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I’m not at all; I’m very open about who I am, who I was, and who I would like to be. I’ve just found that people who care enough to ask about how many people I’ve slept with have a different outlook on sex and relationships from myself so it’s not worth pursuing. If someone cares enough to ask on the first date, we’re not compatible
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:52 AM
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I’m not disagreeing with him at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 12:49 AM
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You have the right to want the kind of relationship where you want to know everything about your partner. I have the right to walk away from that sort of relationship. Different values and that’s okay. What’s not okay is shaming other people for their relationship preferences or trying to shove your preferences onto other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/23 08:02 PM
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Both looks and behaviour. It’s rare that men I interact with make me think “damn, I’d love to have sex with him” for any reason. Usually, I’m having sex because I love the person. I’d say slightly less than 5%
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/23 12:34 AM
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For me, there are a couple reasons. For one, attraction ebbs and flows and I don’t think it’s worth ending a relationship over a temporary dip in attraction. Also, love, companionship, friendship, and security are more important to me than attraction so I can give up a degree of attraction for that. I’ve also got to admit that most men don’t inspire raw sexual attraction to and even then, most I’ve been with aren’t particularly good in bed; to find that, I’m usually giving up other things that a…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/23 03:38 PM
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As a woman, other women. Even if there isn’t the safety aspect, there’s a good chance men will freeze me out, not take me seriously, or just see me as a domestic servant/bang maid. I have no desire for that. With other women, there’s more camaraderie, more companionship, and a high chance I’ll be taken seriously
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/22 01:12 PM
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First one, though I’d honestly prefer if he was shorter (I’m short so any taller than that sucks for me)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 02:34 AM
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Yeah, found out after the fact. Never again
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 02:14 AM
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Eh, i think there’s a balance. I appreciate that we’re trying to be more empathetic but I think we went too far that way. It’s possible to be empathetic and socially aware while still being self-sufficient
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 02:03 AM
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“You have such a soothing voice” as he was jerking off to me reading - I was 14 and he was 54(?)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/22 02:02 AM
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I think the issue I have with this concept is that it only looks at a select few metrics. I've found that women tend to want to date men who do better financially than they do. I've found men tend to want to date women who are more attractive than they are. There are other metrics that work similarly; there are areas in which guys tend to date up and areas in which girls tend to date up. I also find it tends to be a trade-off. I've found the average guy makes more than the average girl and the a…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/22 01:15 PM
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It would probably confuse me just because it's new/drastic. I'd probably continue to date them but it would take a good bit of getting used to. That being said, I have dated a few trans folk who didn't sound like they looked and it didn't bother me - it would be the shift that takes some getting used to
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:38 PM
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No. I don't give it a second thought until they're maybe 28ish and even then, I don't really put much weight into it until they're in their early 30s, at which point I'll probably have questions
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/22 07:36 PM
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My parents paid for both of our undergraduate degrees and they actually put slightly more towards my brother (I've been working since I was 15 so I paid for a lot of things myself whereas my brother didn't). Where I live, if your parents can't afford your undergraduate degree, the government is almost guaranteed to pay it for you, so that wasn't a concern for either of us, thankfully. They didn't push my brother to do something as prestigious because honestly, he just wasn't academically incline…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:44 PM
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In my family, it was also the oldest. Just happened to be a daughter
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 10:29 PM
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My parents wanted him to do well enough to support his future wife and kids. They were okay with him pulling Cs, as long as he got into university and got a job but they didn't really care what he did beyond that. My parents expected straight As from me. Wanted me to get into a top school and become a doctor but it was for the prestige. They never expected me to pay bills and don't believe I should be financially responsible for anything; they believe my hypothetical husband should fully support…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:26 PM
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Agreed. My parents always used the "boys mature slower" to excuse it but I do just believe it was because he was the youngest
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 04:20 PM
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Oh, absolutely. I think there are a lot of ways in which men are forced to mature more quickly than women and vice versa. My brother and I were raised pretty differently. My brother was never expected to do basic household chores, know how to cook/feed himself, take care of my parents, do well in school, etc. He was allowed to get away with throwing tantrums, being irresponsible, etc, well into his late teens whereas I was expected to be taking on adult responsibilities at 6 or 7. I was to make …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 02:42 PM
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In many cases, women are socialized to take responsibility on at a younger age than their male peers are. It's not that men naturally mature slower so much as it's an excuse for some to get away with things their female counterparts can't get away with
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/22 01:38 PM
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As the OP asked a question regarding personal preference, yes, I answered personally.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:41 AM
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Dude, you can do whatever you want. The OP and I were talking about commonly-encountered dealbreakers. I’m not telling you how to live your life; we were talking about the people we prefer to date. I could not care less about what you do with your career
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:26 AM
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It’s applicable in the trades and service industry as well as well. Apprentice to mechanic to lead mechanic; server to shift lead - take your pick. Again, didn’t say anything about becoming the next Zuckerberg. OP asked a question based on location and personal experience. I answered as such. I wouldn’t call that lacking ambition. That’s specifically why I grouped ambition/passion/interest in the world together. If you hate the current system, fair. Just be interested in something. Doesn’t have …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 10:19 AM
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You’re viewing everything I say negatively because you want to believe I’m attacking you. I’m not. How does upwards momentum contradict anything I’ve said? Upwards momentum means any sort of potential to grow. I’m not asking for a guy who’s going to end up the CEO at his company. I’m asking for the guy who maybe aims for a promotion or a pay raise once in a while. Go from an intern to business analyst to a senior business analyst or something; I don’t care. If you want to stay an intern for the …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 05:20 AM
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Can’t speak to where you live but lots of places are pretty open. I’ve played with guys who were 15 and guys who were 50 with a wife and kids. You’re never too old for that sort of thing. Recommend giving it a shot if you can find a good group
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:46 AM
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Can’t speak on red flags for other women but I don’t ask for anything I’m not doing. I really do feel being put together (being able to do chores and maintain your own living space, having hobbies and friends, knowing how to dress yourself), isn’t a big ask; it’s just adulting. Being ambitious doesn’t translate to being rich so much as it means having a job that has some sort of upwards momentum or that your passionate about. I don’t care if you’re a musician making 25k/year, as long as you can …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:45 AM
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I’d say about half of them I encounter do, yeah. I don’t thinking being a healthy, functional adult is a big ask. That’s on them. The other half, yeah, they’re not doing anything wrong so much as they’re not a fit for me. That’s me being picky and I’m okay with that, though I don’t think most women who want a relationship have anything against said men. I just don’t actively care for one
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:37 AM
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Eh, I don’t think women in general are picky so much as some women (just as some men) can be. I enjoy being single and I have very little reason to change that barring finding someone im extremely compatible with. Not like im complaining about it or telling men they suck if they’re not
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:29 AM
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Absolutely. I haven’t played in a while but DMing did wonders for me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:22 AM
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I don’t think having just those puts you in the minority but not having any major dealbreakers, with me at least, tends to be. It’s either a dead-end job, no hobbies, stupid debt, poor social skills, an inability to communicate, an inability to do basic adult tasks, etc. Beyond that, there’s mismatched views or other incompatibilities. I’d say about 50% of guys I’ve met who fall in the first category (some sort of red flag) and another 45% that fall in the second. That being said, I’d rather be …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:21 AM
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I learned to be (somewhat) funny through something similar to improve (TTRPGs). Helped me learn to think on my feet, recover from awkward moments, and generally be more outgoing
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:13 AM
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Not the original commenter but I’m one of these women. I really have no desire to date the majority of men because we’re not compatible/they’re not adding to my life. I wouldn’t call them all bottom of the barrel (though some are) but some of my more commonly-encountered dealbreakers include: Reckless financial habits (I know a dude who was in 10k of debt off airsoft guns and another who put a ferret cage on a credit card and couldn’t afford the ferret) A lack of intelligence (including emotiona…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/22 04:11 AM
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Job I like. I’d rather travel and work the hours I want than bang loads of hot people
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:23 PM
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That’s backhanded as frick. No thanks
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 08:21 PM
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I disagree with that as well; I think paper abortions should be a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 05:27 PM
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I’ve actually made this argument before. I’m absolutely fine with it, provided the transplant of the fetus isn’t more invasive than an abortion. Not big on being financially responsible for the kid if they give them up, though. If they’re not up for raising the kid and don’t want legal rights, I don’t think they should have to be responsible.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/22 12:02 PM
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The best version of yourself. What is and isn't going to work depends on who you're going on a date with. Generally, basic social skills; being kind, polite, generous, attentive, etc; able to hold a conversation/somewhat interesting or funny. The rest will vary from person to person
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/22 02:15 AM
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Not super close but acquaintances. Physically, it makes them more attractive. As a potential partner, I’ve seen it go both ways: some become more disciplined, outgoing, passionate about life, etc, and become way more attractive as partners; some become cocky jerks and that doesn’t make them any more attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:27 PM
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Probably not because there’s no real evidence that it helps anything and can actually cause more harm
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:21 PM
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I’m going to say yes because most of my close friends are straight men. Some of my exes’ best friends were also straight women so I think it goes both ways. Never really been a big deals because we’re just that: friends
/r/PurplePillDebate14/07/22 01:20 PM
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What do you mean by jumping through hoops?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 07:55 PM
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I enjoyed D&D back when I played. Other than that, sports clubs/classes (for me, MMA, running, and volleyball), some creative groups (music groups to just jam with other people and book clubs/writer’s clubs), volunteering (I liked working with Habitat for Humanity and St John Ambulance), and sometimes I’ll just do things on my own (go to jazz bars and museums) and just talk to people, though that’s more hit or miss. I know some of my friends have had luck with bible study groups if they’re relig…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 03:45 PM
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Depends on the hobbies. I find social hobbies to be one of the best places to meet people when I don’t have previous friends. Common interests and all that. It can be intimidating if you don’t have friends to introduce you but it’s usually the least awkward way to do it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/22 02:08 PM
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Depends on who you ask. I’m into both men and women but I’m not particularly into femboys, though that’s more of a personality thing amongst the ones that I know. I’m not sure they’d be particularly popular if I’m honest
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:35 AM
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Depends on your goals. I continue to do so despite having a fairly good income because it enables me to do other things. I like travelling, supporting small businesses, giving to charities, and just generally having the cushion to make other people’s lives better. More money from my day job means I can afford to take a loss while volunteering or that I can buy my friends groceries when they’re sick or send my parents on vacation. But depending on who you ask, you are right: money is just a tool;…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/07/22 12:24 AM
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Eh, you don’t want to sleep with the ugly nerds anyways so it’s all good
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:24 AM
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I don’t run around yelling at store owners, either. But you are right: that’s a poor analogy. While I physically need food to survive, I don’t need sex or relationships. So it’s less justified to be jerks to women than store owners. There’s nothing wrong with being upset or angry but that doesn’t justify taking it out on other people. There are lots of parts of society I hate; you don’t see me running into the White House with a rifle. Absolutely agree on improving quality of life, though. Incre…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:23 AM
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People can have preferences. You not understanding them doesn’t mean they’re invalid. You’re free to have all the vanilla sex you want just like others are allowed to like kink
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:18 AM
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I'm not, no. I wasn't a jerk to the clerk at the store when I couldn't afford food. I don't commit violent acts against my parents despite them being neglectful. I don't wish harm upon the social workers who should've protected my best friend and could have prevented his suicide. I don't harass the doctors who are failing to cure my mentor's illness, which is likely to take his life. Heck, I still pick up the phone when my abusive ex calls saying he needs something and answer texts from my high-…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 12:12 AM
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They can be. I've met my fair share in real life, unfortunately. I don't disagree that they deserve a base level of respect and sympathy, as does anyone who's struggling with anything. I just can't extend them much more than that when they decide to take it out on other people
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:35 PM
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I can be sympathetic to people who aren’t assholes. It’s okay to be annoyed. It’s okay to be frustrated. It’s okay to feel like the world isn’t fair and like things suck and like you’re just generally in a bad position. That’s valid. What isn’t okay is being a jerk to other people about it. Not being able to get a partner sucks, absolutely, but it doesn’t warrant being an asshole. Everyone, and I mean basically everyone, has some form of trauma, whether that be a death in the family, a divorce, …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:05 PM
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I'm sorry that's something you had to go through. It's completely understandable that that's had an impact on the way you view sex and relationships. I hope that's something you get the chance to heal from and f*ck your babysitter (well, don't; you know what I mean)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:44 PM
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Eh, having good hair is attractive but it's not a dealbreaker. I won't not date someone I like because they're balding (my current partner has been balding since high school).
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:20 PM
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Depends? If you’re okay with it and she’s not being disrespectful about it, whatever. If you’re uncomfortable, set a boundary and if she ignores it, that’s a red flag. If she’s mocking you, also a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:49 PM
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I wouldn’t say all women are. I think most want to date someone who’s roughly around their intelligence level. For me, basic understanding of science, math, and English and decent emotional intelligence are must-haves. Anything beyond that is definitely nice
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:41 PM
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I should tell my partner he’s getting a raise, a modelling contract, and a growth spurt
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:37 PM
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Absolutely. A good voice is an instant turn on for me
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:36 PM
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When I say less conventionally attractive, oftentimes they are weaker than me, they are sometimes shorter than me and usually shorter than average (I’m short myself so it’s hard to find men shorter than me but I’d date them if I could). Yes, sometimes they have smaller than average penises. Yes, sometimes they’re obese. No, they don’t viscerally turn me on any more than a guy who is conventionally attractive; it’s not a fetish. I just tend to prefer them slightly to conventionally attractive men…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 09:26 PM
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I should clarify: if he’s using the term “fatties” in any context other than quoting other people, it’s a dealbreaker for me. I think it’s incredibly disrespectful to refer to anyone that way and I don’t want that in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:19 PM
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That I am very, very lucky to have the social group and the partner that I have. I’ve always been content with the people I have in my life but this sub makes me appreciate them so much more
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:16 PM
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I appreciate how open-minded you are. Thank you :)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:03 PM
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Date someone with more sexually compatible. If it's a big deal to you, date someone who enjoys that sort of thing
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:00 PM
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Things that go against the values he's expressed to be or that I've made clear are a problem for me. That's a pretty long list (I'm a pain in the ass to date) but common things I've seen on this sub that would make me question my relationship if coming from my partner: How important n-counts are/how he won't date a slut Anything about "fatties" Wanting to date someone conservative Wanting to date someone traditionally feminine Not liking ambitious/career-oriented/dominant women Anything regardin…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:57 PM
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Maybe I'll look into buying property out there. If you've got any states/towns you recommmend looking into, let me know. I'd appreciate it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:53 PM
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I'm sure some people actually care for other reasons but agreed. Anyone who's that vocal about it just comes off as bitter
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:48 PM
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Trust me, you’re not wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:41 PM
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Accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:39 PM
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Oops. Nice catch. I’ll fix that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:38 PM
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Oh, don’t get me started on this. When I was 16, I had the biggest crush on one of my friends. Obviously, I wasn’t going to say anything because he wasn’t interested in dating me. He asked me out, acted all excited, and then told me he was never and would never be interested in me. Told me he was just “teaching me a lesson” and laughed at me for believing it. Made fun of me for weeks after that. Definitely bruised my ego. We’re still friends and it’s fine now but ouch. There were a few others th…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:35 PM
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This is hilarious. I’ve definitely had more than a few guys tell me my n-count is too high. I’ve gotten to just letting men assume my n-count is way higher than it is because I don’t want to date anyone who cares about my n-count. I have one friend who used to joke about me being a whore and at the time, I had slept with maybe 2 people? And yet it would be fine for me to blow him; that was cool
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:31 PM
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I feel this. Finished 75% of my degree online, graduated, moved, work a remote job, all my friends have moved for school, and now I have no social life. The bright side is I work too much to notice
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:28 PM
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Depends on what he’s posting. We’ll either both laugh at some of the crap on here or I’m breaking up with him asap
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:27 PM
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This is the key. I bet incredibly carefully before I sleep with someone. Sure, I didn’t actually get off every time (didn’t sleep with those guys again) but I never felt unsafe with any of them because if I did, I wasn’t going to sleep with them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:27 PM
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Uh… cold, cold? No. I’ve been approached by acquaintances, though. A few coworkers, classmates, and folk from hobby groups that I vaguely knew (maybe had a brief conversation with once or twice). Went on dates with a few of them, didn’t with others. None of them panned out Edit: misread the question I’ve cold-approached to feel it out but never “hey, you’re cute, do you want to go on a date?” But yeah, I have started conversations and if it went well, I’ve asked them to go out for coffee or dinn…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 07:25 PM
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Oh, you’re fine to have whatever preferences you have. I may not understand them but as long as you’re not harming anyone, it’s none of my business. You do you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:55 PM
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Where does one find property valued at 150k or less? The average house price where I live just shot you over 1mil and I’d love to actually be able to afford property
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:54 PM
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You’re allowed to have preferences. That’s fine. Just don’t impose preferences on other people. Bring it up with people you’re dating to make sure you’re compatible and if you’re not, politely move on. As long as you’re not being a jerk about it, it’s not a big deal
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 06:52 PM
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Personality > Values > Body > Hobbies > Face > Height
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 05:27 PM
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This is probably 90% of the reason that despite being bi, I don’t date women. Nice
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:32 PM
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He could be an asshole. Threw temper-tantrums when things didn’t go his way, was emotionally abusive, all that jazz. Regularly threatened to stab me or put me on the streets and all that. So yeah, I want absolutely nothing like what he had because he family hated him and he was not pleasant. That being said, he was an incredibly hard-working, ambitious, a provider (financially/materially), intelligent, persuasive, and had a whole host of other great skills and traits that I try to emulate. I jus…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 04:32 PM
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Yep. People are allowed to like what they like. If you’re so close-minded that you can’t fathom the idea of anyone having preferences or opinions that don’t match yours, you’re not going to have a good time
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:56 PM
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Anecdotal but I think we tend to look for the good we saw in our parents relationship and avoid the bad. I turned out a lot like my father, personality-wise, but I don’t want to be anything like him in a relationship, nor do I want a man like him. I don’t really want a man with a personality similar to my mother, either (though she was a great partner; just not the kind of partner I’d like). However, there are great traits I saw in them that I’ve learned to appreciate in partners as well so I gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:55 PM
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Honestly, as long as you’re comfortable with going your own way and you’re not just using an excuse to be bitter, I don’t see why not. I’d absolutely go my own way if my current partner and I broke up. I’m content on my own and relationships, the majority of the time, are not worth the time and effort to me. So yeah, you do you. I respect that
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:59 PM
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That’s such an odd concept. I won’t immediately ask a guy out unless I can tell they might be receptive (I don’t want to make anyone uncomfortable) but if I’m into someone, I’ll initiate conversation and feel it out (and if it goes well, yeah, I’ll ask them out). Not even glancing at someone I have a crush on is such a weird thought. Do you just… ignore them and hope they notice you? What?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:31 PM
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I want to say yes but it comes with its caveats. I’ve asked many of my previous partners out, planned dates, and typically date less conventionally attractive men because that’s what I find attractive. That being said, the vast majority of the men on this sub would not be compatible with me because we have different values. On top of initiating dates with men, I’ve also slept around. Monogamy isn’t super important to me. I don’t want kids. I work long hours and don’t have a ton of time for my pa…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 02:19 PM
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Depends on how much you value having kids/your life goals. If you don’t particularly care to have children, nbd. If you don’t care about them being biological, adopt. If you just want to raise something, get a dog. Or live DINK and travel the world. Whatever works for you
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:08 AM
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I don’t think my dealbreakers would change but I do hope at that point many of them would be a non-issue. Sure, people change over time but so long as their values aren’t drastically changing, most of them become moot (for example, I’d hope my partner’s political views don’t do a 180 or they suddenly decide that they can’t be bothered to hold down a job). If those core values are the same, the relationship should be workable given time and effort, even when things get rocky
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:06 AM
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It’s a lot of fun. I used to love DMing those games. 10/10 recommend trying if you can find a good group
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 03:01 AM
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Then I’m probably just doing it wrong (hence not feeling comfortable doing it myself). I’d rather just pay to get it done than deal with the consequences of screwing it up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:38 PM
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Which I can’t use because it fries my hair. The bleach at the dollar store is super harsh and again, I need to bleach my hair more than once. I also don’t trust myself to not destroy my hair.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 08:19 PM
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I have very dark hair so I get it professionally bleached and dyed to avoid frying it (most stylists have a hard time with it and it takes 3 rounds of bleach to hold any colour). Costs me about $120 a go and needs to be redyed every couple of weeks as it fades so it’s definitely not cheap.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:16 PM
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Broke people would be more broke and people who have money would continue not to care. Trust me, tattoos and hair dye are expensive as is. If people were willing to give up those things to save money, they probably already would have. It might help with obesity rates as it provides an incentive beyond just being healthier but again, people who are obese know it’s expensive so I’m not sure it would help all that much. I don’t attribute the low obesity rates in Japan to the tax so much as it’s a c…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:00 PM
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What kind of tax/how would that be taxed? I think people who are struggling financially would probably cut back on those things. I’d probably continue to dye my hair and get tattoos, though so it depends on the person and their financial situation
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:51 PM
0

Okay, you got me, haha
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:43 PM
1

Eh, i don’t really want to bang him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:38 PM
1

Oh, yeah. At that point that’s completely normal. My current partner and I went exclusive after 3 dates like that (2 months of dating but we lived pretty far apart and I was busy)
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:27 PM
0

Yeah, more or less. The most attractive people I’ve met were the ones with great personalities
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:25 PM
12

I’ve never really heard that. I’d say hire a sex worker if the physical act of sex is so important to your well-being that it’s impeding your ability to do well in other areas of your life. Or hire a sex worker if you want to. They can be cool. Otherwise, I don’t see the point
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:25 PM
1

Yes and no. There’s a base level of attraction that needs to be present for most people to be interested. But yeah, past that, pick the smarter one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:22 PM
2

Half the men I’ve met that were unattractive could have been attractive if their personalities didn’t suck so this is hard to do
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:21 PM
2

I won’t keep dating a guy beyond a few weeks if he’s not ready to be exclusive at that point (if we’re talking about monogamous relationships). Points to commitment issues. I’m typically having that conversation around 4-6 weeks of consistently seeing each other. 6 dates might be a little early but it depends on what those dates have been like. Multiple hours with texting between? Are you basically acting like you’re in a relationship already? Or have you spent a grand total of only 6 hours toge…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:20 PM
1

For most people, yes. I think this is just a giant echo chamber for most people. Occasionally I’ll see someone come off this sub with a new perspective but it’s rare; people don’t want to hear what they don’t like
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:17 PM
3

I’ve found this is typically a terrible dream for women. The guys I’ve met like this think that their future potential makes up for them currently having nothing to offer. You’re going to do something cool one day? Awesome, I admire the ambition. But what cool stuff are you doing right now? Or are you just waiting until this dream of yours magically comes to fruition. Lots of guys I knew like that never did the cool thing they claimed they were going to. “I’m so smart, I’m going to be a great pr…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:15 PM
1

Yeah, I’ve got one. I love the guy to pieces but he wants very different things in life from me so a lot of his advice is moot. Sometimes he can give good advice but it’s rare. Great guy, though
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 05:08 PM
2

Neither
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:12 PM
3

I’ve kind of done it? I don’t sleep with anyone immediately; I get to know them all first. How long that takes varies between people. With some people it’s an instant connection and I’ll sleep with them within a week or two. With others, there’s more awkwardness/takes longer to connect so it takes closer to a month. It’s a matter of getting to know each other, building that chemistry, and establishing good communication and the timeline for that varies between relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:01 PM
2

Intelligent, self-aware, communicative, passionate, ambitious, resilient, hard-working, skilled in a trade/career/hobby, goofy, attentive. Physically? I’ve got more give for this but ideally between 5’4 and 5’9, slim build (lightly muscular is also cool), hair that’s long enough for me to run my fingers through, and looks well-groomed. However, none of those are set in stone. I more have a list of dealbreakers and anybody that doesn’t hit those is attractive to me; past that, it’s just chemistry
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:58 PM
1

Naw, not really. I’m into it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:50 PM
1

Yeah, men get to be roughly the same way past a certain age and it gets kind of depressing if you’re single. People pair off pretty quickly and rarely like to give up that stability without there being serious issues
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:48 PM
2

It’s fine. Pretty standard army haircut, at least where I’m from. He pulls it off fine; don’t love it and don’t hate it
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:46 PM
5

A. Learned my lesson with being put on a pedestal. I want the guy who’s choosing me because he wants to and not because he has to
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:44 PM
4

The one “bad boy” I dated had PTSD and had a bad breakup with his ex. I thought I could help him overcome his trauma (yeah, I was naive at 16). Before that, I had only been asked out once or twice and that was years prior, when I was too young to date (I was 12). I didn’t reject anyone to date him. Actually, come to think of it, the only “nice guys” that I didn’t go on at least one date with were guys who asked me out when I was already in a relationship. I went on at least one or two dates with…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 04:05 PM
3

I don’t think it’s a direct correlation but I’m actually not sure. That being said, you can be submissive and masculine or dominant and more feminine or any combination and someone will be attracted to it; as long as it’s the type of person you want to date, you’re good.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 03:14 PM
1

It hasn’t been? Masks and social distancing went away around the time most of us got our second shots. The only place I still wear a mask is at work and that’s an agreement between my employer and I. Otherwise, it’s not really a thing anymore and hasn’t been in months
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:30 PM
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9 months is extreme but to a degree, yes. If it’s a guy I just want to hookup with, we’ll hookup, get it over with, and never see each other again. I don’t want a life with them. If it’s a guy I want to date, I’m sleeping with him because I care about him and not just because I want to get laid. I like him as a person and not just a penis. Therefore, I actually want to get to know him and care about him before we sleep together. So I probably won’t immediately sleep with him; I’ll wait till I fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:20 PM
1

Nobody wants them. Many of us just don’t see it as an unreasonable price to pay. If I had to pick between masks and social distancing and someone losing friends and family, I’d pick the former any day of the week
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:12 PM
1

Social distancing and masks, maybe. The actual shutdowns were 6 months. That’s a small percentage of my life to make sure others have a life to live. I’d do it again in a heartbeat
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:07 PM
1

At least where I am, things were only really closed for a couple of months on and off. After that it was limited capacity and masks. I think it was March 2020-July 2020 and December 2020-March 2021. So maybe 6 months of full lockdown and 2 years of other restrictions? I didn’t feel like 6 months of things being closed and 2 years of social distancing/masks is a large price to pay. It’s such a small percentage of my life
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 02:07 PM
0

I like the idea of avoiding preventable deaths. If staying home for a few months is what it takes, I won’t complain
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:58 PM
1

I mean, I want to point out that the US has worse problems regarding housing and social supports than Canada does. And yeah, Trudeau absolutely should’ve handled the truckers earlier; most of us are pissed about that one
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:40 PM
1

Sorry, I should have clarified. I’m Canadian. I also don’t consider lockdowns particularly cruel
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:32 PM
1

If they’re the exact same in all other ways (personality, looks, they care about me the same amount, etc) and guy 2 is actually good in bed and cares about my pleasure, (lots of men who have sex, unfortunately, don’t), probably #2. If #1 chose to save their virginity till marriage, we’ll be incompatible. If #1 didn’t have other options, there’s a good chance they’ll leave as soon as they do/feel like they missed out. Guy #2 isn’t going to feel like they missed out. I don’t care that I’d be the l…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 12:13 PM
1

I mean, is it worth the amount you’re paying in gas and time?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:57 AM
1

I need more info. Are they the same in regards to personality and everything else? Edit: also, is guy #2 actually good in bed?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:56 AM
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What do you mean how our governments treated us poorly? They asked us to wear masks and avoid bars for a couple of weeks so people didn’t die and I’m glad to have been a part of that
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:52 AM
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Yeah, I feel that. My parents were the exact same. I refuse to date stubborn men for the same reason. I don’t want submissive or obedient but I do want wisdom; know which battles are worth fighting and how to fight them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:42 AM
1

Ahh, sorry, misread that. That makes sense. Well, kind of makes sense. Do you mean you don’t want to argue in an “I don’t want drama with someone stubborn” sort of way or that you don’t like your partners disagreeing with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:38 AM
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Not really. If it makes them happy, it’s all good. Beauty of life is that everyone is different
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:36 AM
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I’m not looking for an argument; I’m genuinely just curious. I’m not going to get at anyone for their preferences (within reason)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:35 AM
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I’m sure lots of women are genuinely like that, either because that’s just their personality or because they’ve been conditioned to do it for so long. They’re not consciously acting (or not acting at all) so there’s no reason for it to bother them
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:34 AM
1

I don’t understand it but there appear to be lots of men who prefer that kind of thing. I’d love for someone to explain it, though
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:30 AM
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It’s hit or miss. Some women I’ve seen continue to get into unhealthy relationships again and again and they’re always miserable. Most I know personally either never got into bad boys (they were smart) or they learned after the first one. I find that people who make a habit for it aren’t particularly good at learning from their mistakes or they enjoy the drama. I did enjoy that sort of friction at first but I don’t anymore. As life got harder, I had less energy to deal with it. I learned to find…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:28 AM
3

I’d argue healthy relationships shouldn’t be a form of charity. We shouldn’t encourage getting into relationships to help people. We don’t tell people to get into relationships because someone in financially struggling so you can support them or because someone is disabled so you can become their caretaker. Why would that be any different?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:17 AM
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I’ve fallen for “bad boys” before. For me, it was because I saw potential in who they could become as opposed to seeing who they were. I saw someone who was in pain who I thought I could help/fix. Yeah, we grow out of it. I no longer want a project. Learned my lesson after the first one turned out to be a jerk. I was… 16? Haven’t been interested in one since then
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:09 AM
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On a day to day, I mostly wear yoga pants and a hoodie or jeans and a tee. If I'm at work/going out, trousers and a shirt/blazer. I don't style my hair, rarely wear make-up and I don't own cocktail dresses, shorts, bikinis, etc. If I don't have anywhere important to be/am just running errands, I will just roll out of bed and go in my pyjamas. Never been hit on by someone that wasn't already a friend so that should give an indication of my attractiveness/how much effort I put into my appearance.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 01:34 AM
1

Yeah, not a common take, haha
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:45 PM
2

I’m fine with never having men in my life romantically or sexually, especially if the dealbreaker is the way I dress. Don’t really think I’d want them in my life in that capacity at that point. I think I’d become a bit concerned if they never wanted to be friends or interact at work; they constitute half the population. I value the men in my life as friends, mentors, coworkers, and family so I’d probably be upset if that all stopped but I also hope that none of those men in my life are going to …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:35 PM
1

Absolutely. Honestly, most men I encounter aren’t interested in dating me because of how I dress and I’m fine with that. I dress the way I do because it’s functional and I like it. Though to be more transparent, I do occasionally dress for other people. My job has a uniform and I agreed to that when I started and I did change the way I dressed before that for my career. I’m not going to lie and say society doesn’t influence the way I dress. Ive just never thought to do it for a relationship and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:25 PM
1

Side note being I don’t really dress for men at all and I’m sure some men don’t work out for women at all so that was probably subconscious bias but again, some do so that’s a good catch
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:11 PM
1

Because I missed it. I don’t exclusively dress up to attract men**
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:10 PM
2

Depends on who you ask. To me, those are effectively the same because straight height nor looks (within reason) really make a difference. It’s more than someone below a 3 or someone below 4’6 (I’m short) would be a turnoff but above that, it’s the same barring other details
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:09 PM
1

I don’t dress how I dress to impress men just as I’m sure (or I hope) men don’t exclusively work out to impress me. Nothing wrong with being chiseled; I’m just not attracted to it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:07 PM
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Entitlement would be expecting it (throwing a fit, being mad at the world, etc) if they’re not getting what they want. If they’re just opting to be single as opposed to date who they can get, that’s not entitlement. It’s the same as going to a grocery store and seeing something super overpriced. It’s entitlement to run around screaming and demanding the price to be dropped because “it’s not fair” and “but I deserve it”. It’s not entitlement to decide it’s not worth it and to walk out. Not the be…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:02 PM
2

Oops. Sorry. I really didn’t say that as an “I hate men” so much as I’ve just found the majority of people to be poor partners and I almost exclusively date men. If others have had the same experience with women, who am I to say they’re wrong?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 05:24 PM
2

Helicopter
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:27 PM
2

I don’t blame you. It’s an easier way of living and thinking; way less stressful and way more fulfilling
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:25 PM
1

Not necessarily. Starting positions with the UN clock in around $18 an hour. Teacher starting salaries are just around the $20 mark. Heck, a doctor’s starting salary is about $15 an hour (through residency). I have mad respect for anyone doing something like that. If you’re financially stable and fulfilling or if it’s just a stepping stone, I don’t see it as an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 04:24 PM
1

I mean, for the sake of their sanity, probably, but that’s not always in their control. Some fields just pay like shit
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 03:09 PM
1

It’s hard to be uninteresting and that’s usually a sign of other flaws. If you have hobbies, a social life, some sort of ambition, etc, you’ll be interesting. A lack of those things usually indicates something being wrong (I.e lack of hobbies indicates a lack of self-fulfillment, a lack of social life indicates poor interpersonal skills, etc). I know that’s not always the case but generally, well-rounded people will be interesting
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 02:59 PM
1

$20 poutine
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 01:49 PM
1

It works fine as long as everyone is actually content with their dating/sex lives. If they're in a bad space in regards to that, there's definitely a risk but for the most part, it's fine. Most of my best friends are men and none of them are attracted to me (trust me, they make it very clear)
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:58 PM
1

When looking for a partner, I do both. I've learned it's a bad idea to date someone I'm not compatible with in regards to finances, lifestyles, values, etc. However, I also want to date someone I have an emotional connection with. I'm not going to date someone I'm incompatible with but have a great emotional connection with just like I wouldn't do the reverse; I'm looking for both.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:56 PM
1

I disagree. I enjoyed being single and I'd much rather be single than in a relationship with a guy that isn't worth the effort. I'm not losing much by not having a partner but I lose a lot by having a partner that sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:53 PM
1

Offline, mostly. Or deciding not to date. I used dating apps sparsely when I was dating and if my current partner and I broke up, I probably wouldn't go back to dating and I'd definitely avoid OLD. The vast majority of people I've met there, I'd like to avoid
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:51 PM
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Yeah, agreed. I don't really care for muscles. Lean is attractive, lightly muscular is attractive, anything outside of that is less attractive. That being said, I don't really differentiate between lean and lightly muscular; as long as they look fit, whether they look like a runner or a lifter, I'm happy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:47 PM
1

Absolutely not. No thank you
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:45 PM
1

Depends on the kinds of people you want to date. I think most women will be more hesitant to sleep with men in general, especially out of long-term relationships. I'm not sure those women will be more keen to date, though, and if they are, I'm not sure they'll make great partners if they're just doing it to get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:44 PM
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That does not surprise me. I've found similar things in my dating life as well; while I find it incredibly important, it's a "meh" for most men - they're hesitant to take that responsibility and that's a turnoff. Hopefully with Roe v Wade, it'll click for more men but I doubt it
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:37 PM
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Men who take control of their reproductive health have always and will always be way more attractive than men that don't, especially now that there will be options beyond condoms. I will never sleep with or date a man who doesn't take responsibility for that. That's not to say I immediately find all men who do attractive but if I find a guy attractive and he doesn't, it's a major turnoff/potential dealbreaker for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 12:00 PM
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That's fair. I enjoy having a partner; it's just usually not worth the time and effort and I can't really change that. I've also never understood the idea of relative attraction, though I have been told by multiple people on this sub that women will only chase men "out of their league" and by their definition, they're probably correct. Glad we're in the same boat.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:55 AM
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I honestly wonder why this isn't more common. Why get into a relationship that isn't fulfilling to you? Work on yourself, build a fulfilling life, and be picky in deciding whether or not it's worth adding someone to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:52 AM
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Eh, if it's worth anything, it wasn't societal. I grew up thinking that the most fulfilling thing I could ever be is a partner to a great man. I worked hard to be the perfect partner, put effort into dating, asked guys out, did all the things men complain about us not doing. Then I realized it was much more fulfilling not to. Very few guys I dated were worth that sort of effort so now I put all that energy into my career, hobby, and friends. I'm not kidding when I say most men aren't worth it. A…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/22 11:51 AM
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I mean, for one, not all of us view that as a bad thing and honestly, do we? I largely avoid dating (and therefore, approaching men) because it’s not worth it. Most men (as romantic partners) don’t add anything to my life that I can’t get from friends and a vibrator. Sure, some are worth the effort and I’ll approach them (the men you talk about being out of our league) but I wouldn’t date the others even if they approached me. I’d much rather be single. That being said, I’m still in a very happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:36 PM
2

The first part of your comment definitely resonates with me. Why date someone who isn’t going to be any better than my vibrator and my dog? Why bother approaching them? Sure, if they’ll be a real addition to my life, it’s worth doing but batteries and dog food are less work and cheaper than men
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:30 PM
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Out of curiosity, how does it hurt them?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:28 PM
3

Thank you. The one bit of common sense in this thread
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 07:25 PM
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People lie both ways. Some women are also likely to lie about having high numbers of sexual partners to fit in with their social circles. It’s something all studies account for in one way or another (no sample will ever be perfectly representative of the population and most studies will be peer-reviewed for validity). It’s not that researchers assumes that people will be completely irrational; it’s that we know that people are predictably irrational and we can account for that. To be completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:38 AM
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Sure but a lot of that risk goes away when you collect data anonymously. There’s no reason to lie on an anonymous survey and that’s a fairly standard data-collection method. I think we’d also see significantly higher STI and teen-pregnancy rates if that were the case. Also, personal anecdote (so of course, not hard data) but I’m fairly promiscuous and pretty open and proud about it. I volunteer in sexual education, I think hookups and open relationships are a good time if they work for you, I ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:09 AM
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I’m not sure the disdain for the opposite sex is as bad in real life as people on this sun seem to believe. Yes, many younger generations have children later or choose to forgo reproduction but I don’t think hate for the opposite sex is the cause; the world has been burning over the past 2 decades and everyone is busy trying to survive. Additionally, we’ve very much skewed to having fewer quality offspring over having many and hoping one survives; this is seen commonly in species when they prosp…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 04:03 AM
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Because what we believe is based on personal experience and perception. They’re more likely to have had many sexual partners and most of their friends are likely the same; therefore, for them, that’s the normal. Humans are horrendous at judging averages and comprehending statistics (especially when it comes to abstract concepts)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:56 AM
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Some people do, some don’t. What individual people think heavily relies on their personal experiences and perceptions of the world. If you asked me what the average is, I’d probably guess 6-7 lifetime partners (with a wide distribution and clusters around the extremes). But that’s just me. I’d imagine studies are going to be much more accurate than asking 4 women on a YouTube channel with a clear bias, though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 03:53 AM
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I mean, I don’t have a strict height requirement but let’s say this person had some other trait that I consider a less than ideal: it depends on how they got rich and famous. If them being rich and famous is a product of hard work, ambition, intelligence, talent, etc (and obviously, a lot of luck), then yes, it makes a difference. The positive traits balance out the less desirable one. If they’re rich and famous because they were born into it/won a lottery/etc, it doesn’t make a difference to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 09:09 PM
1

I’m personally with my partner because I enjoy being with my partner and I think the relationship has short-term and long-term benefits for both of us (physically, emotionally, and financially). My partner isn’t my best friend and we don’t have some sort of whirlwind romance but we’re romantically compatible and we’re genuinely happy with each other. I couldn’t imagine a better way to end my day than cuddling my partner and our dog. That being said, I absolutely loved being single. I enjoyed the…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/22 09:00 PM
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I’m in a relationship but I meant the latter in a more general sense. No, I would not cheat on my partner. That makes about as much sense as seriously hurting my partner/breaking their trust over a new game. If I cared that little about them, I would not be in this relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:32 AM
1

I’m usually having sex I don’t enjoy because I’m in a relationship with that person and I care about pleasing them so being mildly uncomfortable is worth it. Have I given up on sex? Eh. If the opportunity for good sex arose, I might take it but I don’t really care if it doesn’t. I won’t have mediocre sex just for the sake of it, though. It’s just like any other activity to me. If there’s the opportunity to play a fun video game and I’m in the mood for it and I have the time and energy, sure. But…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:12 AM
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I’m 20, met my partner at 18 on Tinder. I met my prior 2 partners through friends (one was a friend of a friend and one was the cousin of a friend). Never met partners through school/work but that’s because I refuse to date people I work with and I don’t spend much time at school because I work a fair bit
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:07 AM
2

Do I struggle getting laid? If I really wanted to get laid and didn’t care about who it was with, not really. I could pay someone or ask a friend (mutual agreement than many of my friends and I have) or something like that, probably. If I have (what I think are reasonable) standards? Yes, I struggle. I’m not conventionally attractive, don’t dress up or wear makeup, and don’t really go out of my way to get attention from men so getting laid with people I want to get laid with is difficult. To cla…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 03:02 AM
1

This is actually an interesting one I’ve found. I used to be dead-set on only dating people with a similar income/career trajectory as myself but I’m not as set on that anymore. I think I’d rather date someone who works in a non-profit making low 5-figures than someone who works corporate making mid-6, provided we can still afford to pay our bills. Past being comfortable, it doesn’t matter as long as the drive is there, for me, at least
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:48 AM
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I mean, fair but military is also just a different lifestyle, putting the violence aside. You’re taught and encouraged to be aggressive; you work with a set CoC that rarely leaves room for the nuances of typical communication; the job itself can suck and a lot of people bring that home; nobody likes the thought of their partner being deployed to a warzone, no matter how unlikely it is. Not to mention many of the people drawn to-thriving in the profession tend to be more violent (I.e higher rates…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/22 02:44 AM
1

I’m sure it’s possible. Lots of people want that. I have more than a few friends that would love to just do life with their partner. You’ve just got to find your people
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 03:51 AM
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Yes and no. I think older is attractive to a certain extent because stability is attractive. I’ve found that it’s just significantly harder to find men my age who are what I’m looking for. I’m not even talking about money; goals, values, emotional intelligence, the whole lot. I’ve dated a few guys my age who possess that but it’s easier when you widen that age range. But again, that’s not strictly an age/money thing. At almost 20, I have no desire to date a 30 or 40 year old (did that once and f…
/r/ExRedPill09/07/21 03:48 AM
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This is good advice in general. Everyone has shit but that’s theirs to deal with outside of a relationship. Relationships shouldn’t be therapy. I should note that not all issues should be a dealbreaker, if they’re being dealt with. Lots of people have trauma, shit families, abusive exes, etc, but if they’ve dealt with it (I.e, don’t use you as a therapist/coping mechanism), it might be worth a shot. But hey, that’s just my perspective from the other side of the coin
/r/MGTOW214/06/21 11:14 PM
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I'm actually going to chime in here. It has and will continue to happen. I had a guy I met once, in public, stalk me for almost 8 months and try to rape me. I was 14 and he was 21(? no idea because I spoke to him once). If men are comfortable to harass and stalk young teen girls in public, they will harass and abuse you in a coffee shop.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 09:40 PM
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My boyfriend did. We were exclusivr for ~3ish months before we slept together
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/21 02:00 AM
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I’ve never understood the concept of bio children. I have no real draw towards children just because they’re genetically similar to me so what’s the point? There are enough kids who don’t have the resources they need so why not take in one of them? Pregnancy is also horrendous and I don’t like the idea of being tied down all the time. Most childcare and household duties fall to women, even when both partners are working, and I don’t need that. Heck, I love my partner’s dog with everything I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:56 PM
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I’m currently dating the male version of myself and I’ve got to say, it’s pretty darn nice. He’s not an exact replica but he comes pretty close. The few differences we have keep things interesting. Healthiest and happiest relationship I’ve ever been in. 10/10 would recommend
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 12:09 PM
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My parents save probably ~$10,000 a year on taxes between the two of them. With us kids, probably closer to ~$15,000-$20,000. Thats before rental income, property taxes, and all the tax credits they can claim, so I’d probably guess another $5000 on top of that. That’s 10-25% of their gross income.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:35 AM
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Women typically carry extra weight better but it depends on body type. I’ve seen some guys who carry extra weight quite well. For 10-25lbs, no preference between overweight or underweight for either. 10-25lbs isn’t much weight either way. I’d guess my current partner is 20lbs overweight and my last one was ~10lbs underweight (though I’m not sure he could’ve gotten any thinner - literal skin and bones). Doesn’t really make a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate12/03/21 11:20 AM
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Taxes, citizenship, finances, at least for me. I have no desire to have kids but I'm a dual citizen and will probably be moving back to the US so marriage would mean my partner could move with me. I also won't combine finances with anyone I'm not married to and it's fairly difficult to plan for retirement or anything long-term with a partner if you haven't combined finances. Tax benefits are an added bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 12:12 AM
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Depends on finding people. I pretty much exclusively did "long term" since I started to date. Albeit, that was typically only a year but I also started to date in high school and a year is a long time when you're that young. I've definitely done a few FWB relationships and I don't really aim for LTRs but when you find someone worth keeping around, you keep em around. Never been one for hookups or ONS, though
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/21 05:58 PM
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I can't speak for everyone and I'm sure some people are disgusted by it but personally, vulnerability in itself has never been a turnoff for me. I enjoy when my partner is vulnerable as it feels like he can trust me and wants to make our relationship work. Now, the clear distinction here is that they have to be healthily self-sufficient and can't use me as a crutch (i.e. codependency). My partner telling me he's insecure about the way he performs in bed or about his height isn't a turnoff as he …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 06:00 PM
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I think it really depends. One of the last guys I dated was 5'11 and 128lbs, I believe. They dated quite a few people that they found attractive/that were attracted to them so it's definitely possible. I think it just depends on where you look/what your own standards are
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 02:46 AM
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This is quite the generalization. There are absolutely girls who are sexually attracted to tall, muscular, rich men, though there are also plenty of women who are not. My guess is that the majority of women who say they aren't particularly attracted to that stereotype... aren't? The majority of my partners were 5'7 or shorter (usually 5'1-5'4) and were either fairly skinny or had dad bods (I've never dated/hooked up with a muscular guy). Most of them were somewhat financially stable, sure, but n…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 02:31 AM
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None. I don't really care about having a partner and honestly have thoroughly debated being single in the long term because I'd prefer not to be tied down. All the work I've done is because I know I'll be stuck with myself for my entire life and I want to actually like the person I am. A lot of it also has to do with my career and where I want to end up. For reference, I'm female
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/21 02:42 PM
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