thegettogether Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
6	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that?		thegettogether	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 02:26 PM

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4	How do I know its time for a divorce? Sit down with yourself and figure out what changes you're willing to make - weight loss, being more emotionally present, less time on your phone, whatever. Figure out your side of it and start taking whatever actions come out of it. Then sit down with her and lay all of it out - what bothers you about yourself and the changes you're making, what bothers you about the relationship and what changes you both can make to save it. Be willing to listen. Truly give your relationship and marriage a chan…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/05/24 11:47 AM
2	Out of no where, atleast for me Sure, but a responsible, reasonable person shouldn't expect mind reading and should sit down with their spouse and tell them how they're feeling and their list of non-negotiables. Just walking away one random day because enough is enough is bullshit (obviously exceptions exist for abuse or infidelity)	/r/Divorce_Men	29/05/24 08:22 PM
3	Everything was ok, suddenly it’s not Reading your post and all the comments on here is so heartbreaking- so painful that stuff like this can just happen and just like that life changes forever. All your future hopes and dreams eviscerate just like that. And you're the crazy one if letting years and decades die over communication issues (a very fixable problem imo if you're willing) seems insanely painful. I'm in the same shoes, but just the wife with a walkaway husband. You'll heal eventually. Time does that, I guess. This whole th…	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/24 04:41 AM
2	Made the decision in my head...waiting for the right moment...dont know what to do Whatever you decide is truly valid and I wish you the best of luck. From a wife's perspective I'm just curious - do you have a list of non-negotiable actions/changes you'd need to see to consider staying? And does she straight up not care? Or is this a case where there's just absolutely nothing she can do?	/r/Divorce_Men	26/05/24 04:32 AM
1	Learning the truth and growing A lot of us relate more to the perspectives shared on here than other places	/r/Divorce_Men	21/05/24 01:53 PM
2	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? I'm proud of you for making it this far and working so hard to save your marriage. And also saving yourself by starting treatment. You're doing all you can. Regardless of what happens in the future, you'll always know that.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 03:51 AM
4	Vent: leave me alone!! Omg that's insane.	/r/Divorce_Men	20/05/24 12:38 AM
1	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? That's a really tough position to be in. Have you guys tried couple's counseling?	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/24 09:44 PM
1	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? Oh wow. Well at least you know that you did everything you possibly could. There are no regrets in that. In my case, every conversation with my stbxh since he moved out has been a circular repeat of: Him: your workaholism made me feel neglected and unloved Me: I'm so sorry, and I had no idea because you never told me any of this. Here are x and y changes I'm willing to make. Let's try therapy. Give me a chance to show you and make it up to you Him: I didn't tell you because you were just too str…	/r/Divorce_Men	19/05/24 03:40 AM
1	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? That's painfully true. You're absolutely right	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 10:46 PM
2	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? That makes sense.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 08:46 PM
0	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? Fair enough	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 08:46 PM
2	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? I'm so sorry about what you went through. This was interesting to read too because I simultaneously relate to you thinking that cheating or being a bad person would make it make more sense, and also see myself in your stbxw in making other things a priority over you. Forgive me if this is a callous question, but had you guys ever sat down to talk about how neglected you were feeling? She sounds like a deeply unhappy person. Either way, you didn't deserve any of that	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 08:45 PM
2	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? This was really heartbreaking to read. I'm sorry you went through all that.	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 08:41 PM
3	How could she have healed the hurt, or could she even do that? For context, I ask this as the wife to a walkaway husband. I was the breadwinner, working a very stressful job with long hours to provide for a better future. He was either unemployed or underemployed for the last several years. Along the way, life happened and I admit I was very stressed and inattentive to his need for attention and affection. We'd have the occasional date night here and there but I know I was a walking zombie for some time. There was no cheating or abuse, and I never ever gave…	/r/Divorce_Men	18/05/24 02:42 PM