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Unfortunately not. The kids have made their bedrooms theirs, and not sure how i would feel with strangers sleeping in their rooms on the weeks I dont have the kids
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 08:37 PM
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Thanks, divorce is all done and dusted as of last month, I was fairly savvy with most things
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 08:36 PM
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Thanks 👍, I already commute on my bike and go for a jog in the mornings. I am trying to loose the weight I have put on from comfort eating :/
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/26 06:48 PM
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Just remember to sign out with 'live, laugh, love'
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/26 08:34 PM
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Thanks dads, appreciate the feedback. Perhaps I am too strict... I have booked in for a new date so hopefully I get to redeem myself
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 07:38 PM
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Im just about to turn 40 and recently divorce (mid 25), from a 19 year relationship. This is the first time in my life where I have to fully do everything in my life, which is great! I did so much of it jn the past but now its just me and every other week with the kids. I use the time alone to do up my house, grow and find myself again. Im not even considering dating right now until I find the true me again and am comfortable. My advise is dont worry about dating, let it grow organically! Spend …
/r/Divorce_Men15/02/26 10:29 PM
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Im sorry to hear you are going through a tough time and hope you find a route to recovery and overcome your PTSD. From an outsider, I think you somewhat over-reacted when she was late home from her night out. Crying and acting all 'me' isnt what a partner needs to come home to at any point. Imagine being out with your mates and getting caught up and being late home, but because you were a few beers in you hadn't realised the time. Then coming home to your GF behaving like that. One, it looks way…
/r/Divorce_Men06/02/26 12:22 PM
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I wanted to crack open a bottle of bubbly, but I ended up playing a solo round of golf after I had finished work.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/26 01:29 PM
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I drink at home, alone. Cant afford bar / pub prices! Its about £5 a pint in a pub, where as I can get 3 pints of the same beer for £5 from the supermarket
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 06:31 PM
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Nicely put and 100% agree. Im 6 months post divorce, i have put on 10kg, drunk a lot of beer and generally not looked after myself. The amount of work I now need to put in to shed that weight and kick those habits is going to be immensely hard and looking back now I think we all wished we had listened to 'that guy' saying what you have done. Being kjnd to yourself doesn't mean being nice, be kind and work out, drink less alcohol, drink more water, watch what you eat and get yourself in good cond…
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 12:31 PM
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Feel free to drop me a direct message if you wanted to talk about anything or get some advice
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 02:14 PM
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I assume you are yet to start dividing assets and go through the divorce process? This will be the hardest part to maintain a level head. I lost so much of what I had worked hard for, my kindness and compassion during the relationship was turned upon me and in the end it became the one thing that turned in to my worst enemy. She took so, so much of our assets as divorce is still so bias to Women. She effectively swanned off without the need to care about finances and I am having to watch every p…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/26 05:30 AM
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I can remember the exact moment I told the kids that our marriage had ended. Similar ages to yours and it was soul destroying. The kids will come round to it and will settle jn to the new norm, but give it time. My oldest (15 now) is still very huggy and she needs that still to cope with what has happened. Regardless of how you feel towards your stbxw, do not show it infrint of the children. Be civil, dont allow any squabbling or taking of sides. Take the high and long road, it is hard to be the…
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 07:31 PM
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In my case , she was done with me. No thought of counselling, no couples therapy, she was just 'done'. I look back at years of our marriage and start to realise she wasn't happy, she either didn't communicate her needs or she became a grey rock. I loved my ex wife until our divorce was finalised, hell I still have feelings for her now. Do I wish we could be together now?, the answer is no to that. Do I wish I could move on quicker, the answer is yes to that! Any man in this situation thinking he…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 12:11 AM
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You are 28, you have spent a period of your adult life with her. From my POV its better not than in another 10 years when you have more money pit away in the house and children. My advice to you is put it behind you, move to a new ish location if you can, make new friends and meet new people, you are sub 30 and therefore lots of dating availability and, as you are an adult, go and do things YOU want to do now that you can afford it. Not wanting to down play your position, but put yourself in min…
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 08:01 PM
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Unfortunately those outside the US cannot view your profile, are you able to share screenshots? Since my divorce i have spent the last 15 months wallowing, I put everything in to my past life and it sucks to see it just vanish. However it dawned on me when working out the other day that, thats shits in the past and no bitching will improve what has happened. Its all about moving forward, getting in shape and enjoying life now matter what that looks like.
/r/Divorce_Men08/12/25 08:16 AM
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Im not in the USA. Im in the UK. These parenting plans dont exist here. We share the children's time 55/45 (lower amount with me because of work) so I get the children every other week
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/25 06:58 AM
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Recently divorced and happy to help advise if needed.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 10:01 PM
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Well done fella, 3 years sober is incredible. Absolute inspiration! Do everything for your son and be there for him. Sounds like you have your Sh*t together and very well done 👏
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 09:11 PM
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Definitely hang in there mate. Many men are here, dont be like me and sit here drowing your sorrows in beer.
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 08:59 PM
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Sorry to hear this fella! My ex wife certainly got a smashing deal from our divorce. She gets to live in the marital home for another 6 years rent free (she pays the utility bills) and walks away with 60 % of the family wealth.. all for popping two children out and not being able to find a decent job
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/25 07:44 PM
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We lived frugally, as the sole earner i focused on paying off our mortgage and did so by 37. Our house was lovely and well kept, she had a reliable car and so did I. We still went abroad every other year. We had our relationship challenges but nothing that I would consider deal breaking. However social media enticed her in to another lifestyle. She started idolising the 'free life' of wanting a VW T5 camper and touring around... but she wanted it now. Everything started to become impulse purchas…
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/25 09:33 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Bench press bench, sit up bench and pull up bar purchased. Aim is to wake up like I have this morning at 5:15 and get 30 - 40 minutes of arms, shoulders and abs training in. Thanks for the dumbell workouts too.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/25 04:19 AM
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Im starting to realise I have to be far smarter with what goes in my mouth now. Lunches are now healthy, boiled eggs, asparagus, cut up veg, with some hummus, maybe some cold pasta or rice. Dinners are generally chicken breast in some herbs cooked in the air fryer without oil, vegetables, homemade curries etc.
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 09:23 PM
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Thanks, but when I do i end up subconsciously biting my nails again ...
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 09:20 PM
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When my wife said she was through with our relationship and 'emotionally checked out' I was still madly in love with her as I had been for the prior 19 year. She was my everything and I had sacrificed so much for her and our children. As the weeks and months since divorce have gone by, and i see her every week as we drop the children at each other's houses, she gets uglier and uglier. I have noticed how she has a neck similar to those people in bobs burgers (a tv animation series), she has had m…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/25 08:24 PM
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I am now officially divorced. From applying for final order to getting the paperwork was sub 5 hours. Applied at 9am on the day and by 2pm we let received a letter from the courts
/r/Divorce_Men12/07/25 07:20 AM
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100% hear your challenges and do drop me a dm if you want my number for advise. My recommendation is to fight for what you are worth. However, do balance out the cost of the fight vs the return. I have lost a lot now, and I will still be financially crippled for the next 15 years, however I have planned to pay my £310k mortgage off in that time... When the time comes and in 10-15 years time I will be financially better off without her. The wife, despite having a good job, was spending her wage p…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 09:19 PM
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Hi @influenceintrepid564. To cut a long story short, I got bent over a barrel (in my eyes). Let's be clear from the off... divorce is not 'fair' and it basically screws over one party...normally the male. We came to an agreement that: 1) she stays in the family home until the youngest is 18 2) the family home is sold and I get a measly 41% of the net value 3) I have to pay £400pm in child maintenance for the next 4 years, then £200pm for the following 2 years .. despite the fact we split the kid…
/r/Divorce_Men07/05/25 08:33 PM
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Yes we worked with a solicitor to make things formal. Wasn't cheap but it was in comparison to the financial penalty of being married to a woman
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 08:34 PM
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Quite a varied amount in this thread... I guess it depends on situation and complexity of the divorce. I (39m) and getting divorced from my wife (37f), we have 2 children, own our family house and are amicable which has helped the most. Also based in the UK. Divorce application submission 29/10/24 Court date: 04/04/25 Hoping to have all paperwork in place to get it finalised and concluded in April 25. So 6 months ish
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 06:55 AM
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This is why I hate 'influencers'. They make this shit because either they are bitter or they are married to a man they know they can manipulate to get what they want only.
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/25 10:09 PM
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Thanks, if a relationship happens then that's great and good decision to not get married.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 10:29 PM
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That because they either Interrupt us, don't listen or won't stop talking 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 10:24 PM
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Sorry to hear your trauma, women are brilliant archaeologists... Digging up our mistakes from the past to use it against us when it best fits..
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 10:21 PM
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100% They don't consider the immense phone binging and unhealthy influencers to be a factor.
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 10:18 PM
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I am definitely going to get the snip. I'm almost 40 and not sure I could handle raising a new born!
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 07:40 PM
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Genuine question, do you want another relationship? I'm 8-10 weeks away from a finalised divorce and I actually want to enjoy my own personal tiem and freedom when she has the kids. Having another relationship will get in the way of that. Saying that we have been together for 20 years so it will be a weird change
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 07:23 PM
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I would put my divorce by the 'women are empowered to be free'. I have broken myself providing for my family, she can't control her spending as its on impulse YouTube, Facebook, ticktock and other influcer crap. She is more about the here and now and will benefit hugely from our divorce as she has only has a job to fund her lifestyle and not the family's living standards
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/25 07:00 PM
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So many things ring close to what has occurred in my marriage. She ended up saying she wanted a divorce after I challenged her overspending habits and she heard me on the phone to my sister asking for advice on how to handle the situation. You know what, I was a little insensitive, but I really don't care. I know she's going to financially cripple me, but I would rather be poor, happy and single with my kids than poor, unhappy and 'married' with no sex or relationship at home.
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 01:00 PM
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Our vacation issues differed a little but I worked my arse off to take her and the family to somewhere hot each year (Greece, Spain, Turkey, Florida). Yet when we went she only wanted to relax by the pool or sit on the beach. Meanwhile the kids and I wanted to go and explore the area, look at ruins, snorkel and have experiences. We went to Greece early in the year last year and she complained it just wasn't warm enough (low to mid 20c) for the entire time and yes whilst it wasn't super hot, it w…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/24 07:28 AM
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I'm going through Divorce now, I think by June it will be finalised. I will be: 1) finding a new place to call home 2) doing the best I can on a shoe string budget 3) hopefully have enough room for my indoor turbo trainer, weights bench and driving rig to be permanently set up 4) not watch tv 5) spend the time I have with the kids making memories 6) showing them that you don't have to spend £1k on material things to be happy (like their mother does). 7) teach them life skills and ensure that whe…
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 07:13 PM
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Has my wife been talking to yours? 3,4&5 are bang on the buck here too. Good luck!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 07:06 PM
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Good luck and hope you don't get rinsed!
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 03:40 PM
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At the kids current age they don't need seperate bedrooms, however when they get in to their teens they will need their own rooms. Are you UK, USA or somewhere else?
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/24 08:41 PM
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My wife's ring is £1800.. To be honest she can shove it up her arse. Im sure she will pawn it at some point as she's hopeless with money and will spend it in a week
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/24 10:46 PM
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This is my view too. If I didn't have kids, I would remortgaged and bought the wife's share of the house, and then said TTFN! Unfortunately kids are involved, looks liek wife will keep the house and I need to re-mortgage myself up to my eyeballs to find a place I can stay that will also allow my kids to stay with me too
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 10:45 AM
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Sound tough fella. I am / was in a similar situation and we have agreed to seperate. Kids were obviously distraught from the news but seem to be handling fairly well ( olny day +4) since we told them. I would rather be single and sexless living on my own that stuck in a marriage that it soul / loveless. I want to enjoy my life again and at home it's not possible right now due the fact I'm constantly trying to tiptoe around the wife and pretend to the kids we were happy. I'm in the UK and the mai…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/24 05:56 AM
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Yep happened to mee too, the wife said she wanted space, 5 months later.... Boom I want a divorce
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/24 09:56 AM
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Thanks, it's rather sh*t, I respect my wife and appreciate her reason. Neither of us are perfect, however my imperfections were too much for her
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 12:28 PM
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Thanks again for your time to respond. I don't think it will be a surprise to our 13 year old, but will be for the 11 year old. Just trying to find a way to be as sympathetic as possible as it's a big event
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 12:20 PM
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Thank you Did you sit down with them and tell them or did you make it less formal and discuss whilst watching TV? Part of me doesn't want this to be a 'big thing'. Life will continue on and both parents will still love and care for them
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/24 12:13 PM
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Thanks! Relationship is not toxic, just broken down unfortunately. My wife didn't want to try marriage counselling as she just doesn't love me like she used to. We have both grown a lot in the 18 years together and unfortunately not in the same direction. Thanks for your points above, we have sorted most of the things out already, we are now working on finance seperation. Just need to agree when to tell them. I want to say As soon as possible so we can demonstrate being civil and having a normal…
/r/Divorce_Men05/11/24 10:17 PM
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What country are you in as laws vary
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 06:48 PM
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Similar ish boat... Was told 5 months ago she hasn't loved me for 10 years... We have been married 12. Have two kids, 13 and 11. I filed for divorce last week and it's going to be a hard road. But I have never lived alone.. Was with my parents until 13 years ago when our first child forced my hand to move out and buy my (our) own place.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/24 04:18 PM
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Can you tangibly demonstrate that your career has suffered due to the relationship? Without kids I do find this hard to justify unless you flew around the world supporting her job. With moving a few times, can you demonstrate that you missed out on a promotion or could not settle long enough to go for the next job up?
/r/Divorce_Men26/10/24 09:06 PM
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Funnily enough I actually want the more of the childrens time. But I thinks she's not liking that idea, so we a are looking at a either a 5, 5, 2, 2 or a 7, 7 split. Challenging issue for her will be location of new house with respect to the kids schools. I want to buy her out of our current house and continue to live here. She is on a super low part time wage. So she really needs to buck up her ideas and get a full time job. I'm at senior manager level and my work will give me all the flexibili…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/24 04:38 AM
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