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This is SUCH good advice/insight.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/25 12:08 AM
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Hm. A good question. I suppose the tree.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 11:56 PM
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I don't think that someone's intrinsic value is based on how others treat them. Many societies raped enslaved or killed women, black people, foreigners, etc, but just because those societies treated them badly doesn't mean they are worth less. Just because we cut down trees easily without respecting their value doesn't mean they don't have any. I don't see it as "taking up" desirable space, I see the tree itself as desirable. A place to sit under shade, or for you to climb with your kids. Someth…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 11:38 PM
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Does a tree have value before it is useful as paper? I think it does.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/25 10:49 PM
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This goes against RPW philosophy. What do you gain? It is counterproductive to commitment or even priority for you or your children from your husband. A waste of his time, attention, and resources.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/25 07:17 PM
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He is buying access to other women's bodies like a commodity. Disrespecting both you and them, and cheapening his own sexual desire. But you are looking to validate what you already believe. You dislike this trait in a man, you don't need our permission for it to be a dealbreaker for you.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/25 08:55 PM
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Is there a way you could extend more into this community to meet likeminded friends and, for dating, religious, family-oriented men?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 11:14 PM
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Are you attending masses now, or waiting for this potential future family?
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 07:40 PM
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You can still go to mass with people you love now.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/24 02:42 PM
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You can cut a bit of the front of the wig hairline to make baby hairs, it'll help blend it and make it look a bit more realistic:)
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/24 02:21 PM
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This sounds more like a sexual fetish to me. What answer are you hoping to get from this question?
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/24 05:40 AM
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I think there's a lot more nuance to what she's saying, and I got the impression she's trying to share wisdom she's learned, not complain about her dating life having been difficult
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 09:50 PM
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You and your partner should be most interested in who each of you are right now, and who each of you plan to be. Sexual history matters in the way that its shaped your life, but neither partner should be resentful or anxious about it. Trust in the now and the future should override any doubts about the past. We can always be the people we want to be each day :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/09/24 09:48 PM
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Forgoing your pride to stay in a loveless relationship may not be what's best for your kids. Kids need what is stable and loving, which many people confuse for staying married, despite any circumstances. This man has already shown to be unstable and easily out the door. Only you know if this advice applies, but don't fall prey to the assumption that together=better
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/24 08:58 PM
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What is the benefit for doing this rather than you both having fulfilling careers and using part of that salary to hire a cleaning person?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/24 02:07 AM
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By 25 or so, I feel like people are who they will always be. If he is unambitious by 21, especially in terms of education/career, it's very, very unlikely that will change, and YOU being the one to bring it up will probably make him resent you for his own insecurities. You are young enough to find someone compatible who will want to build the same type of life with you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/24 06:59 PM
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The problem with baggage is when you're still carrying it around. The past doesn't matter if its not impacting right now, but it sounds like both of you still have a lot of hardships to work through right now, before taking on another person's ESPECIALLY if they fall into the same vices and pitfalls you do. Also, lying about not being married?! No license? Part time job only? Promising you marriage then backtracking?! That is NOT comparable to having sex with 3 men by age 46. How recent is the l…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/24 02:54 PM
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Start slow. You have to physically relax your muscles and be turned on. If he pushes past and just starts going at full soeed, you'll tense up and itll hurt even more. Slow, and feeling safe and trusting, will allow your body to take more of it. Then you can up speed/intensity. Lube will also help! Also, try riding if you want more control over depth. Since its bigger, it doesn't slip out as easily as less endowed men so its more of a hip rotation than a quads workout!
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/24 11:52 PM
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If you were really attracted to him securely, I can't imagine you'd be so put off by this one characteristic that you'd make a post about it. It sounds like you are looking for permission to look elsewhere to find what you need. That's fine, you have it. If you're already having an issue with finding him attractive this early on, it likely will only get worse as the relationship gets deeper and you feel more guilty about this. His height isn't going to change. How you feel about his height won't…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/24 02:53 PM
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One last question: what about this current relationship prompted you to want to ask this question now?
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 05:55 PM
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Why do you want to stay with someone you don't feel sexually fulfilled by? In my experience, sexual dynamics are mirrors of the entire relationship dynamic. Ex) If you feel used sexually, you are probably being taken for granted in the relationship, or if the sex is very possessive or ignores boundaries, one partner is likely to be abusive/controlling to the other all the time, etc. What separates your "couple things" from a genuine, caring friendship? If you had deeper friends as a support syst…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 05:51 PM
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Be firm in your boundaries. Don't put up with anything you don't want because you think you have to for their feelings/to be polite/whatever. You don't. Your boundaries matter. Don't talk about SA/vulnerability to men you don't already trust. It only signals how to hurt you if anyone wants to use it against you, or makes guys think that they should be "getting" as much as the worse guy got from you. An open relationship is not a relationship, its a hookup. You are being taken advantage of. End t…
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 04:18 PM
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women, not girls. and we're not a hivemind
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/24 03:16 PM
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Thank you! I appreciate you❤️
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 06:09 PM
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I just don't think this is a productive question, if I'm being honest
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/24 03:07 AM
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I understand what you are saying, as I understand listening to men's thoughts on a matter is integral to RP philosophy. Again, I think there are many, many places where one can seek out male voices on a subject, and very few where you can seek out female voices, particularly RP female voices. Perhaps I came off too harsh in my first message- I do think the mods have done a lovely job with this sub, and its because of the great community that's been established and fostered here that I care about…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 07:10 PM
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I have noticed a gradual shift moreso in the last 4 years. I understand your decision, I just hope that the tone and demographic ratio does not continue to shift too far.
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:54 PM
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It's not that I think there should be no male presence, but every female sub that begins letting men post freely becomes a male dominated sub. Men speak over women, and the uniquely female experiences are not able to be discussed. We already have a mixed-gender sub for TheRedRill, and its not RedPillWOMEN. Even the automoderator says men are allowed, yet discouraged, from posting, as they don't fully understand what it feels like to be a woman in a traditional relationship. That is okay, since t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 06:22 PM
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If women are more educated and better employed, how is it that men can't be "able" to provide in this economy? It sounds like women are taking their studies more seriously, while men goof off or go to parties, and women are focused on building a career, home and family while men chase hookups. In my line of work (chemistry) most of the couples are single-income earners. I know men who provide for their wife and women who provide for their husband, but it most definitely is attainable for either …
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 05:18 AM
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Right. I've ALWAYS submitted because I adored the man I was submitting to, the second he forgets he's capable of doing it himself (like pretending he doesn't know how) or becomes unappreciative, I lose attraction to him. Kind, loving, sexually passionate and faithful men make women WANT to submit. No woman who has ever been forced to submit has loved a man more for it. And talking about us like we're some exotic pet breed he got a good deal on "you RPW are worth finding!" Is dehumanizing and gro…
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 05:02 AM
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I do wish the mods would keep this a red pill WOMEN'S sub, lest we turn into the cesspool that the regular redpill sub has become. Men seem to understand well women submitting to them, but not the part where they step up and provide, that it's a mutual partnership, not a free servant. This isn't directed at you, OP, but I am really weary of every female sub being ruined once nearly every post in it becomes men's opinion on how they think the women in the sub should be
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/23 03:20 AM
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People prioritize things they want in their lives. He won't even bother to visit her, and doesn't even have a good fake reason not to. What are liberals gonna do? Vote him back to his home state? Get reeeeall Move on OP
/r/RedPillWomen19/12/23 06:28 AM
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I may be misreading your reply, but I do believe in God :) I fully agree! Devotion without purpose is dangerous, but living a full life is about finding what you love and choosing to make the hard decisions to continue its growth in our lives :) Whether our values are traditional lifestyles, faith, or strong marriage, we choose our values based on what we believe is foundational to a good, happy, love-filled life ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 08:05 PM
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It's definitely not necessary, but religion is itself a tradition, so you're more likely to find overlap. Many religious people are traditional, and many traditional people are religious. We women are strong, emotionally complex, and intelligent. Hopefully, also wise. You are able to hold on to any values you believe strongly in. You don't need to have them based in anything else, as long as they're based in conviction. What you believe in strongly should be the root of your beliefs. Faith is im…
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/23 07:54 PM
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Good to hear it!! Congrats, and I hope you have a wonderful time :)
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 07:16 PM
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User mutton said it best, we don't change men, we vet them, and a man who wants to make you happy will be committed to making you happy. Celebrating a huge accomplishment of yours is the easiest way to know how to make you happy! I was in an abusive relationship when I graduated college. My family was never there for me, and I knew my boyfriend at the time would've found some way to make me cry, so I didn't invite anyone to my graduation. The important part, no matter what he says or does, is to…
/r/RedPillWomen05/12/23 07:10 PM
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Miss, I don't want to be rude, but it's shameful because you are knowingly disrespecting yourself. You know where your expectations and standards should be, and yet you are letting someone take advantage of and be cruel/uncaring to you and STILL believe yourself to be lower/submissive to his judgement. A leader plans, and makes sure everyone in the household is happy and safe and contributing. You are not happy, and he is not contributing, and he is very content to keep it this way because he kn…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 07:09 PM
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Uh, so what is he even bringing to the table for you? Not emotional labor or finances or care or appreciation? And you want to submit to that???
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/23 06:30 PM
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You are, but immediately following a loss when your WIFE is asking for support is not the best time to get absolutely destroyed on psychedelics. She's not upset he's seeing a friend, she's upset that he's ignored her REPEATED requests for help taking care of BOTH of their kids, and he hasn't even bothered to be a father. He is using her as a permanent babysitter so he can live a full life and she's stuck doing all of the grunt work, without even the love and support a marriage should bring. Chec…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 08:27 PM
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This is a pattern of you asking for help and connection from someone who SHOULD be your life partner. He is being selfish. He is putting his own wants and convenience over your needs. On some level, he doesn't care that you're mourning, or overwhelmed, or distant or lonely. If life is easier alone than with someone who should be loving you, and if not making things better, then at least TRYING to, I wouldn't see the point into deluding yourself into running yourself ragged just to keep being met…
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/23 08:20 PM
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What a question. Master's degree and a gym membership. You'll get a "leveled up" body as well as a tangible career upgrade.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/23 06:36 PM
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How serious are you and your partner? You should be able to be vulnerable and supported by a proper partnership
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 08:05 PM
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I would say so, but maybe you could do necklaces or some other token of affection that can be worn for the same effect?
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/23 07:15 AM
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I think you might be reading too much into a movie about kid's toys
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/23 09:13 PM
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I wouldn't do it all the time or anything, but he values your input here and cares enough to make a good impression. You two are partners, I don't see an issue with it.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/23 05:24 PM
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Ah, my bad. I misread. Still, tired and busy doesn't inspire confidence.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:31 PM
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True, but I imagine OP lives with them... In which case- You know, I was going to say that only leaves public places to hang out in, but considering how short this quasi relationship is, yeah they should probably just be at places like parks and restaurants.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:29 PM
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I just realized you wrote its been a week without talking to him. Let him go. He's not interested in you at all
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:22 PM
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It's weird all around. Why date an 18 year old if you're creeped out by her being 18? I wouldn't want to meet parents either, which is why I date adults who have their own place. Seems very... Off.
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/23 05:21 PM
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And spouses absolutely should support one another through tough times like this! But OP is working FOUR jobs and her partner simply "doesn't have the motivation". I'm actually out of work myself right now, due to a tech company-wide layoff, and there are so many odds and ends type things you can do to support your partner even if you can't work. Even if its not financially, is he giving OP a massage and fresh cooked dinner? Anything to help ease her burdens?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 06:06 PM
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This 🙌
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 05:49 PM
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Never on the first date. Second I'll usually cover completely if its something smaller than the first, or at least get him something nice. But he's gotta pay for the first, if hes not willing to gamble ~$50 on me, why am I wasting hours getting ready?
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/23 05:48 PM
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And also consider what is going through his head when he lets you continue being so run down so he doesn't have to? I personally would never let my partner do all of that for me without somehow balancing the workload so they feel supported and loved in other ways (home repair, errands, deep cleaning, etc)
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 09:56 PM
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I know this isn't advice OP wants... But consider if doing all of this, reducing your hours for your boyfriend's ego, abstaining from spending your own money on your own lifestyle, is something worthwhile to keep this man happy, or if a breakup would make you freet and happier in the long term.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/23 09:54 PM
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Hun I feel you!!! I shaved my head a few years back and its FINALLY at the point where I'm not so self conscious about it. I just got Invisalign at 20 for my teeth which were very misaligned, so I totally get just how frustrating feeling unbeautiful can be. I'd say definitely dedicate yourself to a routine. Some sort of exercise every day, preferably when you first wake up so it becomes second nature. Skincare makes SUCH a difference, as well as conditioning and regular haircuts. Showering, and …
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/20 05:19 PM
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I think 3 months salary has always been a reasonable limit. It shows that they are willing to spend money to make sure youre happy, but doesnt break the bank. You're going to wear the set for the rest of your lives, it SHOULD be something quality. Ultimately, I think the price symbolizes the gesture of wanting to commit and the sacrifice for someone else. But truly honestly, if there's a ring you adore, there's no reason to spend more money for anything else. You could show him pictures of ring …
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 10:14 PM
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I just don't see how if I want to cultivate a loving, prosperous relationship/marriage, why I would want to read angry rants about "cock riding". I think we all want a partner who respects us and consistently improves with us. I think originally, TRP had a stronger focus on this, but its become focused on changing how you're viewed by prospective sexual partners, rather than improving who you are for potential long-term partners
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 06:18 PM
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Just to tack on about the hair! While a good conditioner is an absolute MUST, the shampoo should be of a decent quality, because the cheapest stuff will strip and damage your hair. In the shower, I quickly shampoo and rinse my hair (focus on the scalp not the roots) then immediately put conditioner in. Dont rinse it out until the very end of the shower. Exfoliate, wash your body, and shave all with the conditioner or hair mask (even better!) still in. After the shower, apply a leave-in condition…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/20 05:25 PM
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He doesn’t sound invested. He doesn’t text or think of plans with you until the day if when he’s bored and has no other plans. Instead of leaving you enamored, he’s leaving you confused. The only time he sounds engaged with you is in hopes of sexual gain. Stop chasing. If he wants to be closer to you, he’ll let you know. One of men’s strengths is being able to “wow” someone when they want to impress or be with them, and he’ss not showing any signs of caring to do so with you.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/19 01:07 AM
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A reminder that men willing to put in effort will chase, and not to chase after men who won’t put in any effort. Also, just the general focus on self-improvement in both who you are and your role as a woman in the world :) I feel like rpw has taught me how to be softer, more accommodating, and more self-respecting.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/19 10:16 PM
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I think if it alters any part of his “real” life, it can... If he would prefer to watch porn instead of doing something sexual with his real partner, or wants to do something very unconventional because he saw it in porn and his partner is not into it, or if he’d rather watch porn than improving a skill of his or doing something productive often enough that it cuts into his time. I would definitely prefer a partner who’d choose to look at pictures of me rather than unknown women online, but I al…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 05:58 PM
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Having nonconsensual fantasies does not, in any way, mean he actually wants to sexually assault someone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/19 04:08 AM
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Keep a close eye on them to make sure they’re safe, and kids are usually more than happy to show you whatever they’re interested in! My baby cousin (1yr) LOVES tv remotes, and carrying them around, and at that age my favorite thing about kids is how exciting everything in the world is to them! They see the world with fresh eyes, and everything is new and great! Just try to watch them, and look at the world with their eyes, and make sure they’re safe and happy :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/19 07:54 PM
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A wise bit of advice I was once given: If a man likes you, you’ll know. If he doesn’t, you’ll be confused.
/r/RedPillWomen07/08/19 05:21 PM
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