTR effort toward women from more stable environments.	/r/askTRP	19/12/18 06:53 PM
3	Why do women purposefully lie to men about what they are attracted to ? haha no psych, but many people have told me I'm just good at reading women, social interaction etc. I'm happy what I said resonated with you!	/r/askTRP	19/12/18 06:50 PM
1	Do women really cheat that much? Not all women cheat, but the ones who do tend to do it repeatedly (same for men). Banging a girl in a relationship has never sat right with me. I’ve had multiple opportunities. Yes she will most likely cheat with someone else, but feeding my ego is not worth facilitating negative behavior. Keep in mind that it’s easy to believe all women cheat constantly when you frequent online forums focused on sleeping with women.	/r/askTRP	19/12/18 01:57 PM
47	Why do women purposefully lie to men about what they are attracted to ? Women are generally attracted to men that make them feel okay with who they are (equally true for men), If a woman had a successful childhood with balanced parenting, she is likely to be attracted to a balanced mate in adulthood. If a woman was neglected emotionally or physically by her father, she will typically seek out men that treat her similarly, because she attributes value to this behavior. This is true for men as well, but usually more accurate for women because they tend to embrace thei…	/r/askTRP	19/12/18 01:52 PM
1	How to get girlfriend to stop believing radical liberal BS? Someone’s political beliefs are how they quantify the way they view the world. Most of how we choose to view the world takes place during the formative stages of our lives + genetic predispositions. You will most likely never change how someone views the world. This is why political arguments rarely end in agreement, even if one side is factually supported and the other is not. You also should be asking yourself why you need to change the way she thinks. Believing the way she sees the world is i…	/r/askTRP	19/12/18 01:38 PM
11	Sex second round It's totally normal to need a break after you climax, dude. Nothing wrong with you at all. I've been with many women at different ages, always in good shape, drunk or high or sober, and it's just a thing that happens. Don't worry about it. :-)	/r/askTRP	18/12/18 02:46 PM
0	How do you deal with your SMV appearing much higher than it is? This doesn't sound like an issue with women. This sounds like you're comparing yourself to your friends too much. Yes, keeping up with peers is good motivation for self-improvement, but if it's having negative effects on you, take a step back. The quickest and healthiest way to make long-term progress on yourself is to focus on yourself, and not to compare yourself to others. I would put forth more effort on 1. reminding yourself that everyone has their own shit going on behind the scenes and 2.…	/r/askTRP	18/12/18 02:44 PM
6	Becoming desperate need advice Sorry to hear how difficult things have been for you lately. It's important to remember everyone has ups and downs. It's totally possible you're nearing the bottom of your personal life, and things are going to turn around in the next couple years. You could look back and think, "man, imagine if I had given up right when things were the worst." If you're looking for motivation, changing how you begin each day is a powerful technique. If the first thing you do in the morning is focus on women you…	/r/askTRP	18/12/18 02:34 PM
1	I seem to be getting less confident over time. Yeah -- take things one step at a time. Get good at just meeting and conversing with new people. Eventually you can learn how to better read signals and understand women. Once you have that down, seduction is as easy as being fun and hanging out with a girl, and waiting for the right moment to kiss her. You'll get there!	/r/askTRP	18/12/18 02:32 AM
2	I seem to be getting less confident over time. Even if you were a top alpha chad type, you would get rejected. It's totally inevitable that you'll fail in some way and get rejected / feel awkward at times. Don't let that reality create some greater fear in you that controls you. Just accept it as part of the game. I did solo headhunting when I was younger a bit. I did it for the reasons I'm talking to you about. I'm not gonna lie, it's weird. Especially if you get in your head. But if you put yourself through that multiple times, you're prob…	/r/askTRP	17/12/18 07:25 PM
1	Do you take things slow when the girl you met is from a social circle? You might just be on a completely different playing field from her. Women who have never had sex have a distorted view of it's value, IMO. Taking things slow can mean very different things, especially when one person is a virgin. If you really like this girl, it's worth putting in the time, but it will not be easy, and will probably feel tedious for you. To answer your question: I take things slow when a girl is LTR material in my mind. If she is from a social circle, I don't necessarily take …	/r/askTRP	17/12/18 06:08 PM
2	I seem to be getting less confident over time. I wouldn't worry too much about how much weed / masturbation etc. you are doing. It sounds like the problem stems from something larger, most likely a fear of rejection (IE. talking to a girl and having it go poorly in front of others). This is very normal, and everyone deals with this in some way. The best way to overcome a fear is to dive into it (IMO). I think you just need to go headhunting*, which is going out and picking up girls for the sport of it. If you get a girl's number, and she was…	/r/askTRP	17/12/18 06:04 PM
5	Girl fucks other guys but tells me she has feelings for me? It sounds like this girl is afraid of losing your attention more than isolating and enjoying it. If she had (legit) feelings for you, she wouldn't have the need to seek out validation from other men in the form of attention / sex. I wouldn't take it personally, it's honestly probably more to do with her than you, but it sounds like she isn't ready for an actual relationship. So if that's important to you, I would respectfully end things and move on. Maybe in a couple years she'll grow as an in…	/r/askTRP	17/12/18 05:48 PM