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I think DNA testing is fine if: - you have legitimate reasons to worry about parentage (prior cheating for example) - both partners agreed before getting pregnant/married - you're not in a committed relationship (one night stand, fwb etc) - you're already splitting up (and want to make sure in the context of child support) Aside from this, there's no way around the fact that you're accusing your partner of not only cheating, but keeping the baby and making you pay for/raise it. If you really hav…
/r/ExRedPill13/10/24 07:00 PM
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Yep my partner has two friends who are quite short - probably in the 5'5" range and they're both married with multiple kids. Yes some women care about height, but usually it's not the height that is or becomes the issue, it's the attitude.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/24 03:12 PM
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I think it's more "oh she's not a teen or in her 20s and somehow vulnerable ? Omg she's 30, with a career of her own and self confidence ? Well fuck that I want to prey on young "innoncent" women who'll let me get away with anything and who I can "control""
/r/ExRedPill17/09/24 05:00 AM
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It's all subjective anyways. There's no 100% objective grading system that everyone will agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/24 07:57 AM
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We're talking only about men and women in their 20s and I haven't checked how the survey was conducted. There can be multiple explanations for this discrepancy in romantic relationships: - women stating the are in a relationship when the guy doesn't consider it serious and vice versa -> what is defined as a relationship in this survey ? - women may be lying because the person who asks is being weird/creepy in some way - women tend to date older and thus have a larger dating pool in their 20s - b…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/24 06:03 PM
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The worse part is they can do them, but they don't want to do them because that means giving up a bit of their male privilege
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:59 PM
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I watched my mother go through the same and not only did it subconsciously fuck me up, but now that I've unfucked myself I have higher standards than ever and got sterilized
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:59 PM
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"Wah wah wah females won't fuck me therefore they are entitled and hateful !"
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/24 05:58 PM
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Funny because I've had the opposite experience 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 09:09 PM
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You'll be surprised to learn that many women these days have jobs and even earn more money than men. On occasion they even use this money to buy food and sex toys
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:55 PM
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He's just admitting he's never actually been IN a vagina aside from when he went through one at birth, hence why he thinks "scissoring" is a viable alternative
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:44 AM
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How delusional of you to think a man would be 100% down to marry a woman with no vagina. Between the breeders and the sex addicts, she'd have a very rough time dating and would likely need to focus on men who are asexual or unable to have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/24 08:43 AM
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Because to him a woman's "value" is tied to how many men she slept with 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/ExRedPill19/02/24 06:41 PM
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Female women ? As opposed to what ? Female chimps ? Female men ? Male women ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/24 05:03 PM
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I regularly think it and say it (to friends) about my partner
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/24 04:13 PM
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Love your username !
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:12 PM
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Women have figured out having three kids to keep the population growing really isn’t worth it, and they have the means to prevent it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/24 04:10 PM
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Good for you 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:21 PM
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I'm against surrogacy but if a woman has the financial means and familial support to have a kid on her own, why not ? Plenty of women end up single moms with deadbeat babby daddies anyway, this just ensures they don't have to deal with the baby daddy drama and seems like it would be a good thing. Edit: Like yeah kids usually do better in a 2 parent household but there's no guarantee that household is healthy or that they'll stay together. Just like there's no guarantee the kid in this scenario w…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 03:00 PM
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The comparison to Elon Musk is also a dead giveaway honestly. Who would want to date a guy like that ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/24 07:55 PM
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No, maybe and no.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/24 05:43 PM
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If what you say is true, identical twins would have identical personalities and that's just not the case.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/24 10:50 AM
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I'd be curious to know if you've ever done anything (from talking to walking to riding a bike to whetever your hobby is) perfectly of the first try or if it took practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 04:33 PM
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I mean, religion has been brainwashing women from birth into thinking they are inferior and must defer to a male lead for millennia so... yeah probably atheism is part of the reason we got to the current situation (and it's not a bad thing)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/24 09:48 AM
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I'd be curious what the cost of running the AI servers and stuff will be and how many people will actually be able to afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:17 PM
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Same. Plus also the cost of building/upkeep and running servers for the AI is not going to be cheap. That's basically the only sad thing because it means very few will actually be able to afford it.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:04 PM
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Actually the poster was spot on - they only forgot to mention that AI and robot boyfriends would also likely be available and likely to outshine the average man who can be bothered not to trip over the bar that's laying on the ground - if only because a robot boyfriend will never forget your birthday, abuse or kill you and if he bugs you, there's an off switch.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 03:02 PM
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Be good at nothing then 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/24 10:50 AM
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100% I have way too much self respect to be cool with being a "sarter girlfriend".
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/24 05:58 PM
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Good to know, personally don't plan on testing that. For the partner it depends - my ex drove me nuts in a 4 bedroom house but my current partner and I had no issues in a small 1 bedroom apartment both working from home from the same room for months on end
/r/ExRedPill23/01/24 05:44 PM
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Speaking as an introvert it's very different at least on the partner front - don't know about kids. I don't like having anyone at my house and don't socialize much but I love having my partner around.
/r/ExRedPill23/01/24 06:48 AM
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LMAO not even going to bother arguing with you because you don’t even cite sources or studies
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 05:08 PM
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No one is saying that women are biologically equal in strength to men. The rest is mostly social conditioning from birth. Look at the mess men made ruling the world - I'd be ashamed if I were a man. We're saying "might makes right" is a shitty concept for humans who have acheived self awareness and we all have equal rights. Of course a paraplegic dude isn't equal to a non-handicapped person - he has the same rights though.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 09:46 AM
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To me love comes after a while, so if I see too many redflags or obstacles I don't bother at all. Couples therapy and such is good if you're already married and/or have kids. I'm not seeing a sex therapist with a boyfriend of 2 weeks because he has ED and crippling depression - too much to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/24 06:49 AM
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Being involved caring partners and fathers would probably go a long way
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:10 PM
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Yes I agree women seem to be more socialized that way where demi appears to become a default and anything more "cool with casual sex or ONS" is immediately shamed out of them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:54 PM
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I lol'ed at the "women are more likely to get attached" Sure you can control who you call in love with. I don't engage with single parents for the purpose of dating as that's a dealbreaker for me so as a result I never fall in love with them. I feel sad for your kids that you'd be cool with your partner treating them coldly in their own home. My bf's father is like that and they have not spoken in 15+ years. She might have no obligation but if she lives with you there's an expectation to help ou…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 04:35 PM
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If your goal is never to get married or share a house, sure but that's not the norm. If you do date for marriage or living together at least, you'll end up with the kids in your house at some point. And then it becomes "impossible" to not be impacted unless you're a flaming asshole. If you're a single parent it also confuses me why you'd seriously date someone who doesn't care/like your children and dislikes having them around. Shouldn't your kids' wellbeing come first ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:06 PM
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The "no" will be more or less polite depending on how I perceive the guy but it'll still be a "no"
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:51 PM
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Only if you're a terrible conversationalist in my experience, you can still go on a date but at least you already know a little bit about the person instead of eyeing how to get out of the elevator because some rando decided to corner you and ask for your number. That feels threatening to me, not interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:47 PM
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I always read the bios when I used the apps. I liked them at the time because I knew the guy was presumably single and looking for a relationship. His bio would tell me in a few minutes if we might be compatible or if it was a lost cause from the get go. Then messaging, then a date. I hate cold approaches because you know nothing about the person, maybe he's a taxidermist, maybe he has kids - I don't give out my number to complete randos - too many weirdos out there and pretty much a guarantee o…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:45 PM
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100% except I've used dating apps in the past. Admittedly the 2 relationships that resulted from the apps were shit and the last one ended 4 years ago so... not sure I'd use them again in the future tbh. The rest is spot on for me as well - I'm also likey demi so a cold approach would definitely not work on me even if the guy was like... Henry Cavill levels of hot. I'd likely be oblivious or super anxious.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:38 PM
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Well like you said, nothing is 100% guaranteed. Vasectomies are not perfect either Getting a vasectomy with the plan to maybe get it reversed or force IVF on your partner when you know you will want kids and are not childfree is fucking moronic, that's my problem. No self respecting doctor would even agree to do the surgery if that's your approach. It's not a question of being affordable or not. Do you also recommend women who want kids at some point to get sterilized so they're not babytrapped …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:03 PM
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Why would a woman want to put herself through IVF instead of conceiving naturally if she can ?? It's much less invasive and cheaper. Have you by any chance ever heard of CONDOMS ?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:49 PM
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Since you apparently can't read VASECTOMIES ARE CONSIDERED A PERMANENT FORM OF BIRTHCONTROL AND REVERSALS ARE NOT GUARANTEED TO WORK.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:29 PM
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Many men don't even realize when a woman is wearing makeup if it's subtle enough
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:12 PM
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Yep Women are now providing income on top of the previous children and childcare/home care. Men still think providing 50% of the income and then sitting on the couch or mowing the lawn 10 times a year makes them an equal and thus valuable partner. The ones who own 100% of the income whine about divorce rates and gold diggers and alimony but want a dependent wife...
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:28 AM
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"Easier to get" as if women are a commodity 🙄 Let's rephrase this - now that women don't have to rely on men for survival and can own their own homes and make their own money, they don't have to settle for the first mediocre man who crosses their path who doesn't beat them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 09:13 AM
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You don't get a vasectomy unless you're done having kids or don't want them. Reversal is never guaranteed, more painful and expensive than the actual procedure. It's considered a permanent form of birthcontrol and no self respecting doctor would perform it if the goal is to reverse it in a few years. Please educate yourself before telling people to get surgeries. They can just wear a condom if they don't want to get a woman pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:38 AM
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If the guy wears a condom that he brought to take responsibility for his own fertility it doesn't matter if the woman is lying or not. He shouldn't be rawdogging her anyway until there's been an STI test and he knows he can actually trust her.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:36 AM
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I can empathize with the horrifying thought of having a child you don't want be it man or woman. Thing is, if abortion isn't possible anymore (because illegal or too late) well a child will be born and that child is innocent. You contributed to make it, you pay for it. Or you agree that taxpayers do it and you also contribute via your taxes to all other fatherless children out there. Or you agree with the mother to put the kid up for adoption that way neither of you have to contribute. Sometimes…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 07:33 AM
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You're not picky and you end up destroying your body for offspring that bear his last name and that he contributes nothing towards. You're not picky and you end up abused or dead. You're not picky and he can ruin your career or finances/credit score.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 01:20 PM
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Women in their 30s are generally viewed as "less good" because they're less easy to manipulate/control. It's why 30s men go after young early 20s women who are more likely to let them get away with their bullshit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:15 PM
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Just as predatory as male teachers going after teenage girls - do not even understand what they find remotely attractive about a teenager. Unfortunately there's a double standard here
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 12:11 PM
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Seems like single mom actually take care of their kids so, yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:20 AM
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I feel like women also have a lot more to lose by not being picky historically men "dated down", they married a housewife who may or may not have a rich father and therefore a dowry, but she wasn't expected to be educated or have a career so it's perfectly acceptable these days for an engineer to date a waitress. You get a lot more questions if a female doctor is dating a busboy or a guy who wants to be a SAHD men are generally portrayed as "will fuck anything" so it works against them in this c…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/24 11:02 AM
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Again, it's not women's jobs to fix men or incels. For free no less. They'd have to actually be attractive for a woman to sexually desire them and usually their personality is a major turn off if the BO doesn't run them off.
/r/ExRedPill16/01/24 08:48 PM
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They're also completely trapped if their husband cheats on them or becomes nasty. No job, huge gap in their resume, no income to pay for a lawyer. So yep it definitely benefits the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:49 PM
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A bangmaid
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 03:47 PM
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Nah he could be a millionaire and I still would pass - I don't want kids and that doesn't have a price tag. Single dads are usually more annoying than single moms, they also have the ex drama and to top it off want to outsource the care of their kids to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 02:00 PM
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You mean single fathers aren't an obstacle for women if he makes enough money ?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:59 AM
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Agreed. I'm in the reverse where I don't have or want kids and only date men who are in the same boat - absolutely no single dads - so I get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:26 AM
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Yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:15 AM
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Reverse is just as true to be fair
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 10:09 AM
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If you don't have nor want kids it absolutely makes sense not to date a single parent- there's literally not a single benefit to be had on your side in that scenario.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/24 09:58 AM
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Immediately break up, block, delete contact. Idgaf if he's "functional" or has $1 million in the bank, he's out. I'm also not one to keep in touch with an ex so your second scenario is really unlikely to happen. I might pity him but would probably keep it VLC or NC/blocked going forward and definitely feel like I dodged a bullet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/01/24 09:26 PM
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Because we can afford it. Literally.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 08:17 PM
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Perfectly cool with it. Seems overall healthier for the planet, and for kids to actually be wanted. It doesn't serve anyone if people are settling and miserable. Hopefully, workers will be more valued and paid better/have AI or robot options and be able to work less hours to enjoy a better life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/01/24 12:10 PM
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None that I can see, personally
/r/PurplePillDebate10/01/24 09:53 AM
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Wouldn't be weird to ask but I'd probably feel weirdly anxious about accepting 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 02:04 PM
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Child support is for the benefit of the child, mostly so the taxpayers don't get roped in supporting your kid. It's not a punishment. Don't want a kid ? Use protection. Don't fuck women who want/can have kids or are opposed to abortion. Minimize risky behavior like one night stands. Want a 100% guarantee of not being a dad ? Practice what men have told women to do for decades: abstain.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/24 11:10 AM
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Given the behavior of incels and mgtow who somehow are still pathologically obsessed with women, I'm sure there's not risk of men in general suddenly deciding they're not interested in dating. As to "keeping" a man - 1) no one should be taken for granted anyway and 2) I'm sure the risk of him leaving to be single is no higher than the risk of him suddenly deciding he wants to bang the 20yo barista after she gave him her number. It's the same as "you're gonna get replaced by an AI girlfriend" - n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/24 04:58 PM
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Yes, they're olympic gold medalists in mental gymnastics And no I'm not even joking. They want all the privileges of having a woman wait on them hand and foot but she also has to contribute 50/50 financially so he can be reassured she's not a gold digger after his $8/h
/r/PurplePillDebate07/01/24 10:18 AM
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Maybe where you live but most people where I live work about 40h a week. In my past situation, my mom's and the friend who's currently in it, all the women out earned the men and worked more hours especially with commute factored in. We were/are all still going 90% of the chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/01/24 08:07 AM
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Only 31% of women said it was split equally so 69% said they were doing more, basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:26 PM
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Breadwinner to me means the highest earner of the two, regardless of how many hours worked - did I get this wrong ? (i'm not a native speaker) I do agree if both work full time (also factoring some other context like wfh, commute) then they should contribute equally to household chores and childrearing so both have the same amount of free time and disposable income. That's fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:24 PM
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Spend 1h on mom /working mom subreddits or even relationship subredddits and it's clear that this is a recurring issue. I've been in this situation in the past (minus kids). Two or three female friends of my boyfriend have been or currently are in this situation as well. My own mother was. It's something that's very common. Nowadays women are expected to pay half or they're gold diggers but men are far far from contributing half of the household chores and child rearing. Essays have actually bee…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/01/24 03:21 PM
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And they also shower and brush their hair ! How unoriginal !
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:41 PM
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How are you, as a man, not the "basic" version of other men. Please, do enlighten us as to how you are better.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:39 PM
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As the hive mind I vote for "he never gets laid again"
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:38 PM
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Meanwhile you meet men and realize he probably also has an iPhone and when you ask him what he likes to do for fun he'll probably also mention travelling (or fishing/hunting or cars). Women don't lack personality any more or less than men do. You just think what they like is stupid or not worth consideration/attention. News flash, many women think hunting, fishing and cars are also stupid. Of course cursory bios or 5 minute talks don't give you a good idea of the depth of someone's character - y…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/24 12:36 PM
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I mean... no more/less than most men have to offer a "high-value" woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/24 09:31 PM
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Lol you think most guys bother to take their gfs out to dinner ? Without whining about how she's a gold digger if she doesn't split the bill ? I'm sure a decent career on the woman's part and a dildo combo with the AI boyfriend will do better than the average real dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:08 AM
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Not if you want kids (unless you have crazy amounts of money to rent-a-womb and buy eggs from a donor)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 11:06 AM
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I think older single women have always been stigmatized- just look at the origin of the word "spinster" or what the origins of the "witch" are. In both cases, they're single women who have power in the sense that they're not dependent on a man - and the patriarchy turned one into basically an insult, and burned the others at the stake. Society deeply hates older single women especially if they chose this path - just look at all the comments under this post. Not one man thinks a woman can be cont…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/23 10:29 AM
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Depends what flavor of ND and how much it impacts their life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/23 04:55 PM
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I mean why would I be afraid of being tossed by such a man when I wouldn't touch him with a ten foot pole in the first place ?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/23 08:00 AM
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I mean I'd rather do that than be a man's 24/7 maid, nurse, broodmare and sex toy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:33 AM
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"Forced" to work 100%
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/23 05:32 AM
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don't marry a man for his potential or you'll be inevitably disappointed is like dating 101
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 02:52 PM
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Men are more than happy to have a partner who splits bills equally now but somehow women wanting to split household chores and childrearing makes them bad ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/12/23 07:41 AM
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39.45%
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 07:21 PM
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At this point I'll take anything I can get
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 02:58 PM
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If you are arguing (not you you but "you" as in Americans who believe this stuff) that life begins at conception and a woman cannot abort then child support should begin at conception too. The mother will incur medical expenses because of the pregnancy, potentially loss of income if she is ill and will have to start buying things for the baby (clothes, bedding, diapers, bottles, car seat if she has a car, possibly a stroller and some toys, formula etc) - all things pro-life daddy can contribute …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 02:57 PM
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I'd prefer a confident balding guy (who maybe shaves his head entirely to make it looks better) over a guy who has very noticeable plugs, or wears hats or a bad combover all the time because he can't accept that he's balding. Once the plugs are no longer noticeable I assume I would not be aware of it and wouldn't mind overmuch but wouldn't on its own make it more appealing than a balding guy who has a better personality
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:32 AM
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I'm not a fan in general (reconstructive surgery excluded) mostly because of what it says about the person. I think it would be alright if it was a small one off and not obvious thing. Like a tastefully done nose job. The minute you start going full Ken-doll I'm out. It doesn't even look good anymore it looks ridiculous and slightly pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 09:30 AM
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I am in Europe and while it IS common, you do it at the beginning of a relationship before getting down with your new partner. I've never heard or seen it done yearly here unless it's an open relationship or something
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/23 06:19 AM
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She could ask for a yearly STD test from him instead. It's not as bad as implying that not only she cheated but she's also committing paternity fraud but it's something
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 08:21 PM
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That's fair I haven't run into it either outside of Reddit (I'm also in Europe so this may be a factor). Ironically all my male colleagues are married with multiple kids (and they're no super models or crazy earners) while all the women, while not all single, are not married/have no kids. We're all early to late thirties. IRL from what I've seen everyone struggles a little. The ones who've struggled the most that I know have been women who couldn't find a decent guy to settle down with and are n…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 07:28 PM
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I think it's a combination of these things yes, with their expectations being off also about dating (not just how living with their partners will work). They feel entitled to women just for having a job and an apartment and get bitter when a woman doesn't fall in their lap. It probably WAS easier in the early 1900s but times have changed. I think many struggle with it because it means letting go of some sense of entitlement/privilege and that's never easy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:53 PM
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I do
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 06:17 PM
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I get that not being able to achieve your goal of having a partner and a family can make a man unhappy, however what am I supposed to do about it ? Women have fought for their rights and have "evolved". Men have mostly stagnated and refused to make the necessary adjustments as this means giving up some of their male privilege i.e. they think it's cool she's now paying for half the stuff but don't see why they now have to do half the chores and child rearing. Men need to get up with the times and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 05:34 PM
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Given the articles these two authors write - all pro marriage, pro children and quite conservative if the titles are anything to go off of - I'd definitely take this with a grain of salt. It's easy enough to manipulate data and they definitely have an agenda/something to gain from pushing pro-natalist propaganda
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/23 03:15 PM
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We've discussed it jokingly with my partner. He'd only consider being one for someone who makes waaaay more than I do and I'd only be willing to have one if I made way more than I currently do (and you better believe my standards for a house husband would be through the roof) - no kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 05:16 PM
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I wouldn't because I trust him. If I didn't I'd just leave.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 10:31 AM
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LOL no. But please feel free to share all these scientific studies done by non crack jobs to substantiate your claim
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/23 08:30 AM
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Easy - sperm bank. And still - you'd be contributing 50% of the genetic material but she's contributing the other 50% plus 100% of the "work" (being pregnant and giving birth which are no joke) so by your logic your say should be minimal. In fact, the kid should probably have her last name, not yours. I'm mostly picking at you - don't even want kids personally but I think it also show how "keeping score" can be toxic. If you're not satisfied with your partner's contributions to the relationship …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:32 PM
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Yeah and I take care of my own car and handle finances so... you're making stuff up too ? We're talking about hypotheticals here - I merely pointed out that traditionally male gender roles, while potentially more physically demanding, are overall less time consuming. You can't equate "I take the car to the mechanic once a year" to cooking dinner every night. Or taking out the trash to doing laundry or house cleaning. The woman grows the child so does she have 95% say on any decisions pertaining …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:18 PM
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If he wears shirts to work and she has to iron them every week or drop off and pickup his suits from the drycleaners that's still extra work on the laundry side, and it does occur more frequently than mowing the lawn or cleaning gutters. I'm not sure sitting on a lawn mower or moving the couch once every two years can be considered "super physical". Side question - say she pays for 30% and he for 70% - how do you work with "well he gets 70% of the decision making power in the relationship then!"…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 05:06 PM
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I mean... my partner and I go 50/50 on everything (because we make similar money, we actually split in proportion to our income). As to the tasks... all the ones you listed you also have to take time into account. Let's say no kids. She's probably doing at least 2 loads of laundry per week, that's sorting and loading the machines, possibly ironing, folding and putting away or hanging stuff to dry plus possible trips to the dry cleaners for odder items. Cooking can easily at least 1h/day if not m…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/23 04:10 PM
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I'm supposed to care ? I don't have to justify my icks. Tate/Musk dude bros and conservatives are an ick.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 11:39 AM
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Abortion not aside. I'm not fucking a guy who's against abortion, ever. And conservatives are generally pro forced birth and more religious Oh right - another ick : a devout christian/catholic or whatever religion.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/23 07:26 AM
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no sense of logic / lack of basic reasoning skills weaponized incompetence farts or burps at the dinner table poor hygiene crude jokes or inappropriate behavior, poor table manners like chews with his mouth open conservative / Tate/Musk loving dude bro repeatedly puts himself down or whiny if I say no to something his job is to"landlord" or he has no job or he's the cliché "CEO/businessman" lives with his parents / has never had a serious relationship before too much social media pornsick party …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 08:18 PM
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I agree, but it usually takes a while to get there unless your family raised you this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/23 09:11 AM
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It happens a lot. My parents moved 9h away from me and have no interest in little kids. Thankfully I don't want any of my own but if I did am I just supposed to follow them there where there's no jobs for me ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 01:29 PM
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I feel like the whole "women hate vulnerable men" also completely discounts context. It's not even socially acceptable for women to be vulnerable/emotional in some situations. I feel like most well adjusted women would not mind their partner opening up and being vulnerable much less think less of him for doing so. It tends to bring healthy partners closer together, actually and shows good communication among other things. What about all those cases where a guy was vulnerable and got dumped/ghost…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 08:17 PM
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Exactly and yet it's devalued/taken for granted and THAT's the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/23 09:29 AM
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It's also clearly their personality that's the issue but they'll blame anything else "oh I'm too short/ugly/poor" or hypergamy or dating apps sucking or women being delusional in terms of what they can pull (or that they wouldn't be better off alone rather than with them)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 06:44 PM
1

So is entitlement
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/23 09:00 AM
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Lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:53 PM
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Oh dear how do single women buy cars, ever, without a man to hold their hand !?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:31 PM
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They were still dependent on their father's wealth then and come on - models ? What % of women were models !?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 04:22 PM
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I think the issue is calling it "settling". No one is perfect. People make decisions on staying with a partner or not (or giving them a chance) based on a multitude of reasons - it can depend on how they were raised and socialized, their culture, peer or parent pressure, their own past experiences, their age, their goals etc. Ultimately if they pick a partner they are happy with, even if that partner doesn't fit the criteria for what "society" or reddit or whatever other "authority" thinks they …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:31 PM
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Because historically men had to date "down". How can he date up when she can't have a job or bank account ? When she can't inherit ? When she can't own real estate or go to college ? Now women can have all those things - why should she settle ? How many men nowadays get all insecure if their female partners is better educated than them or out earns them ? They want a woman who works and is educated just "not quite as much" as they are so they can still feel like the man and justify making her do…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 02:07 PM
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Men care though
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 07:36 AM
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Then don't complain when women treat all men with caution
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/23 08:40 PM
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That or he took her for granted after minimal effort and when she complained for the 2000th time that he didn't take out the trash which is his only task around the house, she snapped and left. And he somehow thinks it's because he didn't take the trash out that one time.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:14 PM
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It's FOMO and peer pressure, not anything hormonal or biological.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:25 PM
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I mean when you see posts where a woman is sooo happy her new partner actually showers on a regular basis... yeah the bar is suuper low
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:24 PM
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Trick is not to want kids - then there's pressure to settle for some subpar person just to have kids (which is were you should be the pickiest anyway).
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 02:21 PM
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Because the alternative for women at the time was living on the street as they were not allowed to own real estate or have their own bank accounts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 11:16 AM
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How ? You plan on buying her a car before the first date?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 10:19 AM
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We're going back to "damned if you do and damned if you don't " Earn less than a man, "Gold digger ! You only want me for muh money ! You owe me for providing for you ! It's so stressful being the provider I can't be bothered to do dishes !" Earn more than a man "muh masculinity !" I'd still rather earn more. At least I'm free to leave if he gets insufferable to live with.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/23 07:41 AM
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I mean I 100% agree but I'm wondering if OP is open to that
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 08:15 PM
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What if you accidentally get pregnant and the guy refuses to marry you ? What if he divorces you after ? You'll still be a single mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 07:07 PM
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Probably not but it would be a case by case - I wouldn't settle in any case college degree or not
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 03:09 PM
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It means involuntary celibate - doesn't mean involuntary virgin
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:54 PM
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I just don't think any obsession is healthy if it's so bad you can't maintain relationships, maintain a healthy bank account or your house clean. Or if your team loses you get snappy and depressed for a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:40 AM
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You just want someone who aligns with your lifestyle- assuming you also don't have debt and 10s of exes around. Nothing wrong with that
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 01:48 PM
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even an incel can hire a prostitute - virginity has nothing to do with it. A guy can have been married a couple years in his early 20s and a raging incel after 15y of no one wanting him after his divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/23 07:57 AM
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Or love women unconditionally either as evidenced by how many men leave when their partners get ill
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 07:18 PM
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done
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:38 PM
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this is pretty much me but you phrased way better than I would have haha
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 05:25 PM
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Tired of doing the majority of the housework while also working more hours and bringing in more money when the guy can’t even bothered to at least be agreable to hang out with
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 01:20 PM
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Same with adulting, having a job and not living with your parents to be honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/11/23 09:35 AM
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Right so women not being allowed to own property for example… nothing to do with needing a man (either their father or a husband) to not become homeless ?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:51 PM
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Probably because women are less likely to kidnap, rape and murder the guy no matter how creepy she is
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 09:33 PM
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Nah A mamma’s boy is typically a man who has an unhealthy relationship with his mother either (i) because she babies him and does everything for him while also excusing any nasty behavior of his because “precious baby booooy” or (ii) she’s horribly invasive and basically inserts herself into all of his relationships with women because she’s at best super possessive of him because she gave birth 35 years ago or at worst viewing him almost as a replacement husband and is super jealous of any woman…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 04:52 PM
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Thanks for the laugh ! How about all these men were raised by women because THEIR FATHERS deserted them How about most women are teachers because MEN moved out of teachers for better paying jobs and teaching became one of the very few jobs open to women
/r/PurplePillDebate27/10/23 02:40 PM
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Don’t forget body count, “pair bond” or somehow insinuating that men have it worse than women (also mention of MRA or how marriage is a trap and divorce courts favor women etc
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 03:47 PM
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Misogyny and entitlement. A lot of guys who complain about being ugly aren’t really ugly. Nothing good hygiene and maybe a change of clothes or haircut wouldn’t help. Most people men or women are average by definition. But you read what these dudes write on reddit or you see what subs they follow/post in and their views of women, and most of it is abhorrent. It makes them ugly on the inside. If they let any of that slip (and they usually do) to women they rub shoulders with, or on a first date w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 09:38 AM
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Okay that is not at all the norm where I live xD
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 01:52 PM
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Acknowledge how ? Assuming there are no little old ladies asking to cut a line and no doors to open. Do you nod and smile to every stranger you walk by on the street ? Small talk from the guy next to you on the bus/train/plane ? If you’re just out and about there’s not always a way to acknowledge people aside from not stepping on their feet. And yes, this could definitely be a cultural thing because I’m not from the South much less the US
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 11:23 AM
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The vast majority of people, men and women, treat strangers politely neutrally but neutrally. So what is the issue with women supposedly not “respecting” men !? They are not people “of consequence” if you’re just passing them by on the street and don’t get automatic smiles or deference or attention and that seems to be the problem. I’m conscious of them as in I don’t bump into them and I’ll hold a door but I don’t necessarily give them prolonged eye contact much less engage in chit chat/conversa…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 08:52 AM
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Lol come on, unless you’re a celebrity no one treats you like more than a NPC if you’re a stranger on the street. It has nothing to do with being an average guy. Do you see random women treating eachother as more than NPCs on the street ? Do you see hot guys getting trailed around by random women ? Pretty sure women are fine with being treated as NPCs vs you know, getting harassed, catcalled or assaulted. Not having random men approach you when you’re out and about as a woman is a good thing not…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/23 06:02 AM
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Hence you deserve no respect if you think someone looking at you wrong deserves to be punched in the face. Wtf is wrong with you ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 08:53 PM
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Thanks - it’s not from me, and I’ve seen it on reddit before mostly to explain (US) cop behavior but I think it fits here too
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:53 PM
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I read this once : “Sometimes people use "respect" to mean "treating someone like a person" and sometimes they use "respect" to mean "treating someone like an authority" and sometimes people who are used to being treated like an authority say "if you won't respect me I won't respect you" and they mean "if you won't treat me like an authority I won't treat you like a person" and they think they're being fair but they aren't, and it's not okay.” My guess is this is what you see in the manosphere. …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:25 PM
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Yes, nothing to do with men keeping them out of the workforce for centuries or refusing to hire them for manual labor and such.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:19 PM
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Do you do anything positive for anyone else ? Why do you think you are entitled to strange women going the extra mile for you because you’re a man ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:17 PM
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What is “respect” exactly ? Where am I encountering this average man ? Pretty much everyone is treated with basic respect/politeness be they men or women. Does respect mean I have to give him a chance if he asks me out ? That I have to be friendly instead of coolly polite ? That I somehow have to be sexually attracted to him or overly invested in his dating plights ? I’m confused by your question. I feel like you’re mistaking “deference” for “respect”. I respect everyone unless they behave in a …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:14 PM
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What ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:15 AM
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I feel sad for your mom
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:14 AM
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Truthfully I hope I’ll be dead before that happens because I don’t think fucking desperate men will make them good people nor would I do it anyway. Men can put in the work and better themselves so they become attractive partners if they want one
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:11 AM
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I mean… women who want to be childfree just find childfree partners so it wouldn’t prevent men who want kids to find women who want kids as well ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 07:08 AM
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Given the high number of men who weaponize incompetence, I have my doubts. That or they just lack any capacity to adapt/imagine new ways of showing they are competent.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 11:55 AM
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Yea
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:52 AM
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I mean from a BMI perspective she’s probably borderline obese (happens waaay earlier than you’d think ask me how I know 🥲). It doesn’t mean she’s not pretty/attractive though but objectively yeah she is also fat. I’m a woman by the way
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:51 AM
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Based on your other comments, thank you ! On behalf of all women.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:49 AM
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Or maybe he’s just not gay enough 😉
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:42 AM
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Oh no ! Anyway…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:37 AM
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I feel like “pay a surrogate” would be more relevant than “adopt” here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 07:17 PM
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Then leave women alone 🤷🏼‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 03:23 PM
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Nah you also introduced physical violence where there was none mentioned in OP’s post. You seem unhinged and pretty much like the hypothetical guy OP describes.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 02:29 PM
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I guess it’s a threat assessment then. A random woman is less likely to hurt you than a random guy
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:58 PM
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And yet many women manage to speak to other women or men without coming off as creepy. It’s not that hard to be polite and have awareness of your surroundings and the other person’s body language before and after you approach them. It’s also not that hard to not have a mantrum/turn into a stalker when you hear the word “no”.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 01:11 PM
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STDs are also a matter of serious gravity 🙃 but good to know you’re a hypocrite !
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 12:31 PM
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100% agree
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 11:14 AM
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Unless it’s from a one night stand or there’s a history of mistrust I wouldn’t like the implication of it. It would be easier if it were just mandatory vs something the guy asks (especially if it’s after getting pregnant or giving birth). The only way I’d be cool with it is if he produces a yearly STD test that he’s clean in exchange. My guess is he’d be offended by the implications of that and better understand how his own request is hurtful. I understand you can never be sure, but realisticall…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/10/23 10:56 AM
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Someone who can have serious conversations and doesn’t believe vaccines are a trick from Satan or the communists to track your ass. Doesn’t have to be intelligence in the sense of multiple degrees but general logic, good head on their shoulders type of thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 12:17 PM
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Lack of evolution.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/23 09:22 AM
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We do 50/50 because our incomes are similar enough. If one of us ends up earning much more than the other, we will do it pro rata
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 12:05 PM
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He wants them to fuck him first, then it’s ok.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 02:33 PM
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I watched like 10 seconds of that vid and felt so uncomfortable on her behalf. He is very clearly a creep.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 03:07 PM
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r/menandfemales
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 10:55 AM
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Being bi would be irrelevant to me, all that matters is how compatible we are and how we treat eachother
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 09:43 AM
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It’s hard to see overweight men in relationships when he never gets out of the basement
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/23 02:54 PM
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This sounds more like he left because she was on video and there was a record of this/other people were watching than any sort of respect for her wishes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:08 PM
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Guys who can’t even wipe their own ass end up a relationship and it’s just crazy to me. A lot of women have negative self esteem apparently.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/09/23 04:01 PM
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That are often given to them by men no less 🙄
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 08:08 PM
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Maybe calling women bitches is why. Or maybe your hair is super greasy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/23 11:40 AM
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For the same reason some women voted for Trump or are devoutly religious: the average person is pretty stupid and easily manipulated.
/r/ExRedPill19/09/23 07:51 PM
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He makes a bit less than me, is basically my height, normal build and very chill and super smart - a respectful partner who actually manages his own life and cooks 99% of the time. He’s perfect. I’m probably very far from the RP “ideal” for feminity and I’m glad of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 07:33 PM
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I currently am dating a man who makes less than me, all of my past partners have as well - so yes. Current partner is the closest to my income and I’d probably stick to that or be quite careful because my ex was basically a “gold digger” - I definitely felt unloved and that he only stayed with me because I provided him with a comfortable life. As to unemployed, not necessarily a deal breaker but I would definitely be asking questions/monitoring the situation. It’s sometimes understandable and so…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/23 07:57 PM
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Assuming I keep my current confidence/knowledge which I did not have when I was early 20s, I’d set up a pretty detailed dating app profile and look for likewise detailed bios and compatible lifestyles only swiping right on those. I’ve never met men organically for dating and I’m not really social so while apps have their negatives, I’d still use them. Typically I match with a few guys and very quickly conversation either flows (focus on those) or fizzles out. I’d ask to meet up within a week-ish…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 02:11 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 03:00 PM
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I have no idea. I’m not into casual stuff and while I can see the physical attractiveness of some men it doesn’t do anything for me until I actually know them. So… I guess I’d be friends with them and then date one to see if we work out. If not move on to the next one and just stay with him
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 02:57 PM
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Yeah my partner was approached by all of his gfs including me so it definitely happens
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/23 07:03 PM
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To be fair even the “massive incentives” to birth a child are still a net negative in terms of costs - raising the kid will cost a lot more. On top of that even a lot of Western countries haven’t offset the negative impact of children on women’s lives (impact on their career and earning potential, health issues, mental load, availability and cost of daycare etc) I believe in Asia the no birth movement is not only for economical reasons but also because mothers are treated like second class citiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:36 AM
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Why would any woman stay with a guy who makes her do everything when she can get better/be single ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/23 06:14 AM
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I’m not denying you might be more likely to divorce if you’ve had more partners because it’s a better frame of reference for what you actually like/tolerate in a partner - same with previous kids, it’s clearly going to be a strain + dealing with an ex partner It’s just the “pair bonding” wording is ridiculous. And funnily enough, no one mentions anything about effects of promiscuity on men and divorce. Yeah women divorce more now no shit - they can actually afford houses and have jobs vs having …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 07:31 PM
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IMO they just want a clueless virgin so she won’t leave their ass because she doesn’t realize there are better men out there who’ll actually make them cum
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:51 PM
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Same, every time I see “pair bonding” my brain goes “found the incel !” and I just immediately drop the conversation/don’t both responding further
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 05:24 PM
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Not saying you’re religious I was just using it as an example (in fact I’m not religious either). I mean your point of view is fair and not unreasonable at all but hey, this is reddit, you get unhinged idiots commenting all the time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:30 AM
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It probably depends how you word it. “I am a virgin and I would like my partner to be as well because it makes me more comfortable/it shows my faith and I want someone who shares the same faith” is WILDLY different from “I’m a virgin and a I want a virgin wife because any woman who’s had a dick in her that’s not mine is a used up wh*re who lost her ability to pair bond” (🤮)
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 10:05 AM
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This is it. I can tell if someone fits the “objective” criteria of handsome. Absolutely does not mean I am sexually attracted to them or would bang them if they magically appeared in front of me for a coffee date.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/23 04:55 AM
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About as much a turn off a super religious people - both believe in something kind of crazy be it that the position of the stars in the sky when you were born influence your personality or that a sky daddy is watching you masturbate and planning on sending you to hell for it. Both show a lack of intelligence/ability to reason/think for themselves and/or excess gullibility IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/23 08:16 AM
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Lol no they’d be enslaved and gangraped by the men, used as broodmares to get more slaves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 01:50 PM
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Yep that’s where I was going with my comment. I’d probably off myself too.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 09:40 AM
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That lone woman for 100 men would likely be dead before she hit 12yo.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:24 AM
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Probably not because women can have the option of having babies via donors and can afford to live alone. If there were less men for more women, I’m guessing those men’s behaviors would be even more entitled and appalling than what we are seeing now, where the ratio of good men vs bare minimum or under is already abysmal so women would probably STILL compete for a select decent few or eventually turn away from dating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:22 AM
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I don’t think it hugely matters - this is the sex ratio at birth - it varies depending on ages, countries etc… the sex ratio in retirement homes is vastly different for example. I believe the theory was that there are slightly more men at birth because they tend to die more (more dangerous lifestyles) so it evens out in adulthood.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:18 AM
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They want a virginal maiden who somehow turns into a freak in the sheets but just for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 08:04 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 06:16 AM
4

To be fair I feel like women should be more selective - they have a lot more to lose, and are taking a lot more risk, than their male counterparts when getting into relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/23 05:52 PM
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100% agree I’d bet a small body part on the fact that the reason the vast majority of women initiate divorces (when it’s not the man who does) is not to get the guy’s money but just get rid of him and no longer have to take care of an additional child who thinks he’s entitled to her free labor, sex and health.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:19 PM
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r/whenwomenrefuse
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 04:10 PM
0

Female women ? As opposed to what ? Female men ? Male women ? 🤨 Anyway I don’t walk around hoping to attract male attention so I wouldn’t care at all about none of the guys in your example being interested. I wouldn’t go talk to a complete male man stranger
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/23 06:56 PM
0

But only the sons, right ?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:33 PM
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This is a good way to put it. If I concentrate my focus on a random guy I can tell if he’s conventionally attractive or not but either way it does nothing for me and I don’t walk around staring/judging people’s looks. I only become attracted once I get to know them and like what I discover - regardless of whether or not they are conventionally attrative at first glance or not. Edit: I notice women the same say like ooh she has a cute dress or I loooove her hair ! But there’s zero attraction atta…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:24 PM
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Who blows and fucks a guy to pretend to be a pick-me as an experiment ? Has to be a troll/fake
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:09 AM
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Or just wildly overshared/trauma dumped on a virtual stranger. I’d get the ick if a woman did the same when I barely know her
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/23 01:36 PM
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Yea because only men who have bugatis get laid/married/a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:50 PM
2

I mean yeah if he wired me a huge chunk of money on a bank account and I had to only spend a day with his bullshit, a straight up one shot transaction and I get to go home to my own place at 6pm. Wouldn’t sacrifice years to this, or go through a marriage + divorce to get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 10:54 AM
2

No.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 10:51 AM
3

I feel like for an educated woman, Kyles are better than Chads anyway. I don’t want some highpowered playboy who’s married to his job and bangs his secretary
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:28 AM
1

Thing is, men might not care or it might turn them off but I don’t care about their opinion because financial independence is my ticket out if the relationship turns to shit. I’d rather have a job than depend on a man, and I’d rather have a high paying job than one who might not intimidate an insecure man that way I can live comfortably
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:25 AM
4

It drives me insane that no one says anything in France about how disgusting that is. She was his TEACHER and had a kid in the same class as him. How are you even attracted to a 15yo as a 40yo ? 🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 09:17 AM
2

Because that’s what you need to make to have a decent life on one salary these days… a family can’t really live - survive maybe, at best - on 50k/year
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:28 PM
33

But somehow their penises don’t whittle down to matchsticks no matter how many partners they have. The vagina one is always hilarious to me - like they’re saying a girl who has sex three times with 3 different guys is looser than a married lady who had sex with her husband hundreds of times. It makes noooo sense 🤣
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:42 PM
10

My theory is that these women probably have enough experience and frame of reference to know what they want/don’t want, will/will not put up with a partner and aren’t afraid to leave a guy if he makes her miserable. So it’s fear from those men driving that argument, not any amount of logic or science-y reasoning.
/r/ExRedPill30/05/23 04:39 PM
3

We’re talking “young men” - what is that demographic exactly ? Are we comparing the singleness of male and female 21yo for example ? Or is the age range 21-25 ? 21-30 ? The narrower the demographic the easier it is to have the single/couple between sexes ratio be skewed. Say we’re only comparing 21yo of both sexes: - women tend to date a bit older (if not a lot older) so realistically a lot of 21yo women could be dating 18-30yo guys and counts as “coupled up” while 21yo guys would be less likely…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 06:37 AM
12

I feel like these days people forget how quickly you can be objectively (BMI) obese (unless you’re a professional athlete where muscle mass flaws BMI). In a lot of people’s minds “fat” = my 600lb life morbidly obese but anything less severe than that is “curvy” or something Now in terms of attractiveness some people wear it better than others depending on how tall or well proportioned they are.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:29 PM
1

I’m sorry you’re right I’m dumb it’s not like you’d ever get a partner or have them love you enough to offer an organ so it’s a moot point
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:35 AM
1

Not a dumb question, just ascertaining whether or not you’re a hypocrite
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 11:29 AM
5

If she’s not working because she is not allowed to or just has a side hustle making very little money and/or expected to be the only one cleaning house, cooking, taking care of children then it is fair that she doesn’t pay rent because 1) she can’t afford it and 2) she’s doing everything else for no pay but this is more of a “if you want a traditional wife you need to be able to afford it/be ok with paying for everything”. Most women in western societies (not all but most) wouldn’t go for a trad…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:59 AM
6

It’s a normal thing if you’re in a serious relationship wanting to move forward. In a healthy relationship you discuss finances and split things equitably. You might say “okay any opinions on how we should split/handle rent” to see what she thinks/wants instead of outright asking her for half (say if you are a couple years older with a good job and she is a student with a shitty part time job) but that’s about it. It’s not at all weird to talk about these things before moving in together, in fac…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:54 AM
6

I mean only if he expects me to stay at home, not work and clean house for him (pass). If we’re both working similar hours for a similar pay we’re splitting rent and chores. As for roommates well I don’t live with people who aren’t my partner nor do I sleep with them, so no chance I’ll be confused
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:51 AM
3

We split rent 50/50 with my partner. We’ve agreed to split depending on income. If I end up making like a third more than him I’ll pay 75/25 and vice versa. The only case where I would refuse to pay rent (but would split utilities) is if he is the owner and I’d essentially be paying his mortgage without being on the deed because he’s not my landlord. Edit: there are other situations where I wouldn’t pay rent but they don’t concern me/haven’t occurred yet such as: - both agree the wife will be a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:48 AM
1

Would you accept an organ from your partner though ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:35 AM
3

In my experience it’s often the inside that’s more problematic than the outside unless they don’t bother with basic hygiene. So I’d say 70%+ ?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 08:37 AM
2

People and their standards also change over time, it's normal. My "standards" have evolved a lot since my early twenties partly because I also evolved a lot as a person (I have also evolved on anxiety, independence level and political views) partly because I have different goals/think about things that would never have occurred to me then, partly because I lived and learned. Does it mean that I settled for my current partner ? Absolutely not. If I thought I wanted candy, tried candy and realized…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/23 11:59 AM
2

It’s mostly 50/50 for me on good texters = good dates. Seems like less of a risk imo to go on a first date with a good texter and hope they’re consistent in person than go on a date with a bad texter who you don’t really click with because they’re a bad texter and hope to god they’re inconsistent and somehow carry great conversations in person
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:15 PM
2

Because that’s not how I roll. I’d probably message them the next morning or after getting home to say I had a good time, if I want to see them again. So if they leave me on read for a day it kind of sours it for me. Again; this is just my preference, like I said I only go on dates with guys who I consistently text back and forth with for several days and who aren’t bad texters so why would they suddenly not write after a good first date ? It wouldn’t be consistent with their prior behavior so I…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 06:09 PM
2

Hence the quotation marks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 05:10 PM
2

When I OLDed I didn’t go on dates with men unless we texted quite a bit over a few days, usually however many were left until the weekend (or the following weekend). If the guy “ghosted” me and were radio silent for 24hrs + after a date, I’d probably assume he’s not interested and move on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/23 04:55 PM
7

Isn’t that true of any relationship? You “love” your friends for how they make you feel because of who they are. Your friends are funny and make you feel happy for example. If your friends brought nothing positive to your life you’d either not be friends or have a dysfunctional relationship. Men also value their girlfriends for how they make them feel (proud, manly, loved) and what they can provide (an extra salary, physical affection, sex, support…) All love is conditional and it goes both ways…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/23 07:50 AM
1

Or maybe even if they realize the man they want will be very hard to find, they’d rather be alone than in an unfulfilling relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/23 01:59 PM
2

First of all, given that it’s basically impossible to survive on one income these days, especially with kids, women need to be providers too. Second of all, unless you can afford plastic surgery, you can’t really change how you look, so it’s a lot of luck. A lot of money for skincare and makeup, clothes and a lot of time and sacrificing to stay fit. Not to mention some people think it’s pointless after 30 years old. I find it much easier to have a high paying job than be physically attractive to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/23 02:45 PM
1

I think all the wives who have to get a job because their family cannot make ends meet on their husband’s salary alone would disagree with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/23 02:53 PM
9

Your reasoning applies to accomplished women also. In both cases: companionship, and having a better time with this person than alone
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/23 05:56 PM
1

Yeah, like why even waste energy figuring out some sort of logic out of this nonsense ? I’d count my blessings the trash took itself out and move on
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 09:23 AM
6

“Sex is a duty” gee what woman wouldn’t jump up and down in excitement at this prospect.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 03:42 PM
9

This If you’ve had previous partners you at least have some frame of reference, good (this marriage could be better) or bad (why am I doing this again ?). Men want to marry virgin women before even living with them so they can con them into thinking she can’t get anyone better/that their shitty relationship is tolerable. Then they also complain when a sexually repressed woman doesn’t turn into a freak in the sheets just for them
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/23 10:18 AM
1

Nope. 1m doesn’t even buy a house where I live. I’d probably do it for 10million though
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/23 01:26 PM
8

You’re right. South Korea has been treating women and mothers in particular horribly and now they are crying about the “birthstrike” and the “four nos” (no sex no dating no marriage no kids) that women are adopting because they’re tired of being blamed for it all/have zero benefits to getting married and/or having kids Edit: aside from your comment on different sex drives which I disagree with - i think it varies on the individual not the gender and women in general may seem less sexual because …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/23 04:03 PM
1

As long as he was being safe and it’s not something he would need/want going forward while in a monogamos relationship with a woman, it wouldn’t be a factor in deciding to marry him (or not)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/23 10:38 AM
10

I mean… good ? Who wants to be married to a redpill dude ? 🤮
/r/ExRedPill15/01/23 06:40 PM
5

It was great (I’m in Europe, 30F for context). First consult was exactly one month before the surgery then 2 weeks of recovery because the doc was generous - no drugs except paracetamol and that was fine. Outpatient procedure done in a half day. No complications, no issues. I paid about €1000 total out of pocket as it wasn’t covered by insurance. Edit: doc tried a couple bingos like “oh but what if you meet another man who wants kids ?” (Then that man’s not for me) And “why want it if your curre…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 03:08 PM
9

Check out the doctor approved list on the childfree sub - i found one from there to do my bisalp despite my partner being already sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/22 02:53 PM
2

Tbh 30+ women are even less likely to settle - they’ve probably had shitty bfs in their 20s and have learned better not to mention they probably have a good career and money by then
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/22 04:35 PM
5

Probably more of a reddit bias - I haven’t answered this post as the OP specifies he wants single women to answer and I am not single but kids are an absolute dealbreaker for me as I am childfree and sterilized.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/12/22 11:11 AM
1

No
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 04:11 PM
2

They often change their behaviour after the woman moves in
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:59 PM
2

No. ~~ scrapped my first comment that was a mumbo jumbo If you plop a conventionally physically attractive guy in front of me, I can recognize that he is “attrative” (purely from the way he looks). However this is a very neutral statement for me, just like I’d recognize a nice looking tomato when I see one in the produce section at the grocery store. Sexual attraction or at least being attracted to a guy vs just seeing that the guy is (by all societal standards) attractive - I have never felt it…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 08:45 AM
2

Ok fair - I have nothing to say aside from “different people want different things, not every one is the same, not every one wants to move in with someone or get married or have kids” 🤷🏼‍♀️ It doesn’t mean you can’t be friends with, or respect casual partners even beyond a short term relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:19 PM
1

What do you call “casual dating”? Because even if you’re looking for a long term relationship it’s unlikely any relationship will start as anything less than casual because you don’t know if you’re compatible. The whole point of dating is to determine compatibility so you may go on several dates with multiple partners (even without sleeping with all of them) to weed out the ones you don’t feel anything with and narrow it down.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 08:04 PM
2

Sorry I don’t know how to quote you on the phone app - you do find groups of women who like the “dad bod” and such but in general aside from fandoms dedicated to a specific character or actor I don’t see many women congregating into groups online to drool over men (maybe i’m just not in the right circles ?). I’ve never seen a guy post complaining that his gf follows hundreds of hot guys on instagram for example and I wonder if this is tied to porn culture among other things - some women do watch…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 07:41 PM
1

On 3. I don’t think there’s zero risk - there’s never zero risk. We’re all complex human beings, we’re all imperfect and our values and morals can vary. If she loves you and is a decent person, if one of those guy friends makes her uncomfortable or makes a move, she will tell you and pull away from that friendship because she should value your relationship more -> she pulls away because she picks you, not you forcing her away. You discuss it and deal with it together because you’re on the same t…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 06:21 PM
1

Hey I just have a question re: her flirtatious nature - is she actually flirting with these men or is she just a nice person in general (to both men and women) ? To me it sounds like she could just have that “happy, smily, bubbly” personality type that is often misconstrued as being “flirty” when there’s no intent to actually flirt/seduce behind the interactions behind it.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 05:49 PM
1

Standing up for yourself is the exact opposite of being a wimp
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 04:51 PM
1

It’s totally okay to leave her, this is just unacceptable behavior on her part and she needs to work on herself before she’s ready to be in a relationship with someone after her ex if she’s bringing it up that often and hitting you. Everyone needs healthy standards/boundaries. If you’re not happy, have told her so and she’s unwilling to make an effort you should leave Edit: forgot a word
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 04:50 PM
1

Is it maybe because there are traits that are generally considered attractive over others ? I don’t know about % but I don’t see many men saying “I want a tall muscular woman” - beauty standards (societal) for women are generally petite and “soft” as in curvacious (actually curvy, not fat) or slim/fit in a way that is not too muscular. In the same way, societal beauty standards for men is generally “tall and muscular”. If you show a picture of a famous actor who fits these standards to women, mo…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 12:53 PM
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