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This is cap. Weird guys feel unsafe to be around, they just so happen to have no female friends.
/r/seduction26/05/25 01:35 AM
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Some will, some won't, some will ghost you even if you do make a move. There is hardly a right or wrong in dating, just try to enjoy it, and if the moment allows for a move, take the chance.
/r/seduction06/04/24 05:47 PM
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My go to: food and wine. I can cook so ill suggest that and if she's comfortable with it ill usually have at least one bottle of wine laying around.
/r/seduction08/07/22 05:21 PM
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Its just perspective. If you heard about a guy approaching people at restaurants and at least having success to have many dates you would envision one thing probably a successful attractive person while someone else may envision another person entirely. You can't use this difference in perspective to reflect who you are or even your technique of approach. They do not know you so their perspective is not accurate.
/r/seduction22/05/22 04:36 AM
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I work as a bouncer and experience the exact same thing. Our club has a top level that is a club for older people or people who enjoy a quieter live music style and downstairs is full on dance club where mostly young people go. Upstairs i am complimented endlessly by older women and downstairs its nothing but awkward stares. Older women are not shy at all, but it also might just be that you are more attractive to older women too.
/r/seduction21/05/22 10:50 PM
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Hold strong eye contact with a smile. A lot of men will not be able to handle that especially if your physically close to them.
/r/seduction13/05/22 11:08 PM
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Most people date in their league so, if you want that you need to work on yourself to become more attractive. If you only want hook ups you're probably already fine but when it comes to dating generally people date in their league. Workout, eat right, and dress well are the only tips.
/r/seduction01/05/22 06:12 PM
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You have to at least be as attractive as her orbiters.
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:47 PM
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I would rather one person. As a guy I like the idea of having sex with different people but I prefer the life of having only one love and the comfort that comes with it.
/r/seduction29/04/22 12:33 AM
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Act sassy with her like your one of the girls. She'll give it up real quick if you do that or she'll find it funny.
/r/seduction25/03/22 06:51 PM
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I had a terrible breakup some years ago, and I was around 300 lbs after it was dealt with at 6ft1 but I have a broad frame. An average weight for a guy my size is probably closer to 200-220 at most. So I was big but I still managed to get laid. It was only flings and some of the girls were a tad bigger too but as long as you don't mind that. After dropping weight over a summer the amount of hook ups and dates increased substantially though, so it does matter but you can always work on that over …
/r/seduction18/03/22 07:32 PM
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Growing up will always feel like everyone is shallow. Teenagers are shallow as fuck but as you gets older you care more about people than just their looks and that applies to Men and Women. Attractiveness is a large part of dating, and almost all of that is looks but what keeps you interested in someone will be their personality. Some people will be shallow their entire lives but they're not likely the type of people you would want anyway. Thats why I believe you should always aim to be friends …
/r/seduction12/03/22 10:40 PM
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I'm in almost an identical spot man, its all how you view yourself. You need to stop looking at your past as "regrettable" and instead take whatever you can as a learning experience from each sexual encounter in your past. If anything chalk it up to helping you be better in bed if nothing else. I was the unpopular kid in high-school, never believed attractive women would like me, and as an adult I've been slowly unlearning that. It sounds like you're in the same spot, and if you are its literall…
/r/seduction11/03/22 08:25 PM
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Dude just hit her up again and ask her out. If she questions it just tell her straight up that you weren't ready to date or something but you'd definitely like right those wrongs and take her out again.
/r/seduction11/03/22 01:10 AM
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I was in your spot when I was younger. I had no friends or girlfriend until I was 22. I managed to change my life simply by working out, cutting sugars, and doing my best to eat well. Apart from that I focused on myself, my goals, and my income. You don't need height, or to be genetically gifted to get women. What you do need is a solid concept of who you are, who you want to be and your goals in life. Your main goal should not be a girlfriend, find yourself first and be happy with who you are t…
/r/seduction01/03/22 02:10 AM
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That is normal. You're not comfortable, you won't have those issues when you become more comfortable having sex.
/r/seduction01/02/22 07:50 PM
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Its all about just shooting your shot. If you dress nicely that'll help but showing you're interested and buying them a drink or something will bring you a long way. They're just like any other person at the end of the day they'll jump in some comfy ass clothes and relax at home.
/r/seduction11/01/22 11:12 PM
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I suffered from this too. The solution isn't easy, you have to just put yourself out there. Even now I find myself flustered when I'm on a date with a really cute girl I like but just embrace it. A good mate of mine who is great with women said he feels the same but he reminds himself that the feeling you have around her only last so long. You'll never feel that awkward crazy butterfly feeling again with her once you get past that point, so he said he reminds himself of that and tries to enjoy i…
/r/seduction07/01/22 07:37 PM
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I've only done it a couple times but I've only traveled a couple times. What worked for me was literally just sparking conversation and letting them know you're there on vacation. From there it was super easy to be interested in each other, and I usually ask them to do something with me after a short conversation. If they say yes just go have fun and the rest will fall into place.
/r/seduction07/01/22 07:32 PM
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I did the reverse, started out lean af and now I'm breaching 220. I look way bigger but I definitely pull less. This summer will be cutting time and getting back to that lmao. Food is expensive af now so not eating 3500+ calories a day will help the bank account lol
/r/seduction01/01/22 04:42 PM
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That can definitely work, you would need a way to gradually increase weight so either invest in some weights or a weighted vest/belts can help too.
/r/seduction01/01/22 04:38 PM
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Low bf% is far more effective if you're looking to just build attractiveness. And once you're lean you can always aim to slowly build muscle on that. But in my experience low bf% will pull way more girls than being built. But the best combo is ottermode, or low bf% with a little bit of muscle.
/r/seduction01/01/22 04:25 PM
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Yeah if she's really serious it might not work but if you're lighthearted about it I feel like its fine.
/r/seduction22/12/21 04:08 AM
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Id go with "I don't blame them" and give her the cheesiest wink and smile ever. Kinda the same thing just more goofy
/r/seduction22/12/21 03:55 AM
247

"Yeah I hate when guys hit on me too"
/r/seduction22/12/21 02:37 AM
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Put yourself out there and be genuinely nice about it. If they're not into it just play it off and be happy you made a new friend.
/r/seduction17/12/21 05:55 PM
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Who knows but move on anyway. You lose nothing by moving on. If she's playing games she'll come around when you stop giving her attention plus you might meet someone better in the process too, and if not you're already moved on. Win win.
/r/seduction28/10/21 09:55 PM
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I had this exact issue with hookups for a while. Lay off the coffee that is definitely not helping, as far as SSRIs i doubt its impacting it if you're fine when you are alone. Viagra and supplements will not work if your mental is whats holding you back. I went through over a year of figuring shit out with my doctor and it ultimately came down to stress/nervousness. You need to find a way to calm down and remain stress free whether that means taking longer to get to know the person, abstaining f…
/r/seduction27/10/21 01:24 AM
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Also if you're feeling desperate maybe you can reach out to the girls to apologize. You never know what will come of an apology perhaps it can help.
/r/seduction20/10/21 08:28 PM
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Its unfortunate but you'll have to take this time to reflect and work on yourself. I'd suggest finding a job and looking into how you can finish your schooling, basically take care of your future. There is little you can do in regards to this situation on campus. If you live in a large city it shouldn't affect your dating life you'll just have to find means outside of campus but id suggest taking a break from that.
/r/seduction20/10/21 07:53 PM
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Shy and vulnerable yes. But insecure means you gotta figure yourself out man. Take care of yourself and be happy with who you are but its totally fine to be shy and vulnerable. Many women will appreciate that, and a quiet guy isn't a bad thing either, just take care of yourself and trust in yourself.
/r/seduction20/10/21 07:50 PM
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Live off campus and move on. Are you allowed to finish your degree and continue classes? You just can't live on campus?
/r/seduction20/10/21 07:44 PM
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Watch a video on night clubbing by grossgore. Really helps paint a picture of what to expect.
/r/seduction19/10/21 05:35 AM
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Not at 100+ but what helped me get from having slept with 0 women at 20 to 30+ in 2 years was focusing on myself. Take care of every aspect of your life including your physical health and understand you don't need any women to complete you. Also as others have noted already, its not a very fulfilling life sleeping with a lot of women, it became very old quickly and counting feels childish after a while too.
/r/seduction18/10/21 05:18 PM
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Its all abstract anyway. You do you, but you have to understand yourself, and then it literally does not matter. Safe sex is important regardless of how many partners you have or will see.
/r/seduction16/10/21 06:14 PM
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"Everyone who's had a girlfriend raise their hand" then don't raise yours.
/r/seduction15/10/21 01:46 PM
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How long were you two together? I'd also wager you're both young? You need to focus on improving yourself and doing things for you. If you want to avoid being too nice you have to think for yourself more instead of trying to please her. Act the way you want and do the things you want instead of trying to win her over by being nice. Its totally fine to be selfish with a girl, in fact that can be attractive. The reality is that the man who is more self-centered and does what he wants is more attra…
/r/seduction12/10/21 06:38 PM
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Don't even worry about it. You'll have MANY more chances the older you get. Just socialize any way you can and make friends, don't worry about meeting anyone to date or bang, that will come with university or college, or when you're old enough for tinder. The best advice is to make as many friends as you can because knowing many girls is way better than trying to game on tinder or anywhere else.
/r/seduction10/10/21 05:29 PM
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Its happens, best to just move on. You'll never know why she did what she did but she had her reasons, and it could literally be anything. She did you dirty but thats life, find someone better for you.
/r/seduction05/10/21 06:58 AM
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Honest advice? Enjoy that feeling. Why? Because you can go years without ever feeling that for a girl again. You're suffering because of a great experience and how much you like her, but its not in vain, you will see her again.
/r/seduction05/10/21 01:49 AM
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I don't see any issue with this. It sounds like the man you're looking for isn't the majority of men. A dominant man that women chase is not as common. You just have to keep looking.
/r/seduction05/10/21 01:24 AM
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Watch a video on YouTube about clubbing by a youtuber named "grossgore". Its very straight forward how you go about pulling in clubs its just really defeating until you get it down or succeed.
/r/seduction04/10/21 04:04 AM
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They're just like anyone else in my experience. Treat them the same and they'll really dig you if they're into you.
/r/seduction28/09/21 10:19 PM
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I can't talk for shit either mate. My go to is to talk at a slow pace, smile and laugh a lot, and just be confident in what your saying. I found this made what I was saying way more interesting and oddly enough kinda flirty. Basically act sauve
/r/seduction27/09/21 11:15 PM
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That's tough bro. It's unfortunate people are that way and when women do like you, are you wondering if it is because of your ethnic background? Like how would you feel about a woman dating you because she fetishizes your race? I live in a small city that is very diverse, and anytime I date a woman who isn't white this conversation always comes up; am I interested solely because she is X race? Good luck finding someone who's into you for you though, thats a struggle for everyone nowadays.
/r/seduction27/09/21 10:18 PM
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I went from overweight and only have ever been with one girl to fit and lost over 100lbs. The difference is drastic, I use to sometimes get attention from girls when I was bigger but once I got fit if I went downtown i get noticeable attention from women. This of course made hook ups so much easier, and tinder is more of a breeze when you're better looking. With that said, just taking care of yourself to optimize your potential is important. I know guys who aren't the best looking but they're st…
/r/seduction26/09/21 06:43 PM
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Just take control man, that means you lead the engagement however you want as long as she cool with it too.
/r/seduction26/09/21 01:48 AM
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I went from 300lbs overweight to 190lbs and actively go to the gym. This helped a ton with dating on apps and in person. It definitely isn't everything but it sure helps get you to the point where you meet people easier. If you focus on gym with a good routine and a semi okay diet you'll see massive difference in no time.
/r/seduction25/09/21 04:23 AM
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That makes sense, i can see how that goes. Any tips on letting loose a bit more?
/r/seduction24/11/19 12:27 AM
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Your own standards likely reflect your actual attractiveness. However, just believing and acting as if you are really attractive will actually make you more attractive because that's essentially confidence, and confidence can be REALLY attractive to women.
/r/seduction18/08/19 05:40 AM
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Tinder is a great background option to text girls and get hook ups sometimes. All of my current fwb are from there. Just use it for fun, don't take it serious and just enjoy flirting with girls and you'll get random hook ups at times.
/r/seduction17/08/19 01:46 PM
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Depends what "it" is. Just go along with it if she's being a bad girl force her to do it in a fun way or punish her. Like if you want a blowjob and she playfully denies you force her into position and then make her take it. Just find a way to have fun with it you can even turn it around and if she is being bad then just take it out on her with rough sex and tell her that s what she gets when she doesn't listen.
/r/seduction15/08/19 09:33 AM
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When you're kissing pay attention to her breathing, if it's getting faster, and she's breathing in between every kiss heavily she's turned on. At this point you can easily kiss down her neck, take it slow kiss her all over show her you love that body. You don't have to eat her out if you don't want too but once you get there be slow still tease with your breath, lips, tongue and fingers, if she's into it she'll be moving on her own. At this point when you're to her pussy and she's basically aski…
/r/seduction15/08/19 09:05 AM
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That demeanor is the result of the no fucks attitude which is also a result from going outside of your comfort zone to get what you want, don't take any shit and be assertive. The best thing you can do is understand that everything in life isn't going to be given to you and if you don't go take it yourself you'll never get it. If you see a cute girl go talk to her see if you like her, if a guy jumps in front of you in line tell him off deal with it how you personally want too. Me I'd tell him to…
/r/seduction15/08/19 08:57 AM
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Easy man. Stop masturbating entirely but constantly think about fucking girls you know in person even while talking to them staring them in the eye trust me next time you'll be ready to go. Also bigger than looks and most shit is confidence and when I say confidence I mean go get it confidence, someone says something rude tell them off, someone is cute and catches your eye go for it, don't hesitate don't care, confidence like this will be real evident and effective when you see yourself only giv…
/r/seduction15/08/19 07:26 AM
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Well thank you, that definitely makes me see it differently. However, there is one thing i have not gotten down and that is the say/do what you want and take what you want attitude and don't take shit from anybody, i don't know how to work on this but my idol (my uncle) has it perfectly, he is a nice, confident guy, social guy but with a i go get what i want and no one fucks with me attitude. I respect him because he is the happiest person i know and i want to achieve this as well and add it to …
/r/seduction15/08/19 06:31 AM
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I'm a tall white dude and it's the same for me too. On tinder my average girl I match with is like a 7ish or lower where as in person I can attract girls I consider 8-10s if I were to approach. I think tinder requires some damn good pictures,perfect bio and What not to really get good results. A couple years ago I made a tinder with perfect everything and the results were crazy but I haven't updated my pictures since and they look older now and my results are not even a 1/3 of before.
/r/seduction12/08/19 07:59 PM
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This is coming from a 22M who is definitely a satyromaniac so I love sex as well. Now I have some questions but my social group is not large so I rely on approaching and online dating for hook ups and What not. With approaching I do have the intention to fuck, it's like I can't help it. My only problem is sometimes I don't know what to say at the beginning of a approach but once we're talking I can carry conversation well as I'm a performer. My goal is to approach a cute girl to get to know her,…
/r/seduction12/08/19 07:27 PM
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How do you handle dance clubs? My town dance clubs are the big thing, the only issue is talking in there is impossible it's too loud. I've been successful in other areas but clubs allude me, the only success I've had there is when girls approach me. I'm also a reserved dancer,the first time I danced was at a club in my twenties. So how can I manage to pull girls from these loud dance clubs? Also if you had tips for getting into the dancing that'd likely help.
/r/seduction10/08/19 08:03 PM
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The answers right in front of you, literally talk about the class, something about it that may be relatable, it's a super easy ice breaker then just progress into questions about her instead. At any point after the initial getting to know her questions you can try flirting but I'd at least like to see her enjoying the conversation first before flirting because of she's shy and quiet she may be too nervous.
/r/seduction08/08/19 06:23 AM
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It's probably weird to ask straight away about meeting at your place, it's obvious then that you're going to try to fuck on the first date and is highly creepy without talking and getting to know each other first. What id suggest is throwing subtle flirty things at them to see if they pick up and reciprocate them. My most recent one where we met straight up at one of our places started out super casual and seemed like a multiple dater. We got on the topic of movies so I obviously joked about cud…
/r/seduction08/08/19 06:16 AM
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That at least to me doesn't matter as much, if you looked up every so often with a cute lil smile damn ya got me. Definitely don't feel insecure, the dudes gonna be thinking god damn she's even beautiful with my dick in her mouth (I've said that haha).
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:34 PM
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Yes blowjobs are so exciting if you get something new that's good like you gonna make a man think he's in love like that. Anything new and exploring in my opinion is great even just to try and see.
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:31 PM
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That's a bit trickier because vaginas are amazing. It's easy to just do what works since guys cum so much faster and sometimes really easily. What I would suggest is exploring how to do different stuff with blow jobs that's exciting for me, different ways to get me off by fucking too, and this is one that I still haven't met a girl who could do it. But if you manage to jack a dude off like he does to himself or god forbid better then himself my god that'd be amazing. Depends on the guy but anyth…
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:12 PM
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I couldn't agree more. Personally I love figuring out what makes a girl cum, especially if they enjoy that process. I had an almost exact same scenario except it was blind luck, we met up escalated to sex, it was a first time for us, afterwards I was open to seeing what could make her tick, but she asked if I could finger her the same way I did as when we started to escalate to sex because she liked it, so I did that and we found out after good few minutes that it hit something with her. I'm ver…
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:55 PM
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I faked my pictures. Used a semi cheap camera with a timer option, made it look like I was socializing at parties playing guitar etc. Literally did it all alone at 3 am. Bio matters too idk what yours is but my most successful was something along the lines of "I'll kiss you on the first date".
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:34 PM
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Okay that's pretty much what I do so that reassures I should keep at it thanks. I really hate fake compliments so that's no problem. I'm pretty genuine and probably too open and honest, I usually don't hold anything back and some find that hilarious or random af.
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:32 PM
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I suggest using tinder as well. Once you get the right pictures and bio down it can become a lot of fun and be relatively easy to work on game especially escalating in person. I used this to basically make my text game amazing, I've had girls say shit like this "idk how our conversation went from normal to so so sexual ;) not complaining hahah" just from using tinder and getting used to it. It helped escalate in person especially at your/her place to sex.
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:29 PM
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Exactly this, regardless of game maybe get on tinder just to have that extra avenue of girls to do stuff with. Helps fill gaps and sometimes you get the random hot hookup. I know when I have a lot of girls to talk to while having a busy life they all seem so much more interested because I'm unavailable and have to make time for them individually.
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:20 PM
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What's the best way to handle a situation like that and calm them down? These girls are always very nice and I'd like to make that experience more enjoyable for them. The only thing I've done is acknowledge it out loud and tell her she's cute but just relax and let me be in control, this worked to a pretty good extent.
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:18 PM
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I don't approach in bars but I imagine the girls there require quite a different approach than day game which is what I prefer. I don't know how you approach but the basic signals of looking at them and smiling and seeing if they reciprocate it is great for a signal to move in. These girls likely want a highly sexual and forward man, I lived with 7 girls for a few months on a business trip and they were bar girls, and if there's one thing they wanted guys in the bars to do is be ballsy. You want…
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:14 PM
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Any escalation from a girl will catch a dude off guard and make his day because it doesn't happen often unless he attractive af. It probably is nervousness most of these girls that can't maintain eye contact with me once we reach escalation especially kissing they're so barely able to do it, like nervously bad but it's cute too.
/r/seduction20/07/19 12:01 PM
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It definitely works both ways, when I'm walking past a cute girl I stare into her eyes and smile too. If she smiles back god damn it instantly makes me want her but also lets me know she probably wants me too which is hot. I also stare on dates but it seems a lot of girls can't stare me in the eyes very well even when they're into me. I don't stare like a serial killer, pretty normal sexual eye contact with a smile every now and then. Any idea as a girl why some are like that? My vibe is that th…
/r/seduction20/07/19 11:51 AM
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Okay so this is what works for me both with talking and the fucking. For escalating at my place it goes like this, as long as the tension is built up before we get there, when we walk in my place I turn around and close the door while standing so she's in between me and the door and as soon as it's closed I push her up against it softly and make out, if she pushes back let go but if not put yourself close to her then one leg between hers. It gets so hot so fast. But any fast sexy escalation work…
/r/seduction20/07/19 11:21 AM
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Well first you need to accept yourself for who you are, aim to be happy with who you are. This is done through reflecting on who you are what you think about yourself and using positive/confident affirmations. When it comes to making moves you need to understand the basics (signals and when to make the moves) then that women literally go weak when you make a move even if it's a clumsy sloppy move, they still like it. I've lived with 7 women for a few months and hearing what they said about men, …
/r/seduction20/07/19 09:15 AM
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If there's one thing that's going to motivate me is this: I always thought of myself as okay looking 7-8/10 and I never confidently thought I could be with a 9-10/10. After approaching a few girls, I did approach a 10/10, it was way different. I took my time I was honest but I kept at it. And for the first time in my life I managed a 10/10 and it was an amazing and genuine connection. Without approaching this would not have happened, so I definitely suggest getting out there and shooting for the…
/r/seduction20/07/19 08:38 AM
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Well the nights over and I can't say I regret it. We laughed, talked, made out, so much and it seemed so genuine. I tried to push further but when I brought up going out with a bang, sleeping together she got a huge smile and just said "next time for sure". At the end of the night we were both so into it and it's my last night in town before I leave and it was quite amazing. No sex but that would barely of made it better. In some alternate universe where I live in this city we definitely hit it …
/r/seduction20/07/19 08:10 AM
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Put your own life on hold for someone that might leave you? Nope never, go ahead and seek around, at least it shows you're independent and not needy.
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:24 AM
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Thanks I'm either done and I'll enjoy my night with whoever or I'll push her and see what happens.
/r/seduction20/07/19 01:22 AM
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So turns out the girl didn't flake, she did have something big come up and couldn't contact me because of the process of changing her phone number to my countries. We went out on a beach date, talked, saw a bunch of hilarious shit and laughed a lot. She was very into it, and I tried to amp up the tension as much as I could since we were walking from venue to venue a lot and I stopped her in her tracks and she was a bit taken back. I didn't outright kiss her, I looked her dead in the eyes and sai…
/r/seduction19/07/19 05:23 AM
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No but you can help me fix that ;) or honesty depends on your intentions with the person lol
/r/seduction18/07/19 05:50 PM
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Better to do that you never know unless you do. No one smiles harder than random girls you call cute they glow all day after that.
/r/seduction18/07/19 05:36 PM
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Personally it doesn't matter unless they seem busy or unable to talk. I'm also not great with groups so I tend to talk to girls sitting alone.
/r/seduction18/07/19 04:20 PM
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You can always go back and be honest and say I really just wanted to talk because I thought you were cute.. it's weird I know. If she's moody that's it, she might have felt awkward because she thought you were into her then thought okay maybe he isn't and just wanted directions.
/r/seduction18/07/19 04:09 PM
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Get this mindset: I'm going to go talk to her as friends, to get to know her. Talk without any intention on outcome or that she's cute she's human too. And if she's looking at you she probably feels the same way you do. Do both of you a favour and go talk. Just say hi I just wanted to come over and talk to you. Then just get to know each other and when you're comfortable talking then tell her you think she's cute.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:48 PM
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Some girls prefer that too, they want a larger dude. Where I live and girls my agree which is 20 seem to like the jawline and what not more as long as I'm not full on stick mode and still have muscle.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:18 PM
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In my case losing weight and allowing my jawline and facial features to become much more prominent was much better. I think it depends on you.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:08 PM
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I was muscular and fatty so I had a higher body fat percentage. I think losing the weight allowed my facial structure to become more prominent and that is why it worked for me. Now I'm in the process of trying to keep my body fat low and gain muscle seems so much harder.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:00 PM
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Opposite in the sense that you get less attention? Maybe you're just intimidating. I'm 6ft1 and at 175-180 lbs I wasn't high body fat or real big so I think I was easier to approach. When I was 250 lbs i was often told I looked mean.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:57 PM
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I can attest to this. I was a big 250 lb dude that lifted like crazy but carried weight but I wasn't fat or even that chubby. I dropped my old diet, ran way more and dropped down to 175 lbs and now when I go to clubs I have had girls without me even looking at them come over and put my arm around them and snuggle into me. Looks definitely matter even if it's just a slight improvement it makes a difference. Confidence definitely helps too but if you do both you'll see the best results.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:39 PM
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No problem it's just like taking all the advice on here and applying but in a alpha or disinterested way and picking up action when things start to get hot or a lot of tension.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:21 PM
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That is true, she is saying it for a reason after all.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:19 PM
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If she says that just in a very joking manner say something like "ah boyfriends are just like gold fish you can replace them at anytime" I said this of course I was partly drunk but she found it hilarious no idea if she had an actual boyfriend or not. But if she does I imagine you'll find out pretty fast after a line like that.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:08 PM
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You can make it work, I have a friend whose 5ft6 and he does just fine but he owns up to his height. Even more drastically I met a guy who was definitely 5ft or under and he had higher count and really really hot hook ups, I was shocked af but he completely owned it, acted alpha, and was quite fun to be around. Aim for that and you'll do fine too but a big thing is confidence in yourself and show that in everything you do.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:04 PM
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Totally up to you and depends on how you handle it. I've had one date followed by the hook up date just a few days later. But if she's really hot maybe longer would be better.
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:40 PM
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You ever hear about douche bags getting girls because they barely pay attention to them yet they randomly but not very often only just so the girl knows they'll show sexual interest? Well that works amazingly. I've done this and had girls whom I was sitting down talking to go over to another girl and get her to try and convince me to go home with the one I was sitting with. It works well too if you act dismissive in a fun way, like one girl asked if I thought she was funny and with a slight smil…
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:36 PM
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I was the same as you 0 hook ups then I took it upon myself to get tinder and improve myself until I started fucking. Get good pictures, I got crazy I made my own scene and made it look like I was doing crazy shit at a party or playing guitar in front of people with a timed camera although I was always alone. But it worked fantastically, then find a simple but effective bio and if you're tall put it in there. When it comes to messaging girls if your unsure just say something funny, once you're c…
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:28 PM
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Fuck them. It's a bad answer but fucking a girl and connecting emotionally makes almost every girl want to pursue a relationship with you. I have the habit of acting like a player then once we fuck we connect deeply and even if I don't intend it almost every girl im with wants to pursue a relationship. So that's a great way to do it, plus then you know if you like her in bed. My big thing is I love to fuck like animals then cuddle in bed together and talk about emotionally connecting deep shit w…
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:20 PM
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After that if she goes along with it. It's basically you're green light to get dirty as fuck. My go to which I think is great is to just say "Well I know exactly what I'd like to do to you" gets her curious and makes her think you've been thinking about fucking her. Then I usually insert stuff I think women find hot but you can say whatever you want but what they like is probably best. An easy go to is saying you'd like to kiss her lips then slowly kiss your way to her neck and down paying close…
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:15 PM
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It's hard to see the opportunities in person sometimes just gotta try to push yourself to do it every time so it becomes normal.
/r/seduction18/07/19 05:54 AM
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She went out with friends and wanted to meet me at a bar later that night, I mentioned something about my place and her coming over to see it I think it was me playing piano or something. She said she would like to sometime and I said if she leaves it up to me she'll see it tonight. She just replied saying that she will leave it up to me. Met her at the club and introduced, hugged and didn't even speak much then just said let's get out of here. And that's it she called her friends and we went to…
/r/seduction18/07/19 05:01 AM
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The key? Stop caring, walk up to a girl if she don't want ya who cares, enjoy your night anyway that tells her you're not a needy dude. The times I had best luck at clubs was when I purposely didn't look for girls and just had fun sometimes I'd dance with a girl if she didn't want it well I'd move my happy ass somewhere else with a big smile and no fucks given. Do what YOU want, and don't care what SHE thinks. That's why the whole douche bag act works the douche bag does what he wants without re…
/r/seduction18/07/19 04:14 AM
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You're suppose to be able to be that fun and flirty in your own way so you enjoy it, girls can likely pick up the fake shit but some eat it up anyway. Find your groove, enjoy and don't give a fuck what you say, literally saying anything can work if you are being yourself how you act and react matters more. For example my hottest tinder hook up I told her that she was uglier than her dog as my opener. She obviously got mad responded badly got mad and said that I'll never get laid, I just said I g…
/r/seduction18/07/19 04:09 AM
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If your city has a hostel go there it's great for meeting people. They are often travellers and would die for a guy from the city to show them around and you can easily pick out the ones who'll fuck.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:40 AM
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In my opinion which is a bad one maybe, you should have pushed her. After she wanted to walk home you should have said no and asked what's in it for you? With a smile on your face. She'd either respond something boring like we can talk or she'll get sexual. At least that way she polarizes fast and you don't waste your time. She might have just wanted you to be ballsy like that.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:35 AM
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If you're happy being alone than you shouldn't feel forced to get her into a relationship for the purpose of not feeling alone, if not then just work on being happier by yourself. On that same note if you're happy alone maybe you just like her lol. I had an open relationship and if you're worried just set rules that worked for me when I was timid with it at first but biggest thing is just be happy with yourself like now I couldn't give a fuck.
/r/seduction18/07/19 03:19 AM
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I agree with the others you're doing it right. Maybe just hit her up when you're horny she kinda sounds like she wouldn't turn it down.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:56 AM
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Through text or in person? Through text it's easy, just hint at sexual shit. For example I work outside and often go to "I'm working now and damn it's hot out here, I'm exhausted and sweaty and not in the good way". Some girls act dumb and are like "good way? What's that" and others just jump straight into it and are like "well we can make it the good way ;)". In person it's harder you kinda have to slowly flirt your way there with jokes and tease and anything else you can hint attraction with.
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:44 AM
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Okay that definitely helps. I aim to become dominant because around women I don't care about or like, I am like that, I talk a lot slower, barely show attention, and generally come off as more manly and it makes getting with them almost too easy. I've even had this happen with friends girlfriends who were super hot, I don't care and act more dominant because around friends that's what I'm like normally and I've had to step back because they get flirty. I just need to keep that attitude with wome…
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:28 AM
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It didn't pan out after, we were suppose to meet tonight after work but she flaked and went no contact. I'm going to try and keep my head up here and assume it wasn't because I did something wrong or she's too attractive. The only thing personally that I feel I am unsure of is how to flirt and tease appropriately, and how to come off as more manly or dominant. I feel like girls think I'm too cute/nice and I talk a lot enthusiastically. The latter being the biggest thing I feel like I need to wor…
/r/seduction18/07/19 02:06 AM
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Anywhere that isn't a dinner date. Unless it's like a cool fun dinner date, the one I do is sushi we can try it all together and still talk a lot and near my sushi place is a board game cafe another great option. One that's fun is an arcade, or if you wanna try something with drinks try a pool bar. Anything fun where you can laugh and enjoy yourself.
/r/seduction18/07/19 01:16 AM
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Every time you make eye contact with anyone smile doesn't matter if it's a man or woman or a god damn dog just smile. My job has me greeting people a lot and now I smile on eye contact without even thinking about it.
/r/seduction17/07/19 06:56 AM
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That makes sense and this is entirely based off my perception of the situation and my balls being big enough to do something like place my hand on he thigh? Like tonight with her, in that moment it felt hot, if I embraced it and got closer and made it so she basically had to have eye contact from the tension building then a hand on her with a flirty smile or a kiss even would be a good move? If I get this right I'll definitely push for closeness and subtle things like that into more intentional …
/r/seduction17/07/19 05:09 AM
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I definitely get it. I've been cheated on then trying to reclaim the pieces and find someone else mental baggage at its best. The best way is to come to terms with it and simply not give a hoot. You can always improve lifestyle choice and what not that helps build confidence and the no fucks attitude. It really takes effort on your part to stop caring but if you can manage a few dates that definitely helped me go from depressed and sad af to these girls are hot af and I am interesting etc. You m…
/r/seduction17/07/19 05:00 AM
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Just forget it, I have a flipped version of that. My ex broke up with me, instantly slept with someone else and I got over it. Then I saw her at a sports competition for my high school and I casually went up to say hi, she didn't say a word looked horrified and walked away. Why? Not a got damn clue all I know is she probably wanted me and you back and the girls just panicked. I would forget it and find another girl she'll come around eventually just move on and be a man don't give a hoot.
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:46 AM
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That's such a good point, I did this I was basically knees touching with her and each time our eyes met it felt like god damn we could be kissing, I should have done it then I missed that opportunity badly. I also feel like in this situation where it went so well and she was hot I didn't want to push it too fast but I guess I didn't realize she's with me for nearly 2 hours straight having fun, we got close playing board games and a lot of signs I managed to make myself believe weren't real. She …
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:39 AM
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Read models by mark Manson it'll help you a lot and there's free pdfs everywhere. Big thing though is polarizing, you need to show interest early otherwise it becomes harder later. But you still can you kinda have two options: one be open honest and aggressive tell her how you feel and everything but do it in a reserve non needy way, imagine James Bond telling a girl his feelings he wouldn't be splurging all over the place he'd keep his cool and explain it bluntly. Or you can say fuck it all and…
/r/seduction17/07/19 04:26 AM
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Sexting is the easiest form of game. Literally just learn what women like you can even make it a game where you both say hot things you enjoy and it becomes fun because then you can say how you want to do it to them. Here's a rough idea of what I say and concepts. First I love going down on girls and I explain to them how. I'll say I'd love to start by kissing and slowly move down to her neck, kissing admiring and paying attention to every inch of her, then once I'm so close I'd tease her gettin…
/r/seduction17/07/19 03:43 AM
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Here's a report but not quite the proper report. I am travelling for work, staying at a hostel. I've been approaching mostly every cute girl I see unless there conflicts with others. I've approached around 10 however I've gotten to do stuff with a couple, and one I went outside my comfort zone to kiss now she rejected it but I got nervous then didn't care. Today was my biggest break through I approach ed a girl I find very attractive without any intention just to get to know her. Then after a bi…
/r/seduction17/07/19 02:30 AM
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I'm partly in your shoes, and what I can say is working for me is just going out and talking even if you suck at it. There's tons of hot girls just go talk to them. My advice is to do it initially as if you want to just find out who she is then if you like her start to throw in flirty eye contact, smiling and anything else you want once you're comfortable. The key for me was to approach these girls as if I'm not looking for an outcome, only decide the outcome once I'm comfortable and if I like t…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:52 PM
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You sound like what I use to be like. An anxious-attachment type literally just google that and watch someone explain your entire being. You need to realize who you are and become okay with it, there are girls you could vibe for years with and you'll end up broken up, some just aren't for you some are. Just be happy with yourself and being happy alone or with someone. When you take away the importance you put on girls you end up being so much more cool and relaxed and that's much more attractive…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:28 PM
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Only started recently but the best advice from a beginner is just enjoy the approach like don't put pressure of dates, numbers, sex, go into it thinking I wonder what she's like. Just start by getting to know her, her name, everything about her. If you want her to know you're interested well she does just by you approaching and you can always use eye contact and smile devilishly at her. Generally what's worked for me as a beginner who approached only a few times now is talk until you're cool and…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:16 PM
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I was the same literally just do this, talk for a bit enjoy smoking get comfortable even just slightly from talking then just do it just kiss her what's the worse that can happen she'll say no it's too fast. If she does this just smile and say sorry I just felt like that's what I wanted to do then continue the conversation but I can guarantee that won't happen. I've been in this situation a few times and every single time that kiss is what it takes to just shoot the sexual tension through the ro…
/r/seduction16/07/19 10:05 PM
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Do you have any suggestions on how to actually push yourself to that point of approaching? Or overcoming the constant excuses/questioning yourself on it? Like i feel like i don't care about rejection, it wouldn't hurt me but i am still anxious.
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