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2	Dating women who expect you to change is a bad strategy for men Yes I’ve had some difficult relationship experiences where I knew that the other person was not going to change but I kept hoping haha. In a much better place now with a healthier, more realistic view of relationships. I love my partner as he is and also give him room to grow as he does with me. Definitely would not date immature people again as well. Those relationships suck the life out of you at worst and a giant headache at best. Lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/05/21 01:04 AM
2	Dating women who expect you to change is a bad strategy for men Thank you for clarifying and expanding on that. In that aspect, I completely agree with you. All of these do come with maturity though. Most people gain this maturity from going through relationships that require you to voice your needs. Most people don't have the self reflection and confidence to be themselves and also communicate with vulnerability and boundaries. I definitely agree this is the ideal way.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/21 12:05 PM
2	Dating women who expect you to change is a bad strategy for men I definitely agree that we should proceed with relationships with the current realistic assessment of how our partners are. However, you often don't see the extent of these problems early on. You're also neglecting the fact that people could change. So if I accepted my partner as he is early on and about a year in he's taken me for granted, do I leave right away or wait for him to return to the way he is when I accepted him? I don't think people are quite that linear. Or is that completely diffe…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/21 11:10 AM
2	The distinction between the Nice Guy^TMs and genuinely nice guys is irrelevant if women don't value either of them I'm a little confused by this sentiment and it may be due to what I am missing as purpose of being nice. A real nice person vs. nice guy tm is the difference of intention. A nice person does things because they want to. They don't need recognition or reward, they do freely without expectation. Nice guy tm is the guy who does nice things expecting reward for it. So by saying these two end up the same is highlighting reward, which makes you just nice guy tm, no?	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/05/21 10:53 AM

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