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Well to start with it’s almost all about your wife. That’s a dead giveaway.
/r/askMRP26/02/22 11:32 PM
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What % body fat are you? What are you reading? You sound like a “Nice Guy”
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 10:10 AM
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Well this is gonna be good. As a man who has trodden a similar path…at OYS 11 all you should be doing is lift, STFU and read the sidebar! You didn’t lift, you didn’t STFU but at least you’re reading some of the sidebar. Although at your stage the choices of reading may have encouraged you to go Rambo. 11 OYS for FMOFY speech! But hey you’re taking supplements!!!
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/22 09:39 AM
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Well then I’d say it was hers then and you undermined her…or at least that’s what she believes. Good captains don’t undermine their first officers…and they know what is going on too. Being a good captain is not about getting everyone to obey you. It’s about setting a direction and principles they can get on board with and apply. If they fall in line and apply them when you’re not there then you know it’s working. But they’re not going to follow a captain who looks like an incompetent boob who un…
/r/askMRP15/02/22 10:56 PM
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Eating 2000 calories in a few minute whilst doing something else. Damn I just realised that’s what I do a few times a week. Particularly if I’ve had a drink. It’s like a trigger that sets me off. Am I a fucking binge eater? I think I am. Thanks for the convo I’m going to have to think about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:36 PM
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Biolayne? Is that a typo? I can see Fat Loss Forever by Layne Norton. Is that the one?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:33 PM
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Where’s your deadlift?
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 12:04 PM
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Read ‘when I say no I feel guilty’ and no More mr nice guy multiple times. It like and onion and youll keep peeling back layers of rotten shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 12:04 PM
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Just lift, stfu and sidebar. All else is superfluous. If it work out it works out, if it doesn’t it doesn’t in the meantime fix yourself.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 12:01 PM
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FFS make some effort. 35kg deadlift is just a normal person standing upright. Give yourself an uppercut.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/22 11:59 AM
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Don’t over complicate it. Who set the boundary with the kid? If it was you it’s yours to change and remind her of that. if it was hers don’t undermine her. You wouldn’t undermine a first officer on a ship in front of the enlisted. Same principle. You might question them privately about it. Sounds like she’s trying to exert equal authority but it was your boundary you set. So it’s your decision. Let her know and stop second guessing yourself which makes you look like a piss weak leader. Or did sh…
/r/askMRP11/02/22 11:02 PM
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I have to admit it’s a challenge and not a habitual thing. I have to remind myself every day that being ordinary or less than ordinary my whole life was making me miserable, giving my insomnia and led me here in the first place. Classic Average Frustrated Chump. Being exceptional for me at the moment is mainly about that daily challenge to be better and having that mindset. I want to make it habitual though so that my version of exceptional becomes my ordinary.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:23 PM
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OYS #26 53yrs 90kg. 18%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, Bigger, Leaner, Stronger. Readings Going back over all the sidebar material and seeing the linkages between the different posts and thinking deeply about them. Eg 16 Commandments No9 Connect With Her Emotions and ‘Don’t Fix her Problems, Fix Her Feels’ post. Also how this relates to being an oak. An oak doesn’t just stand there solidly it bends and sways b…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 09:54 AM
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So you read some? Is that it? Couldn’t tell.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:31 AM
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Man…just stfu and go lift! You need to go NoFap on the mental masturbation. How the fuck is your ‘personal’ section all about her?
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 06:25 AM
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You’re externalising though. Waiting and asking god to do something to improve their lives is great and all but what are YOU doing to improve their lives other than just asking someone else to? You’re in a plane…the face masks drop, do you pray for god to help your family, put theirs on first or put your own on first?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:53 PM
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Lurking really counts for nothing…because you never get called out on the crap that rolls around in your head.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 10:46 PM
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It will only ‘turn into’ whatever you lead it to.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 09:31 PM
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Geez..reminds me of my early larping shit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 12:11 PM
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You have some real cognitive dissonance goring on here. You’re saying all the right words about being the responsible party but your action don’t reflect it. You eat takeaway 4-5 times a week and presumably the wife does too. Takeaway is loaded with calories and will do in you diet plans and you wonder why your wife is getting fatter. Are you here to fix yourself or her?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/22 09:30 PM
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Bam..that’s a sledgehammer between the eyes…but so true
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 10:32 PM
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Who cares if she’s noticed…it’s irrelevant to where you want to be and shows you’re in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 10:25 PM
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You’re still dancing monkey, but now you’re getting angry because she still hasn’t noticed.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/01/22 07:48 AM
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I’m reading this at the moment and some of the restaurant dishes calorie count is a whole days food! Maybe better to avoid eating out while I’m cutting
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 10:10 PM
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Count how many times you used the word ‘she’ in this then think about that during your ban. Forget trying to be dominant for the time being. You’re too much in her frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 11:57 AM
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This..go and have your fun outing anyway. She probably expects you to wuss out and not do it. You don’t need her to have fun with the kids. Go and have fun with them and leave her problems to her to deal with.
/r/askMRP24/01/22 01:36 AM
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OYS #25 53yrs 92kg. 20%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSM, Alpha Unplugged, unchained male, extreme ownership. My Secret Garden. Lifting & Diet stuff Deadlift 110kg x 5, Squat 110kg x 5, Bench 80kg x 3, Row 80kg x 5, SP 55kg x 5. I used an app and calculations to hit my macros at baseline level every day last week and put on two kilos of weight. So that was a calculated TDEE of 2200 calories per day and I …
/r/MarriedRedPill18/01/22 09:27 PM
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Ahhh I finally see what you mean. That I didn’t have a choice and I’d trapped myself. What I was thinking at the time with ‘follow through’ was that I have often made verbal commitments to things like stop drinking, lose weight and failed to follow through with them. I have such a history of failing these things it lowered my wife’s respect for me and my own respect for me. This one I made the choice that I wasn’t going to screw this one up and fail this commitment again. Yes play stupid games, …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/22 12:58 AM
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Thanks for this post..will re-read every time my ego jacks up about a comment on a post. I’ve been guilty of the quick unthoughtful response…we all have probably. Your comment about words suck at communicating is valid too. I often have trouble expressing my thoughts clearly which also leads to misunderstandings about what I’ve written. a lot of my anger phases stems from this and I need to learn to communicate with actions instead.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/01/22 02:15 AM
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Exactly…have a look at our Australian Prime Minister. Constantly DEERing every time he opens his mouth. Beta made good.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 06:50 AM
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Once we open up on the 5th watch it fly pretty fast.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 06:05 AM
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OYS #24 52yrs 90kg. 18%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW, Starting on SGM. Lifting & Diet stuff Deadlift 110kg x 5, Squat 110kg x 5, Bench 80kg x 3, Row 80kg x 5, SP 55kg x 5. I’ve been concerned that something is wrong with my metabolism and I think it gets down to overthinking diet for years and years and confusing myself. At the moment it feels like I basically lose weight only when I consume about 120…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/01/22 03:15 AM
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When you’ve internalised it and are living your life there are no mind games, you will BE fun and you’ll be the man of her dreams.
/r/askMRP31/12/21 01:01 AM
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For someone who allegedly has been doing this for five years you spend a lot of time in other peoples heads.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 10:05 PM
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Entirely possible they’ll all start competing for him again. #grabspopcorn
/r/MarriedRedPill29/12/21 09:21 PM
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He did explain…you’re just too retarded to understand how.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 10:15 PM
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Fuckarounditis….forget the kettlebells and start lifting properly
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 12:21 PM
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Yeah you did. You just haven’t realised it.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 12:01 PM
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You got your mom to buy your shorts?!
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 11:15 AM
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Glad you got some validation from posting here. Enjoy rule 9
/r/MarriedRedPill28/12/21 10:30 AM
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Why wouldn’t you make her and the kids dinner if you’re doing it anyway? If you are not doing it to make some red pill statement you’re a moron going Rambo.
/r/askMRP24/12/21 08:28 AM
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Yeah you’re not responsible for them!
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 05:31 AM
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I found it interesting you were treating your keeping quiet as a covert contract. Make sure your motivation isn’t about seeking validation. Be your own judge
/r/MarriedRedPill24/12/21 04:27 AM
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Cripes ! He’s benching more than his deadlift 🤦‍♂️
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 09:47 PM
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As you peel away the layers of onion the load becomes lighter. But it’s a sign to keep going. Have you read Can you keep a secret ? https://www.reddit.com/r/marriedredpill/comments/ecc508/can_you_keep_a_secret_a_primer_on_power/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 10:58 AM
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I don’t know about you but I hate fixing the juniors mistakes all the time. I’d rather teach them why it is a mistake so they don’t do it again. Otherwise you end up having to do it all yourself…Eg fire fighting. Don’t forget though that she’s your first officer and by sidelining her (taking control) you’re undermining her authority as first officer. Would you undermine your first officer in front of the troops?. You can support her authority but give it course corrections instead of taking over…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 06:12 AM
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She’s the oldest teenager in the house for sure then. How would you treat a teenager that did this?
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 04:37 AM
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Rule of thumb…she talks about ‘you’, it’s a shit test. Talks about ‘I’ Eg herself, it’s a comfort test.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 04:10 AM
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So have you leant anything? That’s a lot of words to say not much.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/12/21 12:46 AM
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Sometimes your plan or life goals and whatever are very hard to see because you’ve had so many layers of nice guy crap wrapped around you, you’ve never had to ask yourself what you want…and because you’ve never asked yourself you don’t know how to find the answer. So don’t beat yourself up about it. Just grind away and do the work to keep exposing your core and when enough layers of bullshit have been stripped away it will start becoming apparent and will be without all the covert contracts and …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 09:46 PM
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That’s some pretty amazing shit to let go off.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 01:08 PM
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OYS #23 52yrs 89kg down 12.8kg so far this year. 18%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW again at the moment. Lifting & Diet stuff Deadlift 110kg x 5, Squat 110kg x 5, Bench 80kg x 3, Row 80kg x 5, SP 55kg x 5. Diet slipped a bit but back to tracking macros and am going to be strict with myself. I’ve been here far too long and not enough progress Ups and Downs Last OYS I mentioned that despite the mistake I …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/12/21 09:46 AM
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Bullet dodged…now time to realise you’re Neo.
/r/askMRP20/12/21 09:09 PM
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130 pounds at 6’2”?!? Yes you are a pushover.
/r/askMRP20/12/21 06:36 AM
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Not to mention all those chemicals in the ham as well. Yuk.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 10:26 PM
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OYS #22 53 years old, 89kg 18%bf married 17 years and two teenage daughters. Physical stuff DL 110kg x 5, Squat 102.5kg x 5, Bench 75kg x 5, Row 75kg x 5, SP 50kg x 5. Lifting continues to come along. Doing SL. My deadlift has gotten back above the weight I was doing when I injured myself in November. Focus on warming up correctly and proper form and it felt good. Happy to get through this point as it was a bit of a niggling concern. Letting go of self loathing Weight still hovering around 89kg …
/r/MarriedRedPill14/12/21 09:49 PM
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This is some next level Rambo. You’re on OYS 4 and decided to blow it up already. I have a low tolerance for family violence but has she ever resorted to hitting before and did it actually hurt or just bruise your ego? Could this actually be a shitty comfort test? Given you’re out of the house pulling together your business she probably thinks you’ve got a bit on the side and needed a hug.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/12/21 01:03 AM
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What do you do for fun/social? Have you got things to do that you enjoy? I have had really bad insomnia for years. The doc put me on a low dose anti depressant which helped kicked the habit of waking up at 2 in the morning and thinking. I mentioned it here and someone pointed out that becoming more high value will do more for peace of mind than anti depressants. He was right. I’ve stopped taking them as I worked harder on my lifting and martial arts and started to lose weight and feel better abo…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/12/21 01:43 AM
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Because at 2 sessions per week at 1 kilo increments it’s going to take a very long time to get some real improvement. being a self-actualising man with a solid frame is built on some key pillars. Intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical. All are important to develop and your physical is badly lagging and so should be a focus. It looks like you are passively resisting buying in and think you know better than the experienced hands around here. Im not including me in that. I’m still new and …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/12/21 09:04 PM
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What has age got to do with lifting weights? I’m 53 and I choose not to let that get in the way. Stop using it as an excuse to be a pussy. At whatever age you are your body will respond. The thing that’s really stopping you is fear of hurting yourself. Your body can do way more and handle more weight than you think it can. Get a training buddy or personal trainer who can push you harder. Bench press is a classic…guys when they start are often going very light like you. Then one day someone gets …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/12/21 10:30 PM
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So basically you’re going to give her written evidence of your dread plan? You do realise that she’s going to work out that after ten days you’ll stop pestering her for sex, get out of the house and do something else?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:30 PM
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Do the BFA’s too. Except the ones that involve telling your wife all about it. Write it down in a journal…it really helps. Your post is all classic nice guy behaviours you need to get to the bottom of.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:16 PM
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Have you read NMMNG? Really read it?
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 09:12 AM
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You’re sending mixed messages to yourself too.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 03:09 AM
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How is installing a key logger on your missus phone a good thing? It means you care what she is doing with her phone but want a divorce anyway? If you want a divorce why would you care what she does with her phone? You’re sending blatant mixed messages to her.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/12/21 01:56 AM
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OYS #21 53yrs 89kg down 12.8kg so far this year. 18%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently Extreme Ownership. Lifting & Diet stuff Squat 102.5kg x 5, bench 75kg x 5, row 75kg x 5, sp 45kg x 5. Diet still on track and lifting is coming along nicely. Got through my three intro sessions of Krav Maga and signed up. I really like this style as it’s got a combat focus which I like. Finances First fortnigh…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/12/21 10:00 PM
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That’s not my mindset here at all.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/21 02:59 AM
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Thanks Horns. Don’t worry I get it…it’s my choice.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/12/21 01:04 AM
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I get what you’re saying but that may be a bit too nuanced at the moment. If she was to initiate and I choose to go along then wouldn’t that be putting it all back in her frame? I’ve boxed myself into a situation and need to follow through is all I’m saying.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/12/21 02:10 AM
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I could but as was pointed out to me last week…I’ve slid a giant shit test button down the table to her and dared her to push it. If I change my mind I may as well push it for her.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 09:57 PM
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Thinking you deserve a reward after effort is a trap because you’re relying on motivation to push you instead of discipline. Change this mindset and you’re on your way.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 09:55 PM
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Sorry dude…can you rephrase as I don’t understand the question/can’t follow the line of inquiry
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 08:44 PM
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It would depend on the circumstances. It could be genuine desire but it could be a test. Either way it would break the moratorium and I’d fail.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/21 08:44 PM
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OYS #20 53yrs 89kg down 1 12.8kg 18%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently Reading ‘Extreme Ownership’ Lifting & Diet stuff Squat DL 90kg x 5, 102.5kg x 5, bench 75kg x 5, row 70kg x 5, sp 45kg x 5. Eating still going well and lifting continues to improve with the exception of shoulder press. Got a slight impingement in left shoulder so will do exercises that don’t strain it. DOD Booster - make sure…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 09:19 PM
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Have you tried melatonin?
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 12:33 PM
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We get insomnia at our age. I finally went and saw a doc about it and got some meds to help and it worked. I’m weaning myself off them because it helped me relax instead of worrying so much all the time about shit. Also as you get better here you have less to stress about. Do something about it.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 09:42 AM
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What do you mean by working on the alcohol? Either drink it and continue to be a fat loser or ditch it for a few months and cut up. Alcohol will stall progress faster than just about anything. Are you committed or not? Don’t waste six months larping like I did before you commit.
/r/MarriedRedPill01/12/21 09:20 AM
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I may not have worded it well. It reads that I’m taking over delivery of her anxiety…Thats not what I meant. My wife has issues with money to the level of paranoia and anxiety about it. A genuine fear of going broke…but we’re not in any danger of that at all. I was aware of this issue but left it to her to manage the money which just feeds the anxiety. So I’ve taken on responsibility for managing our finances and relieved her from having to deal with it.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 04:08 AM
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Have you deleted the post done from your normal account? Op Sec is important here. Also don’t post to any other non red pill subs from this account.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 02:16 AM
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I hadn’t actually read that fr so thanks for the heads up. As another poster pointed out. 6 months of mental masturbation here led me to forget that in reality I am still at the beginning and have preempted here like a retard.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/11/21 02:11 AM
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Noted. I’ve got myself into a place where I really have to be congruent then and have to pass this test or do significant damage. Dynamite to children etc. In a way I’m still ok with what I’ve done because I don’t want to give up any more. That’s what I’ve always done. That’s why I’ve been a bitch. I now don’t have a way back because in effect I’ve cut the bridge behind me.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 09:30 PM
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Thank you. I’m going to have to re read this a few times and absorb.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 09:21 PM
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Still working on fat loss at this stage of MRP and despite having lost 13kg and gone from 27% to 19% this year still got a way to go. Been stalled for about 2 weeks on a plateau and had a couple of less strict days where snacks creep in. I’ve also been less diligent with logging on MyFitnessPal so will cut the snacks and ensure I log everything to get moving again. Going to also make sure hitting protein macros and avoid starch to keep insulin response low.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 03:59 AM
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‘Finished period a week ago’ is just about spot on for ovulation.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 02:24 AM
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That’s the normal advice around here but sometimes isn’t giving a clearer vision/picture required? It needed discussing because I’ve been doing the ‘not touching her in case she thinks it’s for sex’ since I realised from mrp reading that’s what I was doing early this year. That was all covertly and in reality a covert contract….and nothing changed. She was not aware that I was doing it at all. The old model was too firmly entrenched I think. It was time to be overt in my communications and stop …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:34 AM
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That’s a massive pedestal you’ve got your wife on there. In your time off ask yourself why did you put her up there so high?
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 01:20 AM
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OYS #19 52yrs 90kg down 12.8kg so far this year. 19%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently How to Talk to Anyone. Lifting & Diet stuff Squat 97.5kg x 5, bench 70kg x 5, row 72.5kg x 5, sp 45kg x 5. Deadlifting again after injury but being careful to focus on form not ego. 80kg x 5 After last 60DOD I made sure to work out consistently even when I didn’t feel like it. A discipline thing. Social Needed…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/11/21 12:26 AM
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NMMNG is a pre-requisite book. If you’re only doing a chapter a week it’s going to be a looong journey. Have you read any of the others? Likewise lifting is a basic foundation to unfucking yourself. So until you sort this stuff out you’re wasting yours and everyone else’s time.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 10:34 PM
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You’ll find it in the sidebar
/r/MarriedRedPill21/11/21 10:30 PM
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You know something…porn stops being a priority when you have your shit coming together. You realise you’ve got better things to do with your time and energy than waste it on that.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 12:54 AM
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Nice one Rambo. 🙄
/r/MarriedRedPill20/11/21 12:51 AM
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At least you’re doing the introspection and looking at your behaviours. Have you read NMMNG and done the exercises in that book? Work out where your nice guy behaviour stems from.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 09:48 PM
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Are you actually doing any of the work prescribed here or just piss farting around? No lifting, haven’t read the sidebar please tell me you’re at least stfu-ing!
/r/MarriedRedPill18/11/21 09:18 AM
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I did another approach this morning. They get easier.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 07:45 AM
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I’m pretty sure you’re in the same country as me. Work pays the fringe benefits on cars here. Doesn’t come out of your salary.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/11/21 02:50 AM
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OYS #18 52yrs 90kg down 12.8kg so far this year. 19%bf LTR 21 years married Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP x 2, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently How to Talk to Anyone. Lifting & Diet stuff Squat 92.5kg x 5, bench 65kg x 5, row 65kg x 5, sp 45kg x 5. Diet on track and seems to be losing fat but weight loss has stalled last couple of weeks. Just need to keep on track past this. Back lifting again after the injury and building but main focus is on fat los…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 11:08 PM
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I’m in. Coming up to summer where I’m at and need to ensure I’m applying continuous improvement.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/11/21 09:13 PM
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OYS #17 52yrs 90.8kg down .6kg 12kg so far this year. 22.5%bf (navy). LTR 21 years married 17 two teenagers. Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently reading MMSLP again. Lifting & Diet stuff Started lifting again after back injury but being extra careful recovering and avoiding exercise that could aggravate the injury. so doing lunges for legs, bench press, shoulder press and upright rows. Still losing weight and for the first …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/11/21 09:29 AM
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Yeah I’m not going to resist that part. But the splashing on a whole new wardrobe can wait a bit.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 09:58 PM
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Thanks for that. Very interesting. I read a book called stretching scientifically years ago that said the same thing about muscles and the nervous system. There is no reason people can’t do the splits other than the nervous system putting limiters in place to protect you. To do the splits you need to retrain the nervous system. The back spasms I’m having are exactly the same thing. They nervous system does it automatically to protect the sound from damage whilst it’s healing.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 09:56 PM
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Now that I’ve cleaned out the garbage clothes I think I’m ok to carry on with what I’ve got which are the better pieces for a while without doing a whole new wardrobe. There’s a bit in MMSLP about it as well that recommends waiting a while and buying when you’re ready to announce a jump in your smv. I don’t think I’ll be able to resist buying one or two bits though just to see me through. Chino’s and good polo for example.
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 08:36 PM
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Well what are you going to change?
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/21 12:55 AM
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OYS #16 52yrs 91.4kg down 2.1kg 11kg so far this year. 22.5%bf (navy). Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently reading MMSLP again. Lifting No lifting this week because of back injury. Have had to take time off work to recover. I was on Squats 100kg, deadlift 110kg, bench 67.5, sp 47.5kg. Focus is still on being attractive and looking after myself this last week by doing some 60DOD style stuff that I should have long ago. Visit…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/21 11:00 PM
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Thanks for that
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 11:32 PM
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Excellent. Don’t worry about finding a group either, you’ve already got this one.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 08:24 PM
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I’ve tried doing all the calculations and sticking to 1800 calories and absolutely nothing happens. No weight loss at all. I’ve only ever had success when I go lower which seems to work. I honestly think my daily expenditure is quite low. I really did a number on my back. I could barely walk for three days and am having a week off work right now because of it. I’ve been to my Chiro 3 times already and got more visits booked. Don’t worry I want to get lifting again ASAP. I enjoy it and will miss.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 02:20 AM
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Some of them are a bit silly. I didn’t worry about that one…and forget the one about sharing it all with your wife. Goes against STFU. Write down your thoughts in a journal because it gets you out of your own head and it’s hard to bullshit yourself in writing. If you go to the sidebar you’ll find a link to Rian’s YouTube vids where he breaks down the book and what bfa’s to avoid. He also helps parse what the book says. Very worthwhile.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:56 AM
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Mine was BPD crazy and I was a pussy so I put up with it for 10years.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/21 12:52 AM
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Have you done the bfa’s in NMMNG? Worked out what the source of your toxic shame is? I’m pretty much the same way with anxiety. Can speak confidently and funny in front of a crowd of hundreds of people but one in one socially and I’m a scared little boy. It’s because a crowd is impersonal and one on one is personal. Since working out why I had toxic shame I’ve made a lot of progress in really not caring what others think any more.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 11:05 PM
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That last bit is good. The only place you can make progress is outside of your echo chamber. Living in the echo chamber is what we all probably did when plugged in and why things get worse and worse.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:41 PM
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My first wife was a horse girl. She had two of them and stopped riding of her own accord but kept them anyway. All they did was eat money and shit it out the other end. One got bitten by a snake and died and somehow it was my fault. AHWALT (h for horse)
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 10:28 PM
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OYS #15 52yrs 93.4kg down 1.1kg 9kg so far this year. 23.9%bf (navy). LTR 21 years married 17 years with two teenagers. Readings: practical female psychology, Pook, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. Currently reading Pook again and listening to Rian’s podcasts to go with it. Lifting Squats 100kg, deadlift 110kg, bench 67.5, sp 47.5kg. Screwed my lower back doing deadlifts. My form was off. Looks like I won’t be lifting for a little while Anger Last OYS I wrote that I had acte…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/21 09:15 AM
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Yeah probably am. Friend dying affected me too. I was in two minds about posting that bit but figured I needed a reality check. We all slip up sometimes but onwards and upwards.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:25 AM
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Yep. It means taking action instead of faffing around like I’ve been doing.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 11:11 AM
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OYS #14 52yrs 94.5kg no change still fat. 26.5%bf. LTR 21 years married 17 two teenagers. Readings: practical female psychology, NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW. I also heard one of Rians podcasts about LARPing and realised I’m still doing it. Lots of thinking but little action so I decided to try something different. Journaling regularly. Really helps and cringeworthy reading back. Lifting Been consistently lifting doing the GreySkull program recommended to me previously an…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/21 09:36 AM
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“So when I decided we move, I felt like a coward. So I had to punish myself. When this didn't work, I took it out on my wife. I don't want that. Moving forward in therapy” I’m still new here but I’ve been through this. Do you know why you react this way? Try sitting down and working backwards through your emotions back to the source of it. Sometimes your ego gets in the way and tries to protect you but push through. Once you work this stuff out you can start letting go of it.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 09:13 PM
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I was out with a buddy for dinner last night. He’s recently separated and hooking up with women. He’s always kept himself lean and fit and was getting looks and IOI’s throughout the night and then they look at me and lose interest. It was a very good reality check.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 09:05 PM
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Cool…literally!
/r/MarriedRedPill23/09/21 09:56 AM
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Very interesting paper. I very much like the food triangle concept. I’ve done paleo before and had success…until I started adding too much cheese! Lol
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/21 06:37 AM
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Not sure yet. But yesterday it was 30% protein, 40% carbs and 30% fat. The article u/thisisme linked above needs a bit of thinking but if I understand I should increase quality protein whilst lowering carbs and fat.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:26 PM
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Yep. Just aiming for 1800 a day regardless of exercise
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 08:21 PM
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OYS #13 52yrs 94.5kg (1.2 down from last week) 26.5%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Mission - purely focussed on myself at the moment and to get to 85kg 15%BF. Readings: NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW and sidebar. Listening to Rian’s sidebar series Lifting 3 times in the last week with a basic split routine. Shoulder has settled down a bit and can bench and shoulder press again. Squats 85kg, deadlift 100kg, bench 50kg, sp 40kg Diet Have realised that I’ve been massively undere…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/21 09:25 AM
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OYS #12 52yrs 95.7 26.5%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Mission - To get to 85kg 15%BF Lifting - not enough. Had a shoulder injury which is limiting my bench and ohp so I’m doing deadlifts, squats and cleans which don’t antagonise the shoulder. Running twice a week but need to do more e more. Currently deadlift 90kg and squat 80kg, cleans 50kg. Readings: NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSM and sidebar. Listening to Rian while commuting. Haven’t posted for a while as I lost motivati…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/09/21 09:39 PM
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According to the strongur calculation I’m 24.4% BF!!! I think you’re right about the scales. I have a pair of calipers as well and the pinch test is getting increasingly lower without the scales moving their calculations much at all. I’ll just use them for weight from now on. Thanks for the feed back and I’ll change up to greyskull.
/r/MarriedRedPill14/07/21 08:56 PM
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Yeah but they’ve always lagged behind so putting a bit extra in.
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 12:47 PM
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OYS #11 52yrs 93.5kg (1.7 down) 26.5%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Mission - To get to 85kg 15%BF got to lose 2kg per month. Readings: NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW (put this aside). Sidebar mainly atm. Lifting Still doing StrongLifts and creeping up on everything. Lifts (all 5x5) BP 65 kg, upright Row 40kg, row 65kg, squat 105kg, DL 115kg. Running 2 times per week. Upright row because of a shoulder injury that make shoulder press painful. Diet Low carb and IF. Focus Sortin…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/07/21 09:02 AM
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The point of my post was that at 30 he should not be complaining and to give him some perspective
/r/TheRedPill04/07/21 09:12 PM
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I hate labels so have not gotten caught up in it…and what is good now I know what the problem has been I find myself already not caring so much any more. Almost “knowing your enemy makes them less scary” if that makes sense.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/06/21 02:08 AM
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Will do.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 11:41 AM
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I stopped reading TWOTSM a couple of OYS ago and have been back on NMMNG. I did take your advice. My mind keeps ticking over though at the moment and I just think there has been a lot of crap in there that needed letting go of and once I peel back something it seems something else just keeps popping up. I might just stop reading this week and concentrate on fixing my beer gut
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 10:55 AM
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Yep. Fair enough.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 09:51 AM
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OYS #10 52yrs 95kg 24%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Lifts bp 57.5kg, SP 30kg, row 52.5kg, squat 95kg, DL 125kg. Running 3 time per week. Mission - To be attractive. 85kg 15%BF got to lose 2kg per month. Readings: NMMNG x 3, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW and sidebar. Listening to rational male 3. Currently researching about abundance and what this means. It’s almost a foreign concept for me. Lifting Still doing StrongLifts and creeping up on everything except nursing an injured shoulde…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/06/21 08:36 AM
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30! Dude I’m 52 and just found this. Count your blessings as you’re about to come into peak SMV and get out and smash.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/21 09:14 PM
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Yeah when the psych asked me that it was one of those lightbulb moments. I’ve been waiting for that recognition for years and the resentments not receiving it bubbles away beneath the surface poisoning my thoughts. Now I’m aware of it I’m going to work on it.
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 08:08 PM
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OYS #9 52yrs 95kg 24%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Lifts bp 55kg, SP 50kg, row 52.5kg, squat 92.5kg, DL 125kg. Getting back into the swing of this with the Strong lifts. Shoulder is healing nicely. Mission - To be attractive. 85kg 15%BF got to lose 2kg per month. Readings: NMMNG, WISNIFG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1&2, TWOTSW and sidebar. Currently reading MAP Ego and covert contracts Had an opportunity for sexy fun times with wife as kids were out of the house for a few hours. Got shot down and tried…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/06/21 09:38 AM
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Noted thanks for the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:39 AM
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Ive been thinking about that stay plan go plan and understand. I’m coming to the realisation that although I’d like to be with my wife it may not end up that way depending on where I end up. I wouldn’t have thought so when I started this but I keep surprising myself. I’m conscious that it could be a covert contract but am approaching it as what it actually is and not a contract…it’s messed up and it’s my fault. I’ll change myself with no expectation and see where it ends up. I was worried that T…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:17 AM
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OYS #8 52yrs 95kg 24%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Lifts bp 50kg, SP 50kg, row 52.5kg, squat 90kg, DL 125kg. Getting back into the swing of this with the Strong lifts. Mission - To beattractive. 85kg 15%BF got to lose 2kg per month. Diet is much better and I’m hitting my macros most days. Watched a video that said to lose lard you really need to cut back much further than traditional nutritionist tell you because of hidden calories you miss when doing calculations. So I’m down to 1600 per day not…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 10:04 AM
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Straight to the sidebar with this one.
/r/TheRedPill12/06/21 01:28 AM
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Thanks for that. Good advice re the eggshells and wife’s voice in head. I need to recognise and watch out for those when they arise because they are the triggers of old mental models and I don’t want to go down those paths any more.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/06/21 10:23 PM
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It’s certainly eye opening and given me a level of freedom I’m now starting to think I’ve never had before ever…and it’s still developing. It’s given me release from covert contracts not just with my wife but in other parts of my life. There then an outcome independence I’m getting from it too because I really don’t care at the moment about what other people think of me and therefore my thoughts and decisions are my own. It was such a hard hurdle to get over but I’m relieved I have.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/06/21 09:21 PM
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OYS #7 52yrs 95kg 24%bf. LTR 21 years married 17. Lifts bp 40kg, sp 50kg, row 50kg, squat 80kg, DL 125kg Goal - 85kg 15%BF got to lose 2kg per month. Strict diet. Alcohol only on special occasions. Milk water coffee and tea only. No added sugar. Readings: NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rational Male 1&2, lots of sidebar again to focus on basics. Currently reading TWOTSM and it’s really hitting home that I haven’t had any idea in my life what ‘being a man’ actually meant. This book is really helping me. I know …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/06/21 08:52 AM
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OYS #6 52 yrs, 95 and 25%bf. Married 17 years together 20 two daughters. Read Rational Male Year 1 and Books 1 & 2, book of pook, MMSLP, Manipulated Male, NMMNG, alpha unplugged, currently WISNIFG. Going back over the sidebar and making sure some of the more obscure posts three layers down are read. I’ve had TWOTSM for a few years and in the past when I’ve tried to read it I really didn’t understand what it was saying and thought it was quite sexist. Picked it up again and with some RP theory st…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/05/21 08:32 AM
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OYS #5 52 yrs, 95 and 26%bf. Married 17 years together 20 two daughters. Read Rational Male Year 1 and Books 1 & 2, book of pook, MMSLP, Manipulated Male, NMMNG, alpha unplugged, currently WISNIFG and MMSLP again to reabosrb concepts that with benefit of having read lots of stuff now make more sense. Exercise - Olympic lifts deadlift 125kg C & J - 65kg Snatch - suck because of upper thoracic mobility to always start light. Body comp Finally dropped about 1.5kg to 95 kg. I have this thing where I…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/05/21 08:42 PM
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I’ll admit it here I did CrossFit solid for 3 years and after that I just couldn’t motivate myself to go any more. I kept dropping out then joining again and couldn’t work out why I had lost motivation to attend. I started Olympic lifting with a coach instead and found it way more interesting and motivating. Reading your post here I realise you are spot on about all the validation signals. I think I got sick of all the bullshit that goes into CrossFit.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 09:47 PM
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“You have so much validation wrapped up in it. Crossfit is nothing more than a dancing monkey's program that validates weak men against other weak men and women while someone else builds your program. It is for lazy fucking people who can't take initiative on their own, set their own goals, and work for themselves.” I think that’s the most valid criticism of CrossFit I’ve ever seen.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 09:05 PM
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OYS #4 52 yrs, 96kg and 26%bf. Married 17 years together 20 two daughters. Read Rational Male Year 1 and Books 1 & 2, book of pook, MMSLP, Manipulated Male, NMMNG, alpha unplugged, currently WISNIFG. Listening to Rian’s sidebar series. Work Reading WISNIFG I realise that I’m being way too accomodating at work and taking on other peoples problems. There is only so much I can resolve or fix for other people that they’ve fucked up. I have a strategy to build goodwill with others but realise they’ve…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/05/21 08:47 PM
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Yeah behind the head and keep it away from the front as you lift. Moving it forward engages the pecs. In terms of mobility in guys it’s often the upper thoracic part of the spine the has trouble so might pay you to find some stretches for that area. One I do is to find a chair, kneel on the floor in front of it and put your elbows on the seat, hands clasped and the drop your head down between your arms as low as you can. Looks like you’re praying. Very good for loosening it all up. Also try lyin…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 09:04 PM
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Regarding the overhead. I had that problem too. Your shoulders aren’t strong enough so you’re compensating with upper pecs. drop the weight a bit a do strict press behind the neck for a while. It’s often a mobility thing and behind the neck will loosen you up.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 08:47 PM
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OYS #3 52 yrs, 96kg and 26%bf. Married 17 years together 20 two daughters. Read Rational Male Year 1 and Books 1 & 2, book of pook, Manipulated Male, NMMNG, alpha unplugged, currently WISNIFG. Listening to Rian’s sidebar series. Got Rule 9 last time which was a bit of a blessing as it slowed me up and given me some needed perspective and time to think about myself instead of worrying about getting validation here. So far most of my reading has been about women which is fine because I need to und…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/21 03:09 AM
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OYS #2 52yrs married 17 together 21 two teenage daughters. Read NMMNG, MMSLP, Rational Male 1 and halfway through Preventive Medicine, Unplugged Alpha. Been listening to Rian Stone videos during commute which add a lot of depth to what I read. Lifted every other day and went rock climbing twice with daughters. Scales not moving but the Cali pets say bf is improving and my face is looking leaner. Have to clean up my diet this week Only posting fortnightly as there is a lot to think about, absorb …
/r/MarriedRedPill13/04/21 10:30 PM
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Thanks for your comments. I had a good think about what you’ve said and agree. I have lots of covert contracts that are so embedded in my psyche that I can’t even see them. I realised about 2.00am that I’m continuously concerning myself with my wife’s actions and thoughts and worried she won’t approve of me and therefore she’ll be unhappy and not want sex. Sex is pretty bad at the moment and I read another post yesterday about why care if the sex is bad anyway. Starting to feel that. What I’ve b…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/04/21 10:54 PM
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Noted and agree. Long way to go. Feedback appreciated.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/04/21 10:41 PM
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OYS #1 first post here for me. 52 years old married for 17 years together 21, kids 14 and 12. Lifting since I was about 20 so got that covered but currently 26%bf. Stumbled across MRP after stumbling through google searches looking for answers about re-igniting passion in our marriage and bam! Swallowed the red pill big time. That was about 2 months ago. Read most of the side bar along with MMSLP, Rational Male, NMMNG and now onto Unplugged Alpha. So much to absorb and internalise which is going…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/04/21 11:34 PM
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