the-me-an Archive

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2	How to make her want my validation or approval? Quite wholesome. Sometimes life does give some very amazing treats just because.	/r/seduction	02/11/21 07:37 PM
2	My goal is to have my first date by the time I'm 40. I recently heard a good advice. Don't do it for the girls, or the kisses or the sex. That's ultimately icing on the cake, but not the cake itself. What you really want in the end, is the confidence and therefore the freedom to go out there and talk to anyone you want and not be affected anyhow by the outcome. With the right amount of confidence, it's rare that people actually reject you or walk away from you, but the best part is that you will not mind if they do it. This is about self love, but…	/r/seduction	30/10/21 09:05 PM
1	How to be confident when dick size crushes self-esteem? We have to decentralize sex from our dicks. Sex is so much more than that both when it is a casual encounter and even more so when it is an intimate relationship. Size doesn't matter and never will to have a great time in bed, and whoever says it does, doesn't know how to have good sex (if it's a man) or never has had a partner that knows how to have great sex (if it's a gal), which is sad for both cases. Stay confident that whatever you have is enough and practice every little aspect of the exp…	/r/seduction	14/09/21 10:38 PM
1	Where’s the best place to meet high value women? It is natural to come across the type of women you'd like to date if you can combine one of your hobbies, interests or habits with social interaction. In my case, I was just in your place and started going out to plant trees with a reforestation group and sometimes I go out to clean rivers and stuff. There I meet great people, way more compatible with me than most will be if I go to a bar or a party. Worst case scenario you get new friends, even if not a partner.	/r/seduction	10/09/21 07:21 PM
1	What did I do wrong? Not many gals will make the first move. And you really can't afford to not make a move just 'cause you don't want to make her uncomfortable. If you want something you gotta be willing to take risks, in this case that's just making a move and maybe getting a no in exchange, or a yes, but you don't know until you try. At this age these things are quite confusing for both of you anyways, you'll get a hang of it with practice, don't worry.	/r/seduction	05/09/21 03:24 AM
2	If you can't change it... Look guys, this is really an amazing insight I got recently. It is the fear that we might not be good enough, the one that puts us in a mindset that drives us to behave in a way that makes others believe that too. In other words, if you are afraid to fall, you fall 'cause you're afraid. We are tripping over our own foot, and the only way to change it is to break the cycle.	/r/seduction	02/09/21 09:53 PM
2	What is the problem with "just be yourself"? Well, it is not often understood that if you act like somebody you are not, you'll get an incompatible partner. If you are a nice guy that acts like a bad boy, then sure, you might get a number or even get laid but if what you want is emotional connection and intimacy, you can't get it by faking your personality. There are a lot of people who will be attracted to your sincere personality and your own traits, this is not to say your insecurities. These are not part of your real self and that's wh…	/r/seduction	19/08/21 05:24 PM
2	Does she spark something in you, or are you trying to force chemistry for your own validation? Your level of authentic attraction is also crucial for success We are so desperate to find love that we end up faking it in hopes it works out.	/r/seduction	23/07/21 08:59 PM
104	Update ( date with girl from gym) Usually the easier the approach, the better the match. If you find someone genuinely accepts you from the first second, thats a gift. Happy to hear it all went well.	/r/seduction	11/07/21 05:33 PM
3	Does cold approaching ever become easier? That's actually quite bad but would definetly make me laugh.	/r/seduction	07/07/21 04:19 AM
5	I did my first cold approach ever! You've inspired me to start trying haha. Thanks for this.	/r/seduction	07/07/21 04:17 AM
2	If you treat someone as if they are on a pedestal, you’re attached to the idea of them, not the actual person. Why would they want to be in relationship with someone who acts nervous and unworthy around them? Thanks for this man. I needed a well structured explanation of this phenomenon. Really helpful.	/r/seduction	06/07/21 11:29 PM
1	Sex won’t make you happy Alright I've already heard too many times I'm more rational than I should be. This just confirms it. Thanks for the advice, makes total sense.	/r/seduction	06/07/21 03:59 PM
1	Sex won’t make you happy So my question is: where did you pull your confidence from? The things that make me confident are just that, my accomplishments and my spiritual work. How did you develop enough confidence that people started gravitating towards you?	/r/seduction	06/07/21 12:49 PM
2	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. Anticipation goes all the way back to even mild sexual jokes and insinuations. It involves anything you do that let's her know in advance what's going to happen and doing it in a way that makes her curious and makes her savour the desire. In that way yeah, it's teasing, just see it as long term gratification teasing and not just "making out before sex" teasing. Whatever is more short term like that I like to call foreplay rather. The more anticipation you build the easier it will be to give her …	/r/seduction	30/06/21 04:23 PM
5	Ugh. Girl curious about my size. Alright dude look, dick size doesn't really matter, I guess you've heard that already. If she things it matters you just gotta prove her wrong. This means that you tease her with the answer, never really give a number cuz it's just that; a number. What matter is how good are you in bed and let me tell you, penetration is not the most important thing, anticipation and foreplay is. If you're good at this then she won't even care your size when it comes to penetration. My ex used to tell me how bef…	/r/seduction	30/06/21 02:18 PM
12	Is it bad I'm only learning game to get laid Just learn to be your true self, this will make you confident and sex will end up coming naturally bc girls like those kinds of boys.	/r/seduction	29/06/21 10:27 PM
47	Is it bad I'm only learning game to get laid It's not bad. Although being a virgin is not actually a bad thing either. It doesn't make you any less of a person. Problem is that the more you want connection just to get laid, the more needy you are, and girls can sense that and is a turn off to most. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't do it for an external motivation (i.e. Getting laid) but rather for an internal motivation (growing and uncovering a version of yourself that is capable of reaching this goal without actually feeling a nee…	/r/seduction	29/06/21 10:25 PM
8	I finally approached her at the gym. OK let's keep the gym scenario. Let's say you go to the gym almost daily. There are people there who go frequently too. Already the fact that you see each other often makes all of you closer than random people on the street, which can also make them more receptive and open to have a casual small talk. If you are able to engage in these sort of talks every now and then they will become even more receptive bc you're no longer a stranger at the gym, you become somewhat familiar. If these people lik…	/r/seduction	29/06/21 02:22 AM
15	I finally approached her at the gym. It doesn't have to be that time consuming. You make presence by saying hi or cracking a joke every now and then. When the time is right(i.e. When you become a known face to her and she's comfortable having you around) you can start a talk and ask her out. Worst that can happen is you're just left with a wider social circle at the gym(she stays an acquaintance) , which is not bad. Best scenario you got yourself a date. But hey, if you don't really want to put in the effort you can go to the club,…	/r/seduction	28/06/21 10:58 PM
3	I finally approached her at the gym. Yeah, social proof is a great deal. Building social circles is usually a great approach.	/r/seduction	28/06/21 10:10 PM
103	I finally approached her at the gym. Well, my advice is, unless you are in a situation in which you might never see the girl again, try to build rapport first before asking for her number. There are places like the club or bar where they're more open to flirt and get to know people with that intention. Places that are familiar to them and go to more frequently they are more in a mentality of comfort and therefore any interaction of that sort will come across as unexpected, threatening. That's why in places like the gym you'd have t…	/r/seduction	28/06/21 05:53 PM
3	Looks matter more than you think Gold diggers are not worth our time either man.	/r/seduction	27/06/21 01:26 PM
15	Looks matter more than you think I think looks matter a lot (it varies from person to person) but that's mainly on a first impression and it is also true that some things matter more, such as social proof and demeanor. This is especially the case if you can manage to output bad boy energy, yet be a good person. There are some girls who are quite superficial, yes, but then again, if all you're looking for in a girl are good looks, don't ask why the type of girl you choose only cares about your appearance.	/r/seduction	27/06/21 01:51 AM
2	I cant lose my virginity even though the oppurtunity is there. Look, size doesn't really matter. Sex is mostly anticipation and iff you know how to build that up, you can even cum in 2 minutes with a small dick and she will be pleased. Just know that you have to make up for it with your cunningulus abilities anticipation and polarity between intimacy/dominance. Look that shit up, study it and you will have all the tools necessary. Also know that you might not cum on your first time, some people can't even get it up because of the nerves so research your met…	/r/seduction	21/06/21 12:11 AM