thefaehost Archive

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8	Dating, Sex, and Relationships have never been easier for the average Western woman than they are today. Specifically I saw an ex MAGA guy talking about how it makes it okay to be a mediocre white man again- saying it’s not you, it’s everyone else, you’re great.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/05/25 08:30 AM
25	Female bodies are respected more than male bodies The culture isn’t going to change on its own. I do see your points and they’re valid. However the impact that misogyny in the medical community has on women vs men is far too big to be left out of this discussion. If we’re talking about respect and bodies, the lack of respect for women’s bodies in the medical community kills us. The same cannot be said for men, and we could break that further down to focus on just the fact that women produce children and men don’t- meaning a fetus gets more resp…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/05/25 10:15 PM
–	A violent felon has a greater chance of having a girlfriend while incarcerated, than a autistic man who never hurt a fly Well, I don’t know any women dating incarcerated violent felons. But I know quite a few autistic men who have been in or are currently in long term relationships. My best friend is an autistic men and I’m absolutely jazzed to help him ring shop for his girlfriend (one day wife!)	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/25 01:15 PM
15	Straight women who do not want to date bisexual men, what are your reasons? Not a straight woman- I am bi. My mother is also bi. I distinctly remember her saying when I was younger to avoid sleeping with bi men because they spread HIV. I know she’s full of shit. I personally love bi men, they’re my preference for men. However I am commenting in agreement with you but also expanding it because it is not just limited to straight women :/	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/25 05:26 AM
1	Until men are allowed male-specific and non-feminist spaces the sex war will not end. I’m not advocating? These are things that already existed in other cultures. Aziz Ansari mentioned them in his book with a sociologist, Modern Romance. Pretty much every comment I leave here discusses it because it’s all about the shift in dating over time and encompasses different cultures.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/25 10:25 PM
1	Until men are allowed male-specific and non-feminist spaces the sex war will not end. There are other cultures where women aren’t allowed in certain spaces too- coffee shops, bath houses. Women aren’t allowed to join the Freemasons either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/04/25 02:55 PM
–	The obsession with getting women to “admit” they prefer big dicks is hurting men The entire topic of the post is that the obsession with dick size hurts men more than women, but it also hurts women cuz yall literally aren’t listening to the science. Studies have shown for decades that women enjoy nonpenetrative sex more, and dick size is not a factor for that. The obsession is hurting us all and leading to less enjoyable sex for everyone. So… go buy a pomegranate and practice, or try eating some yogurt without a spoon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/25 05:10 PM
–	The obsession with getting women to “admit” they prefer big dicks is hurting men Sure it has been, but there are also many studies about the necessity of non penetrative sex for women. There are also studies on the importance of communication, on responsive vs spontaneous desire. There was a great AMA in the last few days from a provider at one of the Nevada brothels who is also an intimacy coach and basically a sex therapist that elucidates my points further. Most of these types of things start to pop up in your feed if you follow r/psychologyofsex. I have also published re…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/25 04:25 PM
–	The obsession with getting women to “admit” they prefer big dicks is hurting men I’ve said the same thing for decades. Size doesn’t matter. How long you last doesn’t matter. Your willingness to get her there is what matters. Learn how to eat pussy. Learn how to use your fingers without doing damage. My most memorable experiences are from men who did this well and enthusiastically. I had an FWB for over a decade who was average and never lasted long. The benefit was that he always made sure I got there while also being a safe person. He didn’t want a relationship. I would lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/25 03:06 PM
–	The DUMBEST thing feminists say You were right in your opening sentence to call them feminist misandrists. They aren’t feminists. They conflate misandry with feminism. Your entire convo is something I’ve literally never experienced as a feminist or a queer person. But the response of “well the abusers are actually men in lesbian relationships” sounds like some JK Rowling TERF bullshit… and TERFs tend to be man haters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/02/25 09:17 AM
–	Women DO lie about their preferences, and research shows it. Yall remember there used to be an MTV show called date my daughter or something? They wanted to get their daughter away from current bf and would find a new one out of a book. That’s immediately what I remembered when reading about the parents bit of this lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/02/25 09:30 AM
1	Women gaslight men about their true sexual preferences I am a sexual health researcher. Can you please provide me with the articles you found those percentages in?	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 07:45 PM
2	You can't have "true equality" if you hate caring at men's feelings. I think another aspect of this is that there is a major breakdown in communication about desires. There are a lot of people out there thinking a boundary is something a person will change if you get them to love you enough. That is sick. If you want kids and date someone who does not want kids, don’t expect them to change their mind. Same with marriage. I take huge issue with the fact that many women who self identify as feminists seem to confuse feminism with misandry. I studied the history of …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/02/25 02:31 PM
–	Most crimes are committed by men, by no gangster ever had difficulty finding women to share the spoils with I didn’t mention race at all?	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/02/25 07:24 PM
–	Most crimes are committed by men, by no gangster ever had difficulty finding women to share the spoils with First off, not all feminists. There is a renewed push to see feminism as misandry and some women really lean into that. They are a part of the problem, and the reality is that few people who have a problem with feminism have actually sat down and learned the history- including those who identify as feminists but really practice misandry. Anyways. I did go to school and study that history. I’m currently a sex worker. Yall ever heard the term “bottom bitch?” A bottom bitch is BETTER than your numb…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/01/25 09:22 AM
2	Red Pill Topics Exist Because With Social Media and Apps, The Internet Exposed How Women Are and Have Always Been That’s also what kept women stuck in abusive marriages. I know this because I’ve still got relatives who told me how they escaped- sending money home to mom and dad from the other side of the country, meanwhile trying to keep you and your child from being beaten. Your dating options back then were largely limited to who was physically nearby- within the neighborhood, school district, people you met at work. Women were encouraged to go to college to find husbands. When I was interviewing people a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 03:35 PM
1	Red Pill Topics Exist Because With Social Media and Apps, The Internet Exposed How Women Are and Have Always Been Modern Romance: an investigation He actually worked with a professional sociologist, Eric Klinenberg. They spoke to people across cultures and generations to study the trends in dating. It actually changed the way I date and the boundaries I set- things like the honeymoon phase now have a timeline I can define.	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/25 03:24 PM
2	Red Pill Topics Exist Because With Social Media and Apps, The Internet Exposed How Women Are and Have Always Been Women in 1956 could not open their own bank account.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 07:33 PM
9	Red Pill Topics Exist Because With Social Media and Apps, The Internet Exposed How Women Are and Have Always Been I was born in 1990. My mom was born in 1956. She was the first woman to get a bank account in her family. You really wanna talk about what options women had and what dating was like in other decades? That was my capstone project for my undergrad. But my research was just to fill the questions I found after reading aziz ansari’s book- it’s actually a lot of sociological studying about dating. I highly recommend anyone who thinks they know something about what dating was like or is like to read it…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/01/25 01:00 AM
4	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. I think the difference is ultimately that female (AFAB) anatomy naturally comes with more opportunity to cum. We can have more orgasms and more types. I have had clitoral, anal, g spot, and nipple orgasms. I can have any of those simultaneously, potentially. I have had multiple orgasms at the same time from g spot alone- I would rate them on a scale of 1-10, so let’s say I’d have a level 3 at the same time as a level 6. Men can have multiples but it’s very rare. To date I’ve only achieved this o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 02:07 PM
18	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. Not quite. Safety. Communication. Open mindedness. Time. With all of those I firmly believe becoming the best ever is possible for many people I used to break it down by “act”- some are very good at oral, others very good at penetration, some are good with their hands, some do great dirty talk. I’ve yet to find someone who does it all 10/10, which is why I tend to break it down that way- we all have our strengths and god knows I won’t be offended by not being 10/10 at everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 12:51 PM
17	Modern dating and relationship culture puts the burden of good sex entirely on men, and according to this narrative a woman can never be bad at sex, only uninterested. This is what communication is for… when I first start talking to someone, we discuss our sexual experiences. “Tell me about a bad experience you had- not traumatic, just bad sex.” I’ve been asking this for almost 20 years now. The answer usually talks about toothy blowjobs, star fishing, introducing kink too soon, etc. I ask about the first time they had sex. Many of our first experiences are not good- I have a vagina, and one of my first experiences of oral sex involved teeth. With a man who ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/01/25 10:59 AM
2	The case of Gisèle Pelicot has me wondering, what percentage of guys would rape if they thought they could totally get away with it? During my undergrad, I remember watching a video in sociology about teaching consent to boys in school in parts of Africa. There are places where rape is so prevalent that boys are raised thinking it’s okay/normal, and have to unlearn. An aspect of consent I feel is often not touched on enough: if you withhold information that might change someone’s mind, you are impacting their ability to consent. Maybe she won’t fuck if you’re married so you lie. Maybe she won’t fuck if she finds out you dated…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/09/24 12:24 PM
23	Are We Trading Monogamy for Misery? How Feminism’s Sexual Freedom Is Failing Us Back in the day, monogamy was the norm- for women, not men. Men would go to brothels with their brother in law. Share and reuse condoms. And then bring home syphilis to their wives. Reject modernity, embrace tradition! Super chlamydia is all the rage.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/08/24 10:59 AM
1	Onlyfans and gooners are ruining the internet. I genuinely hate the term Gooner. I get annoyed when I hear it- before it was a term for that, it was a term for when your parents pay adults to kidnap you and transport you to the troubled teen industry. The industry has been around for like 75 years so the term absolutely predates the way it’s used now. “I’m a Gooner” immediately translates different for me, as you can imagine.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 12:51 PM
1	Onlyfans and gooners are ruining the internet. I miss the days when a hacked Instagram was aggressively trying to sell me ray bans instead of b hole pics.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 12:49 PM
0	Onlyfans and gooners are ruining the internet. Idk. I’m a sex worker. my feed on on here is currently all about dumb phones with qwerty keyboards. My work feed is obviously adult content. My work instagram is def soft core stuff and sex memes. My personal insta is therapy quotes and funny cat pics. And as for TikTok… well, I still haven’t figured that one out. I WANT more thirst traps but I don’t get those. Half of what I get on there is shit I wouldn’t watch. I made a second TikTok to spread awareness about the troubled teen industry, so mo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/08/24 12:48 PM
1	RP men have this scenario of fuckzoning women they meet in their 30s when they are more stable/affluent, coz they were rejected in their 20s.... I wonder if they are talking about the same women? I’ve lived this in a way. I spent my early adulthood as a fat woman. Plenty of guys turned me down because of it. A decade later, I’m down 170 pounds and arguably one of few who has aged gracefully from that time. I also don’t have kids, so plenty of guys decided now’s the time to shoot their shot. The best feeling? Actually turning down my middle school bully because he didn’t recognize me. I don’t friendzone or fuck zone. I tell people exactly why- if I wasn’t good enough for you then, you’re …	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/24 01:44 PM
3	Cancel Older Women. Divorce and Marry Young. Society needs it Well, you’re making it fairly obvious you don’t know much about parenting. Head on over to AITA if you wanna see how the first family will feel about the second. This sounds more like your personal thoughts for when you’re alone in bed at night.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/06/24 11:12 AM
1	Correlation between fertility and promiscuity in both genders At least with women there are plenty of conditions that cause fertility issues and come with the fun, sexy side effect of pain during sex. I would wager that those who experience pain during sex are less likely to want casual sex, because communicating that sex hurts is difficult enough with a romantic partner- why do it with a one night stand? I’m the outlier in this though, my condition didn’t get diagnosed for a while and I enjoyed casual sex with no pain during that time. Then I lost a lot o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/05/24 10:35 AM
–	A lot of men here underestimate the importance of Female Friendships. My best friend is a guy who was a virgin when we met. We initially talked about dating but at our first D&d sesh he friend zoned me- and I’m grateful. He built up confidence and had a safe place to ask questions without judgment because of our friendship. I could write a long list about the ways he’s changed my life for the better, but I’ll focus on what he’s said. Our friendship served as the standard for what he wanted out of a relationship in some ways. I helped him get on the apps and find s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/04/24 12:01 AM
2	In the Redpill, the general idea is that women want the "alpha" guy or the best of the best, both financially and biologically. It's also pretty known that men are not born equal. There are some men who go specifically for women less attractive than their partners because they want to - feel bad - do dirty things they can’t ask of the mother of their child - treat her in a way that is below how they treat their wife	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/24 09:45 AM
11	The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates. It’s a shame more people aren’t aware that a situation in which a person is coerced into consent is not true consent. I’ve explained this story to a lot of female friends and called it what it is. That’s when they realize they’ve had the same experience and it’s heartbreaking to watch them realize what actually happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 01:19 PM
10	The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates. No. He picked me up, at his own insistence because at the time I didn’t drive. I wanted to stay near home and get a ride from my parents. He didn’t. I paid for myself. He hit on other girls in front of me. Why would I want to fuck him? But there was a blizzard coming and I needed to get home before it hit and I got stuck with this dude for days instead. Just tried not to cry so he’d finish faster.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 01:11 PM
28	The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates. Yes. I’ve also had men refuse to drive me home after a date if I didn’t put out. For those of you at home taking notes, this is not the path to consensual, enthusiastic sex with women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 05:46 AM
36	The best way for men to weed out superficial women who are using them is to get separate orders on dates. I’ve always insisted on doing this for first dates, especially if I’m not sure about the person. He can’t feel entitled to sex because he bought dinner. I pick a place within MY budget and I usually pick pancakes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/03/24 04:52 AM
1	Some men aren't fit to reproduce or date and it's okay to say that Honestly? The most unfit to reproduce men are the dusty old farts who should’ve gotten snipped in their 50s. Your geriatric sperm is a problem you should keep to yourself, not create an innocent life full of problems because you want to feel young again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/01/24 10:23 AM
1	Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no one There are also plenty of people with significant trauma who see sex workers as part of that process. Even some sex therapists include intimate acts to help process things, though that is not something I have read about more than a few times.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 04:37 PM
2	Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no one It’s not incredibly niche lmao. I am a sex worker. I am friends with other sex workers. You also see many sex workers who offer discounts to the disabled and to queer people because we realize our work is also about providing a safe place for people to explore their sexuality without judgment.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 04:34 PM
2	Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no one Also! Sex work is not just empowering for some of the workers, but for clients too. There are plenty of clients who know they will have no luck on dating apps. And like I said, there are plenty who find it too intimidating to try to explain how their body works differently. They seek a professional because we will not judge, we will listen, and we will provide the service.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 03:25 PM
1	Sex work is not empowering for women , its derogatory and benefits no one Also the concept of morality and sex work is odd to me. Edit: this is all directed towards OP I’m sorry, but are the women who have such issue with porn and full service work proposing something better? Plenty of clients go to sex workers because they have their own issues. Do you know how to provide a positive sexual experience for someone who has no working use of their genitals, but still experiences a sex drive? Do you have experience with sex and disability? Do you have any idea why people …	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/12/23 03:23 PM
–	Older women are way easier to manipulate than younger girls I’ve had the opposite experience. I stopped dating in my 20s and have only done fwb for the most part. I could be crystal clear with younger OR older men about what I’m looking for and they always catch feelings and want more. I stopped with the pretense a while ago… but I was never the one who needed it to get off 🤣	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/12/23 02:02 PM
1	Technology killed regular socialization and that’s why dating is so hard now. If you really want to reflect on the ways dating has changed due to technology (and across cultures!) I highly recommend reading Aziz Ansari’s book. He worked with a sociologist so while it’s funny and entertaining, it’s also educational. But a brief summary… technology caught up to an already changing dating landscape. Our grandparents generation married for convenience- this is your dad’s boss’s son, now your husband; this is the guy down the street you grew up playing with, now your husband e…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 12:51 PM
8	The problem with stepdads is that most of the time these women wouldn't date them if they didn't have kids Gonna come here with the opposite view. I’m non-binary, 33 but for purposes of the post I would be the one carrying a pregnancy. I don’t have kids. I don’t want kids. I have taken measures to ensure this won’t happen. I never wanted to be a step parent or date someone with kids either. Then I met my partner. Learned he had kids. I stepped outside of my comfort zone because I love him (had not met his kids yet). After two years, I’ve realized that while I still don’t want kids of my own, the only…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/11/23 12:00 PM
2	Why is the term “partner” EVERYWHERE I’m non-binary and bisexual. That’s why I use it and that’s why my SO uses it. I have friends who are bisexual and poly. They use it when only dating one person or more than one. I’ve seen married bisexuals who say partner because despite being married to a person of the opposite sex, their identity as a bisexual is in fact not changed and they want to be able to express that despite being in what appears to be a hetero relationship Hope that helps!	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/11/23 01:56 PM
2	There is a minimum amount of money an individual should be expected to pay for a traditional engagement ring. So my dad is getting married to a woman with expensive taste. He can afford it. He paid for her jeweler to custom make a gold and diamond ring to her tastes. I am not a diamond type. I am getting engaged soon. I went to the guy who took over after jeweler retired, and he answered SO MANY questions. He’s a saint for it. Colorless stones are not required for an engagement ring, traditional or not. The points made about hardness and silver are spot on though- I am very rough on my hands so I told m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 11:42 AM
3	Why is there no #TradHusband movement? You don’t get the shirtless lumberjack vids in your feed??	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 11:30 AM
1	When Gen Z men get into their 30s will it even be worth it to date 30s women? Instead of taking your information about dating and it’s history from some article, there’s a book you should read. Aziz Ansari partnered with a sociologist to write it. It’s fantastic and I don’t even like him. I say this because to have any questions answered about the truth, the past and present are important context- and they aren’t universal. Dating is different everywhere and always has been.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/11/23 10:17 AM
–	For any man with abundance/options, there is no benefit to choosing a promiscuous woman Or person a wants to stay child free and person b doesn’t and the man wants to have kids. Or person B has a conflicting work schedule Or person A pees in the shower and he thinks that’s weird Or person B is allergic to cats and he has cats There are so many reasons beyond promiscuity to rule someone out romantically, for me it’s the fact that someone thinks a body count is the main deferring factor that makes them undateable 🤷‍♂️	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/05/23 12:25 PM
1	Why do you think men tend to accept bisexual women far more than women accept bisexual men? It’s been my experience on gay dating apps. Lots of bios talking about gold star only, but even more saying they don’t date bi 🙃 hope they change their toys in between relationships	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 07:09 PM
1	Why do you think men tend to accept bisexual women far more than women accept bisexual men? For starters, a lot of (mostly straight) men see bisexual women as lesbian liteTM- a woman who prefers other women more likely but you could still smash because men are easier to find as romantic/sexual partners. Plus, watching her with someone. Also, threesomes- very much a fetishized thing. Meanwhile, lesbians tend to have the opposite view of bi women- kinda like how some men prefer virgins, some lesbians also prefer women who have never taken a dick. I have met plenty of women who accept bi …	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 12:34 PM
2	Are men far more accepting to neurodivergence than women when it comes to dating? ND women are rarely seen as quirky and cute unless it’s to infantilize them, which is gross. ND women are more often seen as a crazy b*tch. I’ve pretty much exclusively dated ND men. I am also ND. What does this look like? Relationship 1: We both have ADHD, messy house. We both have trauma, but he has trouble admitting it/finding therapists- our ptsd is similar in many ways but differ in the fact that men are more likely to experience outbursts of rage and engage in abusive behavior as a result,…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/04/23 11:58 AM