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79

It’s beyond silly. ‘If he wanted to, he would’ cuts both ways, even in heterosexual relationships. You should mirror the effort someone puts in and not under or over-compensate. Plenty of people have mental or physical illnesses and can put it in the time and effort when they meet someone & WANT to. It’s very simple advice and has saved me so much time & heartache over the years. If someone wants to be with me, I’m here. If he’s too busy, chooses to be with someone else, is sick, lives somewhere…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/22 04:43 PM
5

Go outside and meet more girls. Looks, money and status aren’t the glue that hold relationships together. Plenty of people want companionship, loyalty, kindness and attraction in their relationships
/r/ExRedPill06/07/22 01:01 PM
98

Not just trying to make you feel better but I just stumbled on a sub that beggars belief r/Waiting_To_Wed it’s a small sub but it’s pretty active and the stories the women tell (it’s 100% all women dating men) are very sobering. You may have wasted time but at least you aren’t expecting a ring every time a man goes out on a hike with you. It’s like a forever GF graveyard
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 03:07 AM
66

Yeah, I read the article and it was basically an ad for Tinder. Plus she’s twice divorced!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:21 PM
71

What if you don’t want a LDR? I’m allergic to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/22 02:17 PM
2

I have to agree. Staying ‘friends’ with an ex for me means wishing them well but always keeping them at some distance. Not as a punishment, but for my own peace of mind. I love with passion and real devotion when I do, and it’s not appropriate to bring that energy into something that becomes a friendship. Plus, you don’t get the same access to me as you did when we were together.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:34 AM
10

I keep some too! And always have an eye on the expiry date
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/22 10:26 AM
33

Absolutely - they can present as well-travelled, curious about your culture/keen to be ‘respectful’ yet have a known history of repeatedly dating women / makes comments about how he only likes a ‘certain’ type of woman. It’s creepy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/22 07:10 PM
8

Also, even if OP did date him, he would do the same thing to her: find another woman to write letters and songs and soppy texts to, as soon as the gloss comes off her relationship with him. He’s a walking red flag.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:07 AM
10

I have to agree with karma! OP, I was like you when I was younger, getting emotionally involved with men who were unhappy in their relationships (or so they told me, they were never unhappy enough to leave at that point!) and I completely believed that they would then be free to date me, happily ever after. It never happened. All I did was notch up some bad karma for myself and eventually when I met someone (years later), at least two women openly had designs on him. It felt horrible. One of tho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 10:00 AM
200

Exactly why I don’t follow strangers on Instagram!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:27 AM
50

Honestly, the LVM flags are waving here. He has messed both you and his girlfriend around. An emotional affair is not okay, nor is constant indecision and flip-flopping. I’ve been in your situation before and you’re being used. What he gets from her (sex, security) and from you (emotional validation) cannot combine to form one solid relationship. He’s having his cake and eating it too. Block him everywhere and focus on you. This really is the oldest trick in the book. If he was ever going to lea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/21 08:18 AM
6

This happened to me and I’m so glad I also hit the block & delete. It hurt and I cried about it at the time but now I see how strong I was to put myself first. I’m not the menu at Taco Bell, you can’t come and pick what you want whenever you feel like it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:42 PM
2

It’s a red flag for me now. I have the same rule for men as I do for myself - adequate time between breakups to heal. Anything else is reaching for the monkey branch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:39 PM
69

It’s so sad. Of course he doesn’t want to give up all the girlfriend benefits without the work. She’s emotionally supporting him and most likely not dating anyone else because she’s stuck on him. He has no empathy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:34 PM
35

I agree with this completely. It might hurt your feelings to accept it, but someone will make it happen when they want to talk to you. Whether they’re up a mountain, overseas or working on an oil rig… if they want to communicate with you, they’ll figure it out. A man who isn’t making the effort just doesn’t want to. And that’s his problem, that only remains yours if you choose to connect his actions to your self-worth. There’s better out there, for all of us
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:31 PM
87

Moving in with a man lets him pretend that he’s stepping up the commitment in a good way. Never forget the total advantages he gets - 50/50 rent, someone to cook and pick up after him and remind him to go to the doctor, sex on demand… that’s all way more compelling and he gets to look like he’s ‘serious’ about you too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 10:22 PM
6

F23, M49… I stopped right there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:42 PM
14

It also asks the woman to be dishonest about her wants and needs, in the hope of ‘finally’ getting the man. If he’s talking about ‘don’t want anything serious’ then that’s your cue to leave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:37 PM
9

This is so true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:34 PM
87

A lot of women are damaged by their upbringings and other experiences. I grew up in a two-parent household with my siblings but my dad worked so much that he was never there during the day and asleep whenever he was. The result was a lot of emotional neglect and I’ve had years of therapy but men who are emotionally unavailable are drawn to me like catnip
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:26 PM
15

They’re projecting. I’ve had relationships, a healthy sex life, been out on dates and been attracted to men before. They can’t say the same about women so it’s easier to give us a label that’s better suited for themselves. I don’t hate every man out there - I’ve just become more clued in to game. Plus, nowhere in incel life are you told to take care of yourself and level up, build stronger friendships, save money, have a range of hobbies and focus on your career. They’re angry but we’re actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 12:17 PM
71

I’m always on guard when a stranger compliments me in public (it has probably happened a handful of times in my adult life) because I don’t know what they want. I’m a lot less wary when it’s a woman with a passing compliment because I know she’s probably not trying to make conversation or chat me up… which has happened with men, ones who move past boundaries too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 10:53 PM
13

I remember my newly married sister suggesting I meet her new husband’s friend. Who was described as someone who takes no notice of the environment around him and never cleans. Also relevant: high paying job but spent his time off on a road trip with a woman he told everyone was ‘just a friend’. I remember my sister saying that I should give him a chance and that he probably just needed someone to understand him. I’m so glad that I paid no attention - I was in my early twenties and caught up in s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:07 PM
414

How dare she not be grateful for a creepy compliment? Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 04:00 PM
12

Definitely. When I was younger, I thought men being moody meant they were profound, different. All those ways they would show that moodiness (jumping between them, silent treatment etc) made them sensitive. Their issues seemed so deep. Anyway, long story short but I eventually realised that emotional dysregulation as an adult is a choice at a certain point. I have moods too, but I don’t inflict them on partners and expect women to bow down to my anxiety or my Important Relationship Troubles.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:54 AM
1

Do you have a link to the post? I’d be interested to read this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:15 PM
18

She probably was! Emotionally if not physically too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 11:11 PM
5

Takes like this makes me sad because a woman who becomes a single mother takes so much on. Good sex education and access to contraceptives and agency over one’s body are constantly under attack for obvious political reasons. A woman in a position to carefully choose who she has children with is more threatening to some.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:16 PM
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Honestly, I’m surprised at the number of downvotes! If I didn’t make it clear, I’m sure that Nicole was the person who set him on that path to his future success. I’ve done that emotional labour in my relationships before, of helping a man look better and live better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 05:13 PM
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No, not at all! He looks different from how he is in this video now. FWIW Nicole is in a relationship with a hot rugby player and seems happy so she dodged the non-committing bullet in the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 09:11 AM
1

This is fantastic! Well done you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:37 AM
16

Not being friends with your ex is a power move that FDS members should avail themselves of when they can. Cut off the oxygen supply when you break up and reclaim your self. There’s a difference between co-parenting with your ex wife and stringing along a woman via texts for the validation… that’s what a lot of men mean when they talk about being ‘friends’ after the break up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:30 AM
25

She’s always a ‘sister’ unless and until the chance to sleep with her pops up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 11:26 AM
8

The seat up, every time? So annoying
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/21 11:10 PM
18

A financial agreement, depending on where you live, can and should protect you to walk away with the assets you came into the marriage with. I absolutely intend to sign one going into marriage, owning a house. A man who doesn’t understand that isn’t going to be my husband
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:51 PM
10

I think it was Juliette Lewis
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:47 PM
9

Did the interviewer push back on this? He was an alcoholic well before he met Jen Garner
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/21 12:46 PM
2

I read this and I wish you every success. You’ve done amazingly and worked so hard. I’m sorry that this man put you through it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:28 PM
1

Your cat definitely knew something was up! They sense energy on a deep level
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:21 PM
1

Grand opening, grand closing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:18 PM
2

Was it even a wall? More like fell off a cliff
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:16 PM
1

Look up ‘repetition compulsion’ if you haven’t already. It’s all about redoing the same relationship dynamics you grew up with in the hope that you’ll finally fix things and get what you missed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 11:01 PM
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Chasing after men doesn’t interest me any longer. I did that in my early twenties and surprise surprise, it never worked out. I will never make the first move, it’s not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:48 PM
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Anyone who asks for a woman to be ‘independent’ and ‘happy’ bro just get a cactus and read a book about emotional availability
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:26 PM
1

I haven’t even opened the video yet and I’m shivering
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:19 PM
4

Six hours is WAY too long to spend with a stranger, I would be itching to go home even if he was the most interesting, dreamy man I’ve ever met
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 10:15 PM
18

Wow, that was a word. Well said!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 09:03 PM
31

It’s like taking the lid off a garbage can and eating the first thing in there. I deserve better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:02 PM
16

It’s been around that much time for me and it’s like a weight has been lifted. I realised the other day how anxious the whole process could make me, considering the large volume of unavailable men swirling around OLD trying to hoodwink women into casual sex. Not having to wonder whether someone online is being genuine about their interest/looks like their photos etc has freed up so much time and mental space for me. I’m in charge of how I treat myself and I don’t have to cope with men who should…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 04:01 PM
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These answers are disgusting! How about, a woman approaches you (not my personal cup of tea, but some will) because she’s genuinely interested and hopes that you reciprocate? That lack of ability to see women as fully human will keep so many scrotes from potential happiness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:56 PM
2

I’d like to get married. I’m in therapy and exploring some of my own commitment/relationship aversion issues. My parents are still married and have been together for a long time but there is very little affection and romance there from what I can see. I don’t want to get married or have children just to say that I’ve done it, so it’s entirely contingent on meeting someone I want such a close, committed partnership with. I like the idea but I know that the reality can hurt women, especially when …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/21 03:48 PM
3

It’s not for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 01:04 PM
1

I don’t consider this a loss, if it’s even true to begin with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:44 PM
1

I’d tell 26 year old me to let loose and enjoy things! And don’t slack on skincare and taking care of your body, it’s easier to maintain than regain something you’ve lost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 10:19 PM
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Looks like a future crime scene
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 09:50 PM
4

This is so sad. They’re all climbing the Dr Hobo ladder in perpetuity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:14 PM
2

This is so wild to read. This is a person who loves to create problems and stay in turmoil
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 10:00 PM
1

Sensitive about his own feelings but doesn’t give a monkey’s about yours. You deserve more than a liar and a cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:51 PM
1

You’re doing what you can in a situation that must be really painful. You’re thinking several steps ahead which is strategy, it’s always good to be prepared. The only thing I would add to the list is having a trusted friend or two who can come and pick you up or let you spend the night if needed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 09:48 PM
2

I listened to the audiobook because I thought ‘maybe this has some handy tips’ and I do like self help as a genre, but all of this was… off. Essentially you change your personality entirely and keep manipulating the people around you. To what end, I don’t really know, I can’t imagine it’s successful for most people
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 10:36 AM
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A man once recommended “The 48 Laws of Power” to me (I think that’s what it’s called) and that book is essentially a how-to manual for manipulating people. There are a few books like this that are red flags to me (Machiavelli, Neil Strauss books, even The Art of War), books that men will read instead of… I don’t know, something that would actually improve their lives
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/21 09:58 PM
71

You’re not a disgrace, you’re human. If he’s seeing you as an “evil monster” then I doubt there’s anything there redeemable with this person. Cut contact and pick your dignity up from the floor. If you need to write a letter, write one that you don’t send and rip it up after you get everything out. Begging for a chance from someone who seems to enjoy whatever dramatic scene happens is just… devaluing yourself. I don’t know what either of you did but it doesn’t matter. Apologising for hurting som…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/21 05:54 PM
85

Honestly, the only people who benefit from this mindset are scrotes with avoidant attachment styles. And those men aren’t worth talking to for even a minute, much less being suitable candidates for a long-term love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:41 PM
9

Okay but as I read that I heard him say it in an Oliver Twist voice and shaking a begging bowl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:33 PM
159

It’s absolutely natural to want love and companionship, especially after achieving your own personal goals. Society has really messed us up with how much it pushes individualism and not being ‘emotional’ on us. These desires and urges are biological and perfectly normal. I am not dating right now as I am in recovery and have lots to deal with, but whenever I’m next vetting I’m going to be honest about these things. I’d like to have a family one day and it’s not needy or pathological to say so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 07:30 PM
1

She’s the non threatening version of you who is easier to control. That’s it in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 08:46 PM
43

If you had a chance with me (and as an ex, you certainly did) and blew it… then you’re done. I had a nervous breakdown after my last breakup. What was my ex doing during that time? Well, he clearly had been lining up my replacement behind my back (we were long distance when we broke up) and was transferring his affections to her. That was a few years ago and by all accounts, he is stuck in that relationship, emotionally detached and thinking of leaving this woman he has set up as a forever girlf…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/21 11:03 AM
30

It’s so funny to me whenever a cool girl emerges. Men love to gossip, talk shit, be emotional and treat the women in their lives as objects. My friendships with women have always been deeper, less frustrated and we respect each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 11:09 AM
33

It really is the exception and not the rule. I know one couple where they were casual to begin with (on account of her busy HV job) and as soon as her future husband realised there were feelings, they started dating and (fast forward) are in a long-term committed marriage. But most men are not entertaining FWBs with the idea that they’ll be together. Most of them are trying to hit it and quit it, statistically
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 05:04 PM
23

He didn’t know what hit him!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 04:52 PM
68

It’s already nasty for her now! Imagine earning your wealth from hard work and huge sponsorships and now you’re writing checks so that your rapist and murderer spouse can continue to dodge accountability from the law. And she’s bankrolling his whole life… disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:04 AM
90

He actually recently died in a hit-and-run. By all accounts he was abusive to his wife and whole family so that was a whole car’s worth of karma there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 10:01 AM
16

Please don’t go to someone’s house for a first date again! Or any date unless you are actually dating the person and you are committed to one another. It gives the scrote the upper hand and literally anything can happen to you in there. If someone wants to buy you coffee, make them do it in public and a well-lit place.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/09/21 09:59 AM
1

Good for you! The pain will pass. You deserve someone who’s there for you in person
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:11 PM
25

Sounds absolutely appalling as a prospect. One wrong move and you’ll be homeless
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/21 05:04 PM
28

Thanks for the reminder
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 06:10 PM
60

He’s a successful comedian who has his work on Netflix. He may look like a lifelong nerd but he’s actually popular these days
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:57 PM
63

The wild thing is that he has a lot of female fans and interest from women since he got famous. Olivia had to literally wait for this man to be available
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 04:56 PM
68

Yeah, they won’t care. It also provides some counter-argument to them being victims of pornography
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:39 PM
169

For sure. Therapy and hindsight will do their work. It’s been rumoured that she tied her tubes for John… I’m sure she feels bamboozled, but she’s actually getting the easier deal (she’s single, in her thirties, will presumably get something out of the divorce).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:11 PM
202

It was more than an affair, he was sleeping with strippers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:08 PM
143

I didn’t read the whole article but hopefully they discuss how desensitising it is for these men to watch women be routinely degraded, hurt and exploited. Can’t fathom being addicted to something like that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/21 12:07 PM
123

I find it scary (theoretically, that is) because whatever I could say about men or how low my opinion is of them, never have I ever wanted to or dreamt about torturing them to death. It’s just not in my nature.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 12:27 PM
224

It’s funny that these incel killers wind up using guns on their victims. Way too scared to do what they fantasise about, which was about 3000 words of nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 10:05 AM
54

So scary! Not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/21 09:28 AM
21

I think it’s code for meeting at AA. Which doesn’t recommend you enter into relationships in your first year of recovery…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:37 PM
29

To be fair, I think they were in a toxic relationship. He also dropped the news that his ex wife also went to rehab (for eating disorder and emotional issues) which is a dick move from him. But I’m not surprised they broke up, their relationship appears to have been that of two unwell people who maybe enabled one another’s sickness. Annamarie is definitely better off without this man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:34 PM
3

Most men have a preference on everything and lust after hot woman they’ll will never attain. Just another one of life’s ironies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/21 04:30 PM
1

Scrotery at its finest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 03:45 PM
1

You dodged a bullet, or only caught shards instead of the full thing. He and his ugly beard would run out of there the second you get sick/need him, cancer or no cancer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:12 PM
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Long distance without a mutually agreed upon ending date is a recipe for disaster. Plus life can throw curveballs at you that you’ll wish you could handle with a partner beside you. Two months really isn’t long. I would continue going out with other people and making sure my attention is on my life and what I’m doing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 01:07 PM
49

Genny needs a restraining order!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:36 AM
63

It’s such an understandable thing and how your brain works. I used to feel terrible after thinking obsessively about my ex (I would wake up and it would be the first thing on my mind, ugh). I found that meditation and changing the thought like a radio station (literally replacing the thought when it popped up with a positive affirmation) really helped me. It’s so common to feel haunted by the past especially if you had some great memories. It also helped me to face the thoughts like you’re doing…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/21 06:34 AM
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Oh, I have no doubt that he was good at leading you on! People like him know all the tricks to seem emotionally engaged and into you. There’s nothing you can really do next time but keep vetting and listen to your intuition. If it seems too good to be true, there’s always the chance that you’re being love-bombed by someone too unavailable to know how to be well
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:40 PM
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This happened to me too once. What I learnt was that a man will show you by his behaviour if he’s over his ex and 4 months post-LTR isn’t enough time for most people to heal. This joker was using OP as a pretty obvious rebound and freaked out when he realised that you were serious about getting serious. Plus he waits to leave a relationship that’s already ‘dead’. So you can’t really trust his judgment, red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:31 PM
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He’s wasting your time. That time away from you solidified it. You were probably looking forward to seeing him again while he was making his mind up that he’s not serious about this. My only advice would be to not let yourself indulge too long in (if any) “why me?” thinking. This is all him. If he’s not excited and happy to see you after a few days away then he’s just playing around. I’d stop all contact and block him. It might hurt you but this man was running game. He’s probably doing this to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 08:28 PM
17

That’s hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 07:55 PM
55

If I had a penny for every time someone tried the ‘wow you’re so special’ love bomb early on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 05:53 PM
141

Having lived with a family member who passed away from dementia complications, there’s a certain point where it can be more compassionate to place someone in full-time care. Not to defend this man, but once they don’t recognise you, being around someone with dementia makes them agitated and angry. But dating another woman within a year of your wife being too unwell to be with you is the definition of a rebound
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:28 AM
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scrote voice how dare you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:22 AM
11

That’s wild. He sounds like a tall incel lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 10:21 AM
14

That’s a good point! Acting 37ish when you’re not that age is a flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:40 PM
12

In my early twenties I was hit on by men in their late thirties and they seemed so ‘together’ and ‘mature’ compared to me. In hindsight, they were after me for my youth & naïve self. Anything more than 5 years is a no for me, the generational gap starts to appear
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:39 PM
9

‘I didn’t mean to hurt you’ is such a ridiculous thing that men say. It doesn’t matter what you meant, what matters is what you DID
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/08/21 08:32 PM
8

Good Lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 07:45 PM
5

I mean, it doesn’t even matter who of them is richer. Gigi likely isn’t going to be struggling to rent a new apartment or go to a shelter if she leaves Zayn. She will always be comfortable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 01:08 PM
2

I don’t think that Gigi is richer than Zayn, he made a LOT from 1D. But you’re right, she will always have resources from her own career and her family if she has to be a single mother.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/08/21 08:49 PM
3

He’s guilty of being a douchebag at best… or a murderer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:22 PM
3

I live in London so the apps introduced me to many boat scrotes, luckily I never met any as I prefer to have dates on land 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:19 PM
20

I’m so glad that I never succumbed to a walking date. One time someone tried taking me on one (he promised a great date but had… no plans) and ten minutes later we reached a train station so I said goodbye and dipped… never again
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 05:09 PM
122

It might be true that second marriages can work better, but he’s not describing a marriage… that’s a FWB you live with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/21 09:18 AM
30

There is no excuse and that’s that in a nutshell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 08:45 PM
65

He didn’t text you once in two weeks? I’ve been involved with men who travel a lot and if they want to text you updates because they think it’s important to keep you in the loop… they do so. I’m sure he had one tiny scrap of service and sent a quick text to whomever he wanted. I don’t think you need to read between the lines when it comes to silence. Unless he was in the depths of a rainforest where there truly is no internet at all, not even the dial-up kind, which I doubt. I’d move on because …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:39 PM
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Thanks for the reminder! I’ve come a long way since my second wave feminist days, when the books said to chase a guy into the 21st century… Any man who can’t make the first move won’t get anything from me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/21 07:35 PM
9

I agree with this so much! The idea that you have to pursue or be pursued… we aren’t animals in the wild. My peace of mind has been so much more beneficial to me when I stopped chasing men and just matched their energy. If you’re playing games with me, you’re disqualified
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:48 PM
1

The idea that a reversible legal decision is more commitment than combining your DNA with someone else’s and creating a lifelong responsibility and bond between you… hustling backwards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 09:44 PM
12

This video is so funny because he’s announcing to every woman out there that he’s not worth dating or spending any time on at all. Talk about being your own cockblock
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/21 10:21 AM
9

Wow that’s beyond disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/21 11:10 AM
32

Considering all the details that came out of the Depp trial I think she dodged a bullet! Elon would be the second man in her life trying to control her with his money and status
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:57 PM
41

The epitome of ‘if he wanted to, he would’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 11:56 PM
4

At some point, I just reached ‘the moment’. You know the one. It’s when your first date unexpectedly burps in the middle of eating and doesn’t apologise, or similar. When you’re turned off forever. Granted, it’s harder to feel that way when you’re emotionally attached to somebody but I have always reached the point of self-preservation. Maybe it was my own clown behaviour that led me there, but that intuitive feeling when I’m being spoken down to, gaslit and have tried with my best efforts to ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:30 PM
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I wonder if he was like this with Amber Heard. He paid for her lawyers in the Depp defamation trial. Not saying that’s good but he clearly spends the money when he wants to, yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/21 04:23 PM
8

The bar is in Hell
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 01:28 PM
19

Mine was luckily done by one nurse but it was really confronting and kind of painful to have it ripped out. I can only imagine what it would feel like to have an UNtrained man try
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:36 AM
16

I’m sorry, what????
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 08:34 AM
3

You want hairless, try a Sphynx cat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 09:29 AM
15

Oh definitely
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 09:52 PM
108

Ted Bundy was ugly as sin! And as a victim of an abusive household he became a perpetrator against young girls and animals very young. He had no redeeming qualities at all
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:14 PM
36

Hilarious but too true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:09 PM
16

Men who ghost can stay gone. I just block them and go on living my life now, they’re like energy vampires who want you to feel bad. Fuck that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:43 AM
68

He looks like he’s been choked out himself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 10:36 AM
9

If they had really wanted kids, they would’ve found a way to have them! 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:34 PM
4

Bitter, ugly and high-maintenance. I know that I’m not ugly (judging by conventional standards) and that in fact I’m beautiful. It’s one of those words men use with contempt to try and break you down when you don’t want them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 11:06 AM
38

I was once in a cafe before heading back to the office (pre-COVID) and next to me there was a man having a meeting with a recruiter. I would’ve placed him at a hard 45 (balding, beer belly, face that has clearly never seen a lick of SPF) so I was amazed to hear him talk about being 23. Woof
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 09:37 AM
46

I’m so confused when 40+ men say they want kids. Is that because they think it’s what you want to hear? The risks of using older sperm include higher risks of autism, schizophrenia etc. I’d rather freeze my fresh young eggs than put them through that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:56 AM
144

No man wanted Adele? Who was married, had previous relationships and has been dating a well known artist? Not to mention her multi-millions... inceldom makes you lose brain cells
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 09:37 AM
58

I’ve had experiences with some men who seemed to enjoy rejecting me. I know now to cut them off but I used to engage with these men and react. Some men definitely enjoyed that aspect, which I think is particularly cruel. As a woman I have only rejected men in the most vague and complimentary terms because who knows how they’ll react
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:48 PM
16

I lost respect and some friendships when I made it clear that my interpretation of feminism doesn’t include straight men. So many women have been brainwashed by liberal feminism and Dove soap ads to believe that wE nEeD mEn tO bE fEmInIsTs. Men won’t ever give up their social hold and status over women, ever. It’s how they get their kicks and energy and pure enjoyment. They will not be part of our movement to liberate by dint of that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 07:42 PM
9

They can say I’m a femcel if they want. That’s just one more beautiful vagina they will never gain access to ever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 09:11 PM
8

This happened to me in my more libfem days and yep... it never went to plan. I won’t ask a man out again, unfortunately they interpret this as an ego boost that devalues you in their eyes (because you’re so easy to nab) and in cases where that actually led to a relationship, that ended badly too. Just a lot of desperation and pick-me-ism. I would respect someone for asking me out on a date but apparently most men can’t muster that up for a woman who takes the lead
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:16 PM
24

They broke up years ago but they’re still enmeshed in many ways and are raising their kids together. Part of why he said he broke up with Sofia Richie is because she supposedly didn’t want him to spend all his time with Kourtney. But the double standard is that Kourtney somehow has to watch her ex date a parade of younger girls, be available to him emotionally and as a mother and also not date anyone seriously. It’s a joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 10:20 AM
196

I will never ever ever understand it. It must be the work of a psychopath, to go out of your way to grind up slugs and serve them to your girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 12:31 PM
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