thenefelibata Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
418	First proper cold approach with a 10	Field Report	thenefelibata	/r/seduction	19/11/24 03:51 AM
17	Learning to let go of outcome	Inner Game	thenefelibata	/r/seduction	29/09/24 02:45 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
3	What’s the one piece of advice that changed everything for you? We’re all drowning in seduction content, most of it we’ll never use. Share only what truly made a difference. Salvation lay within. Put reps in externally, but don’t neglect the internal self image. Ideally, the two should complement and build off one another.	/r/seduction	06/05/25 01:35 AM
2	The reason you’re getting ghosted is because you lack spark Glad someone said it.	/r/seduction	24/04/25 08:30 AM
26	How much of your "league" do you feel comfortable approaching. Instead of numbers, think of women as 0’s or 1’s. 0 = uninterested, 1 = interested. That’s it. You gotta humour the feminine not put it on a pedestal.	/r/seduction	09/03/25 06:19 AM
1	How old were you guys when you became consistently good at this game? You have to keep active. Things with momentum tend to stay in momentum, and things at rest remain at rest.	/r/seduction	03/03/25 10:31 PM
17	How old were you guys when you became consistently good at this game? I wake up early, use my spare time for the main lever moving actions and try and avoid jacking off. This means I’m busy and not chasing women, I make intentions clear, often take a while to reply but this frame of having something I’m genuinely busy doing coupled with when they see me out and I’m in some kind of high status ‘position’ I.e. I’m chatting with the owner of the venue we’re at, I have some exclusive booth with other women around me makes things a lot easier. It also helps that I go o…	/r/seduction	03/03/25 02:07 AM
26	How old were you guys when you became consistently good at this game? 27, it came when I left a relationship I was comfortable in, began to say yes to everything and became serious about my career/business, giving me something I had meaning/aiming towards. This helped me along with a few of my friends who have a lot of connections, develop a solid frame to consistently be around attractive woman and dating them.	/r/seduction	03/03/25 12:35 AM
1	I built a game that help you pass her sh*t tests Got 7 across the board, realised I’m good at frame control and being a bit of a dick, maintaining that in the ‘prize.’	/r/seduction	15/02/25 11:00 PM
1	How Attraction Works. Great post man!	/r/seduction	06/12/24 11:24 PM
2	Body count has gone up 11 in the last year. Facts man. Experienced something similar, it’s beautiful but you can’t be focused on it, maintain purpose	/r/seduction	29/11/24 02:00 AM
3	I was in 7 year long relationship and learned being single is underrated You hit the nail on the head, being single is formative and teaches you to become whole. I was in a LTR and I found being single scary at first but I’m leaning into it more and more. I realise I was seeking relationships to fill me up, rather than become filled as much as possible, and give my gifts to a women I select out of abundance.	/r/seduction	21/11/24 09:38 PM
6	First proper cold approach with a 10 Yeah man, I don’t think I’ll post again. So much immaturity and dick measuring in this thread, I get the sense a lot of these fucking clowns are younger men. I’m in my late 20s, have been around women for a long time. I’m not a Casanova but I also handle myself with respect and women do like me. I think I can learn more about seduction but these dudes in here low key have no life experience and sound jaded as.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 09:31 PM
1	First proper cold approach with a 10 Had multiple LTRs, date multiple women, just getting over pedesralising really hot ones and cold approaching in non-club/bar settings. I’m established	/r/seduction	19/11/24 09:29 PM
1	First proper cold approach with a 10 That’s not true, I’ve had multiple long term relationships, and been on about 3-4 dates a month for the last year. I mentioned this because she’s hotter and I’m breaking past limitations of pedestalising women, especially ones I would previously consider out of my league. There’s a lot of guys in here being rude and condescending, but you don’t realise how jaded it makes you sound. It’s embarrassing	/r/seduction	19/11/24 09:28 PM
14	First proper cold approach with a 10 Cheers bro this is more like it 💯	/r/seduction	19/11/24 10:41 AM
6	First proper cold approach with a 10 She gave me a huge smile and I just said hey off the cuff, I’m not a giga chad but I’m a decently good looking guy.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 06:53 AM
49	First proper cold approach with a 10 True, oh well. I’m not caught up. I just did something out of my comfort zone which I can celebrate as progress	/r/seduction	19/11/24 06:43 AM
84	First proper cold approach with a 10 Fair enough, I have a growth mindset so yeah. I’ll note it down and not fuck it next time	/r/seduction	19/11/24 06:27 AM
6	First proper cold approach with a 10 Thanks bro, it is an iteration. Game is like building a skillset as a business owner, you learn new tools and add elements to your game. It’s rewarding. My goal is to become a full stack guy, I have good accolades it’s just about that coming across in interactions. I go on 3-4 dates with new girls monthly, and my goal is to have experiences with new people broadly as well as know that when a woman who is wife quality comes along I can seduce her confidently.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 05:58 AM
2	First proper cold approach with a 10 Thanks champ	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:51 AM
-4	First proper cold approach with a 10 I’ll DM you	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:47 AM
6	First proper cold approach with a 10 He said he’d use that play on words, saving my number as ‘good time’ playing off how she said it was a bad time right now, saying how it’s never a bad time with ME.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:36 AM
2	First proper cold approach with a 10 Good advice. Thanks mate, I think it’s also about being quick witted. I’m that chill guy who tends to attract relationships more than sex, which I don’t mind but you’re right, this is a great example will add it to the toolbox.	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:33 AM
15	First proper cold approach with a 10 I’m not average, I’m a student of life. I’m not mad man. Happy to learn. Thanks	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:20 AM
53	First proper cold approach with a 10 Thanks bro	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:11 AM
46	First proper cold approach with a 10 Yeah exactly. How fucking bold are you meant to be? I’m on a journey of improving my self esteem, and not placing women on pedestals. It was a positive interaction and I made it clear that I saw her in a romantic/sexual frame, complementing her within like the 3rd thing I said. I spoke confidently and was clear about it. I’m also aware that seduction isn’t about this autistic process a lot of guys seem to think it is. A lot of it is subconscious and demonstrating you are the shit, without this g…	/r/seduction	19/11/24 04:00 AM
1	how to break into the top percentile of women? Access is key, why do you think rich guys set up businesses and networks that gives them access to beautiful women? The logistics, life setup and access gives them the keys, add to that a solid inner game by consistently doing difficult shit and you become a catch, with access who can get what you deserve in the dating game efficiently.	/r/seduction	14/10/24 04:38 AM
1	What does having strong "frame" mean? Yes	/r/seduction	24/09/24 02:01 AM
1	What does having strong "frame" mean? Bro I’ve fucking had oneitis like 6-7 times in my life. The cure has always been to focus on myself, my mission, in my case my business and my fitness goals. I’m also looking to buy a house, and that gives me something to focus on. I legit currently have oneitis where there’s this fit brunette with a big ass that I want to see, but she gives me mixed messages. Tells me to call her one day, then shit tests me by saying ‘don’t you have a girlfriend?’, then leaves me on read, then randomly responds…	/r/seduction	24/09/24 12:29 AM
1	What does having strong "frame" mean? Bro I’ve fucking had oneitis like 6-7 times in my life. The cure has always been to focus on myself, my mission, in my case my business and my fitness goals. I’m also looking to buy a house, and that gives me something to focus on. I legit currently have oneitis where there’s this fit brunette with a big ass that I want to see, but she gives me mixed messages. Tells me to call her one day, then shit tests me by saying ‘don’t you have a girlfriend?’, then leaves me on read, then randomly responds…	/r/seduction	24/09/24 12:29 AM
2	What does having strong "frame" mean? The king does not move from his throne. The peasants bring him things, and travel far to enter his ‘frame’ i.e. the court in front of his throne. You will maintain your frame by moving less than the people and women who orbit your frame. Be solid, remain standing and don’t ever reach. As soon as you reach you enter her frame, and become a peasant whilst losing your king status. Try and be the one who moves less in every interaction with her. Let her chase, crave your attention and come to you, b…	/r/seduction	22/09/24 11:24 PM
1	How Talking to Women Solved Most of My Problems Most men turn to external things. Women can see men for who they are, they can see the internal. Make sure your goals fulfil both.	/r/seduction	19/09/24 05:43 AM
2	What type of Girl do you actually want ? Honestly, I think she should offer a feminine ‘muse’ or inspiration. But of a weird one I know but I’ve always felt creative and inspired in the depths of my soul when I’m around an artistic, ethereal type girl. Think an arts student or a design girl. They’re smart and you feel understood around them, it’s a unique emotion.	/r/seduction	11/09/24 09:31 AM
28	It is so hard not to get bitter. The main goal is to create warm leads. Warm leads come from social circles, positioning yourself as desirable/high status in context of said social circle and breaking past common objections that you get with cold leads. Focus on the setup so you have bountiful warm leads, that come to you because of the environment/circle you’ve built around yourself. Female friends are excellent for this, as is being involved in activities with many women around you. Good luck.	/r/seduction	20/07/24 05:56 AM
2	22M. Was scared shitless to go out solo. Did it for the first time and it went good That's why Men's Self-Improvement and Positive Spaces have come up, a lot of guys putting points on the board, improving and beginning to seperate themselves from some of their friends they outgrew. I'm trying to do a new seminar/coaching event/skills workshop every week to develop as a man, and have begun to meet some people there that's been helpful. There's also a run club in my city in a pretty wealthy area, some of my more business-minded new circle are there, plenty of girls with yoga shor…	/r/seduction	11/03/24 01:38 AM
5	Porn has damn-near become a medication for men in 2023. This is ridiculous. It makes you psychologically weak and kills your reward systems.	/r/MensRights	25/11/23 12:15 PM