| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 307 | PSA: If your boyfriend is only nice to people when they are serving his interests, he isn't nice. | LESSON LEARNED | thepastamancer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 05:01 PM |
| 274 | Red Flag vs Green Flag when telling a man he has upset you | DISCUSSION | thepastamancer | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 06:00 PM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 126 | Which one of you is this aboutObviously he should try communicating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 02:20 PM |
| 70 | Choice feminism - propaganda?I've had an abortion and you are 100% wrong. It benefited me and I've never once regretted it in almost 20 years. Don't bother explaining how carrying an unwanted pregnancy to term is somehow less traumatic or more beneficial than an abortion because it isn't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/21 01:12 AM |
| 569 | Why they neg, straight from the horse’s mouth.Its not a design flaw if it repels men like this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 12:25 AM |
| 18 | Oh btw…she mentions in the comments that she’s caught him chatting with other women, too. Also that he makes her feel crazy but that she is mentally ill so it might really be her.My boyfriend has genuine and severe dietary restrictions and he doesn't act like this. We have wildly different dietary preferences and needs yet it's extremely easy to cook for both of us because we are not picky babies. We cooperate and take turns and it's much easier for both of us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 04:58 PM |
| 4 | This girls IG is every red pill mans fantasy 🙄"Studies show" Sure Jan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 09:48 PM |
| 13 | IDENTIFY THE RED FLAGSI love a man who has to tell me how "alpha" he is. Otherwise how would I know? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 04:55 PM |
| 184 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒The length incels will go to in order to avoid taking personal responsibility and bettering themselves is truly astonishing. Yes, feminism ruined your life, it can't be your own utter lack of effort and character! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/21 03:44 PM |
| 13 | A friend sent me a 🍤-pic out of nowhere and I feel betrayedOh gosh golly I was just so confused that I removed my pants and underwear, switched to the camera app on my phone, recorded my penis, switched to the messaging app, scrolled for your contact, and pressed send! Poor little me! It's so easy to do all of that by accident! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 06:39 PM |
| 9 | How do you dress at home when living with an SO? Do you feel pressured to dress for his “male gaze.” Does he complain or suggest things? Y’alls experience?I wear sweat pants, hoodies, soft tank tops, short shorts, whatever is maximally physically comfortable to me depending on temperature. The second I am home the comfortable clothes are going on. My partner is just happy that I am happy. He would never complain about or belittle me for wanting to be comfortable in our own home. Jeeze who fucking does that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 11:01 PM |
| 15 | When the most basic requirement is exhausting.My boyfriend tells me how beautiful I am multiple times a day every single day and seems very happy to do so. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:57 PM |
| 4 | Controlling Behavior Re: Chores & MoneyThis man is actively and purposely ruining your life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 04:44 PM |
| 24 | Men don't negotiate with women in relationships--they expect to controlBut are they at least willing and able to provide what dad provided? Also no | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/05/21 04:20 PM |
| 9 | Reproductive control is the cornerstone of male violence. From one generation to the next.This is why we must protect our own interests at all costs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:49 PM |
| 15 | But - but younger women love older men! /sYes... it's women who hit the wall... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/05/21 01:23 PM |
| 10 | I hate Adam Sandler’s films.I've been saying how much I hate his movies for a decade at least | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 04:04 PM |
| 57 | A man who only values you for your fertility and beauty is no HVM: never give up studying, advancing your career or your financial security for a man"mEn dOnT cArE aBoUt yOuR cArEeR" Um OK sir sounds like you're mad you're having trouble financially trapping a woman. Financially independence means never having to care what mouth breathers like this say. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 05:02 PM |
| 36 | I told his girlfriend he cheated on her with meHe ruined his own life. You did right by protecting the other woman in the situation. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:51 PM |
| 12 | Another way of saying 'I like women that are insecure because as a man " I cannot handle having a women that is beautiful and know it on social media or in life ". What is sad is that many girls have been told this lie that they don't seem to see anything wrong with it . (SWIPE TO SEE COMMENTS )Hmmm I wonder why all these men are posting their opinions publicly on social media... could it be for attention? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 04:31 PM |
| 33 | When he says he loves smart/strong women...He means a woman "smart" enough to recognize his underappreciated genius obviously 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:01 PM |
| 17 | I'm the bad guy because dudes treat women like shit? What? Somebody break this down for me?I love the assumptions behind this message. These men assume all conventionally attractive men treat women like shit, "pumping and dumping" before racing away to the next available hole with no regard for women's humanity. They think this because it's what they would do in "Chad's" place. They're not good, they're disadvantaged and whining they're not getting the pity fucks they feel entitled to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 06:46 PM |
| 7 | "He's leaving her anyway, I don't mind. Should I give it a try and ignore that I'm an active participant in cheating?"What exactly is interesting to you about a man who flirts behind his partner's back? If he did it to her he will do it to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 01:42 PM |
| 7 | Sounds like Jane has standards to me! Be like Jane :)I definitely agree this guy's story is pretty suspicious. But in my case I do have a close male friend who I hang out with alone occasionally. We aren't doing anything sexual, never have and never will. He treats me like his sister. He is successful with women and hates incels and "nice guys". He drops any man who shows red flags like that from his group of friends ruthlessly. Thats one reason I like hanging out with him. He pays attention to how the women in a group he is in are being treated a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 11:05 PM |
| 2 | God, why can't women stop reading and cook and sex their men more? Thats all men want! They are waiting....What do you mean??? Stories about hygienic, successful men treating women with empathy and respect while giving them orgasms are the exact equivalent of videos of women having a dick shoved down their throats!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/20 05:42 PM |
| 43 | El cheapo LVM hand-makes crappy cheap gifts for partner but expects a PS5Is this for real?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/12/20 05:51 PM |
| 22 | Are men who cold approach LVM?A cold approach is based almost completely on appearance, because that's all the information you have about a stranger. Appearance is important but having that be your only criteria is LV in my opinion. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 04:07 PM |
| 4 | Woman writes post about panties and tells men she "always wears panties" (why?) and then men proceed to make these disgusting vile objectifying comments about women like we exist for their pleasure and like they have the right to us 😫This is why this dumb pick me bullshit of asking men if they find something attractive is idiotic. This behavior directly tells men that their opinion on this subject matters. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 05:45 PM |
| 34 | All this manosphere anti-feminist backlash is just a crude attempt to regain power over women and force us to be subservient to them. The good news is that it's having the opposite effect: alienting women and motivating us to be even more independent from them.The irony is that men who take on some of the traditionally feminine behaviors they claim are beneath them are much less desperate and unhappy without women and more attractive to them as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/20 07:20 PM |
| 14 | “iT’s JuST pRimAL” I guess we’re all going against our very nature by not leering at strangers!Wow you're absolutely right bro. Im down! Please come back when you've fought off all the rival males, constructed a shelter, and killed a large game animal to prove your value as a provider. Obviously MY primal nature will only allow me to mate with the most superior specimen. Since pregnancy is such an investment and risk for me, I will only mate with a man who has demonstrated superior genetic quality and parenting ability. So sorry, that's just my biology! We can't argue with evolution! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/20 06:01 PM |
| 75 | My boyfriend destroyed my 7 year old Bonsai treeThere's no way that was just a clueless accident. He dated you for 4 years, was told multiple times not to prank you, and is surrounded by evidence of how important your plants and that tree are to you because lives with you. If you destroyed a precious possession of his, do you think he would just let it go if you feigned ignorance? I'm so sorry he ruined something so important to you. You are 1000% justified in being angry and breaking up with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/10/20 04:55 PM |
| 33 | FDS is NOT about manipulating men into getting into a relationship they don’t want toMy partner tells me (and anyone who asks) that im the perfect partner for him, the best thing that ever happened to him, and the love of his life. Because if you're a genuinely mature adult man capable of caring about people besides yourself, then a woman with strong boundaries and a sense of self is appealing, not threatening. Its men who can't fathom not manipulating their partner who think FDS is all about tricking them. They have no other way to relate to a partner and can't imagine it for a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/10/20 02:16 PM |
| 13 | PSA: If your boyfriend is only nice to people when they are serving his interests, he isn't nice.I see you're familiar with their playbook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/10/20 01:14 AM |
| 11 | Shut down an LVM at work who tried to treat me like his personal secretaryBless you and this post | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:31 PM |
| 131 | What would happen if we stopped sleeping with LVM 🤔The absolute largest benefit to women no longer sleeping with LVM/NVMs is women no longer sleeping with LVM/NVMs. Who cares what those dipshits do as long as they do it away from me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 01:26 PM |
| 2 | Important Points on Self-Love/ Self-Respect. Read even if you don’t think you have low self-esteemThank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 08:58 PM |
| 6 | Nope. He is not going to be my projectMy current partner showers me in affection, emotional labor, and support so he gets the same in return and we are both really happy. Having someone ask me how I'm doing and really want to hear the answer, hold me and comfort me whenever I'm upset, and openly state their love for me and desire to support and nurture me is so amazing. Can't believe all the time I wasted on people who can't reciprocate. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 07:59 PM |
| 74 | One of the creepy messages I got on my old account. Reading this shocked me since I never heard any man say such weird and disgusting things to me.Brb Googling how to wash my eyeballs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/09/20 08:50 PM |
| 108 | Omg 🙃 LVMI cOnSiDeR mYsElF tO bE a gOoD gUy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 08:37 AM |
| 6 | Does this seem controlling? I’m no longer dating this guy, but he would tell me I couldn’t wear certain things or make any new guy friends and if I objected, he said that I didn’t give a fuck about him. If I thought he was being controlling he frequently called me crazy and irrationalIt seems controlling because it is controlling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:22 AM |
| 9 | Which non-physical, non-material traits do you consider HV/attractive?Integrity, work ethic, honesty, self awareness, compassion and curiosity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/08/20 08:28 PM |
| 31 | Just randomly found it on fb. Ugh.Yes obviously Michael, this is about your boner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 08:48 PM |
| 8 | I guess I’m not a real woman then 🤷♀️No the fuck I wont | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 06:20 PM |
| 47 | Remember!Oh my god how did this picture of my ex get here?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 12:30 AM |
| 17 | What do conflict and arguments look like with a HVM versus a LVM?My current partner, who I hold in very high regard, listens to me when I have a problem with his behavior. It's an extremely rare occurrence. But when it does happen he doesnt try to argue or prove me wrong, he listens to understand and empathize and then makes a short, sincere apology. And then, and this is the key, I see a change in the behavior. Doesnt have to be an instantaneous 100% change, just a clear and reasonable attempt that improves with time and doesn't come with a bunch of excuses.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 09:47 PM |
| 9 | No, I am NOT the crazy one.You made the right call for sure!!! You were 100% right to trust yourself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 08:44 PM |
| 23 | "be my baby machine" 🤮🤢"Birth my children in return for nothing" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:55 PM |
| 7 | Help a sister outWhy would he assume that his wishes alone would dictate how you would manage childcare as a couple???? He just assumed things would be the way he wanted them to without ever discussing it with you?? Fuck that noise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:30 PM |
| 116 | Not like other black girlsPolitely decline and let him wonder. Don't give him information that will help him fool the next woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 02:58 PM |
| 112 | On a thread about a woman shaving her head and her husband not being attracted to her anymore. Pathetic.I pity this man's wife more than I can express | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 01:42 PM |
| 6 | You gotta know when to hold 'em, know when to fold 'em. DUMP HIS ASS!This man should be kissing her ass that she didnt dump him the second she found out he was gambling his child support away for 11 months. I would have! Deadbeat dads disgust me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 06:57 PM |
| 4 | Imagine being a completely average man and thinking a woman needs to “earn” you😒Dont forget the rant announcing your desire to be as stingy and withholding as possible with your resources! Form an orderly line ladies! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:49 AM |
| 7 | Imagine being a completely average man and thinking a woman needs to “earn” you😒"Show me you like me for me" Um could you provide us with anything likable?? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/07/20 01:25 AM |
| 5 | How a LVM ManipulatesPlease name the source because this is like, play #1 from my ex's playbook. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 11:46 PM |
| 103 | Shower thought: men tell us we’re stupid for not vetting chumps hard enough & blame our pOoR cHoIcEs & not men’s behaviour....but once we start getting wiser to men’s lies & vetting them harder they call us stuck up, superficial & paranoid.It doesnt matter what we do, this type of man will find a way for us to be wrong so he can place himself in a morally or intellectually superior position, at least in his own mind. It's not about what's real, its about his ego. Pay him no mind, since uninformed opinions like that are about as valuable as a prolapsed anus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/20 09:36 AM |
| 6 | 'Ouch my ego'My ex 100%! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 04:04 PM |
| 37 | For whoever needs itThis is the absolute truth. They suck out your energy and take it for themselves. Now that I've left I'm happier and more productive than I've ever been. I wouldn't go back if he was the last man on earth. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 09:50 AM |
| 66 | Goddamn right she walked away. Found on r/choosingbeggarsI'm poor and I dont want to eat at Applebees tho | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 03:49 AM |
| 42 | If he says this it's a red flagThey're shamelessly announcing their total lack of concern for their partner's sexual pleasure and comfort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/20 01:08 AM |
| 331 | If he says this it's a red flagThe real question is why he continued the sex. If my partner was laying there totally still and obviously not interested I would stop. At best this man is admitting he is bad in bed and uninterested in his partner's pleasure. At worst he's admitting he is a rapist. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/20 09:22 PM |
| 23 | Meet the men of the WooPlus app. I run into these profiles daily. What a catch!! Plus sized ladies, this app is not worth it!He can't even be bothered to fully type out "conversation" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 11:56 PM |
| 55 | How many red flags can you spot in this 1 tinder bio? From start to finish, all sorts of wrong, yuck🤮I'm glad. As an over-30 shriveled hag, I have only my sense of humor to comfort me, that and the knowledge that I am off this gentleman's radar. I think I'll make it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 10:36 PM |
| 35 | I couldn’t be more insulted whenever something like this happened. Also dude claimed he’s 6’ and looking for “something fun”. What were they expecting when they liked my photo? Get lost. 🙄😡Liking video games isnt a personality my dude | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 06:13 PM |
| 201 | How many red flags can you spot in this 1 tinder bio? From start to finish, all sorts of wrong, yuck🤮Ah yes the healthy and mature man of 27, eager to settle down with a 19 year old, but unwilling to consider some shriveled hag of 31 years of age. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/20 06:12 PM |
| 72 | Ladies: Do you tell men you’re in a relationship with about beauty treatments you do?I'd talk about it because I'm open about stuff like that and I like to talk about it. I'm not interested in a guy who needs to pretend that my legs really are naturally hairless and my eyebrows just grow in this shape on their own. Come on my dudes. That said if it isnt something that you want to discuss or be open about then you have no obligation to. What would make you feel most comfortable? That's what's important. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/20 09:01 PM |
| 18 | Reddit be likeI'm 5'10" and have literally never rejected someone for being shorter than me. I've dated many men my height or shorter. But if a man wants to be mad because I'm taller than him I mean that's hilarious. Sorry you needed an arbitrary thing to make yourself feel superior dude. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/05/20 12:58 PM |
| 2 | Ppppiccckkk meeee. This is disgusting. Who told this woman she needs a man this badly? TRIGGER WARNINGHow the fuck is there even a doubt in this woman's mind as far as what to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 01:45 PM |
| 11 | One male’s version of leveling upLmao yes what a diamond in the rough here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 01:42 PM |
| 5 | Woman out-lifts her LVM boyfriend, he throws a temper tantrum because she "emasculated" him, she immediately collects her things and dumps his ass. All the comments saying she's NTA and that the BF sucks. Good on her for leveling up!This post is sweet sweet nectar to my soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/20 12:40 PM |
| 29 | Why do guys run when you expect them to get to know you?Ugh could you like, stop being an actual person for a second?? It's so hard to fantasize over your dialogue. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/05/20 01:41 PM |
| 9 | Not just spending money but listeningLiterally my ex and my new BF in one post. I'm 1000% happier without some guy trying to buy the right to treat me like shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 10:05 PM |
| 9 | Whenever a guy asks me to “hangout” I immediately “bro out” with him and they always hate it. 😂 OLD is basically one big joke nowadaysLmaooo I never thought to use this technique online. I love doing it in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/04/20 11:58 PM |
| 80 | What do you think about guys that say that women are more beautiful without makeup and that they prefer "natural" women?I think they have no idea what truly "natural" women look like and they just want to sound woke. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/20 12:40 PM |
| 187 | I just really hate them, y’all.Reddit should I leave my girlfriend who I literally have no complaints about other than she doesnt look like a fake Instagram post??? Please advise. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/04/20 12:07 AM |
| 15 | Only a year, he' already an abusive NVM and she blames herselfR U N | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 01:44 PM |
| 3 | LVM with 200k salary wants his gf to pay to sleepover; I hope she dumps his assIt's my last relationship lol, except add in shameless crying, manipulation, and gaslighting when being asked to confront even a mild moral failing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/20 01:39 PM |
| 13 | When a relationship you thought had a real future ends, and the man comes back after the fact realizing how much he messed up, apologizing, etc, how do you ladies keep it moving?I'd never take my ex back. Problem was I already excused way to much and accepted way too many apologies for things that always happened again. That's one mistake I wont be repeating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 09:51 PM |
| 46 | LVM with 200k salary wants his gf to pay to sleepover; I hope she dumps his assThe fact that he is so sure that she is using him without presenting us with ANY evidence like things shes said or done shows that he believes they're relationship is entirely transactional. He is using her for what he feels she provides, like sex, companionship etc, and is absolutely out to squeeze as much as he can out of her while giving as little in return as possible. He assumes this is how everyone acts in relationships, which is also why he thinks offering this "low payment" to sleep over… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 09:46 PM |
| 111 | Men who expect you to "prove" that you are not a gold-diggerOk prove you're not just after a warm hole and free emotional labor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 06:17 PM |
| 15 | Dump him, sis 😩What. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/20 06:15 PM |
| 20 | If the science witch says "Don't violate quarantine because we could all die.". Don't violate quarantine. Because you may all die.Ripley is my ultimate hero and I relate to her so much | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 10:26 PM |
| 30 | A scrote proudly shaming women for having a period... wtf! Protect Yourselves Sisters 👯♀️Truly the work of a scientific and rational mind ::chef's kiss:: | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 05:19 PM |
| 7 | How do we balance our integrity with society's expectations of appearances? How far should we go to improve how we look?I go exactly as far as I feel like going. My appearance, my body, my style etc they are all for my own pleasure and self expression. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/04/20 12:01 AM |
| 14 | Manipulative men learning about healthy communication skills and types of abuse to shift the blame and use you.This is my ex, 100%, down to accusing me of "not communicating". I guess he thought it was my fault for not explaining to him, a grown man, how to not be an asshole. The poor baby! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 10:52 PM |
| 17 | 32 ? His triple chin says 52😂😂Sir no. I'm 34 and I do not look like this. You cant help being old, you can help being a liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 01:34 PM |
| 78 | Dating, sex and expectations have changed so much. You cannot expect the rules and vibes that existed 15, 10 or even 5 years ago. Remaining celibate and leveling up in all other areas of my life is making me feel so strong right now.Great post! I think a lot about how women can step up for each other and provide companionship, friendship, support, and love. Dont rely on men/romantic partners to provide all your emotional needs. Dont think of women as your competition for the attention of men! They're your friends and allies. If a man makes you fight over scraps of attention or cant seem to make up his mind between you and other women, he isnt a catch. Work on being a happy, self sufficient adult, nurture close and healthy f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 368 | HV Fucking M. Nothing but respect for this man and his wife. [Couldn’t repost...]That's certified husband material. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 11:55 PM |
| 4 | 😒🙄🙄🙄"Its women's fault that all of them dont like me! I'm a victim! I shouldn't have to do any self examination or improvement!!! Women just need to give me the attention and sex that I feel I deserve!!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 10:46 PM |
| 13 | I just realized something...It's not our job to worry about what random men we reject are doing. It's our job to protect ourselves by having strong boundaries and standards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 10:33 PM |
| 10 | I have issues comparing myself to another woman...I know how you feel, in the sense that I occupied the same position in my own dysfunctional family. What I can tell you is that the way you were treated by your family was reflective of their dysfunction, not of your value as a person. Though of course, it does not feel that way at the time. What I would like to invite you to think about is the idea that someone else's love or approval, while very nice, isnt what defines you as worthy. Using other people's feeling for you to define your worth is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 01:47 AM |
| 21 | What do you define as necessary for a HVM?Personal integrity, honesty, reasonably intelligent and good conversationalist, able to both accept and give constructive criticism, generous, empathetic, kind, good listener, but not a pushover. All things I require of myself as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 10:48 PM |
| 57 | A real winner...Thanks for being honest about your bad personality I guess | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 04:46 PM |
| 16 | Ladies, start reciprocating what men give to youYes 100% | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 04:16 PM |
| 12 | Has your ex ever tried to commit fake suicide? Because mine has!Pretty much my ex minus the sexual assault | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 02:33 PM |
| 6 | Honest to god what the fuck are even Stephen King Novels. This guy is considered a great American novelist.Thank you!!!! That scene is incomprehensible stupid and pointlessly gross. Fucking fight me Stephen. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 10:18 PM |
| 6 | Thank you nextWhat do they expect with this foolishness??? Oh please give me, a lowly actress/single mom/whatever a chance kind sir! I am but a poor wretch! Without your validation I have to live in a dumpster and eat only stale cheetos!!!! Dude this isnt playtime. Mommy's not gonna pat you on the head and get you a different flavor juice box. Grow up. Who actually expects another grown adult to grovel for their approval like that? Ew. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 04:54 PM |
| 6 | Found this on another group. This guys response to a girl losing her job... 🤦🏼♀️Utterly repulsive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:29 PM |
| 28 | Found this on another group. This guys response to a girl losing her job... 🤦🏼♀️This is an insult to the good name of goblins | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/20 01:29 PM |
| 11 | How he sets you up, targets you, and grooms youThis is so relevant thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/04/20 01:21 AM |
| 36 | Imagine working long hours or a second job simply to make ends meet then having the nerve to demand a woman that has to work too in order to supplement your broke ass provide you a home cooked meal every night then complain over what plate she chose.My boyfriend literally pays all the rent and doesnt demand this foolishness because he's not a gigantic child. He provides because he cares, not as a way to manipulate or be demanding. That's the only way to earn my respect and affection in return. The only ethical way to get a person to be unconditionally kind and loving to you is to be that way with them. Trying to play this "I'm a man so I DESERVE this" game can only result in your partner resenting you or trying to play the same game back, w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 06:34 PM |
| 5 | I feel there's lack of advice for GNC/Masculine women on this subI'm super masculine and GNC and I literally dont see how this advice wouldnt apply to me. Sure my dating pool is a little smaller because of my style but that's by my own choice and I'm totally OK with it. Just because I have an unconventional look doesnt mean I should accept inferior treatment. What's with people acting like we just HAVE to lower our standards because we don't look a certain way or something and itll just be sooo hard to find a decent guy??? No. I dont care if I cant find a man… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 03:38 PM |
| 1 | I AM TIRED of the being the FAT GIRL (Using this post so people can add resources)Heres what helped me: Volume eating and meal prepping Getting an accurate idea of what proper serving sizes are by spending a period of time calorie counting and weighing and measuring my food Finding forms of exercise I like and sticking with them No liquid calories and limited junk/fast food Finding alternative ways to self sooth instead of eating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/20 12:18 AM |
| 18 | My sister says HVM only seek feminine womenI am so androgynous that people sometimes mistake me for a man. I also have a lot of traditionally masculine interests and skills (STEM major, work in manufacturing, like a lot of nerdy things and love strength training). Plenty of dudes still find me attractive. PLENTY. I promise there is nothing wrong with you. I'm sure some guys aren't attracted to me because of my style and interests and that's completely fine. I'm not for everyone. And everyone isnt for me. Your family is just putting their… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 06:24 PM |
| 87 | My sister says HVM only seek feminine womenIts definitely not true, and trying to be something you're not to attract a partner will only make you unhappy in the long run. Who wants to maintain an image that doesnt feel authentic for the rest of their relationship? That's not going to go well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 01:07 PM |
| 58 | A “trad” man is just as low value as a “fuckboy”I cant stand men who think they are somehow above childcare or that it somehow comes naturally to women but not men. If my old ass dad could be a stay at home dad in the 80s, changing diapers, reading stories, and cooking lunches, then any dude can. It's not magic, it's just effort. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/20 09:23 PM |
| 6 | How to not be a stupid bitch and keep crawling back to a guyNot one single thing you've described about this person is nice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 09:28 PM |
| 10 | Anyone else feel their relationship is improving because of staying inside together?I'm definitely happier for having more time to spend with my boyfriend. We play games together, cuddle, and talk all day. Its awesome. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 09:21 PM |
| 66 | Opinions on this?Being so scared of your friends' opinions is pretty sad, though if all of them hate your boyfriend this much you definitely need either a new boyfriend or a new friend group. Or both. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/03/20 03:48 PM |
| 65 | Scrotes gonna Scrote : "Sister[19f] in law hitting on me[30m]." Turns out the OP is enjoying the attention and fantasizes about having sex with her. Then claims "to want to understand her psychology" #scrotelogicI cant imagine wanting to fuck a 19 year old in my 30s, much less one I have known since they were a kid. How unbelievably repulsive. That's a kid to me. I'll give them college or job advice and a ride to their age appropriate boyfriend or girlfriend's house, not creepy sexualizing. I genuinely dont care if they hit on me. We are in different life stages and I'm just not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 04:56 PM |
| 13 | Choices... The Pickmesha and Corona Virus editionSome people really should not have children. Holy shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/20 02:45 PM |
| 11 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...That doesnt mean theres nothing you can do about it. Doubtless you have been treated very poorly in the past and that isnt your fault but now the responsibility to heal is yours. Take care of yourself. You deserve to feel better. Forget about guys for now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:59 AM |
| 7 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...Absolutely. I'm not everyone's cup of tea but that's totally fine. I'm happy with myself and I try my hardest to develop my potential and be a moral and reasonable person. That's enough for the right person for me to love me. I dont have to make up for anything, just figure out who is worthy of my trust. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 12:19 AM |
| 6 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...Ok well good luck with that sounds like you have it all figured out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:47 PM |
| 20 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...Are you lost? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:37 PM |
| 19 | I'm not big on the idea of a man completely financially supporting me...My boyfriend pays 100% of the rent and utilities and this is why I'm not financially dependent on him. I've been able to build a tiny financial cushion for the first time in my life because I can save the money I was paying rent with. He's literally not rich at all he just loves having me around and wants to help me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 11:31 PM |
| 10 | Please remember men like this exist. This was taken from a post about men having babies with one night stands or FWB if the woman gets pregnant. Pleaaaassseee respect yourself enough to never be in the predicament of being pregnant with a losers childRight. Same. I make sure I dont have kid 100%. I have zero pity for dudes who are aghast that the woman they impregnated wants to have a kid they didnt want. If it was so important to you to not pay child support then it was your responsibility to not get your semen in anyone's vagina. Nobody made you do that sir. 0 responsibility means 0 right to complain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 08:49 PM |
| 17 | “You can’t expect a man who lies to himself everyday to be honest with you.”Ouch wow touche | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 04:56 PM |
| 94 | I bet he thinks he's being soo cute being this uselessTee hee I'm so helpless! Isnt it cute? Pweese come save me from myself! And people accuse women of playing dumb for attention... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 04:54 PM |
| 84 | Please remember men like this exist. This was taken from a post about men having babies with one night stands or FWB if the woman gets pregnant. Pleaaaassseee respect yourself enough to never be in the predicament of being pregnant with a losers childYes. They dont give a shit about these fetus they purport to care about. Its just a way to make women more vulnerable and dependent. The second they have to be the responsible one it's all "oh wait I'm not ready I cant ruin my life like this!!! Poor me!!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/20 01:28 PM |
| 14 | This is what happens when you let yourself be trapped. The lady couldn't even complete her degree- ensuring she won't have any option to be independent in the future. Be wise ladies. Don't fall into that trap.With shock and indignation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 12:33 PM |
| 27 | This is what happens when you let yourself be trapped. The lady couldn't even complete her degree- ensuring she won't have any option to be independent in the future. Be wise ladies. Don't fall into that trap.This is eerily familiar and I'm so glad I bailed after less than a year and didnt have kids! Control your reproduction! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 12:32 PM |
| 6 | It's not getting better, ladies.Holy shit I hope this woman runs for her life. This dude is pure, unadulterated trash. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 07:56 PM |
| 18 | Stop trying to date right now!Thank you! Honestly what is wrong with people that are trying to date during a pandemic?! Shouldn't ya'll be more concerned with your total lack of common sense and morals than finding tHe OnE oMG sO hVm!1 ??? What responsible and caring men are out trying to date right now? Zero. Calm down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 07:37 PM |
| 10 | He Knows, Sis.I promise once you date someone who actually does care the difference is night and day | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 02:29 PM |
| 16 | He Knows, Sis.This is really the truest statement. My ex would say really selfish hurtful shit and them swear up and down that he didnt mean it that way or he just didnt realized how hurtful it was or some other asinine excuse. I finally realized that there was no way he didnt know how hurtful and inappropriate it actually was because 1. No matter what he said about it being "just an accident" it kept happening! 2. He was very intelligent and charming with people whenever he was getting his way but then sudde… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 02:25 PM |
| 4 | If a man truly loves and cares about you, he will be attentive to everything and anything that involves you.My current boyfriend is this way as well. Some of my interests are things he totally dislikes to do himself but he is always super positive and encouraging when I talk about them because he knows they're important to me. He openly says he likes to hear about what I'm interested in. I'm used to providing this emotional labor as a matter of course and it feels great to have someone do it back. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 02:14 PM |
| 10 | PSA: stay away from them ladies!Well come on most of them dont know what 6 inches is like either | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/20 12:47 PM |
| 36 | Fake feminist pickmeishas.Literally though, it makes sense for the person with greater physical strength to do the tasks that require the most of it. Usually that's the man. I happen to be much bigger and stronger than the average woman, and I often move heavy things at work for my smaller female coworkers. Why should they have to struggle to do something that I could do easily? Its just logical. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/20 06:16 PM |
| 43 | Men go for confident, sexy women and expect her to change once they 'get' her, then a year in will complain she's not making the same effort, not 'sexy enough' anymore to justify his inevitable cheating. Men don't know what they want.He only liked it when he deluded himself into a feeling of ownership over her sexuality and now that he realizes that she's doing it for herself and not him he's butt hurt. Zero pity. Congratulations sir you played yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 08:54 PM |
| 8 | What does FDS think about drugs?I'm fine with smoking weed as long as they are productive/hold a job etc. It does have some real medical uses and if they are handling their life just fine I dont see how it's worse than social drinking. If they're totally lazy and unmotivated for any reason I'm not interested. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 08:50 PM |
| 18 | Husband of 12 years hits wife, she posts to relationship advice, read the male replies below. JESUS.My ex was genuinely verbally abusive to me and I never once considered hitting him for it because I know that it would be wrong. Why exactly cant the "rational gender" figure this out I wonder? 🤔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 08:41 PM |
| 3 | The biggest ‘signs’ a man will ACTUALLY be good in bed, in my optionThis is my experience as well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/20 01:24 PM |
| 13 | Was watching a Sam Vaknin video and came across this Incel blaming women for his porn addiction lol on a video about how porn is turning men into narcs. The lack of self awareness is stunning with these dudes."Sent from mom's basement" Classic Miguel | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 04:32 PM |
| 5 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossAh ok cool. I still think its inappropriate because of power dynamic created by him being your supervisor. You're not wrong for questioning it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/20 04:20 PM |
| 25 | Indian men are so embarrassingImagine admitting that you see women as some combination of incubator, maid, and sex toy and then claiming that they're missing out on your company! Please go your own way already! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 11:09 PM |
| 57 | I need some outside perspectives on this situation with my bossGetting your younger female employee alone, unloading all your baggage on her, and then hinting that you want to date her is manipulative and gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 06:19 PM |
| 79 | Indian men are so embarrassingOk bro you just give birth to your own children then oh wait | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 04:16 PM |
| 2 | Former pushovers, how did you stop being a pushover?I started thinking about myself instead of other people. Instead of "how do they feel" and "what do they want" its "how do I feel" and "what do I want". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 01:20 PM |
| 82 | I want everything, I offer absolutely nothing.Women are so shallow and selfish! The hot ones won't fuck me or be my life coach, personal trainer, and chef for free! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/20 11:45 AM |
| 13 | Struggling to Understand something about FDSBetter to be alone than be treated poorly. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 10:02 PM |
| 6 | Struggling to Understand something about FDSIncels believe that everyone thinks that way because they think that way and cant imagine any other, healthier mindset. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 09:36 PM |
| 3 | I am happy rnWell done! Grades like that take dedication and hard work! You deserve to feel proud! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 02:09 AM |
| 108 | ......Did he honestly think you were going to be like "oh please give a lowly single mother like me a chance I'm soooo flattered you find me attractive"?? Sir. No. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/20 02:07 AM |
| 18 | This guys response to men being 65% more likely to get the coronavirus. At least he knows he's good for nothingLmao I am stronger than my male partner and I refuse to let him move anything heavy by himself because I genuinely care about him and dont want him to get hurt. What I dont do is act superior and make dumbass posts about how he "needs" me to do this on social media. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/20 03:42 PM |
| 18 | High Value, Low Value, and what any of it meansGreat post. I was thinking about making my own post comparing my current partner and recent ex, my ex being a outwardly successful and charming person who many people would classify as HVM (but is a complete LVM just great at hiding it) and my current partner who many might find LV based on personal preferences but is genuinely amazing for me. True LV is universal, but some people are HV, just not for you personally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 05:31 PM |
| 5 | Woke up this morning wanting to tell my ex about my most recent exciting news, thought I would tell yall instead!Congratulations!!! Getting into grad school is such an accomplishment! I can only imagine how great that feels, but one day I hope to know for myself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Are There Any Sex Columnists or Blogs That Aren’t LibFem Trash?I know exactly who you're referring to lmao. And I'm not gonna lie, if dangling weights from my vagina helps penetrative sex feel better I'll do it, but I dont like how woo woo the marketing is for these products. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/20 03:14 PM |
| 4 | A tip on finding HVMs: go for athletic guys who train for NON-AESTHETIC goals. Avoid men who are into bodybuilding or are extremely preoccupied with their looks.My experiences in the gym confirm this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 05:29 PM |
| 12 | Male Lurkers say that FDS doesn’t focus enough on self improvement, but what they *really* mean is we don’t improve the way *they* (LVMs) think we’re supposed to. LVMs who wrongly think they’re HVMs get this confused because they think Pickmeishas are HVW & domestic servitude makes women happy. 🙄I've never once asked a man for anything I couldnt or wouldn't reciprocate. Wish I could say the same about them! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:13 PM |
| 9 | Another TradWife meme that makes no sense as usual. The only way to pretend they’re empowered in a patriarchy is by constantly pretending words mean different things than they actually mean.OK lmao whatever you need to tell yourself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/20 02:10 PM |
| 18 | Red Flag vs Green Flag when telling a man he has upset youI'm deadass so annoyed on your behalf and I'm glad you stopped talking to this guy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:54 PM |
| 5 | Red Flag vs Green Flag when telling a man he has upset youMy ex in a nutshell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 10:50 PM |
| 105 | It’s quite disrespectful in my opinionThis is instant break up material what the entire fuck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 02:18 AM |
| 11 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Women want to be in relationships with high quality partners, not just any old relationship. You know, like how when I want a burger I don't just go to McDonald's. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:22 AM |
| 17 | DO NOT GIVE SECOND CHANCESMy last relationship confirms this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:18 AM |
| 47 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Today a male coworker tried to intimidate me into lending him a tool. He probably would have returned it but I was the one who would be held responsible if he lost it. I flat out said "no" to him in a calm voice bc his disapproval means nothing. He acted like he was going to get my supervisor to open my toolbox and I just said OK and walked off. Turns out my boss said I was in the right. Lmao boy bye! Glad I prioritized protecting myself over helping this dude who doesnt give a shit about me at … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/20 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Do I have to disclose to my future boyfriends that I have breast implants?You have every right to modify your body as you see fit. If a man tries to make you feel bad for exercising your own right to look however you please then he is the one who is wrong, lesser, and should feel shame. Once again, a man who insults you or implies that you are of lesser value for making an aesthetic choice for your own pleasure is the one who should feel bad, not you. Maybe these men should be worried about their own manners and sense of entitlement rather than what grown adult women … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 11:53 PM |
| 11 | men always make themselves the victim, sven when their partner is sexually harassed.Imagine writing that and thinking people should sympathize with you, not your wife. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/20 06:42 PM |
| 3 | It usually starts at home, you do not have to repeat to cycle!My parents marriage is a sad example of my dad, a pretty decent man, getting dragged down by my malicious, irresponsible, and emotionally abusive mother. Last year I left a partner who was showing very similar signs of my mother's behavior to avoid being put in the same position as him. I'm not wasting my life with someone who wont behave responsibly and own up to their own shit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 09:37 PM |
| 47 | Cool girl shit on female dominated subsI used to think I did not care about dick size until I had sex with my current partner and was like OH so that what getting your G spot hit every stroke feels like! Got it. I see the hype now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/20 07:11 PM |
| 2 | How to become more datable and lovable?? For ugly girls?? Tired of the 100th rejectionYou're desperate for love/approval and shitty guys can smell that. This is a horrible position to try to date from. Its makes you easy to manipulate and unattractive to HVMs. Go to therapy, invest in quality platonic friendships, get some fulfilling hobbies, and focus on developing your career, education, and finances. Men will never give you the feeling that you are chasing. I'm not trying to be mean, I wish someone had said this to me earlier in life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 02:20 PM |
| 10 | How I picture men who expect their wives and girlfriends to be their bangmaid mommies.Well this is profoundly repulsive | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/20 05:47 PM |
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