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| 39 | I am so proud of my husband! | RELATIONSHIPS | that_other_person1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/17 01:19 AM |
| 15 | Do any of you RPW cook with your husband or boyfriend (sometimes)? | LIFESTYLE | that_other_person1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 09:43 AM |
| 12 | My husband and I are going to start trying to have a baby | LTR/MARRIAGE | that_other_person1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/01/20 03:36 PM |
| 7 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill woman | DISCUSSION | that_other_person1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 02:11 AM |
| 3 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex? | DISCUSSION | that_other_person1 | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 04:57 PM |
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| 1 | What do women mean when they say they're attracted to intelligence?Part of how I enjoy my husband’s intelligence is thinking through and briefly researching questions we have together, could be about anything. A lot of it stems from broad topics about various sociology and psychology topics, and any random thing we can think of. Our intelligence allows us to look up answers to our questions, and or reason some of it out together. It’s interesting to us to think more deeply about life and questions. I would be missing out on that quite a lot if my husband wasn’t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/23 02:28 AM |
| 5 | My husband told me that my making him breakfast every day "changed his life"Ha, I know what you mean. I’m very particular with the foods I eat, though I do eat a lot of the same things. My husband is pretty picky and doesn’t want to have to think about food so much. He wants to open the fridge and quickly grab something. All the foods I’ve made him he’s liked and wants me to continue to make. I know he’ll be honest and tell me if there’s an aspect of something he doesn’t like, so then I shift for next time. A cool yogurt recipe I made him yesterday was too thick, for in… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/23 06:08 PM |
| 7 | My husband told me that my making him breakfast every day "changed his life"That’s amazing! I didn’t consistently make my husband food before either, he likes to keep things very simple, and would whip something up when he went to get lunch. I’ve been making him his own various food options for the past few weeks. I too wanted to lose weight, and am low carb now, and my husband decided he wanted to eat lower carb too and be healthier (he has less weight to lose than me/isn’t that worried about that aspect. I have a lot less to lose now). He too likes to eat often. So I’… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/08/23 05:51 PM |
| 1 | Can you help me decorate my man’s room?For art, I recommend either thrifting it or art prints. Thrifted pieces are a hit or miss in my experience (I have specific tastes so they don’t tend to appeal to me). Art prints are great if you want a specific or contemporary look for not much money. If you go with some art prints, it’s well worth doing a simple matting job of them (I would look up how to do this if you don’t know how), and get some simple frames. You could do at least one gallery wall with pictures like this (perhaps you coul… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/09/22 11:40 PM |
| 9 | What are boyfriend vs fiance/hubby benefits?For me, one of the main benefits of a husband over a boyfriend is we have dedicated our lives to be together, so if an issue comes up or we need help, we can talk about it and support each other. A boyfriend could certainly help in some ways, but a husband is there with you the whole time. A lot of issues or stresses that come up are generally shared as well with a husband, and not something I'm just discussing for advice for myself. | /r/RedPillWomen | 02/06/20 04:15 AM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Okay, we are both going in circles here. I agree with this and I always did. My main point was that not all women are only adapting to their environment. Most are, but some tend to find their place in male communities if they're highly logical, but not usually amongst other women. What you seem to be saying is that 'all' women here, or similar communities or subs, are only adapting to the environment, and as someone that that is not the case for, it is notable and important for me to point out t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Well to me, being bold and unfiltered, as this post is about, involves being controversial. That's fine that you don't prefer to be, but it isn't what this post is for, though obviously replying back and forth easily and can quickly start to stray from the point of the thread. Personally, my favorite topics have controversial opinions and facts in them, like psychology and society. This subreddit is full of controversial opinions. Having a strong enough stance to post on here shows you are likel… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Right, I can empathize with people very well, and sometimes help them come up with logical solutions to their problem. Where it does contradict is when my view, which has been reached from deep thinking and logic, is not nice to someone holding a certain view, or it's addressing someone's personality type or life decisions. Like I am an atheist, and I could have many arguments as to why this is correct, but I could offend many people, or they'd think I was the delusional one, making such argumen… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Right. My main point is that I am not primarily pro social. I will act pro social, but I act like that in situations where men would too. In general, I would rather have interesting conversations or no conversation at all. My point goes back to op's question/point. We are hard to find. And probably it's the fact that we don't want to offend or put ourselves out there showing our logical side because it's unlikely to work out for us most of the time. I'm very logical, but I am empathetic as well,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Well that it is logical in a sense to adapt to your environment, but I meant logical as in sticking to the facts to a certain extent and using logic to understand concepts, the world, people, et cetera. Perhaps women would rather just be pro social, but it's also kind of boring to be just prosocial. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 04:31 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Not at all. something similar happened with another guy I liked in college as well. It is such a let down. I'm quite shy so opening up like that can be scary and I'd rather not have the negative memories because they did seem likely to go down in a way like that. This is why I never had any actual dates and met my husband online (not on a dating app, it wasn't intentional). He was interesting right away. I guess I just feel like I would have to weed through way too many boring people before I fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Well I'd love to be in a room or sub with like minded intelligent women, but guess what, women being more logical than emotional isn't common to find in large numbers. Sometimes I frequent the red pill women sub, but even there it's an echo chamber and I don't agree with everything it's about. But it's not a sub for debate so I remain quiet. Perhaps this is what you mean about being socially aware of what is appropriate, but subs and circles of people that are highly logical are much more likely… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 03:56 PM |
| 7 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?You mean you think people should risk deep conversation because the reward is better than the risk? I will never forget when I was in college and kind of liked this guy. We were walking to the on campus apartments we lived in, talking briefly about the class we were just at we were both in. Then I gave a small analysis of something from class and being returned with a blank look, no response. That was fun. Most people aren't smart enough to have a proper back and forth about conversations requir… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?What do you mean? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:41 PM |
| 13 | Where can I find woman in real life that are as bold and unfiltered on ppd?Well personally you wouldn't hear me talking like this in most settings in real life. Most people are just not interested in debating or deep conversations. It's certainly happened before, but we're either aquaintences, and somehow the conversation was steered in that direction, or I'm at a specific type of meet-up (I went to a skeptics meet up before, that was fun). If I know you're open to deep conversations, I'm more than happy to oblige, but I find that hard to find in real life. Of course I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:34 PM |
| 2 | Do women care if their bf has cosmetic surgery done?I wouldn't care at all. In fact, my husband had his ears pinned back in his early 20s, and I definitely didn't care when he told me. I guess I'd only care if it was excessive or they feel like they need it more and more and have low self esteem. If you just wanted to get some plastic surgery, then totally fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/05/20 02:52 AM |
| 3 | Posture devicesSomething that helps me when sitting up straight on the couch or a comfy chair is a small rectangular pillow. I like to have it resting on my lower back. Maybe getting something like this would be helpful for you. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/05/20 04:28 PM |
| 1 | Discuss: when do men hit The Wall?Yeah as you kind of said, I think the notable thing about the wall is that women usually reach it based on age, but largely men kind of can choose it and don't have to feel anxiety about getting older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 03:36 PM |
| 2 | The Purge concludesI like the idea of it, but as others have said, it's shown the bad side even more than usual of the users here. I hoped it would have been the case where people still wrote some well thought out arguments, but in shorter form so it was easier to post. It was not that. I like the idea of lifting some of the rules to lead to a less restricted week, but purge week was not my thing. Of course, I am actually here to debate and understand, which most people aren't here to do. I will continue to only o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/05/20 03:29 PM |
| 1 | how can you tell if a guy is serious about you in quarantine?Seems a lot of people may think you can't make it official, but I think you can make it official in some sense. Do you guys have video chat dates? This is essentially long distance right now. And guess what, long distance relationships have a long time been a thing, and people can and do make it official when not seeing each other for a long time. Sure the chances of breaking up could be higher, and to be safe I'd say a basic vetting is likely to take longer. But I don't think there's any reason… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/20 03:52 PM |
| -1 | Seeking first date advice - what can I do to increase my chances of getting a second dateI have a few bits of advice to offer that hasn't been mentioned. The boring piece of advice is that even though things may start to be opening around you, it doesn't mean the virus is gone. I don't know where you live, but it's not gone anywhere, though the risks do vary on where you live. It's much safer to be outside still, so if you could go to a Cafe that is outside, it would be safer than inside, regardless of how far apart people are inside. I don't think it would hurt to have some basic q… | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/05/20 03:40 PM |
| 1 | Controlling Your EmotionsOkay, that puts you in a good position then. Is your dad trying to tell you to do things and you don't understand? Is what he saying unreasonable? I think it could be a manner of appealing to his logic. With your whole family, are you not listening to each other? But a big part of the problem seems to be more your dad's issue, and the rest of your family's, than yours. I would set ground rules with your family that if things get too heated, and they're being completely irrational and cruel, you … | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 08:59 PM |
| 5 | Controlling Your EmotionsWhat is your age and do you live at home? It sounds like you may still be young and living at home. If you're still so close to them, it can be difficult to learn how to control your reactions if this is already your default. I feel like you may be able to gain some clarity if you weren't as close with them, assuming these kinds of issues happen with your family often. Of course there are still some things you could do now, but it's difficult when these issues happen with family, because they're… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 08:42 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?Honestly, I have a very good life. I live in a nice house with a great husband, we have a lot of money in the bank, I'm thankful I have the time to do my hobbies. This is why I try so hard to be empathetic and think of other people since I know I'm so much better off than most. | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 04:03 PM |
| 5 | Vetting by actions (What what he does)Right, my dad is very handy as well. It took a bit to control my expectations, because my dad works 40-50 hours a week, and my mom would give him a honey do list sometimes if a lot needed doing and badgers him to get it done. It always seemed to light and fine because my dad would do them (many things he even wants to do, as he likes being busy around the house), but I had to learn to understand my husband is not my dad in this way. He works more since he works from home and is self employed. He… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 03:51 PM |
| 20 | Vetting by actions (What what he does)It's very nice when your man can do handy things around the house. My now husband and I started long distance, so there wasn't an ability to see his actions much. One thing that was a great sign was there was a night I was feeling sad, and I was texting him. He did a very good job consoling me in the way I'd want him to. He told me he understood essentially, and was just there to hear me out. I think that is often all you should expect from your man when you're sad. I don't get sad that often, b… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/05/20 03:34 PM |
| 2 | Q4W. What advice are you going to give your sons?I'm going to teach him, and if I have a daughter, similar things (I don't have children yet) . I will teach my children to be rational, and empathetic individuals. Of course there is a point where 'empathetic' and 'being walked on' occur in romantic relationships, and I will teach the subtley of that. I will teach them that men and women tend to have their differences, and it's good to embrace those differences. But at the end of the day we're all people, and our interests can and do overlap. Th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/20 04:01 PM |
| 1 | Still no women in STEMYou are very condescending. I have a real answer for you, but it doesn't seem like you need to hear an honest answer. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/05/20 03:32 PM |
| 1 | How less attractive is an attractive man who reveals himself to be a virgin? Is it an instant turn-off?Well it's ultimately up to you. You can try one night stands if you want to. There is no reason you have to disclose to a one night stand that you're a virgin. It may be more awkward since women may assume a man will have some experience. If you have a one night stand with a woman, she is unlikely to want you to stop just because you're awkward (maybe I'm wrong, anyone can correct me here). But you may not be able to attract her as well if you're not confident, which you might not be since you'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 4 | How less attractive is an attractive man who reveals himself to be a virgin? Is it an instant turn-off?If you want to have a one night stand with a woman as a virgin man, it can be a turn off for women. But if you want to be in a relationship, I don't think she'd care because she wants to know you and find someone compatible. Whether you've had sex or not shouldn't matter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/20 03:35 PM |
| 1 | Do you all settle for your men?Oh please many people do this, they just won't admit it. People are animals at the end of the day. We have higher brain functions and it is important to work on those, behaviorally and mentally. But we are not beings seperate from animals at the end of the day. You didn't 'get me'. Men are allowed to think about others in a sexual way, married or not, as women are. Our actions are what matters. Our beliefs matter. The higher things that make us human. Our base level desires have been around for … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/20 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Do you all settle for your men?I think of my husband most often. I think of scenarios as I do so. I only want to actually have sex with my husband. I don't watch porn or anything and I don't want to. People don't usually stop desiring other people when they get married, people don't work like that. Because first and foremost I am a person, not a woman. I had occasional crushes from the ages of 8 to 22. All except one guy I liked when I was 18, I thought they were attractive but I'd never get to the point where I could see mys… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/20 03:17 PM |
| 1 | Do you all settle for your men?Wow same here. My now husband is the only guy I've dated, we met when I was in my early 20s and got married in my early 20s. I didn't settle for him really, because he's highly compatible with me. I was happily surprised how compatible we are. I had no experience at all either. My husband had little experience. I have no desire to have sex with Chad either. Sometimes I may think about something like that if I'm masterbating but it's not as if I actually want it. Being vulnerable with someone I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/05/20 02:53 PM |
| 7 | Are women here concerned about the wall?You are assuming there aren't women here closer to the red pill side of things... I started to worry about if I would find a boyfriend (yup didn't even have a boyfriend for a while. No sex, no nothing) when I was in college. I started somewhat seriously looking as I was in college a few years and didn't find anyone I was interested in. Except one guy but he 'only wanted platanoic relationships right now'... I met my husband when I was 22. I was so relieved when we started to get serious, because… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/20 04:26 PM |
| 1 | What should I do about a hookup claiming she’s pregnant?I've not noticed a difference in feeling when my husband uses a condom versus without (when we were trying for a baby before the pandemic...). Maybe some women can tell but I sure can't. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/20 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Who tf hates Chad?I always think of the idea of a Chad as very masculine and into traditional manly things like video games and sports, other than women, and not having much depth otherwise. I don't think I could have an in depth discussion with a Chad about the nuances of social, economic, political, etcetera, issues with a Chad. Boring. He's hot but he knows it so meh... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/20 04:01 PM |
| 1 | White men are only desired by other races because they are the best betasI read the article, and... OK? It discusses how each race prefers to date within their race, and when they don't, it tends to be white. Not very in depth analysis, but fine. Why is it that black women have a negative result for all the races? The article claims this can generalize to the wider population, but there is no proof for that and I didn't see any reasoning as to how that conclusion was made. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/05/20 03:58 PM |
| 1 | .Great, I didn't bother to look in depth at the article. Thanks for being diligent and letting us all know! It does seem like a weird claim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 09:13 PM |
| 1 | .Well right, that is what I said, in more words. Academic articles are concise and cryptic, and can sometimes be hard to understand what they really think and what they're not saying because there is no black and white evidence for it (academic articles say what there is proof for, and don't reach for further conclusions). My point of any specific woman having sex with a man in each category unlikely to change how much she has orgasms is something the study didn't address that I could see, unless… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 03:55 PM |
| 2 | .The graph is shown on page five. Reasons for why this may be the case are listed simply in each paragraph following, and discussing each point in more depth in the paragraph corresponding to each point. It seems clear to me this is unlikely to be the case that any one random woman having sex with a man of each socioeconomic group will have vastly different responses. I didn't read too much into this, but it seems like potentially the only statistically significant number in here is for the rich … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/05/20 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.I specifically said there is nothing wrong with polyamory. Polyamorous people can have kids and raise them together. I just said that that kind of situation can be complicated and thus shouldn't be what society advocates. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/04/20 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.That doesn't negate my point that monogamy is better for society. Society isn't put there to make people happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 04:53 PM |
| 2 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.Right, and if they didn't have a good family structure they are less likely to be well contributing members of society. Society is a well oiled machine, and adjusting its measurements in any way can cause it to break down or work less efficiently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 04:50 PM |
| 2 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.Interests are important and sex is important. Sex and relationships can cause a lot of drama and if they go bad can be horrible. So it's good to also have interests as a drama free outlet that is fulfilling or relaxing. I'm not saying I'm better, just that it's important to have interests or hobbies as well as having sex or relationships to be a well rounded person. No I don't believe in a sky daddy. We all exist in society and our society is monogamous. Monogamy is the best structure to have ch… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 04:48 PM |
| 3 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.Society 'shoves monogamy down our throats' because it's the easiest way to have a stable family structure to have well rounded, physiologically healthy children. Sure polyamory child raising situations can work and be healthy for children, but they are harder structures to manage in every way, and thus shouldn't be what society pushes for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.Everyone knows men get screwed in divorce, but it also seems many divorced men become lonely, other than being financially screwed. Sure some of that is because many men would have less male friendships after getting married, but I'd also argue they enjoy the companionship. Sure maybe some of them would have preferred polyamory or sleeping around, but I think many enjoy the idea of having a settled down life at some point. I'm willing to listen to evidence against this, but neither of us are giv… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 04:16 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on mandatory paternity testing at birth?Well I agree we should have a national Healthcare system as well. Come on, a woman getting raped is clearly different than a man actively choosing to have sex with a woman. I can completely see it being justified to give a woman in this circumstance a free paternity test. This is a reason that the government could justify footing the bill for, to protect an innocent citizen. Of course getting cheated on and being deceived is horrible for someone's well being. But unlike the rape example, this is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 03:42 PM |
| 0 | Most men (whether consciously or subconsciously) think they don't have to exert effort for sex once the girl is locked down in a relationship/marriage. Since it's not true, they'd be better off avoiding monogamy.Just as with the post you've linked to, the onus is also on the woman here. She needs to keep her man's interest and keep him turned on and interested. Of course if the man isn't even monogamous then he shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. I see this idea that many men are polygamous. But where is this coming from? The members of red pill, this sub, the specific segment of people you know in real life? I can see how a lot of guys would prefer to have many sexual partners when they'r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 03:28 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on mandatory paternity testing at birth?But he clearly didn't choose a high quality, honorable woman, did he not? As someone else pointed out, then who is going to pay for this free paternity test? Particularly in the US where we don't have a national Healthcare system. Does my premium have to go up or become worse in some way to give someone else the option to have a 'free' paternity test? The money has to come from somewhere. If somehow the government would foot the bill, how would the government or the people as a whole benefit fro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 03:19 PM |
| 1 | Thoughts on mandatory paternity testing at birth?Mandatory paternity testing is authoritarian. Not paternity testing in itself. The government wouldn't know if they're fucking an individual over or not. It's his fault or the girlfriend's fault. Choosing not to require something is not being cruel, it's a lack of action. The protect society comment is an additional point I brought up, but isn't the main point, as it being authoritarian to require paternity testing is the larger issue. If we lived in an authoritarian country /countries, perhaps … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Thoughts on mandatory paternity testing at birth?I think it's authoritarian and not at all realistic. I've seen people suggest taking tests before even becoming pregnant to see if they'd be decent parents, which is even less realistic and also authoritarian. I can certainly understand the appeal, but on principle it isn't something that should be done in a democratic society. I can see it being something suggested somehow to do, but of course then you'd have the issue of the woman potentially being offended, and it isn't the place of the Healt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/20 02:52 PM |
| 3 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?I have been on the red pill woman sub, though actually I stumbled upon it from looking up a sub for women that are enlightened about society (didn't find one) , and it turned out to be a sub about a certain perspective of women in relationships (though I had heard of the red pill before, just not the one for women specifically). I have read many of the topics there, contributed to some, and agree to a degree. I don't think I'm smack in the middle, though, so hence red violet. It's really the ide… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 09:21 PM |
| 1 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?What have I said that is contradictory? Are you basing this off my flair? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 09:05 PM |
| 0 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?What is this Stat for? P in V sex or the complete sexual act, with foreplay and post P in V? I come after sex every single time because my husband, and after I help myself, come after having sex. My husband doesn't come every time because there are a lot of variables that makes him not always come, but I do. As long as the man is respectful, and the woman becomes comfortable with the man, she can come. She may not feel comfortable to come at first or even the first few times because I think wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 07:47 PM |
| 9 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?Part of the fault here is definitely the woman's here in these situations. It sounds like the type of woman that doesn't say what is really wrong isn't a quality woman. A quality woman would express how she loves his passions, appreciates all he does, et cetera. She should support him. If he sees that she does value these things (as any woman with even a semi compatible man would be, though many woman don't express it), then he'd not let himself go or stop what he loves in the first place. If sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 07:32 PM |
| 3 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?Okay I get what you're saying. I think I mean to say all I did, but also maybe the men need to ask if they're in the right relationship in the first place. Either they should be treating their woman better, or the woman should be treating him better. If both parties are still treating each other right and he doesn't think they're having enough sex or any at all, a conversation between the two should happen. If the man misses having sex, they should come to some sort of understanding together. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 07:19 PM |
| 5 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?You seem to be placing more emphasis on the men. It's a feedback loop. If she is acting immaturely or unappreciative , why should he necessarily be the one to fix the issue first? This positive connection is something that just has to be maintained, as presumably it was once there. It could have been the man or woman equally that started being neglectful or rude to the other person. It should really be up to that person, whether it's the man or the women, to fix the issue and act more kind and i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 06:47 PM |
| 17 | Most men stop the emotional effort they put in from the beginning once they get the girl. Why are men surprised when sex dies down too ?Well, perhaps men should pursue women during courtship, perhaps not. Some men definitely stop putting the effort in when they have the girl. But women should also show their man he's respected, they're proud of him, et cetera. Women should also support their man, in a way that is complementary to his masculinity. Then he should, and would be more likely, to reciprocate warm feelings to her. It should be a give and take. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/20 04:43 PM |
| 6 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtLet me try to elaborate a bit... He has a certain understanding and relationship with words, as you discussed with the commenter. You are different from him and the way you react to words and 'sarcastic' comments is different from him. This may partially seem different because he grew up around sarcastic comments, and perhaps he is used to hearing the truth. Perhaps he values ultimate truth, and he views himself as smarter and doesn't wish to 'lie'. You, on the other hand, have a more nuanced vi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 02:27 PM |
| 28 | He told me that he's more intelligent than me and my feelings are hurtHmm to me it seems like he thinks he's smarter in likely the 'traditional' ways one is smart, whatever that means to him. I suspect that he is very logical and maybe doesn't see the point in lying or beating around the bush? He is lacking in empathy and awareness of your feelings. Even if he is smart in some areas, it seems he may not be smart about psychology. I cannot say if this relationship is or isn't salvageable with this information, but first things first is just have an honest conversat… | /r/RedPillWomen | 08/02/20 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone have a Cricut?I have a silohette cameo 3. I got it over the cricut since I read you need a WiFi connection with the cricut and there were some other pluses. but they're both pretty similar I would think. I love cutting out stencils for cards with it using plastic binder dividers. It's such a cheap way to make it! I've made a few signs cutting out vinyl and stencils (sponging paint over it). If you want to make labels, I would think a label maker would be a much better thing to get and much cheaper. I don't ha… | /r/RedPillWomen | 29/12/19 03:30 AM |
| 2 | What's your easy, go-to dinner?I cook huge amounts of meat or dinner, and a side dish (like potatoes), and i just have microwave peas for my husband and raw pepper for me usually (we’re both picky) twice a week and have leftovers for busy days. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/12/19 04:52 PM |
| 2 | Update - One Year LaterIt's a pretty complicated process and honestly a lot of it is a blur. You send out an initial application first with basic things including the citizenship of the spouse that isn't moving, proof of income, st cetera. You also need some official photos, I think passport photos, of the both of you. the main thing you'll have to gather is a proof of your relationship. We sent things like plane ticket stubs, proof of some of our conversations on Skype (like a lot of calls), and pictures of us togeth… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/12/19 08:55 PM |
| 3 | Update - One Year LaterOh wow that is so awesome! I have a somewhat similar story with my husband. We met on YouTube comments, found out we got on, and then were in a long distance relationship. He finally immigrated in August 2018 to the US. It is quite a process. Are you guys doing the spousal visa for him to immigrate then? It took 14 months after getting married for him to immigrate unfortunately... | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/12/19 04:39 PM |
| 0 | This is a ClassicIt isn't that simple. Many women get depressed after an abortion because of the emotional cost. Abortion clinics are also few and far between, at least in the US. I would have to drive 45 minutes to get one, and that is really close, I can only imagine how far people may have to drive in rural America (I'm happily married mind you, so I will never have to abort). And then many people are still religious and therefore don't believe in abortions because it's God's plan or because they believe in s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/19 01:58 PM |
| 3 | Why the f*ck is it so hard to find sexy cotton panties these days?I just visited England and some of my panties on the trip didn't make it in the wash (while using my in law's washer and dryer in Englad). so I got some from Marks and Spencer and I love them! | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 11:25 PM |
| 2 | Any ideas for healthy and quick-to-prepare breakfasts and lunches?This is the recipe I modify: https://pin.it/pup4azf6qhx3ly I don't add the nuts or coconut, I just add lots of extra seeds, which I eye ball. This is a good recipe since the only sugar in it is honey. We have a grocery store near us called Fresh Thyme Farmer's Market which has big refill vats of ingredients you fill yourself, which I found very useful for getting the different kinds of seeds. Maybe there is something like that by you. As this recipe uses honey as its sugar, I recently got a larg… | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 09:18 PM |
| 2 | Any ideas for healthy and quick-to-prepare breakfasts and lunches?My husband likes granola. I make it with oats and seeds primarily since he doesn’t like nuts. At the end I add tiny bits of cut up freeze dried fruit. It cooks for about 30 minutes. It’s really easy to make. He eats it with a small amount of yogurt. I double the recipe and it lasts a while. | /r/RedPillWomen | 01/09/19 07:17 PM |
| 3 | My little brother's really rude...To me it seems like you should ignore him whenever he is acting rude, and act positively to him when he's not acting rude. If he is doing some of his rude or mean stunts, ignore him as you say you sometimes do, and when he acts annoyed that you're ignoring him, you could leave, or if someone is there, indicate how you love their company or something positive about them. I think your brother could start getting the hint that you don't tolerate this behavior. Don't give him annoyed looks either if… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/08/19 12:16 AM |
| 13 | Is it possible to be RPW and lesbian?This is interesting because usually LGBT is promoted as being outside of traditional gender dynamics. But of course there will be some LGBT people that want more traditional gender roles. Well you can for sure be a feminine woman and be within feminine spaces. But how that may work out in your relationship is a different question. Your have to find a woman that would be okay with taking on the male role to an extent if you want to be a red pill woman. Are you into more androgynous women? If you'… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/08/19 11:56 AM |
| – | What's for dinner?I just made my husband some granola. I do not eat it, but he likes to have healthy breakfasts and he likes how filling granola is. We've only found pre made granola with a lot of sugar or with nuts in it (he doesn't like nuts), so I modified a recipe for it to have only seeds and oats as mix ins. I double the recipe so he's set for a while. It's really easy to make, and I love how happy he is after I make it. I finish it off with some freeze dried fruit mixed in I cut up into little bits. It has… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/19 09:58 PM |
| – | What's for dinner?I like making meat in bulk so I only have to cook full meals a few times a week. Usually I make a simple meat dish (my husband and I are picky) to fill us for about three dinners, and usually potatoes, which there are often enough for another dinner. I usually have cut peppers for a veggie, and my husband usually likes peas. We really like pork tenderloin, and it's so easy too make, just some olive oil on it, salt, pepper, and rosemary (it's my favorite spice I've recently decided). It just cook… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/08/19 03:26 PM |
| 1 | My bf (34) broke up with me (28) over text, did I sabotage the relationship?You seemed to have been a drama queen though because he's disregarded your feelings in the past, which is not good for a healthy relationship. You could certainly explain your side through text. I think many people wouldn't suggest to do that, but I understand how sometimes it's easiest to get your thoughts layer out and have them all said via text. However, it doesn't seem like this relationship is salvageable like I said, unless he can really turn things around, as this mostly seems like a him… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 08:55 PM |
| 0 | My bf (34) broke up with me (28) over text, did I sabotage the relationship?To me it seems like you reacted poorly to something so important to him, his singing, which let him think that you don't respect his singing, or hobbies in general. When expressing unhappiness it is always better to say how you feel calmly and address your unhappiness in a compromising way (like John are willing to compromise a solution together) Maybe he would still react negatively and say that his singing is more important or something, but then you know for sure, while remaining composed, th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 06:40 PM |
| 2 | How to be good with kids?Perhaps he has autism? If he has a hard time communicating and if he has pronounced behaviors, those are key traits of autism (though obviously he is only two). I work with children with autism, and there have been a few children that have been clients as young as about a year and a half. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/08/19 04:42 PM |
| 3 | The Magic "After-Work Conversation"That is a good point. My husband works sporadically throughout the day and does many non-work things in the morning, so he will take a long break with me in the evenings, but otherwise he is doing some kind of work. He owns his own online business, so there are a lot of things he has to do. I don't think it would be reasonable of me to ask for more when I come home since it is still his working time. Anyway, I come home and make a snack and that's perfectly fine. I tend to craft in our shared cr… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 07:30 PM |
| 3 | The Magic "After-Work Conversation"Ha this is so far off from reality with my husband. He works from home so I'm the one that comes home after my work day. I will shout out hello to him and he usually comes down after a few minutes to greet me, we exchange a few words, then he goes back upstairs to continue working. My version of being understanding of his work is by telling him/asking him if I need him in advance (dinner is ready or I am ready for a walk or something). I will also tap on his shoulder and give him a few moments i… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/08/19 05:41 PM |
| 3 | Red Pill in Long Distance RelationshipsMy husband and I met online, and we were long distance for two and a half years. We Skyped everyday. Initially I was texting him a lot and we were both excited, but he works from home so we had to stop doing that. But the daily Skype calls were much better since its quality time. We would talk usually for an hour to an hour and a half, and if there wasn't much to say, there were a few games apps we would play where we could play against each other while on skype. For visits, he had the best abil… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/19 04:44 PM |
| – | Gratitude: What are you thankful for?I am thankful for my mind. As a young adult, I feel my mind growing, and my thoughts get more diverse and rich everyday. I understand so much. I have always been curious, but now I'm developed enough to understand many things, and I feel like I have a basic understanding of the world and its functions. I know that even if there is nothing to do at all, I always have my own mind and there is always a new question I can ask myself, or a new perspective to consider. I am also thankful for my wise a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 11/08/19 01:36 PM |
| 1 | If men don't want to be dominated by their wife, they should help with the household chores moreYou don't need a set out plan. That can just bring resentment if something is not done, and then there'd be no fluidity. My husband and I naturally came to do much of what Our genders would stereotypically do (like he does the minimal yard work we have, finances), and I do bigger weekly cleaning/laundry. But he does help with the dishes and daily tasks. Since he works from home, it makes sense that he does some of the daily tasks, and if he doesn't do it, then whatever, I do it, then I can ask f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 06:53 PM |
| 5 | Why are there some women who refuse to marry player types or especially guys they have casual sex with?Reading the comments it seems that no one finds even showing attraction to a player as icky because they seem stupid and you don't want to go down to their level? Of course I wouldn't even want to have sex with a guy until I know him and love him personally, so there is that level to it. I just remember in high school some player-like guys (I didn't know who were actually players or if there were true players in high school) flirting with me and being so turned off even though some of them were … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 02:09 PM |
| 2 | Why are there some women who refuse to marry player types or especially guys they have casual sex with?Well women that sleep around a lot tend to do it in their early to mid 20s, and then want stability. Men can remain players much longer and have less to lose as they get older by continuing to sleep with many women. A woman that has slept around a lot in the past and later claims to want to settle down is going to be more believable than a guy that says the same thing. Of course some guys are still going to look down on her, but it doesn't mean she is going to want to settle for a player when sh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/19 01:54 PM |
| 1 | How to inspire respect without demanding it?Hmm I find this very interesting because I can see this from an outsiders perspective, being that my relationship with my husband is much different. In general, if you phrase things in the way of 'this is how I feel', not blaming him for making you feel awkward or silly, and 'let's figure out a way to compromise or figure this out for the future.' I can see how your gut response would be to turn down video games with a bunch of his friends around. Maybe it's not just that they're not your thing,… | /r/RedPillWomen | 09/08/19 03:44 PM |
| 2 | The Thought That CountsMy family has always done wishlists, so my husband is just in on the wishlists for everyone in the family. I decide what to get for the family (since his family lives in another country, we decided to only exchange gifts when we're there). But he communicates with my family what they got for me so he knows what to get for me. We did a similar thing with my wedding And engagement rings. I picked them out, because I will have them for life and no one but me could pick my ideal one, though I know I… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/12/18 05:57 PM |
| -2 | how to make a requestI've never respected anyone more than I respect my husband. I am so proud of him. I tell him all the time. If this puts him down a peg, then I lift him up twenty more pegs. I lift him up more than most wives lift up their husbands. You don't know my relationship, nor do you know his psychology, you understand a normal man's psychology. You are also assuming my psychology by assuming that these two instances of mothering him make me less attracted to him. I am very introspective, and I can assure… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 03:24 AM |
| -1 | how to make a requestI understand what you're saying. I do think mothering, or fathering, happens in relationships, it should just be kept to a minimum. Changing his behaviors in these ways was barely mentioned and was very much at the back burner, it didn't take much for his behavior to change. I didn't stop kissing him when his lips were chapped, I mostly just noticed it on facetime. If I didn't bring this to his attention, he probably wouldn't have even known there was anything wrong. Should I just ignore it when… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 02:40 AM |
| -2 | how to make a requestI think that with your example, you are right, it is probably not something you should bother changing too much. My husband is very logical, and if I offer him a reason why he shouldn't do something or he should, he will often try to change (I offer two examples in this post, and I don't think there's anything else I've done before). We're long distance so I don't have too many examples of this yet, but one thing I suggested he change is covering his mouth with his elbow instead of his hands. Th… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/02/18 12:51 AM |
| 2 | Ladies of RPW, especially those who are currently / have ever considered / will consider in the future SAH...My husband makes in the ballpark 100K (he owns a business so he doesn't really know what he makes). So money won't be a problem. I'm kind of in the middle of these extremes of what I want with working when we have kids. We are not even living together yet, so I can only think in really broad terms. I know you couldn't do this for a lot of careers, but I like the idea of working part time, so I can stay in the work force, but am also able to have more time with my future children. I don't want to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/02/18 03:53 PM |
| 1 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Well of course, you are right. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/02/18 04:41 AM |
| 1 | Women's experiences with nice guysI am not implying I like dangerous guys either. I didn’t mean nice guys as in literally nice, but the guys that go out of their way to be SOOO nice, as the guy I was describing. He was virtue signaling as an attempt to find women, rather than being confident and interesting. It is difficult to have social skills in person, but I don’t think it is that hard to have interesting texts, if you try. But as I said, he wanted to make himself as agreeable as possible, I think. I am happily married to a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/02/18 02:40 PM |
| 3 | Women's experiences with nice guysSo you think that a lot of guys that seem boring aren’t actually boring? I think these guys work so hard to appeal to any woman that will have them that they make themselves as agreeable as possible (which makes them not actually appeal to any woman since they’ve not set themselves apart from anyone else) but I also feel like they’re also just boring. Maybe this is unfair and wrong. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/02/18 12:23 AM |
| 3 | Women's experiences with nice guysI think sometimes nice guys, along with being beta, are just plain boring. There was this guy on some app, I forget what it was, for local people to chat to each other. And there was this one post that seemed genuine about how lonely this guy is and about how he’d treat women right. I being dumb ended up getting in contact with him via kik and talked with him for a bit. Not only was he unattractive, but very vanilla. I think there are a lot of guys out there that are just boring, and that’s a re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/02/18 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Why We Pick Difficult PartnersI can see that. I just view it through a different lens, I think. The video is speaking to the child side of us, because it’s in there in everyone. It is just reminding us to put it in the lens of us as an adult. We are broken in some ways from when we were children, and the video is acknowledging that part in us, and reminding us to put it in the context of us being adults. I think it is acknowledging this in as kind a way as possible without not mentioning it, as some people may do. Someone el… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/18 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Why We Pick Difficult PartnersWhat about the video was condescending? It seems like you felt the video was addressing you personally. I really like watching these school of life videos. Sometimes they’re a bit dramatic, but it’s nice to see how they view life through their emotional perspective. I had a very healthy childhood. My family moved around a few times, but I don’t think it has effected me too much. Perhaps it has made me not look for friends as much as would be healthy for me, as I feel like they won’t last or be g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/18 04:30 PM |
| 1 | Being a Chad isn't really that impressiveWell what is cool for chads I think, is that they can have sex moderately easy, and can then decide to settle down if they like, if they keep up with their SMV. Women seek high quality men for marriage, and it can be difficult for women to find a high quality man. So while chad has it just about as good for sex when he is young, he’s got a better deal when he wants to settle down (if he does). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/18 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Seeing that most men are below average in looks and bad at sex. Why don't women visit prostitutes more often?Why does it even matter if a guy is good at sex? If a woman’s end game is a LTR, than they could learn together how to be better at sex. Sure I suppose it would matter in casual hook ups, but as madscientistlove said, it isn’t the sex itself we like all the time or necessarily. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/18 11:34 PM |
| 1 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callWhat do women put into marriage that men don’t put into marriage? Well because these men would be up for dating again, then it would follow that they’d improve themselves to be worthy of them. But I guess that is only how logical people think. However, there is certainly a case to be made that no matter how hard some of these men work onward self improvement, if it would even go that far, the chances of them still being good enough for women may not be enough still. Well the idea is that many re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/18 03:21 AM |
| 1 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callOkay, so then why are so many men dropping out of dating? I’m sure this is obvious to everyone here including you, I just want to be on the same page. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/18 02:43 AM |
| 1 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callWell why are men not good husband material? Would men not eventually adjust their behavior, more than current males that are men (adults) (if men that are men now wouldn’t change), if there were more eligible women? Perhaps not, this is my underlying presumption. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/18 02:17 AM |
| 1 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callWell my assumption is that men drop out because the women they find are not good enough and cause too much drama. So if they saw the women improving, I think more guys would be invested in LTR’s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/18 09:36 PM |
| 1 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callYup and this is a problem. I don’t understand your position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/18 08:55 PM |
| 5 | The Blue Pill is merely an anger phase response to the Red Pill's callI think blue pillers just see their lives going well and those around them. They have casual sex or they settle down, they’re happy. I definitely think many of them are not or won’t be happy in the future, but they don’t understand where TRP anger comes from. TBPers see that they have agency, and some red pillers use their agency to get casual sex or find a relationship, but many are just so bitter. I think people should see the anger as understandable (at least they would if they’re reasonable)… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/18 03:28 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.No, I posted an article with studies. These are as close to inferences to the facts you’re going to get in psychology. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 08:47 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.I feel like my original point was lost entirely. I don’t really care if women are willing to overlook appearance or not. That was a minor point. Many women get into relationships with the idea of ‘using him’ for money. I do think that many guys here have a skewed view of it based on their experiences. Maybe my opinion is skewed too, but my opinions are not based on my own experiences, or from what I see from people around me. It is based on inferences I make from what I’ve seen from society, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 08:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.I don’t know what that is... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 08:33 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.Show me the facts, I showed you my facts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 08:28 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.I’ve heard it put like that, and it may sound silly, but it gets to the point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 08:28 PM |
| 2 | There is nothing wrong with manipulationYou are right. As the ‘victim’ of manipulation (in the case of casual sex, unless it’s rape, which doesn’t have to be casual sex), you should just realize that you are being manipulated and decide if you’re okay with that or not. As the observer, which is the nice guy in your post, learn from it and how to be like them, or play the game of securing commitment instead, if this is what you prefer. But either way, you have to learn what women want and make yourself high value to get what you seek. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 07:15 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.See the article and quotes I commented to oneprettycoolcat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 07:09 PM |
| 7 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.A kiddy diddler... never heard of this phrase. I really don’t think you understand female attraction. Appearance plays a part, but smell is important, the way he smiles, the way his eyes shine. https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/dating-and-mating/201701/why-physical-attraction-matters-and-when-it-might-not “Men (both gay and straight) seem to consciously recognize the importance of physical attractiveness more than women (both straight and lesbian; see Lippa, 2007).” “Physical attractiveness m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 07:05 PM |
| 0 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.Right, many women do want this type of man, but they should learn that it’s not the type of man they want. Some won’t and it sucks for them, but those relationships are doomed to fail. Everyone should be on the same page with what they want from each other. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 06:59 PM |
| 1 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.Well women do need to learn how to secure the kind of man they want, by looking for the right man and improving herself so she deserves that man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 06:54 PM |
| 3 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.You’re showing me a model, they go against this ‘slightly above average’ idea I mean. A woman that’s 7 will get tons of matches, but not a guy that’s a 7. Well again, I think you’re talking superficially and more in the arena of sex, I’m talking about long term commitment with a man with a lovely personality that is compatible with them and that they’re sexually attracted to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 06:51 PM |
| 3 | CMV: A lot of the anger from the manosphere is a result of women complaining even though they are in a heavily advantageous position.Women are the gatekeepers of sex. This is why guys will spread themselves out, searching so hard for women online. Women get tons of matches, but most of them are not going to pan out. Women tend to be picky online since we don’t find looks to be as important as personality. It still matters of course, we want to be attracted to you. So I think tinder, and other quick forms of online dating, are not suited to either gender particularly, unless you’re a woman looking for casual sex. Guys have to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Getting publicly yelled at in the workplace is making me re-examine--or rather nuance?-- my fairly conservative views on the gender wars...a reflection.This was very interesting to read, thanks op. Ever since I knew what feminism was, I have considered myself a feminist, despite the backlash I got from it. I know everyone has heard the logic ‘but it’s for the equality of men and women.’ But in many ways, feminism is not this. However, I do think it’s important to stand up for my fellow woman. Not because I am unequal, but usually because of this kind of treatment women get from some men. Some men take a truth about how they see women, and spin … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 03:29 PM |
| 1 | Is there a red pill for women who want to find attractive beta providers?Why do you want a beta? I basically already knew what a beta was, but I confirmed it through google searching. From what I understand, alphas are mature and confident, and betas are the lack of this. Perhaps you don’t like how overly confident some of them are or something? Anyway, I think you probably just want someone even keel and doesn’t ultimately fit into either of these boxes. I suppose this is what my husband is. My husband and I end up being somewhat traditional in some senses, but we r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/18 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Q4All : what is your opinion of summer from 500 days of summer?I think she was stringing it on needlessly. Having a boyfriend is fun, but I don’t think it’s worth it to ever have an okay relationship. You’re giving away your time to someone you won’t ultimately be with, when you can spend the time instead growing as a single person or searching for someone more compatible with you. It will also make you feel hurt, to have all these memories with someone you have to leave behind, and the inevitable hurt one of them is likely to feel. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/18 03:09 AM |
| 2 | What's with the casual sex obsession?In some cases, women’s sex drives aren’t that low, I am saying this because some of them choose to have sex only in relationships, or causal sex ‘burned them’ in some way. Some women know sex is an asset they hold, so choose to wait until they’re officially together to get into it. I personally am demisexual, so this means I’m not sexually attracted to a man until we’ve gotten emotionally close. This does not mean I have a low sex drive though, I actually want sex more than my husband sometimes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:39 PM |
| 2 | What's with the casual sex obsession?Yes, good way to think about it. Birth control isn’t perfect! I think some types of implants, and birth control in that arena is pretty safe. But condoms really don’t suck that much, and I’d rather not be pregnant for a few years until after I have a life with my husband, just the two of us (we are still long distance until his visa is approved, so this doesn’t count). I wish more people were even more careful about not getting pregnant, for their own sake, and the child’s (I think abortion shou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:35 PM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouWow great to see someone that identifies as a RPW here :). So nice to see someone agreeing with how I feel. It would be one thing if I said this phrase as a teenager, as people that say ‘I’m not like most girls’ probably are, and are just being dramatic, and I’m an adult. I am not being dramatic. I tend to be less emotional than many women, but this is a sore spot for me. I have told my husband that I am too analytical for most women in female circles, and too emotional in male circles. It reall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 03:01 PM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouI wish you were right. Everywhere I go I am disagreed with from mostly everyone, and the people that agree most with me, that I would theoretically like to be friends with, are guys. Most female dominated spaces are too liberal or too conservative in their views, not in just the sense of politics. I am a freethinker, and there are not that many women that are freethinkers. I understand why that is, but the reality is that there are more male freethinkers. This isn’t about ‘oh my gosh I’m not lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 05:29 AM |
| 2 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouHmm, I hear you. But I think it’s mainly that I don’t want to say it should be a hard and fast rule. It shouldn’t be assumed in any given relationship. Can you at least identify with my case being an anomaly, then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 05:16 AM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouAh okay, gotcha. Well, there is an interesting idea to that. It could be tempting to get close to other men. I think it really depends on the woman for this. And it is not one size fits all. If a woman has had a male friend for a long time, it is unreasonable for her to be expected to stop texting them and hanging out with him one on one. I suppose you could do this with your husband, the hanging out part, but often times three is a crowd. If a woman meets a guy and wants to get close to him, th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 05:01 AM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouWell it doesn’t matter what you call it. I just know when I heard of the word demisexual, it rang true, as a word people in the LGBTQ community use (I don’t really consider myself apart of it since this term isn’t super important). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:39 AM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouNo that’s not what it is. It means I want to only have sex when I know the person well, and that’s when I become sexually attracted to them. I love having sex with my husband, and I even want it more often than him (we generally have sex every other day, when we’re together). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:33 AM |
| 1 | The Billy Graham Rule and YouI am close to being a red pill woman (I agree with many RPW ideas, but I am just skeptical in general, so don’t fully commit to being one), so I can see the merits of this. But I do think it is over the top. I think it’s reasonable to not even sleep in the same bed until you’re committed to your partner for sure. RPW theory believes you should wait until properly vetting your man before sex to raise your chances of vetting him (I’m sure I will get hate for this, but it is an effective strategy f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:29 AM |
| 1 | When men decide to commit, they need to know for sure he will continually return to the same womanWomen have to show her man why she is a quality woman, and then most men will be happy to stay with her and will not stray. Sadly many people do still stray, but if his woman remains appealing to him, the chances for this are lower. So in this way, a woman has control. But you are right, at the end of the day it is often the man that holds the commitment card, as it is that the woman holds the sex card. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/18 04:07 AM |
| 3 | RPW views on alcohol?I don’t drink at all, I don’t like the taste of it, and have never cared to even try it that much. I drank some sort of blue raspberry drink with my husband once, just because we were on vacation and it was a pool bar, and he thought it would be fun. But I’d rather just have the juice. I don’t go out to bars at all, so I don’t even have to pass it up. My husband decided to quit with me. He was only drinking occasionally to be social, but he gets a bit hungover the next day even just drinking hal… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/01/18 12:41 AM |
| 2 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?No I just mean that if a woman has psychological problems, she should get them in check, and maybe a relationship isn’t right for her. Same for a man for that matter. I never said not choosing a romantic relationship isn’t healthy, just if you find one that is great for you, it may make you especially happy. Sure, for somewomen the cons may outweigh the pros. But I do think part of this also goes back to finding the right man. The right man does not have to be physically exhausting to maintain a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Well this doesn’t fit into the context of my intention, my intention being a completely mutually beneficial marriage situation. In your case, you should have split up the housework. Right, and this is wrong to think of. I am a woman though, so my goal isn’t to belittle women or to paint them in a negative light. Just a realistic, kind light. And I never tried to portray that I think life isn’t possible, or even happy, without it. It won’t happen for everyone, but I think the goal of most healthy… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Marriage should not be done just to marry. I tried to state in some replies, that a healthy, compatible relationship is important. If a woman is unhappily married that is obviously not good. My goal is expressing just that women should look more seriously into finding a partner before 30 to reduce chances of being single for a long time after 30. If they want a LTR or to get married. Women will be happy without a man, but the goal should not not be to be dependent on them emotionally or monetari… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Okay than that’s our entire problem, you have a different goal than me. My theory is that: most women would be the most happy in their lives if they found a LTR or husband that is happy, healthy, and compatible. And that if they are still searching for a husband or LTR in their 30s, it may be more difficult for them. You seem to think that I think that many women that are single in their 30s are unhappy. I am not sure how many of them do want to find a special someone, and how many of them are p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 07:28 PM |
| 3 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Seems you don’t see the upsides of marriage, or you’re just talking about marriage in a general sense in the eyes of other women. Where are you seeing this general trend away from this idea that women do not want LTRs or marriage anymore? I’ve come up dry with most women having your overall sentiments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Right, I am not talking about the women that are happily single. I believe many, not all, women are the most happy sharing their life with a partner. Obviously it is healthy to focus on those things you mentioned regardless, and you should be able to live without one, but I believe that most women are happiest when they eventually get into a long term relationship. That is, if the choice is a happy, healthy relationship versus being single. Settling is worse, I think. Well, I think the goal of m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 06:38 PM |
| 3 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?http://faculty.washington.edu/dechter/classes/Soc352/Readings/McGinn_Marriage-by-the-numbers_Bennett-Bloom-follow-up__Newsweek_2006.pdf ‘In "The Marriage Crunch," the magazine reported on new demographic research predicting that white, college-educated women who failed to marry in their 20s faced abysmal odds of ever tying the knot. According to the research, a woman who remained single at 30 had only a 20 percent chance of ever marrying. By 35, the probability dropped to 5 percent.‘ This is in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 03:36 PM |
| 1 | The "comfort theory" of genderI suppose because it seems so unusual to me. I probably just need to go to sleep lol. I don’t think this is most guys, any ideas why you don’t feel until later? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 06:22 AM |
| 1 | The "comfort theory" of genderThis is in response to my initial post? Seems you’re talking about sex, not sure if I even mentioned anything about sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 06:13 AM |
| 5 | Are career women putting long term happiness at risk?Single men in their 30s can find a woman a lot more easily than a woman in the same position. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 06:04 AM |
| 2 | The "comfort theory" of genderNo idea. I am interested in psychology/sociology generally, I like how I can do a lot of internal analyzing about it, but it is interesting how biology plays into how we act, I have little knowledge on this subject. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 02:59 AM |
| 2 | The "comfort theory" of genderI think for many, low openness to experience is also a part of it. Some autistic people are set to a schedule so much, it’s like an obsession. As I said about my husband, he actually has high testosterone but high of some other hormone. I will have to ask him, but it would seem a bit random if I just text him about this out of the blue. Basically, I think hormones interact with one another and counteract, so I think it’s complicated. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 02:44 AM |
| 2 | A couple things about the "male brain" theory of autism that puzzle meOp you have a great username, just thought you should know 👍 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 02:39 AM |
| 2 | The "comfort theory" of genderAh yes I did know this about introverts, I just did not think of it. Yes, maybe the reason I couldn’t think of why women were more extroverted than men is because it’s untrue. I do think it’s true that women that are introverted are more able to act extroverted. Like women with autism can learn to ‘mimic’ what they see in their social environment unlike male autisitics, so they tend to not seem autisitic and are harder to diagnose. Perhaps it’s like this on a smaller scale for female introverts … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: what is the most legitimate/concerning gender issue(s) to you?Its decay leads to single parents (I’m sure some people are staying with their partners and just don’t want to get married, but I don’t think that’s the majority), which is overall not the best thing for children. It is better than having a terrible father, but obviously children and their parents would be happier in a two parent household. There are exceptions to this, but I don’t think they’re common. Marriage is failing because most people want to marry for love, so in that sense, that means … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 02:16 AM |
| 3 | The "comfort theory" of genderI am going to speak in generalities here, so just assume I mean ‘most’ or whatever word when I talk about men and women. I think women like to look sexy, so that is why we often choose to wear more ‘uncomfortable’ clothes. Men are more turned on by appearance than women are (obviously women like a good looking man, but it isn’t going to automatically make us horny like a guy might for a really attractive woman), and we women know this. We women like to get male attention, and a lot of it is fema… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/18 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Serious question - Are many BluePillers mentally ill?Could very well be. I don’t have many solid thoughts on male red pillers. I tend not to react to people that don’t effect me too negatively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Serious question - Are many BluePillers mentally ill?This is so true! People vilify RPers, but they don’t have their views just to be ‘mysoginistic’. They see a problem, they have desires, they aim to fix themselves with these desires. This in and of itself is fine, it is just the way it is often carried out that often isn’t fine. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 09:17 PM |
| 2 | Serious question - Are many BluePillers mentally ill?Wow dude, I am not surprised that you got that much hate, though. You pointed out a hard truth that ‘isn’t so nice’, and goes against their ideology. But it’s not surprising that people hated you for pointing out what is happening. I didn’t view your post as judging, just as pointing out what you see to be the truth. I don’t think most people on this sub, and definitely not there, want to really know some of the hard truths. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 09:08 PM |
| -1 | Serious question - Are many BluePillers mentally ill?Ha, I agree. You wouldn’t know the overall feel of the place unless you hung around. You’re using confirmation bias. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 04:16 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Mariage is too risky for men todayAt least guys are more likely to be established in their careers, and can work back up to having money... if the issue is that they marry a woman with no money, and most of his money goes to her in the case of a divorce, then she probably will have it much harder, since she may not have a good job to maintain her lifestyle, even if she got a lot of money out of the divorce. If she does have a good career, than perhaps she does ‘have it made’. The custody issue is a lot trickier, but if you marri… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 04:03 PM |
| 1 | Serious question - Are many BluePillers mentally ill?It would just be so cool if men could just be fine searching for women that want casual sex if they want to ‘plate’ or whatever. I don’t think this should be the reason to have sex because you’re clearly using them more than she is using you (for fun and sexual pleasure). And it would be cool if men were very cautious with the relationships they get into long term, so they’re not ‘suckers’ or something. There are some kickass women out there. But maybe some guys are salty that they’re not good e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 03:33 PM |
| 3 | Q4women: How did your dating standards change as you aged?Ah, well now that’s just dishonest. So few people are out in the world trying to make sure they understand the world correctly, and will adjust their beliefs accordingly. That is why I’m here. I honestly think I have it figured out, but it is not ‘nice’ to have the social world figured out, so I’m trying to balance what I see as the truth with other women’s experiences. Men’s experiences matter of course as well, but I think the woman’s experiences around sex are much more misunderstood than a m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 03:15 PM |
| 1 | Q4women: How did your dating standards change as you aged?Right. It seems kind of like guys are either really good at it, do it in a really cringey way (like pick up lines. I don’t know how many guys actually say them, though), or are oblivious. It doesn’t seem like there are many that are moderately good at it. Part of the reason could be because guys are taught not to sexually harass women, or something around those lines. So there is just more to risk, in the minds of some guys. This is interesting, I have never thought of it this way before. If you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Q4women: How did your dating standards change as you aged?So you think all the red pillers are here just to confirm their theories? That’s kind of depressing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 05:55 AM |
| 2 | Q4women: How did your dating standards change as you aged?I think guys are much more likely to be able to change a relationship from friendly to romantic in their minds. I’ve seen many guys say they would go out with a gal friend if she asked. I’d be curious how common it is. Because in the opposite way, often girls will not change their relationship status in her mind and ‘friend zones’ him as they say, but that is overplayed and kind of wrong statement. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 05:52 AM |
| 3 | whos hotter?You’re Mr. Potato heading these men, I cannot believe it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 12:56 AM |
| 6 | Q4women: How did your dating standards change as you aged?Well I am an oddball I will start off with. I had crushes on guys in high school in before, but I could never see myself actually getting into a relationship. Even if I actually talked to them. I didn’t have the confidence to talk to these guys, and if they were in my classes their personality was so obviously ‘meh’ to me. In college I actually met a really interesting smart, nerdy guy. But he was only interested in ‘platonic relationships’. I did start to think about what I would want in a guy.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/18 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Discussion about why women lie about their N countWell I can’t really speak for this because we are long distance, and I’ve not had sex with a different man before. I’m demisexual, so I place extra emphasis on knowing the person and loving them. However, I do think women usually act like I do regarding sex in an intimate relationship, which is why I think I should still be able to speak for women in this regard. And no, I don’t think so. I don’t want sex to get stale, so usually every other day seems a bit right for us. We’ve had sex twice in a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/18 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Discussion about why women lie about their N countThat could be I suppose, but I would want to see some data on that, because I don’t see how that matters. Of course if they’re really big or unhealthy maybe they can’t have sex as well. This is quite possible. But other than that, you love your husband very much, even if he’s not as attractive as who you used to have sex with. The sex is different when you are married, I think. You can still have kinky sex, but I think it turns into more of a loving sex. I am married, and I love having sex with … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/18 03:33 PM |
| 1 | Discussion about why women lie about their N countLadies like sex, as guys do. Even as they get older. I think the problem is that sex can get stale after a long time with the same person. It can take more for it to be exciting. You just cannot compare it to sex in your younger years when it was novel and exciting. You and your partner have to have communication and work at making sex more exciting for each other. There are many ways to do this. Women are more likely to get off in a LTR, so in that way sex with their husband could be better, | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/18 06:20 AM |
| 2 | Update: excellent visit thanks to your adviceThat’s so good to hear your visit went well! I had responded to your other post. So nice to see stories about mature relationships going well with good communication. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/01/18 01:52 AM |
| 1 | CMV: As long as women prefer masculine men as sexual partners, "Toxic masculinity" will never go away.I don’t understand what you’re not understanding. No on the contrary, I believe most women want LTR’s, even if they have casual sex early on, I think most women's goals is to get in a LTR eventually. I only talked about men in my comment. Maybe this is what you’re getting at... women seem to prefer hyper masculine men as casual sex partners. It is sexy for a man to take charge or be really strong, or if the woman likes taking charge, she may feel like she can be ‘freaky’ or something. Maybe she’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/18 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Q4MEN: If theoretically a woman's love is based off of tingles, is a man's love based off of logic?I love your reply, well said. People should date and have sex with INTENT. I guess I’m too red pill, but I think if you think someone is really interesting on a first date, like maybe they share some belief you’ve never met someone else has before (it is important for partners to share core beliefs), then maybe you should wait to have sex. If you don’t wait, I think you’re more likely to have a clouded mind if you have sex right away. If you’ve been in a similar situation before and you didn’t c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/18 04:06 AM |
| 5 | CMV: As long as women prefer masculine men as sexual partners, "Toxic masculinity" will never go away.Well I think men that are less masculine may be more likely to want a LTR than a super masculine guy? Maybe if a guy is more emotionally sensitive, for instance, he will yearn for a LTR more than other men might at certain ages (maybe he’d want a LTR in his early 20s, when other men would rather just have unattached sex). Maybe some of them secretly want sex, but they really know they can ‘only get’ a serious relationship, so that’s what they act like they want. But I think many of them really d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/18 03:33 AM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?You are certainly right that casual sex can mean a lot of different things. I was focusing on ‘sex early in a relationship’ and ‘super casual, I just met you sex.’ I have this view that most people that have ‘riskier’ sex (I think this would be the overall, accurate umbrella term?), would usually fall into these two categories. Perhaps I’m wrong? Or even if I am not wrong, maybe many people that have casual sex would have it under more than one of these categories. From what I understand, friend… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 03:28 PM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?Thank you for your very thorough response! I agree with absolutely everything you are saying. What I meant by explaining what is best for young women, I did mean that they should be told that most women don’t do well with casual sex, not to not have it (and I did only mean what they should theoretically be told, I know this may seem pointless). But certainly it makes the most sense to teach children the facts early on, and people do not do well with being told what to do. I have read a few artic… | /r/RedPillWomen | 19/01/18 12:51 AM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?Thank you so much for the time you took to truly think about my questions, this is exactly the kind of thing I was looking for. The idea for number five is some idea of a theoretical ‘solution’. I see so many instances of women that deeply regret the results from sex. People will have other regrets, but you can always go back to school, or work on relationships with your family, for instance, but after a certain age, with sex and relationships it is a lot more difficult for women to find love. O… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 07:58 PM |
| 1 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?Overall, I want to understand a few things 1) is casual sex psychologically healthy only for a minority of women, or is there more that is there a higher amount of women it is healthy for? 2) how many women have regrets with casual sex or early sex? 3) not only now, but how common is it for women to regret past sexual experiences in the now, and maybe into their 30s 4) what psychological traits do women share that are happy having casual sex and have no regrets later? 5) is is a good idea societ… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 06:17 PM |
| 2 | I want to be less biased, what do you think is best for any woman (not just RPW) emotionally to do regarding sex?I think there are a minority of women, at least, that would lead perfectly happy lives that have casual sex or sex early in relationships. Maybe this amount is more than I first thought. My goal is just to understand women better. I thought that maybe it would be in women’s best interests to evaluate if she should have sex and when is best for her to have sex in order to avoid later hurt and hardship. I am not telling women when to have sex, just that they should look inside themselves to decide… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/01/18 05:34 PM |
| 1 | advice please on having a good visit with a guy I think is solid relationship materialWell at that stage, knowing that either of you could move is good enough. Some people are just unwilling to move. It helps that you’re in the same country for sure. Just like in any relationship, it’s good to e on the same page about children. Just if you both want them or not, obviously you are not anywhere close to wanting to have kids together, but it’s good to know sooner rather than later if you’re compatible on that end in any relationship, but especially with an LDR. | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 04:27 PM |
| 2 | advice please on having a good visit with a guy I think is solid relationship materialAs I’m in a long distance relationship and I frequent the LDR subreddit, I want to ask if you think you’re built for long distance. I agree you should get to know him better first, but after that, or even before, when could you close the distance? Is it years down the line, can you handle that? Some people get lonely more easily and can’t deal with the distance. Are either one of you willing to move? I told my husband flat out three months into our relationship I would not move to England, so he… | /r/RedPillWomen | 28/11/17 04:23 AM |
| 1 | 3 dates in and we don't text muchI would like to kindly, somewhat disagree. I think the way most people text would not offer itself up to relationship building. But I can see it being quite a nice addition for some people and depending on its use. I think it’s important to at least keep in daily contact for at least a short period of time. In some form. Texting is good for some people. Others may choose to chat on the phone or are fortunate to be together in person. I became quite close with my husband after just a few weeks me… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/11/17 04:15 AM |
| 2 | Is it okay to ask my boyfriend to hang out?This is true. But there is also another method. Ask him how often he wants to hang out with you, and maybe then you will know why he doesn’t ask you to hang out on a certain day. It’s still important to have communication in a relationship. He can’t know how often you want to hang out unless you discuss it. | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/11/17 04:17 AM |
| 1 | Little Things (LTR and Married RPW, Please)I’m going to let the psychology part of me speak here... It is great to do nice things for your husband, and you should definitely do more than what you think of what a blue pill woman does for her man and treat him. But maybe there are some things you should save to do for your man for special occasions, or just not do them all the time. If something is done on a consistent basis, it is expected. But if it’s random or during a special time, this will make him more happy than if he gets it all o… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/17 12:27 PM |
| 6 | When your husband is frustrated with a task you asked of him?I just saw on Facebook a suggestion to make your dog comply in the bath. Have him smear peanut butter on the side of the tub for the dog to lick while your husband cleans her. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/17 12:17 PM |
| 4 | Wedding RingsI wear my engagement band and a wedding band. I’ve always wanted to wear the rings, but a diamond ring seemed so normal. So I have a unique piece with mystic topaz as the main gem (a chemical treatment to topaz to make it more colorful),with small aquamarine and amethyst gems near it, and they’re curvy bands. I love them. My husband has a cool ring too. It has a muted purple and gold colored band around it. He wanted something unique too. We do, however, take them off at night as I find it uncom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/11/17 11:58 AM |
| 2 | Will You Change Your Name?I recently got married in May, but I’ve not changed my name yet. I’m planning to, but we wanted to wait until we are ‘properly’ married. In the same home, in the same country. I didn’t want to change everything until all the visa paperwork goes through, since that would be a bit of a needless hassle. And it doesn’t feel like we’re married yet anyway. My last name starts with a V, so I’ve always wanted to upgrade my last name to something earlier in the alphabet, and now it’s going to start with … | /r/RedPillWomen | 12/11/17 07:52 PM |
| 2 | "The One."My husband and I get along very well. We’re both nerds that like to analyze things in conversation, and both like to weigh opinions on both sides of issues. He is very calm and rational, and is quite open minded. I know he’s not the one, because that’s not a thing. There are many potential people that could be your one. But he’s super awesome and their are only small differences between us. We don’t have large disagreements. So even though it’s hard going the long distance route, he’s worth it a… | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:17 PM |
| 2 | I tend to chatter when getting nervous - how to control that during the dating process?Along with what’s already been stated, you could pick a different activity to do for first dates that don’t rely on conversation so much. Pick up a coffee and go on a walk. It’s a lot less intimidating not seeing their face. Play a board game, go on a hike. All these things are less awkward prone. | /r/RedPillWomen | 27/10/17 04:12 PM |
| 4 | Nature vs nurtureEmpathy is a higher order trait that is useful evolutionarily. I think it just takes more work to get it out there. One has to be comfortable and safe to utilize it. In the past, people were tribalistic, and needed a shared sense of empathy in order for them to be helped when they were weak or sick, so in turn they would help others in their tribe that needed help. If they were alone or grew up in a bad tribe, then self preservation would take over, and the default state of selfishness would hav… | /r/RedPillWomen | 26/10/17 10:04 AM |
| 4 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Well I guess it’s as simple as me not liking the phrase then. If I am being irrational, my husband can point it out and I can do the same for him. Its negative connotations is not something I’m going to get past. | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 02:01 PM |
| 5 | Afraid of being alone forever...While I would not recommend it as a first step, I don’t think it would be a good idea in your position to discount a long distant relationship. This is if you can’t find someone in your area, or meet someone great, they are just a bit further away. It does suck, sure, but if you meet someone that is great that just happens to live far away, it is worth it. The idea behind this is if your pond is too small to find your fish in the sea of your city, perhaps he’s in the wider ocean. Just for your s… | /r/RedPillWomen | 25/10/17 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Well I don’t think a man should ever put a woman in her place regardless if it’s physical or not. As I said it’s a conversation or a break up. No woman should have to deal with being belittled by her husband. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 10:39 PM |
| 2 | What do you ACTUALLY wear around the house?My husband and I don’t live together, but I don’t think we will change what we wear around the house once he immigrates. I don’t usually do my makeup if I’m not going anywhere. Now and then I still will becuase I want to look glam for myself. I know my husband doesn’t care as he’s told me. His two ex’s never even wore makeup at all. I wear whatever kind of shirt around the house I would when I go anywhere. I don’t change the top area when I get home. When we live together, I don’t think I will w… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 03:25 PM |
| 1 | I want to share a tragedy.I was a psych major in college, and one thing I learned about was cognitive behavioral therapy. There are some self help books you can buy, and possibly some online resources as well. I am very proud of you for recognizing your problem and for attempting to seek help. That is the first step, and many people don’t even make it to the first step. The first step is the hardest one to take. If ever financially possible, getting a therapist would be even better, though I understand you may not curren… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 02:34 PM |
| 1 | I want to share a tragedy.Wow you do not tell a woman that is being abused that she is low value. Seems you’ve been in this RPW echo chamber too long. That just enforces the idea that it was deserved! No, you raise the woman up and tell her it’s not okay for anyone to abuse anyone else. If he really had reason to dislike her character, then he would just break up with her respectfully if they were in a healthy relationship. Anyway, the latter part of your statement is true, but wording matters. Even if you are technicall… | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 02:25 PM |
| 6 | Sometimes talking to post wall shrews can be helpful.Well if a man has to do that to the woman, or putting her ‘in her place’ at all, then they shouldn’t be together in the first place. Discussions should be had and the woman should try to improve herself. It should be talked out, in a respectful manner. If I do something wrong, I want my husband to discuss it with me, and not belittle me. | /r/RedPillWomen | 24/10/17 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Why Do You Have Faith In Your Man?Perhaps if there was some reason to put it into conversation, otherwise he’d be like ‘ha, right, of course I won’t cheat on you’. | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 02:54 AM |
| 3 | Why Do You Have Faith In Your Man?My husband doesn’t go out much since he’s a busy bee working from home. So he gets little opportunity to meet women. He met me on the Internet, so it’s not like we even met in person. So I knew right away I had nothing to worry about. He’s only had two girlfriends, and only one of them he had sex with. I know sex isn’t super important to him (though when I see him, we like sex), he just doesn’t feel a need to seek it out, regardless of me, though he told me he may theoretically if he was feeling… | /r/RedPillWomen | 23/10/17 01:23 AM |
| 5 | I am so proud of my husband!That is definitely the best way to be! I should’ve said husband or boyfriend, that was my bad. | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/17 12:30 PM |
| 12 | He offer me an official ring, but don't want to wear any ring himselfI understand your perspective. I think there are multiple variables at play here. Men and women generally wear rings for marriage, though technically not for engagement. There is a big culture behind weddings and wedding rings. Not so much for PACS (I’ve never heard of it). So if this is like a pre wedding, I don’t think the guy would have to wear a ring, technically, as a sort of tradition, since the guy doesn’t for engagement. The biggest reason, I think, for rings is to visibly show people of… | /r/RedPillWomen | 22/10/17 12:43 AM |
| 2 | Can we talk about birthdays?My husband and I aren’t too fancy. I’ve not been with him on his birthday, but he was in America when it was my birthday last year. He got me a set of Japanese candies and a promise ring, basically a pre engagement ring. It looks really nice, but it wasn’t lots of money. I always go out to eat at my favorite restaurant with my parents, so he came along (I’m living with my parents until he moves here). I think when we’re actually together we will go out to eat, and basically spend quality time to… | /r/RedPillWomen | 21/10/17 07:07 PM |
| 3 | Your voice tone mattersI totally get what you mean! There are some women that have this desire to bond with other women in the form on complaining. I definitely complain, but not in this way other women complain as a way of bonding. Like I will say, once if I’m cold, or something like that, but I don’t go on and on. Some women try really hard to be badass too, though, knocking down other women to attempt to fit in and understand the guys. I’ve always been one to stay true to myself, and that certainly counts the voice… | /r/RedPillWomen | 20/10/17 04:32 PM |
| 1 | Out of monk mode! Newly dating with his birthday coming up?Congrats on meeting a high quality man! Meeting someone without all the drama and stupidity of most other relationships is definitely something to give yourself kudos for! How did you re-meet him? It’s quite interesting to get together with someone you went to high school with. For me, that would just be the oddest thing (I am awkward though lol). My husband and I ‘met’ (online) January 2016, became official-ish (since we hadn’t met yet it wasn’t really that definite) in February, and for his Ma… | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 10:12 AM |
| 6 | Do any RPW have N-counts over 15?RPW have the value of sleeping only with men that they’re in a committed relationship with, and I hope no woman, in general, has had that many (at least three monthish) LTR’s. I personally think that there is a minority of women that could function healthily having one night stands or FWB relationships, but I think the amount of them would be tiny, especially among RPW, though I’d imagine most RPW think it’s never okay to have that many uncommitted sexual partners. | /r/RedPillWomen | 18/10/17 09:50 AM |
| 2 | Looking for ways to improve my RMVAs for the never had a relationship part I don’t think that should matter. I hadn’t dated or anything with anyone besides my husband. He never cared. Some guys may think it’s a little unusual at first, but if you tell them you’ve not really looked before, or you didn’t want to focus on dating during school, or something like that, that should actually be seen as a good thing to any potential partner. Someone that thinks it’s negative is either immature or not interested in a committed relationsh… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 11:31 PM |
| 6 | Let’s talk prenups.My husband and I talked about it. He has oodles of money saved up since he is 34 and is really frugal. He lived in a small, shared apartment (he had his own room, but shared a living area and kitchen with random people) (he now lives with his parents since he gave up his apartment when he visited me in the US for three months and had stayed since then he can move to me straight away when he is accepted). He started out that way since he had started a business and didn’t have that much money when… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 01:11 PM |
| 3 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosThanks! It’s been four and a half months so far of waiting, and it’s supposed to take ten months on average. We are lucky to have such frequent visits though (every three months), and I’m headed to see him in a few weeks for two weeks, the third time to England in a year. I’m definitely lucky. | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 01:13 AM |
| 5 | Real Life Vetting ScenariosMy situation is on the ultra unique nearly impossible to replicate side of things, so I’m not sure how helpful this is for everyone, but I’m sure there are parts that translate or could translate for others. Pacing/background I met my husband on YouTube comments. I don’t think I need to get too into the details of the initial conversations, but essentially we’re both highly logical people and discussed gender for our first conversation, actually. We wrote lots back and forth for a few weeks, and… | /r/RedPillWomen | 17/10/17 12:06 AM |
| 5 | The reasons why men marryIt would be interesting to see how factors like introversion versus extroversion play into when a man is likely to marry (my husband and I are introverted, and he is 34 and used to go to the bars a bit, but has never been that social). I’d also be interested to know how running a business could effect this. It is not super common, but my husband runs a business, and he is a workaholic, and didn’t date much due to trying to keep his business up (he had some difficulty during the recession). But t… | /r/RedPillWomen | 15/10/17 02:57 AM |
| 2 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanWell people on this sub are about change, but most of it is to change oneself. I think it is important to acknowledge why other women are not red pilled. That was the point of this thread. I personally am not only about self improvement, but understanding society in general because I think that’s important, so that’s what this post is. Ah, okay you’re not trad con. I basically end up being that way based on my personality and circumstances, but I see why people are more liberal than myself. I am… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Cold Season equals grumpy and "unsatisfied" SOWow, he should help with food and housework if you’re sick. Seems a discussion is in order. I’m long distance with my husband, and I’ve literally never turned down sex from him. Some days when I was with him I wanted sex, but there wasn’t time or he was sick. He is the one that gets sick way more often than me! We’re also very fortunate to have a similar sex drive, as I wasn’t lacking for much during his longest visit. It is important to have a similar sex drive, but turning down sex because of … | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:44 PM |
| 0 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanConsider me a bit of a pessimist in this regard. I am more intelligent than the average person, and I have a basic understanding of how other people think and are. People can and should be taught, but change will happen slowly. Even some average women are changing because some are beginning to understand these issues because millennial and gen x’er women are getting older and the results of their past actions are becoming clear. Unfortunately many people learn from bad mistakes they’ve made rath… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:23 PM |
| 1 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanAlright, then we agree perfectly on all these points you brought up. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 03:08 PM |
| 7 | RP conversation with my boyfriendThe self deception of these EE women is strong. I think they know deep down they have little to offer or are afraid to work on themselves. They don’t want to question what is the truth because that’s hard and scary. I think they’ve been taught to bury what makes them them, which includes being a woman, with all the positives and negatives that come with being a woman, which they’ve suppressed since that’s what feminism tells them to do. I think assuming someone young is vapid is insulting. Maybe… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanWell my point is that you can’t just tell women it’s their fault and they have to change. You do go there, but it is not the first step. I could write an essay about this, but I chose to write some thoughts in ten minutes instead. I think it has to be acknowledged that it was a cultural shift that has led us to this place. You can of course blame women, but I think that is giving them too much credit. Not because of them being women, but because of being human in general. If talking to an indivi… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 02:33 PM |
| 1 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanIt’s a shift in society that has led to the idea of a blue pill and a red pill. Before that, there was one accepted way to go about things in society and now there seems to be many viable options. And yup, feminism has masculinized women and feminized men. More extreme voices are the ones that seem to take effect because people are tired of the status quo, and often times opinions and ideas seem to drift drastically to the other side instead of to a sensible middle because of human psychology. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 02:23 PM |
| 2 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanWell these women probably weren’t raised by their mothers to be respectful of their bodies and how sex should be special. I’m more left leaning than most people here would be I think, so I don’t think one night stands should be ruled out altogether, it is based on one’s personal decisions and can be made responsibly with a lot of introspection (I don’t think most women are made for one night stands). Certainly one should not force another to have one though, that is wrong. I think, with the sexu… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 12:42 PM |
| 1 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanWell I didn’t necessarily mean there was women hating on this forum, I meant the skeptics community in general, that’s why I didn’t say this sub. This is a sub area of that community. What does it mean to you to be blue leaning or red pilled? To me it just means seeing the truths of culture, psychology, politics, sociology, and other aspects, that main stream society thinks isn’t PC, isn’t ‘nice’ (don’t accept hard truths), or doesn’t even see at all. | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 12:00 PM |
| 1 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanWomen, and people in general, work with the rules already in the system. The rules have essentially evaporated, so many women take this to mean they should do whatever they want, as they don’t think further than that. I think part of the problem is that the brain isn’t done developing until about age 26, and most women have already forged their path before then. Religion and a stricter culture in the past enabled women to make better decisions on their behalf (or there was no choice, which obvio… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 11:54 AM |
| 3 | Blame society for this red pill versus blue pill womanI am not blaming society in this sense that a woman with issues should just scream at society. I am viewing this under a psychological lens. Society is a huge part of what shapes an individual, as it’s part of ‘nurture’ (nature versus nirture’). This isn’t about me, but other women. At the end of the day, blaming society isn’t going to help these women, but it is what shaped them and continues to do so. People are likely to do what they see others do. What they think is acceptable or should be d… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 02:42 AM |
| 2 | Saw this online today and thought it was fitting!I think it’s better to think of the housework thing as a discussion. Discuss how much time you both have/will have with children. Maybe you will work full time with children and care for the children after, and he works as well. So it isn’t unreasonable to discuss how to split the chores since that would make you really busy. But if you work only part time or are under less stress than him, then let him know you can do the chores, because it shouldn’t be an expectation either way. At the same ti… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 01:49 AM |
| 4 | HOW TO: The Multifaceted RPWSomething that isn’t mentioned enough is putting your mind into that of another person, or that of your significant other. It is important to curb potential issues with your significant other early, or before they’re a problem even! Be empathetic, but also get to know your significant other’s personality, and use that to understand where your disagreements lie. I think everyone knows this to an extent, but people could do well to implement this better. You also have to realize, as a straight wom… | /r/RedPillWomen | 13/10/17 01:38 AM |
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