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You need to take that within context though. And it's clear to me you're not familiar with domestic violence cases.
/r/MensRights20/09/21 10:22 PM
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The 911 call revealed that the caller reported Brian slapping Gabby. And she turned up dead and he's missing/on the run. You do the math.
/r/MensRights20/09/21 10:13 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2019/sep/05/softboi-what-is-it-instagram-q-and-a https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vice.com/amp/en/article/ywagbg/guide-a-z-what-is-softboi-softboy
/r/seduction18/12/20 01:19 AM
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Lovebombing isn't healthy, regardless of intent.
/r/seduction18/12/20 12:12 AM
1

Regardless of gender it comes down to self-respect, self-awareness, and boundaries.
/r/seduction18/12/20 12:11 AM
1

Don't forget "softbois", real thing. I almost prefer fuckboys over them
/r/seduction18/12/20 12:01 AM
2

Honestly, maybe a professional matchmaker could help. A lot of silicon valley types actually use matchmakers. It honestly makes more sense than apps like Tinder.
/r/seduction05/11/20 10:23 AM
2

To be honest, I met a guy at a festival once who wasn't immediately attractive to me. But we engaged in a really interesting convo and he followed it up with, "I think you're really smart and interesting, and I'd like to get to know you better. Would you be open to going out to get some food?" And it worked for me. Just sharing because honestly he's not someone I would normally look twice at. (Ultimately it didn't work out because he had me on a pedestal)
/r/seduction05/11/20 04:20 AM
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Chin up. 33F here, have been on dates with men of all backgrounds, some very shy and inexperienced, others on the opposite end of the spectrum. You're already taking a big step so be proud of yourself, whatever the outcome may be. If you want it to be a date, ask them on a date. If you want it to be a hangout, then go on a hangout (hanging out means no expectations). Whatever you do, don't be overly self-deprecating and never put your date on a pedestal. The other person needs to impress YOU as …
/r/seduction05/11/20 04:09 AM
2

Also it's only gonna scare off anyone who is immature or doesn't have interest in you. Personally I find it refreshing AF when a guy makes his intentions known up front, but I'm assuming you're in your early 20s?
/r/seduction05/11/20 04:00 AM
3

If the intention is to see if you're potentially romantically compatible, it's a date.
/r/seduction05/11/20 03:59 AM
3

What are your intentions? If a guy asked me to hang out I'd assume it's either platonic or he just wants something very casual.
/r/seduction05/11/20 03:53 AM
1

I have higher standards for hook ups (in terms of appearance) than I do for dating. I just don't want some guy fucking me imagining that I'm 20.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:40 PM
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I'm talking about other Asian men in my experiences, btw. I hooked up with a guy when I was 29 and at one point he was moaning and saying how I looked 20. Creeped me the fuck out. Those 19 year-olds you're dating will know one day how fucked up it is when a guy almost 30 exclusively dates barely out of high schoolers.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:35 PM
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Btw, sexual attraction isn't just driven by biology, a lot of it is socialization. Funny how most of the well-educated and self confident types I know prefer women about the same age as them.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:32 PM
1

Probs not, but sexual consent has been 18 in the US since as long as I can remember So if 17 were legal it'd be 17-22 for you?
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:31 PM
1

"My body, my choice" applies to your body alone, not what you can do with your body in relation to others.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:22 PM
0

You still didn't answer me though, if 17 or 16 or 15 were legal, would it be okay? I'm honestly not okay with 18 year-olds being recruited and shipped off to war either.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:21 PM
0

This sub is full of horny, lonely men with low social skills.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:20 PM
0

Pssst chattel slavery was legal too. Legality doesn't equate to ethical or moral.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:15 PM
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So if 16 was legal it's okay?
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:14 PM
0

16 year olds can chase 30 year-olds and it's still considered statutory rape. 19 is hardly an adult. Onus is still on the 40 year-old.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:11 PM
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Last thing to note: if you look at the relationship or advice subs where the OPs have abusive and controlling partners, often it's of women who were like 19 when they got with their 29 year-old partners. Like 28 and 38 isn't much of a gap as 20 and 30. To say it's the same difference is really disingenuous.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:09 PM
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This is just an anecdote but when I was 30 (3 years ago), I still very could easily pass for early 20s and guys my age LOVED IT. It grossed me out when it was clear that that was a big part of their attraction to me. I mean I was still full figured but baby faced. I'd get hit on by guys anywhere from age 20-45. And they almost always remarked on how much younger I appeared for my age. Honestly many men would hook up with 16 year-olds if it were legal. They just care about legality > ethics.
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:06 PM
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It's because they wanna hook up with 20 year-olds without being labeled a creep. Hit dogs holler. But literally, 20 year-olds are considered late stage adolescents. Prefrontal cortex keeps developing until about 25. Personally I don't consider most people to be "real adults" until about 25 or so. We keep saying that 18 year-olds are adults but the difference between 18 and 17.5 is arbitrary. Like someone isn't suddenly an adult because they turned 18. Most 20 year-olds don't have the same educat…
/r/seduction04/11/20 09:01 PM
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20 is barely an adult, brains literally aren't fully developed by that age. People who are 30+ shouldn't be actively pursuing 20 year-olds, too much of a power imbalance.
/r/seduction04/11/20 07:51 PM
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Nah.
/r/seduction03/11/20 04:11 AM
2

I'm sorry you went through that. I hope in the future that you date people who match your energy, effort, and intentions. But one thing to note: being nice and good should be the bare minimum. I know plenty of women who date "below their league" in terms of looks but they found mates who were witty, funny, confident, mature, assertive, etc. Those are good traits for anyone, regardless of gender or age. Point is that while looks do matter, they only matter to an extent.
/r/seduction02/11/20 06:02 AM
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Aside from obvious lovebombing tactics, it's largely in how they speak about others or different topics. They can slip up without realizing they did. For example, I hate when men put down other women to "compliment" me.
/r/seduction02/11/20 02:52 AM
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Most grown, emotionally mature women most definitely want a genuinely KIND and thoughtful partner. I (33F) don't care about niceness for niceness sake. And yes, many of us can see if you're being nice just to appeal to us. It's a huge turn-off. I want someone who is nice regardless of whether or not they think they can get something from me. Kindness and thoughtfulness are two of the most important traits I seek in a partner. That combined with knowing, understanding, and respecting boundaries.
/r/seduction02/11/20 12:13 AM
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Oh I like being thicc, it's just that during pandemic times it's turned into thicccc lolol. But thank you! Gotta get back on the grind after recovering from a major funk. Miss the gym and barbell though 😭
/r/seduction28/10/20 09:46 PM
3

Bravo for you, love seeing people embrace themselves. Good luck on the workout/health journey!
/r/seduction28/10/20 05:21 PM
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Oof I felt this! I'm like the woman equivalent, strong, likes to lift but also loves food so much lol. Everyone, I mean even nurses, assumes that I'm about 30 lbs lighter than I am. And when I wear leggings it makes me look very curvy but it's a mix of muscles and fat, lot of squish though. Trying to get back on the pre-pandemic routine, we got this!
/r/seduction28/10/20 05:17 PM
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Tangent here, but do you think most men who lift do it primarily for hypertrophy? 33F here, was lifting weights about 3-4x a week with a trainer for 9+ mo until the pandemic hit (not saying I'm pro or anything) but enough to get most fundamentals down plus more. One thing I realized that even very slim looking types can be powerful. So my bias for thick arms kind of dissolved a little. I just appreciate the discipline that goes into the work but I don't get all heart-eyes when I see a jacked typ…
/r/seduction28/10/20 05:13 PM
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33F here... this might work for OP but not for me, not unless me and the guy already have a thing for each other.
/r/seduction27/10/20 05:36 AM
1

Why NOT delete? What's the point of keeping someone around on social media? Access to your personal life is a privilege. I keep all my social media private and retain folks who haven't been toxic.
/r/seduction27/10/20 02:29 AM
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You might get different answers based on age range, cultural background, etc.
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:35 AM
1

Myself, I prefer some mix of muscle and fat, like overall sturdy-looking but not necessarily very chiseled and definitely not into the jacked look. Like between 15-24% bodyfat? like someone who looks decently fit but nothing that would require steroids or strict dieting and 5+ days a week of working out. Most grown women don't really require or care all that much for six packs. One thing for me personally is that I'm into sturdy lower body, I need to someone to have a butt lol.
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:34 AM
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👆👆👆👆👆
/r/seduction26/10/20 03:22 AM
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I think improving social skills overall helps everyone.
/r/seduction23/10/20 08:06 PM
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That the concept of virginity is whack and should be considered outdated. I was trying to show empathy and emotional support to the commenter. Wasn't dismissing or invalidating their experiences of being shamed.
/r/seduction23/10/20 07:13 PM
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You missed my point.
/r/seduction23/10/20 04:49 PM
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Virginity itself is a construct and over-emphasized. 33F here and I didn't do it until I was 25, almost 26. There are pros and cons to waiting but regardless, it shouldn't define you. You are so much more than some arbitrary label.
/r/seduction23/10/20 06:09 AM
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Mistyped.
/r/seduction21/10/20 11:14 PM
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They pretend to care about women with anxiety issues, as if they can even relate to that. Having anxiety is one thing that most people can relate to but being a woman in a straight man's world is different than being an anxious man in a patriarchal society. Different types of vulnerabilities and experiences.
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:57 PM
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It's a disrespectful term.
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:55 PM
1

I honestly thinking making your intentions clear and giving your number first is more of a power move. It indicates both interest and a respect for boundaries and choices.
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:53 PM
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THANK YOU
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:52 PM
1

Btw, I'm both a woman and attracted to women (and men) too. I have so many straight women bemoan to me that they wished I were a man. Pretty sure if I used what I know as a woman* I'd have better game than the average guy. EDIT: woman, not man
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:50 PM
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Do you catch kill and eat women? Women want to have relationships with men who aren’t fuckin predators. Creepy MTE when I read the "fish" comment
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:47 PM
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Sounds like you're not actively listening and inadvertently being self-centered in your interactions with them.
/r/seduction21/10/20 10:45 PM
0

"As it should be" Are we living in the 1940s? Also exchanging IG first and building some rapport and familiarity is different than going up to a stranger and asking for their number. Context is different here.
/r/seduction21/10/20 09:33 PM
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ITT: People that don’t understand context. There is no single solution of always asking for a girls number or just giving her yours. Read the fucking situation and IOIs and gauge her interest. Exactlyyyyy
/r/seduction21/10/20 08:59 PM
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I don't disagree with you. "Normal" or not, it IS common here (U.S.) for randos to demand your time and attention.
/r/seduction21/10/20 08:04 PM
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Your post and some comments give off entitlement mentality.
/r/seduction21/10/20 08:01 PM
2

So... she DID contact you first?
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:59 PM
1

Gross no, this is why so many women put up walls, to avoid THIS.
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:58 PM
0

NO. That is very pushy and intrusive. At that point take the L.
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:57 PM
0

Really depends on culture too. In some cultures (like East Asian ones) you don't go up to strangers and ask for their numbers.
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:55 PM
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It's not inherently disrespectful, context matters. Like if I'm working out at the gym and/or have my headphones on or if we're isolated (no people nearby), please don't approach. If we're both at a bar or music event or some place where meeting new people is encouraged, much more open to it. If you've got skin thick enough to handle cold approach rejections, then go for it. Some may react favorably, some may not. If you offer your number, it's less intrusive for sure. The main fear for women is…
/r/seduction21/10/20 07:26 PM
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"I don't care about actual advice from women, I'm gonna do what I want!" You're right, we're not a monolith. Neither are men but a LOT of men retaliate or handle rejection very poorly. And many/most women have this in the back of our minds when approached by a rando.
/r/seduction21/10/20 06:18 PM
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Lol yes I have and still somewhat do. I hate being asked for my number because I fucking freeze and feel put on the spot. Rather be given the option to text/DM a guy than some rando just cold approach and ask without any context.
/r/seduction21/10/20 06:11 PM
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If people are interested in you and you give them a chance, they will usually take it. If you offer someone your phone number or Instagram first and they don't wanna follow up, there's your answer already.
/r/seduction21/10/20 06:04 PM
3

I like the LPT advice that OP asserts is "terrible" advice.
/r/seduction21/10/20 06:03 PM
12

As a woman, I hate the message of this post. If you give someone a number and they don't text, either they don't want to or they might have crippling social anxiety or something else came up. Regardless you're not entitled to their time or attention anyways. If they don't give you an invitation to be part of their life, don't assert yourself. Most of the time I get asked for my number it stressed me out a little because vast majority of the time I don't want to give it out unless we have at leas…
/r/seduction21/10/20 05:16 PM
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Idk I see unattractive people with terrible personalities who have ton of hookups or one relationship after another. Ultimately it's about what you want, your standards, your values, your humor, etc. I'm a decently attractive woman yet I'm perpetually single (my standards are admittedly a bit high). I know BEAUTIFUL women dating or married to men who would be considered leagues below them by others. Not saying looks don't matter or that "good-looking privilege" doesn't exist, but it's overemphas…
/r/seduction21/10/20 01:05 AM
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Nah, good looks help with getting your foot through the door but doesn't mean much in the long term. I've met handsome men who have no game.
/r/seduction21/10/20 12:46 AM
2

If this is true for you, I want to encourage you to work on developing any existing friendships or relationships with family members - excluding toxic or abusive types. Also a therapist would really help! They can help you untangle all your thoughts and feelings. You can learn better coping mechanisms and learn how to deal with things like cripplimg loneliness.
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:23 AM
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I need to find the study, but I read that a lot of heterosexual men (in their older years) die quickly after their partners pass whereas the reverse isn't true. Because men tend to put all their emotional eggs in their romantic relationship basket instead of spreading them out to include friends and family. Women are socialized from childhood to emotionally invest in their platonic relationships. So even after their partners pass, lot of elderly women live years longer because their emotional su…
/r/seduction15/10/20 04:06 AM
3

You need a therapist and friends. Partners are meant to be a pillar of support but not cure or save you.
/r/seduction15/10/20 03:56 AM
3

But yeah that's why it's insulting when a man shows up looking like he didn't even shower and put on clean clothes. The bar for men are sooooo low in North America.
/r/seduction15/10/20 03:54 AM
2

Idk if I'd be considered very hot (more like I get very aggressively pursued by the guys who are into me, slightly niche as I'm a tall thick E Asian woman), but I'm having the hardest damn time meeting a guy who is emotionally intelligent, grounded, has similar goals and values as me, takes decent care of himself, etc. I swear I'm not looking for anyone 6ft, ripped, rich, etc. Like like average or just above average in looks, not particularly slim nor heavy, has some muscle and fat, good listene…
/r/seduction15/10/20 03:41 AM
4

You think having a gf will "cure" or resolve your insecurities?
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:58 AM
5

Thisssssssss
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:10 AM
2

Yesssss
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:09 AM
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It baffles me when I meet men who barely wash themselves or exercise and they expect to pull women who wear makeup, workout, etc. Like the BASE level of grooming for adult women include: shaving or waxing or lasering armpits, legs, bikini line and/or pubic area, cleansing, toning, moisturizing face, body lotion, cutting and buffing nails, sunblock and foundation or bb cream, mascara, eyeliner, browliner, lip tint. This is like the AVERAGE. Some women do a lot less, many do a lot more. And that's…
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:08 AM
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One of the few comments here that I (as a woman) actually agree with, lol. Even a guy who is like a "6" can appear like an absolute 10 in my eyes if they carry a certain level of genuine self-confidence (but not conceited nor arrogant), have good manners, have some drive, maintain a certain level of hygiene and general self-maintenance, and actually LISTEN to me and try to build a connection to me on a person-to-person level. If I go on a date with a man and I can sense I'm part of his numbers g…
/r/seduction15/10/20 02:04 AM
1

What's the end game though? This works for surface level attraction or to attract people superficially
/r/seduction15/10/20 01:58 AM
0

I'm a grown ass woman and I don't really agree with what a lot of men say here. And I'm not some super insecure cave troll. These men are so misogynistic that they think they have women deciphered but it's only within the framework of viewing women as objects to obtain.
/r/seduction15/10/20 01:57 AM
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Your reply is more yikes. Seems like you chase women who chase rich, good-looking types. Most women I know who are intelligent, good values, overall good personalities, etc are looking for someone who they feel safe with, especially emotionally. Someone who is consistent, a good listener, emotionally available, present, etc.
/r/seduction15/10/20 01:53 AM
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Pretty sure most joggers would get irritated at being interrupted when they got their momentum and flow going.
/r/seduction14/10/20 06:33 AM
2

Pssst, men do this too. People who talk like that want to know if there are others pursuing you, if you're dating or sleeping around, etc.
/r/seduction11/10/20 04:48 PM
2

Boundaries and reciprocity - you cannot form healthy relationships with others without those elements. I'm not saying to nickel and dime or everything has to be tit for tat, but you can tell over time if the relationship is one-sided. And enforce boundaries, always.
/r/seduction10/10/20 08:42 PM
2

Ohhhhh my friend, everyone has their ups and downs. I'm not a man and I don't necessarily have the same struggles as you but trust me, EVERYONE has their own set of challenges. The way to get out of your own head is to stop comparing yourself to others. Stop using what others project to the outside as a metric for your own personal successes or failures. I personally know people that others envy (for their looks, careers, lifestyles, etc.) And so many of them are NOT happy. The happiest folks ar…
/r/seduction10/10/20 08:41 PM
1

Wtf? I'm so sorry, she responded unnecessarily cruely... I've been on both sides of the situation and it ended on much more civil and tactful terms. You didn't deserve that treatment. Anyways at least this clears room for someone better for you. Good luck!
/r/seduction08/10/20 08:52 AM
1

Yessssss, everything you said. I hope more men feel comfortable with sharing their feelings with each other and holding space for each other.
/r/seduction07/10/20 06:21 AM
3

If women friendzone you it's because they don't see you as partner material and that isn't due to emotional vulnerability. Being emotional =/= emotional intelligence or vulnerability. Like if you just unload trauma onto someone without giving them a heads up, that's not about building emotional intimacy.
/r/seduction07/10/20 06:20 AM
3

She gave you her answer already.
/r/seduction07/10/20 06:07 AM
1

Lol k sure. Still sounds creepy. And I'm no prude.
/r/seduction07/10/20 05:41 AM
1

From a woman's POV, everything you say just screams "I like to push boundaries"
/r/seduction07/10/20 05:24 AM
21

Yes! Everyone has their own journey and pace. I'm (33F), quite a late bloomer myself (even though people always assumed I was dating around since I was a teen). The most important thing too: BOUNDARIES! Establish them, enforce them, respect them. And match energy with folks. I hate seeing sweet guys stepped all over and then turning jaded. If you make an earnest effort and it doesn't work out, cut your losses quickly, learn from the experience and move on. It's really just a matter of time + bei…
/r/seduction07/10/20 03:49 AM
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Yayyy, good luck on your journey! Dazzle the women! Good hygiene, fresh clothes, natural smile, consistent communication, and genuine convos will carry you decently far 👍👍👍
/r/seduction07/10/20 03:21 AM
3

I was gonna say... pretty much every woman I know who dates men has at least one horror story with a guy she went on a date with or was dating, and we even get harassed or assaulted by them... and yet we still date men???
/r/seduction06/10/20 11:50 PM
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I'm a woman and I'm constantly trying to raise awareness on how society does an absolute disservice to boys and young men. We deprive them of the tools to develop emotional intelligence and proper coping mechanisms. And in turn it impacts their ability to form genuine emotional connections with others.
/r/seduction06/10/20 03:54 PM
5

I've noticed that. Some carry chips on their shoulders visible from outer space and wonder why they aren't attracting others.
/r/seduction06/10/20 03:49 PM
1

Read up on attachment theory and attachment styles
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:46 PM
1

Honestly it's personally a yellow or red flag if it moves very quickly with high expectations right off the bat. A lot of younger or inexperienced folks equate intensity with love though.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:32 PM
13

Yep, you're obviously hurt and will hurt others in the process.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:26 PM
1

Nothing wrong with a slow pace! I think the slow burn > hot instant fire when it comes to building a relationship with a strong foundation. Maybe try having an open, vulnerable discussion with her? If she doesn't seem to be on the same page with you (in terms of the pacing, expectations, etc.) then you'll know you need to move on. Also one benefit of going slow is building the tension. You can go slow but still flirt and banter to build up the tension.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:25 PM
-3

Oof, who hurt you?
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:22 PM
1

If she goes cold, then cut your losses and move on. Don't indulge in games. Don't try to sleep with her under any false pretenses, it's morally questionable, and you're continuing to lower your own value.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:19 PM
1

Btw how old are you?
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:16 PM
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Not really. If you have proper boundaries and self-respect, you can avoid a lot of these issues. High value people want to be with other high value folks.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:15 PM
1

You'll get "fucked over" by your anxiety more than anything else. I don't like guys who attach too much too quickly because they tend to put me on a pedestal. I want an equal partnership. It's all about matching energy and effort.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:09 PM
1

Well you're shooting yourself in the foot and not giving it a chance preemptively. Work on your anxiety issues first.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:07 PM
19

This is a sad, sad post.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:06 PM
3

You guys agreed you wouldn't hook up right away, she stated that she likes you, but you're gonna try to use her for sex anyways? Wow.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:04 PM
2

Why not make prior arrangements for it instead of springing it unexpected onto people? You asking if they're the adventurous type does NOT mean they automatically want to engage in car sex with you. They might think you want to take them to a cool new spot in town or something. Super creepy post.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:00 PM
1

"Cave man"? Coerce?
/r/seduction06/10/20 12:54 PM
13

Wtf, such backwards thinking. It takes two to tango. You're the "easy" one, lol.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:19 AM
5

Woman here - building tension and connection usually leads to better sex. Sex is largely a mental thing for women, so the more we feel comfortable and secure, the better the sex.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:16 AM
1

FYI, certain forms of foreplay (if private parts are involved) = sex.
/r/seduction06/10/20 01:14 AM
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OP, your value and purpose isn't based on your relationship or dating status. Honestly, I'm much happier now in my 30s than 20s and a lot of my friends agree with that too. It's tough for you right now, but it's temporary, trust me. Just focus on long and short-term goals for yourself and start building towards those. I also recommend therapy if you're open to that. Vent to a therapist and a lot of the fog of despair will clear up. Remember that progress isn't always linear but the overall traje…
/r/seduction04/10/20 06:55 AM
5

Good for you. It's just (anecdotally-speaking) I see a lot of bigger guys who chase after slimmer women and then wonder why they get rejected. I'm sorry most people only care about instant sexual/physical attraction. I'm a demisexual person so personally I don't really get attracted to people until I get a good sense of their personality and beliefs. But it'd be nice if people's inner beauty was always on par with their outer beauty. There's someone for everyone though, I firmly believe it. Just…
/r/seduction02/10/20 11:29 PM
3

Just curious but would you date someone of similar body shape/type? Like 5'5" and 210 lbs?
/r/seduction02/10/20 09:11 PM
2

MTE
/r/seduction02/10/20 09:10 PM
2

None of this gave me "alpha" energy lmao
/r/seduction01/10/20 11:23 PM
1

No but really, if this isn't all just some made up fantasy fiction, your behavior and shamelessness is appalling.
/r/seduction01/10/20 09:38 PM
4

What do you even want with this girl? A relationship? Casual sex? She's not taking you seriously at all.
/r/seduction01/10/20 08:16 PM
3

They don't play games with you?
/r/seduction01/10/20 08:15 PM
2

I agree.
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:45 PM
2

Um.
/r/seduction01/10/20 07:44 PM
9

Pet names RIGHT from the get-go, before you've even met is so cringe. Makes me think they might be lovebombers, I mean we're still basically strangers at that point. I think they create a false sense of intimacy.
/r/seduction27/09/20 07:11 PM
6

Yessss
/r/seduction27/09/20 04:52 PM
4

Yep! And honestly, if she's not feeling it, no tactic will really work anyways. Trying to push beyond that is overstepping boundaries.
/r/seduction26/09/20 06:35 PM
9

Had a guy here yesterday say I was pushing a political agenda for explaining that all women should be treated with a ceasing minimum level of respect? The context was he was asking why he needs to assign "value" to the friends of a woman he would want to cold approach in public.
/r/seduction26/09/20 06:20 PM
1

Lol yeah, and you could've ignored that 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction26/09/20 05:10 AM
0

What political agenda did I present here other than to treat women as human beings and not merely as objects? Didn't realize that that was "political". And I keep getting up votes, so obviously some folks find value in my comments. 🤷‍♀️ Just ignore me then, no one said you had to engage.
/r/seduction26/09/20 04:02 AM
-2

ME: tries to help men understand how the (usual) female mindset works when it comes to getting approached by random men YOU: wHy ArE yOu fEmIniSts in HeRe Lol, we are trying to help you... but I guess you equate treating women with basic respect as something negative.
/r/seduction26/09/20 03:52 AM
0

Sub description didn't say it was exclusive to dudebros
/r/seduction26/09/20 03:48 AM
-2

"Target" "game" - very telling how you view women (as objects to be acquired or conquered)
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:32 PM
3

Yeah I don't care for this tactic either
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:30 PM
4

Awhile back my friends and I were discussing how just being decent and nice towards some men made them think we were interested in them. And we realized it's because a lot of guys can't fathom being nice to someone they don't want to fuck 🙃
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:27 PM
5

I've been deceived and manipulated enough to know. That's why we screen folks. And your friends are less likely to have rose tinted glasses.
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:21 PM
3

"Two dumb opinions"
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:20 PM
3

It's like job and college apps - you consider multiple factors (Do I find him physically attractive? Do we have conversational chemistry? Is he being real or manipulative?) Friends help in the screening process because they both know you and they have your best interests in mind. I would never date someone my friends hate because my standards for dates and friends overlap quite a bit. Fundamentally they need to have similar values as me. And my friend and I share similar values as well.
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:16 PM
7

That would be such a turn-off to me too. If you don't respect women in general, you don't actually respect me either. There's a minimum amount of respect that should be shown to others, regardless of whether you wanna date them or not.
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:12 PM
23

I'm from Los Angeles and was in London just for a few days so sadly it didn't go anywhere. We did exchange numbers, but then I had my cell phone stolen not long after I got back home (contacts were not backed up). He did give me a solid first impression though! Turned out he's a therapist working in a women's prison. Had a very warm, understanding type of vibe to him and my friends remarked how much they liked his approaching style. The fact that both my girl friend + her man friend thought he s…
/r/seduction25/09/20 10:11 PM
6

So damn creepy!!
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:29 PM
2

Lol at the downvotes when I'm speaking as a woman who gets approached a fair amount and also hangs out with other women who get approached a lot. Whatever, you guys can keep doing what you do.
/r/seduction25/09/20 07:28 PM
6

Men with fragile egos can be so threatening :/ it's a very real fear that most straight guys don't understand
/r/seduction25/09/20 06:40 PM
8

Guys complain about getting "cockblocked" as if they had an actual chance. The friend who does the blocking actually cuts through the chase for everyone involved.
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:51 PM
16

"why a man needs to give value to the friends, is it just because of jealousy?" This question alone rubs me the wrong way. ALL people have value and need a bare minimum amount of respect. If you don't treat my friends with that minimum level of respect, you aren't a decent person. I judge men based on how they treat people they're not sexually attracted to because that's how you know their real character - when they do something kind without expecting anything from the person.
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:49 PM
2

If you have the "F the rest" mentality you already lost. If you can't vibe with her and her close friends, no chance. And yes, effort is required. Nobody wants to talk to some low-effort dude, let alone go home with him. If you are strictly looking to hook up and she is strictly looking for a hook up, you MIGHT have a chance if you're hot.
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:46 PM
53

Yeah if the friends are on board, that gives a man a MUCH better shot.
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:44 PM
10

That is such a male mentality. Not saying that that doesn't happen, but it's not usually the main motivator or intent behind it. Maybe it's sometimes a combination of all of the above but it's not usually viewed as a disservice by the girl who was the intended "target" by the guy. Again, majority of the time, it's because of what I stated earlier. Usually our friends have our best interest in mine. (Those who don't aren't actual friends.)
/r/seduction25/09/20 05:41 PM
14

Literally never had a friend go, "Omg you blocked me from that cock!" Listen, if she wanted it, we'd be like YOU GO GIRL, GO GET THAT COCK (but probably not since we don't actually use the word "cock" unironically) I've happily sent my friends off with guys before as long as I knew it was consensual and the guy didn't seem like a creep.
/r/seduction25/09/20 03:29 PM
133

I agree with this! Maybe not all women will agree but I certainly do. I remember being at a bar and this guy asked my friend and her date (I was 3rd wheelin) if it would be cool if he talk to me. My friend is fiercely protective of me, but her gut told her he seemed decent, so she let him pass. He seemed down-to-earth and had this warm vibe to him. It's reassuring when a friend can vet or screen a guy somewhat first, especially when some drinking has been involved. Also I'm usually more at ease …
/r/seduction25/09/20 03:26 PM
84

Also if a guy approaches 2 or 3 girls and just gives attention to one while blatantly ignoring the others, all of them will hate him. You're not a nice guy if you're only nice to people you're attracted to.
/r/seduction25/09/20 03:21 PM
27

Guys see it as "cockblocking", we don't exactly see it that way. It's a protective measure. Every time I've done it for a friend they thanked me. I've in turn gotten terrible verbal abuse for it on a few occasions from the men doing it so we all knew a bullet was being dodged. Often girls have trouble rejecting men because of fear of retaliation for one, also we're usually conditioned to be people pleasers too. Many/most of us don't care for totally random and unexpected cold approaches. We also…
/r/seduction25/09/20 03:16 PM
6

After marriage, #2 is the norm and is expected. You're creating a family unit with your spouse.
/r/seduction24/09/20 07:10 PM
1

I don't care if they glance. I'm talking about catcalling, ogling, trying to get my attention when I clearly don't want to be bothered, etc.
/r/seduction24/09/20 06:08 AM
-1

You don't seem like a genuinely nice guy. Trust me, we DO like genuinely nice guys.
/r/seduction23/09/20 05:37 PM
1

LOL, how sexist, ageist and not even true. I'm in my early(ish) 30s and it hasn't slowed down at all. Even in this pandemic people still have the nerve to catcall and try to approach. Just yesterday I had a rando at a pharmacy commenting on my body. I'm not even like a total bombshell but I get unsolicited comments or ogled on a fairly regular basis.
/r/seduction23/09/20 02:48 PM
2

Sure, we have an easier time getting approached, laid, etc. But also much more vulnerable to sexual harassment/assaults, etc. It's not a PRIVILEGE to be constantly objectified.
/r/seduction23/09/20 12:02 PM
4

I mean, what are your intentions? Just to "score"? Or do you actually want to get to know her beyond the superficial? If it's the latter, I see no issue. Even if it's the former, you should be honest.
/r/seduction21/09/20 10:44 PM
1

Good for you!!! Isn't that feeling amazing?? My personal trainer helped me clear a lot of mental blocks when I was training with him, made me realize I could push a lot harder than I thought I could. And that transferred into my every day life too. Helped me realize my resilience.
/r/seduction21/09/20 10:18 PM
1

Yep!! I do it personally for my mental + physical health primarily - fitting into certain clothes better and attracting more people are secondary benefits. Weightlifting really helped me realize how STRONG I am (mentally and physically) and it's super empowering!
/r/seduction21/09/20 10:00 PM
1

I feel youuuuu. They assume guys do it for muscles + pick up women. And they assume women work out to be skinny and to attract men. Those assumptions are so annoying. Or they have a narrow idea of what "fit" or "athletic" looks like.
/r/seduction21/09/20 09:49 PM
1

I didn't ask that though... and I AM attractive, lol. Not like a super model, but I actually LIKE being soft (yet strong). I am planning on losing at least about 20 lbs as per my doctor's request. I'm often described as "glam" and "sexy", but I don't enjoy randos catcalling and cold approaching me. It's draining since they often don't handle rejection well, no matter how gracious I am. Also, a lot of guys I know assume I'm already taken or that I wouldn't give them a chance 🙃 But yeah, it's not …
/r/seduction21/09/20 03:49 PM
2

But! I have no objection to getting back on the workout regimen/fitness train. Fell off the wagon during quarantine. But it would honestly have nothing to do with trying to attract more men. I prefer not being approached 💀
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:47 AM
5

Lol, I was lifting 3x a week and exercising a total of 5x a week. Ate decently (not unhealthy but not at a deficit) and remained fluffy/chunky (albeit much stronger with higher stamina). I'm sure if I lost 15 lbs I'd have more people attracted to me. But tbh I have no issue with that right now... I actually dress myself down because I don't like being objectified. 🤷‍♀️ I'm not unhappy with myself, honestly. I've been thinner and chubbier but never so content with who I am like now.
/r/seduction21/09/20 07:42 AM
9

What's your end goal? I'd forget trying to win her over. Either you continue being friends or you don't.
/r/seduction21/09/20 02:33 AM
3

Okay so they're not for you anyways?
/r/seduction21/09/20 01:20 AM
1

I would suggest making some eye contact (not intense staring though, never that) and maybe make a shy/natural looking smile and see if she reciprocates. If she ignores/turns away, unlikely she'll want to be approached. And if they have headphones/earbuds in or are reading a book or cell phone, also no. early 30s woman
/r/seduction21/09/20 12:31 AM
1

Yep
/r/seduction20/09/20 11:19 PM
3

What's the point of being active if also anorexic? That's just a matter of time before your body breaks down. That's more unhealthy than being a little overweight.
/r/seduction20/09/20 08:59 PM
4

Okay but a lot of overweight people are very active too? Especially the people who have both muscle and fat.
/r/seduction20/09/20 08:58 PM
3

Does that go for both underweight and overweight folks though 🤔 Also I think most folks overestimate the fitness of slim people.
/r/seduction20/09/20 08:52 PM
4

You might be right, but I'm also lucky that my extra fluffiness is mostly in the "right" areas (I have long legs, big butt, face doesn't look fat) so even though I'm like 25-30 lbs overweight (I'm 5'8") people usually assume I'm more like 10-15 lbs overweight. So they try to tell me, "You're not even that big" when I tell them how I like working out.
/r/seduction20/09/20 07:21 PM
12

I'm a bit overweight but active. Sometimes I wonder if guys (not you necessarily) actually care about the fitness/active part or if they just prefer someone who "looks" that way. A lot of my slimmer girl friends balk at hiking more than a few miles, but I solo-hike all the time. And I was lifting 3x a week before quarantine. But guys would describe my easily-winded slim friends as looking "fit" (because of how they look in leggings) 🤷‍♀️ Also, when I do tell guys how I enjoy working out, they of…
/r/seduction20/09/20 04:48 PM
2

Soooo much PUA-type of content here.
/r/seduction19/09/20 11:09 PM
0

That attitude is exactly what turns off women, especially when you can sense it. I can usually tell when a guy is interested in ME versus the idea of me. And it's off-putting when it's the latter.
/r/seduction19/09/20 11:07 PM
5

Sex is mainly a mental/emotional thing for women so working towards building a genuine connection is the only sure fire way to seduce us. Some women don't require that, and often it is situational. But as a whole, we want to know that you genuinely see and view us as unique individuals, not just some woman that you can swap with another.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:13 PM
5

That is how most grown women think though. It's usually guys who chase superficial women who feel this way or guys who don't have any meaningful engagement with women.
/r/seduction19/09/20 09:09 PM
4

I was sharing it to show that all types of people start having sex later in life. I had someone reach out in confidence saying they were able to relate to my story.
/r/seduction17/09/20 09:07 PM
14

I had many chances to have sex since I was like 16 (in my early 30s now). Until age 19 or so I didn't have sex because I grew up Christian and wanted to wait until marriage or at least until I was in a serious LTR that might lead to marriage. Then after 19 I was just hung up on body image issues and felt too self-conscious to get intimate with anyone. Then when I hit 22-23, I got self-conscious that I was still a virgin. Finally one day I realized that people DO find me attractive, that there's …
/r/seduction17/09/20 07:58 PM
4

Lovebombing, it's terrible
/r/seduction17/09/20 07:08 PM
13

I never had any sort of sexual interaction beyond kissing until age 25, like 4-5 months shy of turning 26. And people assumed I was sexually active since I was a teen (because I'm a woman, relatively attractive, extroverted and social, etc.)
/r/seduction17/09/20 07:04 PM
4

33F here, I say match energies in all your relationships, romantic or platonic. You might have to invest little more on your end initially but not much more than the other person. If they're consistently low energy, drop it, no matter how attracted you are to them. Honor yourself. If you find yourself putting them on a pedestal, take it down a notch and really take your time to know them.
/r/seduction17/09/20 02:52 PM
-2

I didn't say it wasn't normal? But it makes me side eye them because clearly they either don't find same age women attractive or because they don't have what it takes to attract women their age. If a 36 year old guy only dates women under 30, I'd be side-eyeing him. There are exceptions to this, but more often than not it's driven by their desire to be with someone they have some leverage over.
/r/seduction17/09/20 12:58 AM
0

Smart, I'm sure some men here will disagree but you stick to what's best for yourself. Older doesn't necessarily mean more mature (especially if they chase much younger types on the regular)
/r/seduction17/09/20 12:51 AM
2

Lol, most straight men online and in the real world are attracted to women in their 20s, even 50 year-olds chase 20-something types. I'm 33 but I can easily pass for 25. And I've had multiple men my age or older indicate that me looking younger really turned them on. (Shudders) That said, I'd stick to like 25 - 32ish. Meeting someone in the same stage of life is important. I'd be weary of men beyond their early 30s who have a history of exclusively dating women 5+ years younger than them.
/r/seduction17/09/20 12:08 AM
13

Lifting helps (I'm a woman who was lifting pre-quarantine) but you are right - it doesn't necessarily address internal issues. Some people slave away at the gym because they can't process their internal emotions so they channel it into working out in beastmode or by being a workaholic. If you have access to therapy, I highly suggest it. It's nice to have an unbiased, third party to vent to, and since they are professionally-trained, they can give pointed advice. OP, take your time to process and…
/r/seduction16/09/20 11:14 PM
2

This
/r/seduction16/09/20 10:30 PM
2

This isn't a universal thing with women but it does happen a lot. Usually because we're trying to read a guy and see if his intentions and actions align with his words. That takes awhile to manifest.
/r/seduction16/09/20 05:09 PM
5

That's how I saw it (I'm a woman). This was me with the most recent guy I was seeing, I was unsure about him for a few months.
/r/seduction16/09/20 05:08 PM
2

I like the message, it sounds direct but not crass. Even if this girl isn't down, there are others that are. Don't have her come over under some false pretext. Plus we're in the middle of a pandemic, probably not wise to be having casual sex. Remember, "post-nut clarity" is a real thing. I understand the need and desire for sex/connection but it shouldn't be done at someone else's expense.
/r/seduction16/09/20 04:46 PM
0

It is manipulative to present yourself as something you're not in order to get someone into bed. I bet you a lot of the women you got into bed felt pressured to go through with it by being put on the spot.
/r/seduction13/09/20 08:20 PM
2

If she wanted to have sex with you, you'd probably know by now. I'd cut your losses and move on. Seems like the dynamic isn't healthy and she doesn't owe you sex.
/r/seduction13/09/20 06:12 PM
-7

Predatory and disgusting
/r/seduction13/09/20 05:45 PM
2

We're in the middle of a global pandemic, so aside from the usual STI and pregnancy scares, there's a virus wreaking more havoc than the HIV/AIDS crisis. Priorities...
/r/seduction13/09/20 05:45 PM
1

I wouldn't fixate on it and move on. There might've been a sexual compatibility issue on her end but that doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. I know it's confusing and it hurts your ego, but the best thing is to respect the boundary drawn on her end. And you also need to respect your own needs. Sorry it turned out like this but it's part of the dating experience. I would suggest maybe holding off sex with someone until you feel more of an emotional connection because they're more li…
/r/seduction13/09/20 05:06 PM
13

MTE
/r/seduction12/09/20 04:40 PM
13

Ahhhh not necessarily, it COULD mean that. Some people are just naturally smiley and friendly. And as a West Coast American, we're kinda conditioned to be generally friendly. I actually had to force an RBF on myself to stop having randos approaching me. My disposition is just naturally very welcoming and pleasant. I don't want to interact with strangers on a regular basis though, it's exhausting.
/r/seduction12/09/20 04:40 PM
2

I can't believe how people can be so openly racist and not think anything of it. Gross.
/r/seduction12/09/20 03:15 PM
1

That's actually scary though? Predatory in fact
/r/seduction11/09/20 11:01 PM
1

Wtf, seriously???? Wow
/r/seduction11/09/20 10:55 PM
5

Okay but your post made that seem like a negative thing(?) Or not necessarily negative but something to work around
/r/seduction10/09/20 06:06 PM
-1

Half kidding half not 🙃
/r/seduction10/09/20 06:05 PM
3

You're the sensible one among your friends. Take this time to channel your energy and focus back into yourself. Do something that will make you smarter/healthier/happier, be it an online course or new hobby or working out, etc. This pandemic will eventually come to an end and you'll be a better catch than most guys out there. Also, work on nurturing or fostering existing friendships! I've gotten closer to some of my friends during this pandemic and it is so gratifying to have a network of amazin…
/r/seduction10/09/20 05:09 PM
5

I'm a woman and the fear of violent retaliation is real, no matter how nice a man usually is, if he gets loud and angry it terrifies me. Merely rejecting advances from men has led to lots of verbal abuse and sometimes them getting in my face. They can go from warm to cold real quick. So taking a moment to yourself to collect your thoughts is always a good approach. Be direct and honest without yelling.
/r/seduction10/09/20 05:00 PM
4

Nothing wrong with that! Grown ass people like clear communication. It's validating for the other person and if they felt the same way they can feel free to return the sentiment. Communication is important. But if the energy isn't being matched? That's when you scale back
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:17 PM
11

Guess we're all sentient sex dolls to OP 🤷‍♀️
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:07 PM
1

Hmm you ask to make out? It doesn't just happen? Idk I'd probably turn down making out requests because I'm sure with 9/10 guys they're gonna want it to escalate haha
/r/seduction10/09/20 07:00 AM
5

I'm an early 30s woman and yeah, men are still interested in making out, lol. I can't imagine getting physically intimate with someone without some making out first (I mean in general, doesn't necessarily need to precede every single sexual encounter).
/r/seduction10/09/20 06:44 AM
1

Yep. Also this is kind of a tangent but I don't think the average straight guy realizes the extent of crap women have to deal with from a young age. Been catcalled since I was about 12 year-old (same goes for most of my friends). And even if 7 or 8 out of 10 men are generally decent and respectful, those 1 or 2 out of 10 guys multiply over a lifetime. We are tired. So it's rarely a personal thing if we ignore a stranger.
/r/seduction10/09/20 06:26 AM
4

Seemingly chill men can turn violent in a flash if they get rejected - it's happened to me. If a total rando approached with zero context, I'm more likely to ignore to avoid retaliation. Women get stabbed for this. (I'm not making this up)
/r/seduction10/09/20 04:29 AM
1

They don't need to seem to be busy, they should be is my point, lol. Or if they're not busy, they don't have to pretend to be. Being available isn't the issue - it's being OVER available in the sense that they're pouring way more energy into the convos and relationships in general. It's about matching energy and reciprocity. Find someone either equally enthusiastic as you or as available as you are, wherever that might be. Don't pretend to be something you're not just to get the foot through the…
/r/seduction04/09/20 03:53 PM
1

We're focusing on different things here. I was more concerned at the calculated appearance of looking busy/unbothered by purposefully delaying responses, etc (as OP indicated earlier in a comment)
/r/seduction04/09/20 04:05 AM
2

Did you read OP's comments in the thread?
/r/seduction03/09/20 09:51 PM
11

Yes, more or less. Go to school or work or pick up passion projects, make new friends or strengthen existing friendships, gain new experiences, etc. Talk to a therapist if there are any unresolved trauma. Just do things that will make you a healthier, more grounded, and more self-assured person.
/r/seduction03/09/20 08:47 PM
13

I agree that it's manipulative. It's one thing to become busy with work and life so you don't respond to people right away. But it's another to play it like a game. Not being too available doesn't mean calculating and manipulating through your responses. It means actively working on your development as a person, be it mentally, emotionally, physically, financially, creatively, etc. It means learning boundaries and enforcing them. Also it means not centering yourself around others, even romantic …
/r/seduction03/09/20 08:24 PM
2

"But like the alpha I am..." I actually almost did a spit take just now, lolol
/r/seduction01/09/20 09:32 PM
1

Irony, you claim to know how the world works and how people operate yet you're the one with the down votes here. Stop living in some Wolf of Wall Street fantasy world.
/r/seduction01/09/20 09:31 PM
1

Who, me? Maybe to some, but in general I'm considered attractive.
/r/seduction01/09/20 06:13 PM
2

If you're negatively-biased or belittling someone based on their size /shape and/or have a fear of being fat, that's fatphobia 🤷‍♀️ IDK what's so lolzy. It's an actual term used in academia, I've read abstracts from medical journals using the term (which has been around for decades now).
/r/seduction01/09/20 02:50 AM
2

Okay but do they LIKE you, you for you? Because you're not winning then. Learn to humanize others.
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:40 AM
1

Me personally, it totally depends on the setting and context. If I'm out with friends, I tend to focus on friends. I'm also demisexual (I can see someone is aesthetically attractive but not feel sexual urges until we chat a little and I see how their brain operates). Not that looks don't matter to me, it's just really hard to impress me with looks alone. That said, the times where I was approached by a rando at an event, bar, hair salon, etc. and it didn't feel weird to me was when I could tell …
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:38 AM
4

I know actual models, 10/10 hot types. None of them would go for what you think they'd want.
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:27 AM
2

Lol I happen to know a lot of those hot trophy wives. It's not as glam as it looks. All your comments tell me is that you're not really speaking from real-life experiences but from what you learned online or from other bros. You only value women for their looks, which makes you vapid and low value.
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:26 AM
6

I'm getting the sense that you view yourself as a 4.5 but feel entitled to 6+ and resent women who achieve better than you despite being "4-5" in your book. Because you're that misogynistic that you can't fathom that men will find value in someone they don't necessarily feel like banging right off the bat. I pity you. I'm considered attractive and happen to be little chubby, but I tend to get the most fatphobic treatment from self-hating men who are fatter and objectively less attractive than me…
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:24 AM
3

I'm telling you, there is a whole world of folks out there that emphatically DON'T operate within those ideals. I know since I have met so many people of different backgrounds from all over the world. You are operating as a worker ant within a small, contained ant farm and assume there isn't life outside of it. I happen to have 100s of people in my networks who have similar world views and values as mine (albeit with different nuances). And honestly, many/most are good looking, diligent, deep th…
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:16 AM
10

So, again, are YOU a 6+? Some women who are a 4-5 to you are an 8 to others. Just because YOU don't find value in women outside of their sex appeal doesn't mean others are that way. Plenty of men are interested in the hobbies and skills of women. And not everyone finds the same type of looks appealing. And you clearly link conventional beauty with value/worth. Your comments wreak of entitlement and misogyny - no wonder not everyone receives you favorably. Not to mention "beta" and "alpha" males …
/r/seduction01/09/20 01:10 AM
8

People who are "4 or 5" are allowed to have standards too. They are allowed to be happy, confident, and secure. Also, are YOU a 6+???
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:45 AM
1

I'm a woman, but props to you!!! Idk your age but I'm 33 and I'm way more confident and secure in myself than before.
/r/seduction01/09/20 12:41 AM
2

I have ADHD too! And I've struggled a lot with depression and anxiety as well. You're made of much stronger stuff than you realize, people are resilient AF. ADHD can make it an uphill battle to function "as you're supposed to" sometimes, but it can give you the potential to use your brain and see things differently from neurotypical (non-ADHD) folks. It's both a struggle and a gift. But yeah COVID-19 really did massively fuck things up. But I've also learned and realized a lot too. I'm more at p…
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:46 PM
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I feel for you. People are gonna judge you for your looks, no matter what. So the best thing to do is work on yourself, to focus on the things that you CAN control. If you let external factors (i.e. like the opinions of randos) affect you, your already ego fragile will get destroyed. I know it's hard not to let that happen, but I spent the last several years of my life doing a lot of introspection and working on myself. It's a ongoing process but ultimately SO REWARDING. Eventually your inner an…
/r/seduction31/08/20 10:21 PM
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Also... are you considered beautiful/good-looking yourself? Or average? (Or below average?)
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:55 PM
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What is off-putting about so-called average types?
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:54 PM
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I used to think I was unattractive because I didn't get approached or hit on as much as my girl friends (they're mostly 5'3"-5'6", slim-medium, cute & pretty faces). I'm 5'7.5" but sometimes wear shoes that make me close to 6ft. And I'm a thicker, little chubby type. I found out later that men were intimidated by me! I might not be everyone's type, but I am decently-attractive with a strong air of confidence. I've met guys from the internet who told me, "I wouldn't have been able to approach you…
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:38 PM
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Nobody should be put on a pedestal. There needs to be a basic level of respect and good will, but people are people. My model-esque friends often feel lonely and alienated because people don't see them as individuals.
/r/seduction31/08/20 04:27 PM
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That is negging, which is manipulative and used by misogynistic, "pick-up artist" types. Terrible advice.
/r/seduction31/08/20 02:57 PM
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