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I hear you, but the reality is a lot simpler than you make it out to be. They don't care about blame at all. The mission is, make someone (other than the state) pay support. The gender of that someone doesn't matter; but as it happens to play out it is usually a man.
/r/PussyPass19/02/15 01:45 AM
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The job of Family Law judges is to keep people off state support, and to recoup that support when it is paid. It is not to do the right thing for men, for women or for children; they might try to do that too, but seldom when support money is involved. They are there to manage the state's support burden. As soon as the mother of the child applied for welfare benefits the state started looking for targets to recoup payment. That's why they demand to know the father of the child, and why they don't…
/r/PussyPass18/02/15 04:58 PM
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Be glad you got a head start.
/r/MensRights23/12/14 12:43 PM
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The only thing I can recommend about getting older is the steadily diminishing number of fucks given.
/r/MensRights23/12/14 12:23 AM
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have become completely ad hoc, and because of that unregulated, I am curious what you mean by this. I agree that we need men's spaces, but disagree that that has to be the den described above with whiskey, pool tables and arm chairs. I have nothing against any of those, but I am heartily against anyone telling me what I should like as a man.
/r/MensRights05/09/14 01:28 AM
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/u/WhinyBalrog for moderator!
/r/PussyPass27/07/14 01:19 PM
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You've come a long way, baby.
/r/MensRights10/05/14 05:35 PM
2

We allow almost every extreme in the case of war and necessities of survival. To me it is more interesting to note that 12 year olds could serve on juries in some towns in Medieval England. That shows an expectation of assuming adult responsibility and understanding of adult problems, as soon as it was possible.
/r/MensRights11/04/14 10:20 PM
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Was not disappointed.
/r/MensRights18/10/13 01:42 AM
2

I feel the same about my childhood. I had free range of anywhere I could get to by bicycle (forsaking highways, on account of me not being stupid). And then I read Tom Sawyer, and there's the scene where he's headed out the door and Aunt Polly says, "you be back by Saturday!" (or something like that).
/r/MensRights11/06/13 03:28 AM
1

We ought to hang out, just to talk about how much hell the world has gone to in the last week or two.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 03:13 AM
1

See, every decade is different, better about some things, worse at others. The 70s were terrible for fashion, but great for arcades - highly under-appreciated in the 21st century. Now I agree with you about the state of parenting and paranoia. But I don't think any period has a real lock on common sense.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 03:04 AM
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But that was back in the 80's, when people still had sense. Wait, in the 80s? The 1980s? 'Cause I was there, and I don't remember a whole lot of sense. I remember New Wave music, big hair, neon colors, lots of cocaine. Oh and the sweetest, nuttiest president ever. But no, not a lot of sense.
/r/MensRights11/06/13 02:41 AM
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I've been going to conventions since the late 70s. I have never been to an all-male convention, and I have never heard anyone tell the females present that they had to play by the boys' rules. Yes, there have always been socially unschooled men around, and there likely always will be, but don't characterize and stereotype the whole group by a minority.
/r/MensRights24/04/13 01:03 AM
9

As a bald man, I can confirm I have no personality.
/r/MensRights24/03/13 03:16 PM
1

Sorry, I should have checked the username.
/r/MensRights09/02/13 01:19 PM
3

It's a joke about that "women make 79 cents on the dollar" thing.
/r/MensRights09/02/13 04:50 AM
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But they'd have to pay you 21% more!
/r/MensRights09/02/13 02:52 AM
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An Amber reference while I'm admiring a Dresden reference? Just getting better here.
/r/MensRights19/01/13 10:54 PM
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My libertarian side responds to both sets of ads with "don't buy things from people who rely on offensive stereotypes." But the more I learn about psychology, the less this argument works. Much of advertising is just about keeping the brands in mind - the more you see that coffee jar (or what have you) the more you assume you've liked it best all along, even if their ads are telling you that you deserve to be abused. So I end up at a bit of a loss - ban advertising? Raise consciousness and hope …
/r/MensRights03/01/13 03:04 PM
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and I'll only get kinda screwed. I'm glad you understand where this is going. Really, once trust is gone you need to end it. These days, that can be done badly or less badly.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 06:16 PM
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any condition could theoretically improve There is a great distance between theory and practice in this area. The 'practice' is being done by the person living with the disease, condition or what have you, and the evaluation has to be made by them. Let's hope they get reasonable and accurate medical advice, but still I support each person having a choice in going forward or not. To bring this back to issues of men's rights: a lot of us end up in family court with an unrealistic view of what will…
/r/MensRights16/12/12 11:20 AM
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All right, poor focus on my part in looking at the duality. The point I'm responding to is the enslavement part. I thought I faced a choice between enslavement and suicide; in contemplating suicide, I realized that if I could choose to end my life, I could choose any other option that continued it as well, including escape.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 12:50 AM
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Sure. But you are assuming there are only two choices, suicide or life in hell. For a person with terminal illness, or a debilitating condition with no hope of improvement, that would be true. A person with good physical health could recover his mental well-being, if he escaped from that 'life in hell' sentence. That's what I'm advocating, and I have to think it is a better alternative than suicide.
/r/MensRights16/12/12 12:08 AM
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For so many men there is only one model of success: father, provider and the community standing that (we were told) comes with it. Family court takes that away and we face a life in hell; at that point it is no surprise that we consider ending that life. I gave it a lot of thought, myself. It is important to get out the message that there are more options besides suicide and life in hell. I'm not the only man here who decided to get out instead. I choose not to be enslaved, and in so doing I und…
/r/MensRights15/12/12 04:07 PM
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Never underestimate the power of comedy relief.
/r/MensRights04/12/12 03:40 AM
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It's illuminating to see her perspective, but not a Men's Rights issue.
/r/MensRights01/12/12 06:03 PM
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One of my favorite bits of bitter humor: "women want men to be honest about their feelings, in the same way that the IRS wants you to be honest about your finances." If she wants you to be a provider, and you act like a faulty provider, then of course she's going to leave. Find a woman who wants a partner, not a resource.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 07:36 PM
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I didn't contact him. reddit makes it easy to find exact links, so maybe he checked, or got the "already seen it" page when posting the link elsewhere.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 04:12 PM
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Thanks for raising public consciousness on the perception of men. I hope we'll also get to a point where we can raise money for victims of domestic violence, without playing on that old "it's for the moms" thing.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 03:55 PM
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That's a nuance from Victorian times. It was humorously carried forward into 1960s television for guys like Paul Lynde, but it doesn't automatically mean gay.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 03:35 PM
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I said that I like it, not that you should like it.
/r/MensRights27/11/12 03:11 PM
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So, double the points for Stephen.
/r/MensRights26/11/12 03:23 AM
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Just because she has a kid doesn't mean she doesn't want companionship, or is a bad person. Of course not. The thing I try to get across to all my male friends (those who qualify as "good catches" at least) is that you cannot predict what your spouse (LT girlfriend or otherwise companion) is going to be like in ten years. If you are still happy and going strong, more power to you. If she is not happy, she has powerful legal tools to leave the relationship in possession of his money and property.…
/r/MensRights05/11/12 03:07 PM
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-Man who pees 6 times in an 8 hour work shift. That's my story too. -Man who needed a reason to get up out of the desk chair or else his joints would ache.
/r/MensRights01/11/12 11:51 PM
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Happens all the time at concerts and sports events. Anywhere there is a line in the women's room, really.
/r/MensRights01/11/12 11:51 PM
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To those of us who quit fucking smiling all the time we are ostracized as assholes, hateful, cruel, monsters, menace -- a threat to society! I hate this so much. Complain or just comment to the world in general and you are obviously a whining loser! Not living "up to the challenge?" Clearly a weirdo! It's why I have all but withdrawn from society. Sorry for your loss, and feeling your pain.
/r/MensRights01/11/12 02:51 AM
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If I'm correctly following the pictures that accompanied the article, being nice also gave her blonde hair and better skin.
/r/MensRights25/10/12 01:01 PM
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It's the only way to be sure.
/r/MensRights20/10/12 01:16 PM
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Because violence doesn't solve much Cue the lecture from Starship Troopers. If you mean not initiating violence, then I agree. Once someone starts a fight, you need to end it in the most practical way.
/r/MensRights20/10/12 01:57 AM
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Self-responsibility: now available in pink and blue.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 12:24 AM
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Well, that's sorted out then. Let's go have a beer, guys.
/r/MensRights19/10/12 12:04 AM
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Good points. It's about getting people to see things from a new perspective, and those sound effective.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 11:19 PM
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How many? I have no idea. I hope the number is low. The question comes up, here and elsewhere. I've had women say this to me, or variations - does it matter who the father is? I've seen men startled by the idea that they have a right to know, so apparently they have heard this enough to question it themselves.
/r/MensRights18/10/12 07:27 PM
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At what point do they pass a law requiring men who look at them to be attractive and successful?
/r/MensRights25/09/12 04:40 AM
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I don't know how it is where you live, but in my rural town, white guy on the bus = suspended license. Source: I am a white guy who takes the bus. At one place I worked, there was an executive who had a DUI conviction and lost his license, so he was taking the bus. He made a joke about it at the office. That's fine, save face however you want; the problem was, when he saw me taking the bus, he assumed the same of me, and asked me so in public. Very uncool.
/r/MensRights22/09/12 12:14 PM
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Having been through this with my ex, I can promise you that there's a doctor somewhere who will give the required diagnosis. If it were an insurance scam, an insurance investigator might catch on; but in the case of divorce and family law the 'disabled' spouse will start crying about how abused she was and the diagnosis will be upheld.
/r/MensRights18/09/12 12:27 AM
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This is not an article about maturity. It is an article about OMFG HE"S CUTTING INTO MY NUTSACK!
/r/MensRights13/09/12 03:08 PM
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Look, it's not like we are going to get the medical industry to say, "Okay, we admit it, we've been mutilating babies." So of course we're going to get more of this pro-circumcision nonsense. In the meanwhile, parents are coming around.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:28 PM
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It's an example of something people believe is okay to do to men, but terrible to do to women. It's sexist.
/r/MensRights27/08/12 05:27 PM
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I totally thought this was a Jonathan Coulton song. I should probably get out more. goes back to redditing.
/r/MensRights16/08/12 11:55 PM
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You are noticing that the upper ranks tend to help their own. While I see your point, it is a very frustrating generalization to those of us who are saddled with the "white males get it all" generalization and were never invited, as you put it.
/r/MensRights08/08/12 04:56 PM
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Maybe so now. Back in the ERA days, I do recall women activists saying men should not be drafted if women were not, and so forth. I'm not saying everyone felt that way, but it did seem more balanced.
/r/MensRights03/08/12 10:32 PM
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I grew up in the 60s and 70s with the Equal Rights movement. I was fine with it, even carried a sign once or twice. What ever happened to that?
/r/MensRights03/08/12 03:58 PM
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Huh. That seems to open the door for lots of nanny state stuff, but I'm sure that door is already wide open.
/r/MensRights01/08/12 05:38 PM
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So we're talking about minority-aged children there? That's a different story. Can you leave adult children out of your will?
/r/MensRights01/08/12 12:00 PM
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That's whacky, and from what I've always thought of as the enlightened part of English-speaking North America. Why is it that a person cannot choose how their legacy is distributed?
/r/MensRights01/08/12 12:19 AM
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Emigration is still an option. My main reason for not trying was as you say, it's easy for an American to live here without too many questions. My passport is good for a few more years and I'm holding on to that possibility, but balanced against the chance that Something Bad Happens when I try to use it. You are right on all the hurting parts. My comment to OP was, I've been there. I didn't choose this option over child support; I chose it over suicide. Suppose this was the story of a guy who ha…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 04:03 PM
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Sorry if that last line looked dismissive. Again, ask me what you'd like to know.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 03:20 PM
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Are you still in the city/state/country you were living in before? How far have you moved? I am still in the US, but I left my (then) home state. I traveled for a while within the US and settled down in Georgia. (Not a big secret, since I post on /r/Athens). Did you change your name? Trivially. I switched from one nickname to another, to avoid easy Googling of the news of my late unpleasantness. Have you fabricated your past when speaking to anybody else? Once I decided to be back in social cont…
/r/MensRights29/07/12 03:18 PM
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You want Big Damn Heroes, like this guy. But sure, ask me whatever you want. I don't think /r/IAmA wants to hear it.
/r/MensRights29/07/12 02:13 PM
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Here on MRM, the gold-standard is the guy who wins despite it all. He keeps his kids and lives happily ever after, maybe even with a new lady partner. Bonus upvotes if the story includes just desserts for the ex-wife. Balancing that are the suicide statistics, the men who realize along the way that they are not going to be that guy. That the system they are fighting against is perfectly structured to bleed them down to the point where they will accept enslavement. Of course, we don't hear their …
/r/MensRights29/07/12 01:19 PM
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I reached the same low point, and vanished myself. You can too. I'm happy to help if you want suggestions.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 09:47 PM
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If OP disappears, it will invoke a trivial amount of investigation from his overworked state. If he takes the child, it is kidnapping. That's a whole different story, starting with the FBI, and going on to the number of people who will turn you in if they have a hint of what's happened.
/r/MensRights28/07/12 09:46 PM
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Because otherwise, your 13th Amendment rights prevent the judge from placing you into involuntary servitude. Where do you live, that judges will answer this with anything other than a contempt charge?
/r/MensRights28/07/12 09:42 PM
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Remember, it's funny when a woman hits a man!
/r/MensRights27/07/12 06:30 PM
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This is precisely what feminists mean by 'equal.'
/r/MensRights20/07/12 03:27 AM
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I hear you. But let me tell you from experience: you do not know what your spouse is going to be like in ten years. If you are happy together at that time, more power to you! The thing you need to defend against, is a person deciding, much time after the romance and early success, that: They are not happy. The legal system gives them an advantage in a divorce. Why not leave with everything they can get.
/r/MensRights16/07/12 10:30 PM
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It's an idea I picked up from von Mises' book on Bureaucracy, re-worded to sound like Clarke's Law. I don't have the original quote (or the book) handy, but the gist was, if you have to hire a professional to work the system for you, then it is no different from just paying a bribe.
/r/MensRights13/07/12 03:01 AM
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Any sufficiently complex legal system is indistinguishable from corruption.
/r/MensRights13/07/12 01:19 AM
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I thought I was lucky in finding a male therapist to be the CFI in my divorce. Unfortunately, he still went with all the cliche standards - men aren't involved in child rearing, etc. tl;dr: you need a good, understanding therapist, regardless of gender.
/r/MensRights21/06/12 03:13 AM
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Hang in there, bro. We're here if you need help.
/r/MensRights12/06/12 03:21 AM
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Funny what counts as legal and justice, huh?
/r/MensRights12/06/12 02:29 AM
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My deepest sympathy. Our divorce got dragged out for nearly a year and a half. She's still trying to get me back in court, so you could say it's not over now.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 11:00 PM
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During the divorce, my (then) wife told the kids not to say anything about Father's Day. Stay classy, ladies.
/r/MensRights11/06/12 03:36 PM
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If a male friend had said it first ("what are you, gay?") would you have minded as much? I'm not questioning your well-deserved outrage, just curious. Men haze each other socially, and friends start calling each other "faggot" and similar terms starting on the playground (and continuing through Xbox Live).
/r/MensRights08/06/12 09:15 PM
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Why does this article take a sudden left turn into menstruation huts?
/r/MensRights06/06/12 03:28 PM
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I am surprised some journalist hasn't confronted him on it. Journalists sell magazines by telling women they are oppressed.
/r/MensRights05/06/12 01:57 AM
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Florida: the Deep North.
/r/MensRights31/05/12 09:09 PM
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If women only make 72 cents for the same work where a man earns a dollar, why don't companies hire only women and put the competition out of business. I love this one. If I remember my economics courses, market inefficiencies drive business into new areas, and the bigger the inefficiency the faster the move. If it were true that a company could pay women less to do the same work as men, fewer men would be hired until the situation were back in balance.
/r/MensRights22/05/12 01:04 PM
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This is a comment on WalMart shoppers.
/r/MensRights04/05/12 06:44 PM
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I had this one out with my sister, not long ago. She came home from some neighborhood party where little kids were acting out, and told me all about how rude the boys were to her and other women. "Those boys have to be taught to respect women!" "You mean, children should be taught to be considerate and polite to others," I suggested. "No, I mean those boys can't be allowed to speak to women that way, or to be rough with girls! They have to know that women are special." It went on like that for a…
/r/MensRights03/05/12 06:46 PM
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Kids today! You can't trust 'em! I know, I used to be one.
/r/MensRights03/05/12 06:37 PM
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Divorced dad here. Not only does this happen, it can be used against dads in court hearings to further prove that they aren't capable parents. Like many in the discussion here, I attended as many doctor appointments and school meetings as I could, missing only a few for work crises. I'd get ignored by administrators, or even worse, when I asked a question or made a point they would turn to my (then) wife for confirmation. During the bitter and contentious divorce my wife portrayed me as an absen…
/r/MensRights03/05/12 12:43 AM
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Blaming the patriarchy? Good one.
/r/MensRights23/03/12 09:28 PM
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His ex must be a real jewel. In her defense, it's Alan's fault that he is a man.
/r/MensRights23/03/12 04:59 PM
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And so did the one in Florida.
/r/MensRights19/03/12 02:35 AM
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As you probably learned, "imputed income" is legalize for "we made stuff up." When all my financial disclosures failed to provide enough evidence for what my ex thought she deserved, they 'imputed' more income than I was making based on what she'd been spending. We were getting a divorce because she was driving us to bankruptcy, and the judge essentially ruled that I still had to go bankrupt supporting her.
/r/MensRights10/03/12 10:55 PM
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It totally amazed me, how I didn't know any of this was happening. I went to a lawyer to ask about a divorce, got a song and dance routine that didn't set any expectation for what I'd be going through, and then the bloodletting began.
/r/MensRights08/03/12 04:04 AM
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I've never seen a girl with a sex doll, but of course they exist. I'll refrain from googling :) Not any of the adjectives used in the OP's image, just weird. Exactly. I don't have any judgmental feelings against those who use them. They just don't turn me on.
/r/MensRights06/03/12 02:56 PM
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Male here, and I find men's sex toys rather creepy and comical at the same time. I read one article that suggested it was because men like toys that are representative, that is they look close to the real article -- inflatable dolls, RealDolls, Fleshlights and so on. This invokes something like the Uncanny Valley in some, that uncomfortable feeling that they are viewing something which is Just Not Right. In the sample picture, the dildo is gleaming and metallic, and bears as much resemblance to …
/r/MensRights06/03/12 04:33 AM
2

I've been there. Standing in a crowd, a foot taller than most people around me, with only a few phrases of the language. I gained a much better appreciation for the situation of minorities in the US.
/r/MensRights27/02/12 08:52 PM
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The list is not encouraging: http://wiki.answers.com/Q/Which_countries_have_no_extradition_treaties_with_the_United_States
/r/MensRights27/02/12 08:22 PM
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Demand equal advertising for Steak and BJ Day.
/r/MensRights11/02/12 07:18 PM
1

Care to expand on this? How does marrying help your fellow man?
/r/MensRights07/02/12 01:58 PM
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Thanks for getting that song into my head for the rest of the day.
/r/MensRights31/01/12 06:50 PM
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I didn't go to Nicaragua, but yes, some of us choose this option.
/r/MensRights26/01/12 11:20 PM
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How did you find the balls to file your divorce? Ask yourself: how many more holidays do you want to spend this way?
/r/MensRights25/12/11 03:33 PM
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This was where I finally understood my father.
/r/MensRights25/12/11 03:27 PM
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I did my Christmas shopping today. Cheers!
/r/MensRights24/12/11 02:02 AM
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Lest anyone think you were joking, link the quote about who the real victims are.
/r/MensRights02/11/11 01:09 AM
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I agree with you. I tell people, I'm liberated. Not a popular stance so far, but now and then it provokes a good conversation.
/r/MensRights02/11/11 01:07 AM
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You got to be the turkey baster? What's it like?
/r/MensRights02/11/11 01:05 AM
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Tell us more, then. (Yes, I read the linked page.)
/r/MensRights12/09/11 06:35 PM
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Edit is a big fan of Kelsey Grammar. Like many people who aren't well socialized, he insists on bringing up his own interests whether they have anything to do with the conversation.
/r/MensRights21/08/11 10:05 PM
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Authorities have been unable to find the husband. Umm, before or after she planned to kidnap him?
/r/MensRights22/07/11 05:20 PM
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Hear, hear! Some friends were discussing the "good ol' days" of real men, and while that's nice it is important to remember that those were also days of very limited choices.
/r/MensRights05/07/11 06:16 PM
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Now, when a man doesn't want to conform to what society wants him to be, he's in the wrong? When this topic comes up in discussions about my lifestyle choices, I just say I'm liberated. It usually gets me the funny look, then the thoughtful look, then a change of topic.
/r/MensRights05/07/11 06:13 PM
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It's always fun to imagine the primitive life of our evolutionary forebears and try to argue about how it affects modern psychology. The idea of women having a four year cycle makes sense for the length of the review; I'm looking forward to the book to see if the argument stands up longer than that. Here's another author asking "why marriage?" and then saying that we'll solve all these problems with more pills and more laws. (Or at least the reviewer interprets it that way.) I don't have a bette…
/r/MensRights27/06/11 01:43 AM
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Parents make mistakes. Dumb mistakes. Mine did, maybe yours too. I agree with you that there is more to the story. Reading between the lines, I get the impression that his wife wanted an issue and picked this one. That could be my own experience, however.
/r/MensRights20/06/11 04:32 PM
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About that "driving people into poverty" thing: the first priority of a family law judge is to keep mom and kids out of welfare. Not justice, not thinking of the children. They want to keep the case from resulting in another burden on the state. When you combine that with out-of-touch chivalry for mothers and protecting children, it kind of snaps into a very dark focus.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:44 PM
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You can try it, but you'll spend even more money on lawyers and courts and experts trying to get it through, with no guarantee. I spent a year thinking things had to make sense and justice has to be served, only to finally realize no, they don't.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:40 PM
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I don't know how a woman with a PhD does it, but I can tell you how a woman with a masters degree in math managed it: she tells the court that she needs to be a mother. Courts love that line.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:38 PM
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Good luck to you thinking men, and to those good women too. It is your awareness that we seek to raise.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:35 PM
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Living with strangers and their kids (and/or their pets), it has its good and bad side. You have to decide up front that you are going to put up with the bad, but also set reasonable limits. It helps to write a roommate agreement in advance that says who does what, when quiet hours are, and so on -- mostly because crafting that agreement will get you to talk to your roommate about expectations. The good side is, you hear stories you'd never have heard otherwise, and you get to tell your story to…
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:20 PM
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I understand the situation well, from my own terrible experience. If you choose to walk, remember that you aren't failing your children or abdicating your manhood. You and many others of us are being abused by a ridiculous legal system and there's no reason you should put up with it. Don't be a slave.
/r/MensRights29/05/11 02:14 PM
1

WTF?
/r/MensRights28/05/11 11:24 PM
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In a similar situation (same problem, different state) I had more success advertising for a place on Craigslist, than responding to ads. At least you will get responses from people who want your business. If you don't mind sharing with college students, then places near campuses are your best bet. Often you can find a house with 2-4 guys looking to add one more roommate. Of course, if you want someplace quiet and clean, that's not your best option :)
/r/MensRights28/05/11 06:24 PM
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What if he's looking for a cheap place to share? Got any sympathy for men who don't have much money, perhaps can't pass a credit check for a commercial lease?
/r/MensRights28/05/11 06:20 PM
5

I think you are likely correct, but it basically comes down to people using what they have, and that will always be true. The women who will realize they can misuse the system are likely to be the ones who would have done something else unfortunate anyway. Educate men as quickly as possible, so fewer will fall into the usual traps. Raise the consciousness of women, and many will turn against injustice.
/r/MensRights13/05/11 03:44 PM
2

We can't really blame the Divorce Generation for using what they know. But yeah, it sucks. I lacked your good upbringing, but I was going to counter all that by having a great family of my own. When that plan didn't go so well, my (then) wife decided to play the system for all it's worth, which was pretty much everything I was worth. I hope I'd be an advocate even if it weren't for that horrible experience. I think that the generation currently coming to adulthood undervalues men and it shows; h…
/r/MensRights28/03/11 03:17 AM
1

Where are those statistics? I'd greatly appreciate a pointer.
/r/MensRights27/03/11 06:09 PM
8

I agree with your sentiments (and your wish for gratitude). But I don't take it to the point of resentment, and I hope you don't either. Social change is normal, and accepting that is part of growing older gracefully. Sometimes I think the world has gone to hell, and other times I recognize that I don't want to be that guy who sits around muttering "aww, this world has gone to hell."
/r/MensRights23/03/11 01:30 PM
1

Good one. I like the Reader's Digest references, personally. Takes me back to childhood :)
/r/MensRights24/02/11 04:28 AM
2

It seems we get the homoerotic label on any story of men together these days -- 300, The Eagle, etc. The book doesn't have any suggestion of it that I recall. The movie? Well, there's that scene of the Brad Pitt sitting in the bath tub saying "maybe what we need isn't another woman," I'll give on that one :) I think everyone reads their views into the stories they like. Consider it praise for the book.
/r/MensRights23/02/11 05:10 PM
2

Interesting idea about Marla. Got a pointer? I think the scene on the roof with the cancer support group suggests Marla is real. Unless the support group is imagined too, at which point you might as well say it's just a story :)
/r/MensRights23/02/11 03:10 PM
1

Have you had a relationship with a woman that started out well but ended badly? Or if she was a bitch to begin with, why form a relationship with her at all? I'll jump to the "why" question on this one: men aren't trained to be good judges of women. By the time we know what we wish we'd known, it's often too late. If I addressed your other question about good relationships that ended badly, the common thread would be that I failed to recognize danger signals. That makes it my fault, sure, but wh…
/r/MensRights16/02/11 06:46 PM
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Upvotes for you and I hope these rules have worked out in your favor. I came here to say something similar and you've covered all the reasons why, with no silliness about how women need any of these things. We do this because it sets the right tone, period. If a woman is pleasant with you in turn, enjoy her company. If she acts like she deserves it as her right, no further interaction is needed. But on point 8, you don't offer your arm? Why not?
/r/MensRights19/01/11 05:51 PM
3

I had the same reaction. But I think I'd go for paying off the $15,000 as part of an amicable no-lawyers divorce.
/r/MensRights08/01/11 09:46 PM
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