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I don't want kids so not a problem. I have my own money from investments and my career, so I don't need a provider, only a lover. Again no kids so more freedom. That sounds like a personal problem.
/r/RedPillWomen13/09/17 02:52 AM
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I totally know what you mean and I still struggle with this. I'm 26 so I don't want to dress like an 18 yr old at Coachella or too formal, like office wear. So I try to incorporate one or two trendy items per outfit. So if I'm wearing skinny jeans with loafers and I would also wear a nice choker or use a fringe purse. I also avoid too tight clothing or too much skin. I think having some higher end shoes, sunglasses or handbags can mature an otherwise juvenile outfit if you want to dress casually…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/17 05:41 AM
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I still have a good 10 years left of fertileness but I'm leaning towards no children right now. I don't believe they will make me feel fulfilled or have a purpose and even if I did I don't want to place that expectation on them. I like kids and babies but don't want to raise them. And it's not different when it's your own because I've babysat my blood relatives for years and i still wouldn't want to do it full time.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 12:45 PM
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I think in the US at least it's declining not because of children themselves, it's because of how society now shapes parenthood and stunts growth for kids. This is also to do with being first world, as it's given parents more resources than they know what to do with. Parenthood is now a martyr driven status whereas 50 years ago you had a kid and your world didn't change drastically. Now you have this expectation to exist for your kid 24/7 (helicopter parenting), go out of your way to make sure t…
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/17 12:37 PM
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Getting off hormonal birth control saved my relationship. I had no sex drive, constantly bloated, mood swings, crying a few times a week. I don't know how he put up with me. Now we use condoms and we're happier. I'll probably never go on hormonal BC ever again. One of us will get sterilized at some point (probably me).
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/17 05:09 PM
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That may be true what you're saying for RP men but starting out as a plate or opting for a causal relationship is something that RP women and this subreddit actively discourages. To offer this advice to her is counterintuitive and essentially advocates cock carousel behavior.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 07:40 PM
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It's not. If you haven't already subscribed to r/skincareaddiction you should. Lots of anti aging information.
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/17 01:42 PM
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Well that's way different attitude than what you described. He doesn't sound half bad :) maybe you are need a little too needy at times which happens to me too if I'm being honest and sometimes my boyfriend will be cold about it. Not because he's being mean, he just doesn't have the instinct to react all nurturing-like. Maybe you can find ways to practice self love and care, so that when he's not really into tending you, you can tend to yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 06:04 PM
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A good man will have both alpha and beta traits. He's too alpha for a relationship. I think any man in a relationship will agree. He's too alpha to cuddle occasionally, too alpha to simply say "I miss you too," too alpha to have patience. It's one thing to not be affectionate but he's being rude. What does he do to show love or appreciation to you?
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/17 02:54 PM
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If he's aware of the problem and working on it, I don't see this being long term issue. Men who are ambitious and want money will find a way. Case in point: my ex is still poor and living with his mom cause he has no drive or ambition. After years of being poor, my current boyfriend is on track to out earn me (the breadwinner in the relationship) because he kept hunting for better paying jobs. Also just want to add that money won't love you back and be there by your side. When people are close t…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 09:33 PM
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I only wish I felt different so I could fit in more. But I do like kids so I don't feel like a total outsider to parents. Choosing not to have kids doesn't make you a bitch or selfish, it's just a different path you take. Remember that there is a lot of parents who are actually selfish and cold hearted, so they are like that even with kids. There are plenty of other callings you can take to care or nurture people.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/17 12:54 PM
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I'm also on the fence at 26 and in this day and age it's not too late to know. A lot of people I know started having kids in their early 30s. Myself I'm leaning towards no because I truly believe you are taking huge risk if you're not 100% excited to have a kid. To me it's more of burden/chore than rewarding I guess. In my big family I've taken care of so many kids at their worst all the romanticizing of having children is gone. The happy moments are few and far in between and it's more of a dut…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 10:50 PM
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This is why I don't want to even bother with self defense classes. I will never be stronger than man's grip. My boyfriend can pin me down with just one arm and he's not exceptionally strong. At some point I'm getting a concealed carry license.
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 03:08 PM
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Maybe then that woman and most woman shouldn't put so much weight on marriage and just be grateful they have a monogamous partner in life. If my boyfriend never wanted to get married but still committed to me I would dumb to walk away for that. You don't have to be legally binded to be a life partner. Just my 2 cents. Edit: here's a real story to prove my point. Friend of a friend walked away from an 11 year relationship because he didn't want to get married. Now she's single in her thirties and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 09:18 PM
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Okay I get that. Maybe some people want that spark - it sounds nice, but I like the slow burn of living together more than the spark.
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/17 10:30 AM
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I don't understand where this idea comes from. Im not married yet, we enjoy each other's company enough, we are happier living together than apart - what exactly is the problem? Edit: maybe it's just my view point of marriage is that's it's not holy. It's a binding legal contract and rewards us tax benefits and other perks, like certain rights. Since I've moved in with him I've treated him as a wife but a wife doesn't mean you have to be married. Acting like one is good enough for me and my boyf…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/17 08:46 PM
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My boyfriend couldn't be further away from the player type but I'd marry him on the spot if he asked me to and we've been together for over two years. I have a passion for him I never felt with my ex boyfriend who I was with for 5 years! It's not the time that's the issue. It's the desire and the passion. It's either there or it's not. I felt the exact same way with my ex that you feel now and I left. I grieved and I felt so guilty but you have zero obligation to stay in a relationship when you'…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/17 01:45 PM
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I never could because of maturity. I've just always been a few years ahead of people my age. So much so that even strangers would find out my age and assume I'm older by how I carry myself.
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/17 11:20 AM
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Because when someone sees the word "red pill" they think of the TRP subreddit. That was my first impression of this subreddit. I thought it was just like that at first. Most people don't care to critically think about things anymore.
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 12:44 PM
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Don't you at least want to be able to support yourself? You seem to assume that getting a bachelors means your first job is some high powered job with an 80 hour work week. Trust me it will be far from it. I work in digital marketing that was not the case for me, but I found good jobs that were standard 40 hours a week and a big factor in getting those jobs was because I had my bachelors and internship experience. So get the bachelors, get internship experience so you're desirable to employers, …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/17 08:23 PM
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Also agree you're dating way too young. Do not date men younger than 25/26. They want to play and not commit. I know this from experience dating online. Also do not have sex until you get a verbal agreement to be exclusive. However long it takes. If the guy likes you enough he will wait (within reason though. Don't hold out for more than 2 months).
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 03:42 PM
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Didn't read post and made ignorant red pill comment. Start your engines.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/17 03:39 PM
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I manage our shared expenses and make sure bills are paid and so is rent. I coordinate all logistics for our travels and keep ourselves on a budget. I'm also the bread winner in terms of salary and often pay upfront for large purchases because I can (although this will change since I will be a part time student soon). I drive more for us because he drives a lot for work and we don't want his car mileage to go over his lease terms. I will fix things if I can but I often just replace things if the…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/17 04:36 PM
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Makes no sense that she's an equalist and yet doesn't think healthcare should be equalist, meaning equal care regardless of things you cannot control (like your sex or pre existing conditions). Edit: I just want to add that it's obviously okay to have conservative views on healthcare in the US but don't give some bs answer on that people need to work. If she said that it would collapse an entire industry, if it would bloat our government spending, if it would reduce quality care, those are valid…
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/17 04:04 PM
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If your friends also experience it then it's probably location. LA is similar to where I live - Miami. Miami is incredibly superficial, full of gold digging women and player men who just want to get laid. It's very very hard to find someone who won't use you - male or female. If you're really serious about finding someone, you could move to a less metropolitan area in Southern California. Maybe an area with more professionals/students and less actors/models, etc. I know it's not as exciting as L…
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/17 03:31 PM
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The 2nd point is very important to internalize. No one is going to be universally attractive. It's just impossible. One of my friends is very much into achieving beauty ideals and when she got rejected by a guy for the first time in her life she was shocked and felt bad about herself. I thought it was silly to feel that way considering she's already attractive.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 01:24 PM
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Hated it most of the time. I'm shy, very introverted. Most of the men were nice and sweet, but the whole process is anxiety inducing. Wondering if you like them as much as they like you, making sure you don't come off as weird or clingy. I love being in a relationship over being single hands down.
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/17 01:08 PM
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I get it where you're coming from. I mean those tactics are meant to do that, and I see the appeal to you because it strokes your ego, but we both know what the end goal is for men that use them and it's not looking for a long term partner. So proceed with caution.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 11:28 PM
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Yeah we're supposed to see through this BS not fall for it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 04:31 PM
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I don't know why you'd go for these guys anyway. We're advised to AVOID men that use TRP tactics like negging and dread, not get with them. They want the easy lay and if you fall for it, congratulations - they won by plating you.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 04:31 PM
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The thing is that your actions will have consequences. Do we care if you end up getting a high n-count and remaining single and unattached during your 20s? No. But it's true that as you get older, it becomes a lot harder for women to find a successful, well-adjusted man that is single and won't care about your lack of relationship experience and your promiscuity. If men didn't care about this, RPW wouldn't exist in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 11:28 AM
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I'm an ISFJ. Apparently those are the most common :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/17 04:40 AM
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Because a married man signifies that he's capable of being a good partner/provider. It's social proof.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 09:03 PM
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I'm more of a fencesitter for having kids but it's nice to see some childfree ladies in here.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 08:19 PM
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Here's the thing. I don't think it's always possible, HOWEVER, if it's the wife that has a male best friend that is single, I'm more inclined to think she's less likely to cheat than the husband with a best girlfriend who is single. A single woman wants a married man, but married woman doesn't want a single man. Also my two best friends who saw each other as bro and sis are now in a relationship. Albeit a toxic one but regardless fell for each other after 8 years of platonic friendship.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 08:14 PM
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Love all the men telling her to get to 120. She's gonna look like Skeletor. OP shoot for 135 and make sure you focus on putting on some muscle while you lose weight. Don't get super thin like I did. I had a guy make fun of me for being super thin at 5'7" and 120. Countless people told me to eat more. Ever since I got between 135-145 I never get negative responses. I just look normal and healthy.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 08:05 PM
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I'm 5'7" and I looked gaunt at 125. Way too thin. Granted my hips and shoulders are about 40" wide so that may have had some effect. I'm 145 and look much healthier but I've added more muscle. No one would consider me chubby.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 07:59 PM
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There was a recent thread in r/nursing that said how marrying a doctor as a nurse is rare. Doctors are wary of gold digging nurses and more often than not these doctors are marrying women at their same income level or the woman they were with before becoming a doctor. The only exceptions were nurses who were very attractive and the doctors were pretty unattractive. So best case scenario she's marrying a rich, unattractive doctor.
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/17 04:46 PM
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Never said it doesn't, but I generally don't listen to indie hip hop.
/r/RedPillWomen14/03/17 07:27 PM
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Even if he is genuine in his feelings for you, he said so himself he should be single. I guarantee if he really wanted you, being single wouldn't matter. It's your choice if you want to wait around for him but I personally wouldn't want to be someone's fall back after sleeping around. Unless he just wants to be friends with you and not sleep around, just be single. I would make an exception in that case. I think you should talk to him more but tread carefully.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/17 07:28 PM
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So if he's willing to not let you work and earn more money to get out of the debt hole, he needs a plan for himself out of the debt hole. Having creditors call you and ignoring them is not a plan, waiting for more sales to appear is not a good plan. This has the potential to ruin your finances if left alone. If you can't talk into you having a job, then you need to ask him a plan for tackling the debt once he has money. It's not fair to you that he has the potential alone to ruin your credit (as…
/r/RedPillWomen03/03/17 12:33 PM
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Can you at least be creative and stop posting the same shit over and over again? This the worst trolling I've ever seen and I've been on Reddit for 6 years.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 07:15 PM
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There are couples in the US that will give each other wedding rings and do a religious or secular ceremony but won't sign a marriage certificate.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 10:13 PM
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Trust me, as a democratic socialist that despises the notion of rugged individualism I do really want people to be less selfish and work as a collective whole. But the problem is that when it comes to marriage, it is unfairly stacked against men in the case of a divorce, and I say that as a woman. Maybe if the laws were to be less harsh men would be able to reap some benefit from being married, but for now they don't and they are taking a much bigger risk than any woman getting married. It's not…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 09:38 PM
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Um you'll find that in learning about Red Pill that it's considered not subjective but truth. Maybe you believe truth can be subjective. I don't know why we were created or evolved (no one can answer that question) but I know that men and women will act in ways that are advantageous for themselves, and sometimes that means one party will not be able to get their way.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 08:21 PM
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To further clarify, RPW and TRP strategies will always be inverted. We have opposing goals in mind so therefore either the man or woman would have to succumb to one of them for the other one to succeed.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 07:43 PM
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More importantly than the career is the type of person he is. My former CEO of a tech startup actually married a high school drama teacher when he was running his company - so it's not like it can't happen! He is incredibly nice, smart, driven and is very happy with her years later. If your husband has more narcissistic qualities and is generally shallow or materialistic then that's more likely he'll be willing to "upgrade" in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 07:38 PM
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Yeah it's scary and not uncommon. I remember a post on the TwoXChromosomes subreddit about how a woman supported her husband through med school and residency and in turn he began to criticize how she looks and how much less she was than other doctors' trophy wives. She felt like he was getting ready to have an affair or just divorce and upgrade altogether. This is why I'm likely to stay away from high status men. It's great they have career success but then that translates into wanting more and …
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/17 07:21 PM
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So I have pretty bad road rage and your analogy is pretty spot on about how that can translate into acting out in the relationship. I too have been quick to blow up over a mistake (intentional or not) but a lot of that stems from experiencing a lack of control (which makes me uncomfortable). I know I still have a long way to go in managing this but I think fixing my road rage issues can help. I especially hate when I act that way in front of my boyfriend when I'm driving I get embarrassed but it…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/17 02:14 PM
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I'm sorry to tell you, but his behavior is textbook emotional abuse. The lack of respect for your suggestions, disengaging the relationship and using abandonment to punish you, doesn't care about your feelings, making negative remarks to frighten or control you (e.g. "You'll never find someone like me.") are all signs of this. There may be more he does. I think you should look into this and make a decision whether you want to stay with him. But I hope you leave for your sake.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/17 07:35 PM
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I see how your getting confused between the goals of RPW and RPM. I was at that point too when I first discovered RPW. The thing is that while both follow the truths of red pill, they in practice operate against each other. Both are sexual strategies designed to benefit each sex, So the male sexual strategy (of RPM) is to have sex with as many women as possible with no commitment and/or marriage. The female sexual strategy (of RPW) is to get commitment and/or marriage from a man foremost before …
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/17 06:45 PM
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Lol I'm Irish Catholic too. So it works out for both of us!
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 08:21 PM
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Lol this is why my boyfriend has never been attracted to Jewish girls. They are just like his mom who drives him crazy and he wants a shiksa instead.
/r/TheRedPill13/02/17 07:47 PM
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I guess what stood out to me was the pressure they put on the geishas to be the best hosts and act accordingly. It was not always as glamorous as I thought it would be. It takes a lot of work and discipline. I also loved how it showed the bonds between sisters and female friends can have, and even though Chiyo/Sayuri never saw her sister again, she still cared for her and hoped her life was better despite not leaving with her.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 06:13 PM
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Also you're in college so A LOT of college guys will not be looking for relationship. You could aim for guys that are post college like 23/24+ but not sure where you could find them other than online, maybe at meetups for hobbies that don't have any affiliation with your school. Do not use Tinder. I used it and it was guys looking for sex and that's it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/17 05:31 PM
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Well I met my boyfriend of two years on OK Cupid. He was my first date on that site. I used Tinder too but the number of guys looking for relationships was very low. I know some couples that met on Tinder and became exclusive but it's not common.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 03:10 PM
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Memoirs of a Geisha. It showcases the geisha lifestyle which is has a lot of traditional feminine ways. I haven't seen the movie but I've read the book it's based on.
/r/RedPillWomen12/02/17 03:50 AM
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Well yeah. He won't be a dick about it but I know he's not attracted to overweight women (he's told me that). I know he has standards but I seem to fit them anyway.
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 02:47 AM
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God no. I've begged him to tell me his preferences of hair, clothes, body type and it's always "You look good no matter what because you're you." I know that's nice but for once it'd be nice to know what he actually likes.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 09:33 PM
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Right now I'm in digital marketing for a software company but I'm applying to nursing school this year to get my associates in nursing. Nice to hear you're in a similar position! I think I will be an CNA while I'm in school to get some experience before I graduate.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 09:31 PM
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As much as I wanted a boyfriend in high school I'm glad it didn't happen looking back. I was more focused on my studies and I avoided all the drama that comes with HS relationships that my girlfriends experienced. College is a much better place to date. Guys are more mature and usually universities are so much bigger than high schools so you'll have a much more options.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 02:13 PM
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I'm also taking classes to get into nursing school! I don't think you will have trouble with career goals as long as it doesn't take over your life. Relationships to your man, family, and friends should come first before work - I have to remind myself of this quite often. Work will never love you back.
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/17 12:55 PM
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I am going for me but I've let him know that's it's also for us too. Being in healthcare will offer me more job security and a chance to relocate for both of us. He is supportive and without him I probably wouldn't have tried. He's a risk taker and I am not, and leaving one career for another is a huge risk for me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 06:00 PM
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I'm in early stage of going back to school to get into a healthcare and I'm so not looking forward to having to devote a lot of my time to studying instead of with my boyfriend. He will always come first to me, it just will be hard and I have no idea how to make it better. It's already starting to be an issue since I started taking some pre-req classes.
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 05:03 PM
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I have but it didn't occur from a gender perspective, it was more economical. My boyfriend has had way more financial hardships and employment challenges than I have, and it really opened my eyes to how tough it can be out there for people who want to work and learn and yet companies don't give him a chance or refuse to help him in any way. You really are on your own and there is no such thing as loyalty or job security when it comes to employment. His parents also did a poor job teaching him an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/02/17 11:39 AM
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These are good signs :) Just take it day by day and don't over analyze it much. Men are simple enough to figure out usually, their actions make it clear more than words do.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 07:41 PM
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If I was in your shoes, I would not bring it up because that looks clingy. If you enjoy his company, keep seeing him but tread lightly and focus on his actions over what he says/excuses he has. Does he make plans to see you after a date? Or if not, does he keep you in the loop? Does check in to see how you're doing? I think those are the biggest indicators of relationship interest more than anything. The point of dating is to spend time with each other and get to know each other. Maybe he doesn'…
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 07:12 PM
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It just sheds light on the fact that what men follow in TRP is in opposition to what women follow in RPW. So what is considered successful for RP men (plating, non committing sex) is to the detriment of RP women, and vice versa.
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 06:47 PM
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Men use this TRP tactic of only texting logistics to plate women, not for falling in love. Sounds like he wants to keep you at a distance as much as he can and still get your attention. Edit: wanted to add this quote I saw in TRP "The cardinal rule of sexual strategies: for one's gender to succeed, the other gender must compromise or abandon their own." - Rollo Tomassi
/r/RedPillWomen07/02/17 02:22 PM
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A man will make his intentions clear if he wants to be with you exclusively. So far he hasn't said anything. But what's more telling is that he hasn't ACTED like he wants to be your boyfriend. Flirting with other girls in front of you is not the behavior of a guy that wants you and only you. I would cut it off now and find a guy who actually wants to be with you, otherwise you are wasting time. And as a woman we don't have time on our side to find a quality partner.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/17 02:18 PM
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Zumba is a great workout as well. It's salsa dancing mixed with aerobics. You'll feel a bit awkward the first couple times you do it but soon enough you'll see the same steps and routines getting used and you'll be able to keep up with the class.
/r/RedPillWomen03/02/17 02:03 PM
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So I graduated with an English degree in 2012 and now have a successful marketing career making 60k at 25. I wasn't always making that much money, I had to job hop, but I'm telling you it's possible and you're going to have to take some grunt, shitty paying jobs in marketing to get there. My first full time marketing job after college at 21 came from an internship I was doing in college and I was getting paid like $30k a year. The next was at a startup company getting 36k, then another marketing…
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 07:20 PM
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Same story for me too! I was 23 and dated a guy who was 32, but he was incredibly immature for a man in his 30s. My current SO is two years older than me and is much more mature and wise for his age.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 03:03 PM
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Hey sorry to be weird but I lurk TRP but they downvote like any woman who posts in there, even if your advice is sufficient. So don't take it personally. I don't get how RP men can comment in here and yet when a woman does it in TRP they are not welcome. I'm starting to really dislike that sub and 90% of the users there. Bunch of sad angry men and whiners.
/r/RedPillWomen02/02/17 03:26 AM
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Your attention seeking habits and anxiety history sounds like my best friend, and she was diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder a few years ago. Maybe something to look into, if only to rule it out.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 10:22 PM
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All I see in this thread are insecure men that are SHOCKED and ANGRY that an attractive woman is attracted to an attractive men. Wtf do you expect? It's ridiculous.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/17 08:56 PM
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R/xxfitness
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 03:45 PM
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Definitely getting my hair dyed, shampooed and blown out. I would get my hair blown out everyday if I had the time and $$.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/17 03:24 PM
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All this insecurity on this subreddit is just inducing my own insecurity. Y'all need to stop for your own good (and mine lol).
/r/RedPillWomen30/01/17 12:49 PM
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Because of his immaturity, he might not even know how hurtful and negative he sounds. But yes, it's not right for him to do it and she can always say something to him to point it out.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 04:23 PM
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Yes I agree with a couple people here that you should not take his porn fantasies seriously and try to mold yourself into that. They are exactly that (fantasies) and don't have a basis on what he can find attractive about you in real world. That doesn't mean you can't strive to improve yourself how you see fit. By all means go to the gym, do those squats, watch your diet, that's all healthy. What's unhealthy is striving to meet unrealistic standards because of what he jerks off too. There's ALWA…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 04:09 PM
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Like you I didn't realize it until coming here that I've pretty much been an RPW since I was ready to date and have relationships - even though I didn't know what RPW was at the time. I hated being single as a teenager and in my early 20s when I was single and casually dating FWBs for a few months, I didn't find much enjoyment from despite what I was told by my peers and most women on Reddit that it was liberating and freeing. It wasn't for me. It was me wasting time for something I really value…
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/17 03:58 PM
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And the fact that some women don't go clubbing or are even remotely interested in that lifestyle.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/17 03:23 PM
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I think you'll truly know when you meet an alpha type man. If he responds positively to you, you're attractive (for your age).
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 01:05 AM
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Indirect dread. I like it.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/17 12:43 AM
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It definitely is and I think it would help to treat finding friends as seriously as finding a captain. You still have to have certain standards and vet them as such.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 11:09 PM
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I hope you do find a good female friend, because they can add a lot of fun, care, support in your life. My female best friends are sisters to me, and we respect each other as such by not doing petty shit like hitting on each other's SO. It could be that you happen to make friends with immature or blue pill women. I do hang out with male friends occasionally but I will never be as close to them as my female ones.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 10:24 PM
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I'm a natural dark blonde (but I do get some medium highlights to lighten it up) but I haven't nearly gotten much attention for being blonde compared to being a red head. Because I'm pale I was able to pull off a copper red and I got way more looks from men and way more compliments from women. When I went back to blonde that all ceased!
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/17 10:08 PM
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If you've lost respect for him it's too late. You will never get it back and he will never change from your actions. He has to be the one to change, and frankly, how long are you willing to wait? I had a ex boyfriend similar to yours. We dated in college for 4 years and I left him about a year after I moved in with him. It was only after I lived with him I saw his true colors. He was my first love and I cared about him so much, but despite that, his laziness, untreated depression, and lack of am…
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/17 06:08 PM
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You're right, I put it lightly. I'm just making the point that it will probably not ever escape hip hop no matter how critically acclaimed an artist may be. I am actually a woman :) and yes my reaction to hip hop isn't a typical female response and I've listened to a lot of mainstream hip hop and maybe I'm just desensitized to it.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 12:09 AM
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There's hip hop that isn't misogynistic and vulgar. Someone in thread mentioned a few that I also would vouch for. As much as I would like some reform in that regard, I just don't see that community ever being 100% feminist. Even Biggie and Tupac, two of the most influential rappers who's music was critical about racial issues and classism, had their moments of calling women hoes and devaluing them as objects.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 09:05 PM
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I mostly listen to indie electronic and indie rock music, which would fit your not offensive lyrics criteria. And as for hip hop I do listen to, 90% of it I don't take seriously at all. It's just fun beats and rapping. The other 10% is more serious /message oriented, like Kendrick Lamar (although he still uses profanity and grew up in Compton, so he's not perfect).
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/17 05:13 PM
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It's really not. You're going to have to vet better because religious beliefs are not the only sole indicator of low n-count. But hey if you want to fake it for the rest of your life that's on you.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/17 07:25 PM
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I was awkward looking and incredibly shy which resulted in almost no male attention. One guy had a crush and me and asked me to a dance and I went but it didn't go anywhere cause I wasn't interested. It wasn't until my senior year that a guy finally kissed me and wanted to have sex with me. And after that I got male attention a little bit more. But it wasn't until 23 when I broke up with my long term BF from college that I got a ton of male attention. That to me was my peak. Now I have a long te…
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/17 04:29 PM
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Really depends on the guy when it comes to yoga. My former CEO is ex military, does marathons, and is an avid "yogi."
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/16 02:20 PM
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Tell him beggars can't be choosers.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 11:48 PM
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I read it. Thank you for clarifying!
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 02:31 PM
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Okay thank you for explaining. If that is the case than it seems like RPW caters to a specific group of men and not TRP by default.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 11:26 AM
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I'm not debating you though. I don't have anything to argue. I genuinely just want to know why TRP and RPW aren't aligned and don't work with each other, because as a newcomer it's been very confusing.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 11:24 AM
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I'm curious as well. You seem to post here a lot and yet you won't answer a simple question.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:31 AM
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I feel exactly the same way. It's been so fucking confusing reading a ton of TRP and RPW while both don't acknowledge each other and pretty much put each other down. I don't understand how this sub is considered "red pill" at all.
/r/RedPillWomen22/12/16 03:28 AM
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Yeah I'm currently in the same predicament. Be sure your motivation doesn't turn into nagging cause mine did and it backfired on me. Then he just got mad at me and I failed my mission. Edit: Thinking about it more, I do agree with another commenter that you should let it go and focus inward on yourself. You can't control or change him, and it's not your place to do so. The change has to come within himself. What I'm going to do is focus on achieving and being my best, happy self and it might ins…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 04:08 PM
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I'm not a raging hippie love liberal. What drew me to RP was my affinity for personal responsibility and sharing your successes with your "tribe." Where that ends with me is that things in the real world aren't that black and white. I believe your successes aren't 100% your doing and your failures aren't 100% your fault. Hence my socialist views.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 04:01 PM
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I realize that. I am new here and learning. Not everything I will agree with, since no relationship will have the same type of people in it. Thank you for your insight.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 03:47 PM
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Fucking with someone behind your back vs. fucking with your money behind your back. Sounds similar to me.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/16 12:56 PM
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Interesting read. It's misguided in that socialism doesn't reward everybody the same regardless of what they contribute while forcing their participation - that would be communism. With socialism, if you want to contribute less or nothing at all, you will not get as much as those who choose to contribute more into the system.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 09:32 PM
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I'm new to TRP but I'm not libertarian or conservative. I will probably never be those things. Just thinking out loud here: does it really matter when it comes to following TRP? Are there any other socialist democrats like me that like the principles of TRP?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 12:30 PM
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What about "trust but verify"? Shouldn't that be applied for major financial decisions as well?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/16 12:26 PM
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