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| 10 | This online dating profile... I have no words. Yes that is a chicken sandwich. His only photo. How he thinks this is enticing to anyone is beyond me...Nah his ex gf swallowed them all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 12:40 AM |
| 16 | This online dating profile... I have no words. Yes that is a chicken sandwich. His only photo. How he thinks this is enticing to anyone is beyond me...It’s fresh, it’s hood, it looks good! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 11:19 PM |
| 41 | This online dating profile... I have no words. Yes that is a chicken sandwich. His only photo. How he thinks this is enticing to anyone is beyond me...The odds are good, but the goods are odd 🍔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/20 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Do you feel under much pressure from society to get married and have children?The only reason I say yes is just because it’s the formulaic path that’s been taught to me since I was a kid. Graduate high school, go to college, get a good job, get married, buy a house, have kids, train them to do the same. This isn’t the path that my life has ended up taking, nor is it the path that I want to take. There is a big difference between the idyllic images we are shown/dream of and real life. I want a long term, committed partner, and I want to have a celebration of that (likely j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/20 09:25 PM |
| 3 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020Don't try and tell me what my thoughts and feelings are, or tell me to "admit" what you've assumed. I utilize reddit as a sounding board and a diary of sorts. I wrote one post immediately after the initial situation. In between the two posts, I've got school, I've been dealing with a covid exposure in my household and I've had to manage isolating and working with my school to find temporary housing. I posted an update when I found a moment to catch my breath. Like I said, reddit is also a sort o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/10/20 03:07 AM |
| 3 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020Damn straight. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 09:30 PM |
| 5 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020Thank you!! Yeah, I also realized that while I liked having someone around, I really enjoy being single right now. Plus, I'm finally starting to live for myself, and I need to be able to get myself situated and established before bringing someone into the picture. Or at least are on the same wavelength! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 09:24 PM |
| 6 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020Thank you!! And exactly. It's exactly the same as all the incels, redpillers, and MGTOW who think "well this is what happened to me and my friends so this is how it is." Then they log on to their echo chambers and blow smoke up each other's asses, talking about how "all women" (aka Becky their one crush from high school and the cheerleading squad) do XYZ so women are trash. Now they manipulate and/or treat all women like shit because they need to stroke their fragile, pseudomasculine egos. Yet t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:25 PM |
| 13 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020Right? Not once did I say "well you know men....." It was wild. Tried to reel him back in to the woman sitting in front of him, "why don't you ask me?" Nope. Bullet: dodged. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 08:10 PM |
| 18 | For the VERY first time, I valued myself over the idea of being in a relationship, saw his bs for what it was, and #kickhimout2020or do you wanna toss me the shovel so I can smack you with it. I'm dead. 😅 But it's true! Rarely do they stop digging! And then they finally reach the bottom and they look up at you all expectant and entitled like, "well? Are you coming down here? Why haven't you jumped in yet?" Either way, you're going to see their true colors. If you tell them no, they'll show them! But if you jump in with them, you'll be trapped in a dirty hole, it will be so much harder to get out, and they'll keep trying to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/10/20 07:21 PM |
| 1 | Individual women cannot change who they are attracted to the way they change outfitsWhat is your definition of slut wear? (Genuinely curious, I see the terms thrown about but there’s rarely an accompanying description, and it’s so subjective I find it interesting to see what the different ideas are.) Also, Reading this and trying to figure out what the opposite would be, my mind jumps to the extreme, which would be to dress like a Pentecostal, long skirts and turtlenecks, no makeup. (assuming we aren’t going to be venturing into hijabs, burqa, niqab territory..) Assuming that’s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Individual women cannot change who they are attracted to the way they change outfitsA lot more people now since covid... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Yeah, it’s borderline rape and will likely traumatize her. Oh well. TW: sexual abuseOh my bad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:26 PM |
| 1 | Yeah, it’s borderline rape and will likely traumatize her. Oh well. TW: sexual abuseContext: PPD was discussing whether or not a woman should have to give her current partner the same sexual acts that she has performed with a previous partner, regardless of whether or not she enjoyed it or not. The specific act most people referred to was anal sex. There were plenty of NVM saying yes, and it was a pretty fucked up thread, but this one gets special recognition. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:25 PM |
| 42 | He couldn't give me a single original thought.Its funny too because my ex was exactly that, a predatory shapeshifter who pulled one over on me and this guy knows that. I think the fact that I don't need a man, and that I'm going to be critical, selective, ask questions, and not fawn (and I told him this!) is throwing him for a loop. I do think he's fairly harmless in regards to being emotionally dangerous or a cheater, but I don't think he anticipated me requiring him to have a brain and a backbone. I think he thought I would just fall into… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:39 AM |
| 30 | He couldn't give me a single original thought.Yuck, yeah that sounds like him. At first it was endearing and impressive, then I started struggling to find a subject I could bring up that he couldnt intellectualize, then he would try and mansplain things I already knew, including my own anatomy, and the final straw was tonight. So i guess it's just been a gradual raising of the red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:30 AM |
| 38 | He couldn't give me a single original thought.Holy shit that sounds like this guy lol. Total cinephile and he talks about everything soooooo snobby. Like dude, I don't give a fuck what the critics say. If I find enjoyment in the movie, that's all that matters. It's like they take these things that are so subjective and try to force these arbitrary objective criteria for the sake of being in some elite club when all that matters is if you enjoyed the damn film. And that's exactly what he just did with his opinion on women. Is repeating a nar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:25 AM |
| 75 | He couldn't give me a single original thought.He seemed to have educated himself only on what fit the narrative he wanted to believe. As is with most redpillers. Either way, I heard enough and was dismissed enough to realize how low value he is! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 10:03 AM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Good point and clarification. I do still stand by though that nagging is usually only done when there's an imbalance and/or previously established and agreed upon expectations are not being met. I.e. fair share of household duties, or asking for help. I don't think nagging is healthy or productive in the least bit. It's irritating to both parties and is a sign of an unhealthy relationship dynamic coming from both sides. Consistent communication is key. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 09:55 AM |
| 2 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?He simply sleeps with her, no strings attached, and walks away I'm not talking about no strings attached situations. The original comment was in reference to relationships. These are all bullshit excuses What are excuses? Saying that a long term relationship and managing a household is a team effort? a woman's way of saying "I don't respect you/am not attracted to you on the same level as I was with more attractive men who I slept with." Literally nobody is saying that, directly or indirectly. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 08:49 AM |
| 3 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Men who don’t deal with nagging work together with their partners to find a mutually agreed upon routine that fits both their expectations of how the house and relationship will be taken care of. And then they follow through. Men who don’t deal with nagging respect and care their partners enough to want to communicate about the things she’s asking him- sorry, nagging him- about and come to an understanding and a mutually agreed upon solution. It’s behavioral. Jason Momoa is going to deal with na… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 07:16 AM |
| 2 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?more minor things like blowjobs and anal Awesome, I’ll grab my strap on. Let’s do this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 06:36 AM |
| 7 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?That’s called sexual coercion and is a form of sexual abuse, fun fact. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 06:32 AM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Ayyeee you just described my ex! Hit the damn nail on the head. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 06:03 AM |
| 2 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?THISSSSSSS. 100%. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 05:54 AM |
| 2 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?It totally is a cliche! But it's true. And it goes for more than just you and your partner. The first step of course is sharing with your partner, putting all your cards on the table, being honest about your baggage, laying out visions, expectations, and goals. Then, you need to be honest with yourself, (and this is the hard part,) put your attraction and desire aside, and really assess whether or not you think you're compatible for the long term. If you've discussed compromises, are you really … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 02:31 AM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Sorry | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/10/20 01:36 AM |
| 5 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Pleading with a significant other to change should never happen, period. Walk away if it gets that bad. But if the foundation had been laid properly, through honesty, openness, and communication, then each person should have been able to see that this would not be a compatible match unless serious compromises were made, and evaluated whether they would be able to make those. And I don’t give a fuck how well he pleases me in bed if he can’t pull his weight in other areas of the relationship, and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 11:13 PM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?I’m not 100% sure the point you’re trying to make with all of this, but I agree with that in theory. In reality however, every single part of what you just said is so subjective and easily abused. On one side of the red pill spectrum, you’re going to have people who think that success is getting laid for as long as possible, and are going to try to maximize that by any means necessary with as little effort as possible, while having little to no regard or consideration for the other person, becau… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 10:28 PM |
| 2 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Nagging is a type of controlling behavior. Controlling has power behind it. It implies that you can force the other person to behave in a certain way. I would argue that the person ignoring the nagging is being more controlling than the person doing the nagging. By them not doing the thing, they are forcing the other person to do it. It’s a stalemate, and the thing is usually going to get done one way or the other. The person doing the nagging is the one usually who has less power in the relatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 09:59 PM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Exactly! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 08:35 PM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Exactly. Good for that person. And especially for going for liberal arts. It's so versatile, and unless you're going for a specific STEM or health type career, typically a liberal arts degree will fulfill most degree requirements. Plus, you can use it for pre-law, you can put an MBA on top of it, there's so much you can do. That kid was actually really smart about their college education. That kind of thinking, planning, and grit will take them far. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 07:57 PM |
| 1 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Looking at his comment, he begins with "When I was single..." which leads me to believe he currently isn't single, which by default puts him in a better position. AND then he goes on to describe other, healthy LTRs that seem to have been founded on a platform of genuine value and respect, even though they ultimately ended. He's in a better position than the majority here. And even if he was single, given that comment alone, I have a vastly greater starting assumption about him than I do the peop… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 07:52 PM |
| 55 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Nagging has nothing to do with attraction. It’s behavioral. Just a heads up. 👍 There are plenty of healthy relationships with mid to low levels of physical attraction where the men don’t experience nagging or demanding. “Nagging and demanding” comes about usually through incompatibility and/or inconsideration. Keep in mind when she’s nagging you, she’s asking you to do something. If you’re being nagged, or interpreting it as “nagging,” it’s probably time to have a conversation about what it is y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 06:59 PM |
| 14 | How do women treat their casual sexual partners better then their bfs?Relationships can end (or fail, as you put it,) for a multitude of reasons, many of which do not reflect fault on either party. Timing, circumstance, priorities, tragedy, incompatibility, etc. Same with why people are here. A lot of reasons. Some, like me, just enjoy being exposed to other peoples perspectives, thoughts, and experiences. I also enjoy the debate and conversation. Being in an echo chamber is boring and unproductive. And good for the McDonalds employee for going out and getting an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/20 06:08 PM |
| 12 | A whole wordI’m going to start using this phrase in my trauma counseling I now have to go to for my ptsd that my ex caused by his utter depravity. He got off on lying and seeing how much he could do with us (yes that’s plural) either not knowing or accepting his explaining away everything. Sadly there’s no legal recourse for it, but psychologically it’s exactly as if I’m having sex with someone and suddenly they pull off a mask and the whole time I was being raped by a stranger, but it’s so much worse becau… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 11:19 PM |
| 18 | A whole wordThis sounds exactly like my ex. I was a reeeaally dumb pickmeisha so bad, he was 10 years my senior and before we got together he says “yeah I’m still with her, but I’m just not into it anymore.” I said, “ok then leave her. She’s 35 years old. She has a daughter (not his) she doesn’t have time to waste. If you know you’re not into her, and you’re not going to be the man she needs, then leave. She has a life that she is taking time out of to make space for you in. You’re actively doing her a diss… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/20 11:08 PM |
| 1 | Do women actually want to be wives ? Or do they have to pretend in order to Jeep the charade going ?Hit the nail on the head! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/20 08:56 PM |
| 2 | Do women actually want to be wives ? Or do they have to pretend in order to Jeep the charade going ?Still, it's insane to expect someone to really understand what they want out of life at 18 when your brain is still developing Wholeheartedly agree here. I don't tend to take girls seriously until they're about 24. Still very young, but far more experience in the real world than someone who has just graduated high school and can't even drink yet. Not to say I dont know girls who got married young and/or are still with their high school sweethearts and are doing great so far, but they are such an… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/20 08:55 PM |
| 4 | Do women actually want to be wives ? Or do they have to pretend in order to Jeep the charade going ?This is why I (25f) loathe online dating. One, pictures aren't indicative of compatibility, nor is a carefully worded bio, or lack thereof. There's also the issue of photogenics. My mother has a BEAUTIFUL natural smile, but has this weird, stiff, unnatural photo smile. I also find that looking back, if I were to have come across pictures of the men I have had actual relationships with in the past on tinder, I'm not sure if I would have swiped on them, segueing me into my next point. Two, in onli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/20 07:44 PM |
| 2 | Do women actually want to be wives ? Or do they have to pretend in order to Jeep the charade going ?I'm interested for you to expand on this. My understanding (please tell me if I'm misinterpreting) is that you discourage women who want successful marriages from pursuing high earning careers and having casual sex. I'm not sure what you define as "unrealistic standards" as this is a subjective matter, so I won't make any assumptions, but again, I would be interested for you to expand. Based on this initial understanding, these are my thoughts: The women I know who are pursuing high paying caree… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/20 07:19 PM |
| 1 | Do women actually want to be wives ? Or do they have to pretend in order to Jeep the charade going ?I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on women who want marriage but don't want children. No biological clock to worry about. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/20 06:17 PM |
| 21 | Everyone’s on their phones everyone can shoot you a five second textI'm a self admitted "bad texter" due to adhd and the bad habit of opening a text at an inconvenient time to respond and then forgetting about it since I won't have the notification to remind me anymore 😬 My platonic friends all know this about me, and I never do it during a serious or important conversation. I'll always say "I'm going to do x but I want to continue this conversation" and since it's an important conversation it's on my mind. When it comes to a dating situation, if they are really… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/20 09:39 PM |
| 4 | And if it does, it’s probably gaslighting“We were having such a nice time and now it’s all tense and uncomfortable because of what you said. Do you see what you did?” “Look at where we are right now, I’m right here with you and that’s what matters. Look at where I’m at right now. It’s not about yesterday, just be here, in the moment.” “There is no way that I can go back and remember how and why I was feeling that way. How can you ask me now about what I said/did then? It’s impossible for me to know.” Actual quotes from my NVM ex when I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/20 11:50 PM |
| 1 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.EXACTLY. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:16 PM |
| 5 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.No kidding. I watched a documentary on China’s gender imbalance like 13 years ago and it really opened my eyes to what happens when that imbalance reaches a tipping point. Kidnappings, infanticide, abandonment, runaways, etc. It’s sad and scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:15 PM |
| 3 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.It just goes to show how they think of women as lesser humans, even objects. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 06:10 PM |
| 1 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.Hopefully he doesn’t raise another LV/nvm though. I hope it’s a girl, he reacts poorly, and the baby mama leaves him and never looks back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:51 PM |
| 1 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.The lizard people are among us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:50 PM |
| 3 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.This is a good point, and I’m so sorry that you had to go through that. The kid is fucked either way. He’s either going to resent the daughter or raise another LV/nvm and we don’t need that either. I hope the baby mama leaves him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:50 PM |
| 2 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 2 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.Right?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:40 PM |
| 6 | He posted this before they've found out the gender. I hope it's a girl just for that comment. Shit like this pisses me off.He was cool in high school and then when we graduated and I “got to know” him over social media, he’s one of those uneducated blindly following right wingers who’s version of arguing is just saying the same thing louder and whinier. I hope the baby mama leaves him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:38 PM |
| 34 | Romance novels vs. Pornography... hmm 🤔Just wanted to say thank you for separating the toxicity from the hate just for being aimed at young women! Twilight has MANY legitimate reasons why it's trash, though. It's triggering as hell to read/watch now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/09/20 03:02 AM |
| 75 | I wonder if all her male followers fight with each other over her. It’d be nice to pin all those LVMs against each other.I mean idk about you but I personally find lurking to be an absolute turn on. I get so turned on by their lack of machismo, and their “nice guy” attitude towards women when they get turned down.. so sexy. Limp dick insecurity and creepiness is juuuuust what I’m looking for. Especially their inability to get women in person resulting in their online presence... so mysterious! /s /s /s /s /s Edit: /S!!!!!! Just in case ;) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 05:19 PM |
| 0 | Three years and a million miles...I've known he was unworthy and have distanced myself for three years. It was an entertaining cathartic outlet. "Wasted" is a subjective term. I was sitting in a hotel room with nothing to do and it was an entertaining boredom buster that ended in a block. I'm a cat, he's a mouse. I played with my food a little before I blocked him. Is it not the best etiquette/queen behavior? Sure. Did it hurt me or slow me down in any way? No. Do I make a habit of it? Hell no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 10:26 PM |
| 10 | Three years and a million miles...(Translate to save non-Italian speakers a click.. “bye asshole!”) Gotta love that my friends taught me all the important Italian words first! Lmao I can swear like a sailor but unassisted, I talk with the grammatical complexity of a toddler. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 10:10 PM |
| 14 | Posted on Entitled Bitch .... I just see a HVM trying to do something special for his lady.(Not in anyone’s defense but as someone outside the medical/academic community, regardless of gender, “Dr.” is not a title I’m accustomed to using. Maybe it’s different in this particular instance, (this could be somewhere that hosts many medical/academic professionals) but as a standard restaurant hostess/hotel concierge, I wouldn’t call anyone “Dr.” straight off the bat unless explicitly instructed/I knew who they were from some chance encounter.) Edit: for clarification and for the sake of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 09:56 PM |
| 16 | Presented without comment.What is the caste system? (And if it applies, how has it deviated from how it was intended in theory to how it’s been implemented in practice?) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 09:51 PM |
| 11 | “You going to the bars later?” Ummmmm no because they’re closed because we’re in a pandemic..?Right?? It’s one thing if he wanted to go somewhere during the day and sit outside in the sun socially distanced. This is some LVM low effort socially irresponsible bs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 06:06 AM |
| 7 | AOC taking down a republican male colleague who called her a “f**king b**ch” to the press. Give this woman a medalI was just thinking that myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 06:43 PM |
| 8 | Been there, done that. Never again.Ugh. Once upon a time I did this. Knew it would be bad. Did it anyways. Was bad. Ugh. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:28 AM |
| 48 | The audacity is astronomical .. Can you say toxic?Dear god this is what I needed to hear right now. I’m still recovering. His words “what’s going on with you, I’ve never seen you like this!” You, motherfucker. You. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 03:26 AM |
| 8 | I think we have all dated one of theseLmao my ex and my mother. It was/is (respectively) an unwinnable battle trying to get them to take any responsibility for their actions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?How do you protect personal safety while maintaining the “fuck you for trying that with me” attitude? With the anxious nervous feelings you described, how do you discern between those who will simply berate you, which is generally just annoying and an inconvenience, vs. actually try to inflict physical harm upon you? That’s the secondary part of my tendency towards passivity and lack of assertiveness. If I’m direct and assertive with someone from the beginning though, I guess I wouldn’t necessar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 12:43 AM |
| 7 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?And he seemed so normal at first! We met organically and just really hit it off! Very different red flags I’m noticing now than I had with my NVM ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:30 AM |
| 7 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?Thank you. It was terrifying and made me think a lot harder about the concept of finality. To those who didn’t see it, I stated how blocking people now makes me feel paranoid because a former friend reached out to me in a crisis and I was able to save her life because I didn’t block her. But this guy is creeping me out and I’m sooo glad I’ve found this sub and am not indulging him (at least to the extent that I used to before adopting some new policies) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:29 AM |
| 3 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?Why do men do this shit 🙃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 06:14 AM |
| 6 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?Edit: nope nope nope the previous comment I wrote here is irrelevant he’s taken to social media I’m not dealing with this bullshit. Thank God I moved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 05:53 AM |
| 14 | Sorry for getting mad at you for not being ready to be in a relationship, can I manipulate you into trying again?I’ve stopped replying, hopefully he understands. You’re right, I need to get better at blocking numbers. Done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 05:36 AM |
| 11 | 'Ouch my ego'In a darker time in my life a few years ago, I had a LVM friend (more like a work boyfriend) who would delete and doctor his text records so that I looked like the instigator and the villain when his (needs this sub and very likely is nothing like his horrible descriptions) fiancée would go through his phone after he got home from work every day. Many shames on me for going along with it, but so many more shames on him for being such a POS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 11:22 PM |
| 24 | And he’ll somehow still make her feel insecure about all 2 of her stretch marks as he tries to flirt with younger women.Oh, man! I have a couple like the tweet, (not the headline, luckily!) in my neighborhood! I'm 25, and I thought she was my age, and he was like 40. I'm not sure how old they are, but they are appropriately close in age. Super nice people, though. High-value. Great, well-behaved, cute kid, too. edit: wording | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 09:57 PM |
| 113 | And he’ll somehow still make her feel insecure about all 2 of her stretch marks as he tries to flirt with younger women.Oh god, the accuracy! And they creepily and openly gawk at and catcall those Adriana Lima women as if he truly believes she's going to stop and throw herself on him for it. My BFF put it best: "If men have nothing else, they certainly have the audacity." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 09:52 PM |
| 2 | PMS, stress, and pickmeisha thoughts?Ok, where were you last night when I was trying to journal it all away and overanalyze it with my friends?? 🤪 Sometimes it helps me to write out all the ways I was naive and be so patient with myself for how I really did love him, and recognize that he knew and took absolute advantage of it and me. I’m sorry that you’re also recovering from years of abuse. Shit sucks! I used to carry around a “bullshit journal,” this little tiny notepad where I would jot down all the random ass bullshit that pop… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:10 AM |
| 2 | PMS, stress, and pickmeisha thoughts?Edit: Jesus Christ this is a wall of text. TL; DR: I chose it, but I was manipulated as practically a child. I’m in therapy, need a little more..clearly. Med. issues not from him. Life has happened to me over the past few weeks but it’s settling down again. I have made bad choices in life, but I’m really trying to make the best of the cards I have now. Ok now the wall of text. 😝 A little harsh but not wrong. I was in a really tough place earlier that felt a lot like when everything was still so … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:46 AM |
| 5 | If they're not handing me a cup of tea and a snack, I'm not interested.As long as you’re there and you care, that’s all that matters! I can talk enough for the both of us 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 08:55 AM |
| 3 | PMS, stress, and pickmeisha thoughts?I’ve been nc for nearly a year now! 🥳 (Ignoring a momentary slip in the hospital after I had a NDE and we were all really scared. Regretted it instantly and he didn’t reply thank GOD.) I like your strategies, I definitely need to work on just sitting with my thoughts, acknowledging them, and letting them go. I have a habit [clearly] of hanging on and spiraling out, gets worse with stress and inactivity which there has been ample of lately. I had been doing really well for so long, which is the f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 08:53 AM |
| 4 | PMS, stress, and pickmeisha thoughts?I’ve been studying my ass off over here, I just read that no Zero days, I love it! I’m going to start documenting every day what I did to get myself one step closer to my goals of reclaimed independence. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 08:35 AM |
| 2 | PMS, stress, and pickmeisha thoughts?I haven’t interacted with my ex in nearly a year, I have nowhere else to live right now than with my family due to financial circumstances, and I’m trying my hardest to involve myself with school and other positive, constructive hobbies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Goddamn right she walked away. Found on r/choosingbeggarsYum!! Their appetizers and desserts are the only things I ever order if I go there. Most chain restaurants actually. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 4 | Sex without a condom ladies.. Seen a few of these posts recently😷🙅🏼♀️I know two of them really did, and I really hope I’m able to have a discussion with the third one day about her experience with him. She has a really strong network of friends though, so I’m staying in my lane until either she approaches me or the opportunity appropriately presents itself. I’m really grateful though that he has such amazing taste in women (but sorry as well because these beautiful, incredible, HVW are being destroyed by him) because I now have a small tribe of really great, supp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 12:17 AM |
| 5 | Guy is mad the girl didn’t offer to pay or split the bill by their 3rd date, he complained and she dumped him. Now he’s whining lmaoSo, did he pay for her parking, or did she Uber there every time? He said three dates and Uber was pluralized so which is it? And why can he pay for her parking when it’s her own car, but not her Uber fare? (that depending on the city was potentially less than the parking rate!) he sounds more salty that she hasn’t put out for him yet. I can almost guarantee you that she very politely opened with “do you mind if I get something small? I haven’t eaten dinner yet and I’m really hungry.” Now he’s p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 11:54 PM |
| 2 | The bar is underground at this point 🤮GAG GAG GAAAAG. ummmmm it’s not just water?? Mucous, bacteria, viruses, plaque from your teeth, I can go on. The first time this happened would be the last. I would throw out what he cooked and throw him right out with it. FFS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 11:44 PM |
| 11 | If they're not handing me a cup of tea and a snack, I'm not interested.Aww thank you so much! This just made me so happy. Love the women raising each other up in this sub soooooo much. 🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 11:28 PM |
| 11 | What do you think of snooping partner's phone?I personally never want to be a snooper just because I know for me on my phone is private access to all my thoughts, private feelings, and things that I jot down to get out of my head, and if anyone ever read those without my permission I would feel violated to the nth degree. My opinion is be with someone who doesn’t give you any reason to feel like they are hiding something (unless it’s a gift or something good for you that they’re trying to surprise you with! If you’re into that.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 10:05 PM |
| 3 | Goddamn right she walked away. Found on r/choosingbeggars(I do like their spinach dip but it’s overpriced and so bad for you!) It’s such a low effort date too. Like wow this is what you want me to have as my romantic impression of you? Rowdy little league teams and elderly church groups? Consider my panties dropped and soaked sir! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:58 PM |
| 2 | Don’t make fun of yourself, even jokingly, or guys will jump right on it and try to put you down even furtherI have a tendency to be really wordy. That summed it up perfectly. ❤️ Nolite te bastardes carborundorum!! Then and now! (Latin, don’t let the bastards grind you down.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:37 PM |
| 4 | Don’t make fun of yourself, even jokingly, or guys will jump right on it and try to put you down even furtherWhat a dick. I’d say something like “good for you? I was a kid dealing with social anxiety. Assholes who automatically assume that I had some sort of defect or problem because I was a loner only made it worse. I can assume you were probably just as much of a dick in high school too?” (I have no idea if that’s your story or not but I’m all sorts of riled up for you right now that he’s talking to you like that. Plus he doesn’t need or get to know the real story of why you didn’t have friends in hi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:31 PM |
| 3 | Don’t make fun of yourself, even jokingly, or guys will jump right on it and try to put you down even furtherRight! Me too. I was like damn they just said that shit?? Moooods! Then I realized they were using it as a title for “one who neggs” and I was like oh. I’m okay with just saying assholes! Anyone who neggs is preying upon women or people with low self esteem, pickmeishas, etc. and that’s an asshole. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:24 PM |
| 10 | Using specific language to distract from toxic behaviorDamn. That’s really powerful. That’s a man who was raised right, and if he wasn’t, he is doing a DAMN good job at breaking the cycle. He’s exactly right! Especially the part about violence with words or physical violence. I feel like sex can be subjective to a degree, but treating others with kindness and respect should be an objective standard. Period. Edit: I mean that everyone has different tastes and flavors for sex, but they should ALWAYS be treated with kindness, respect, and dignity. Sex … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:16 PM |
| 11 | Using specific language to distract from toxic behaviorThis really makes me think. I don’t do bdsm, and fully support the stance of anti bdsm anti porn. But in my life I’ve enjoyed a hand on my neck a time or two. The first time years ago that my ex and I had sex he squeezed my throat so hard I made the ugliest noises trying to breathe. It made me really uncomfortable, a little scared, and insecure. A while later into our relationship he asked me what I liked and I told him I liked the hand on the neck but not the squeezing, and for the life of me I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 09:01 PM |
| 35 | Don't 👏🏻give👏🏻 husband 👏🏻benifits 👏🏻to👏🏻your👏🏻 boyfriend 👏🏻Oh my gosh she’s gorgeous!! And yesssssss love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 08:42 PM |
| 47 | Sex without a condom ladies.. Seen a few of these posts recently😷🙅🏼♀️My ex never used condoms with me. I tested positive for cancer hpv while I was with him, told him, found out he had been cheating and hadn’t told her. Then he started dating someone new and found out he hadn’t told HER either. (Twice actually!) Had some fun conversations with those women. Makes me really fucking paranoid over what he may not have told me. Edit: realized he had two new girlfriends that I told about his situation. To not tell someone that is withholding pertinent information regar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 08:28 PM |
| 75 | If they're not handing me a cup of tea and a snack, I'm not interested.As an extrovert with introvert roommates this hits different. I WISH someone would let me talk after a long day! Or come to me after their long day. But from my experience with men it usually ends up with “oh honey sorry you had a bad day let me make you feel better...” and starts to try to seduce me. Like um. Sir. I don’t want dick I want to tell you how much of a dick this Karen was today. Ffs. Let’s go to karaoke so I can get a drink and unwind. GTFOH with that lack of emotional support. That… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 07:56 PM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Me too! Glad it wasn’t anything super serious,although a migraine for a week wasn’t fun. I’m feeling much better now, sorry I didn’t see this earlier, my reddit was being weird and didn’t let me see a couple of the comments on here. Ugh. But yes, I’m feeling much better now and am glad to have such a NVM out of my life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 01:14 AM |
| 1 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Wow, my reddit screwed up and I’m finally able to see your comment! I knew I was missing some lol. I am feeling much better now, and I’ve made peace with my own actions, and used his lack of response as a confirmation of his NVM status. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/20 01:12 AM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Yes! Trying to just move forward. Temporary insanity. I like it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 11:51 PM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Right??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:29 PM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Update! I mentioned the birth control thing to my dr he said it was a really good point and strongly recommended that I should follow up with a gynecologist about it! So thank you for suggesting this!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 05:24 PM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Yeah I was really really pissed at them. My mom feels horrible though, she told me she thought it was just me being tired and that I would come home, sleep for 12 hours and then be fine. She definitely learned her lesson with listening to me when I say stuff like I’m not ready or that I don’t feel well, and she’s been in the hospital with me since the day I was admitted- I was so sick I could hardly communicate for myself :( But she does feel really bad about the whole situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 02:46 PM |
| 1 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.That’s interesting, I do have PCOS so I have been on hormonal BC since I was about 12, I’ll ask my doc about that when he comes in this morning and see what he thinks! We’re currently thinking it was a direct result of a surgery I had about 2 days prior, either as a result of general anesthesia, exhaustion, the stress of being high risk for covid now, or the stress of those plus being forced to travel before my body had any time to recover. (I had the surgery out of state and the day after I was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 02:16 PM |
| 3 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Thanks, me too! And I so agree, I told him they thought I had a stroke and he didn’t respond?? What a dick. 100% shows his true character as a NVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 12:58 PM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Thank you! I’m trying to remind myself of that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:10 AM |
| 2 | I’m gonna nah sis myself for a second.Thank you! Unfortunately the number is memorized :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 10:09 AM |
| 10 | The future contains all possibilities. Never settle for less than what you deserve.Yes yes yes. This is exactly the mindset I’ve been adopting. It’s been life changing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 12:02 AM |
| 2 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:18 PM |
| 2 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Right?? When I have a daughter (and if I have a son too) I’ll be raising them to these high values. How to be a HVW and how to be a HVM. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:16 PM |
| 3 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.You are NOT the loser of your breakup. You’re the winner because you got out and are in this group. Seriously, go to r/narcissisticabuse and post all your thoughts and feelings there. They helped me process so much of my pain. I mean, mid July will be my 1 year mark since the last time I saw him/went nc. But just because that’s my timeline and story doesn’t mean that if yours is longer or shorter that it’s better or worse. I had to do a lot of self reflecting and ask myself what could I have don… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:14 PM |
| 13 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank you and You’re welcome! I’m proud to be an active participant in that sub! I recommend it to a anyone who is or suspects they are or have been involved with a narcissistic partner and needs a safe place to process their thoughts and emotions. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:57 AM |
| 2 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank youu!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:00 AM |
| 9 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank you so much!! I’m in disbelief honestly, I had no idea that I could score that high. Now I just gotta keep it up for the real thing! I can’t wait to give updates and I feel the love! Thank you thank you thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 06:00 AM |
| 6 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank you! I’m really in shock!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:49 AM |
| 8 | Nobody will be able to tell me I was the loser of the breakup.Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/20 05:47 AM |
| 7 | Why do men fetishize "crazy" (mentally ill) women? and also use "crazy" to gaslight women?I think it’s the same concept as a meme going around I saw that said something like “nah sis, the sex wasn’t that great, it was just the only positive intimacy he gave you” or something like that. They fetishize “crazy” because they go for pickmeishas, treat them like crap, get them trauma bonded, then when the pickmeishas are going crazy trying not to lose him and he wants sex from them, the pickmeishas are so desperate to work to prove their worth and keep him that they put in hella effort dur… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/05/20 10:02 PM |
| 1 | Always put yourself first, ladies.Ugh, not quite the same situation, but I decided to go back to school a couple years ago after a failed attempt when I was 18. The first few quarters I did great, but when my NVM ex decided he really wanted to leech off me, I got zeros my last two quarters and dropped out. Now I’m 25 and having to go back to school again to finish my degree, hopefully to be finished in 3-4 years. Never letting a man pull me out of my life and my success ever again!! Not worth it in the least bit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/20 08:08 PM |
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