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No one actually does that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 07:30 AM
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Yep!!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 02:00 PM
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Yep to all of this
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:22 AM
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Right? Who on heaven’s planet would be like, “wow, 100 people? That is so impressive! I’m very attracted to you now.” The premise that, because something is more difficult, it is automatically impressive, is not true. While I personally do not care about body count, if a man can get many women, he speaks for himself in his presence and confidence, not the amount of times he has slept with a female in a non intimate manner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/23 01:19 AM
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Stoicism is a philosophical idea and is not rooted in genders at all. Might I add- it’s a great philosophy for everyone to practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/23 02:18 AM
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Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:27 PM
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All “psychopathic” men are master manipulators. Men on the lower end of ASPD (sociopathy) are the ones who lack impulse control, thus typically in and out of prison. I know many men who loveee women who cheat and are manipulative (I assume because of the trauma bond?), and go back to them countless times, when the red flags were there from the beginning. I really do empathize with where you are coming from to be honest, because I try to be healthy and men have these crazy emotions towards women …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:22 PM
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Frrr. How can someone think that dressing in a way that is appealing to women is feminine…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:05 PM
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I have met a very high level of men saying their ex was manipulative, abusive, and a cheater
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 08:02 PM
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In California, you need to make at least $100,000 :( Rent for a very small 3 bedroom apartment is $3k a month, and this doesn’t include utilities, insurance, car payments, and groceries. But, I hear it is much cheaper in different states.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/23 11:47 AM
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No, I did not get paid or anything. :( just purposely made to look stupid. However, I met a ton of cool people who messaged me on Instagram to ask for the full story. Even those who thought I was stupid became some of the people I have bonded with the most, which I love to see!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/11/23 06:33 AM
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Fuck Jubilee. I was in a Jubilee video and they completely edited clips to fit their narrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/23 06:26 PM
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So true! 😂 who are these people surrounding themselves with?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:56 PM
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Rationally, I can “get with the 21st century.” Obviously, there is nothing I can do about it. But, I believe the push to establish men and women as the same, asserting we do not need each other has harmed both parties. I do not party or drink unless I am with just friends and family for this reason. I know men can be untrustworthy, so I “got with the program,” took responsibility, and adjusted accordingly. “Unless it’s the wrong values.” Morality is tricky. I enjoyed what you said about promotin…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 03:54 PM
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It depends on the situation. Being weak as a man is lacking of virtue. We do not mean doing everything for someone you do not know or someone who makes poor choices. It typically applies to men who turn a blind eye when women are being raped at a party, for example. You are allowed to do whatever you want. A man who cannot stand up for his values is a weak, immoral man, and I want no part with a man who would do that. “Women can pick better men.” Who is saying that it is some other man’s fault w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/23 07:25 AM
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What in the world is your definition of stoicism? We want someone to be calm and calculated during adversity, not moody, pessimistic, and irrational. But, by your definition anyways, myself and many people love the guy in the group who is quiet and does not talk much. The one who doesn’t need attention. He just exudes sexiness. Maybe when you felt like you looked stoic, you actually looked unapproachable and depressed? Not saying it’s your fault, but sometimes (myself included) we don’t realize …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/23 07:03 PM
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My ex was actually a redpiller himself. We seemed to share the same values at first. But of course, I was naive and if I could go back and slap myself across the face, I 100% would, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/23 03:07 AM
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I was just mainly referring to being shut off, especially after years of being extremely religious, to now embracing it. I hope that makes more sense lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 07:48 PM
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Absolutely this. I remember when I was a virgin, my partner complained constantly that I did not want to have sex. He always talked about how I was different than “these hoes” and simultaneously had a porn addiction and got extremely upset every time I said no. Eventually he got me to say yes and I absolutely hated it. Sex was a painful chore. Breaking up with him was a gift and now I am very much in touch with my sexuality. While the consensus (redpillers believe) is that I am worthless since I…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/23 05:15 AM
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Obviously there will be people who stay in abusive relationships the same way there are plenty who leave. Men do the same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:08 PM
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Definitely agree. Many of the violent/drug dealing kinds of people people in my life are such family men and really love kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:07 PM
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Depends on the situation but most of the time it is self-sabotaging and the only people who would stay are people with no self respect which is already setting you up for a very rocky relationship that will infiltrate into other parts of your life. If it gets to the point of violence? You don’t want a restraining order or to end up in jail. Not to mention, it isn’t real love most of the time and just a trauma cycle. I feel like you guys would much rather prefer an amazing women who will make a g…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 02:04 PM
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I seem to have a different take than most people but obviously- the reason is more intricate than you think. I do not know where you live but most people are not virtuous/altruistic people (I do live right by LA, which is full of shallow people, though, but you should make your own observations about people). The kinds of people who value looks etc over anything are already establishing themselves as shallow and therefore do not care about values. Alas, good morals/virtues like Jordan Peterson’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 01:56 PM
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This is a very good point and I think you are absolutely correct! Social media especially has ruined things for people, and it is funny watching old movies to see how different our culture has become around what is creepy/normal. We all knew social media would affect females due to photoshop and only seeing very pretty girls as they have the most followers. Now, we are seeing excessive content of rich gym bros. Not only this, but dating apps have made dating much harder for men. People who I fin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:43 PM
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Andrew Tate, a multimillionaire who dates extremely beautiful women.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:35 PM
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I absolutely do know lonely men, and I am not saying this is a phenomenon that does not happen. Being lonely is truly truly devastating and I would not wish it on anyone. The point I am making is that men are not being denied because they are not an alpha millionaire womanizer. Men will still get denied, of course. Heck, almost everyone who has ever tried to date has been denied, myself included. Alas, I still see many men who are not alpha have partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:32 PM
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If they are chasing men out of their league, then you are implying they do not get them, the same manner men chase women out of their league and do not get them. This will never change as these people are desirable. It, likewise, depends on the person and situation. If we are discussing college campuses, I have seen couples that are nerdy, chubby, short, pre med students that are far from alpha, extremely skinny men dating, and objectively average looking men sleeping with their entire friend gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:22 PM
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Exactly why I said “people in my area.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/23 02:02 PM
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Men in their 20s are witnessing women in their 20s deny them because they instead date millionaires with six packs that have slept with 100 women? Or do they just assume that the reason they are getting rejected is for that reason because they consume dating advice from men who are the top 10% in wealth dating the top 10% in looks? Go outside, to Walmart, Disneyland, or to a public college campus if you don’t. I see all sorts of people dating that are far from (objectively) good looking and weal…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 05:45 PM
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I do go for more petite men as I find them more attractive and they can still pretty much pick me up and throw me with one hand. Likewise, as other men can be violent it makes me feel safer to have someone who can fight (smaller men have speed and can make amazing fighters). I assume it is a similar feeling for women who like bigger men. Furthermore, many of the people in my area have guns which means a) we are defenseless anyways or b) we can protect ourselves via weapon which levels out the pl…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/23 04:42 PM
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As a young female with a little sister, I can say that both sexes in my age group have pretty much normalized trauma-dumping, I would assume due to TikTok. Both sexes have very casually brought up their trauma- people I met that day, even, probably more times than I can count. It depends on the scenario in which it is appropriate or not. For example, I have had middle-aged male Lyft drivers trauma dump in manners that made me very uncomfortable. Likewise, there is a difference between trauma dum…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 12:53 PM
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I agree with everything you said. Could not have said it better myself.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 08:18 PM
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This.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/23 06:11 PM
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It does not require “being dumb to an extent” to learn how to seduce people. “He will see the irony in them and cringe at it.” Not everyone with high IQs will purposely make their lives harder by not learning social skills because it is “cringe.” I personally am not turned off by smart, intellectual nerdy men. Before anyone comes at me and says, “you just don’t know what nerdy is,” no… I do. Intellect of any of the sort is attractive. But, I adore people who are street smart as I am not at all, …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/23 01:12 AM
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I have no idea who started the term “sapiosexual,” but it is stupid. Because, what it truly is, is a paraphilia- which is what it was called (sapiophilia) up until… very recently- I think they turned it into a weird neo-sexuality… Your argument is that if people cared that much about “personality,” then there wouldn’t be that many toxic ex’s. Wrong. Personality is the main thing that is arousing to me, and it has nothing to do with kindness, for example. People think Ted Bundy is sexy because he…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/23 12:34 AM
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I know men that are that 5’5” and they do not have a problem getting girls at all… obviously they are charismatic, confident, social, and intelligent, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/23 04:57 PM
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Being a school shooter is not the most masculine thing a man can do. It is, however, something that a man is more likely to do than a woman- of course, due to biological and hormonal differences to women. I agree with what you are saying in that a man’s anger can be channeled towards amazing things, like fighting wars for the better, being successful, etc. Masculinity is a very good thing that should always be encouraged. Unnecessary violence especially towards kids or people who are not a threa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/23 11:29 AM
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Ohh okay I understand. Yeah, you complain about women being rude to men out of fear, but men are literally killing other men, which crosses a higher level of disrespect than us just being rude, no? Nonetheless, plenty of men are rude to other men. I do think location greatly contributes to this. Grow up in a high-violence neighborhood, and one will quickly pick up the hostility that is necessary to survive. Violent crimes are more likely to happen in areas of higher violence where people carry w…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 02:02 AM
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1+1=3? Men are dangerous to both men and women. They are responsible for 90% of homicides. Just because other men are victims, does not mean I should not be scared of them. Most of the women I know are not rude “because of some rape statistic.” We are rude because we have been victims of violence/rape ourselves, or seen it? Men are not “defenseless” against men with weapons. Most men I know carry guns and knives with them in case this happens. I cannot own a gun, and even if I do carry a knife o…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:44 PM
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Exactly!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 09:38 PM
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I agree that a man will definitely be more attractive when he is disciplined, assertive, and dominant in bed. Likewise, no one likes men with a “pity me” attitude, and the red pill demonstrates being a go-getter, going to the gym, etc, as opposed to sitting in pity. Let me just say- as a female, when I had a “pity me” attitude, no one liked me, either. It seems people do not like complainers, and it is very off putting, so this qualifies for both men and women. However, I love men’s soft sides, …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 02:57 AM
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Exactly this.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:58 PM
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Agreed!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:57 PM
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Easy to say this when you haven’t any experience in rejecting men… just because you “believe most men will take it in good stead if they’re told the truth in rejection,” it does not mean that is correct. It is like spinning a wheel of chance. There have been plenty of men who do take it well which is absolutely admirable. However, plenty will get angry- or even dangerous amidst rejection.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 08:56 PM
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Thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 01:24 AM
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Are you discussing the statistics that demonstrate someone is more likely to cheat if they were not a virgin going into the relationship, or are there statistics representing an increase in divorce the higher a n count is? For example, someone with an 11 n count is more likely to cheat or spawn a divorce than someone with a 7 n count. If you don’t mind, you are welcome to message me or respond with the statistics!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 01:26 AM
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Interesting. I’ve met plenty who do not care about body count irl. 🤔 we probably have completely different circles.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 06:11 AM
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I would like to see the data for that, because every woman I know who enjoyed hookups stopped as soon as they had a boyfriend, and had no problems at all being completely loyal (myself included). There is much more thrill being in love with someone than there is in hooking up. For women, sex is psychologically better if they are connected and especially in love with the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 05:35 AM
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Came here to say this. Sex is a million times better with a confident partner. I read about women who are too insecure to ride their man, look at him, or ask for what they want. That must be awful. The best part of sex is being fully seen and authentic. Nonetheless, sex is best with a confident, bold man.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:37 AM
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Read “the psychology of self esteem.” Confidence is important in both men and women. It is especially awful to sleep with someone who is insecure. Between arrogance and insecurity, at least arrogance will get things done and make people strive for big things, whereas insecurity makes them shy away. I also like people who are strong enough to stray from societal norms and stand up for what they believe in. They cannot if they are insecure and unsure of themselves. Insecurity is a disability if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 12:32 AM
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I do not really know if my opinion is helpful, but I could not care less if someone’s n count is high. I prefer men with a lot of sexual experience, personally. I am not one to be insecure or jealous ever, so perhaps that also plays a role. I, likewise, enjoy people who are good in bed and not “grossed out” by vaginas (as my first boyfriend, a virgin once said to me- that he was grossed out by vaginas or, “a vagina isn’t supposed to be there,” having only watched porn). I find the men I interact…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 06:13 PM
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What bothers you so much about her having had more sexual partners? Is it that you feel jealous, worry she will compare you, worry she will cheat, believe she is immoral? I want to put this out there: if you guys both love each other, you may end up feeling foolish ruining this connection over something like that. We don’t know her, so we can’t give full input, but most people with high n counts are just regular people: not deceptive or malicious. However, if it eats you alive, for whatever reas…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 12:19 AM
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Which they do. The advice given is usually about making yourself more beautiful, classy, being seductive, holding yourself to high standards, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:04 PM
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That is what I just said. It is different for men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:59 AM
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Yeah for sure! Chemistry is important, even for hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 01:59 AM
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Yes, many have, to be honest. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:54 PM
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This is absolutely correct! There are decent and attractive men in my area that I would sleep with if I liked their personalities but it usually does not reach that point! Many women I know are absolutely on the same page. Sex is much more about being psychologically stimulated as a women, so this is the biological explanation as to why we can find someone attractive looks-wise, but not want to sleep with them. Orgasms, for example, are incredibly psychological and hard to have if a) you don’t f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:01 PM
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Wrong. I don’t have a single problem with either.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 08:48 PM
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Correct, a traumatic childhood oftentimes is what makes them “bad.” I do not think a tattoo makes a guy a “bad boy.” I would think having a felony would, though.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:15 PM
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I have dated one. I am not speaking out of my ass.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:01 PM
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What is a “bad” boy? I would say a typically “dangerous” criminal to have an objective idea. Bad boys actually can be extremely attentive, affectionate, and obsessive in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 07:54 PM
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Oh okay! My bad! I totally get that. You’re saying it’s hard to basically make moves or start conversations without making us afraid.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:08 AM
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Yes, but a man who doesn’t say anything is significantly less threatening than a man who catcalls you, as they are establishing sexual attraction. We are not discussing the premise on if catcalling is “actually” dangerous- I’ve been catcalled by some people who ended up being really funny and just wanted to compliment me. I’ve also been stalked by someone who didn’t say anything. However, if someone verbalizes they are attracted to you, of course it is more threatening than someone not saying an…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:05 AM
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Exactly! If a guy had a gay past, I would be cool with it. Why would I be disgusted? 😂 And I don’t have a “visceral” disgusted reaction when I see short men? I’ve liked short men before no problem 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 07:10 PM
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This is wrong. The people I have been most attracted to are ones that waited for me as we were seeing each other and didn’t have sex until we both were in love. This is where it gets weird for me because, am I the only person who dates people I am incredibly attracted to- mentally, physically? Emotionally? The people I’ve been most attracted to are people I have dated. You’d have to assume the female you’re talking to has slept with people she finds more attractive, but then chooses to date some…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 04:42 PM
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First of all, it depends on what promiscuous means. As in, experimented a little in high school? Dresses sexy? In the real world, not echo chambers, people just date who they connect with on a deep level. For me personally, I love sexually experienced men and they enjoy sexually experienced women. It is a genuine preference they discuss with me. Of course, there will be plenty of people who do not like that at all, and I do not have a single problem with that as I would not resonate with them. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 01:27 AM
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“The bigger the muscles, the hotter.” I personally do not judge people by their physique. However, I must say, the people I fall for are usually slim and more petite (smaller shoulders) than super muscular/big. However, of course I would date someone big if they were a cool person!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 07:30 PM
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I agree with that! You had just worded it as her discussing what “turns her on,” which I took sexually, so there was a misinterpretation there. Also, I compared the idea to my father, as we are opposite sexes. I think what you said is definitely correct in that banter/being funny and flirting makes someone a lot more attractive! 🙏
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:24 PM
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OP was talking about how women sleep with bad boys and then marry “good guys” so I was commenting on the people who do that. You’re right though! 😌 But for me personally- and it sounds like the people op is talking about- would rather carry someone’s babies who is more predictable/a good provider.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:17 PM
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Yep, this is so right.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:08 PM
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Why would your mom tell you what turns her on? If my dad did that, I would feel outrageously uncomfortable. Also, I would hope my future husband would be the best sex of my life, considering he is someone who I would be committed to by law and have his babies. People have this weird idea about “nice guys” and “bad boys.” Y’all act like bad boys don’t have stories or intelligence that would make them attractive or good lovers. The reason why it isn’t sustainable is because of their impulsiveness …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 05:05 PM
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Exactly! I have fps, too, of course lol. You know who is far more threatening? People without a diagnosis. They act a certain way without self awareness, whereas we can navigate it better!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:39 PM
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Bad boys stray from societal norms and develop their own sense of morality which is extremely attractive to me. They are unique and captivating, philosophical, and need to be charming as well as intelligent to get away with things. They usually have remarkable, deep and crazy stories. Also, to say the obvious- way more likely to be sadistic/dominant/experimental in bed which I enjoy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:34 PM
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Yeah… I have BPD from a bad childhood which was out of my control. However, I developed high levels of rationality, self-awareness, and practice stoicism to combat my once-emotional instability. I had to gain discipline over my mind. Many people consider me one of those most rational, logical, people they will ever meet. I split very rarely now, and have enough self control to not show it (I only show it to my family haha).
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 06:26 PM
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Oh, it was.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:19 PM
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Girl with managed BPD who dated a male with unmanaged BPD- it was mutually assured destruction. It was the most sexual, convoluted, passionate, dark relationship. Have to move on and eventually be in a healthy relationship so I do not get destroyed anymore… I know where everyone is coming from 🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate09/11/22 04:05 PM
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Nothing of what you said demonstrates the idea of being socially/emotionally intuitive. Really, all it means is being in tune to people’s emotions, recognizing facial expressions/body language/tones, reading the room to understand the most beneficial way to act. It is a skill. It does not mean you act poorly and expect to get away with it, so I am confused. In my experience, the most emotionally intuitive people in my life have been men who had bad relationships with their mom. For this reason, …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/22 07:13 PM
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Yep!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 07:33 PM
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In general, don’t, to be honest. It is more attractive to not sexualize things on the first date. It puts pressure and makes us feel like you only want sex (if you do, be honest about it). Yes, there are people who have been able to, and it was attractive, but if you want to be cautious, I would recommend not to. Otherwise, it’s a hit or miss - and usually a miss.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/11/22 12:34 AM
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Absolutely agree with this! If someone started using manipulation tactics on me, I wouldn’t become obsessed: I would leave. Nothing attractive about someone who is too insecure to be themselves, and feels they need to play hard to get or belittle me in order to get me to stay :)
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 08:13 PM
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My ex cried his eyes out in my arms. He felt embarrassed having shown me that side, but I loved comforting him and being there for him. I loved seeing him for all that he was. We broke up for different reasons, but I thought it was a very intimate moment, and continued to adore him. I think there is nothing weak about showing emotions. I think there is something incredibly strong and endearing about it. In fact, that is what attracted me to him in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/22 07:46 PM
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