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Charisma on Command YT page may help
/r/seduction10/05/22 01:17 PM
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Main goal should always be to show up and have fun. Have no expectations. Your sister has probably talked about you to her friends amd colleagues already. This is a great networking opportunity too!
/r/seduction27/02/22 12:53 AM
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this one gets it
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:27 AM
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You got lucky. Some people act on those impulses because they're comfortable. If she needs to heal let her heal. You've done everything right and she respects you enough to consider the next move.
/r/seduction27/10/21 02:34 PM
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Self discipline is self love too!
/r/seduction25/04/21 02:47 PM
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I'm gonna go with "Batman Forever" on this one. My instinct was to go for "Hitch", since it's more of a guide with some principles mentioned in this sub. However any scenes from The Riddler (though creepy at times), and Poison Ivy..well if you havent seen it then hit play sometime.
/r/seduction05/07/20 11:07 PM
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Park and a sunset is my jam. Have something to snack on, something to drink, some light music. Only problem is if your area has bugs. Graffiti walks are awesome too. Gives you an opportunity to work together, finding each piece. If your area has the rental scooters do it!
/r/seduction17/06/20 01:58 PM
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Ah, the power of intention.
/r/seduction27/03/20 04:43 AM
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I literally experienced and learned my lesson about this lastnight at a diner. Cute girl waiting on me and friends. Dude at the end of the bar set it straight and all of a sudden it was very clear.
/r/seduction15/01/20 03:22 AM
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Recent effective intro for me has been...Hey, you like chubby dudes?" It tends to get a good laugh at the least, and I find myself much more body confident after, even if nothing comes of it.
/r/seduction29/10/19 02:06 AM
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Oh man. I'm experiencing a similar public response with recent changes to my health mentally and physically. It's taken a bit to adjust to the new eyes on you, however it's important to embrace it. Try working on understanding eye contact and the intent behind the looks. Theres some awesome resources on YT and the power you hold!
/r/seduction06/09/19 07:10 PM
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Denver added! Looking forward to having a group put together.
/r/seduction24/06/19 07:27 PM
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Turned it all around. Nice!
/r/seduction31/05/19 07:01 PM
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Having experienced this first hand, I agree fully.
/r/seduction29/05/19 11:54 PM
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There was an article I read about eye contact and when its man to man most guys look away. The end basically said the one who looks away may be seen as "Beta" or cowardly. After reading the article I recall meeting eyes with a guy leaving the grocery store and realized I ended up staring him down. So when the opportunity comes up with Male or female, a smile and a nod happens instead.
/r/seduction29/05/19 09:31 PM
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Tell her. Tell her what brought you to that point, express yourself and be upfront about it. I've had 3 friendships that should have been solid relationships but my reluctance to speak up until years later pissed them off and eventually pushed them away. You gotta be ready for that to happen too. Typical RomCom stuff but you'll sleep better at night. Well at least I did.
/r/seduction25/01/19 04:40 PM
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Tact and diplomacy too!
/r/seduction20/01/19 10:04 PM
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The whole be yourself thing took me a looong time to figure out. We attract to what's there, anything deviating aside from doing those changes together can cause a separation. Plus we all need our me time even if the we time is great. Currently I'm going through something similar but thankfully she's the one pulling back, so now I'm back on my grind and surpassing my fitness expectations.
/r/seduction07/01/19 08:58 PM
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Focus on your personal development man. Mental wellness and growing your knowledge. I had something similar but it ended like a plane crash. The only thing that kept me focus was things that helped me enjoy time with myself even more. As a result I've come across women who keep up with me and are so much fun. One I really like has a very different personality from my ex and put me in a position one who I would choose if I had the option. Stay strong amigo.
/r/seduction04/01/19 11:57 PM
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Grocery stores and parks with the pup have been common lately.
/r/seduction25/10/17 05:10 PM
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I keep texting for quick convos and meet ups, maybe a YouTube link here and there. Snapchat answers any curiousity about my hobbies. Ask her out on a date just the two of you. Bowling, skate rink(my fave), arcade, dinner would compliment any of those suggestions.
/r/seduction24/04/17 02:06 AM
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"Cool. Thursday I'm off at 5:00 let's go to (bar, cafe, arcade, my place). Or let's start at my place and go from there Something to that effect OP.
/r/seduction14/02/17 12:37 AM
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How would you feel if I just told you no? Like no don't ever try, scrape up your losses before you get hurt. Fear everything she could possibly say!!! I ain't like that but it seems you're digging for a reason not to say anything and hope fate works out for you. All life can do is tell you no, all girls can do is tell you no, all your parents teachers, friends, bosses, the list goes on. Some girls sarcastically tell you no or I have a boyfriend and you should respect that. Many have regret telli…
/r/seduction26/01/17 09:12 PM
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Hire someone. Youtube. Put on some hype music while getting ready to go out and snap a few during. Starting there should get you something close to your desired results.
/r/seduction15/01/17 03:34 AM
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2 or 3 you get to know them all. If its 3 then you can pull the one you want away and they can entertain each other. Just 2 then youve got some work or need a wing
/r/seduction01/01/17 07:47 AM
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Solid tactic!
/r/seduction23/10/16 02:57 AM
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Solid outlook XXL. Didn't think my reply seemed like it was defensive but now looking at its weight security it does seem weak.
/r/seduction23/10/16 12:14 AM
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I know shes joking. Most of the time I just relpy with something like "Is that your way of letting me know you want to fuck without the worry of catching feelings?"
/r/seduction22/10/16 08:12 PM
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I tend to be the hype man for my friend until I notice the girl is making consent eye contact with him. Ill make an excuse to walk away and let it pan out. Try talking your friend up, discussing successful moments and achievements he won't bring up.
/r/seduction09/09/16 01:39 PM
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AskReddit, Interestingasfuck, mildlyinteresting
/r/seduction18/08/16 06:19 PM
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Especually the heels
/r/seduction22/07/16 09:24 PM
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In all my experience be at the festival to have fun for yourself. I wouldn't necessarily say look to pick up women. They will start to gravitate toward you because they want to have fun. Make a comment about their festival gear, kandi, whatever quirky festival attire they came out with. You could also comment on their slick dance moves. Move onto mention how much you enjoy the artist playing and how they make you feel. Having water, chapstick, and GUM handy is crucial. Compassion for others goes…
/r/seduction18/06/16 06:49 PM
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Few people realize how much of a wing the bartender or any general covos you make can be. Those people will be a turn for your evening at many occasions.
/r/seduction21/05/16 10:46 AM
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Add in some enthusiasm guns and I'd say it's a done deal
/r/seduction18/05/16 02:15 PM
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Solid line! Leaves for suspense
/r/seduction18/05/16 02:14 PM
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Professionally I mean getting the sale, client, or opportunity on first or even second interaction Seduction wise, transitioning to the bedroom first interaction.
/r/seduction18/05/16 02:13 PM
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It's a first date everytime you see her. Treat it as such, it'll make for a creative interaction.
/r/seduction18/05/16 05:44 AM
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Places to sit is important. Refreshments helps. Also keep the place clean. A woman should feel comfortable naked in any room in your house.
/r/seduction18/05/16 05:40 AM
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Pay attention to your consciousness! In moments where you know you should grab a coat, do it. In times you should really bring your book or grab an extra pen, do it. When you know you should stop, get her number, eat, get back to class, then do it. It became a game for myself and now I'm frequently prepared and have a few numbers I'm glad I remembered to get. Your conciusness is talking so listen to it just as you would a conversation with your lady friend.
/r/seduction18/05/16 05:38 AM
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Be interested in what they have to say when you're talking. Any added question you followup with can always lead the conversation to another direction. People love talking about themselves provided the comfort in opening up is there. Open ended questions are always helpful. What do you enjoy most about this time of year? If you weren't here what would you be doing right now? Have you heard of that new _________ technology? If you still find the conversation dying change the scene. Go to the danc…
/r/seduction15/05/16 03:00 AM
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Overcoming my fear of failure was one of the most beneficial things to task and complete. I tend to slip into moments of self doubt however I've built a great circle of people around me to support and pull me out of the rabbit hole and give some helpful perspective.
/r/seduction10/05/16 06:14 PM
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They're listening to you cause you peak their interest. Just like if someone was watching your dance moves.
/r/seduction15/04/16 09:28 PM
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Randy put it quite nicely. Kino/touching is a great way of showing interest. Grabbing the bicep when walking next to each other after a funny joke was a big eye opener for me. Many other examples are in this sub.
/r/seduction15/04/16 08:51 PM
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When being CB'd what are some ways you overcome while continuing to be Alpha?
/r/seduction15/04/16 05:36 AM
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Thanks for the perspective!
/r/seduction15/04/16 12:09 AM
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In a case where I live with him I've warned him once before and it becomes this whole, "idk what your talking about man" (hands in the air as if I had a gun pointed at him). Only thought in my mind is that he'll just get left downtown and have to find his own way home.
/r/seduction14/04/16 11:58 PM
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Yeah it's all IN your head man. Not what's ON your head. Not many can pull off bald. Try different styles of facial hair to see if there's a style you'll like. I adjusted to it and after a few days I realized the perks, plus got some numbers.
/r/seduction04/04/16 09:48 PM
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Key
/r/seduction02/04/16 01:14 AM
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Well that sucks. I pasted the URL but now I can't find it so here's one that's similar. http://get-a-wingman.com/how-to-compliment-a-woman-and-win-her-attention/
/r/seduction28/02/16 09:40 PM
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Not every environment you're in is a functional one. The way you make it sound is with everyone standing stiff, drink to chest, you had a great opportunity to make yourself noticeable and stand out. I have a friend that has a knack for turning just about any environment he's in, into a comfortable one. He definitely has no clue how to dance but he does look goofy trying to and some girls think it's cute. He even admits he can't dance but will sway his way to a cute group of girls, compliment the…
/r/seduction28/02/16 06:10 PM
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Great share!
/r/seduction28/02/16 05:53 PM
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I've actually had girls as friends be more dependable than the fellas I grew up with. Sharing intimate vulnerable things about yourself with each other is a big step for going from stranger to acquaintance, acquaintance to friends. Just know the exoression and feeling must be mutual.
/r/seduction28/02/16 05:52 PM
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Compliment! That's the best cold approach for anyone. Everyone loves to hear something positive about themselves.
/r/seduction28/02/16 05:37 PM
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Try an improv class. Dancing lessons. Couples cooking. Not sure what state you're in otherwise I'd have a few more things.
/r/seduction27/01/16 12:29 AM
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https://youtu.be/qs-L048YlJk
/r/seduction23/01/16 07:40 PM
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Surround yourself with positive vibes daily. Stay conscious of other negative thoughts and find creative ways to turn it around whether it's stemmed from your own thoughts or some interaction you've had. Random acts of kindness make me happy. You never know what people are going through and in some cases they can be humbling. One thing that's been great for me this week is to wake up and the first thing on my mind and I speak into existence is that I am going to have a great day no matter what n…
/r/seduction23/01/16 07:38 PM
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Compliment her! Don't worry about being corny. I enjoy being called a goof, and dork personally. It's my personality and helps keep a positive mindset. Try some of the [Challenge]s in this sub to help with approach anxiety. I read this book and a few of the coaches suplement info on small talk and approaching people for reasons other than getting the girl.
/r/seduction23/01/16 07:21 PM
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Any public place is a great spot for conversation.
/r/seduction23/01/16 07:02 PM
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As someone who has bad eye contact in uncomfortable situations it helps to know that person is okay with me being uncomfortable. Now I just do this thing where I make eye contact with random people until they break contact. From your perspective you can certainly maintain eye contact, though be aware not to stare them down. Maybe point out something interesting in the room to change subjects/focal points. This may help with them opening up a little more and bring more conversation.
/r/seduction23/01/16 05:21 PM
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Now this is what people need on this sub. Small ways of improving small talk to hopefully gain powerful converstions. Breaking down that social anxiety!
/r/seduction23/01/16 05:07 PM
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One I've been waiting to use. "This would be the perfect time to start a wave." Then start waving like they do at sporting events until you get a laugh or they join you. It'd be even better if other people joined in too.
/r/seduction23/01/16 04:57 PM
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Sounds like you could use some work on closing skills. Personally once I worked on closing skills more, it was easier to make more conversation which lead to party hats and confetti. And with your point of being the nice guy, funny guy etc be the a42nato1 guy. Everyday is different, every interaction is different.
/r/seduction20/01/16 10:28 PM
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Most cases you care about the person and instincts kick in reasoning why you ask. It works best to let them know you care so tell them and leave it at that.. seriously just say i only ask because i care. When they're ready they'll come around. If not then you keep doing you!
/r/seduction13/01/16 04:56 AM
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Ones intent of merging is to use the energy created to show the approach you are a good time, get people laughing. It helps them become more comfortable in your presence. Find yourself with a group of guys who are just drunk, or conversing about topics irrelevant to being at the club and one may not find that energy inviting but one to avoid.
/r/seduction23/12/15 09:15 PM
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Thanks Drizzy!
/r/seduction11/12/15 05:28 AM
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I find myself looking at people's mouths vs their eyes and correct myself constantly to keep focus on the conversation. Not sure what got me doing this since the mouth is so close to the eyes.
/r/seduction01/11/15 12:15 AM
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I guess it's not my issue for that instance however thanks for the bullet points!
/r/seduction26/10/15 10:36 PM
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Some of the worst advice I got was to "fuck and move on". Waited a year to rebuild myself and am doing better than ever!
/r/seduction04/10/15 03:33 AM
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You're absolutely correct. I guess since I wanted to know from my friends I started letting them know subtly like asking them if they wanted a piece of gum and chew one with. Expecting something similar in the same. Especially if they smoke cigarettes!
/r/seduction23/09/15 08:02 PM
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Yeah. Not knowing anyone has brought me to this sub more to help prep since I've known most of my friends through work or high school. Thanks!
/r/seduction23/09/15 07:19 PM
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You make solid points as I could tell leaving the store with her disappointed by the body language at the end. Primarily I didn't close given I'm moving to Denver in 24 hours and it would be a whole different ball game I slowed playtime with a while ago. Since that was on my mind I redirected the conversation to simply step away from setting any expectations and moved along. It sucks too but I chose to make this big move and look forward to having another opportunity similar in the very near fut…
/r/seduction23/09/15 04:31 PM
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Here check this out OP. Personally I don't even have kissing on my mind for the first date. Sometimes even if I know they want one I'll still hold off yet keep them engaged to 2nd date. https://youtu.be/7i4NcTzANGI
/r/seduction23/09/15 02:41 PM
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I hope moving forward you would be a friend and tell them when they have bad breath. That's like taking a buddy into battle with no rifle.
/r/seduction23/09/15 02:34 PM
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I've used Snapchat to keep them engaged or a way to show that I'm fun to hang out with. It's a glimpse into my world for 10 seconds, and if I mess up then I can always redo my snap.
/r/seduction22/09/15 06:55 PM
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Yeah. I froze haha. However ABC will be tattooed in my brain!
/r/seduction22/09/15 06:51 PM
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That's seemed to be pretty effective here in Texas.
/r/seduction20/09/15 09:33 PM
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No school for me at the moment. Now that you mention it there are many other places like that though. Library, extra curricular sports, etc..
/r/seduction20/09/15 08:20 PM
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Thanks Skip. That definitely helps but I'm also a little curious to know how others go about it. Places they go. People they would avoid.
/r/seduction20/09/15 07:33 PM
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If you're into astrology then go for those that are classified with the sign Aries.
/r/seduction20/09/15 07:24 PM
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This may help! https://youtu.be/eIho2S0ZahI Learn to grasp the rooms attention as I've learned, regardless of how loud the room is people will take the time to listen to you.
/r/seduction20/09/15 04:47 PM
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Ty for the TL;DR
/r/seduction20/09/15 05:40 AM
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Theres nothing lame about being a lone wolf OP. Im soon to move to a completely different city 700 miles away from all my friends and family. Its become a concern of mine to have this issue, but i know im fun to hang around and there are plenty of people out there that will recognize it.
/r/seduction11/09/15 12:06 PM
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Try getting more chocolate (cacao not the sugary stuff) in your diet. Also you may just have a lot on your mind. RBF is a lot like a focus face that I've seen. You are who you are so learn how to have fun with it. Make jokes with yourself. Especially when you approach since for me it's broken any tension and seriousness it presents.
/r/seduction05/09/15 04:15 PM
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In my experience with the few older women they seem to play it on for a bit longer, I like to think if it to be part of the extended "roll play" if you do F-close. Plus they've been through all the F amd K close pieces before so sje may have more than. Sexual interest in you. You might have a "sheet freak" on your hands as well OP. Reply to the text, and if your FB isn't somewhere you wouldn't want all your business out there then make that decision.
/r/seduction05/09/15 04:11 PM
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Keep it simple at the start. Step 1. Be on beat and have a few moves to tease her. Step 2. Get her attention. Step 3. Find out if she's digging you by being close, let her catch your scent then back away, let her body talk to you especially on beat.... If she's digging you then stay for another dance or step away and have some convo.
/r/seduction17/08/15 04:06 AM
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Always assume they think you're attractive. Itll give you the confidence you need and you won't keep it in thought
/r/seduction02/07/15 02:27 PM
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Active statements also help greatly with conversation. The two phrases sound the same but one had more effect. "You want to come shoot of some fireworks with me out back?" Vs "Cmon let's go blow some stuff up out back" (lend her your hand and let her decide)
/r/seduction02/07/15 02:01 PM
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If found recently just being open with how their presence makes you feel is a great opener since women can relate to feelings better than men. The other day I could tell my roommates coworker liked me from the jump (stroking her hair, glaring at me when I wasn't looking, her gaze deeply into my eye contact). After I confirmed all my assumptions I straight up mentioned during conversation "when is your birthday? March?" (Since I've been studying zodiacs and trying to tell ones sign from meeting t…
/r/seduction02/07/15 01:58 PM
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Stretching where you lengthen your body helps too. Before I go in the club or bar I'll usually stand tall hands up high. Plus after you stretch or lift you come off more relaxed and natural since you've used a bit of energy.
/r/seduction02/07/15 01:44 PM
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