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This post rings a lot of truth personally. Married 30 years - met at ages 15 & 16. Most of our marriage, husband has had mental illness issues (PTSD, OCD, manic/depressive behavior) that has effected his ability to be a Captain. He is studied in Red Pill but mood swings, consistent anger, and manic/depressive issues has prevented him from fully being Alpha. He tries but it does interfere with our relationship. Example would be, we received a letter from our storage facility that they are raising…
/r/RedPillWives18/11/20 05:22 PM
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Thank you for your thoughts. I have actually sent my husband some of your posts in the past as they speak of our relationship so much. Again, even wise words fall on his deaf ear. I know that alpha males are tough to crack and don't want to humble themselves to hear wisdom (at least that is what he has displayed). I just haven't been with someone who is humble enough to change, keep frame, and be the leader he needs to be. malfunctional things work, but not as they should This is our life now go…
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 05:08 PM
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Sounds like you are the one who wants to sweep your marriage issues under the rug. Most people would. This is the hardest thing I've gone through. I would love that it never happened but it did and I would like to face it now. He won't. I know you don't know me but I really, really want to talk to him about this and see if we can work it out. The last time I tried he got super defensive and started saying things like, "Just wait until your day of temptation comes"...."I'm not going to tell you a…
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 04:27 PM
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Have you asked him why he did that and why he is continuing to do this? Is there something you were or weren't doing to contribute to the problem? Yes, I did. He did say that it is nice to have an admirer. What is incredibly frustrating is that I admire him as well, tell him what things I admire, validate him, desire him but it goes on a deaf ear. I have really worked hard to make myself look good with clothes, weight loss, gym time, and hair care. Instead of saying how good I look, he will say …
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 04:06 PM
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Did you initiate often? We had been to couples counseling for sexual intimacy. I had some breakthroughs that for the first time was able to be comfortable initating and reallly enjoy being intimate. Most of my hang ups have been resolved. It has been around a year of really working on our sexual intimacy. That is why I said I thought things were getting better. Did you rebuff his advances? I used to but when we went through the counseling, that ended and I have not rebuffed for over a year. Did …
/r/RPChristians23/07/19 03:56 PM
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I have described recently to my family that I feel we are a family of trouts - swimming upstream against the current of society. We are a traditional family unit. I was married at 20 and started to have kids at 30 due to husband finishing college and we were just not in a settling down phase until 10 years into marriage. This is a great post as I think about this regularly now. I grew up with older parents (41 & 45 when I was born) so I was taught a lot traditional family values that were learne…
/r/RedPillWomen31/01/19 05:37 PM
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All your posts are fantastic! I admire your insight. I have sent this to my husband to read and have encouarged him to sign up for Reddit as there are a lot of good posts regarding RP philosophy. He definitely is a mix between Covert/Negative/Inverse validation. He was once diagnosed with Bipolar II but has since come off his medication as he believes his issues stem from PTSD from childhood trauma. He felt the medication stunted his emotions, personality, and made some things worse than better.…
/r/RPChristians23/01/19 05:42 PM
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Married 28 years. We started dating when I was 15 and he was 16, so my vetting was non-existent at 15, lol! My experience is interesting in that I started learning about red pill while my husband was learning about it at the same time and we both didn't know it. We started talking about RP one day and realized we had both been studying. I consider myself a "newbie" still even though I've been reading since last spring (I still have a lot to learn). So given that, I have been adopting RPW philoso…
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/19 10:26 PM
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What led you to the red pill in the first place? Long story but will shorten it. Maybe a year or so back, my husband had been using terms like "alpha", "beta" when talking about men. Looking back, I believe he had been reseaching articles and watching videos on the whole red pill philosophy but I didn't know what he was talking about at the time. We had entered into counseling back in Oct/Nov of 2017 for our sex life as we had just come from a year of no sex and both agreed we absolutely needed …
/r/RPChristians08/08/18 04:23 PM
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This is huge! Married 28 years and been together for 33. My husband came to me 5 years into the marriage confessing he was a sex addict. I didn't even know what that meant at the time. Fast forward to today, so many years wasted with me trying to control him, trying to figure out how to help him, tyring to figure out what was wrong with me. After 28 years, I swallowed the red pill. It has been very bitter at first but it is slowly taking on a sweet taste and I've put into practice respecting my …
/r/RPChristians07/08/18 09:35 PM
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read some erotica in the genre you're looking to play within That's a great idea! Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/18 05:59 PM
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I posted the link above. New to reddit, so hope I did it correctly.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 11:08 PM
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Link to the blog I read and where I'm getting my info from: Girl Game: The GFE
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/18 11:08 PM
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Thanks girlwithabike for being a great gatekeeper! How you said it is the feedback I'm looking for. Marriage or LTR is two people not one. What choices I make in my life DO affect him. I am seeing the choice to be fat is affecting him and I am making steps to change that.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 09:01 PM
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How much longer are you going to live a lie before you take charge of your life? I am currently taking charge. I appreciate your opinion, I do. I believe the therapy I've had over the years has helped me come to the point where I can take charge. Disagree or not, this has been my journey and I'm glad that I am making the choice to do something about it now.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:46 PM
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Thank you for being brutally honet. I do really appreciate the time and thought you took to respond. This is why I joined this group as I need a kick in the pants and honest feedback from women and men who are thinking straight. Not a response from the blue pill world. What I'm hearing from you, subconsciously, is that you're looking for excuses not to do the work. I can understand how you may come away from my post with this. I can make excuses and have. I'm changing that though. I posted to tr…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:41 PM
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Is your H overweight too? He used to be but then lost it and is at a healthy weight now. As a family, we are all working out and eating a healthy lifestyle. We are trying to instill this in our teens.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:34 PM
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Turning heads isn't your goal. Agree. Definitely, not my goal. Pleasing my husband is where it is at. I really do want to be esthetically pleasing to him.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:31 PM
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What do you appreciate about your husband? He is a very spiritual man that leads us spiritually as a family. Good conversationalist. He has an arthritic disease that has caused him great pain in the past but he still went to work day in and day out, so he is an excellent provider. He has a great sense of humor and can be downright goofy sometimes. He is active with working out, hiking, camping, off-roading. He takes care of himself with grooming, looking nice and keeping fit. What do you think h…
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:28 PM
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but you could be more attractive and more powerful if you lost weight. Thank you. I have experienced what that feels like three years ago when I lost 65 lb. I am working towards that again and to keep it off. Thanks for your encouragement!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:14 PM
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But he will DESIRE you more when you are thinner. Excellent point. He does love me but the desire has diminished. He will also respect you more, since controlling your weight a) shows self discipline and self respect, and b) shows you want to look good for him, which is a sign of love for him. That is a great way to keep a perspective on this. Thank you very much!
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/18 08:12 PM
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Can you tell us more about your life? Is your husband providing for you to the point that you don’t have to work for income? I wish but not that fortunate. I work full-time and a mom of two busy teens. I started going to the gym recently and am seeing a registered dietitian. I do want to please my husband but can't seem to get the "he will only love me when I'm thinner" crap out of my head. I see that you snapped back about the how. You know how. I only answered quickly because I do know how and…
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 12:22 AM
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You look way smaller' just to spare your feelings because I'm not a butthole. I laughed so hard at this! This is very true and a good perspective. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/18 12:16 AM
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Wanting to know "why" not "how" from a RP perspective.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 09:32 PM
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Other than for the kids, please respond with why you want to be in this marriage--just typing it out may help you. He is a great spiritual leader. Knows Theology like a doctor knows the ins and outs of the human body. That is one of the main things that attracted me to him. Intelligent. He is a man that can talk for hours and carry on a conversation about pretty deep things. Communication has NOT been a weak point in our marriage. He is a nice looking guy (rugged type) who has been physically fi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 05:18 PM
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Our kids are aware. They know we have been to counseling but not for what. At this time and a lot of people may not agree or believe this, but there is something to be said for our kids watching us struggle but then work to make things better in our marriage instead of abandoning ship like a lot of people do even for more minor things than what we are dealing with. Since we try to maintain a halfway sane home without yelling, screaming, or any physical abouse, we feel it is better for our family…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:46 PM
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I appreciate very much your post. I just started reading the KJV and love it!! (Read other versions most of my life). I believe there can be poison in everything. I need to step up praising him when doing something good. I like the concept of re-circuiting his reward system :). I think he will always be drawn to porn. We have really stepped up our intimancy with frequency and creativity. He has noticied a decrease in needing porn and masturbation so much, so I think we are on the right track.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:14 PM
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Change your lifestyle, your eating habits, your exercise regime, when you start dropping those extra pounds then you will really see what it is like when men are truly looking at you! As mentioned in my post, I'm currently working on losing weight with seeing a registered dietitian and going to the gym. 70 lb is not healthy and not flattering....totally understand that. I'm not of the belief camp that obese is beautiful. I'm just saying that I have a lot of other assets that make up for the 70 l…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 04:06 PM
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First off, 33 years is a long time. If you're currently 48, it means you got married at 15. I didn't communicate that correctly. I have known my husband for 33 years (dated for 5) and have been married for 28 years. Got married at 20.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 03:43 PM
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Your insights are invaluable. I really appreciate your honesty and support. I am trying to build him up. I do have to swallow hard sometimes and find something to praise him about. I know that sounds harsh, but he has even admitted to me that he is hard to live with. He runs on full tilt most of the time. I will check into those books. I have listened to Laura Doyle and I had to shut her off. She sounds like she is actually coming from a feminist foundation IMO. Sorry, not a fan. I think I'm goi…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 02:12 AM
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I have. They are very new for me and even though we have been married for 28 years, our sex life has been pretty conservative, so I haven't seen this side of him. Thank you though for your thoughts and I do want to continue to be open and willing to try new things.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/18 02:02 AM
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For sake of not making the post longer than it is, the items I didn't get into are his family of origin issues of neglect, no affection, severe favoritism of one sibling from his parents that drove him into porn even before he met me. Since I am new to the red pill world, I am trying to help his apha side with supporting him going off alone and working out, hiking, etc. I also listen and value his opinion even when he is in an obsessed mode and can go on for hours on one topic. I support his dec…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/18 11:09 PM
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