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Completely agree, thanks. I need to do this for me. Less acting more being.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/03/23 06:38 PM
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OYS #12: 40’s, married, kids. Mission Live with authenticity, passion, and purpose. Be the leader in my life and for those I care for. Build and maintain a community of friends and family. Listen to my gut and be brave enough to follow it no matter the outcome. Reading I took a long break from MRP and therefore stopped reading MRP stuff. I dove into a bunch of other self-help stuff that generally sucked. Shifting my attention back to MRP shit. I've read NMMNG, MMSLP and Mindful Attraction Plan. …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/03/23 05:56 AM
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When you actually have what you need, little can rattle you. This is so true. This is why I need to invest in strengthening frame. After re-reading NMMNG this past week I realized that I can meet many of my needs myself. I am holding myself back by being fearful or lazy. This past week I challenged myself to simply go do things I want to do without thinking about anything else. I am breaking down the things I'm afraid to do due to fear or lack of approval into smaller challenges. I do those smal…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/09/22 08:42 PM
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OYS #11: Late 30’s / 6ft / 170lb. Married: 10 years / Multiple young kids Mission Live an authentic and congruent life full of abundance. Working Draft: Live with authenticity, passion, and purpose. Be the leader in my life and for those I care for. Listen to my gut and be brave enough to follow it no matter the outcome. Reading I’ve read a few of the books from the sidebar (NMMRG, MMSLP, WISNIFG, RM, MAP) but since I wasn’t truly ready to both absorb and consistently apply the knowledge, I’m st…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/09/22 03:22 AM
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I was unsure which lifts were safe for me to do. Just got clearance from PT today on which ones so I’m getting back to it. Shifting my mind to realize this is a never ending journey.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:01 PM
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Yup, working on it
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 10:00 PM
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OYS #10: Late 30’s / 6ft / 170lbMarried: 10 years / Children: 2 kids Mission Live an authentic and congruent life full of abundance. Reading The Rational Male Fitness/Diet Goals: (1) Raise my SMV 2 points higher. (2) Build bigger, well-defined muscle and get stronger. (3) Cut body fat (4) Get out of the house 2 hours a day for the gym (5) Raise my self-esteem and confidence Fitness: I haven't been able to lift since last fall due to painful, nagging injury. Taking appropriate steps to address it…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/03/22 03:20 PM
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OYS #9: Late 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / Children: 2 young kids Mission My mission is to become a man that knows what he wants, gets what he wants, and lives authentically. Reading Completed, “Never be angry again”. Re-reading WISNIFG. Reading The Mindful Attraction Plan. Fitness/Diet Goals: (1) Raise my SMV 2 points higher. (2) Build bigger, well-defined muscle and get stronger. (3) Cut body fat (4) Get out of the house 2 hours a day for the gym (5) Raise my self-esteem and confidenc…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/21 07:11 PM
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OYS #8 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lbMarried: 10 years / Children: 2 young kids Mission My mission is to find my inner compass and confidently be myself and lead my wife and kids. Reading Just finished reading MMSLP - this book helped a lot. I’ve read NMMNG twice, and will now read WISNIFG a second time. Fitness/Diet Gym has been going well. I’ve been in the gym 5 days a week for the last 2 months. I cycle through 3 days worth of muscle groups. I do a day of chest/triceps/shoulders, a day back/biceps, a…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/06/21 11:04 PM
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Although my mind frequently flirts with fear/avoidance based thoughts and scenarios I wake up every morning and choose furtherance. I keep choosing to invest in my current life, wife and kids. I keep choosing to invest in improving the current me in all other aspects. I’m committed to turning things around and the only time horizon I should be focused on is the current moment. In happier days when my marriage was better (and I was more content), the procedure was a no-brainer and I had no anxiet…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:08 PM
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If I frame it in “furtherance” over “avoidance”, I’d be investing in a future of worry free sex and taking control of my future fatherhood possibilities. This is undoubtedly appealing. If I frame it more positively: “I’m happy with the children I have. I want to invest my time, energy and resources I have to give them a great life. I want to use my remaining time on personal hobbies and interests and have a fun life with my wife. If I had any more kids it would be hard to accomplish that.” The “…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 05:30 AM
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Great way to think about it. I’m doing it because I think I don’t want any more kids. I’m almost certain. 2 is plenty of responsibility. That said, I’m not sure I can trust “current me” with my balls. Something in my gut keeps saying don’t do it. In other moments I’m certain I should. Very indecisive. I have a few weeks to think about this.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/02/21 12:26 AM
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OYS #7 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / Children: 2 kids under 3. Mission My mission is to find my inner compass and rebuild myself starting from there. Reading Re-reading WISNIFG, and now going back and re-reading NMMNG. This time around I want to actually do the breaking free exercises. I really need to focus on the pre-reqs. Been slacking on the reading. Fitness/Diet/Health I was on vacation this past week and did bodyweight exercises. Lifted today for the first time in a week and f…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/21 06:20 AM
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Fair points. I’ll focus on the fundamentals. Thanks.
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 10:41 PM
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Very helpful. Thanks. All I’m getting are shit tests then. I know she doesn’t want a divorce or to lose me, but she’s not actively afraid of losing me either (cue dread). Whenever we have conversations about the “end” she becomes vulnerable and starts to throw me some crumbs and offer very basic compromises (false promises to keep me around). On one occasion, during an argument over an ongoing issue, she asked me, “will you divorce me if I don’t do XYZ?”. I didn’t say yes (even though I wanted t…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 09:11 PM
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u/sea-tease Completely agree. Big CC here. I still have an issue disconnecting my own goals and progress from the outcome I desire. I still think that if I get ripped enough or if I just keep doing what my wife says she needs me to do I'll finally get what I want. This doesn't work and allows her to keep all the power. This allows her to keep moving the goal posts so that nothing I do is ever enough and she's able to keep telling me, "you're not strong enough yet". I need to know that I am stron…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 06:24 PM
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u/AlphalfaSprout I really appreciate your thoughtful response. I thought I understood what a shit test was, and I clearly don't. Your explanation makes it super clear. It's hard not to DEER. I tried the strategy of acting like I didn't hear her shit tests this past week. It did feel foreign and my heart did race but I stayed strong. I now need to utilize the strategy consistently and with longevity. After a few more weeks of not getting angry or DEER'ing, I'm going to try "agree and amplify". In…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 06:20 PM
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OYS #6 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / Children: 1 toddler, 1 infant. Mission I don’t know what my mission is yet. For the moment, my mission is to find my inner compass and rebuild myself starting from there. Reading I’ve been reading MRP mostly. Almost done re-reading WISNIFG Fitness/Diet Haven’t ordered an olympic barbell, weights, and a rack yet after realizing I don’t have enough space in my garage. Need to make time to get rid of a bunch of shit, including my excuses. Lifts belo…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/21 06:01 PM
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OYS #5 Late by 2 days. Was too busy having pointless fights with my wife to own my shit. Not an excuse at all. I didn't prioritize OYS on Tuesday and I should have. Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / Children: 1 toddler, 1 infant. Mission I don’t know what my mission is yet. For the moment, my mission is to find my inner compass and rebuild myself starting from there. Reading Still re-reading WISNIFG. Fitness/Diet I got feedback last week that I’m not lifting heavy enough. I'm going to o…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/21 07:12 AM
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OYS #4 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / 2 young kids Mission I don’t know what my mission is yet. I’ve spent my entire life people pleasing and doing what I “should be doing” as opposed to listening to my inner compass. So, for the moment, my mission is to find my inner compass and rebuild myself starting from there. Reading Focusing on two book at time so I can really absorb them and reflect. Rereading WISNIFG this week and a parenting book to help me with my toddler’s tantrums. Fitne…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/01/21 06:03 PM
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I commit to including my lifts on Tuesday.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/01/21 04:22 PM
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This is accurate and I needed to hear this. I think and talk way more than I actually “do”. As of now my only actions include sporadically implemented STFU and consistent lifting. I need to go harder on both. My next milestone will be getting to OYS 10, so I commit to showing up in OYS for the next 7 weeks.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 04:57 PM
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OYS #3 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 170lb Married: 10 years / Children: 1 toddler, 1 infant. Mission I'm back after a long, meditative hiatus. I don’t know what my mission is yet. I’ve spent my entire life people pleasing and doing what I “should be doing” as opposed to listening to my inner compass. So, for the moment, my mission is to find my inner compass and rebuild myself starting from there. Reading I’ve read NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rational Male, and have started MMSLP. This is a realistic number of books fo…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/01/21 07:05 AM
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OYS #2 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 160lb Married: 8 years / Children: 1 toddler, another baby on the way. Mission (1) Design my life and be the best version of me possible. (2) Reach my true potential in work and life. (3) Lead my family by being a strong and supportive husband and father. Reading I’ve read NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rational Male, and have started MMSLP. Also reading a bunch of books on assertive communication. Fitness/Health Lifting 5 days a week. Seeing newbie gains. Catch wife looking at me and s…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 02:22 AM
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OYS #1 Mid 30’s / 6ft / 160lb Married: 8 years / Children: 1 toddler, another baby on the way. Mission (1) Lead my family by being a strong and supportive husband and father. (2) Design my life and be the best version of me possible. (3) Reach my true potential in work and life. Reading I’ve read NMMNG, WISNIFG, Rational Male, and have started MMSLP. Also reading a bunch of books on assertive communication. Fitness/Health I’ve been lifting 3 days a week. This is not enough. I'm now committing to…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 04:58 AM
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