thatguywhosadick Archive

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13	Apparently women in your "friends circle" really dislike you hitting on them This has never been an issue for me, but I’m only friends with women that I have no romantic interest in. Either due to them being the partners of other friends. Or us getting along well enough but it being obvious we’d never work as a relationship. Most women I’m friends with are either the aforementioned gf of another friend, via a family connection like being the daughter of someone my parents are friends with, or a former coworker I got along with. You can try and ask out a girl in your soci…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/24 03:44 PM
1	What turned you off dating people you were initially interested in or had dates with? A few years back I had started dating a girl in her early 20s who had just moved out to her own place after finishing school and starting her first real job less than a week later she had quit because she said she had a panic attack at the thought of spending her life in an office and was doing DoorDash instead to make rent. She went from beginning her adult life to completely fucking herself over financially in a month, so I bailed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 07:55 PM
1	Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDs It absolutely does, getting treated helps prevent the spread of it lowering the overall statistics since it’s not being given to other people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/02/24 09:16 PM
7	Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDs I guess tinder hookups never stopped or maybe even increased with how bored people were. But the usual ability to test for it and immediately treat the ones antibiotics can knock out was gone with how hard getting an appointment at the clinic was.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 06:45 PM
8	Men are having less sex, but women are somehow contracting more STDs So the data itself was during the height of Covid when basic care like getting a test and some penicillin to fight off one of those infections was more difficult, and the rates were down? That seems moreso like it’s evidence of how the lockdowns caused a bunch of secondary problems that lead to non covid related illnesses and deaths rising than anything else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/02/24 06:29 PM
2	Is there a dark side or negative side to being a "High Value Woman"? Might have also been a humblebrag idk	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/24 07:24 PM
2	Is there a dark side or negative side to being a "High Value Woman"? Sounds like she may have been trying to intentionally make you jealous or get a rise out of you if she was telling you that stuff. But yeah I’ve definitely also had friend groups or people I know where a very attractive woman is in the group and while we may have a good rapport I would never consider dating them for similar reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/24 06:38 PM
1	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself Sure i just like to get a little more info because sometimes posts like this are from reasonable people and sometimes they’re pretty wild but you can’t always tell at first.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/24 02:27 AM
1	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself You pasted a similar reply to my other comment, I understand the concept but I specifically wanted to understand how OP views them because that would allow me to understand his actual position better.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/02/24 02:02 AM
8	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself Yes hence why it’s a totally reasonable thing to take issue with, I’ve had plenty of first dates that were also the last date because the girl had atrocious manners or otherwise behaved poorly. It sucks when it doesn’t work out but there are worse things than being alone. From what I can tell most people use the word turn off for regular stuff, but use ick when describing something more unreasonable, but different people think different things count as reasonable. Which is why I’m asking.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 08:28 PM
4	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself Yes I’m using that vs the mouth open thing to show two ends of the spectrum, one being a totally reasonable thing to take issue with, the other being so completely unreasonable to the point of comedy. I want to know where the stuff this person doesn’t like falls on the spectrum.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 08:19 PM
3	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself OP can you specify how you differentiate an “Ick”, from a “turn off”, or “red flag” those terms all get thrown around a lot and different people define them differently.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 07:54 PM
7	Women will reject or lose interest in a guy for the most frivolous reasons, and then completely rule him out no matter what he does to redeem himself Out of curiosity what are your “icks”? I’ve heard people list some that are totally reasonable like chewing with their mouth open, while others get it if they see a guy use a seatbelt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 07:52 PM
5	Do you guys think AI humanoid girlfriends will be popular in the future? I know the one you’re talking about, the inciting incident was that he was diagnosed with TB which at the time was an incurable slow death of a disease. Both his parents had died of it as well when he was a kid. So there was more going on there. Source: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tsuyama_massacre Edit: I’m not making excuses for the guy, nor blaming the people in his village. Of course no one wanted to go near him, let alone fuck, him especially in the days before antibiotics. Just pointing…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/01/24 03:41 PM
2	Why do men not tell other men to be vulnerable, AND, why do women tell men to be more vulnerable, en masse? I can’t tell you how it is for every man, but for many men I know as well as in my own personal experience, opening up about certain issues can either be a turnoff, and/or just becomes something that is kept in their back pocket to be used later as a deeply cutting insult during a fight. I’m not saying the solution is to never open up as you have to be able to do so in a healthy relationship imo, but I understand why some men are so apprehensive and warn others against doing it too readily when …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/01/24 07:20 PM
2	Male surplus is a problem Yeah things in the developed world are gonna be wack in a decade with all the age demographic issues on the horizon. The boomers retiring is gonna cause a big stir.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 07:05 PM
6	Male surplus is a problem Yeah I guess it’s the kind of thing where you have a similar problem with different causes, I’d assume it’s easier for Sweden to halt the issue if they just need to stop bringing extra dudes in, vs having the imbalance be caused by disproportionate abortion rates for male vs female pregnancies. Edit: I looked into this and ops link didn’t go to the article, after looking into it more I found the article and it looks to be from 2016. A lot could have changed in the past 8 years so who’s knows if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/01/24 06:16 PM
–	“Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].” Could be a regional thing I guess, we get large groups here too but that’s usually more of a club thing where it’s too loud to talk anyway vs a bar thing in my neck of the woods.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/01/24 11:49 AM
10	“Don’t bother a woman at [location]. She’s just there to [do activity].” I’ve never heard that said about the bar, that’s one of the places where it’s still considered socially acceptable to approach and chat with strangers. Provided you’re not actively interrupting someone clearly engaging in another interaction, and you know to bail if the person isn’t reciprocating your interest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/24 09:14 PM
3	Are women the primary motivator in most men's lives? Yeah I know what you mean, I’m kinda grappling with that sort of thing myself as I get older and begin to become less confident that I’ll have a family. If I’ll never have to worry about raising kids or being able to afford a big enough house/car for everyone then it completely changes my long term career goals and financial priorities. But it’s not like hobbies or a dog replaces that desire for having one.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/24 06:04 PM
1	Are women the primary motivator in most men's lives? I wouldn’t say it’s the primary motivator but yeah I’d bet that a big reason many men go the extra mile in their careers is because they want to have a family and understand that requires a certain level of income and living resources beyond what they would do if they were simply seeking a comfortable lifestyle. However the full blown shut in archetype takes that to the extreme imo , but I agree that there’s a clear economic impact affecting some industries due to the rise in long term singlenes…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/24 05:59 PM
3	How do you explain the phenomenon of ‘high quality’ falling for absolute dregs? Seems like that leads to a sort of barren middle ground issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/01/24 06:12 PM
2	How bad Is not being able tò do masculine jobs when It comes to long term relationship? ( Like fixing, assemble things, Easy plumbing/maintenance, orientation without Google maps ) Idk man I’m able to do all that shit and have even custom built some of the countertops in my kitchen and I don’t think it’s really helped my case. Lacking those skills when a girl you’re with needs you to help solve a problem might make her less confident in you I guess but it’s not going to attract them in my experience.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 11:04 PM
13	I honestly just don't get the complaining My man completely forgot the existence of antiwork	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/01/24 03:08 AM
4	The fact that the rest of Reddit thinks PPD is “toxic” shows how messed up things are rn Scrolling through some of the posts here I can completely understand where the idea of toxicity comes from, however if you look to find a an interesting, insightful, or open minded post you usually find good comments with good discussion. But I won’t pretend there’s not a lot of “if wymin are not le bad, then why pp dry” posts that are not made in good faith.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/01/24 01:31 AM
–	Do men even like women anymore? My bad I misunderstood the tone of your comment, sorry bout that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 11:46 PM
–	Do men even like women anymore? A lot of the grifters are definitely male, like Andrew Tate and his ilk but men are hardly the only people doing it imo, separating lonely young men from their money seems to be a lucrative business and all sorts of people are getting involved. The rise of “models” using dating apps like tinder as a way to market directly to men who are looking for someone in their life is a good example of this. Idk if tinder cleaned up their act but for a while back when I used it, it seemed like a good percen…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/24 09:14 PM
3	Do men even like women anymore? yeah it makes sense from a business perspective Yup, a satisfied customer isn’t a customer anymore. It’s the same fiscal motivation for software transitioning from a product you buy to a service you rent. Microsoft office or quicken is a great example of this. there happens to be a feminist drive to scare the shit out of men so we don't approach women in public spaces and bypass the whole dating site/app scene entirely. I don’t think if it’s driven by a specific political/social movement, I thin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 03:13 PM
2	Do men even like women anymore? Yeah I kind of consider the apps a grift these days as well once they really started pushing monetization. If you actually meet someone and it works out then they just lost two potential customers, so it felt like for a lot of average guys the algorithm intentionally keeps you feeling just at the cusp of it working out in your favor to try and force you to open the purse strings. But they’re so ubiquitous in the world of dating these days that not using them seems like a handicap.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 02:13 PM
4	Do men even like women anymore? For what it’s worth I get how you feel and where you are coming from. Part of these issues is why I chose to delete the dating apps off my phone and just take a break from all that stuff, for a while. I think a lot of guys could benefit from that instead of just trying constantly as it wears them down. As you mentioned in an earlier comment a lot of young men can become jaded and bitter due to a string of bad experiences and disappointments, I saw that coming after a string of terrible first dat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 02:03 PM
6	Do men even like women anymore? Idk if it’s always done for ignorance or intentional malice, I think a lot of the time they want to help a friend but have no idea where to start. As far as why some ladies give mostly platitudes I think your statement about them not knowing the different issues is true, because for them what they’re saying is good advice. Of course a female friend is going to tell me “somone will come along sooner or later” because from their perspective that’s absolutely true given that men often make the open…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 01:41 PM
12	Do men even like women anymore? I feel it’s also worth noting that when many men attempt to look for practical solutions to these issues they often find nothing but empty platitudes or grifters actively trying to profit from their misery.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/24 12:48 PM
1	Why don’t the men here do speed dating? I dislike the whole “get numb to rejection” thing, being able to maturely accept rejection and move on with your day is important but that’s different than being numb to it. The numb thing seems like a a bad short cut to developing the proper emotional management skills to deal with disappointment in life, and probably hurts you in the long run.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 04:24 PM
1	Why don’t the men here do speed dating? I checked that video out and it looks like a mix of a couple tiktok videos in the opening and then it cuts to presumably the channel owner on camera doing his monologue about his opinions on why there’s no men at the events, I didn’t see or hear anything about what kind of organizations run these events or how you hear about them/get involved.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 12:16 PM
1	Why don’t the men here do speed dating? Where are you hearing about all these events full of women and no men? Asking for a friend	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 05:07 AM
1	People here exaggerate the hate that age gap relationships get. If you're so sensitive that a few comments get you then don't be in an age gap relationship From what I’ve seen age gaps are viewed as a bigger issue when the couples are younger or one person is still young enough to be seen as “in development” as a person. Like a 10 year gap means something very different when it’s a 30 year old dating a 40 year old. Vs a 20 year old dating a 30 year old. By 30 most people are considered to be fully mature in terms of mentality, personality and emotional maturity, as well as far enough along in their careers to be capable of taking care of themselves…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 05:04 AM
–	Would you want a superpower where you could see the future with a person and proceed accordingly? No, it might make life seem easier but you would effectively strip yourself of your free will or at least the perception of having it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 04:54 AM
1	Is it becoming a growing trend for women (and especially young women) to casually disrespect and sexually demean men they believe are less attractive than them with no provocation? It’s not something I see day to day no, I think it’s just dumb social media trends going viral and flooding your feed. The world has billions of people, but it only takes 100 or so people to make posts on social media to make it seem like it’s a majority opinion. Don’t fall for it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 04:50 AM
2	Why don’t the men here do speed dating? I actually tried it once at a place in town and it was such a shitty experience I wouldn’t want to do it again. The vast majority of the women seemed completely disinterested and a few were actively scanning the crowd while giving out one word answers instead of attempting to make conversation, it felt more like speed rejection than anything else.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 04:19 AM
1	CMV: Dating apps are becoming the only socially acceptable way to get a relationship There are still ways to meet people outside and cold approach, but it does seem more limited than it was in the past. For a little while it seemed like we had a resurgence of meeting people irl in the immediate period after covid lockdowns ended but that faded I guess it was just a result of people being cooped up too long before things went back to how they’ve been trending. If you want to try approaching people so long as you do it in an appropriate manner and location and go into it with the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/01/24 03:55 AM
2	Are both the redpill and pinkpill/feminism deliberate psyops to demoralize the population and cause distrust? No I highly doubt they are deliberate conspiracies. Do specific individuals, or small groups of bad actors try and take advantage of these things to self enrich or push a political agenda? Absolutely. But opportunistic grifters aren’t the same thing as a coordinated effort.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 04:37 PM
1	Men shouldn't listen to other men about dating advice I don’t know if I’d agree overall, but I do think you make a few points. As far as why I disagree about women you’re friends with being a good source of advice. In my experience most dating advice from women for men falls flat because of the differences in experience. My female friends are used to men reaching out to them and actively pursuing them. The advice they gave me when I asked their opinion reflected this. As it was mostly very passive stuff, based around the assumption that if you “put…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 12:34 PM
15	A lot of women are selecting guys for social points, and men here seem to not understand how this works. Yeah I think some people don’t understand the hell that having a bad partner or a bad friend group is. There are worse things than being alone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 12:51 AM
1	CMV: Love and romance is dead by the time people are in their 30s If you don’t mind me asking OP what part of the world/culture are you from? I have a feeling that’s a major factor in this sort of thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 03:42 AM
2	If you don’t know how to play the social game , women will think you’re evil. Yeah I thought this was gonna be about op watching his sister play the sims. Girls do some pretty psycho shit in that game.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/11/23 07:35 PM
5	If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert. I guess that’s a cruder way of putting the same concept into words.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/23 09:52 PM
17	If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert. I agree it’s not perfect but it’s a decent start, it’s certainly better than the usual finger pointing that goes on here. At a minimum an acknowledgment of the other side also having a bad time is a good way to help start a dialogue, over trying to deny their grievances by claiming your issues are more legitimate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/23 07:02 PM
110	If sex is water, women have to survive on the ocean, men in the desert. That’s a pretty decent metaphor to explain how both genders have very real but also very different problems with OLD, and how those problems are so difficult for the other side to empathize with. Since the other sides experience seems like a “solution” to their problem. Nice job OP.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/23 05:13 PM
4	CMV: the real problem in NYC isn't gender ratio, it's that everyone is married You said something positive about Staten Island, I can’t take anything else you said seriously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/11/23 05:23 PM
4	There is no correct way of approaching women which cannot at some point be construed as annoying or inappropriate So in this made up scenario, said person sees you and thinks you look weird and out of place. However instead of either, A going to the staff/party host about their concerns, or B be watching you with a concerned guarded look, (I’m no social genius dripping in rizz, but if some chick is mad dogging me I’m giving her a wide berth, not approaching her). They are instead “keeping an eye on someone they thought seemed out of place and creepy” via prolonged eye contact and a smile? But to answer the …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 07:25 PM
18	There is no correct way of approaching women which cannot at some point be construed as annoying or inappropriate I don’t know what part of the world you’re from so idk if you have the same sociocultural norms as I do in my area, but for me yes if I’m in a bar, a party, or other semi social setting and that happens id probably say hi and introduce myself. But if their tone changes or they otherwise seem uninterested/unhappy I’d bail quickly. Also none of this applies if they’re working, being friendly/approachable is part of good customer service. Don’t assume anything else when they’re on the clock.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 02:39 PM
25	There is no correct way of approaching women which cannot at some point be construed as annoying or inappropriate I think the best thing you can do is learn how to spot interest/the lack of it quickly and then bail if they’re not receptive. Like if you go up to a girl and say hi but she’s not game, you’re not going to convince her. Just leave her be and walk away at that point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 02:17 PM
1	CMV : Stoicism is definitely overrated in regards to success with women I’ve never heard of someone recommending stoicism on the basis of it being a way to get success with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/10/23 12:35 AM
–	Cautionary Note Is this really a thing? That’s terrifying that young boys/teens think they need to do that to get a leg up on their peers and succeed in the world today.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 06:26 PM
3	CMV: Male friendships are not an alternative to romantic affection because they often end up having an element of competition I don’t really agree with the idea of them being rooted in competition all the time, some of my friends are simply people I enjoy being around or collaborating with on hobbies. But I agree that friendships and romantic relationships are not substitutes for each other. Both are important to being happy and healthy but they are different things with a degree of crossover in some ways.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 06:24 PM
5	How would you design an online dating app to make it a good experience for both men and women? Yeah it’s a weird thing where both men and women are having a bad time on the apps but both sides are having it for such different reasons that they find the others experience hard to empathize with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/10/23 12:23 PM
1	There is no place for men to meet women Asking a girl in your social circle out definitely carries a bit of risk but as long it’s it not something you keep doing it’s probably not a huge issue. Like if you do it once, don’t freak out about being rejected, and then give them a bit of space for a few weeks after, it’ll probably be ok.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 06:56 PM
–	There is no place for men to meet women There are women in my current office just none close to my age, it’s not a 50/50 gender split but pretty close. Like the lady who’s desk is next to mine is 20 years older than me. Most of these people have kids close in age to me, and while I get along with my coworkers the age difference can definitely be an issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 04:41 PM
–	There is no place for men to meet women So I’m doing better than most and it still sucks, great.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 04:10 PM
–	There is no place for men to meet women I can’t speak to other people’s work experiences but one issue I’ve had in terms of socializing at work let alone dating is that most of my coworkers are well to my senior, like there’s often a 10+ year age gap between me and then the next youngest person in my department. I have no idea where women who graduated from college around the same time as me wound up but I don’t seem to see them in the workforce. I guess they just go into other industries. I’m in my mid/late 20s now and I’ve noticed t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 01:08 PM
3	45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in person Oh I think I remember when that video dropped, iirc it was a supercut made with funding by a real estate development company. The whole thing was practically a smear campaign to make the local population look bad and help push public opinion towards gentrifying the area.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 05:15 PM
1	45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in person True could be a regional thing to, nyc probably isn’t as friendly as where I’m at.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 05:07 PM
22	45% of men age 18-25 have never approached a woman in person Yeah I’d be curious about that actual content of the video as well, smiling and saying “good morning” to someone you pass by while walking your dog, is very different than going “hey” and following someone for half a block.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 04:32 PM
4	CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to you Sometimes it’s not that they’re attracted to you as a person but rather just want to hook up and you’re the guy they pick for the job (girls can get horny too). If you’re both ok with the arrangement and have a good time then there’s nothing wrong with that. I personally found this sort of thing got in the way of deeper emotional connections and hooking up early can be detrimental to a healthy long term relationship. So I chose to step back from it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 01:46 PM
1	Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older? Sure but my point is that attitude is pretty silly these days since most people who aren’t living at home have to cook and clean for themselves anyway. My mom isn’t going to fly out to do my laundry lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 12:53 PM
20	Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older? Only men without sisters say that, I get along with mine pretty well but having grown up with her I understand that girls can be just as gross as boys. They’re human too and have many of the same failings.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 01:09 AM
8	Q4All: What's the biggest lie you were told about the opposite gender that you discovered was not true as you got older? Yeah I never understood the whole gendered aspect of cooking, cleaning, or raising kids, (Outside of the practical division of labor back when a man could earn enough to support a family on his own which isn’t really a thing anymore), like I already live on my own so right now I’m cooking and cleaning for myself already adding a second person to that wouldn’t change the burden significantly, if anything it would lessen it when you consider a second set of hands could help out.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 01:07 AM
2	Why do you think marriage for couples who were cohabiting before marriage do not last long. I could see that being part of it, I also think it could be that if both people were already living on their own long term they are probably making good money, finances can be a big issue in a lot of relationships ending.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 04:20 PM
3	Why do you think marriage for couples who were cohabiting before marriage do not last long. My guess is that the cohabitation aspect is a correlation and not the causation. Other people already commented on not moving in together till after marriage being associated with more conservative/religious people who might not get divorced as easily, (that doesn’t necessarily mean the marriages are better just that they aren’t filing for divorce) so I won’t get into that too much. One possible factor I think is likely is the financial implications. If both parties aren’t living together before…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 04:19 PM
1	CMV: Many women lack interest in video games and anime for totally valid reasons and men expecting them to like said things often lack self awareness Yeah, there’s nothing wrong with playing games or liking anime, but wearing an anime t shirt to the first date and having gaming as your only hobby would probably put most girls off.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 06:19 PM
3	Men get destroyed by divorce because they view it as a moral failing. If men adopted the mentality "she's not yours, it's just your turn" they wouldn't get devastated by divorce If you truly believe that then why would you get married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/23 05:38 PM
3	Men get destroyed by divorce because they view it as a moral failing. If men adopted the mentality "she's not yours, it's just your turn" they wouldn't get devastated by divorce The “it’s just your turn” thing only made sense to me as a mindset to have during casual dating/hookups because there’s no real commitment, and you need to accept that you don’t have much say in how long the situation is going to last. Marriage at least for my cultural/religious background is very much supposed to be a life time commitment to one another, she’s yours and you’re her’s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/23 03:00 PM
1	Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to women Is what it is. Sometimes this sub will have interesting ideas and posts with good discussions, and sometimes it’s just a rant post without any followup or desire for debate.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 02:38 PM
1	"Insecure" and "Controlling" are the new buzzwords used to shame men's standards and gaslight them into believing normal boundaries are toxic. CMV. This is just the natural cycle of how language changes when social issues are brought to light. Other people co-opt the language to support their own agenda. It’s happened before and will happen again. A good example of this is how the official for someone with an intellectual/learning disability has to change every decade or so, moron, idiot, and imbecile used to all be legitimate medial terms but they became insults over time due to their associations with those of limited intellect and so the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 01:23 AM
1	Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to women I agree with your point though that op took an interesting datapoint, stripped it of context, and then extrapolated that out as “proof” of all his preexisting beliefs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/23 04:41 PM
1	Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to women Yeah it’s one if those things where it has valid criticisms but no one has came up with anything better yet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/23 02:18 PM
30	Studies show the higher the IQ a man has the less attractive he is to women Also worth noting that sub 70 is where you cross into the realm of intellectual disabilities. Which is an entirely different can of worms regarding consent.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/09/23 02:17 PM
3	Women's preferences in men wont allow us to reckon with toxic masculinity anytime soon Yeah it becomes toxic when guys go to insane extremes out of their insecurities and desire to be seen as masculine. Kind of like being a poser but worse.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/09/23 04:31 PM
1	Never-married single moms, even if they are good moms, took a very selfish decision Dude if I understood women well enough to answer that question with any confidence I wouldn’t be on Reddit.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 08:46 PM
14	Never-married single moms, even if they are good moms, took a very selfish decision Yeah but initiate refers to legal proceedings being started and doesn’t account for the reasons. Like if the man is a piece of shit whos constantly stepping out on her and isn’t providing for the children he’s probably not going to care enough to start the paperwork. But the marriage failing is very much his fault. Not every example is like that of course but it’s important to understand how much statics leave out and all the issues with using them to draw conclusions.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/09/23 02:56 PM
6	Women who have to rely on vibrators and other toys to get off during sex aren't worth men dating.(NSFW) The “not worth a man committing to” part doesn’t make sense to me, relationships aren’t purely about sex. Admittedly it’s never something I’ve had to deal with as a man and I’m sure my ego would be a little bruised but as long as they are mature about it, it really doesn’t seem like a deal breaker assuming she’s a good partner otherwise. IMO for anyone you intend to date seriously you should already have an emotional connection and enjoy being around them before things become sexual. Otherwise s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/23 12:20 AM
1	Wouldn't it be better for everyone if women initiated and made the first move? comrade Get your commie gobbledygook the hell away from me!	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/09/23 02:06 PM
5	Wouldn't it be better for everyone if women initiated and made the first move? I don’t think the issue is that women aren’t doing the initial work but rather that we (at least in the US or other places with lots of recent cultural shifts or disparate cultures interacting in new ways) have lost a lot of the cultural short hand and code words used to signal interest. Many cultures had their own way of allowing someone to display interest and receptiveness or lack thereof to said interest in a way that allowed both parties to avoid embarrassment and bail out if the other didn…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/09/23 02:40 PM
4	Q4M: Has a woman ever helped you get laid? Yes but not directly. I’ve noticed that if I’m with a female friend or my sister or something. Women are generally more open/comfortable approaching to chat or ask a question. I assume this is because if they figure I’m probably a normal enough guy if another lady is already hanging around me without issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/23 04:06 PM
3	What are some examples of "What society tells you vs. The reality" about gender relationships? Yeah some of the advice, especially the unsolicited stuff, can be pretty wild. I try and call my grandma every weekend to see how’s she’s doing and half the time she decides she knows what I need to do to get a girl and proceeds to describe a felony.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 11:08 AM
1	Most "male approaches" are just misunderstandings from women If it makes you feel any better man, once I was talking to my dog while walking her and a lady thought I was cat calling them for a second. So you could be having worse misunderstandings/confrontations. I wouldn’t say it’s 90% if the time for most men but it definitely happens, where it’s misconstrued what someone’s intentions are. Plus there definitely some guys who were actually hitting on a girl or thinking about it but then play it off like they weren’t playing that angle when called out or …	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/07/23 07:03 PM
1	CMV Many People in Dating Strategy subreddits (doesnt matter what pill, pua or whatever) have no reallife experience and therefore claim dumb delusional things, which makes finding the truth harder. Gotcha, I’m not a girl nor am I particularly involved in RP stuff so I’m not super aware of the various subreddits. Thanks	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 03:29 PM
1	CMV Many People in Dating Strategy subreddits (doesnt matter what pill, pua or whatever) have no reallife experience and therefore claim dumb delusional things, which makes finding the truth harder. RPW?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 03:07 PM
7	CMV Many People in Dating Strategy subreddits (doesnt matter what pill, pua or whatever) have no reallife experience and therefore claim dumb delusional things, which makes finding the truth harder. Are you telling me you’re surprised that most Redditors give terrible advice and have shit takes constantly? It’s like how anytime someone mentions a minor disagreement with their partner the immediate response is “that’s a red flag dump them”, you can’t take any of it seriously.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/23 12:08 PM
7	Do women confuse their socioeconomic status with their SMV? Yeah my grandma went to college even though she knew she was going to marry my grandfather before she went. Plus in the US at least my understanding is that women were more likely to go to college than men for a good portion of our history and this only changed in the last few decades or so as we shifted away from a manufacturing/industrial economy to a service based economy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/07/23 12:09 AM
1	Public/social life (what little there is) is totally hostile to single men Have you tried getting into hobbies that are popular with married men wanting to get away from the wife for a while? Stuff like fishing or a male recreational sports league like darts or pool, those are low cost/free things that while not single men specific are popular among men who are wanting to show up and leave alone	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/06/23 01:28 AM
4	Social circles is a "don't shit where you eat" scenario slightly better than hitting on coworkers I mean there’s a difference between asking out one girl in your social circle you have a bit of chemistry with vs trying to spit rizz en masse. With that first case if it doesn’t go well might be a little awkward for a few weeks but probably won’t be anything too bad so long as you’re mature about rejection, but if you’re just slinging dick yeah people are gonna talk and it’ll get weird.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/23 04:55 PM
8	You just need to get in shape, bro. Then the girls will come flocking to you! Don’t you bring senator Armstrong into this, his problem isn’t his looks. Shouting “show me a good time jack!” Just isn’t a good pickup line.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/23 03:34 PM
12	Redpill content online is so cherry-picked that it’s often disingenuous and inaccurate. You’re not wrong, the biggest issue I have with a lot of media in that space is that they take advantage of the fact that many male issues either aren’t discussed or only talked about in a way that framed is a some thing wrong with men rather than a problem they need support with, and then use that to push their own agenda. By starting with a small kernels of truth they can push a massive grift and keep getting more people it watch it because it’s one of the only platforms that talks about what’…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/12/22 12:48 AM
1	Are big city dating scenes not worth it for below-average males? Dating apps are a horrible metric for how likable you are and a terrible way to meet people, the advantage of cities or at least certain neighborhoods in them is that you’re near more people and can go out and meet people irl. Speaking form personal experience I do much better meetings people at concerts, bars, and parties than I do on apps as you’re more likely to be able to let your personality shine through in person and you have a greater chance of meeting people with shared interests if you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 01:50 AM
1	Personality matters. If you think it does not you don't have it I think the issue is that a lot of people, have trouble putting themselves in positions to see those opportunities, the pandemic shutting down many of the usual avenues for meeting people and the current economic uncertainty was a part of this, and many are getting burnt out and jaded before things line up and they get a chance to make that good impression. Although I don’t disagree that some people are acting in bad faith or have underdeveloped personalities/social skills, there are definitely …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/12/22 01:12 AM
6	Personality matters. If you think it does not you don't have it Yes, having the potential or the capacity to do something is very different than having the opportunity to do so. That’s my point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 06:32 PM
3	Personality matters. If you think it does not you don't have it I mean, in interviews with actors and standups many of them talk about having to go through years of obscurity and being turned down for roles till they get their big break, sometimes from luck, sometimes due to being given a chance by an industry vet, director, promoter, or other personal connection. So I feel like you’re anecdote here isn’t very accurate. That being said I don’t disagree with you on the fact that personality is super important and means more long term than looks. This is proba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 05:15 PM
6	Women (who aren't cheaters) would actually benefit from mandatory paternity testing Yeah I guess you’re right, it’s unfortunate	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 02:49 PM
8	Women (who aren't cheaters) would actually benefit from mandatory paternity testing I don’t really think this is a big of a deal as you’re making it out to be. If you’re a guy in a loving relationship with your wife and planning to start a family, something like a test isn’t even going to cross your mind. It’s only the sort of thing that comes up if you’re already suspicious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/12/22 01:27 PM
13	Is it true that men have it harder than women because what makes a man attractive can't be faked or is extremely difficult to achieve? I think the biggest issue with your statement/view is that your statement “men have it harder” is a pretty broad way to describe the experiences of half of the population and paints it in as binary choice. Women and men both can have it hard and sometimes have it easy. But often in different areas that makes it hard to relate to one another. That doesn’t necessarily mean that one group “has it easy”.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/10/22 12:29 PM
5	The argument of "just lower your standards" to undesirable men is misguided since they have no option that is being filtered out by their standards Self proclaimed “Insanely smart” and “doesn’t see the point in being kind”, yeah no clue why you’re having troubles there bud	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/22 03:20 PM