thedancingbear Archive

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2	[FR] 3 dates. start kino on second, kiss her on third, writes me she doesn't want me to get false hopes up after A few observations: Talking for 40 minutes straight at a party actually strikes me as excessive. At least if it's the first 40. You might create more interest by breaking it up into chunks or varying it: talk to her for fifteen minutes, then excuse yourself to do something (grab a drink, use the bathroom, say hi to someone else), but direct her as follows. "Hey—you're not leaving anytime soon, right?" ("TEHE NO. WAI?") "Good. I've got to say hi to that guy over there. But [insert here a witty re…	/r/seduction	15/07/13 02:59 AM
8	Should I ask her to be my girlfriend or wait for her to bring it up? Never bring it up. Just do your thing and she'll push you in that direction eventually.	/r/seduction	19/05/13 09:08 PM
23	How do you get girls to notice you? Not necessarily in a good way, but just to look up and make eye contact in the first place. Short answer: Get them to notice you by opening your mouth and talking. People generally look up and make eye contact when this happens. Long answer, plus story: Beautiful women are awash in a sea of male attention. Every straight guy they walk past has been trying to get them to "look up and make eye contact" since they were sixteen years old. If you wait for one of them to look up at you, you might be waiting a long time, because all of those attempts to grab their gaze just fade away into a b…	/r/seduction	25/08/12 11:18 PM
1	I've heard too many stories about people who regret dating a girl who they immediately fell for freshman year... question inside If you meet a girl and you think she's gorgeous, then you should do three things: Be honest and kind to her, Make her laugh, and Make her cum. There are a lot of things that aren't on the list above that you'll be tempted to do, like "forswear all other women from now until eternity." But the list above is really what you need. The tricky one is the first one; it's sometimes hard to know what the truly (as opposed to superficially) kind thing to do is. But you will never figure it out if your he…	/r/seduction	19/08/12 06:02 AM
8	First [FR] with an HB7 that gave me her number at work. First time out alone too. Sounds like a fun time. One note about this: IMO girls find silence somewhat boring, so don't be boring. Sometimes silence is boring and sometimes it isn't.	/r/seduction	19/08/12 01:36 AM
4	Blowjobs, do they happen? There's a poster below who's on to something, which is that the greater the perceived difference in social value, the greater the frequency. If a girl thinks she's got to work to keep you, then she'll put in more effort, and this is a form of effort that women (correctly) think most guys are into. Conversely, a guy who thinks he's really lucky to have landed a certain girl will try and do more to make her happy; men tend not to express this as eating pussy (though it's certainly not a bad idea),…	/r/seduction	09/06/12 03:06 PM
1	for all you guys worried about going out solo, DONT BE :) Yo, I'm from dc. I live in Columbia Heights. you?	/r/seduction	14/04/12 11:39 PM
1	[FR] First FR, cock blocked, first cold approach ever, weird night overall. I agree, but I think it makes sense in groups only. Asking three people how they know each other is a good way to keep chatting up the whole group, and it also gives you information that you need: if the girl you want to talk to is married to the guy standing next to her, that's probably information you want to have, right? (I'm not saying you have to eject then and there; I'm just saying it's relevant.) By contrast, a person standing alone being interrogated about an absent third party is just …	/r/seduction	20/12/11 01:07 AM
17	[FR] First FR, cock blocked, first cold approach ever, weird night overall. The widely-believed stereotype is that girls enjoy commenting on relationships. There's some truth to this and, in my experience, women do find the topic of human relationships more intuitively interesting than men do. Think of the last time you overheard a couple of girls talking amongst themselves; they're, as often as not, dissecting some facet of their relational lives, right?* So in this vein, there are many classic examples, all of which are fine: do drunk I-love-yous count? My friend has …	/r/seduction	18/12/11 08:54 AM
19	[FR] First FR, cock blocked, first cold approach ever, weird night overall. First, good job on at least caring enough to try and get better. Cold approaches are not easy and while failure is never fun, it is more important that you sincerely want to get better, which it sounds like you do. To me it sounds like what you need are some basic conversational skills. Based on your story, you're still learning the fundamentals, so let's go through them. You did nothing to make this Russian girl interested in you or feel attracted to you. You asked her how she knew the host of …	/r/seduction	18/12/11 04:04 AM
2	[FR] New to Seduction, first time out. Props to Seddit for some good advice. I agree about the better response. The simplest one is just "models." Don't worry too much about the details. You shoot models, right? So it's true. Okay, so you shoot other stuff too: who gives a shit. Not her. Keep it direct, simple, fewer words.	/r/seduction	03/12/10 10:34 PM
15	[FR] New to Seduction, first time out. Props to Seddit for some good advice. This smash hit of a first time out illustrates two principles that shouldn't be ignored: Nothing---nothing---beats social proof. Your status was through the roof without having to do anything and so you were basically nine-tenths done from the get go. All girls---all---love photography and photographers. I was a semi-professional model photographer for a while when I was younger and it's just crazy. I cannot explain this. I cannot quantify it. But I know it to be true. Given that it turns out th…	/r/seduction	03/12/10 02:36 PM
37	"I have a boyfriend" responses [feel free to add your own] I find that women rarely actually say this, but when they do, my response is always the same: "Cool. So does my girlfriend." If she really does have a boyfriend, it's face saving. You can continue to talk amicably for a few minutes and then leave the conversation gracefully, and leave a positive impression. If she was lying/kidding and doesn't, then the response is cheeky enough that she'll assume/hope (same diff) that you were kidding too. Sometimes, you'll get the "LOLOL I was just kidding" wh…	/r/seduction	01/12/10 03:54 AM