theprettyocean Archive

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1	Q4W: How do you feel about other women defending passport bros? They push their husbands around and are tough as nails. This is really not what I observe of the ones with men outside their culture. Maybe more likely for the ones married within.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/23 08:35 AM
4	Q4W: How do you feel about other women defending passport bros? I think Chinese women are actually known to be more vocal compared to other East Asian women. They're more educated, etc. I've even heard misogynistic men say "avoid Chinese women". I briefly met a guy who told me he hated his ex (who was Chinese...) but it sounded like she just stood up for herself.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/12/23 08:29 AM
2	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Dude you’re very ignorant and your ignorance is showing. Lose most of your eggs at 30 lmao. Omg. Go back to the 1600s please.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 04:38 AM
2	If a man and a woman are friends, then the man is (most likely) sexually attracted to the woman? Oh I know. It's been a thing for years now, it's nothing new. It does make me sad and makes me weary about investing time and energy into friendships with men, just because inevitably they have to pull away. And it does hurt when they kind of take off, even if I understand. I've even lost female friends over their boyfriends finding me attractive. It's happening with a "friend" now, though honestly I kind of think she's calculating and wanted to befriend me just to make sure I wasn't competition…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 02:29 AM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Men have fathered very mentally unwell and disabled children at that age, sure. If they're even able to. Men now have far less sperm and T than men of generations past did, as well. Do your research on it. Men at 25 now are not like men at 25 in the past.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 02:20 AM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Yes but that applies to men too. There's no guarantee you'll have a healthy child after 40.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 11:14 PM
8	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Yep very true. And same applies to men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 11:13 PM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions I think this is the only reasonable comment that implies there's a wall. It's true that it varies depending on the woman. Not all women age the same way. I'd even say mid 50s. My mom looked amazing in her early-mid 50s. She only started to look less young because she had some health issues pop up due to some accidents. She still looks amazing for her 60s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 11:00 PM
2	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Right? My grandma birthed kids in her 50s. 😭 I do not wanna do that in my 50s, honestly not even really in my 40s either, but there is time, Everyone's genes are different. A lot of men actually can't have kids anymore. Modern lifestyles have ruined sperm.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:59 PM
2	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Um. Men definitely have a biological clock. Your sperm goes down with age. Yes, at 40, you can "possibly have" a kid, but your sperm is not great, unless you lead an extremely healthy lifestyle, don't drink, etc. Even then... PS - y'all generally break down in health earlier, die earlier... women are not down to sign up for that unless they're in it for the cash or the passport.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:57 PM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions My sister still looks gooooood and she has 2 kids though. I keep forgetting she's in her late 30s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:56 PM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions My grandma literally had children in her early 50s. Lord knows I do not want to birth children at that age lol, but it's totally possible. My mom had to get her tubes tied because she kept getting preggo and didn't want to be preggo in her mid 40s. We're not all the same.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:55 PM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Yeah same, I'm 33 and men always assume I'm MAX 25. I've even had guys in their 20s think I was 22/23. 40 year old men think I'm 22. Also, same re men my age assuming I was way way younger lol. I've had to start verbalizing my age so they know it's safe. I even had one guy say "I know you're WAY younger than me so I don't wanna come off as creepy" but the man is like 5 years older than me at the very most.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:54 PM
5	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions I mean that's just not true. I'm 33 and men in my "league" are asking me out right now. I'm actually older than 3 of the ones that are currently talking to me. One is just a year older.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:52 PM
1	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Also, it depends on the individual. We don't all age the same way. We all don't start off at the same point.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:50 PM
3	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions 60%? Pretty sure it's a way lower number than that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:49 PM
6	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions 35 is not the wall in any way. That was considered the wall back in the 1600s among some unhealthy people and back then the life expectancy was like.. 50. I have multiple women in my family who had kids WAY past 40.. I'm talking 50. And their kids are fine. Men also have a biological clock. Male sperm degrades. Degraded sperm causes autism and schizophrenia among many other things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:48 PM
5	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions Men have a biological clock too though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:47 PM
2	The wall does exist but there are misconceptions I'm 33. The issue isn't really about looks. I look like I'm 25 max according to the men I know, and I also can see it. Not really about makeup either because these men have all seen me without makeup... I do look young, I don't "need" makeup thankfully. The issue is finding good, attractive, established men my age who are single. This one is a bit tougher than it was when I was 24, and much tougher than when I was 22 (minus the established bit). Although the men I meet now are all established ba…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:46 PM
1	If a man and a woman are friends, then the man is (most likely) sexually attracted to the woman? I've actually noticed that men that seem sexually attracted to me but have girlfriends tend to stay away from me. Single men who are sexually attracted to me will invite me out to do things all the time. I've seen it in my own life now. The guys who invite me out to do stuff with them (who are single) are interested in me on some level, and I know that. Even the one or two who semi-recently had a breakup, who previously avoided me, now invite me to do stuff. I do not think men befriend women sol…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/10/23 10:37 PM
3	As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend first I find casual dating still comes with expectations whereas just making friends and hanging out with friends is a way to just focus on being yourself and connecting with the person in front of you, rather than expecting something out of it. In the best scenarios, you feel comfortable enough to fully be yourself and vice versa and then if it's an actual connection, that becomes very apparent very quickly. Also, personally, I don't like to have sex with 99% of men I date because I will only have se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/23 06:08 AM
2	As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend first I actually currently mostly focus on making friendships via natural ways, even if it's a bit harder than swiping on an app because it requires real life commitment (showing up somewhere, etc). And looking to see if something natural forms from that. I've had a fair few guys interested just via hobby groups and natural life that I've actually dated more from that than the apps this year. Would agree that it's nice to know someone as a person before dating them.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/10/23 06:06 AM
1	What would happen if AI/Synths entered The dating world? I mean, it's better if we just don't have these abusers on this planet or in normal societies, but you don't see anyone advocating to kill them or throw them on a deserted island.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:51 PM
3	Men don't hate promiscuous women Yeah I'm not gonna lie, when I was a virgin, I did see promiscuous women as "slutty" and didn't respect them as much. But I was also witnessing women with boyfriends cheat on their boyfriends, so in that sense, it was a valid take. It also did seem like unfair competition because these women were contributing to hookup culture, which I never wanted to partake in. The only reason hookup culture took off was because women and men were willing to participate, so any woman who did participate just f…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:41 PM
1	Men don't hate promiscuous women I understand this logic but it's actually kind of a gross way of looking at another human being. It honestly alludes to not being able to love someone, for real. And I say this as someone who is not promiscuous.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:37 PM
1	Men don't hate promiscuous women Men don't care lol, I've seen a ton of promiscuous women get "chosen". They're probably just lying to the guy. I have a friend who's nice but she pretends to not be pro hookup culture even though the way she got her current bf was by hooking up with him and aggressively offering sex/pursuing him. And I'm pretty sure she hooked up a fair bit in high school and university. I'm guessing she's lying to her current bf. But he seems to be fine with it so. 🤷🏻‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:36 PM
1	Consider that genders are 50/50, if huge numbers of men are undesirable, then that implies a lot of women will not have a stable family Maybe you do have a point with this. I just think a lot of women are willing to not settle, or they might partner up with a guy who isn't ideal and decide they don't want kids. I've noticed it in a few couples - when the guy just isn't really her idea of super attractive, she's less inclined to want kids. It's weird because I meet great women who somehow don't have the best dude but then I meet shitty women with great guys... it seems so unjust. Then these uggo women (I mean also on the inside) …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:25 PM
1	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? It's the opposite actually. Couples that got together young, 9 times out of 10, the guy is way way better looking. I actually find older men way pickier with looks. Couples that get together 30+, the woman is usually way prettier.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:18 PM
1	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? That's an unfair generalization. A lot of men project qualities onto attractive women (or women they just find attractive) that aren't true, simply due to this insecurity, then they self-select out of dating that woman and justify it with "well, the pretty ones aren't fun". People are multi-dimensional. It's good to try to get to know someone properly and not assume things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:17 PM
1	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? IMO the most beautiful women are not a part of the normal dating market because their appeal is global and they're able to date celebrities, millionaires, and travel around the world. lol I've had the option to date a celeb or two before and have been approached by wealthy men, did travel, but I'm part of the "normal" dating market. I don't even think I'm one of the most beautiful women in the world, I actually have days where I wonder if I'm unattractive. This is a reach. I've met some really b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:15 PM
1	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? Margot Robbie is beautiful and I'm a straight woman. It's OK if she isn't your particular type, but anyone who thinks she's "mid" is blind.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 06:13 PM
2	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? I feel like people should stop assuming things about people based on looks. You can be attractive and be a good person with a good personality and you can be not so cute and not have a great personality. If people really wanna judge, judge based off how someone styles themselves, not their natural attractiveness. Even then, some people don’t necessarily match their “look”. Like the Botox’d, fakely tanned fake blonde Barbie might be a bit less kind than the woman who wears less makeup and looks n…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 07:26 AM
5	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? This is also what I assume. I also agree with op. I’ve noticed it too.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 07:23 AM
2	Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days? German women are uggos lol	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/10/23 07:23 AM
1	This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real. Because a lot of them want women who are insecure. It helps soothe their own insecurity. Weak men want insecure women. Strong men want strong women. And I mean mentally and emotionally strong. Any man I’ve met who was threatened by confidence in a woman usually disowned his own power and was coming from a place of fear.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/10/23 02:29 AM
1	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. I’m sorry, I’m not getting into this debate. If you’re only looking to date way way younger, you’re problematic. I’ll leave it at that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/23 04:02 AM
1	CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to you Most of us use dating apps but that doesn’t mean we’re hooking up with everyone..	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/23 04:02 AM
3	CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to you Some of us aren’t prostitutes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 07:19 AM
3	CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to you Not true for me. I’ve had men who were super super attractive try, but I have standards for myself and I only like sleeping with someone if I’m super serious and interested. But if I was a free for all type, yeah I’d probably say this is true. So, really, comes down to a woman’s own morals.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 07:18 AM
2	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. I meant more so the equivalent desirable trait, not necessarily equal across all boards. Though I do think single parents only wanting non parents is a strange unrealistic one. Also, if you’re attractive, it’s ok to desire that in a partner… but it becomes unrealistic if you’re not attractive. Then it’s just sad. Another one is extroversion - I think people are split on that one but I don’t see it as weird if an extrovert prefers an introvert or vice versa.. there’s no “better” in that category.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 07:16 AM
3	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. 100% true! A lot of it is down to looks and access. And the individual guy. Men with a more anxious attachment style compromise on looks (and anything, really) waaay more than secure men do, because they just don't want to be abandoned... and they perceive less attractive women as less likely to abandon them. Not necessarily true to be honest, especially with how egotistical plain women are, but that's what they think in their minds. I've even heard these men say "pretty women usually don't have…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/09/23 01:14 AM
1	If you were to move in with a guy that makes significantly more than you, would you be okay with splitting household expenses roughly 50/50? I don't know what the correct answer is. My ex and I discussed 75% (him) and 25% (me) and that seemed fair. Ideally I'd want a guy who wants to take on a bit more than me in this way because being a woman is just.. more expensive, and I like the idea of being with someone who wants me to feel a bit relaxed in this way. It's like a love language thing. I'm coming to accept that I think maybe a man taking care of me financially a bit is something I do appreciate and would appreciate a lot. It does…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:30 PM
1	Q4M: Your SO refuses to be emotionally vulnerable with you - Deal-breaker? There's a difference between being vulnerable and being available. I need someone who's emotionally available. But if he struggles with being vulnerable, that's OK, we can work through it as trust is built. I don't want a guy who's emotionally turbulent (because I am not either), but everyone has their moments and I would hope they can confide in me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:24 PM
1	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. What is "sharing"? You mean, dating a guy another woman dated previously? lol. Then I guess men are sharing me too? If you mean non-monogamy then hell no I don't partake in that. I will never be someone's side chick or one of many.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:22 PM
5	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. I personally don't really care what your standards are and I'm a woman. You can like what you like as long as you're able to actually attract it and be held to the same standard. I don't fit your criteria either but I don't really care because I wouldn't want a guy like you (and I don't mean that offensively, just that... we don't have similar values). I care about fitting the criteria of men I actually desire.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:20 PM
2	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. I agree. It comes down to who you're able to attract, for both genders. 6'5 is too tall for me personally lol (I've dated multiple men who were 6'4-6'6, I just can't do it again) and never a legit millionaire as far as I knew (but definitely the sons of millionaires, but I'm also the daughter of millionaires). But I've been able to go on dates and get into relationships with the types of men I'd want... the reason it didn't work out was because of one major flaw in them I couldn't accept or tole…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:17 PM
2	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. I nearly married the 666 and I've dated the 666 more than once. It's funny because once I started actually dating, I even noticed other people start offering men who fit this criteria more and nothing less. But I know women who aim for that and I'm sorry but.. they're not gonna get it. And that's the nicest way to say that.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:14 PM
4	"Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards. Honestly, I don't know anyone IRL who actually judges men's standards. The general consensus is that men like hot women and we all accept that. But then again, where I live, I see non-hot women with hot men, so... IDK. But I'm the product of a marriage between a man who was good looking in his youth but then did not age as well as his wife did (and my mom was a beauty queen). So I've just always expected men to value me for my looks, and that has definitely been the case. As a woman, what seems …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 06:10 PM
1	Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"? I don't "shit test" taller men less. If I am to "test" (mainly for trust) it's more so a guy who comes off as a bit off in that way, just based off my gut feeling or if I feel they might be narcissistic. But I won't date someone I genuinely don't trust. Yeah I think it's because the taller guys are just more confident/can handle me more if that makes sense.. they can still psych themselves out, I've had every ex admit they're insecure (yes, tall ones too) or even behave oddly due to insecurity. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 10:06 PM
2	How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying? It’s more like a lot of poor people are poor because they make bad life decisions and lack impulse control which spills over into their diet and exercise habits….this is generational and also peer related with parents infecting their kids with this This is true except if they're poor because they were born into poverty and have a lot of things holding them back. Honestly, even just not great mental health can hold you back. You sound disciplined but a lot of people aren't! I even go through phas…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:55 PM
3	What's wrong with average men? No I agree that the men she's looking for is a bit insane, but there are other guys out there who would be fine if she was open to it. Being 37 is not the end of the world... I've met men in their early 30s who even dated older women, for some reason. Not hating, but more surprised, I guess it's not a huge dealbreaker. And no, these women weren't hot.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:51 PM
6	What's wrong with average men? It is true for a lot of guys. Not all guys. I've met attractive men with serious insecurities, and my ex who was WAY above average was convinced he was super ugly compared to me (which was.. bizarre). The BDD seems to hit attractive men more than average men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:47 PM
8	What's wrong with average men? That's unfairly harsh. There's no reason why a guy her age wouldn't want a relationship with her if he also doesn't want kids. A well-adjusted guy is not chasing after way younger women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:36 PM
2	What's wrong with average men? Unless some incredibly good looking, wealthy, devoted, great-in-bed, funny, interesting guy came into my life (nil chance), why would I bother? It's fair that you feel this way, you're entitled to feel that way, but as a fellow woman... if that's your mindset, you'll likely be single forever. I don't mean to be harsh but as someone who's a few years younger than you, I know a lot of women like you, and I just find them really delusional about what they can attract. Yes, I've seen men with not so…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:35 PM
8	What's wrong with average men? What even is an "average" guy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:31 PM
1	CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to die Meh just depends on the woman. I'm mentally burned out. I was always an honour student, I have like 3 degrees.. I'd be fine to "fry my brain" for a couple of years at this point, but at 25 years old, no I was not OK with the idea. I still have lots of friends and hobby groups and I think as long as I could still do some hobbies and a book club, I'd be fine lmao. I'd just want to get back into intellectual pursuits after a couple of years. Really, depends on what the woman has achieved in her lif…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:29 PM
0	CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to die I'm a woman and tbh if I was the type of woman who wanted a house husband who raised the kids while I worked... it might honestly be way easier lmao. I hate having to have a career (tbh) but it's not as mentally taxing as taking care of children is, even though I find hanging out with kids and building a bond with them more fulfilling than my career. Being a mom would be more work but I'd rather do it I guess, it just means more to me. But I do agree that being a SAHM is more work especially if …	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:27 PM
1	CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to die My mom worked 9-7 when I was an older kid, pre-teen, teen. She stayed home a bit my first few years but I barely saw her beyond the age of maybe 7. She actually started staying home once I was a late teen and my dad was making bank. Soooooo IDK man, my mom was a working mom. Also, if I ever had kids, I would expect I'd have to work after the first year or two (I get mat leave)... which sucks. I'm fine with part-time work when my kid is 6 or 7 or in school but I don't wanna work full-time when my…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:25 PM
1	How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying? I reeaaaaalllyyyyyyy think it depends on your genes and stress levels and what you have access to food-wise tbh. I don't think it's necessarily easier across the board.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:15 PM
1	How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying? I'm a woman and average-looking women get attention all the time lol, let's stop lying about that. Men are more likely to ignore/overlook women they think are too good looking for them, not average women. Men will project the "bitch" thing onto hot women but average women will get the "she must be really nice" thing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 04:59 PM
2	How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying? Men and women have different hormones though. We all have diff genes. When men claim they just want really skinny with no curves, I'm a bit confused by that because that actually leans more masculine based off masculine hormone profiles (it's easier for men and people with higher testosterone levels to be leaner in a non-curvy way). Women with healthy hormone balances are generally a bit curvy, and I don't mean obese or fat when I say curvy. I mean you're more likely to have boobs, butt, a bit o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 04:57 PM
1	How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying? Woman here. I've learned I can't be too nice, a lot of men take advantage of nice women especially if you're also hot. I've had periods of my life where I was super naive to what their motives were, because I tend to project kindness onto others (maybe because that's my natural inclination)... yeah, be careful out there lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 04:17 PM
7	CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin ice and her ex was a Chad Okay but how? This is something I've noticed more and more lately... some genuinely not very attractive women with attractive boyfriends... I'm in my early 30s but when I was in my early 20s, you'd NEVER see this pairing. Now, you see it everywhere.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 04:14 PM
1	Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"? I'm 5'4 or 5'5 and 5'8 definitely doesn't tower over me lol. It feels barely taller actually... and I sometimes wear boots that have 3 inches on them so I end up being 5'8 pretty easily with shoes. I don't need a guy who's ridiculously tall but I generally date taller men, they pursue me. It's funny because I always fall the hardest for men under 6' but they don't like me as much for some reason. A guy I was seeing earlier this year was decently tall in my opinion (probably 5'10) and had a reall…	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 03:46 PM
1	Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"? Tall men often prefer women around 5’3-5’5. A woman who’s tall isn’t necessarily what those guys prefer. And a shorter woman’s preferences aren’t necessarily a man close to her height.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/09/23 07:03 AM
–	My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries. Lol it's 100% a preference in this case, because I can tell you the vast majority of men disagree with you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/23 08:16 AM
–	My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries. So they're thinner, I can't argue with that, but do they have any boobs or ass or does that not matter to you? Is their face even pretty or does that not matter to you? I understand some SEA women are beautiful but honestly the vast majority aren't really all that attractive aesthetically. Or does that matter less to you?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 08:14 PM
–	My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries. There are much much less women in SEA willing to pay for dates or anything. I don't know but if you read the Thailand subreddits, a lot of the men there complain about women wanting their money lol.. it's like dude, why are you surprised?! But also, a lot of women in SEA are literally prostitutes, so.. again, why are they surprised?	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 08:13 PM
–	My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries. But men prefer Asians and Latinas. So it's not really as unheard of as you think. lol. For looks or for how these women are willing to basically do anything? I've been told I look Latina but I also look vaguely Asian sometimes (but with Sofia Vergara's body, definitely not the type of body Asian girls usually have)... I don't even think the men who supposedly prefer these women are talking about preferring their looks. They just know these women are easier. I find American women (I'm Canadian bu…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 08:08 PM
–	Why be angry at women over their attraction? Are you talking about the same woman, or different women? Like, are you assuming a woman in her 30s is only with you because she "is coming back" or is it an actual ex of yours? Two different things. I've never gone back to an ex, ever, not even the really attractive ones. Actually honestly, my most serious ex was probably a "Chad" and I was the one who left him, and he's the one who still tries to get back together.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 07:52 PM
–	Why be angry at women over their attraction? It really depends. I'm 5'4 or 5'5 and I used to always like men around 5'8. But these guys would always get the most insecure, treat me the worst because of their insecurity. I actually didn't really like taller (over 6'1) initially. But after a couple of bad experiences with men around 5'8, taller men would pursue me more and they treated me better. To this day, any 5'8 man I like, ends up treating me like garbage (because of his own shit) but the tall men literally pursue me to marry them... s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 07:49 PM
–	Why be angry at women over their attraction? Looks matter the most. If a guy isn't physically attractive at all, there's no chance I'm interested in him romantically. Unfortunately. If he's good looking (enough for me), then personality does become more important at that point, same with his character. Isn't that kind of how men operate too? Looks first, then personality? I've never lied about this but it surprises me that people think women are supposed to not care at all, that isn't fair.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 07:46 PM
–	Why be angry at women over their attraction? I'm sorry but if you're a good looking, attractive man, and you go to SEA to find a wife, there's something off about you. And you might think it's normal, but we're always going to know there is something off. Either you have a tiny penis or you want someone you can't actually relate to for what ever reason, most likely for power or a fear of intimacy thing. Also, the age thing - I'm in my early 30s and have no issues attracting men in their 20s, 30s and 40s. I don't really care to get into arg…	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/09/23 07:44 PM
–	We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexuals I mean, people can build a family and stuff even if they've had a travel fling or two lol. It doesn't stop your ability to do it.. the bigger issue is whether or not you want a family, and whether or not you're willing to put in the work for that. Lots of hoes (men and women) become parents. Honestly maybe even more likely to do so than non-hoes lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 06:37 PM
–	We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexuals Yeah I still haven't had a travel fling lol, not sex-wise, maybe just flirting or the guy asking me out and me saying no. 💀	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 06:29 PM
–	We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexuals I dont know if that's normal lol. I lived abroad and was a virgin the entire time, although I'm sure some people believe I was on a tour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 04:43 AM
–	We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexuals I'm a millennial woman and I definitely never went into a hookup phase, even though I easily could have slept with hundreds of attractive men and that's not an underestimate. I actually was a virgin until my late 20s and I felt a lot of shame around still being a virgin... that said, I think having fears of intimacy/holding hands is a bit worrying. If you're in your mid 20s and up, that's something that needs to be overcome. IDK maybe I just fit into Gen Z more though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 04:30 AM
–	Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had? I'm fit and I have DDs. 🤷🏻‍♀️	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 04:08 AM
–	Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had? Men on reddit are different I think, because yeah, most men IRL I've met definitely seem to prefer big boobs. On here it's like "I like small boobs better" for some reason but that definitely is not how men in the wild operate or seem to. Or maybe I'm just paying attention to attractive men, and they seem to care about it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 04:07 AM
–	Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had? I like tall men because I've mostly been pursued by them and I've just had more relationships with them, so it's become a formed habit in my brain. I actually started off really liking men at around 5'8 but my experiences with them have been SO BAD in comparison. Also, I'm not a petite skinny little girl who has the measurements of a 12 year old. I have an hourglass figure, I'm still a size small or medium but I just find that shorter/smaller men make me feel larger and I do also think they migh…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 03:53 AM
–	Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before prefer an average looking women because that will make things easier for him This is generally the answer. There are a lot of pretty women who are also smart and great. It has little to do with "oh but she lacks this". Less good looking women aren't generally smarter or nicer or anything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 03:41 AM
–	Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before Yes they do though. Not all of them but some of them do. And it's often the guys who really shouldn't shoot their shot who do, whereas guys who might have a shot often second guess themselves.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 02:23 AM
–	Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before Maybe a lot of women like that but what matters is how men respond. I think if those men were like "yeah to be honest, you're not attractive enough" to the plain Janes or the women who truly don't look good without makeup on for example, you'd see things equalize more. The issue is a lot of those guys have their own ego issues or self-esteem issues too, so they often choose the woman who's less threatening to them. Just offering a different perspective.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 02:19 AM
–	Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before - The modern women actually were forced to be both men and women. Career oriented, bring $, stay fit, attractive, have personality etc... At times, ticking all these aspects don't even guarantee her that she will get a good mate. While men are still expected to be ONLY men. And they barely manage to fulfill their part of the deal. I will say though, I see the best looking guys often with the most mediocre women, so I don't know why guys are blaming women for this - that's actually the guy's faul…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 02:15 AM
–	Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before As a woman, I definitely see a lot of not so attractive women (by my metrics though) with very attractive men… on social media, in person etc. and it’s not to say these women don’t have some appeal, it’s just that they’re average at best. Makeup and grooming go a long way for these people, whereas for some of us, makeup sometimes detracts from our looks or we have to be extra careful because we may look better with minimal amounts or not much. Men look how they look, and you see it upfront more.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/23 12:28 AM
–	Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childless Yeah seriously… a lot of men aren’t the one doing the main work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/09/23 12:32 AM
3	CMV: average people are attracted to other average people and above If you think you are average but have no luck dating. This indicates that you are indeed not average. You’re actually below average. Not true. I know women who struggle and they're definitely above average. They're just looking for a certain type of guy. Or they're not really on apps, or they're not super extroverted. Lots of factors. Personally, location is a factor. But I've still dated above average dudes in my hometown that's not super populated. I'm seeing someone now who is obviously above…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/08/23 09:46 PM
1	If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment? Personally, I’m fairly happy on my own but a good relationship and good partnership would make me happier. I’m not gonna lie about that. I can’t do everything on my own. I also need a man for sex, as I won’t have sex outside of a relationship. I want marriage to someone who I feel is a good friend, someone I can trust, be attracted to, and respect. But a lot of men are either not someone I respect, like (in that way), or feel is a good friend. I get along pretty well with men in general as I’m a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 06:26 PM
1	What makes “Passport Bros” so predatory if impoverished or poor women are the ones targeting high income earning men from all around the world? But why are passport bros always trying to sell everyone on it instead of just going? I think they're a bunch of clowns who are more than likely going to strike out hard, but I'm certainly not gonna stop them. What are they waiting for? Just go already. I think because it's embarrassing for them. Even they know it's embarrassing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 06:42 AM
1	Are women socially embarrassed if they don't have a hot guy? I'm a woman and I just want to find my partner attractive, to feel like we're good friends, to feel like I trust him, respect him, love him. I want the same in return. I'm not socially embarrassed if someone doesn't find my partner hot, but more so confused, like "huh? I totally think he's hot". I've definitely dated a couple of guys that others thought weren't hot enough for me, and I thought that was weird. The other thing is, I've had other men hit on me with one or two of these guys with me.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/08/23 06:26 AM
1	Have you "experienced" pre-selection or do you think it exists? Umm yes. lol. Basically any guy who's dated me ends up having other women fawn over him. I mean women who also never noticed him before. It absolutely is a thing. Women who say otherwise are lying.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:55 AM
1	why do women want marriage more than men? Yeah the men go "oh so you don't like me?" or "I'm getting mixed signals" no my dude, I don't know you well enough to totally dive in! Also, I'm emotional for sure (I have emotions!) but I'm also logical. I'd say that's a great thing, but for these guys, it can almost confuse them. They're like "wait you aren't going to totally ignore the long-term implications of big decisions?" lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:44 AM
3	why do women want marriage more than men? Right there. In plain text. “…men were more likely than women to fall in love at first sight, to want to start a family.” Honestly as a woman this can actually be pretty scary to be on the receiving end of lol. I've experienced it more than once where it seemed like the guy just fell hard very quickly. It can almost feel like love bombing but some men legit fall fastttttt.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:26 AM
0	why do women want marriage more than men? The fact that men are more willing to make adjustments post-marriage means they want it a bit more though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:24 AM
3	why do women want marriage more than men? Eh IDK. I'm a woman and honestly, I didn't wanna get married until I was about 24? And it was because my older sibling got married and seemed happy in their marriage, so it made me think it could be worth it. But I've honestly kind of tried to avoid it for a lot of my life despite sort of wanting it too, I have older female relatives who honestly seem like they'd be livin it up nowadays if they were young now. It's clear they NEVER wanted to be married lol. I also know men who REALLY want to be …	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/08/23 06:21 AM
1	Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested? I don’t ever have sex early on. My body is sacred and sex means a lot to me. It’s a way to enjoy yourself but it’s also a way to bond, and also a way to create life. It’s really downplayed. That said, if I am into a guy, I’ll wanna kiss him within the first 5 or 6 dates. Making out for sure will happen by a month. I must be very slow compared to most modern daters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 04:48 AM
1	Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested? Uhhh I don’t want a guy to try to sleep with me on the first date, but if I sense he’s not attracted to me or seems like he isn’t, of course I wouldn’t be interested. Some men hide this a lot but in my opinion, they should show they’re attracted in a subtle way. And then there are guys who literally try to go in for the kids way too soon.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/08/23 04:45 AM
1	Woman Claims It’s Hard To Get Sex, Is That True? What counts as the top 30%? Like, what criteria do these guys have? It depends on how old she is and how attractive she is, and how attractive the guys are. But personally, no, I haven't had issues getting sexual attention from attractive guys. If I really want it, I can get it, but I spend so much of my time actively getting them to not look at me sexually lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/08/23 05:30 AM
2	Q4W why is dating so important to you? Yeah this. I like going on dates early on. I've actually had men want to go on the dates more than me sometimes. But once we're together and we're serious and I'm committed to you, I chill out a lot. I'm happy with very simple things in a relationship, actually. I don't mean I have no standards, just that good sex, good food, good finances, laughing together, going outside, these things make me happy. I don't need big fancy things to be happy.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 10:41 PM
2	Q4W why is dating so important to you? I used to be way more of an extrovert... with my ex, I had a super active social life, and I'd ask us to go out to dinners and stuff, but then his introverted tendencies opened up a whole new world to me (cooking and staying in etc) and I liked that too. Then the pandemic happened and it wasn't an option to really go out besides go hiking and biking. Now I'd say going out is nice because it's new experiences. That said, I don't have to do it as much as I wanted to when I was younger. I'm not an …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 10:38 PM
1	Describe your perfect partner I live in Vancouver, lots of short (and really short women too, I've never felt this tall before in my life) men here... but there definitely are a lot of tall men here too. Mostly men from certain backgrounds. But yeah in life in general I just keep encountering the tall ones. I think I must look better to them lol. You're a great height.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 08:54 PM
1	American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinks You're not wrong but I think that was her sassy way of hitting on you. Depends on how she delivered it. I do think it's weird to expect it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 08:19 PM
1	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. Yeah but you might meet someone now who didn't even know you back then... maybe she would have liked you back then, or maybe the timing was off. I know women who feel the way you feel but the reality is, you can't hold it against an entire gender if a few people didn't like you. People are different. I hate hearing men say stuff like that because I wasn't even dating/having sex for at least half of my 20s. Had nothing to do with a specific individual. We're not all the same, despite the red pill…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 08:09 PM
1	American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinks I said "why dont you buy me a drink?" Lol that's kind of off putting as a reply.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 08:06 PM
1	American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinks I'm Canadian and men here are more passive too. American men are definitely a breath of fresh air - they're far more masculine, assertive, and know what they want. I find that hot. Also tbh they tend to be hotter (although... French Canadian men are elite looks-wise). That said, I have never expected men to just pay for my drink. It's nice when they do it but it's not an expectation, so my perspective is different. I do think it's weird when men don't even try to approach though, but it's more a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:58 PM
2	Are single fathers attractive to women? I would rather not get with a single dad but if I absolutely couldn't live without him and he had a kid, then that's that lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:54 PM
1	Describe your perfect partner I've dated like 5-6 guys who were 6'2 or 6'3. Might be out there but they keep finding me. That said, I know plenty of women who never get to date men close to their ideal, or maybe have only dated one guy like that (at most). Most women can't get their ideal either. Maybe they can for a few months but not for a lifetime.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:39 PM
1	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. How old were those women? I feel like most women want a relationship after a certain age, but early 20s, people are focusing on other things. I don't think it's fair for men to hold that against women. We're brought up to focus on our careers now and to not put as much focus on men because of all the conditioning etc, plus it's smart to get your own money now. You're actually at a good age now to date and meet someone so I hope you try before going overseas. If you're being totally honest - how …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:29 PM
1	Debate: Would you rather be physically attractive + mildly autistic or physically unattractive + neurotypical (non-autistic) I saw a guy earlier this year who had mild autism apparently (his words, I had no idea). I knew he was a bit different but figured it was ADHD (might have been both, maybe leaning more to ADHD). I thought he was hilarious and he was very smart. The issue was he misread me all the time, and thought I judged him (I didn't)... so it was impossible to form a relationship with him, but yeah I was attracted to him and vice versa. I've dated a guy who maybe wasn't autistic, but maybe had some sensory o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:22 PM
1	Describe your perfect partner A lot of the comments from men in here are pretty specific too! Like some of the comments about a redhead with green eyes lol, I have never once heard a man IRL say that's what he specifically wants. My criteria is actually more found in real life haha. Sounds like you're on your way though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:12 PM
2	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. That's fair that you prefer women your own age and also weird no one said yes, but a lot of people nowadays are so uncomfortable forming relationships. Men and women both. Was it a money thing? Looks thing? What do you think it was? You seem reasonable and I'm sure you could find someone.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 07:09 PM
1	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. Does it not gross you out that she could be your kid, age-wise?	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 06:03 PM
3	There are no benefits to having kids as a women Yeah I know a lot of women who never want kids, which is sad! It's always the really smart ones who'd be kind to their kids. They're just too smart and understand the risks, and don't want their kids to bear the environmental consequences. I'm on the fence. I used to not want them but then really wanted them, but then went back to being unsure. I've always said no to the men I've dated so far, and I'm honestly still not sure. The guy I'm seeing now really wants kids and didn't want them with his…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 06:03 PM
1	Describe your perfect partner I don't even know what blackpilling means lol. But thanks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 05:58 PM
3	There are no benefits to having kids as a women Nah. Some men don't deserve to have kids. If you're not willing to put in the work to be a good parent or husband, or you beat your wife, or you cheat, or you're overall dysfunctional, you don't deserve children. No one owes you children. It's been like that since the beginning of time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 05:57 PM
3	Do most women even need to make the first move with men? You'd be surprised. Some guys are sexually confident once they know you're into them but they're shy otherwise.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 03:15 AM
0	Do most women even need to make the first move with men? I've initiated the first exchange a handful of times. It wasn't me asking the guy out first (I haven't done that technically besides once and that was more recent, and he asks me out allllll the time now) but just talking to him first, being friendly first, showing i'm open. I've had plenty of men tell me they never would have thought I was interested, or admit they're more socially anxious, things like that. I used to think all men would ask you out first but then learned there's more nuance in…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:45 AM
0	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? It's happened several times to me though. I'm now seeing someone who's 6'3, he's the 5th guy I've seen who's this height. All of them (except 1, but he was insane and I had to end it because of that) wanted to get serious with me and were very intentional very quickly... and they're just less neurotic around me. They have insecurities and will vocalize them but they can bounce back quicker. It's just easier for me to deal with, but I've had men do weird things with me out of insecurity, and I've…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:33 AM
1	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? Hmm I don't think a lot of guys specifically look for really short girls though. I know because I have female friends who are like... 4'11 or 5'1 at the most, and a lot of men ignore them, except for maybe short men who feel tall around them. Even then, I've had those guys pay notice to me more (I'm about 5'4). If you were gonna say petite as in really slim, maybe I'd understand, and by that also someone under 5'8... but really short and stocky isn't really attractive to most men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:30 AM
1	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? I've never met an east asian person in their 30s who looks like a teen. Honestly I've never met one who looked early 20s either. This is overblown. You guys still look around your age, just more well preserved than the average white person, but age shows up on your face too. Having really round features doesn't necessarily make you look younger especially if that's standard for your ethnicity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:28 AM
1	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? Honestly I don't really understand this for a lot of women. It makes no sense. For me personally, my biggest crushes have been on guys who were like 5'8 with really nice faces, but they're always so narcissistic and rude lol (probably insecure about their size). It's always the tall guys with bigger builds and good bone structure etc that treat me the best, so I've come to learn that it's safer to date them. They treat me better. I have to sometimes deal with insecure people mistreating me if th…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:24 AM
2	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? Lol this. All of this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:21 AM
1	Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women? What even counts as "petite"? I'd start there. I've met "petite" women and honestly I don't really think men generally are more into that. But then again I've been called petite so I don't know, it's all relative and depends on who you ask? I would think it's weird if a guy isn't into curves of any kind. You can be really thin or even petite and still have a curve or two.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:15 AM
2	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. Dude literally everyone in my family is a physician, and there is more than one person who works specifically in this field. I know people who work at Harvard. I know a lot more than you do. Your line about John Hopkins is a lie but nice try lol. Bye.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:11 AM
3	Describe your perfect partner Woman who likes men: Hair color/s - black (but honestly I don't really care, I'm cool with black, brown, red, blonde) Eye color/s - blue or green or hazel Height/s - 5'10-6'3. I keep ending up with men who are 6'3 so this feels the most familiar but I'm cool with anything in this range Build/s - wide shoulders, lean but fit, muscular but not bulky, athletic basically but more of a swimmer's body or cyclist's body. I like abs and I like a nice butt lol. Earnings equal to, less than, or more than …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 02:07 AM
1	Describe your perfect partner Nah I'm here lol.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 01:55 AM
0	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. I'm sorry but someone lied to you. Sperm banks don't even accept sperm from men over 30-something. Men having the capacity to have kids for longer (not even true for all men, just some) doesn't mean those kids are healthy. I won't even get into autism and schizophrenia or any of that. You're obviously committed to your truth so what ever, no point in arguing with you. Looking at online graphs means shit all when I get my info from actual doctors and medical experts.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 01:49 AM
19	There are no benefits to having kids as a women I'm a woman and I would agree that having kids is a WAY bigger risk for us than it is for men, and men don't even realize it. It's so much work. Every woman I know who's had kids has eventually suffered some health issue for it, and they generally do more work. Although, my sister is very lucky because she has a very hands-on husband. That said, a lot of men I date/know seem to really want to have a kid with me and it's funny because I joke that they're the ones with that desire more than me... …	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 01:40 AM
0	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. I mean I'm literally related to women who had healthy kids in their 50s but that's besides the point. Being able to do something doesn't mean you should, nor does it mean your eggs or sperm are fit for it. Like... we want people to have healthy kids. It's just better for both sexes to do that pre-40, especially with what we know about how sperm and egg quality go down with time. It actually goes down for men really fast in their 30s, but a lot of men don't wanna acknowledge that. ;)	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/08/23 01:36 AM
2	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. Listen, men lose virility and can’t have super good healthy babies post 45 either. There’s a cut off for both sexes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 09:31 PM
7	As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime. I feel like more and more men and women are delusional. I do know women who are 40+ who think that more money means they'll attract a more attractive rich dude, but that's just not how it works. They could, in theory, get a guy who's good looking but broke (but the guy is obviously with her for the perks) or an older guy who's established (but I mean a guy who is 50+) but they want the same kind of guy I'd date and I attract (27+, good career, good looking) and we're not on the same level looks-…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 08:26 PM
1	Do women see potential/future earnings in men as part of SMV? Depends on who you get along with better, their body, their goals, who has better resilience, mental health, character, etc. If you want kids in the next 3 years and you want someone to do that with, guy 1 whose personality is your vibe, whose body is your type, etc, is better than guy 2 if guy 2 isn't your type of guy. Height isn't everything and 5'10 is perfectly tall. In my experience, only super tall and super ridiculously short women think 5'10 isn't tall... these women are delusional about…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 03:13 AM
4	"You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse" Lol I live there too and there are tons of foreigners here. I actually have wondered if all the Asian girls here are foreign girls who moved here with their boyfriends. The foreign women here are actually 10x more entitled than those of us that grew up in less privileged cities... I hear these girls go on about their expensive cars, how they need a rich man, etc. My suggestion to you is find a woman here who grew up in a city that isn't Vancouver or Toronto, or didn't grow up abroad. The women w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 12:21 AM
7	"You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse" They're not though. Not in the way you think they are. The reality is that most women around the world have access to the internet and see similar things. It's not like how it used to be. If anything, some third world societies have women who have way more to prove in terms of trying to assimilate with American culture. They might dress way more provocatively, sleep around more, etc, as a way to kind of "fit in". I know because I directly know people like this. In my city, the women who moved he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 12:13 AM
7	"You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse" Right? A lot of them are straight up psycho. I know women who married men who were clearly desperate.. these women are users, they don't love the guy, it doesn't end well. The women also usually show a lot of skin on their IG too, they present themselves in a certain way, often presenting themselves as if they're single. It's different if the woman genuinely moved for school or family or what ever (possibly if she is non-religious in a religious state, for ex), but no sane person is going to lea…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/08/23 12:07 AM
1	Would it be a dealbreaker to you if a man lied about his height by saying he is shorter than he is? I'd mostly wonder if he was being manipulative or if he had that tendency, that's the issue mainly. Otherwise yeah I'd be fine with it. I'd actually be really excited if I was more attracted to him. Men are the exact same, by the way, before anyone tells me this isn't true in reverse. I've had so many guys tell me I'm as good looking or better looking than my photos and they were excited because they already thought my photos were good, and apparently a lot of women catfish. I think it's a bit t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/08/23 11:53 PM
–	MEN DESERVE BETTER FILTER OPTIONS I have big boobs (naturally). I'm totally fine with men liking them and being attracted to that. I'm attracted to certain bodily attributes in men and I don't pretend otherwise. It's fine to have your preferences.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 06:56 AM
–	The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male height Taller men pursue me more vigorously and openly. I mean for serious relationships, marriage, having kids with me, that sort of thing. That isn't to say shorter men don't also take me seriously, but their approach is not the same and it's far less obvious. That said, I've had a lot of guys chicken out of pursuing or assuming I wouldn't like them, so maybe this has something to do with taller men having more confidence because they have more social proof that the chances of rejection are a bit low…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 01:29 AM
–	The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male height Imagine being a woman and all your accomplishments, facial looks, personality, etc. is tossed to the side because your boobs are a mere centimeter flatter? I totally get it and I empathize. I know women who are flat chested who are incredibly insecure and put down women with bigger boobs, so it happens on both sides, trust me. There are men out there who put down women with smaller boobs. I didn't believe it until I heard my friends mention it several times. Then I've also had women neg me and w…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 09:04 PM
–	Men don't care as much about women intelligence in dating, but they do apprecitate it Smart men look for intelligence. The end. That isn't to say that other qualities matter... they do, but let's not pretend smart men don't want a smart woman. They do! A woman being smart and being a mean person is not good, but a smart guy would want a woman who's mentally stimulating enough for him and has the other important attributes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 07:51 PM
–	The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male height And then there's me, where basically any dude that's taken me super seriously was like 6'3. Maybe my experience is rare though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 07:42 PM
–	The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male height I know a guy who's 32 and his new gf is late 30s. And he's tall, attractive, educated...	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 07:39 PM
–	The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male height I'm not single because of my height requirement. I'm single because for most of my 20s, I wasn't emotionally available, I travelled and moved a lot, worked on myself, mostly was celibate, and only because my one real relationship I got into in my late 20s (once I was more ready) did not work out because he turned out to be an unkind person. It's not because of height issues. Also, he was a very tall dude, so are most of my exes, so are most guys who pursue me. So clearly having a height requirem…	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/08/23 07:37 PM
1	Women: What is a high-value man? Oh, so men are allowed to forever be shallow, but women must be totally enlightened by age 18? lmfao	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 08:14 PM
1	Women: What is a high-value man? No, 18 is young. Sorry but I was 18 once. I wasn't even prioritizing hotness (but even so... everyone does that at 18, men too) but I was not the same person I am now in the sense that now I understand what I want out of life. I didn't even date at 18, plenty of women do but they - again - do not know who they are or what they need. Being adult enough to fight doesn't mean your brain is developed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 08:14 PM
1	Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselves France is not a religious country. Spain and Portugal have some religiosity and patriarchy but they’re still pretty fluid. Europe (besides eastern, but I’m not as interested in eastern) in general is less religious and more open than North America. Canada isn’t super religious either tbh but Europe has more of a fair mindset in regards to men and women (for better and for worse - if you’re a woman who wants to be paid for, european men sometimes aren’t the best for that, although in my experienc…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 01:02 AM
1	Women: What is a high-value man? Life is nuanced. You have to keep seeing how it unfolds, but put your needs at the forefront too. So give it time and see, but don’t wait a year, is what I’m saying. It’s nice you’re accommodating. I also was recently seeing someone and it was clear he wanted something serious, but I didn’t see it happening with him so I asked us to scale back and so far he seems OK with it but I know in part he wants it to become serious eventually. I’m aware and I am treading carefully so I don’t hurt him. I h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/23 12:59 AM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread That's not really true. I've had multiple men immediately cherish me as an option because they thought I'd make a good mom (and they are right about that). Men definitely like nurturing women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:58 PM
2	Daily Community Chat Megathread It's biological. Although honestly, I'm in my early 30s and I was just as horny in my 20s. But a lot of women I know are never horny regardless of age.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:57 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread This is so true. I've started asking myself if I really want kids or if it's just because society makes childless women seem useless.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:57 PM
1	Daily Community Chat Megathread Cyclists have super hot bods, wtf!	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:53 PM
2	Women: What is a high-value man? Have you even met this woman? In this case, it's not really about assertiveness. It's long distance, you likely don't actually know her in person, and she has actual health issues. This isn't as much about you as it is about the circumstance and her needs. Maybe she's avoidant too. People who pursue LDRs on purpose tend to be avoidant. But you were upfront and that at least gave you an answer. That's being assertive. There's nothing wrong with wanting to back off a bit. Just don't get sucked int…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:48 PM
7	If sex was saved until marriage, do you think it would stop most of dating issues? Same. I've broken up with guys because I could tell I wouldn't enjoy the sexual part, and sex is a big part of why I would want to be with someone. It's not everything by any means and it shouldn't be more important than certain attributes, but it should be held to the same standard as them being respectful or kind for ex.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:33 PM
3	If sex was saved until marriage, do you think it would stop most of dating issues? It would stop dating issues a bit but not marital ones. It might cause more marital issues because sexual compatibility is important. I think there's a fine line. You need to hold out for real potential relationships generally-speaking (so.. don't sleep around) but also not repress yourself. Religious hangups for ex cause sexual hangups long-term. I had to de-program myself from shame around sex due to my upbringing. Being obsessed with purity and virginity is better than being depraved, but the…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:29 PM
2	Women: What is a high-value man? I will tell you that the "nicest" men I know (in the sense that they were more passive) ended up with the worst women (they ended up with manipulative, mean-behind-closed-doors types of women), so that might incentivize you to work on your assertiveness. You can change your personality. Being easy going is amazing and so is being respectful, but you can be easy going and assertive. Being passive is not the same as being easy going. And you can definitely build a connection via talking while also…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:23 PM
2	I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them? Usually it's because we see incompatibilities so we don't go down that road. At least for me personally, it's to maintain a friendship when I feel like it wouldn't work. Other women may be straight up lying though.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:11 PM
2	Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselves Yeah I'm a Canadian woman, our way of doing things here is not the way it is for Americans... like for ex, most of us have a university education. We also attract a lot of really educated foreigners every year, so even if men here left, we have other guys coming here all the time. Local men generally don't look to leave as an escape but seem to want to improve themselves. We don't have the same super dysfunctional gender relationships... we also subscribe to strict gender roles a bit less here t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:05 PM
3	Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselves Yeah but that's assuming you find women in those countries attractive. A lot of men just settle for that when they can't get something they actually want. And it sounds like you're after a power dynamic in that case rather than actually being into your partner... so yeah, depends on what you want. I know plenty of men who aren't into Asian women. I'm 5'4/5'5 and I wouldn't want to be shorter than this, and I attract plenty of tall men locally, but I do understand the appeal of those women when y…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 11:01 PM
1	Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselves Woman here. Europe is definitely the equivalent. Way hotter guys than in North America, at least to me personally. And they have way lower egos in general, and were raised to respect women more. Less religion, less patriarchy, etc. I lived in Europe and I just found the men way more attractive and more pleasant and less egotistical in general. So yeah there is an equivalent lol. That said, European men have high beauty standards (for me, this is a plus though, because I find men in North America…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 10:53 PM
2	Women: What is a high-value man? Literally no one knows what they want at 18. That's a ridiculous standard to hold someone to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 10:50 PM
1	Women: What is a high-value man? Are you kind or are you "nice"? Your friends are probably assertive. Although yes some women like assholes. I don't personally but I do like a man with a bit of a sarcastic side, and I like assertiveness. Some people view those traits as "assholeish". I do not like a guy who's a legitimate asshole.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 10:48 PM
1	Women: What is a high-value man? I don't really like the term "high value man". But for the general idea of someone who's worth committing to - he's a kind person, respectful, considers me, is thoughtful, has good character, ambitious, smart, emotionally and mentally healthy and open, funny (even if it's rare but ideally he's funny more often), healthy, athletic, has long-term goals, is great in bed, attractive, and wants me as his wife lol. He's also disciplined but allows himself to enjoy the moment when it's appropriate. He …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/08/23 10:46 PM
1	The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern dating Mannn that's so sad. If I was a Chinese girl I'd stay the hell away from white guys. They almost always look down on them. I've gone on dates with men who dated these girls and they NEVER seem to have good things to say. The latest guy I went on a few dates with even told me he wasn't attracted to his Chinese ex, she basically chased him. Like wtf lol. Couldn't be me.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 08:02 PM
1	The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern dating Obviously! That's why men date down or date certain ethnicities more. It's a superiority thing, or they are worshipped by those girls, it's obvious.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 08:00 PM
1	The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern dating The difference is that most European men don't like Asian women or South American women. lol. So yeah they aren't really going for them the same way these American guys are. European men's foreign tastes are more like Middle Eastern women or African women. So it's different.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 07:56 PM
1	The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern dating Meh I'm a woman and I don't feel bad for those women. They usually lower their own standards willingly, do you honestly think they give a shit about western-raised women? They don't lol. They envy us for the most part. I know that sounds harsh but my parents are from an eastern country, I've met these women. They are anything but docile little wallflowers like these guys think, but they're highly manipulative usually and hide it verrrry well... so yeah, I don't envy the men nor the women. I'll j…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 07:53 PM
1	You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change? I recently asked a guy out for the first time (but it was super vague lol I just said I was open to it and he was the one who really planned it after). It made me feel really good because I felt like... wow, I can just ask? And wow he was very into it, are a lot of guys just hoping I'll ask? The only thing is, as good as it was, he seems kind of self-absorbed and not sure if he expects me to pursue more fervently or if I'm in the wrong, but I won't be chasing after him even though I asked the fi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/08/23 06:54 PM
–	Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all? I live in a city where men are just... weird, in the sense that sometimes they seem annoyed/not interested even if they are. Very socially awkward people. This is the first time in my life I do kind of understand what guys must feel, and no of course it doesn't feel great. But as a woman, we're wired a bit differently. As much as women online complain about it, male attention for us is actually nice. We just don't want it to be overtly sexual/gross, especially if we aren't attracted to the guy. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/08/23 11:13 PM
–	Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA? It's also the way the women there are taught to be too. Filipina/Asian women in general are pretty white worshipping and that translates to how they treat men. I guess if you're a guy who's comfortable with being fetishized, it's an option. If you want someone who actually desires you as a person, being fetishized isn't a great option. But up to you. Personally, as a woman, I find Asian women cheapen themselves and the market in general. And a lot of us feel that way, hence why they don't have m…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:42 AM
–	Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA? Balkan girl here. Very accurate for us! I've had people tell me "he isn't good looking enough for you" or "you're not shallow" but the reality is, there's way more to a relationship than looks alone. Of course I do tend to date men who are decently attractive but they aren't the hottest guys necessarily, or have some quirk or flaw. Although honestly they've all been way above average so I say that but also know that. It's just that there's a reason why I didn't stay with them, it was based off t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:37 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? What's wrong with being a short brunette? The chubby part sure I get, but why is being a brunette a bad thing?	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:35 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? It's actually the opposite usually. When couples get together pre-30, the guy is usually better looking. Not always true, the rare ones get super lucky, but I've noticed this. And couples that get together post-30, the woman is generally more attractive. To be 30+ as a woman and to have attractive options, you usually are good looking, more than the average woman.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:32 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? Straight woman here. A lot of women are average without makeup and stuff. But I think a lot of guys don't really try hard enough in terms of their grooming and getting into shape. If more guys made as much effort as the average woman did, I'd think both are pretty similar looks-wise. The main difference is usually height/build but I've even seen in-shape guys who aren't tall still look good, especially if they're facially good.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:30 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? There's your answer. Moms do more work.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:26 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? That also happens here in Vancouver. I wonder why though. I also see it with Asian girls and white guys.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:25 AM
–	How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman? I live in Vancouver & this is a regular thing here. I won't explicitly say what it is but anyone who knows Vancouver knows what I'm talking about. It's a particular pairing where you see the confusion happen. I've even seen other people look at these couples like 🤯 .	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/23 06:24 AM
–	Single PPD men and women often have very inflated standards as to what an “average” partner looks like True hourglass bodies are extremely rare. Speaking as a woman who has one, and who does have naturally big boobs, big thighs and big glutes (lol I didn't know having big thighs was considered good but ok). My body type is not common... and a lot of women who have some curves are often pretty large/overweight as well, so if you're curvy and lean/fit, you're actually extremely rare. Most thin or fit girls I meet have no boobs.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/07/23 03:07 AM
–	Q4M: What lessons are you taking away from the Jonah Hill text leaks? This is lame. I'm into travel and I'm attractive. I'm not a trophy. I'm looking for a human connection, as are men like me. Just because we seem more attractive than you or your nerdy gf doesn't mean we're shallow or not looking for the same thing. To be frank, you sound really boring and I wouldn't go for someone like you either, but I'm not here pretending you aren't looking for a human connection. Some people are absolute home bodies and are still super shallow or incapable of a real connecti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 06:42 AM
–	Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date? Lol them paying for you does not mean you have to give them sex. That's weird logic. Do you expect to be paid to have sex or something?	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 06:36 AM
–	Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date? I mean, what kind of wife do you want? Do you want a career-oriented wife? Are you trying to say you wanna do the more traditionally feminine stuff? It sounds a bit like you're saying you wanna do the more "romantic" stuff. That's not any better than paying, you're not morally superior for choosing to do what you do. People feel love in different ways. Personally, I absolutely would feel insanely appreciative of a man who paid for me on our dates and wanted to front more of the bills - that's a …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 06:26 AM
–	Is it true for most guys that there are more dating options in their 30s as pointed out on here? Weird, I guess I'm supposed to be desperate, but it's the opposite. The older I get, the better the guys I date are. Obviously I don't expect this to be true post-40 but 30s is young, especially pre-late 30s when you're single. Early 30s is prime though. I still look 25 (even younger to some) but I have a financial foundation, know what I'm looking for, and I'm in good shape and overall happier than I was for most of my 20s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 12:38 AM
–	CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’s Those guys are delusional for sure. I don’t think they know what 30 year olds even look like.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/07/23 12:20 AM
–	CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’s A fetish for older men stems from serious daddy issues/trauma, and that's a lot of baggage as well. Not sure if high quality men want that anyway. High quality men tend to seek women around their age. It's just true and it's what I've observed, based off the (respectful, kind, smart) lawyers, doctors, engineers etc I've known.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/23 08:57 PM
–	CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’s That's dumb. I'm in my early 30s, I'm not dating 50 year old men lol. I'm dating guys from late 20s to late 30s. There's really no need to date men who look like my dad. Also honestly, women who are in their 20s and have options (the most attractive ones) don't need to date men who are older than them, either. I sure as hell never had to, and never wanted to. I was only open to 30+ when I myself was about 28.	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/07/23 08:48 PM
–	If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has? It depends where you are. American men seem more like that. Canadian men are often quite passive and feminized and want someone to boss them around. I often attract men here who want me to literally tell them what to do, even if they say they don't want a "boss", eventually it's them deferring to me all the time to make sure I'm happy. I do really appreciate when they care about how I feel (that's the good part!) but when they get passive/lazy, that isn't good. So for ex where I live, Asian wome…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/23 12:40 AM
–	If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has? But for a relationship, a lot of men will pick someone based off of money at least where I live. I see some seriously unattractive women with good looking guys. It's because these women have money. It's a thing in less traditional places/places where money matters more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/07/23 12:03 AM
1	If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has? Sexual hypergamy refers to women exclusively being sexually attracted to men whom they find something superior about. In that case, I'm definitely hypergamous lol. But maybe it depends where you live. Here in Canada, men definitely seem to prioritize brains and money over looks sometimes, depending on where you live. Where I live, men deeeeefinitely don't seem to prioritize looks. So they are being kinda hypergamous too, because they want that $$ stability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 08:43 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? I'm a woman and I actually agree. I look almost the same with a bit of it as I do without it. No makeup would actually elevate me lol, and women like me. The ones with naturally good features and genetic advantages. The other girls fill in their eyebrows, add mascara to get something there, have to define their noses or lips or bone structure, things I don't need makeup for. It definitely sucks when you see someone who's actually well below average get praised when she goes out with makeup on. I…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 08:29 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? There's honestly nothing wrong with a bit of shaming. Like when we used to shame women for being homewreckers (by that I mean the ones who would go for married men... the men also need to take responsibility but I'm specifically referring to the women who are attracted to taken men because they have low self-esteem)? That was good. We need women to respect marriages and married women. When we used to shame men for being cheaters? That was good. Now it's "I'm in an ENM relationship" lol, it's a d…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 08:03 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? In my experience, guys who are actually really attractive (but are mature or spiritual or sensitive) can easily get "side chicks" but don't want them. They've experienced what it's like to have a partner and to get attention. It means less to them to get that sort of attention. This is also true for me - when you've gotten attention from the opposite sex for a long time, it just doesn't mean as much. You aren't validated as much, and you seek internal validation more (unless you don't mature/gro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 06:21 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? Yeah I was gonna say, I think men prioritize bodies over faces. I see so many ugly but thin women where I live with attractive men. I personally feel I have a good body and a good face so I'm not even mad about it, just more confused about how these guys can handle having a partner with an unattractive face. That said - these women don't have hourglass bodies (I do personally), they're just super skinny. But I know a lot of guys claim they aren't into super skinny, so I'm extra confused.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 06:18 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? Agreed. I don't care if you're 6'2 if your face isn't attractive. I'd take the facially attractive 5'10 guy over you easily. Assuming both are fit and otherwise equal. I don't care about extreme height though, which is ironic because only one ex of mine was under 6'2... but they all had nice faces, and the 5'8 ex looked like a movie star. Guys don't get that we don't all prioritize height over everything.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 06:14 PM
1	What is an average middle-aged woman, to you? What if your genes mean you'll live til 100? My grandparents have all lasted til about 100/just under that. Then no, 35 is not it... it'd be more like 50-80 for me personally. But then that isn't the case for everyone. I didn't consider my parents middle aged pre-50. Honestly even at 50, they seemed young. It's definitely about 45+ for most people, 50+ for people with good genes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 06:11 PM
–	What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it? Meh I'm 5'4 and my ideal height in a guy is probably around 5'10 or 5'11 as long as he isn't small-built and has muscle and a frame. I end up with the super tall ones because they pursue me way harder. So maybe the tall men often like the women who aren't tall too. It isn't one-way usually. But the women who are legitimately petite-petite like 5'1 demanding 6'2 is weird to me as well... but I also think tall women need to be less picky about height too. Neither 5'1 nor 5'9 is "ideal" for a woman…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 05:27 PM
38	What is an average middle-aged woman, to you? Let's start with the fact that middle aged definitely isn't 35.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/07/23 05:22 PM
10	What are mens opinions on gym girls? Natural butts with no muscle are just fat and they’ll sag over time so this is a weird take. Muscle beats fat every day.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/07/23 06:13 PM
–	Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds? I'm gonna be frank with you. All human beings are worthy and have the same worth, so this has nothing to do with that. A tall man who's rich and muscular is simply superior to an average guy... like there's no way you can sugarcoat that or pretend otherwise. A woman who wants that is aiming up. It's not the same as a guy who goes to a 3rd world country to find a destitute woman to marry because she'll take anything. Two very different scenarios. Men and women have different requirements. Today's…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 10:59 PM
–	When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places? Yeah or they associate a certain value to you and if you don't play the game of being hard to get according to that projected "value", they think you're nuts lol. In reality, it's understandable to a certain extent, depending on how soon interest in shown. Like I'm seeing a guy right now and he was VERY EAGER on dates 1 and 2 and said he liked me pretty quickly, and my brain was like "huh wait, you barely know me?". So I get it. But I think if a woman shows mutual interest after 2-3 dates, that'…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 10:50 PM
–	Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is. Yeah if I had to pick one, it'd be them having a horrendous dad (just based off experience, plus I think men tend to become their fathers unfortunately/fortunately), having a highly psychopathic mom, or being an only child.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:45 PM
–	Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is. Yeah, not to mention, of the remaining 15%, I'm willing to bet a very small amount of those people are really highly desirable.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:44 PM
–	Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is. My parents were neglectful and I experienced abuse in my childhood, but it wasn't malignant abuse, it was them carrying on their generational trauma/unhealthy-learned-habits and they have actually since realized what they did and have tried to be better. Does this mean I'm not dateable? That's dumb. Almost no one I know comes from the ideal household. And many of the people who come from ideal households are otherwise undesirable to be honest. If you actually think hard about it, people born to …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:41 PM
–	How much is too much self traveling / socializing in a committed relationship ? 30 times a year for anyone is a lot, especially when you have kids... but as a woman, for me, that'd be way too much if I had kids. If I didn't have kids and my partner was ok with me travelling 2x per month for a day or a weekend or something then fine but even then I'd be exhausted lol. Also honestly, if you have kids as a woman, you wanna devote enough time to your kids... you don't want them developing an unhealthy attachment. Same goes for men as well but let's not make this a gender thing.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:36 PM
–	When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places? I don't know. I've met guys who think women are supposed to be "harder to get", so they'll think you're crazy/something is wrong with you if you're too easy. I've literally had a guy or two ask me why I liked them the only times I expressed interest way sooner than I usually do, and they'd go on about their insecurities and implied something must be off about me to like them. Or they expect the chase to be hard or something. This puts off some guys too but generally-speaking a lot of men do not …	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:32 PM
–	Not everyone is capable of being in a healthy and monogamous relationship because of their family background due to being part of a dysfunctional or broken home and that is completely fine. Yeah we tend to be a loooooooot more committed to personal growth/work, but it all varies too. I know some people who are still seriously messed up despite being 40+, but they tend to have massive egos.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:30 PM
–	Not everyone is capable of being in a healthy and monogamous relationship because of their family background due to being part of a dysfunctional or broken home and that is completely fine. I come from a dysfunctional family but not a broken home. I definitely have issues with romantic relationships... I didn't get to date growing up, and mostly I've dated the best of the men who've approached me... but I have no idea how to approach a guy I like or lead or show interest besides being super direct or super mysterious, usually the latter. Men say they want the former but it scares them IMO (they often literally ask me why I like them if I show interest too soon, it's like they expec…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:28 PM
–	When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places? 100%. I'm a woman and one of my new friends jokes about stalking men she's into but she legit means it and I think she's insane for it... but she's open. Also, plenty of women I've spoken to lately got their partner by specifically going after them/eyeing them. It's fucking creepy but it worked for them, makes me wonder if I need to do the same. 😂	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:24 PM
–	When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places? Lol I know several women who were the "calculated" ones. Both sides do it. I have a friend who insists she stumbled into her new relationship... she literally wore him down, would show up to things every time, talk to him, impress him, go after him. She even changed certain habits (like not drinking to drinking again) for him. There's no shame in it I guess (though I'm not one to chase someone who insults me in front of others or hits on others, which he does) but it's more her insistence that s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:22 PM
–	When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places? I mean it happened to me multiple times last week, just from me walking outside alone in a cute outfit. Literally. That said, that isn't always the case. It happens more in the summer, I guess from me wearing a nice sundress, being in a dense part of the city, etc. I have friends here who never get approached. So I don't know how common it is. I'm Canadian though. American and European men are WAY bolder.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 09:17 PM
–	Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds? Exactly this. I love my family but they're dysfunctional and were emotionally abusive/neglectful. I don't want someone who's like that. I've tried, and it always blows up in my face because I'm the healthy one (given the fact that I've put a ton of distance between me and my family) and they seem to wanna repeat patterns. A person who grew up in a similarly dysfunctional home who happens to be healthy is the perfect person to me because they understand things deeply, but those people are rare un…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 08:50 PM
–	Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds? People are gonna judge you for those things and that's out of your control. Do it or ask yourself if it's weird. I do think big age gaps are dumb, I also think going for a virgin when you aren't one yourself is hypocritical.. I also think men going for overseas women tend to be delusional and are being taken advantage of, but they seem ok with it and that's the direction the world seems to be headed in, with guys seeking out women who aren't great rather than raising their own standards, but you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 08:30 PM
–	Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds? I've been attracted to men who were 5'8, 5'9, 5'10 (5'10 is tall enough IMO but not tall). I'm 5'5. The issue is more so that women that are 5' seem to desire 6'4 men lol, those people are dumb. Also - don't men like women with bigger-than-average boobs and butts, smaller-than-average waists? I mean, they're cool with less, but they still prefer something that isn't average. I'm a 34DD in chest (but I'm not fat/overweight so it's actually big on me) and I can tell you that most women my size don…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 08:26 PM
–	Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds? People can want what they want but whether or not they can attract it or get it is what's important I guess? I understand wanting someone who has conscious sex. I want that too. But a guy wanting a virgin when he isn't one, especially when he's 25 or over, is strange. It generally means he's creepy and controlling and thinks he deserves to do what he wants without lending the same freedom to his partner. That's a lack of respect, IMO. The other things all depend and have more nuance. I had emoti…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 07:33 PM
–	Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking. I think this isn't the whole truth. IMO, really attractive people generally underrate themselves, and really average or sub-par people overrate themselves... it goes for both genders, based on my observations. Like I get told I'm attractive all the time (by men too, not just women) and garner a certain type of treatment from men who are good looking, and you can just see how the envious sub-par women get, like they think I'm not deserving of it or they are, and I honestly often have a ton of ins…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 07:07 PM
–	Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking. I'm a woman and I used to think this was BS, but lately... I feel like I keep meeting so many women who definitely 100% are completely deluded about their own appeal. The weird thing is, the prettiest girls I know are the least like this. The prettier girls who are actually pleasant usually are less shallow for some reason! I feel like I fit under that too. I've dated guys under 6' (which sounds silly but you'd be surprised at how many women demand tall) or guys I've heard these women tell me ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/07/23 07:04 PM
–	Most beauty standards are enforced on women by other women I'm a woman but I actually agree with this... I've met some really delusional women in my time. I have a friend who's in her 40s, she is pretty but she looks 40+, there's no mistaking that. She was gorgeous in her 20s and early 30s but she aged pretty quickly after that (she drinks a lot and is overweight). She does not attract high calibre guys now but she seems to think she deserves them/is entitled to them the way women my age are. I've met several women 40+ like this. Even if they were good …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/23 08:07 PM
–	Is dating more messed up in the US than other Western countries? Much more narcissistic than most of the world, I agree. That goes for both men and women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/23 07:28 PM
–	Is dating more messed up in the US than other Western countries? American dating seems exhausting, confusing, weird, and also kind of morally strange. I'm Canadian so I don't think it's super different (although as someone from an eastern background with parents who immigrated here, I didn't partake in that type of dating scene the same way), but the idea that you hook up or remain casual or date multiple people even while sleeping with them is so weird... like how are you supposed to build something real when you're doing that? And people getting married for…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/23 07:28 PM
1	My theory on east vs west gender relations Why do you think Asian culture and women are so different from western women They're often faking it. Your personality is often a mask, and we're socially conditioned to behave in ways that are desirable based on the culture we grew up in, etc. A lot of people aren't really authentic. I love Korean shows for example and the way the women behave sometimes is cutesy but you can tell when it's fake too. Men just don't seem to be able to tell. Like on that show Singles Inferno, Jia pretends to be al…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/23 07:19 PM