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Unfortunately, it's possible to have changed and genuinely become a better person, and also for your past actions and attitudes to have damaged some of your relationships beyond repair. I think instead of making your ability to move forward contingent upon the unconditional forgiveness of others, you need to accept that some of those people will always see you as "that guy," cut your losses, and let those relationships go. Put your energy into the people who are here for this new, better version…
/r/ExRedPill18/03/24 05:14 AM
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Jesus. Let this be a reminder to me to check the post history before I bother replying.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 09:46 PM
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Log off and go outside. For real. If you spend some time outdoors around other human beings you will notice plenty of men with noticeable "genetic disadvantages" who are coupled up with women. Are those women supermodels? No, probably not, but if part of your issue here is that you're consistently punching above your weight, you need to get realistic about the types of women who are likely to be attainable prospects for you and recalibrate accordingly. So if my alternatives is to be a sexless un…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 09:45 PM
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They've been few enough that I can't recall one off the top of my head. I have overwhelmingly been the initiator both online and in real life.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 04:51 AM
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I'm not approached, full stop. In my 20s when I was actively dating I was also not approached, and I was seldom messaged first on dating sites. I got plenty of catcalls and harassment from drunks on the street, though. Love it! Puts a real spring in your step.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 04:32 AM
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The "average woman" gets way less attention than you're imagining, and most of it is crude and demeaning.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 04:27 AM
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So what's your complaint? You're more attracted to some women than others. Women are more attracted to some men than others. And?
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 03:28 AM
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Well, at least you're not a hypocrite. I'll give you that much. Your fantasy about your relative paucity of options compared to the wonderful positive attention you think women get all the time is still totally and completely false, however.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 03:01 AM
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So you finding a particular class of women unattractive and ruling them out as prospects is somehow nobler than women doing the same to you because you think your evaluation of their looks is objective rather than subjective? Okay.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 02:58 AM
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Hardly any woman gave interest in me when I was fat and now I am able to attract much more women than before. Are you using your newfound good looks to try to attract fat women?
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 02:29 AM
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I don't see any women seeing a guy like me thinking I'm as physically attractive as any given male model. And when you interact with average or unattractive women, do you see them as physically attractive as any given female model?
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 02:16 AM
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If Reddit Gold was still a thing I'd award you for this comment.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 02:11 AM
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Every single part of this post is so off-base that it's honestly breathtaking. It's like a lasagna of wrongness.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 01:47 AM
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This isn't a problem of male/female friendships. It's a problem of shitty communication. If you want to clear up any ambiguity about whether you're asking for a date versus just a friendly hangout, then use those words. Will it feel awkward? Yeah, maybe. But a little awkwardness is a small price to pay to avoid getting your wires crossed down the line.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 01:46 AM
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I haven't been turned off by a partner opening up and sharing his vulnerabilities with me. What has turned me off is the feeling that a guy sees me as his unpaid therapist. If every conversation we have becomes a one-man show where he unloads all his miseries onto me with no reciprocity (and often with the built-in subtext "please heal me with sex"), that's a problem. It's also a problem if the conversations include him rehashing the same complaints over and over but never taking any initiative …
/r/ExRedPill20/02/24 01:06 AM
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There are no visible "signs" that someone has had many sexual partners. It's not like having a lot of sex causes a scarlet A to materialize on your chest.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/24 06:49 PM
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At the risk of speaking for /u/DangerStarfish, I'm guessing it's not that it's "wrong," but that it's a direct refutation of a cherished redpill idea: that men are the most oppressed because divorce always favor women, men never get custody, men are routinely "divorce raped" by being forced to pay alimony and child support, etc. Seeing a real-life counterexample would, I imagine, force you to rethink the validity of all of their claims. Once you pull a thread, the whole cloth starts to unravel.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/24 12:05 AM
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All of my friends are really redpill too and I hang out with them because they consider me to be an "exception" but I just want to be able to make female friends again without looking down on them or judging them far more harshly than men. These are not real friends. If their acceptance of you is conditional upon you never resembling the assortment of stereotypes these assholes associate with womanhood, the first time you slip up you can bet you'll be knocked off your pedestal and demoted to "ju…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/24 09:28 PM
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Instead of outsourcing your self-loathing to half of the human race, why not divert some of that energy into improving your looks? Clothes that fit properly, a decent haircut, and some basic skincare can make a world of difference. You may never be "Chad," but if you go outside and look around you'll notice that there are many, many average-to-ugly dudes with women on their arms, and most of the time the women are better-looking than they are.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 08:29 AM
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There are also many non-celebrity examples. Women don't crumble into dust and blow away once they hit 30.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 08:23 AM
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It doesn't need to make sense. The goal is just to make themselves feel better by demeaning women (for being dried up and lonely) and the beta cuck orbiters who marry them (after they've spent their fertile years fucking Chad) and are too naive to realize they're being settled for. There is no "reasoning," it's all just a fantasy that allows the redpillers to feel superior to women who don't want them and men who aren't like them.
/r/ExRedPill06/02/24 11:27 PM
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I have the idea that it isn't necessarily the specific advice that is hated, but the idea of the existance of a step by step procedure or 'if/else' logic for getting girls. But why is this morally different from advice on doing job interviews or advertising? This is actually a great analogy, though not for the reasons you think. What makes it effective is that, much like in dating, there is no surefire step-by-step approach to interviewing for a job that will net you the result you want. You can…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 06:34 AM
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But to be honest I do believe she knows i want to fuck her or have a intimate relationship of some sorts. I asked her out few times she always does just enough flirting or teasing to keep me in friend zone and avoids giving the opportunity to let me escalate. I think she is doing to make her feel good about herself and feed her ego. If she turned you down the first time, why did you keep asking her out? And how is it her fault that you didn't take no for an answer from the getgo? You're fully wi…
/r/ExRedPill28/01/24 06:15 AM
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"Common sense" would suggest that mocking someone in obvious mental distress isn't constructive.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 07:09 AM
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If you geniunely believe you're schizophrenic or experiencing symptoms of psychosis, I strongly encourage you to make an appointment with a psychiatrist (specifically a psychiatrist because they're MDs, and they can prescribe the kinds of medications used to control psychotic disorders). I'd also lay off the creepypasta and any other online content you suspect is triggering these episodes.
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 06:42 AM
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How is this helpful?
/r/ExRedPill29/12/23 06:38 AM
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Do you have any friends local to you?
/r/ExRedPill27/12/23 07:31 PM
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This is your official permission slip to stop spending the holidays with people who make you miserable.
/r/ExRedPill27/12/23 12:25 PM
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Well, they talk out of their asses about everything else under the sun. Why should they make an exception for human biology?
/r/ExRedPill25/12/23 10:57 PM
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Similarly most red pill guys don't think they're "abusive." They just use "tactics" to get women to do what they want. That can't be "abuse," because it's just that they are more clever and superior. I think this is spot-on and to it I would add that it also can't be abuse because, according to their bogus worldview, women are an unfairly privileged class who hold all the power in dating and relationships. If the power imbalance favors women, then nothing they do to women can be considered abusi…
/r/ExRedPill19/12/23 07:08 PM
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I think many people, especially young people, mistake emotional turbulence for passion and get a rush off the highs and lows of being in an unstable, unpredictable relationship. This is not a gendered phenomenon. Men do the exact same shit, except they call the women who introduce turbulence into their lives "crazy bitches" instead of "bad girls."
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 09:27 PM
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By recognizing that life isn't as simplistic as this binarist lens you're looking through in which either you're pulling women left and right or RedPill is true. I realize this likely isn't the answer you want, but you can be unsuccessful with women for reasons entirely unrelated to anything RedPill has to say.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 07:15 AM
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So my question is, if all the data proves that it's bullshit yet my reality has been identical to black pill thought, how can I not agree with it? I mean, go outside and do some people-watching and I guarantee you'll see plenty of unattractive people with partners. And my observation as a woman has been that it's way more common to see ugly dudes with women better-looking than they are than the other way around. So that's my first suggestion.
/r/ExRedPill17/12/23 12:36 AM
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I’ve been told by a guy friend who IS good with women about PUA, he’s said to not ask interview questions like “what do you like to do for fun” but just talk in a way where it comes up instead of directly asking. Speaking as an actual woman, I could not disagree with this more. I'd much rather be asked questions about myself than listen to a dude ramble about his interests until one of mine just happens to come up. Enough men are happy to monologue at length about themselves without ever asking …
/r/ExRedPill09/12/23 07:48 PM
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My brother has a long list of people who were hurt by their toxicity, yet were as loved by everyone I knew. I'm willing to bet these are two separate groups of people. Also, depending on how overtly aggressive your brother is toward others, it's likely that many of the people who appear to like him are really just afraid of him and trying to remain on his good side.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 07:54 PM
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+1 for r/MensLib. That sub has the least amount of aggro incel BS of all the mens' subs from what I've seen.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 05:28 AM
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I think it speaks to the level of conditioning men undergo as to what kind of woman they're supposed to want. Because it isn't just about what you want to come home to, it's also about who you're seen with, and what other people think that means about you.
/r/ExRedPill05/12/23 05:27 AM
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You can find someone attractive without thinking they belong to the top-most percentile of hottest people on the planet.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 08:10 AM
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If the "80/20 rule" you're referring to is from that one OkCupid study that gets brought up on Reddit all the time, you're making the same mistake every other dude does and leaving out the key detail that in spite of rating 80% of men below average, the women in the study messaged those men anyway. The men, on the other hand, found a wider range of women attractive but across the board they concentrated their efforts on trying to engage with only the hottest ones. This would imply that the major…
/r/ExRedPill01/12/23 01:16 AM
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You've already gotten some good advice from other commenters, so I'd like to add that you need to be patient and prepare yourself for the probability that she will not leave as urgently as you wish she would. Even if you've talked through an exit strategy with her and helped line up emergency resources, there's a high likelihood that she won't go right away. On average, it takes a survivor seven attempts to leave an abusive partner for good. This doesn't mean she doesn't want to go or that she e…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 03:20 AM
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I think it’s had positive effects on my ability to date and experience women. Do you think the women you've dated would report positive experiences with you? So much of the red pill's methodology is just manipulation that veers at times into emotional abuse, and it justifies itself with a lot of cant about how actually women want to be mistreated and it's fine because they hold all the cards in dating anyway, so you're just evening the score. How do you imagine it feels to be on the receiving en…
/r/ExRedPill27/11/23 03:12 AM
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Sorry your life sucks, but women collectively aren't to blame for the fact that you can't get laid. Work on your victim complex and you might actually see your prospects improve.
/r/ExRedPill21/11/23 12:26 AM
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If you aren't interested in casual sex, why are you so bothered by the idea that women in general have easier access to it than you do?
/r/ExRedPill20/11/23 11:53 PM
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As an actual woman, increased opposite-sex attention mostly just translates into more dudes who will gladly use your body as a cum rag without bothering to get you off. It is no guarantee that you will be loved, respected, or wanted as anything other than a masturbatory aid. And many men will actually treat you worse for agreeing to have sex with them because they associate enthusiasm for sex with "hypergamy" and thus being "low-value." How exactly is any of that fair?
/r/ExRedPill20/11/23 11:22 PM
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Men's rights chuds: [Put women they want to fuck on a pedestal.] Men's rights chuds: [Look around and notice that nobody's putting them on a similar pedestal.] Men's rights chuds: "This is all feminism's fault."
/r/ExRedPill20/11/23 11:10 PM
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We know better, we do better. At least you can delete those posts!
/r/ExRedPill18/11/23 06:49 PM
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There's actually nothing at all wrong with having casual sex or lots of partners, but making bragging posts about it on Instagram is cringey and adolescent.
/r/ExRedPill18/11/23 06:24 PM
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I think the high-value/low-value framing makes more sense if you're the kind of person who evaluates your partner not in terms of how she makes you feel, but in terms of what other men think of you for being with her. These guys don't give a shit whether they're happy with their partners or vice versa, they care that other men envy them for being with women they see as unattainable.
/r/ExRedPill13/09/23 05:53 AM
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