the_spiraline Archive

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6	My partner doesn't acknowledge how hard I'm trying “He has straight up said things like, "Why is this taking so long? I would have had this done by now.’” So why isn’t he doing it then? You’re working full-time, AND doing the housework, AND managing major house projects like AC repair and yard work (i.e. traditionally male jobs.) So you’re a breadwinner, a housewife and a home repair expert (so trad and red pill! Not!) Yet you mention nowhere what HE is bringing to this relationship. Is he working more hours than you? Contributing way more finan…	/r/RedPillWomen	21/08/21 09:52 PM
2	I'm not getting married I don’t live in the United States, you’re projecting everywhere. There are many countries where the risk is equal or the woman has the worse deal.	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/21 09:28 PM
1	I'm not getting married You realize different countries all have different family laws, correct?	/r/RedPillWomen	08/08/21 09:24 PM
8	Do I need to submit more? Or are my concerns more than just paranoia? You shouldn’t be “submitting” to any man who isn’t your husband, let alone one who doesn’t even want to be your boyfriend. I’m going to be the harsh one here and say “I’ll let you know” is a pretty clear sign he’s either a) a poor communicator or b) not that into you. If he was, he’d be more concerned about losing you and communicate something like “I’m busy/exhausted from work/etc. but I want to see you soon, let’s check back in a few days.” I suggest backing off and letting him come to you. If…	/r/RedPillWomen	05/08/21 08:44 PM
1	How do you deal with the feeling of " but I deserve better" when it comes to settling down with a man? Ask yourself what you feel you “deserve”, why you assume it’s better than what you have now, and whether it’s realistic to achieve it. The answer lies in self-study.	/r/RedPillWomen	20/07/21 03:35 PM
2	Wat do you gals think of Radha Submissive Wife happy Life Michaels? I have a Ph.D. and a career, I’ve been happily married for 12 years and my husband has no intention of leaving me, but thanks for your unsolicited and unwanted advice.	/r/RedPillWomen	22/05/21 10:30 PM
1	Crushed on a colleague, told her my feelings after months hiding them and it seems like the feelings are reciprocal. BUT, she is 33 yo and i'm 28 yo. This goes against normal social conventions but most importantly against the good amount of sectarian RP stuff. I need some perspective. Oof. I'd strongly suggest making more progress in therapy before starting a relationship with this woman. You are projecting some incredibly toxic, demeaning generalizations on her that will most likely leak through in your interactions with her and push her away. A 5-year age gap wouldn't bother me as a woman, but committing to a man who thinks like you do would be HIGHLY disturbing. If she's really as great as you say, she deserves better than what you're currently bringing to the table. And I…	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/21 03:38 AM
1	I feel completely disillusioned with society. What happens now? To be honest I think you are hiding from your mental health diagnoses. What would change if you accepted the possibility they might be true? Would you be able to forgive yourself for losing/straining the connections you valued? Would you be able to heal better with or without accepting the possibility that you need the help you are receiving?	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/21 02:54 AM
1	Thoughts on this? Strong grifter vibes tbh. But if people are subscribing to her Patreon to pay for this stale recycled information, more power to her I guess.	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/21 02:04 AM
2	Wat do you gals think of Radha Submissive Wife happy Life Michaels? So...don't get an education, don't invest anything in yourself, and be totally submissive to a disloyal man who cheats and chases other woman? What exactly is the upside to this situation? And what do you do if your husband leaves you for one of his mistresses and you have nothing of your own to fall back on? And Kevin Samuels is a hateful clown. I saw him screaming about "used up old p***y" and other disgusting things a Christian man who supposedly wants to help women get married would never sa…	/r/RedPillWomen	19/05/21 10:59 PM
11	Domestic Discipline Come on, it's obviously sexual. An adult can easily correct another adult without spanking their bare butt.	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/20 06:25 AM
14	Domestic Discipline "Domestic discipline" is just for religious people who don't want to admit they have a BDSM kink. If you're into it that's fine, but it's not going to be everyone's cup of tea.	/r/RedPillWives	10/12/20 06:23 AM
1	Looking feminine in dark colors I'm also a Deep Winter, and I wouldn't take "one size fits all" advice from femininity YouTubers who (no offense) don't have professional experience in fashion or even great fashion sense themselves. I suggest leaning more into the vampy/femme fatale/"Dark Feminine" archetype, which is very feminine and beautiful while still being darker and more mysterious. Think Dita Von Teese, Megan Fox, Rihanna or Angelina Jolie. You can rock long flowing dresses, lots of black lace, deep-colored florals, re…	/r/RedPillWives	12/11/20 02:10 PM
6	Husband won't live by his own standards I think putting an arbitrary rule in place like "no masturbation" is unfair and impossible for either of you to live up to. I'd be curious to know where he got this belief from. There are times when your sex life will be great, and other times (illness, injury, kids, someone goes out of town etc.) where it won't be and you'll have to either take matters into your own hands or go without. That's just reality, and it shouldn't be an issue unless your masturbation habits are actually interfering wi…	/r/RedPillWives	12/11/20 01:59 PM
3	When do you stop being a bitch? You didn't do something wrong to make those men cheat. They cheated because they're cheaters. I'm sure you're not the first woman they cheated on, or the last. No relationship is perfect, and if there are problems, it's on both parties to work through them like adults or end things honorably. Cheating is a choice. Don't feel bad, feel like you dodged a bullet by learning about their low character now. Lots of women don't find out their man is a cheater until they're married with kids and a joint…	/r/RedPillWives	01/10/20 11:22 PM
11	I'm feeling a sort of (very gradually) growing resentment in my 5 yr relationship and I want to quash it before I do anything drastic. Approaching 30. Not to mention it's profoundly unfair to run out the clock on her childbearing years without a firm commitment. He has all the advantage here.	/r/RedPillWives	10/09/20 05:57 AM
1	I'm feeling a sort of (very gradually) growing resentment in my 5 yr relationship and I want to quash it before I do anything drastic. Approaching 30. Then it's possible he feels like you're upstaging him around his friends or getting more attention than him. It's hard to read someone's mind and it's not your fault either way. I think the bottom line is, the nagging is not working and seems to be adding stress and tension to your relationship. If it's not a dealbreaker for you and you've already made your feelings clear to him, the ball is in his court.	/r/RedPillWives	10/09/20 05:51 AM
2	Baby in bed, no intimacy Oh honey. You MUST sleep train that baby. I'm not saying you "should" stop night nursing or co-sleeping entirely, but you need your nights back! Your husband will need to get involved here. Nurse him until he's good and zonked, and then have daddy rock him and put him down in the crib (which should be in a separate quiet room, ideally with a white noise machine.) If he cries, go and soothe him, but DO NOT bring him back in the bed! Your husband may need to be the chief soother for the first few …	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/20 10:39 PM
5	Baby in bed, no intimacy No, the APA recommends 2 years of breastfeeding. The 6 months is for exclusive breastfeeding (i.e. no solid foods.) 13 months is perfectly fine to still be breastfeeding and "far too long" is a subjective judgment; the ideal weaning age will be different for every child and family. But I do agree they need to sleep train this baby and start cutting back on night nursing so they can get an adult life back. A 13 month old is capable of sleeping alone.	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/20 10:14 PM
12	Is this a good or bad male reaction? Yes, that strikes me as an odd reaction too. Most men who are secure in their relationships would be mildly flattered/amused at most if another woman flirted with them. It's definitely worth asking him what struck a nerve there.	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/20 10:09 PM
2	I'm feeling a sort of (very gradually) growing resentment in my 5 yr relationship and I want to quash it before I do anything drastic. Approaching 30. I know. But if he's a good man and you trust his fidelity and believe in the relationship, this is not a big deal. And by "not putting your eggs in one basket", I don't mean breaking up. I just mean recognizing that you're not married yet, and it's perfectly reasonable to have your own social lives away from each other. Heck, I've been married for 10+ years and I think it's healthy for husbands and wives to have their own social lives too. I don't keep score on whether "wives are included" every…	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/20 09:52 PM
9	I'm feeling a sort of (very gradually) growing resentment in my 5 yr relationship and I want to quash it before I do anything drastic. Approaching 30. Honestly, I am saying this with love but this sounds exhausting. You've already told him how you feel about not being invited to these get-togethers, and he hasn't changed his behavior. He's heard your request for "transparency", and is telling you that he's unable or unwilling to meet your request. Men will often show you through their behavior what they won't say in words because they don't want the conflict. I can't read his mind, but I'm guessing he wants to maintain some boundaries around h…	/r/RedPillWives	09/09/20 08:18 PM
3	Is it wrong to feel this way about my daughter? Pretty weak troll post. I'd give this a 4/10. Obviously a few people fell for it though.	/r/RedPillWomen	15/07/20 09:11 PM
1	I have a question. Do you dress attractive even when you have a boyfriend or do you not because you don't want other men flirting with you? Wow, I never even considered dressing down for doctor appointments. To me that's someone who could potentially see me naked as part of their job duties, so if I felt any type of weird vibe I just wouldn't visit that person again. It's nerve-wracking enough dealing with medical issues without adding any extra concerns. I prefer female doctors in general anyway, maybe that's part of why.	/r/RedPillWomen	12/05/16 01:45 AM
1	I have a question. Do you dress attractive even when you have a boyfriend or do you not because you don't want other men flirting with you? I make an effort to look good. I've always been a fan of fashion and beauty and my husband is proud to have a pretty wife who others admire. I don't think it's a cute look when women land a guy and then let themselves go. And if a man ever tries to flirt I just tell him I'm happily married and not looking to change that, so it's a non-issue.	/r/RedPillWomen	11/05/16 06:44 AM
2	What would a RPW do to feel empowered? I feel empowered by getting involved in community work. I teach free yoga classes in the park, do art projects with local kids, volunteer for neighborhood cleanups and helping the homeless, and share food from my garden with the neighbors. It feels futile to only work on myself because there's always someone younger, hotter, smarter, more accomplished etc. to bring my sense of pride crashing down. Contributing to my community makes me feel like I have a valuable place in the world, which is very…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 08:30 PM
1	Married and struggling with husband (5y) subscribing to red pill philosophy. Looking for experience and advice. Are you sure he's been unhappy all this time? i.e. did he actually say that, or did you just infer it from the conversation? Because if it's the former, swallowing the Red Pill isn't your main problem—dealing with your unhappy marriage is. And that will take more and deeper conversations with him about what's going on than just googling random advice. And if it's the latter, you need to stop putting words in his mouth and bring your questions TO HIM. Is this change coming because he's fundamenta…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 05:41 PM
2	Issues with being a feminine woman. Help? I understand this mentality because I went through it as an adolescent. It's a reaction based in fear. We had a horrible predator in our neighborhood who was raping and killing girls for several years, so my parents were paranoid about how I dressed and where I walked to avoid drawing attention. Add that to early development and a few scary experiences being catcalled or followed as a young girl, and I was deathly afraid of adult men and male sexuality in general. I dealt with it by wearing bagg…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 05:20 PM
3	I've started hating my fellow woman. I think hating women in general makes about as much sense as hating men in general. There are good and bad people in every demographic group, which is why I'm not "Team Anti-Woman" any more than I'm "Team Woman". TRP makes some good points and is a necessary outlet, but some of those guys are locked into toxic mentalities where they blame women for all their problems. Some are just as bad as feminists with their victim playing and generalized bitterness against the opposite gender. That is not t…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 04:53 PM
1	Who grew up in a RedPill household? Yes, very much so although neither of my parents knew what "red pill" was and would probably be horrified by a lot of things about the manosphere. But my dad worked outside of the home and my mom was a homemaker and raised the kids. It was good for me because I got to spend lots of time with her and she taught me many things about cooking, cleaning, sewing, crafting, making beautiful art for the house etc. She was a very creative person and they seemed to have a good and happy marriage. My dad w…	/r/RedPillWomen	09/05/16 04:37 PM
6	Married friends jealousy, anyone experienced this? If this happened once or twice, chalk it up to individual jealousy on the woman's part. Some people just have issues and you can't do much to help them. But if it's "always" happening, especially among your own female friends, you need to take a look at your own behavior. Jealousy is hardly a universal trait among married women, so I'm guessing you may be doing something to trigger all these mate-guarding reactions and you should figure out what it is before it affects your own future relationsh…	/r/RedPillWomen	29/04/16 12:08 AM