thefamq Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
5	Family issues guidance		thefamq	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 07:16 PM

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1	Family issues guidance But the fact that you are here asking means that you do not KNOW, with any certainty, that they are wrong. -This is correct. My logic/intuition tells me the following though: 1) Her family issues are real, no doubt about it. She has distanced herself from it in very real ways as she is afraid to some extent. This year for example, she had a flight to head home for the holidays and ended up spending Christmas with friends because issues in her family flared up and she made the decision that it wa…	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 03:39 PM
2	Family issues guidance Well, it's possible that your family is right, and that your gf is doing some kind of "long con" thing involving a divorce and taking your assets once you put a ring on it. -I was thinking about this as well and decided to ask her outright if she would be ok with a prenup, she said she was ok with that. I can't think of anything else I could do to find better proof of it but wholeheartedly open to suggestions. How is she when she's drunk? Does a dark side of her come out that you pretend isn't t…	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 03:22 AM
1	Family issues guidance My goal is retirement at 45 and feel like I'm on a decent track in that direction. Have savings, live with house mates that pay rent and put good money towards savings. This is actually one of the things about being married in general (her or otherwise) that is off-putting about being married, the "everything costs money" mechanic.	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 02:11 AM
1	Family issues guidance Much obliged, will pick it up and read it.	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 01:12 AM
1	Family issues guidance Just went through this. This is something I already agree with. There's a saying that rings through my head "men marry when they want, women marry when they can."	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 01:12 AM
2	Family issues guidance The way you're describing it, your family sounds kind of low-brow, if you'll forgive me for saying so. -no need for apologies, I appreciate and welcome all feedback. This is actually the same argument that my gf has made to me before. Does your gf have issues that hold you back and that she wants to hold on to? -I honestly had never had anyone ask me this before. I honestly can't think of any at all. Okay this is the real issue. If you do this for weird neurotic reasons, so you can be somebody's…	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 12:51 AM
1	Family issues guidance Suggested reading: the Subtle Art Of Not Giving A Fuck by Mark Manson. I did not see this in the sidebar, I assume this is a complementary reading or maybe I'm looking at the wrong sidebar?	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 12:27 AM
2	Family issues guidance Any particular part that you specifically suggest I should read over again? I am going back through WISNIFG as I can agree with another poster that I have issues standing up to my family.	/r/askMRP	27/12/16 12:10 AM
1	Family issues guidance Will do. Thanks :)	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 11:33 PM
1	Family issues guidance I'm not looking for "solutions" at all, my apologies if it came off that way. I'm looking to hear from people that have gone through this before to know how how bad things can get and how they dealt with those situations.	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 11:32 PM
1	Family issues guidance I make damn good money. Low 6 figures. I can appreciate it now. My wife whose parents grew up dirt poor, makes med 5 figures and just cannot see herself earning more. Your case sounds very very close to mine in this regard, however, I get along great with the potential mother in law. How would you say that the $$$ part has affected your marriage? Or has it even been an issue?	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 11:23 PM
1	Family issues guidance What about you? What do you want? What is the price you're willing to pay for it? -I'm very happy being with her and I know that we would make a great long term couple. I do however fear that the sidebar of family issues might corrode the relationship over time. I don't know exactly what the price would be, that's kind of what I'm trying to find out. What about you? What do you want? What is the price you're willing to pay for it? -Already on it I'm assuming you live in white western culture. If…	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 11:16 PM
1	Family issues guidance Thanks for this advice, it is certainly something I am putting serious thought into. To give you a bit more background on my LTRs, I do know that I have a tendency to date fixer uppers, not necessarily gold diggers though; I believe this ties back into my tendency to like helping others so I can agree with your captain comment. I will certainly say that my parents have raised me well and I don't believe their advice to be malicious or annoying (even if sometimes it can feel that way), end of the…	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 08:30 PM
2	Family issues guidance Yes, I have read the sidebar and have been looking around The main TRP sub and found a lot of that information quite useful which is why I even decided to post here. I have not posted this question to any other sub because I wanted to find people that would be objective to the situation as it is a touchy one at best. I appreciate the advice and yes, part of me definitely feels that way, I am not necessarily looking for someone to solve this for me, as I mentioned on my post, I am mostly looking …	/r/askMRP	26/12/16 07:40 PM