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All hot women have social media accounts. All hot women are drowned in attention from men on those services constantly. It's never going to work the same for you not matter how impressive your accounts are - women just aren't as thirsty and as forward as men. You can't stop it. Accept the reality. Men will constantly throw themselves at any hot girl.
/r/askTRP19/05/18 04:44 PM
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This. Meditate and let go. She already has.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 08:32 PM
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Because I felt like it. Because I want to. Because I can.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 08:27 PM
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Who gives a fuck why? Oh, you do, because you're so over-invested in what they think of you. Let go. Girls aren't attracted to guys that post on the internet asking about what their snapchat story means.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 08:13 PM
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No. Women will rarely approach you. It involves too much risk for them. The ones that do approach you will often be worse looking than women who you could fuck if you approached them. This is because they are used to putting in more effort to get a guy to fuck them, they can't just stand there and look pretty.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 05:35 PM
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Stop wasting your free time worrying about a fucking phone case. You gave her money for a new one. She gave the money back. Let it go and move on.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 04:42 PM
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Compliments, whether by words or action, should not be allowed to inflate your ego. Insults, whether by words or action, should not harm your view of yourself. Your problem is that you give a fuck what other people are thinking about you, not that using words is a weaker compliment than action.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 04:39 PM
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If she spent time with you she'd lose her attraction for you nearly instantly, because she'd be able to smell the over-investment off you. You're posting about her online because maybe she made good eye contact with you. Game other women. Forget about her.
/r/askTRP18/05/18 04:36 PM
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Your ego has made you invested in the outcome. Your opinion of yourself is at least partly reliant on her view of you. If she likes you, you feel attractive. If she goes off you, you feel unattractive, and desperately want her to like you again so you can feel good about yourself. If you were truly the prize, she could vomit at the sight of a picture of you and it would not phase you. That is truly a strong frame. And the only way to maximise the amount of women that will find you attractive. Go…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 02:24 PM
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Recognising the problem is 51% of the way you solve it. Congratulations on being able to see it. Archwinger, a contributor here far more seasoned than me once wrote: You think you're doing the right thing by using The Red Pill to try to help yourself, but the very fact that you're so focused and obsessed with this thing to begin with is shooting yourself in the foot. It's part of the reason you're failing, and your obsession with fixing it is making it worse. When guys read all of this stuff on …
/r/askTRP18/05/18 02:08 PM
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You care too much. If you are in an exclusive relationship, you already fucked up by giving away your freedom to a girl in less than 3 months who parties way too much. That was a bad decision. If you are not in an exclusive relationship, you have fucked up by being so focused on her and her behaviour when you should have been gaming other girls and focusing on your own life all this time. You need to reach a point where you don't give a shit if she goes to clubs or not. Only then will she self-r…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 01:49 PM
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The fact that you had to post this question means you are too invested. She (and her friend) will be able to smell that from a mile away. The ego-boost you get from her deciding she likes you again and chasing you will pale in comparison to the sense of peace and freedom you will get from truly not giving a fuck if she comes or goes. You are the prize. Why do you give a fuck what she is thinking? If you really, really must get your hoodie back then yeah be like "I'll be at your house at X time o…
/r/askTRP18/05/18 01:41 PM
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You're not the highest. You're posting on an internet forum asking random internet dudes about her, after giving her thousands of dollars and listening to her emotional bullshit conversations. You have low SMV in her eyes. Move on. Or hang around to get the "I feel such a connection with you I can't ruin that with sex" talk. Whichever bro.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:09 PM
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She's just not that into you. There are 3 types of men as far as women are concerned. 1) Men they fuck. (alpha) 2) Men who provide for them. (beta) 3). Men who aren't worth shit and don't exist (orbitters etc) You are number 2, and will end up being number 3. You've already given her thousands of dollars? Get a grip man. She's already getting fucked by some muscular poor bar tender behind her boyfriend's back (male type number 1) and she's using you to fill the number 2 role. Have some self resp…
/r/askTRP08/03/18 01:08 PM
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Great addition to the OP. You can pick and choose what stories you view - I will often skip a girl's story entirely and let the 24 hours run out without viewing it. If you are on her mind in any meaningful way, she will check to see if you viewed her story. Confront your own curiosity and resist temptation to view it, and she will wonder why you're too busy to view her story. If you are going to view it, wait until the next day to view it before the time runs out. That way when she checks at the…
/r/TheRedPill31/01/17 05:13 PM
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Absolutely. He's well dressed, confident, impeccably groomed and suave as hell. And that all trumps the fact that he's 5'9 (or in this case appears far shorter than that in relation to Merchant). And you can tell that he knows it sweeps his height away to a non-issue.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 02:29 PM
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https://youtu.be/R4ajQ-foj2Q Watch how Joseph Gordon Levitt handles looking like a dwarf compared to Stephen Merchant. Act more like him.
/r/TheRedPill30/12/16 01:28 PM
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This sub is amoral. There is no approval or disapproval of what you decide to do. Once you're awake, this sub has done it's job. It is not concerned with what is right or wrong - it's concerned with showing you reality. Go your own way once your eyes are open.
/r/TheRedPill28/11/16 03:17 PM
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Thank you for sharing, this is a very generous contribution for us all to learn from.
/r/TheRedPill05/11/16 07:30 PM
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Are you bringing drunk girls back to your car while openly sober then? Eg. "I'm not drinking tonight, I'll drive you home". If so, have you found that them realising you're sober has broken their state?
/r/TheRedPill27/10/16 01:04 PM
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Interesting perspective on the comment, I hadn't thought about it that way. For me, I actually find the comment to be hopeful. As the OP says himself, we should be hoping to reach the end of our lives with many of these scars. The reality of life is that either 1) everyone we love will die or 2) we will die before them. There's no way to sugar coat that. That's just how it is. We can't reach 80 and be the pristine fresh from the box human being we once were. We'll be battered and bruised. But ea…
/r/askTRP09/10/16 07:15 PM
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Read the following comment. https://www.reddit.com/r/Assistance/comments/hax0t/my_friend_just_died_i_dont_know_what_to_do/c1u0rx2 Nobody expects you to be strong right now. We expect you to be resilient. No matter how bad it gets, you do anything you can to stay afloat. No matter how hard the waves hit you. And again. And again. And again. One day, when you want to rebuild, we'll be here. You'll live every day with a determined urgency that only those who have seen death close-up can understand.…
/r/askTRP09/10/16 06:49 AM
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Would insert your favourite alpha here sit around worrying about some other guy hitting on his woman? You confronting this guy gives him a tremendous amount of power by demonstrating that you are not convinced that you are higher value than him. Do. Not. Confront. Him. If you were walking through a park with your girlfriend and a ten year old boy started to hit on her while his friends watched from behind a tree, would you confront him? Hell no. You'd stand back, smile to yourself, and think, le…
/r/askTRP07/10/16 04:12 PM
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How does this difference come to exist? I don't doubt the truth of it, but on paper there is a tax figure based on earnings regardless of gender. Is it due to men earning higher wages for most of their lives, for example?
/r/TheRedPill21/09/16 03:15 PM
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Agreed. Somebody who says "go and get me the salt" instead of "hey man, grab that salt for me there would ya, thanks" honestly must be extremely socially inexperienced or would rather have a macho alpha-BBQ on their own. Because nobody wants to BBQ with somebody like that.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/16 07:49 PM
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There is a huge danger on this subreddit of people with extremely limited social skills going into their workplace and stomping around the place with their chest puffed up shrieking "I DON'T NEED ANY OF YOU" and then trying to sneak a peek around the corner to see if people are impressed.
/r/TheRedPill30/07/16 07:43 PM
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Agreed, I get an incredible feeling of power / arousal from making a woman beg for an orgasm.
/r/TheRedPill29/07/16 02:52 PM
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Because then the sequence of events works like: Send a whingey dramatic text Receive a reward (the hint of a surprise later that day) Receive a bigger reward (the dinner) She likes what happens when she sends whingey dramatic texts and repeats the process indefinitely
/r/TheRedPill19/07/16 12:23 PM
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Great analogy!
/r/askTRP12/07/16 04:28 PM
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My understanding is that there are some women more deserving of a LTR than others, but you will more likely find her because she's your favourite out of the 5 women you're seeing rather than being in a 3 month dry spell and convincing yourself you've found "the one" because her hair smells great and she has a cute smile and she definitely seems different from all the others. I don't think being over-focused on the horizontal will ever be an issue for recovering betas like you and I. Our predispo…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 03:22 PM
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It's pride and the sunken cost fallacy taking hold, in my opinion. Eg. I've lost the last 5 spins on this roulette wheel, but I'm due a win, the next spin has to be a win. Surely, it must! Neither roulette wheels or women work like that. Even if it was the case that it was your lack of sexuality that stopped you from fucking her, that damage has been done now. You failed to escalate. You were not a man. You don't get to turn back time and convince her that "NOW I'm a man! Hear me roar!" Far wise…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 02:47 PM
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Many men, myself included, found the red pill even later than you. What exactly do you want your life to be like when you turn 30? Dream big. If you dedicate yourself to taking this difficult but truth-filled path you will be able to make your goals a reality. Good luck!
/r/askTRP11/07/16 02:31 PM
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It sounds like she's trying to get you to orbit her. Talk is cheap - she had the chance to prove her worth last week and allow you to make things sexual but she refused. She probably thinks she can get plenty of attention off you without having to give it up. Ghost her and if she contacts you to bring up hiking say you can't make it because you're busy. Give your time and attention to the women in your life who do want to sleep with you. Edit: I also used to orbit girls who I never initiated tex…
/r/askTRP11/07/16 02:22 PM
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I'm 33. The only big downside is that I don't currently have my own place, I have to share with people. That will change in the future as my abundance of free time allows for further money-making opportunities. I'm sure there are people my age with nicer cars and bigger homes, but they won't have seen the cities I've seen or felt the stress-free life I live with countless hours to do whatever I like. Instead they spend their days begging for 5pm Friday to arrive and at 1pm Sunday start dreading …
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 05:32 PM
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Fully agreed, if somebody is eager to start living well on a minimal wage at the same time as starting their fitness journey then bodyweight fitness is incredible bang for your buck. Even a $20 pull up bar added to that will take them down the right path. Regarding housemates, it's far from ideal but if guys can find decent human beings that don't care if you bring a girl back and keep the common areas clean and tidy then it's an excellent short to medium term solution. My favourite story about …
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 04:44 PM
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I'm in the same situation. Working 21 hours per week and paying all rent, bills etc. and still affording to travel on city breaks a couple of times per year and go for dinner and other social activities. Tip: Don't count pennies among friends. Live as frugally as possible and deny yourself luxuries if you want, but don't be a cheap-ass when your buddy runs out of money and wants another beer. Grab him one without him having to ask and never ask for the favour to be returned. You can live well on…
/r/TheRedPill05/07/16 03:24 PM
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I've seen endorsed contributors on here talking about hiding their nice apartments and cars from any women they're seeing. Those things get the attention of women who want to pin you down as a Beta Bux and drain you of your resources. They'll fuck the local barman whose only assets are his beard and his muscles in his tiny run-down bedroom and then come knocking on your door looking for you to take them to a high-class restaurant before she maybe puts out with vanilla sex on the third date. Be t…
/r/askTRP05/07/16 08:38 AM
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Focus on other women. Pull back from her as a natural result of focussing on other women. Reassess whether she's worth the effort when you would have to cancel seeing another woman to see her instead.
/r/askTRP15/06/16 08:37 PM
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OP, listen to this guys advice. Then click into his username and sort his comments by Top and learn some more. Many thanks /u/vasiliyzaitzev for the priceless insight you share with this subreddit, I've learnt a lot from you.
/r/askTRP15/06/16 12:12 PM
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You're investing too much time and thought into a girl you've never even met in person. What if she has terrible BO problems? What if she walks with some crazy ass limp? Text her one more time to meet up. If she doesn't make time for you then she's using you for validation and you're never going to get anywhere with her. I know you're about to say "but she's busy with X, Y Z", so ask yourself: if Brad Pitt was texting her to meet up, do you think she'd find the time? If yes, then your SMV isn't …
/r/askTRP12/06/16 09:42 AM
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You've made your position perfectly clear. Anything that happens from this point on is after you explicitly told her you're not looking for a relationship. She's a free woman and can make her own choices. If she decides that she wants to try and convince you to have a relationship with her via blow jobs then why not give the girl a chance? If she meets up with you now she knows what you're after and is agreeing to it.
/r/askTRP09/06/16 09:20 PM
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What's the consensus on wearing the same thing all the time? Eg. having 5 different versions of the same shirt but in different colours. Would the repetition hurt your SMV or is it fine once you look great in that particular shirt?
/r/TheRedPill09/06/16 07:57 AM
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She should be obsessing over your Last Online times on social media and wondering who you might be talking to, not the other way around. She is the one who holds the power. Read the side bar and prepare yourself for the end of your relationship. Go to the main subreddit and sort the entries by Top - All Time. Then do the same for the comments of the main posters.
/r/askTRP01/06/16 07:09 AM
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I take your point that killing the first lady could have made a very good plot twist. Regarding Game of Thrones, in a universe with so many big important characters the ones you linked to are all small fish. A number can be explained by the characters being kids - eg, having one child play the character at X age and another actor that looks similar playing them at Y age, which is very common. Others are heavily CGI based so the idea of them being recast seems a bit strange. The best example ther…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 10:14 AM
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For which character in Game of Thrones? Yes, it's essentially impossible to replace her and not destroy the show. Either you have never watched House of Cards or have no idea how attached the masses get to TV characters.
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 07:40 AM
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Sometimes I'm shocked by how people bury their heads in the sand here while shrieking "The women! It's the women's fault!" She clearly states that, after being a very important character for a couple of seasons, that all their internal polling was showing her character as being more popular than Kevin Spacey's at that time. So she's demanding equal pay based on the value she's bringing to the show - not because of her gender. How despicable! So she was in the episodes just as much as him, was mo…
/r/TheRedPill26/05/16 07:34 AM
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She already follows the rules due to evolution. Going on about the rules just demonstrates that you've had to specifically learn the rules. It shows that you don't just "get it" naturally, because you feel the need to lecture her on your discoveries. Women want a man who just "gets it". Talking about it does you no favours.
/r/askTRP19/05/16 12:18 PM
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This link suggests that there is a massive gulf between the male physique from a man's perspective, and from a woman's perspective. http://foxhoundstudio.com/blog/fitness-lifestyle/the-ideal-male-physique-%E2%80%94-what-girls-want-want-guys-want-to-be/ It seems to suggest that lean is best.
/r/TheRedPill16/05/16 11:28 AM
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Thank you! I can see the contradiction very clearly. I've been stuck in the newbie catch 22 of how to develop abundance mentality without having abundance. I am more than happy for this to crash and burn, but I'd like to sleep with her in the meantime while finding better quality women to replace her with. To use an analogy, I've been parched in the desert for years and this bitch is dirty rainwater, but the fresh water supply is still a couple of miles walk away. Thanks for your advice! She wil…
/r/askTRP16/05/16 10:44 AM
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The "washed up douchebags" are the guys who lived a version of this dream a few years ago. Do not expect to follow the same path and reach a different destination. Be careful making large "My Life Should Be X" judgements, particularly if anger is a motivating factor. Think of the toll on your body from the alcohol and lack of sleep - your SMV will be dramatically lower from that alone in a few years time. I would urge you to re-think this. Why not be the physically ripped guy who works in a well…
/r/askTRP16/05/16 10:01 AM
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In a better position in life than you were at 25.
/r/askTRP11/05/16 08:53 AM
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I agree with the other poster that BMI means jack shit. In fact, simply aiming to reach an arbitrary goal like 80kg is a short-sighted view of bulking and likely result in a lot of fat gain. Get up tomorrow morning and take a photo of yourself in the bathroom mirror. Do that once a month to track your progress. Use the weighing scales to ensure you're going in the right direction but do not set a target. You might look your best at 73kg rather than 80kg, so don't set random numbers as targets. I…
/r/askTRP03/05/16 09:27 AM
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Your first mistake was getting over-invested and getting angry when her behaviour didn't match the expectations of your dream woman. Now you're over-invested by having to ask for her text message to be dissected for you by strangers on the internet. I am sure others will give you better advice than me, perhaps in the form of a clear strategy, but I am particularly susceptible to one-itis and it's a constant struggle for me, and I want to be the first to raise the alarm and alert you to the fact …
/r/askTRP02/05/16 09:51 PM
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32, so I think the day when I suddenly transform into a masculine looking guy might not be any time soon! You're right, I'll need to work on the other factors other than just appearance more.
/r/TheRedPill02/05/16 07:16 AM
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I have the same problem. Gained 30lb of muscle in 2 years with body fat low enough to have visible abs. I still look like a teenager from a boy band. Round shaped head, small button nose, etc. The definition of "aww, cute" not "hot". It's a pain in the neck!
/r/askTRP01/05/16 10:30 PM
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Great article, thanks for sharing your thoughts. When you are not physically alpha by design, eg. short, baby faced, is there any visual way beyond lifting to elicit the sexual attraction described? I lift, but my body is naturally boyish - think Bieber - rather than masculine - think Hugh Jackman. Tried using facial hair to up the masculinity and ended up looking like a 12 year old trying to grow a beard. Not sure if it's best to embrace that boyish stereotype and be an attractive version of it…
/r/TheRedPill01/05/16 09:41 PM
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If you're unsure, only hold her hand to lead her somewhere. If you're holding hands and she's walking slightly ahead of you you've got a problem.
/r/askTRP18/04/16 09:59 PM
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If you're starting in the gym for the first time, your body will easily burn fat and build muscle for a good while. Eat clean, eat a few hundred calories below maintenance (google search a TDEE calculator), and work out consistently. Take a photo first thing in the morning in the bathroom mirror on Day 1. Do the same thing on Day 60. Compare the two and bask in your accomplishment. Now imagine how good you're going to look by Day 90. I would suggest the StrongLifts programme for a beginner. Pay …
/r/askTRP18/04/16 09:52 PM
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Don't reply. You're a busy man and she's just in her own little world OMG'ing about how hard you are to read. She just happens to be texting you while she does it. Ignore her and do something else and she'll text you again soon.
/r/askTRP09/04/16 09:10 AM
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Does this work in reverse? Eg. a woman who once knew you as blue-pill meets the new red-pill version of you, feels attraction, and feels like she "always" felt that way about you "deep down"? Or is it a case of once a blooper always a blooper in her mind?
/r/TheRedPill29/03/16 09:16 AM
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If you're going bald, shave your head. Better to look like you've chosen a particular style than are clinging to your last bit of hair for dear life. Wear sun cream every day but make sure to take Vitamin D as a supplement then. Check yourself for nose hair creeping out of the nostril, ear hair, uni-brow growth and get rid of them.
/r/TheRedPill15/03/16 11:11 AM
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We have no idea what you currently look like, so it's impossible to give you an accurate answer. As a general rule given your goals I'd say keep cutting until you don't have a gut but don't worry about getting a defined six pack or anything. Get that stomach relatively flat and then bulk slowly.
/r/askTRP11/03/16 11:07 AM
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Could you post a link to your subreddit please? Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill08/03/16 09:20 PM
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If he wants to practice talking to people, he could also start with people who are paid to talk to him. Chat to the clerk in a shoe store while you're trying on a pair of shoes. Talk to the barman in your local pub if it's quiet and he's not busy. Ask your waitress what she'd recommend for desert and then talk to her about how nice it was after you've eaten it.
/r/askTRP10/02/16 03:59 PM
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Your emotional (anger) reaction to them is actually giving them a lot of importance. If they truly weren't important to you, you'd think nothing of them. Keep digesting the Red Pill and we will both get there in time!
/r/askTRP26/11/15 06:02 PM
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I struggle with same thing OP. It is definitely beta thinking / social anxiety in action. What helps me is to slow down. Way down. As if this is the first time you've ever seen the area in which you're walking. Slow down and relax, and look around you at the buildings, the architecture. Not the people who are walking towards you. In my experience, they will move out of your way far more often. If they don't, and you come face to face, just stop. Right in front of them. You'll both have a "Oh - t…
/r/askTRP26/11/15 05:22 PM
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