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thedessertplanet/r/seduction02/05/17 09:47 PM
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Again, no augment from me. Even more: Online dating can work well enough for a person, and yet offline can work even better.
/r/seduction13/08/20 03:44 AM
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No argument from me there. Those two statements don't contradict.
/r/seduction12/08/20 01:37 PM
3

Online dating works, if you can get yourself some good looking profile pictures.
/r/seduction12/08/20 12:46 PM
1

Practice makes perfect. Practice failing, too.
/r/seduction12/08/20 12:45 PM
1

Don't sweat it. Just keeping find in general is already better then average.
/r/seduction12/08/20 12:42 PM
1

You could still send them pictures. Or make a throwaway account and post in the first impressions subreddit or so.
/r/seduction11/08/20 06:35 PM
1

Makes sense. Though you should check in with an independent third party on this every once in a while. It's easy to get deceived about the proportions of your own body over time.
/r/seduction11/08/20 09:27 AM
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Indirectly. They love a nice ass.band perhaps broad shoulders.
/r/seduction11/08/20 08:59 AM
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Might be an age thing?
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:38 PM
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Just don't comb it over.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:37 PM
5

They care for your squats and deadlifts instead.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:34 PM
5

Getting into shape is one way to make yourself look more decent.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:33 PM
3

The right bodyweight exercise also helps. But weightlifting is just the most straightforward.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:32 PM
6

There's a lot of other options outside of 'lost some weight' and 'jacked'.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:30 PM
1

If you want to impress people other than yourself, focus on a nicer butt more than bigger arms. Arms might seem more important to yourself, because you can see them in the mirror.
/r/seduction07/08/20 11:28 PM
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Agreed. And that package is not necessarily the same for different people. There's multiple great personalities. Dogs do a good job of having some aspects of a great personality. I don't mean their subservience; so picture of the neighbour's dog playing with you and not your own dog: Dogs are usually genuinely happy to see you and make you feel better about yourself.
/r/seduction13/05/20 01:21 AM
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They like both. And different people like different things. Drive is not only good to make money, but also to gain status. Both are useful and attractive.
/r/seduction12/05/20 04:20 PM
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Feel free to fake it until you make it. Oh, and even successful and driven people want to waste some time every once in a while. And you don't magically stop being a nerd on reddit, just because you make the big bucks now and hit the gym a bit.
/r/seduction12/05/20 04:16 PM
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Actually, there are people with uncommonly great personalities. But yeah, there are uncommon. And more likely to be attractive in other ways as well. Just because positive qualities tend to clump together.
/r/seduction12/05/20 04:15 PM
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You are young, so play for the long run. Get your body in shape. Get your career on track. Get comfortable in your own skin. Learn to play an instrument, guitar works well. At your age, getting your career on track probably means to pay enough attention in school. This one is the longest term project right now. There's lots of fitness related subreddits to help you pick a workout programme. There's lot of beginner music stuff online. There's even explicit guides to 'learn enough guitar to get la…
/r/seduction12/05/20 04:10 PM
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Approach might work, not sure. But don't tell them exactly what to say..
/r/seduction23/03/19 05:32 PM
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You might want to speak to a properly trained therapist about your anxiety etc.
/r/seduction18/03/19 04:20 PM
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Sandworms, duh.. Or do you mean the conflict in the movie?
/r/seduction17/03/19 03:41 PM
1

Spirited Away is better for immersion.
/r/seduction17/03/19 03:40 PM
1

Where do you live? How interested are you in actually changing things up? Eg moving to a place with different demographics can make a world of a difference, but lots of people are not prepared to do so.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:19 AM
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Well, cut your losses, don't be a jerk, and try again next time? (With same woman, second date; or with a different one.)
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:15 AM
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Of course, keep in mind that what people say and what people do are different things.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:13 AM
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See, it was easy. :)
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:12 AM
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I like bragging as much as the next guy, and you really want to listen to it?
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:11 AM
2

Practice proper technique, and don't be afraid to lift heavy shit. And don't worry about not getting everything right the first time. Progress is the key. ​ Most people are barbell clubs are nice and happy to help.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:10 AM
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Though you might want to adjust from clubs to other venues at some point.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:09 AM
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You seem perhaps a bit depressed or worse. ​ Don't worry about becoming 'normal'. But do get your life in order. Do start exercising more. It makes you both more attractive in body and helps most people with their mental health. ​ Kinks are fine, and there are lots of women with compatible kinks. Just read up on how to handle this. (At the minimum, learn about safewords.) And do get comfortable about broaching the subject. Easier said than done, though.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:03 AM
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Practice a few (or even one) dish really well.
/r/seduction17/03/19 09:00 AM
3

The world is bigger than your school.
/r/seduction17/03/19 08:59 AM
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Odds for illustration only.
/r/seduction17/03/19 08:58 AM
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I though the movie was based off Modafinil? ​ Fortunately, Modafinil is not as antisocial. But also not as great as NZT.
/r/seduction17/03/19 08:54 AM
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Limitless was fun to watch, but the protagonist is still a bit stupid and doesn't understand compound growth. ​ If he can double a thousand dollars every few days, he doesn't need to borrow 100k from the mafia. Just have patience. 10 doublings is a factor of 1024.
/r/seduction17/03/19 07:55 AM
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Perhaps just find a different hobby for a while?
/r/seduction04/05/18 04:23 PM
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No good experiences there. But back then I was too awkward to know what I was doing. Hey, you are gonna go through with this sooner or later anyway. The only question is how many more weeks of awkwardly working up the courage you'll need. So don't fret about the social impact too much. The dice have been cast already.
/r/seduction04/04/18 10:18 AM
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Just make your move then. Best of luck. By the way, don't just randomly place a kiss without warning..
/r/seduction04/04/18 10:05 AM
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That's where the other part of 'make a move, don't creep around' comes in. Not sure whether it's too late awkward for you now. Has she sent any indications of interest? Have you done any one-on-one activities? (As a simple test as well, is she comfortable drinking from the same bottle / cup? If not, chances are slim she's otherwise happy to share bodily fluids.)
/r/seduction04/04/18 01:23 AM
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Don't know. Plenty of horny girls online. Some gold diggers as well. Some lonely womeny too. It's not all one motivation.
/r/seduction02/04/18 03:43 AM
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You don't need your biceps for squats and jumping exercises. Girls care about your ass much more than about your upper arms. (Nice shoulders and strong forearms seem appreciated, though.) I guess there's not much you can do about balding other than 'wear it proudly'. Have you shaven the rest off? Lots of sexy bald guys around you can model yourself after.
/r/seduction02/04/18 03:43 AM
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Link?
/r/seduction02/04/18 03:40 AM
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Sorry, typo. Edited that. See new version.
/r/seduction01/04/18 03:14 AM
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Just get it over with. Make a brave attempt and get your yes or no. If it's a no, move on. (Unless clearly explicitly encouraged to try again later.) If it's a yes, just go with the flow. Little hint: if they are willing to drink from the same bottle or cup or otherwise share food with same fork etc, chances are they are ok with kissing.
/r/seduction01/04/18 03:11 AM
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Nothing. Just lead in the rest. By the time you are both naked she's hopefully already into you and willing to cut you some slack.
/r/seduction01/04/18 03:08 AM
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Porn is a terrible way to learn. It's made to look good, not to be comfortable or feel good. If you feel more secure lying, then lie (or just don't bring that topic up and redirect if it does.) Some girls might find it cute, but more when they get the impression that your are just too shy or so, not because they think you tried hard but never scored.
/r/seduction01/04/18 03:06 AM
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You just have to look good in a few pictures. Learn how to groom and how to get good pictures. It's neither trivial nor rocket science. Location helps a lot as well.
/r/seduction01/04/18 03:04 AM
4

Fortune favours the bold.
/r/seduction19/03/18 12:32 AM
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In general and on average: asking once straight out and getting your yes or no (or number or not) is far better than creeping around endlessly.
/r/seduction18/03/18 03:16 PM
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Perhaps. But I don't mind age, as long as she's fit.
/r/seduction18/03/18 03:13 PM
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How's that work? Heterosexual divorces create the same number of single men as women. In any case, extra women in eg their thirties will keep your male competition busy, even if you insist on the young.
/r/seduction18/03/18 04:25 AM
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Read the FAQ?
/r/seduction17/03/18 06:56 PM
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And that's why getting your earning power up is good for your game.
/r/seduction17/03/18 06:53 PM
2

I hope you remember bits from the wide-ranging conversation. With a dirty / creative enough mind you can certainly work some innuendo into referring some of them. If she doesn't pick up on what you want, don't keep pressing it---that might just make you look creepy. In those cases it's best to be bold once and flat out ask and get a no and then accepts the answer. (Or get a yes.)
/r/seduction17/03/18 06:52 PM
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New York has a favourable gender ratio for men in the relevant age groups. (You don't sound like an idiot.)
/r/seduction17/03/18 06:49 PM
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Standard advice for this situation: ambiguity and plausible deniability are your friends. You'll notice quickly whether she picks up on that kind of flirting. (Also, the ADHD should increase your chances: people with ADHD are much more likely to look for sexual novelty.)
/r/seduction17/03/18 05:58 PM
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Different strokes for different folks.
/r/seduction17/03/18 05:54 PM
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Seconded. Also, if you are white, you should have a good reception in China and they will let yo get away with lots of 'weird' behaviour. Do be open to all people.
/r/seduction17/03/18 05:51 PM
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There are more women than men in NYC. You are really helping out with a shortage here and should feel good about doing your part for the greater good! See https://nypost.com/2015/08/25/hey-ladies-here-are-8-reasons-youre-single/ (Btw, if you are a white guy, East and South-East Asia also has a pretty high demand for you.)
/r/seduction17/03/18 05:22 PM
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https://de.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Deutsch-franz%C3%B6sische_Erbfeindschaft
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:44 PM
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Der Erbfeind?
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:39 PM
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Haha, sounds like you are getting into the spirit of things. Don't expect too much though. (But please do report on results.)
/r/seduction10/10/17 12:48 PM
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Never heard that to be honest. But most Germans I know are fairly anglophile.
/r/seduction10/10/17 12:47 PM
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Being in shape and wearing decent clothes that fit well is a big part of the two rules you mention..
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:36 AM
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Single rose. Cheaper and more romantic. Or pick a flower on the spot!
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:34 AM
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I'm short for people in my country. It's just like playing on a game on hard mode. It's a disadvantage but one you can make up for in other areas.
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:33 AM
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If it's just sex you are after, and your parents won't allow girls, have you considered changing your orientation? ;-)
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:30 AM
1

Just send something, if you have to. But then leave it at that. More than two messages hair gets creepy. I actually prefer email, and wish more people would use it.
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:29 AM
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You never know until you try. Just move in a way to give her a clear way out. I'd say play up the hopelessly-romantic angle of this. Bring a candle or so?
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:27 AM
1

Fix the fundamentals. Are you yourself somebody you would want to pickup? Hit the gym for squats and deadlifts. Not only will you look better, the hormones involved will make you much more assertive. (Takes at least a few weeks to some months.) /r/fitness is as good a place to get started as any.
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:25 AM
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Squats and deadlifts. Girls like butts. (And backs and forearms.)
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:22 AM
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Yeah. He's overanxious about this. One piece of advice: if you want to make a move, be bold and do it relatively quickly at the beginning. Don't creep around. If you get a clear rebuke, lay it off and go into friend-mode afterwards. Woman seem to react well to someone who has the guts. And she's clearly giving you permission to make your 'offer' here. Just be aware that you are both still evaluating each other, and it's just a permission for you to make a move but not automatic acceptance. (She'…
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:20 AM
1

Seems like you need to practice your wingman pickup skills?
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:14 AM
2

Depends on tone and context.
/r/seduction10/10/17 10:12 AM
8

The Brits sometimes call the Germans Huns. It's a bit of an insult. (In your case it's short for honey, though.)
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:14 AM
2

Earn lots of money. Hit the gym. Same advice as for most other situations.
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:12 AM
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Women don't care that much about those muscles you can see in the mirror and obsess about. In my experience they do care a lot about your butt. Forearms and a strong back don't hurt, either. Never skip your squats and deadlifts. Everyday is leg day.
/r/seduction10/10/17 01:11 AM
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Gets better with experience. Just force yourself to practice.
/r/seduction01/10/17 02:02 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/6bscf4/my_super_funny_tinder_story
/r/seduction19/05/17 04:45 PM
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Hence my careful wording.
/r/seduction19/05/17 01:56 PM
1

About books, lots of people like Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.
/r/seduction19/05/17 01:03 PM
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Hobbies where you meet people not already in your social circle. Latin, swing, ballroom, salsa etc dancing is one of them. But even stuff like rock climbing works. Or knitting, if you feel manly enough to pull it off. (You gotta actually develop an interest. It can be fun!) There's tons of knit nights.
/r/seduction19/05/17 01:01 PM
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Some women like it, some don't. That's what OP means by filtering out. (See the recent post by the dude who changes his tinder picture to a dick pic: the women who still matched with him were dtf.)
/r/seduction19/05/17 11:12 AM
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Yes, but people don't know that, so the non-jerks err on the side of politeness.
/r/seduction19/05/17 11:09 AM
3

Have you tried finding some social hobbies?
/r/seduction19/05/17 11:08 AM
1

Eastern European in the UK?
/r/seduction19/05/17 01:03 AM
1

Are you sure? I wouldn't bet against there being a subreddit for discipline. Anyway, seconding your two suggestions!
/r/seduction19/05/17 01:02 AM
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Plus get a good career to earn the big bucks. Will take a while but will pay off.
/r/seduction19/05/17 12:56 AM
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Try it out, and see how it goes. There's of course big random variances.
/r/seduction18/05/17 03:14 PM
1

Don't think you need to smile. Didn't the OKCupid blog write something about that? Doing something fun or interesting is probably good.
/r/seduction18/05/17 03:13 PM
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Not that funny.. But you learned the importance of making your audience self-select. You can use the same principle, but without the risk of getting yourself bannes, if you are more clever about it. (Did you ever meet anyone?)
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:39 AM
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Happens to me, too. Just shrug it off and keep practicing. Don't dwell too long on the texting, if your goal is to date women in the flesh---you just proved to yourself that texting 'success' doesn't translate directly to the other kind. (If you enjoy talking to people via text for its own sake, keep doing it. Just don't kid yourself thinking that it gives you any extra advantages.)
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:30 AM
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First rule: have an attractive profile picture. (In case you start the texting from connecting first online.)
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:24 AM
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Check out /r/sales sidebar for their list of recommendations. If you can sell life insurance, you can probably sell yourself.
/r/seduction18/05/17 09:21 AM
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No man's an island and all that. If they already like you, they'll probably see opening up like that as a sign of strength and comfort in your skin.
/r/seduction07/05/17 10:14 AM
0

Seduce them with your wiggling butt then, not your nice face. Butterface style. Though, yes, there's not too much you can do about your face, unless you want to get into make-up. Slimming down and hitting the gym will help define your jawline, one of the most important manly features.
/r/seduction07/05/17 10:12 AM
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If clubs don't work for you, perhaps try something else somewhere else? Otherwise, keep practicing?
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:26 PM
1

Standard fare. Get your life in order. Hit the gym. Make sure your career is on track. Look in /r/malefashionadvice or similar for how to upgrade your wardrobe. Get a nice haircut and learn how to groom. Find some hobbies you actually like. There's probably more. But those are the basics.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:25 PM
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Also look at /r/sales. Seduction and sales use essentially the same skills.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:21 PM
1

Don't overthink. Make a guess and act on it. There are more women around.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:20 PM
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Of course, if she doesn't want the kiss, she'll let you know anyway. Women seem much more understanding and even appreciating an honest approach once, even if they reject it, than endless creeping about. By putting yourself in a position where clear rejection is a possibility, you are showing strength.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:19 PM
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Can't really tell from your description whether it's much of a problem. But why don't you just run some experiments? Try to hold your tongue back for a week, and see how it goes? By the way, I'm your height and got over it eventually. It's just like playing on hard mode.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:16 PM
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Move countries? Or use internet dating sites or apps?
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:12 PM
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Good job on the fitness. Make sure your career is on track, too.
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:11 PM
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It sounds like you have a weird definition of 'fun'? You don't need to go to clubs and bars. Just do things you enjoy and that are somewhat social, and that the kind of women you like are into, too. (Eg rock climbing works well.) If you can develop an interest in knitting or most other handicrafts, you'll have your pick: knit nights are full of women and almost no guys. (Don't fake it though, or at least fake your interest well.)
/r/seduction06/05/17 11:07 PM
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The answer that /r/askwomen gave was "rolled up sleeves revealing muscular forearms".
/r/seduction06/05/17 10:57 PM
0

Hit the gym.
/r/seduction06/05/17 10:56 PM
1

What's wrong about having two degrees? Academics need love, too.
/r/seduction04/05/17 11:08 PM
1

Nothing nearly so dramatic as your situation. I also have ADHD---but only got that diagnosed last year when I was thirty. So reasonably functional---even though I had my problems with inattentiveness. No social anxiety, but I was a major misfit in high school, and far below potential academically. And yes, I'm somewhat weird as well socially. Though being socially oblivious doesn't have only downsides---can sometimes allow you to be more courageous just from the power of ignorance. Are you getti…
/r/seduction20/04/17 10:03 PM
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Are you feeling better now? Getting girls to like you feels great. And getting your life in order is the most important first step. Alas, I don't know if my example has anything learnable: I got massively more attention after I moved continents to a big city (Singapore), and upgraded my income to become pretty well-off. Weightlifting probably also helped. Can write a bit more, if you want.
/r/seduction20/04/17 07:49 PM
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Take it easy, and avoid developing one-itis.
/r/seduction20/04/17 07:08 PM
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I don't know for sure. Try a few things and see what works. Being a bit awkward is fine, and can be charming. Just if you want to make an advance, don't creep around for too long. Women in general seem to be fine with a proper advance, as long as you leave them alone afterwards if they are not interested. Creeping around without ever risking a clear rejection is the worst.
/r/seduction20/04/17 06:48 PM
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You can read the Economist online. Will make you smart and look smart. (But perhaps also out of touch with your target audience.)
/r/seduction20/04/17 04:16 PM
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Yeah. Just imagine the opposite: bisexuals couldn't have any just-friends.. which seems absurd.
/r/seduction20/04/17 04:14 PM
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Yeah. That seems like the decent human response. If you want to be brazen without interrupting her, write a short opener on a random business card, and just hand it to her without talking. Might just work because it's so unusual. Something simple like "Hey, you caught my eye. Want to have a coffee after you are done?" To pull it off, I'd say make eye contact first, then pull back and find a flat surface where she can see you to put your business card while you scribble on your random business ca…
/r/seduction20/04/17 04:12 PM
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I'd advice against it. But if you have to, start with eye contact.
/r/seduction20/04/17 02:33 AM
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Hit the gym, get a good haircut, dress well, and get better pictures.
/r/seduction20/04/17 12:35 AM
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Don't worry about having female friends, it's perfectly normal, and there doesn't have to be any romantic or sexual attraction. Just treat them like you would treat your sister.
/r/seduction20/04/17 12:31 AM
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Yes. Though some fields are much easier to make good money in than others. To give one example: a mediocre programmer can make good money without much struggle nor talent. Even a really good writer or painter will often struggle. Of course, one has to do what makes one happy. For example, I don't think I would be a good banker, no matter how much money there would be in that field.
/r/seduction12/04/17 11:19 AM
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Yes. Though it might be even more important to avoid getting into too-drunken sex in the first place.
/r/seduction10/04/17 07:21 PM
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Don't pass out. Stay a little more sober than the rest, is probably best.
/r/seduction10/04/17 12:36 PM
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Not much money in them fields, though.
/r/seduction10/04/17 12:35 PM
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Don't know, depends on who you want to meet. I don't like night clubs at all, so I wouldn't want to meet anybody who likes to frequent them. But you might have different tastes. Rock climbing (even in indoor gym) is great for meeting people and as an activity has lots of low barrier friendly interactions build in. (And you get to stare at people's butts as they climb up the wall to "admire their form" all day with no one finding that the least bit creepy.) OkCupid and Tinder work well in New Yor…
/r/seduction09/04/17 01:06 AM
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NYC.
/r/seduction09/04/17 12:53 AM
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