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Yeah I agree. I think a lot of men have been fed this story where if the man isn’t in control, he’ll be miserable and look weak and pathetic. So they cling to control out of fear, rather than because they actually know how to be a good leader and are ready to carry that burden. Few people are 100% suited to being leaders so it’s usually best not to have 1 person completely in charge. But in my experience, when men find female partners who are good leaders, they enjoy it
/r/seduction14/06/23 09:52 PM
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There’s nothing wrong with a man who likes being submissive. It’s only childish if they deny it to themselves out of shame or pride. Most people enjoy someone else taking charge if that person is competent, and most people enjoy taking charge occasionally. But it is kind of a burden, and most men I’ve met are relieved to have someone else do it for them.
/r/seduction14/06/23 09:43 PM
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In my experience, one of the signs that a man has adequate social skills is that he appreciates assertiveness in women and isn’t clinging to some fantasy that he’ll get lots of pussy by being domineering and aggressive and bossy
/r/seduction14/06/23 05:22 PM
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Lots of men will claim that they don’t want a woman to be the dominant one in the relationship, but in reality I’ve never met a man who didn’t like it
/r/seduction14/06/23 05:19 PM
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sadly they’re probably emulating the average man who is making that same mistake
/r/seduction14/06/23 05:17 PM
1

this sub is just men slowly reinventing feminine seduction techniques
/r/seduction09/06/23 09:20 PM
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You're failing to set boundaries for your own behavior to account for your emotions. It is normal and acceptable not to respond quickly. You are not entitled to responses. You clearly have a negative emotional reaction to not receiving responses, so you need to set boundaries for yourself and not put your energy into corresponding with people who aren't prompt repliers. You can politely express your needs to others and give them a chance to change their behavior, but they might not. If they don'…
/r/seduction03/06/22 10:13 PM
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A man who propositions a woman has no right to expect anything from her, and she has done nothing to encourage him to expect something from her, so why would you attack her for not reciprocating his interest? If she told him she wanted a long term relationship, slept with him, possibly got him pregnant, and then told him she didn't want to see him again, and they lived in a society where women habitually brag about exploiting men for sex and then discarding them - then she would come off as kind…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 04:32 PM
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Agreed, it's generally well-received if men can do it without being sexist and stupid. But that takes intelligence
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:59 PM
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If you're "roasting" a person you just met, you're probably coming off as an asshole. Don't try to blame that on her womanly nature lmao
/r/seduction17/05/22 08:58 PM
1

Sounds like OP's just got very specific strengths and weaknesses and he thinks they're universal
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:08 PM
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This could be a sign that you're good at sex but not great in other areas
/r/seduction16/05/22 01:05 PM
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Everyone on this subreddit is going to tell you to be macho and "dominant" and "masculine" and say that's what women want. But if women are literally cuddling with you in your bed then they've already decided they want you, so you really shouldn't be trying to make major changes or be something you're not. You're old enough that you should be able to have honest conversations with people especially if you're going to be having sex. You can just tell them this shit and ask them what they want.
/r/seduction14/05/22 06:15 AM
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sorry if I struck a nerve
/r/seduction12/05/22 06:25 PM
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Lol. Yeah if you spend all your time too scared to act interested in anyone because you don't think they'll like you back, you look insecure
/r/seduction12/05/22 04:06 AM
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This just comes off as insecure and scared of rejection.
/r/seduction12/05/22 03:50 AM
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Get a drink with as little caffeine as possible
/r/seduction29/04/22 07:54 PM
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I get the impression this was a rhetorical question and more of an excuse for a rant rather than an actual search for answers. But the reason for this is the high rates of predatory and abusive behavior in males who seek out women much younger than them. In general the axiom holds true that if there's not something wrong with a man, women his own age would be willing to date him and he'd prefer to date them. There are some exceptions, but it's not reasonable to expect everyone to expect you to b…
/r/seduction16/04/22 10:24 PM
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get a vasectomy
/r/seduction18/03/22 03:29 AM
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his comment wasn't that harsh. if you weren't ready for that kind of feedback you shouldn't have made the post
/r/seduction11/03/22 02:54 AM
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"like what you see?" is a classic
/r/seduction09/03/22 08:10 PM
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It's as sexist and antiquated as men expecting women to be responsible for birth control. I personally prefer a 50/50 split on the bill and a vasectomy. But society hasn't caught up to everyone taking responsibility for themselves, sadly
/r/seduction07/03/22 06:36 PM
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You are wrong and OP is right.
/r/seduction06/03/22 12:58 AM
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I don't blame you for your confusion, you're male and therefore raised to believe that you have important and unique perspectives even on things you don't understand very well. You can construct elaborate explanations for the intensity of male insecurity and jealousy, and you can even claim that it's rooted in biology if you like. It would not be the first time that evolution selected a seemingly counterproductive trait in the male of the species. But that's all speculation ultimately. It could …
/r/seduction04/03/22 10:12 AM
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Just because it's easy to do something doesn't mean it reflects badly on the person doing it. That's why insecurity and jealousy seem to be the best explanation when men are upset by women's previous sexual experiences. Also, people attribute value to men after observing how many women want to sleep with them. You're confusing cause and effect. Lots of very promiscuous males are not high value at all, but often others (especially men) will increase that man's value in their own assessment of him…
/r/seduction04/03/22 08:01 AM
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It's pretty typical for men to have more anxiety and jealousy around women's sexual history compared to the reverse. Nothing unique here
/r/seduction03/03/22 06:12 AM
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Nah it's pretty common. I don't even live in a big city but my friends and I do this regularly
/r/seduction30/01/22 07:49 AM
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The ideal approach is "hey you caught my eye and if you like what you see, let's keep talking" but I wish I could think of a better way to phrase it
/r/seduction26/01/22 02:03 AM
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Think about how you'd react if she asked you that, and then act based on the guess that you're on the same page. Meaning, you're probably both in a place where you'd be happy to go get coffee together. When you bring it up, you're really just figuring out where and when to do this fun thing you both want. If you seem a little shy about it that's fine and will probably be cute. Just be chill and remember that you're offering her a fun thing that she will probably want. If she seems not to be into…
/r/seduction24/01/22 03:58 AM
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refer to my message above lmao
/r/seduction17/01/22 09:55 PM
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refer to my message above
/r/seduction17/01/22 12:57 AM
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You can try to seem cool and dismissive to save face but deep down you know I'm right
/r/seduction16/01/22 11:07 PM
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So your reply is just: - You claiming that any criticism toward the opposite sex would get labeled misogyny, in an attempt to pretend that your actual sexism is being unfairly criticized - You deciding that you have zero evidence or reason for your assumptions so you just say "c'mon we both know it's true," which we both know isn't true - "tolerating behavior like compliment fishing" is another strange wording indicative of a victim complex. A woman speaking to you is not "compliment fishing." A…
/r/seduction16/01/22 08:04 PM
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You heard that someone who barely knows OP communicates inconsistently with him, and you followed the trend of feeding into a delusion that she is somehow victimizing him by doing that. Calling someone else delusional for noticing how deranged your behavior is doesn't actually reverse the reality of the situation. If you actually have this level of hostility and paranoia, you shouldn't be speaking to women at all til you get a handle on it.
/r/seduction16/01/22 07:46 PM
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Idk where to start with this. You seem paranoid, naive and misogynistic. Why is there such a trend of men encouraging other men to feel victimized when a woman wants to talk to them, but might not want to do more? Don't shoot your shot repeatedly if you don't feel like risking rejection, otherwise feel free to keep trying. Either way though, be an adult and don't try to invent this evil motive for a near-stranger casually talking to you, just so you can feel more bad for yourself. Edit: you can …
/r/seduction16/01/22 07:53 AM
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Yeah 100% depends on factors like why you're crying and how mature you're acting. If you're throwing a tantrum you're obviously going to lose respect. If you make her feel scared or guilty or otherwise cry manipulatively then yeah she shouldn't put up with that. If you're just crying but still being a decent mature person, and you support her in expressing her emotions, I don't think many people will judge you.
/r/seduction12/01/22 10:55 PM
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Get your HPV shots Get tested regularly and ask your partners about their status Condoms won't protect you much against herpes and you probably have it anyway, statistically, so no changes there Vasectomy
/r/seduction07/01/22 07:20 PM
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Smaller men sometimes make me nervous because I've met so many who are weird and angry about it. But if they are well-adjusted and can appreciate being called cute, it's not an issue at all
/r/seduction06/01/22 09:52 PM
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Talk to her about it. Just tell her that you're feeling confused about her feelings/timeline. Don't press her for an explanation, just ask something along the lines of "what do you envision for the future wrt physical intimacy? is it something you want? if so, is there a certain length of time or event that you want to happen first? are there certain conditions that aren't being met? is there anything you want me to know that you haven't had a good opportunity to talk about?" The goal is to find…
/r/seduction04/01/22 06:41 PM
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You are trying way too hard because you're defensive.
/r/seduction31/12/21 05:23 AM
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Sorry if you're still confused. But I'm not sure how much more simply I can put this. People can't read your mind. You're adding in a bunch of unrelated things that you're clearly projecting from personal experience. You've showed that you're the type to take it personally when your needs arent met but refuse to say anything because it's embarrassing or smth. You might grow out of it someday but til then, stop trying to recruit others into having the same shame and resentment
/r/seduction31/12/21 03:51 AM
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Yeah...this is pretty much what I guessed you meant by you having "success with women."
/r/seduction31/12/21 03:46 AM
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talking to yourself now?
/r/seduction31/12/21 02:38 AM
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Do you have chronic fatigue so severe that even sending a short text is an amount of energy you can't spare unless absolutely necessary? You act like we advised him to build her a house or something. Sending a handful of words over text is not the devastating waste of energy you seem to believe it is. You are just sensitive to rejection and would rather not risk it, but that doesn't mean OP has to feel the same.
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:10 AM
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Something tells me that if we asked the women who've met you irl, they'd tell a very different story about you than the one you are trying to tell about yourself to other men on this sub. lol
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:08 AM
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Interesting. It seems you've actually taken my critique to heart, because in this new comment, you left out all the insecure/wannabe-macho claims and basically just restated what I initially said. That's great to see!
/r/seduction31/12/21 12:04 AM
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If she doesn't respond well to that text, she just doesn't like you that much and nothing you can do will change that. If she does like you, she'll probably take it pretty well. That's why it's worth sending, if you're not too rejection-sensitive to take that kind of emotional risk. Most of your alarm wrt that text seems to be coming from a deep fear of seeming creepy. A confident, well adjusted person would not be so terrified of turning a girl off that he can't even communicate and has to reso…
/r/seduction30/12/21 08:47 PM
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This is a pretty self-sabotaging mindset. Women aren't mind readers. If he really likes her, it's worth at least expressing what he wants. Some of y'all act like you're so ashamed of having needs, or maybe feeling emasculated by the idea of communicating them, that you'd rather just feel attacked when someone doesn't somehow anticipate what you want. You think it makes you seem more alpha or macho or something, but it really just makes you seem super insecure and self-victimizing
/r/seduction30/12/21 08:28 PM
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It really says a lot about this subreddit that no one has suggested this guy do the most basic and obvious steps of 1. communicating his needs and then 2. accepting if she doesn't want the same thing and moving on. And apparently he's been on this sub for a long time and still doesn't know this. Everyone is either encouraging him to feel like a victim or encouraging him to play mind games...it seems obvious she just doesnt like him as much as he wants and he just needs to move on and find someon…
/r/seduction30/12/21 02:12 AM
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Or just end things without acting bitter. Like "hey I don't want to continue this anymore but best wishes" and move on
/r/seduction30/12/21 01:25 AM
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The answer is that if someone doesn't seem that into you, they're not that into you and you need to accept that gracefully & move on. Edit: alternative option, if you feel mentally stable enough to handle rejection, reach out and tell her that your preference is more consistent communication and that you may not be compatible if this isn't something she can see herself doing. At this point you've made it clear what you want, and if you still don't get it, you can move on
/r/seduction30/12/21 12:17 AM
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The unfortunate fact is that most men come with a handful of downsides for the women who date them. If you're trying to choose a partner from a pool of straight men, money can help make that decision. I think that's what "more tolerable" means. Not "women will put up with more," just that if they're gonna be dealing with shit from most potential partners, they might as well choose the one with the most upsides. P.S. Since this is reddit, I feel I should reiterate that I never said all men. But m…
/r/seduction29/12/21 06:06 PM
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Everyone would prefer a partner with as much money as possible. There may be rare exceptions for those with fetishes or extreme political beliefs, or people who are insecure and want to earn more than their partner. But money = the ability to get what you want, basically, and everyone wants that. Also, wealth allows you to become more attractive. Better health, more interesting hobbies, more education, better fashion. So I'd say 100% of human beings are attracted to people with lots of money.
/r/seduction29/12/21 05:51 PM
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At 18-19 you had girls asking if you're old enough to be in the club? If you live in the US at least, they were right, you weren't old enough to be there
/r/seduction27/12/21 04:35 AM
1

I know you are lol
/r/seduction24/12/21 10:17 PM
1

What's your basis for that assumption
/r/seduction24/12/21 12:41 PM
2

She probably was almost perfect for you. But there are billions of people in the world, and so many of them will be perfect for you and like you back. If I could tell my younger self one thing, it would be this: infatuation is easy to find. If it's not working out, move on and you'll find someone who makes you feel the same way AND wants to be with you.
/r/seduction23/12/21 10:05 PM
1

What are you trying to say with this?
/r/seduction23/12/21 06:13 PM
-2

It sounds like you have issues with women and she may be picking up on that, which may be why she wants to end things. Best for you both if you don't try to drag it out
/r/seduction23/12/21 06:06 AM
0

ngl you sound like a bit of a hoe yourself
/r/seduction23/12/21 06:03 AM
4

Get some toys and use your hands, and get your HPV shots ASAP if you haven't yet!
/r/seduction23/12/21 03:31 AM
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The biggest issue is failure to learn others' body language and respond to it appropriately.
/r/seduction19/12/21 11:47 PM
1

Acting needy and trying to impress can be hot if she already thinks you're cute. Boasting and trying to act cool can make almost any man unattractive no matter what he looks like. It sounds like you were just doing it wrong
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:38 AM
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