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Consider being okay with your situation as-is to start... Sure, you'd like to change a lot about it, but that happens little by little, over more time than we'd like. Rather than being upset by the fact that you haven't totally arrived yet, just pick one simple thing to work on and see where it leads. Life is truly just making the best of whatever situations you're presented with.. You can't do it all at once. All you can do is build upon experience and the choices made. The next time you have s…
/r/askTRP20/09/17 05:54 PM
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Something else to look into is the possibility she has borderline personality disorder. May help you understand a little more. I was married to one for awhile. Similar hellish story.
/r/TheRedPill06/06/16 04:10 PM
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No need to bash anyone. She's just doing her and you're just doing you... None of it is personal. And, sure, a diagnosis by a well trained and high quality professional is hard enough... But people come here to learn and benefit from the experience of others. Having been around this particular block, I'm sharing that experience. I could be wrong, I could be right. Just sharing... I wish only the best to anyone and everyone. Especially in relationships such as this. It's a rough path.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 09:07 PM
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BPD is a deeply deceptive condition and really tough to get a handle on if you've never lived with or through it. I don't think counselors who learn about it through books or studies can really grasp it. I went through multiple counselors (both couples and one on one) and none of them got it. Their inability to understand it, through no real fault of their own, prolonged my shitty situation for years until I finally realized what was going on for myself and decided to act on it, on my own, witho…
/r/askTRP04/03/16 08:06 PM
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Do it. Nmmng (book and meetings) was a necessary step for me a few years back.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 03:49 PM
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More likely a codependent in need of reading No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover. She sounds bpd af.
/r/askTRP04/03/16 03:03 PM
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You just described my ex damn near perfectly. Look into borderline personality disorder. She sounds like a textbook example. Also r/bpdlovedones. This is way beyond shit tests...
/r/askTRP04/03/16 02:43 PM
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I think you nailed it here. Alpha is an attitude more than anything else. Game and plates are just possible manifestations... A bronie could be alpha with the right attitude. Own it and do you, whatever that may look like...
/r/becomeaman02/02/16 03:49 PM
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Do something you're afraid to do. Disclaimer: I'm not talking about the jackass brand of stuff you're afraid of.
/r/askTRP12/12/15 05:27 PM
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Sadly, in my experience, it is just their natural behavior. No work needed, really... This is just her normal. Sounds a whooooole lot like my ex of 7 years. Check out No More Mr Nice Guy too. That book really helped me get to work on me. Good news is, you shouldn't take any of it personally. Pity her, if anything. PM me anytime. I have a lot of experience in this space.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 09:30 PM
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Definitely be careful. Sounds to me like she may have borderline personality disorder. Look into it.
/r/askTRP20/10/15 02:26 PM
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I don't think this current dynamic will last forever.. It just starts with you doing you and finding a good frame when you are with the family. After that, things will likely mellow out and it just won't be that big a deal anymore. You're just making your own rules right now.
/r/TheRedPill08/09/15 03:36 PM
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If you did what you wanted to do, regardless of whatever anyone else may have wanted you to do... If you look back on it now and can say to yourself "I'm glad I went to the gym rather than play make believe for two hours"... You know the answer. You're just working through the conflict between playing a role in other's expectations and doing you. Looks like you chose you. You don't need reassurance or permission or a blessing from anyone.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 05:07 PM
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That's my typical go-to example as well... For me, this is the real truth behind the red pill / matrix philosophy. Most people are stuck living the bullshit story their minds auto-generate and they have no idea it's even happening. The man-woman dynamic etc is at best secondary.
/r/TheRedPill29/08/15 04:03 PM
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You have a lot of good stuff to go on here in the replies and the side bar.. Start reading. As for character... Here's the way I see it. I visualize a lot so try to follow my comparison of relationship dynamics to orbiting celestial bodies. The Illusion is that when you meet a woman and treat her nicely, etc like you stated, you're supposed to ride off into the sunset doing some sort of 50/50 co-orbit of one another. Imagine your collective path through space resembling a double helix DNA strand…
/r/askTRP14/06/15 03:41 PM
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No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover was pretty instrumental for me. It is another great place to start the journey out of the matrix.
/r/askTRP14/06/15 02:39 PM
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I can relate. I just wrapped up 7 years married to my 2nd wife (bpd, but no kids with her, 2 kids from the first marriage) . Honestly... The worst experience of my life, and I've been through some shit. As crazy as this sounds though, it's the best thing I ever could have asked for to rip the blue pill out my ass (and lots more). PM me if you want and I will try to help you out. I know how bad you feel right now. The most important thing I could tell you right now...? Do you. And (matter of fact…
/r/askTRP13/06/15 08:50 PM
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1 broken person = 2 broken people. Screw the games, put it out there. She has issues too and might see some if she reads it too...
/r/askTRP25/03/15 11:49 PM
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How did you happen to learn this?
/r/TheRedPill24/03/15 05:26 AM
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I wouldn't... This relationship seems to take a lot out of you. I've been there done that. You want something that is naturally uplifting rather than requiring a shit ton of work for negative results. You can do better.
/r/askTRP12/02/15 08:20 AM
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