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2	What was your "it's really over" moment? 2023 she told me she didnt love me. I kept trying with requests for counseling, date nights, etc. July 2024 we went on a trip to DC and busch, just the 2 of us. No conversation, no contact, no emotion... we were strangers sharing a room and car and meals. Walking near each other at the museums, usually not even that much. Thats when I knew without any doubt it was dead. Oct 2024 she started refusing dates, and refused any more counseling / therapy. Jan 2025 she moved out.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/11/25 09:09 PM
7	Financial shock Because for many states they use equitable distribution, not equal distribution. They want the woman to walk away with extra since the guy will continue making more in the future.	/r/Divorce_Men	11/11/25 11:11 AM
1	Figuring out what to do in regard to intimacy/sex? How long ago was the physical separation? Mine started beginning of 2025. I had and still have the exact same feelings for months. Anxiety amped it up. In moments of weakness I would hop on the apps to see whats out there, but I know Im not ready. When clarity returned, I was able to shut the nonsense back down. Combination of hormone therapy and wellbutrin is helping A LOT, much more zen about it now. I feel way more patient for next year when this is hopefully done. Meanwhile I am picking up o…	/r/Divorce_Men	12/05/25 07:26 PM
3	How to regain a purpose? Think long and hard about who you are in beliefs, values, and character. Align your purpose to that. Going through the same thing. Feel like my faith is shattered and trying to figure out what those beliefs are anymore.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/05/25 12:17 PM
1	Infidelity on both sides within 2 months NC is no fault, but spousal support can be eliminated for adultery. But adultery can be ignored if both did it, or if they are considered reconciled after admission, that is in cases of forgiven or condoned.	/r/Divorce_Men	04/05/25 12:43 AM
3	Outside of the gym, what are some healthy habits I could form to get me through this? Find a charity you like, become involved.	/r/Divorce_Men	02/05/25 09:14 PM
4	Is Alimony permanent? Fort Bragg? ...1yr separation is a NC rule. What I have read (not a lawyer) is that common NC practise is half the years of marriage. But after 20yrs, they might make it permanent if the judge has belief that the ex wont be able to recover before retirement age. So its pretty high chance of outcome for you, depending on your ex's whole situation (income making ability, etc).	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/25 07:51 PM
2	Uncontested divorce in motion, but grieving the emotional erosion I was also the one who was emotionally, financially, and socially carrying the work for our family (2 dau). I was worn down to the point where I resented her entirely. To the point where I was overwhelmed with the feeling that nothing I try in life matters. I let it go on way too long to try and save the dead marriage. Once we got to the point when she said she doesnt love me, it took me approx 1.5y to grieve and cut her out of my heart. Still dealing with depression and anxiety about future, bu…	/r/Divorce_Men	23/04/25 12:28 PM