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| 1 | Q4W: How do you feel about other women defending passport bros?They push their husbands around and are tough as nails. This is really not what I observe of the ones with men outside their culture. Maybe more likely for the ones married within. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 08:35 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: How do you feel about other women defending passport bros?I think Chinese women are actually known to be more vocal compared to other East Asian women. They're more educated, etc. I've even heard misogynistic men say "avoid Chinese women". I briefly met a guy who told me he hated his ex (who was Chinese...) but it sounded like she just stood up for herself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/12/23 08:29 AM |
| 2 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsDude you’re very ignorant and your ignorance is showing. Lose most of your eggs at 30 lmao. Omg. Go back to the 1600s please. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 04:38 AM |
| 2 | If a man and a woman are friends, then the man is (most likely) sexually attracted to the woman?Oh I know. It's been a thing for years now, it's nothing new. It does make me sad and makes me weary about investing time and energy into friendships with men, just because inevitably they have to pull away. And it does hurt when they kind of take off, even if I understand. I've even lost female friends over their boyfriends finding me attractive. It's happening with a "friend" now, though honestly I kind of think she's calculating and wanted to befriend me just to make sure I wasn't competition… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 02:29 AM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsMen have fathered very mentally unwell and disabled children at that age, sure. If they're even able to. Men now have far less sperm and T than men of generations past did, as well. Do your research on it. Men at 25 now are not like men at 25 in the past. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsYes but that applies to men too. There's no guarantee you'll have a healthy child after 40. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 11:14 PM |
| 8 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsYep very true. And same applies to men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 11:13 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsI think this is the only reasonable comment that implies there's a wall. It's true that it varies depending on the woman. Not all women age the same way. I'd even say mid 50s. My mom looked amazing in her early-mid 50s. She only started to look less young because she had some health issues pop up due to some accidents. She still looks amazing for her 60s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 11:00 PM |
| 2 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsRight? My grandma birthed kids in her 50s. 😭 I do not wanna do that in my 50s, honestly not even really in my 40s either, but there is time, Everyone's genes are different. A lot of men actually can't have kids anymore. Modern lifestyles have ruined sperm. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:59 PM |
| 2 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsUm. Men definitely have a biological clock. Your sperm goes down with age. Yes, at 40, you can "possibly have" a kid, but your sperm is not great, unless you lead an extremely healthy lifestyle, don't drink, etc. Even then... PS - y'all generally break down in health earlier, die earlier... women are not down to sign up for that unless they're in it for the cash or the passport. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:57 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsMy sister still looks gooooood and she has 2 kids though. I keep forgetting she's in her late 30s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:56 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsMy grandma literally had children in her early 50s. Lord knows I do not want to birth children at that age lol, but it's totally possible. My mom had to get her tubes tied because she kept getting preggo and didn't want to be preggo in her mid 40s. We're not all the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsYeah same, I'm 33 and men always assume I'm MAX 25. I've even had guys in their 20s think I was 22/23. 40 year old men think I'm 22. Also, same re men my age assuming I was way way younger lol. I've had to start verbalizing my age so they know it's safe. I even had one guy say "I know you're WAY younger than me so I don't wanna come off as creepy" but the man is like 5 years older than me at the very most. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:54 PM |
| 5 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsI mean that's just not true. I'm 33 and men in my "league" are asking me out right now. I'm actually older than 3 of the ones that are currently talking to me. One is just a year older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:52 PM |
| 1 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsAlso, it depends on the individual. We don't all age the same way. We all don't start off at the same point. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:50 PM |
| 3 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptions60%? Pretty sure it's a way lower number than that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:49 PM |
| 6 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptions35 is not the wall in any way. That was considered the wall back in the 1600s among some unhealthy people and back then the life expectancy was like.. 50. I have multiple women in my family who had kids WAY past 40.. I'm talking 50. And their kids are fine. Men also have a biological clock. Male sperm degrades. Degraded sperm causes autism and schizophrenia among many other things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:48 PM |
| 5 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsMen have a biological clock too though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:47 PM |
| 2 | The wall does exist but there are misconceptionsI'm 33. The issue isn't really about looks. I look like I'm 25 max according to the men I know, and I also can see it. Not really about makeup either because these men have all seen me without makeup... I do look young, I don't "need" makeup thankfully. The issue is finding good, attractive, established men my age who are single. This one is a bit tougher than it was when I was 24, and much tougher than when I was 22 (minus the established bit). Although the men I meet now are all established ba… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | If a man and a woman are friends, then the man is (most likely) sexually attracted to the woman?I've actually noticed that men that seem sexually attracted to me but have girlfriends tend to stay away from me. Single men who are sexually attracted to me will invite me out to do things all the time. I've seen it in my own life now. The guys who invite me out to do stuff with them (who are single) are interested in me on some level, and I know that. Even the one or two who semi-recently had a breakup, who previously avoided me, now invite me to do stuff. I do not think men befriend women sol… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Being engaged (thus not pursuing other women) has me unsure of my attractiveness. Is this a common issue for married men who aren't actively cheating?Y i k e s | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Older women (30+ so called cougars) chase young college aged boys more than 30+ men chasing college aged girlsUm my friend, I'm in my early 30s and I live in North America and I look way younger than that woman does. To me, she actually does look 30 (she looks great as well). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 10:41 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Older women (30+ so called cougars) chase young college aged boys more than 30+ men chasing college aged girlsRight? I'm in my early 30s. I don't go for men in the mid 20s but lol none of those guys would even call me a cougar. I look the same age as women their age do. That said, to an 18 year old? I can see how I'd be seen as a cougar. Because 18 year olds look like children to me. Even though I supposedly pass as an 18-20 year old. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/10/23 10:40 PM |
| 3 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstI find casual dating still comes with expectations whereas just making friends and hanging out with friends is a way to just focus on being yourself and connecting with the person in front of you, rather than expecting something out of it. In the best scenarios, you feel comfortable enough to fully be yourself and vice versa and then if it's an actual connection, that becomes very apparent very quickly. Also, personally, I don't like to have sex with 99% of men I date because I will only have se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 06:08 AM |
| 2 | As a woman your best bet for finding a pleasant male partner is making sure he was your friend firstI actually currently mostly focus on making friendships via natural ways, even if it's a bit harder than swiping on an app because it requires real life commitment (showing up somewhere, etc). And looking to see if something natural forms from that. I've had a fair few guys interested just via hobby groups and natural life that I've actually dated more from that than the apps this year. Would agree that it's nice to know someone as a person before dating them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 06:06 AM |
| 1 | What would happen if AI/Synths entered The dating world?I mean, it's better if we just don't have these abusers on this planet or in normal societies, but you don't see anyone advocating to kill them or throw them on a deserted island. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Men don't hate promiscuous womenYeah exactly this. Women don't say it to your face lol. I have a friend who calls other women "sluts" all the time and I actually find it kind of off-putting that she does this, but yeah, never to the person's face. She always acts super nice to people's faces. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:44 PM |
| 3 | Men don't hate promiscuous womenYeah I'm not gonna lie, when I was a virgin, I did see promiscuous women as "slutty" and didn't respect them as much. But I was also witnessing women with boyfriends cheat on their boyfriends, so in that sense, it was a valid take. It also did seem like unfair competition because these women were contributing to hookup culture, which I never wanted to partake in. The only reason hookup culture took off was because women and men were willing to participate, so any woman who did participate just f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:41 PM |
| 1 | Men don't hate promiscuous womenI understand this logic but it's actually kind of a gross way of looking at another human being. It honestly alludes to not being able to love someone, for real. And I say this as someone who is not promiscuous. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:37 PM |
| 1 | Men don't hate promiscuous womenMen don't care lol, I've seen a ton of promiscuous women get "chosen". They're probably just lying to the guy. I have a friend who's nice but she pretends to not be pro hookup culture even though the way she got her current bf was by hooking up with him and aggressively offering sex/pursuing him. And I'm pretty sure she hooked up a fair bit in high school and university. I'm guessing she's lying to her current bf. But he seems to be fine with it so. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:36 PM |
| 1 | Consider that genders are 50/50, if huge numbers of men are undesirable, then that implies a lot of women will not have a stable familyMaybe you do have a point with this. I just think a lot of women are willing to not settle, or they might partner up with a guy who isn't ideal and decide they don't want kids. I've noticed it in a few couples - when the guy just isn't really her idea of super attractive, she's less inclined to want kids. It's weird because I meet great women who somehow don't have the best dude but then I meet shitty women with great guys... it seems so unjust. Then these uggo women (I mean also on the inside) … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?It's the opposite actually. Couples that got together young, 9 times out of 10, the guy is way way better looking. I actually find older men way pickier with looks. Couples that get together 30+, the woman is usually way prettier. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?That's an unfair generalization. A lot of men project qualities onto attractive women (or women they just find attractive) that aren't true, simply due to this insecurity, then they self-select out of dating that woman and justify it with "well, the pretty ones aren't fun". People are multi-dimensional. It's good to try to get to know someone properly and not assume things. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:17 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?IMO the most beautiful women are not a part of the normal dating market because their appeal is global and they're able to date celebrities, millionaires, and travel around the world. lol I've had the option to date a celeb or two before and have been approached by wealthy men, did travel, but I'm part of the "normal" dating market. I don't even think I'm one of the most beautiful women in the world, I actually have days where I wonder if I'm unattractive. This is a reach. I've met some really b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?Margot Robbie is beautiful and I'm a straight woman. It's OK if she isn't your particular type, but anyone who thinks she's "mid" is blind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 06:13 PM |
| 2 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?I feel like people should stop assuming things about people based on looks. You can be attractive and be a good person with a good personality and you can be not so cute and not have a great personality. If people really wanna judge, judge based off how someone styles themselves, not their natural attractiveness. Even then, some people don’t necessarily match their “look”. Like the Botox’d, fakely tanned fake blonde Barbie might be a bit less kind than the woman who wears less makeup and looks n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 07:26 AM |
| 5 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?This is also what I assume. I also agree with op. I’ve noticed it too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 07:23 AM |
| 2 | Discussion : Am I wrong in saying I’m noticing more attractive men settling for less attractive women these days?German women are uggos lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/23 07:23 AM |
| 1 | This video proves what a lot of guys complain about is real.Because a lot of them want women who are insecure. It helps soothe their own insecurity. Weak men want insecure women. Strong men want strong women. And I mean mentally and emotionally strong. Any man I’ve met who was threatened by confidence in a woman usually disowned his own power and was coming from a place of fear. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/23 02:29 AM |
| 1 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.I’m sorry, I’m not getting into this debate. If you’re only looking to date way way younger, you’re problematic. I’ll leave it at that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 04:02 AM |
| 1 | CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to youMost of us use dating apps but that doesn’t mean we’re hooking up with everyone.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/09/23 04:02 AM |
| 3 | CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to youSome of us aren’t prostitutes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:19 AM |
| 3 | CMV: a girl would hook up with you on a first date if she’s attracted to youNot true for me. I’ve had men who were super super attractive try, but I have standards for myself and I only like sleeping with someone if I’m super serious and interested. But if I was a free for all type, yeah I’d probably say this is true. So, really, comes down to a woman’s own morals. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:18 AM |
| 2 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.I meant more so the equivalent desirable trait, not necessarily equal across all boards. Though I do think single parents only wanting non parents is a strange unrealistic one. Also, if you’re attractive, it’s ok to desire that in a partner… but it becomes unrealistic if you’re not attractive. Then it’s just sad. Another one is extroversion - I think people are split on that one but I don’t see it as weird if an extrovert prefers an introvert or vice versa.. there’s no “better” in that category.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 07:16 AM |
| 3 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.100% true! A lot of it is down to looks and access. And the individual guy. Men with a more anxious attachment style compromise on looks (and anything, really) waaay more than secure men do, because they just don't want to be abandoned... and they perceive less attractive women as less likely to abandon them. Not necessarily true to be honest, especially with how egotistical plain women are, but that's what they think in their minds. I've even heard these men say "pretty women usually don't have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/09/23 01:14 AM |
| 1 | If you were to move in with a guy that makes significantly more than you, would you be okay with splitting household expenses roughly 50/50?I don't know what the correct answer is. My ex and I discussed 75% (him) and 25% (me) and that seemed fair. Ideally I'd want a guy who wants to take on a bit more than me in this way because being a woman is just.. more expensive, and I like the idea of being with someone who wants me to feel a bit relaxed in this way. It's like a love language thing. I'm coming to accept that I think maybe a man taking care of me financially a bit is something I do appreciate and would appreciate a lot. It does… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:30 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: Your SO refuses to be emotionally vulnerable with you - Deal-breaker?There's a difference between being vulnerable and being available. I need someone who's emotionally available. But if he struggles with being vulnerable, that's OK, we can work through it as trust is built. I don't want a guy who's emotionally turbulent (because I am not either), but everyone has their moments and I would hope they can confide in me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:24 PM |
| 1 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.What is "sharing"? You mean, dating a guy another woman dated previously? lol. Then I guess men are sharing me too? If you mean non-monogamy then hell no I don't partake in that. I will never be someone's side chick or one of many. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:22 PM |
| 5 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.I personally don't really care what your standards are and I'm a woman. You can like what you like as long as you're able to actually attract it and be held to the same standard. I don't fit your criteria either but I don't really care because I wouldn't want a guy like you (and I don't mean that offensively, just that... we don't have similar values). I care about fitting the criteria of men I actually desire. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:20 PM |
| 2 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.I agree. It comes down to who you're able to attract, for both genders. 6'5 is too tall for me personally lol (I've dated multiple men who were 6'4-6'6, I just can't do it again) and never a legit millionaire as far as I knew (but definitely the sons of millionaires, but I'm also the daughter of millionaires). But I've been able to go on dates and get into relationships with the types of men I'd want... the reason it didn't work out was because of one major flaw in them I couldn't accept or tole… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:17 PM |
| 2 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.I nearly married the 666 and I've dated the 666 more than once. It's funny because once I started actually dating, I even noticed other people start offering men who fit this criteria more and nothing less. But I know women who aim for that and I'm sorry but.. they're not gonna get it. And that's the nicest way to say that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:14 PM |
| 4 | "Everyone's entitled to their own preferences" only became a thing when women's superficial standards for men became undeniable and widely known. And today, people still judge men more harshly for having standards.Honestly, I don't know anyone IRL who actually judges men's standards. The general consensus is that men like hot women and we all accept that. But then again, where I live, I see non-hot women with hot men, so... IDK. But I'm the product of a marriage between a man who was good looking in his youth but then did not age as well as his wife did (and my mom was a beauty queen). So I've just always expected men to value me for my looks, and that has definitely been the case. As a woman, what seems … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/09/23 06:10 PM |
| 1 | Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"?I don't "shit test" taller men less. If I am to "test" (mainly for trust) it's more so a guy who comes off as a bit off in that way, just based off my gut feeling or if I feel they might be narcissistic. But I won't date someone I genuinely don't trust. Yeah I think it's because the taller guys are just more confident/can handle me more if that makes sense.. they can still psych themselves out, I've had every ex admit they're insecure (yes, tall ones too) or even behave oddly due to insecurity. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 10:06 PM |
| 2 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?It’s more like a lot of poor people are poor because they make bad life decisions and lack impulse control which spills over into their diet and exercise habits….this is generational and also peer related with parents infecting their kids with this This is true except if they're poor because they were born into poverty and have a lot of things holding them back. Honestly, even just not great mental health can hold you back. You sound disciplined but a lot of people aren't! I even go through phas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:55 PM |
| 3 | What's wrong with average men?No I agree that the men she's looking for is a bit insane, but there are other guys out there who would be fine if she was open to it. Being 37 is not the end of the world... I've met men in their early 30s who even dated older women, for some reason. Not hating, but more surprised, I guess it's not a huge dealbreaker. And no, these women weren't hot. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:51 PM |
| 6 | What's wrong with average men?It is true for a lot of guys. Not all guys. I've met attractive men with serious insecurities, and my ex who was WAY above average was convinced he was super ugly compared to me (which was.. bizarre). The BDD seems to hit attractive men more than average men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:47 PM |
| 8 | What's wrong with average men?That's unfairly harsh. There's no reason why a guy her age wouldn't want a relationship with her if he also doesn't want kids. A well-adjusted guy is not chasing after way younger women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:36 PM |
| 2 | What's wrong with average men?Unless some incredibly good looking, wealthy, devoted, great-in-bed, funny, interesting guy came into my life (nil chance), why would I bother? It's fair that you feel this way, you're entitled to feel that way, but as a fellow woman... if that's your mindset, you'll likely be single forever. I don't mean to be harsh but as someone who's a few years younger than you, I know a lot of women like you, and I just find them really delusional about what they can attract. Yes, I've seen men with not so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:35 PM |
| 8 | What's wrong with average men?What even is an "average" guy? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to dieMeh just depends on the woman. I'm mentally burned out. I was always an honour student, I have like 3 degrees.. I'd be fine to "fry my brain" for a couple of years at this point, but at 25 years old, no I was not OK with the idea. I still have lots of friends and hobby groups and I think as long as I could still do some hobbies and a book club, I'd be fine lmao. I'd just want to get back into intellectual pursuits after a couple of years. Really, depends on what the woman has achieved in her lif… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:29 PM |
| 0 | CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to dieI'm a woman and tbh if I was the type of woman who wanted a house husband who raised the kids while I worked... it might honestly be way easier lmao. I hate having to have a career (tbh) but it's not as mentally taxing as taking care of children is, even though I find hanging out with kids and building a bond with them more fulfilling than my career. Being a mom would be more work but I'd rather do it I guess, it just means more to me. But I do agree that being a SAHM is more work especially if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Most married mothers are not working 40+ hours a week , that is a myth that needs to dieMy mom worked 9-7 when I was an older kid, pre-teen, teen. She stayed home a bit my first few years but I barely saw her beyond the age of maybe 7. She actually started staying home once I was a late teen and my dad was making bank. Soooooo IDK man, my mom was a working mom. Also, if I ever had kids, I would expect I'd have to work after the first year or two (I get mat leave)... which sucks. I'm fine with part-time work when my kid is 6 or 7 or in school but I don't wanna work full-time when my… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:25 PM |
| 1 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?I reeaaaaalllyyyyyyy think it depends on your genes and stress levels and what you have access to food-wise tbh. I don't think it's necessarily easier across the board. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:15 PM |
| 1 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?I'm a woman and average-looking women get attention all the time lol, let's stop lying about that. Men are more likely to ignore/overlook women they think are too good looking for them, not average women. Men will project the "bitch" thing onto hot women but average women will get the "she must be really nice" thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:59 PM |
| 2 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?Men and women have different hormones though. We all have diff genes. When men claim they just want really skinny with no curves, I'm a bit confused by that because that actually leans more masculine based off masculine hormone profiles (it's easier for men and people with higher testosterone levels to be leaner in a non-curvy way). Women with healthy hormone balances are generally a bit curvy, and I don't mean obese or fat when I say curvy. I mean you're more likely to have boobs, butt, a bit o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:57 PM |
| 1 | How come "nice girls finish last" isn't as popular of a saying?Woman here. I've learned I can't be too nice, a lot of men take advantage of nice women especially if you're also hot. I've had periods of my life where I was super naive to what their motives were, because I tend to project kindness onto others (maybe because that's my natural inclination)... yeah, be careful out there lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:17 PM |
| 7 | CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin iceand her ex was a Chad Okay but how? This is something I've noticed more and more lately... some genuinely not very attractive women with attractive boyfriends... I'm in my early 30s but when I was in my early 20s, you'd NEVER see this pairing. Now, you see it everywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:14 PM |
| 1 | CMV : If you’re the guy she had to lower her “unrealistic” standards for the you’re forever on thin icePersonally, I just care if I find the guy attractive, emotionally and physically, and mentally stimulating and a good partner. Whether or not others see him as "on my level" matters a bit less (although i do care a bit more about what a couple of my close family members think because they have the types of marriages I aspire to have). I'm not as easily influenced by societal pressures. For ex, I always end up crushing on men who are under 6' even though the whole thing is "the taller, the better… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 04:11 PM |
| 1 | Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"?I'm 5'4 or 5'5 and 5'8 definitely doesn't tower over me lol. It feels barely taller actually... and I sometimes wear boots that have 3 inches on them so I end up being 5'8 pretty easily with shoes. I don't need a guy who's ridiculously tall but I generally date taller men, they pursue me. It's funny because I always fall the hardest for men under 6' but they don't like me as much for some reason. A guy I was seeing earlier this year was decently tall in my opinion (probably 5'10) and had a reall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Are women's standards for men "high" or "superficial"?Tall men often prefer women around 5’3-5’5. A woman who’s tall isn’t necessarily what those guys prefer. And a shorter woman’s preferences aren’t necessarily a man close to her height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/09/23 07:03 AM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?Madonna is extremely weird and creepy. I personally think it's also weird when old women get with way younger men. Even the 40 year olds I know claiming they only want men in their late 20s, that's just weird. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?There's nothing wrong with someone wanting to know stuff about you to assess if you're a good potential life partner. A lot of us won't sleep with a guy before we're serious/committed etc, we want to cut to the chase because we also want sex lol. It's really that simple. I don't date men just to date, nor do I sleep with the men I "date", I need to be serious... and we need to get through certain questions to get there. I've always been like this, it's not a new thing. Marriage-minded women are … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 07:02 PM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?Most of my friends are with guys around their age. My sister's husband is a couple years younger than her, and I regularly date men about 3 years younger up to 1 year older. Never older though. I'm actually currently talking to someone 6 years younger than me. Stats also show we don't really go for much older. Add to that - if a woman looks young for her age, it's even less common for her to date older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | Why should a man not date younger women given the opportunity?So as someone who is currently a 30 year old.. I was a 20-something for a long time lol. I remember rejecting older men who tried to date me and weren't going for women their own age. I never once dated an older guy and I actually had an older man basically offer me to be a sugar baby (I didn't know wtf it was at the time) and he was a very attractive 30 year old who had money, not an average dude or sub-average like the guys on here. I said no every time for a reason. Including to the men who w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 06:58 PM |
| – | My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries.Lol it's 100% a preference in this case, because I can tell you the vast majority of men disagree with you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/09/23 08:16 AM |
| – | My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries.So they're thinner, I can't argue with that, but do they have any boobs or ass or does that not matter to you? Is their face even pretty or does that not matter to you? I understand some SEA women are beautiful but honestly the vast majority aren't really all that attractive aesthetically. Or does that matter less to you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 08:14 PM |
| – | My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries.There are much much less women in SEA willing to pay for dates or anything. I don't know but if you read the Thailand subreddits, a lot of the men there complain about women wanting their money lol.. it's like dude, why are you surprised?! But also, a lot of women in SEA are literally prostitutes, so.. again, why are they surprised? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 08:13 PM |
| – | My opinion on why men sometimes date women from other countries.But men prefer Asians and Latinas. So it's not really as unheard of as you think. lol. For looks or for how these women are willing to basically do anything? I've been told I look Latina but I also look vaguely Asian sometimes (but with Sofia Vergara's body, definitely not the type of body Asian girls usually have)... I don't even think the men who supposedly prefer these women are talking about preferring their looks. They just know these women are easier. I find American women (I'm Canadian bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Why be angry at women over their attraction?PNW in America or Canada? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:54 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Are you talking about the same woman, or different women? Like, are you assuming a woman in her 30s is only with you because she "is coming back" or is it an actual ex of yours? Two different things. I've never gone back to an ex, ever, not even the really attractive ones. Actually honestly, my most serious ex was probably a "Chad" and I was the one who left him, and he's the one who still tries to get back together. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:52 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?It really depends. I'm 5'4 or 5'5 and I used to always like men around 5'8. But these guys would always get the most insecure, treat me the worst because of their insecurity. I actually didn't really like taller (over 6'1) initially. But after a couple of bad experiences with men around 5'8, taller men would pursue me more and they treated me better. To this day, any 5'8 man I like, ends up treating me like garbage (because of his own shit) but the tall men literally pursue me to marry them... s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:49 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Looks matter the most. If a guy isn't physically attractive at all, there's no chance I'm interested in him romantically. Unfortunately. If he's good looking (enough for me), then personality does become more important at that point, same with his character. Isn't that kind of how men operate too? Looks first, then personality? I've never lied about this but it surprises me that people think women are supposed to not care at all, that isn't fair. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:46 PM |
| – | Why be angry at women over their attraction?I'm sorry but if you're a good looking, attractive man, and you go to SEA to find a wife, there's something off about you. And you might think it's normal, but we're always going to know there is something off. Either you have a tiny penis or you want someone you can't actually relate to for what ever reason, most likely for power or a fear of intimacy thing. Also, the age thing - I'm in my early 30s and have no issues attracting men in their 20s, 30s and 40s. I don't really care to get into arg… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Why be angry at women over their attraction?Ehh depends on where you live. I live in Vancouver and I see unattractive or plain (at best) women with attractive men all the time. I mean, legitimately some fat women with tall and buff dudes, or women with 0 curves and not even a pretty face, with tall and good looking guys. Women being prettier than their male partners might be more of an east coast thing lol. Here on the west coast it's like ugly women have as much of a shot as hot women do. It's super bizarre. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Is this whole 'stay in your lane' ideology in dating, healthy and fair, or the opposite?Exactly this. But I've seen a lot of couples lately that don't make sense, mainly really attractive men with women who really aren't all that, and I often attribute it to a lack of confidence in the guy. So some women for sure capitalize on that, which is a shame, because honestly I think these guys just need more confidence/self-esteem, not an ugly partner lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?Yup, a passive personality honestly doesn't work unless the guy is willing to date waaaaay down looks-wise, because ugly girls will definitely chase a hot guy if they let her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:53 PM |
| – | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?Yeah so he probably had some sort of trauma that led to this behaviour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:52 PM |
| – | Have you ever seen a handsome and successful man struggling with his romantic/sexual relationships? And why?Yeah so when I met my ex, I honestly wondered why he was single. And he was maybe the only man I had ever met at that point where I wondered how he could be single. We did end up in a relationship, but being in a relationship with him, I figured it out lol. It's because he was legit crazy. He had no issue getting sexual attention, even romantic attention, but the women he did choose (and he only seriously chose 2 women before me and was with them each for 5 years) eventually got sick of him, tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:51 PM |
| 1 | The idea that « the bar is so low » for men is more and more prominent among women. Do you think that it’s true? Does it match reality?Lol I honestly agree to a certain extent and I'm a woman. I haaaaate it when I hear a woman go on about all the stuff she lets slide, it just ruins it for those of us with self-respect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:43 PM |
| 1 | The idea that « the bar is so low » for men is more and more prominent among women. Do you think that it’s true? Does it match reality?Huh lol It isn't for me though, I expect the same treatment whether he's tall or short. I do think some men are kind of surprised to meet someone like me and I can tell if a tall guy/attractive guy is used to women basically having no standards for him, because they move differently and they always come across as lazy or entitled or shocked that a woman doesn't worship them for being tall. My only serious partner was 6'3 and he definitely did not have the lazy mindset, that's why we actually wer… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 08:40 PM |
| – | The idea that « the bar is so low » for men is more and more prominent among women. Do you think that it’s true? Does it match reality?Ehhh I've dated several tall guys. You need more than that. And height isn't everything, but I might be one of those women who doesn't actually have a 6' requirement, which is funny because tall men seem to pursue me the most. Maybe they know I care less than other women do or that I'm not as shallow as the ones who chase them for their height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 07:58 PM |
| 1 | The idea that « the bar is so low » for men is more and more prominent among women. Do you think that it’s true? Does it match reality?In our view, the bar is low because we surpass requirements/expectations all the time, like we're constantly taking on the mental load and organizing load, we do well in school (not everyone but a good amount of us), we're raised to consider other people's needs, to be emotionally open, etc... so we notice that a lot of men struggle in these areas and wonder why it's so hard for them to keep up. To be fair, a lot of men do seriously struggle in these areas. And if they just simply had more self-… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:43 PM |
| – | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI mean, people can build a family and stuff even if they've had a travel fling or two lol. It doesn't stop your ability to do it.. the bigger issue is whether or not you want a family, and whether or not you're willing to put in the work for that. Lots of hoes (men and women) become parents. Honestly maybe even more likely to do so than non-hoes lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:37 PM |
| – | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsYeah I still haven't had a travel fling lol, not sex-wise, maybe just flirting or the guy asking me out and me saying no. 💀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:29 PM |
| 1 | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeI honestly don't really flirt as much anymore until I've already figured out I like someone. I don't wanna be that girl who just flirts with everyone/leads them on because I used to be a big flirt. My personality and confidence are great! I've been told I come across as very confident by everyone, so I generally assume the issue is they assume I'll shoot them down lol... considering I've had a few guys tell me this, I assume I must come across as VERY confident. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 06:29 PM |
| – | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI dont know if that's normal lol. I lived abroad and was a virgin the entire time, although I'm sure some people believe I was on a tour. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:43 AM |
| – | We're going full circle, conservative sexual morality will become the norm again for heterosexualsI'm a millennial woman and I definitely never went into a hookup phase, even though I easily could have slept with hundreds of attractive men and that's not an underestimate. I actually was a virgin until my late 20s and I felt a lot of shame around still being a virgin... that said, I think having fears of intimacy/holding hands is a bit worrying. If you're in your mid 20s and up, that's something that needs to be overcome. IDK maybe I just fit into Gen Z more though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:30 AM |
| 1 | CMV: All women will aim for the absolute highest value male within reach first, then work their way down. Men don’t do this.Lol no we never respect the confidence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:26 AM |
| 1 | CMV: All women will aim for the absolute highest value male within reach first, then work their way down. Men don’t do this.Eh some guys definitely do shoot their shot WAY high at first, but that's not all guys. I've seen guys shoot their shot with women I'd deem as less appealing than them, but those are the women they think are on their level. Sometimes it's also just whichever woman seems easiest or is friendliest/flirty. I think for women, a lot of average women are just kind of delusional for some reason, but I would say attractive women usually don't shoot as high. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:24 AM |
| 1 | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeI think it's definitely timing and luck for a lot of people. One thing that's always been an issue for me, is men seem to project a lot of crap onto me. I mean, I've been put on a pedestal so many times, men might assume I have "tons of men hitting on you all the time", or assuming I have a boyfriend already, or that I'd reject them... so it's not super easy sometimes, despite the popular thought that a pretty woman or attractive woman can get into a solid relationship easily. A lot of men have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:19 AM |
| – | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?I'm fit and I have DDs. 🤷🏻♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:08 AM |
| – | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?Men on reddit are different I think, because yeah, most men IRL I've met definitely seem to prefer big boobs. On here it's like "I like small boobs better" for some reason but that definitely is not how men in the wild operate or seem to. Or maybe I'm just paying attention to attractive men, and they seem to care about it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 04:07 AM |
| 1 | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeI wasn't talking about supermodel-level good looking lol. Just people who are good looking on the same level as these guys are or slightly more. What counts as being really pampered? I mean, I'll admit, especially in the past, if I look back at my dating history... I really didn't do much in early dating phases or relationships. I do feel the need to do more now because I want closer to an equal partnership and I'm not narcissistic in the way I was back then, but I still had many other strong at… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:58 AM |
| – | Does the fact that many children are raised in fatherless homes explain why most women want a tall man who 'protects' them? Are they seeking to have the father they never had?I like tall men because I've mostly been pursued by them and I've just had more relationships with them, so it's become a formed habit in my brain. I actually started off really liking men at around 5'8 but my experiences with them have been SO BAD in comparison. Also, I'm not a petite skinny little girl who has the measurements of a 12 year old. I have an hourglass figure, I'm still a size small or medium but I just find that shorter/smaller men make me feel larger and I do also think they migh… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:53 AM |
| 1 | What do guys do if they want virgin women but cannot get them?Eh i think it's fair to a certain extent, but virginity is not fair to expect post-24 IMO. Especially if the woman is super attractive. But I don't mind if a guy says to a woman "yeah sorry but you've slept with 30 men and you had many casual relationships, that goes against my values" as long as he upholds the same values. It's the hypocrisy that I don't like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:44 AM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeprefer an average looking women because that will make things easier for him This is generally the answer. There are a lot of pretty women who are also smart and great. It has little to do with "oh but she lacks this". Less good looking women aren't generally smarter or nicer or anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:41 AM |
| 1 | What do guys do if they want virgin women but cannot get them?Well maybe men should be celibate until they find the one then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 03:39 AM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeYes they do though. Not all of them but some of them do. And it's often the guys who really shouldn't shoot their shot who do, whereas guys who might have a shot often second guess themselves. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 02:23 AM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeMaybe a lot of women like that but what matters is how men respond. I think if those men were like "yeah to be honest, you're not attractive enough" to the plain Janes or the women who truly don't look good without makeup on for example, you'd see things equalize more. The issue is a lot of those guys have their own ego issues or self-esteem issues too, so they often choose the woman who's less threatening to them. Just offering a different perspective. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 02:19 AM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever before- The modern women actually were forced to be both men and women. Career oriented, bring $, stay fit, attractive, have personality etc... At times, ticking all these aspects don't even guarantee her that she will get a good mate. While men are still expected to be ONLY men. And they barely manage to fulfill their part of the deal. I will say though, I see the best looking guys often with the most mediocre women, so I don't know why guys are blaming women for this - that's actually the guy's faul… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 02:15 AM |
| – | Women are becoming accepting of their own averageness yet desire above average in men more than ever beforeAs a woman, I definitely see a lot of not so attractive women (by my metrics though) with very attractive men… on social media, in person etc. and it’s not to say these women don’t have some appeal, it’s just that they’re average at best. Makeup and grooming go a long way for these people, whereas for some of us, makeup sometimes detracts from our looks or we have to be extra careful because we may look better with minimal amounts or not much. Men look how they look, and you see it upfront more.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/23 12:28 AM |
| – | Yes men peak at an older age than women. But that's because most men start at the bottomAccording to who? A 20-something dude? Sure but I don't care about that, plus that's not true considering I've had 20-something guys try with me in the last couple of years. Also, my "appeal" has not declined with 30-something men. They still try, too. In fact, they still try with me over the 20-somethings that go for them. I don't buy it. When you're rare, you're rare, and maybe I'm egotistical or maybe I just know my worth, but my value has not gone down. Maybe post-40 it will in the child-bea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 08:40 PM |
| – | Yes men peak at an older age than women. But that's because most men start at the bottomI don't think my "SMV" has changed at all. I still get the same perks as I did in my 20s, when I dress up in the same way, etc. If we're referring to just sex appeal, that hasn't changed at all. If we're referring to family-building, of course that is a factor, but we factor in a man's age as well. Don't pretend it goes one way. Intelligent women generally prefer men closer to their age. And no, men cannot father children indefinitely. There is such a thing as your sperm not being of high qualit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 08:23 PM |
| – | CMV : Most women don’t think they’re deserving of a top men. But almost none would admit to themselves they deserve average or below….My sister got a super top dude and there's no difference between me and her besides our education/career choice. She did admittedly go for the highest type of career, but mine is still good and I still make over 100k a year. But besides that, I'm actually a lot kinder and more charismatic, and arguably better looking... so, why does she deserve her husband whereas I'm supposed to not aim for someone above average? I mean, I'm happy for her, but I don't see why I'd have a different outcome. I've … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 07:10 PM |
| – | Yes men peak at an older age than women. But that's because most men start at the bottomI think both men and women generally physically peak by age 35 or so, give or take a few years depending on the individual. I've met women who absolutely looked better at 19 than they did at 30, but the same goes for men too. There seems to be a few different types of people. One is the person who looked amazing by age 18 and was fully formed, but then maybe didn't age well by 30-ish. The other is the person who looked awkward or young AF as a teen but then looked really good at 30 (I classify m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 06:59 PM |
| 1 | "Does The Wall Exist?" Yes Lady, dating options change over time.Eh I'm in my early 30s. I look better than I did for a lot of my 20s, and I did look good in my 20s. I'm fitter now too than at any point in my 20s, so my body looks amazing too. Just depends on the person. And lol I have time to have kids... you guys don't know much about fertility. Another thing is that for some men, a woman in her 30s might still be more attractive than most of his options his age. I know that might be mind boggling to you, but there are women in their 30s who look better tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 07:07 AM |
| 1 | Young, attractive women don't completely hate the attention they get. If they hated it there wouldn't be a billion dollar industry focusing on making them look as young as possibleI love attention from hot men around my age. Not even gonna lie about that lol. This is only true if I'm single and trying to find a partner. If I'm in a relationship, I'm flattered, but I don't want them to try anything because it causes issues in a relationship (and I have experienced that, it really is burdensome). But it's cool when attractive men your age notice you. Having said that, I know women who love attention from it seems like most men around their age, even men they aren't attracte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/23 06:58 AM |
| – | All else equal, young people are universally more attractiveEveryone ages. Someone being 25 today doesn't mean they won't be 35 in 10 years. Someone being average means they're average, too. If you're the kind of guy with no standards (assuming you're above average, which honestly, you probably aren't), then fine. And who told you that you can marry a 25 year old, anyway? Where have you gotten this idea from? Are you dating one right now? Are you very wealthy and she's very broke? Women generally don't go for much older men. We like men our age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:42 PM |
| 1 | All else equal, young people are universally more attractiveHonestly I've never met an Asian woman who looked 25 at 35. They usually look around their age, maybe give or take 3-5 years, but being 35 and looking 30 isn't a massive feat or anything. I have one friend who's filipina and she's 45, and to me, she does look younger, but she looks maybe 39 rather than 45, not 35 or 30. But she's pretty rare and she's very fit, and she has a natural tan. Black women age differently. They can look preserved but IMO they don't look younger. I actually find they lo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:38 PM |
| – | All else equal, young people are universally more attractiveListen, I'm in my early 30s. None of us are chasing men 40+. I'm super young energy-wise and fun to be around, too. If you think marrying a mid 30s woman is you compromising, that's honestly a joke. That woman is still a lot younger than you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:31 PM |
| 1 | All else equal, young people are universally more attractiveExactly this. I'm 32 and I'm not married. I'm well aware that I'm past the average age to get married but I had opportunities before. I had childhood trauma that prevented me from wanting a close relationship for a while, then had to unpack that, figure out my career, my life, etc... there's no way in hell I am choosing to settle now, even though I'm passed the average age for it. I did everything else WAY ahead of schedule, this is the one aspect of my life that's "behind schedule", but that do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from?Ehh peak fertility is not in the teen years either. I worked on pregnancy research. More miscarriages happen pre-22 than at 30. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:18 PM |
| 1 | All else equal, young people are universally more attractiveIt honestly depends on the person, their genes, ethnicity, lifestyle, etc. This doesn't track with my personal experience. Yeah, I looked decent between 18-25 but I was awkward til about 22 years old. I had an agent think I was a model/actress when I was about 29 years old lol, that never happened to me before that... I'm 32 and I look better than I did at 18. WAY better. That said, I don't think my experience is the norm either, I think I age weirdly slowly (but I love this hahah), I have a fat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:17 PM |
| 1 | Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from?None of us want Leo or men like Leo tho. He's gross and has been for 10-20 years now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from?I think 40+ would be lying, unless you have a serious baby face and a lot of facial fat and it goes away with age. I've seen women like that but they're in the minority and they're also really fit people. Personally, I had a very fat face for a lot of my 20s, I'm 32 and I do honestly generally look better since I turned 28 (but I was pretty in my early 20s too). But even then, I would probably not see myself as hotter at 45 than now at 32 lol. For me I do find some women can be pretty delusional… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:11 PM |
| 1 | Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from?I think it's a little weird to not be into people your own age. It signals you objectify the other gender. It applies to women who only date older or younger men too. Not wanting someone with a promiscuous past is fair if you uphold that standard too. Not wanting to get married just signals a lack of maturity in a guy, so that's not really about money (and if it is... oof). Not wanting her to have a night out with friends is a lifestyle issue. Just make sure you choose wisely or state expectatio… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:08 PM |
| 1 | Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from?I don't know. 18-24 is really young. I see people that age sometimes and just see people who don't look fully formed, and I mean in a not-good way.. people tend to form into their looks into their mid 20s, late 20s, the lucky ones look good post-30 (and I really think the most attractive people are hot 30-somethings but you have to have aged really well to get there). Your fertility lasts way past 24 lol, that isn't a valid argument. If you're dumb and wanna believe that, that's not my fault. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 09:01 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?More attractive men are sometimes weirdly not picky at all about looks. I live in a city where I see average/plain/unattractive women with attractive men. It's actually kind of annoying. I feel like less attractive men aren't as used to really attractive women being interested in them so they chase a bit more when there seems to be some friendliness there. I do think men are more open body type-wise but that's just because they're hornier. Talk to any really really smart man (or a man less ruled… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:59 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?I looked underage til I was about 23 or 24. Honestly I'm 32 now and I do look a lot younger than I am (and no I'm not delusional lol, I get told this by men all the time, and I believe them considering they don't really lie about looks/attraction whereas women will sometimes lie to other women). It's weird but when I pass as younger, older men get weirder... I have an hourglass figure though and I'd say we get hit on way more (in general) than women who are "petite" or women who are large. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:56 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?Lol I'm a 32 year old woman and I get checked out ALL the time, hit on all the time. 30 is not "post wall" nor the wall. If there's this sort of wall, it's way older than you think it is. Even 40-45 year old women get attention if they're attractive. Even attractive 50 year olds do... I know because my mom still got "special" male attention past 50, she still has men hit on her. It's really weird to witness because she's in her 60s but yeah, if you're hot, there will always be people interested … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:51 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?Right, I keep hearing this, but I've seen a lot of less attractive men really aim for the stars... then they ignore the more plain women, who would happily date them. I know this guy in my hobby group who does like me. He's not unattractive, but not super super hot. Decent height, decently in shape, decent face and all that, but not hot. He has women come up to him to talk to him, and he seems friendly with them, but these women are like.. thirsty lol. He still ultimately ignores them (romantica… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:44 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?Very creeped out all the time. Older men are extra weird because the younger you look, the more into you they seem to be, which is even weirder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:39 PM |
| – | This is very anecdotal, but as a man, i miss the attention, do others also?As a woman, I understand how this sort of attention can feel great to people. At first, it does feel great, but then you quickly learn what it is and get over it. You almost get annoyed by it at a certain point. I love when attractive (sorry, yes, that's the caveat, I'm neutral to men my age who aren't as attractive, and very annoyed by much older men who do this) men my age look at me or check me out or smile at me or say something nice, but being cat called is something I still personally don'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/23 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Jobs that are dealbreakers (for me )...what about you?You sound exhausting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 04:11 AM |
| – | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessYeah seriously… a lot of men aren’t the one doing the main work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Doctors warn US is barreling towards same fertility crisis as Japan - where one in 10 men in their 30s are VIRGINS and third of women will be childlessI wouldn’t say most, but a good amount would prefer not to have kids if the societal aspects of it were stripped (status, the push to become a mom etc). I wouldn’t say 50% of women even, just maybe 1/4? Or maybe 1/3? But tbh the earth doesn’t need everyone having 10 kids, either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/09/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | CMV: average people are attracted to other average people and aboveYeah I just wanted to clarify lol. Some of us are single only because we want a certain person, not just anyone. That doesn't make us average. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 10:32 PM |
| 3 | CMV: average people are attracted to other average people and aboveIf you think you are average but have no luck dating. This indicates that you are indeed not average. You’re actually below average. Not true. I know women who struggle and they're definitely above average. They're just looking for a certain type of guy. Or they're not really on apps, or they're not super extroverted. Lots of factors. Personally, location is a factor. But I've still dated above average dudes in my hometown that's not super populated. I'm seeing someone now who is obviously above… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 09:46 PM |
| 1 | Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese?I'm 5'4 or 5'5 or around there. At a size 0, I weighed about 120-125lbs... lol. And I looked tiny too, visible abs, still had big boobs though (like a D cup). And I don't have massive bones (though they are denser than some women's bones, which is actually a great thing for aging and health). My wrists and ankles are tiny, but I have strong bones and a good bone structure. I know women who weigh 100 lbs at a size 0. And they just look oddly skinny. So you'd be surprised. A 165 lbs woman might no… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Would you consider dating someone overweight or obese?I'm a woman who dates men. My "BMI" is 22 or 23, not 100% sure. Somewhere around there. But I have a lot more muscle than the average woman does, and I have big boobs, and that adds some mild weight since muscle weighs more. I'm petite but curvy and fit/athletic at the same time? lol I know that sounds rare but it applies. No, I wouldn't go for the guy who was really overweight, and definitely no to obese. I have never dated a truly overweight guy before. One ex of mine just wasn't super fit, bu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | If women are happier when single. Why do they push for commitment?Personally, I’m fairly happy on my own but a good relationship and good partnership would make me happier. I’m not gonna lie about that. I can’t do everything on my own. I also need a man for sex, as I won’t have sex outside of a relationship. I want marriage to someone who I feel is a good friend, someone I can trust, be attracted to, and respect. But a lot of men are either not someone I respect, like (in that way), or feel is a good friend. I get along pretty well with men in general as I’m a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 06:26 PM |
| 1 | What makes “Passport Bros” so predatory if impoverished or poor women are the ones targeting high income earning men from all around the world?But why are passport bros always trying to sell everyone on it instead of just going? I think they're a bunch of clowns who are more than likely going to strike out hard, but I'm certainly not gonna stop them. What are they waiting for? Just go already. I think because it's embarrassing for them. Even they know it's embarrassing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Are women socially embarrassed if they don't have a hot guy?I'm a woman and I just want to find my partner attractive, to feel like we're good friends, to feel like I trust him, respect him, love him. I want the same in return. I'm not socially embarrassed if someone doesn't find my partner hot, but more so confused, like "huh? I totally think he's hot". I've definitely dated a couple of guys that others thought weren't hot enough for me, and I thought that was weird. The other thing is, I've had other men hit on me with one or two of these guys with me.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce.This is actually... so true lol. Also, they say people are getting less attractive with each generation?! I don't know if that's actually true (doubt it) but it's possible that it was a thing for a few generations, when men were more so basically given a mate, rather than earning one. You have men who aren't all that desirable sometimes getting really desirable women, and then of course that plays out the way you might expect it to. I actually think it suits men to "compete", it's built into the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 06:11 AM |
| 1 | Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce.I've had a lot of people tell me I have to have kids supposedly, but modern society makes it so hard to be a mom and to actually spend time with your kids and not suffer constantly for it... whether that be financially, or your health, or what ever. Some countries do it better - they give parents a social life despite being parents, or parents can take kids to more places, or there's more support in general. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 06:04 AM |
| 2 | Modern dating essentially makes it so the worst of us are the ones who reproduce.I actually somewhat agree with one aspect of this... I do feel that a lot of sociopathic and narcissistic people are definitely reproducing more. Same with people with lower IQs and people who are religious nutjobs. I know a lot of really kind, empathetic people who aren't going to have kids, because they're genuinely worried their future imaginary kids would never be able to get by with the climate crisis, financial issues, etc. Like... some of the best people I know aren't having kids. These p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?No I mean I’ve met women who do prefer short men. But it’s not a generally objectively attractive trait, just like being fat as a woman isn’t a generally objectively attractive trait. They’re niches. I know that sounds harsh but we’re referring to conventional attractiveness here, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/23 05:20 AM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?Hmm I know men who aren’t into either of those things at all. Maybe a lot of women are vocal about preferences but you see a lot of women with short or fat guys. Men online might be cool with those things out of desperation, but I doubt most men actually want someone like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/23 09:15 PM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?I mean… I get it. Being a smaller man or being a fat man isn’t attractive. Why is that shocking? Are men attracted to fat women or really abnormally tall women? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 03:30 PM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?Again, those guys look nothing alike lol. They're just good looking but they're all different ethnicities, colouring etc. So you're telling me men don't find nice bodies (nice attributes like good boobs, a good butt, a small waist, toned legs etc) attractive more than anything? Of course they do. But also keep in mind, men are WAY hornier in general. Older men (35+) seem to be way pickier re looks because they're just less horny all the time, that's when you start to see that it's not so differe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 07:06 AM |
| 1 | Have you "experienced" pre-selection or do you think it exists?Umm yes. lol. Basically any guy who's dated me ends up having other women fawn over him. I mean women who also never noticed him before. It absolutely is a thing. Women who say otherwise are lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:55 AM |
| 1 | What’s more psychologically damaging; a guy being put into the friend zone or a woman being put into the fuck zone?They're both bad for someone's well-being, but being put in the "I'll have sex with you and lead you on" zone is the worst. That actually does psychologically damage women and traumatizes them. I have friends who just couldn't trust certain men at all because of that happening to them. Personally, I'm fortunate that I've avoided that (I mean I'm also VERY conservative sexually haha, unless I'm really into someone and dating them seriously) and I do think my style of dating helps with that, but i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Do you think men's fashion really matters in attraction?Yes. The end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:45 AM |
| 1 | why do women want marriage more than men?Yeah the men go "oh so you don't like me?" or "I'm getting mixed signals" no my dude, I don't know you well enough to totally dive in! Also, I'm emotional for sure (I have emotions!) but I'm also logical. I'd say that's a great thing, but for these guys, it can almost confuse them. They're like "wait you aren't going to totally ignore the long-term implications of big decisions?" lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:44 AM |
| – | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?They're all attractive of course, but they look nothing alike. They just have similar traits - tall, fit, good bone structure, good hair, good features, that kind of thing. Men are attracted to the same thing (besides the height thing)! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:43 AM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?Idk tbh. I'm athletic and outdoorsy so maybe that's a start? I do know athletic girls who still happen to be pretty fake, but the outdoorsy thing (I feel) attracts people who are a little more in tune with themselves and less focused on ego. But yeah I'd start there rather than trying to find someone at a club or some social climbing event. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:38 AM |
| 3 | why do women want marriage more than men?Right there. In plain text. “…men were more likely than women to fall in love at first sight, to want to start a family.” Honestly as a woman this can actually be pretty scary to be on the receiving end of lol. I've experienced it more than once where it seemed like the guy just fell hard very quickly. It can almost feel like love bombing but some men legit fall fastttttt. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:26 AM |
| 0 | why do women want marriage more than men?The fact that men are more willing to make adjustments post-marriage means they want it a bit more though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:24 AM |
| 1 | why do women want marriage more than men?I'm a woman and I legit do not want a big fancy wedding. I honestly hate the idea. I find the entire wedding industry so damn toxic and wasteful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:23 AM |
| 3 | why do women want marriage more than men?Eh IDK. I'm a woman and honestly, I didn't wanna get married until I was about 24? And it was because my older sibling got married and seemed happy in their marriage, so it made me think it could be worth it. But I've honestly kind of tried to avoid it for a lot of my life despite sort of wanting it too, I have older female relatives who honestly seem like they'd be livin it up nowadays if they were young now. It's clear they NEVER wanted to be married lol. I also know men who REALLY want to be … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:21 AM |
| – | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?I mean Chris Evans and Michael B Jordan literally look nothing alike lol. They're just both very attractive men for their backgrounds. Chris Hemsworth or Theo James are more my types and again, they look nothing like the others. But yeah obviously they are attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:16 AM |
| – | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?It depends on the woman you talk to. I'm not gonna pretend those women don't exist because I know they do, I'm related to women like that too. And even I find them fake (I'm a woman) and find it insufferable. Some of us actually live authentically, but we tend to live in congruence with our values, we're the really honest ones who might make a "social blunder" (no, not in the autistic sense, in the sense of just.. not understanding why other people wanna live in cognitive dissonance), the ones o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:14 AM |
| 1 | Are most women not sexually attracted to their partners?I actually have no idea. The women I know seem to be into their partners. I've only ever dated men I was sexually attracted to, but that's a really early-on criteria I screen for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/23 06:07 AM |
| 1 | Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested?I don’t ever have sex early on. My body is sacred and sex means a lot to me. It’s a way to enjoy yourself but it’s also a way to bond, and also a way to create life. It’s really downplayed. That said, if I am into a guy, I’ll wanna kiss him within the first 5 or 6 dates. Making out for sure will happen by a month. I must be very slow compared to most modern daters. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Do women often assume if a guy isn’t salivating over them that he must not be very interested?Uhhh I don’t want a guy to try to sleep with me on the first date, but if I sense he’s not attracted to me or seems like he isn’t, of course I wouldn’t be interested. Some men hide this a lot but in my opinion, they should show they’re attracted in a subtle way. And then there are guys who literally try to go in for the kids way too soon. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/08/23 04:45 AM |
| 1 | Woman Claims It’s Hard To Get Sex, Is That True?What counts as the top 30%? Like, what criteria do these guys have? It depends on how old she is and how attractive she is, and how attractive the guys are. But personally, no, I haven't had issues getting sexual attention from attractive guys. If I really want it, I can get it, but I spend so much of my time actively getting them to not look at me sexually lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 05:30 AM |
| 2 | Q4W why is dating so important to you?Yeah this. I like going on dates early on. I've actually had men want to go on the dates more than me sometimes. But once we're together and we're serious and I'm committed to you, I chill out a lot. I'm happy with very simple things in a relationship, actually. I don't mean I have no standards, just that good sex, good food, good finances, laughing together, going outside, these things make me happy. I don't need big fancy things to be happy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 10:41 PM |
| 2 | Q4W why is dating so important to you?I used to be way more of an extrovert... with my ex, I had a super active social life, and I'd ask us to go out to dinners and stuff, but then his introverted tendencies opened up a whole new world to me (cooking and staying in etc) and I liked that too. Then the pandemic happened and it wasn't an option to really go out besides go hiking and biking. Now I'd say going out is nice because it's new experiences. That said, I don't have to do it as much as I wanted to when I was younger. I'm not an … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 10:38 PM |
| 1 | Describe your perfect partnerI live in Vancouver, lots of short (and really short women too, I've never felt this tall before in my life) men here... but there definitely are a lot of tall men here too. Mostly men from certain backgrounds. But yeah in life in general I just keep encountering the tall ones. I think I must look better to them lol. You're a great height. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 08:54 PM |
| 1 | American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinksYou're not wrong but I think that was her sassy way of hitting on you. Depends on how she delivered it. I do think it's weird to expect it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 08:19 PM |
| 1 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.Yeah but you might meet someone now who didn't even know you back then... maybe she would have liked you back then, or maybe the timing was off. I know women who feel the way you feel but the reality is, you can't hold it against an entire gender if a few people didn't like you. People are different. I hate hearing men say stuff like that because I wasn't even dating/having sex for at least half of my 20s. Had nothing to do with a specific individual. We're not all the same, despite the red pill… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinksI said "why dont you buy me a drink?" Lol that's kind of off putting as a reply. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 08:06 PM |
| 1 | American woman in Australia feels ugly because she doesn't get free drinksI'm Canadian and men here are more passive too. American men are definitely a breath of fresh air - they're far more masculine, assertive, and know what they want. I find that hot. Also tbh they tend to be hotter (although... French Canadian men are elite looks-wise). That said, I have never expected men to just pay for my drink. It's nice when they do it but it's not an expectation, so my perspective is different. I do think it's weird when men don't even try to approach though, but it's more a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:58 PM |
| 2 | Are single fathers attractive to women?I would rather not get with a single dad but if I absolutely couldn't live without him and he had a kid, then that's that lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:54 PM |
| 1 | Describe your perfect partnerI've dated like 5-6 guys who were 6'2 or 6'3. Might be out there but they keep finding me. That said, I know plenty of women who never get to date men close to their ideal, or maybe have only dated one guy like that (at most). Most women can't get their ideal either. Maybe they can for a few months but not for a lifetime. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.How old were those women? I feel like most women want a relationship after a certain age, but early 20s, people are focusing on other things. I don't think it's fair for men to hold that against women. We're brought up to focus on our careers now and to not put as much focus on men because of all the conditioning etc, plus it's smart to get your own money now. You're actually at a good age now to date and meet someone so I hope you try before going overseas. If you're being totally honest - how … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:29 PM |
| 1 | Debate: Would you rather be physically attractive + mildly autistic or physically unattractive + neurotypical (non-autistic)I saw a guy earlier this year who had mild autism apparently (his words, I had no idea). I knew he was a bit different but figured it was ADHD (might have been both, maybe leaning more to ADHD). I thought he was hilarious and he was very smart. The issue was he misread me all the time, and thought I judged him (I didn't)... so it was impossible to form a relationship with him, but yeah I was attracted to him and vice versa. I've dated a guy who maybe wasn't autistic, but maybe had some sensory o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | Describe your perfect partnerA lot of the comments from men in here are pretty specific too! Like some of the comments about a redhead with green eyes lol, I have never once heard a man IRL say that's what he specifically wants. My criteria is actually more found in real life haha. Sounds like you're on your way though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:12 PM |
| 2 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.That's fair that you prefer women your own age and also weird no one said yes, but a lot of people nowadays are so uncomfortable forming relationships. Men and women both. Was it a money thing? Looks thing? What do you think it was? You seem reasonable and I'm sure you could find someone. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.Does it not gross you out that she could be your kid, age-wise? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 06:03 PM |
| 3 | There are no benefits to having kids as a womenYeah I know a lot of women who never want kids, which is sad! It's always the really smart ones who'd be kind to their kids. They're just too smart and understand the risks, and don't want their kids to bear the environmental consequences. I'm on the fence. I used to not want them but then really wanted them, but then went back to being unsure. I've always said no to the men I've dated so far, and I'm honestly still not sure. The guy I'm seeing now really wants kids and didn't want them with his… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Describe your perfect partnerI don't even know what blackpilling means lol. But thanks. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 05:58 PM |
| 3 | There are no benefits to having kids as a womenNah. Some men don't deserve to have kids. If you're not willing to put in the work to be a good parent or husband, or you beat your wife, or you cheat, or you're overall dysfunctional, you don't deserve children. No one owes you children. It's been like that since the beginning of time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 05:57 PM |
| 3 | Do most women even need to make the first move with men?You'd be surprised. Some guys are sexually confident once they know you're into them but they're shy otherwise. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 03:15 AM |
| 0 | Do most women even need to make the first move with men?I've initiated the first exchange a handful of times. It wasn't me asking the guy out first (I haven't done that technically besides once and that was more recent, and he asks me out allllll the time now) but just talking to him first, being friendly first, showing i'm open. I've had plenty of men tell me they never would have thought I was interested, or admit they're more socially anxious, things like that. I used to think all men would ask you out first but then learned there's more nuance in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?Okay how many women date several guys who are 6'3 lmao. I have enough of a sample size at this point. I'm 5'4 or 5'5. 5'8 is pretty short compared to me, and it's a lot shorter than most men in my family. I was just being flexible/not caring because I'm not the most shallow person, but in reality, it just doesn't work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:42 AM |
| 0 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?It's happened several times to me though. I'm now seeing someone who's 6'3, he's the 5th guy I've seen who's this height. All of them (except 1, but he was insane and I had to end it because of that) wanted to get serious with me and were very intentional very quickly... and they're just less neurotic around me. They have insecurities and will vocalize them but they can bounce back quicker. It's just easier for me to deal with, but I've had men do weird things with me out of insecurity, and I've… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?Hmm I don't think a lot of guys specifically look for really short girls though. I know because I have female friends who are like... 4'11 or 5'1 at the most, and a lot of men ignore them, except for maybe short men who feel tall around them. Even then, I've had those guys pay notice to me more (I'm about 5'4). If you were gonna say petite as in really slim, maybe I'd understand, and by that also someone under 5'8... but really short and stocky isn't really attractive to most men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:30 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?I've never met an east asian person in their 30s who looks like a teen. Honestly I've never met one who looked early 20s either. This is overblown. You guys still look around your age, just more well preserved than the average white person, but age shows up on your face too. Having really round features doesn't necessarily make you look younger especially if that's standard for your ethnicity. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:28 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?Honestly I don't really understand this for a lot of women. It makes no sense. For me personally, my biggest crushes have been on guys who were like 5'8 with really nice faces, but they're always so narcissistic and rude lol (probably insecure about their size). It's always the tall guys with bigger builds and good bone structure etc that treat me the best, so I've come to learn that it's safer to date them. They treat me better. I have to sometimes deal with insecure people mistreating me if th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:24 AM |
| 2 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?Lol this. All of this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Do you think it's problematic for men to prefer petite women?What even counts as "petite"? I'd start there. I've met "petite" women and honestly I don't really think men generally are more into that. But then again I've been called petite so I don't know, it's all relative and depends on who you ask? I would think it's weird if a guy isn't into curves of any kind. You can be really thin or even petite and still have a curve or two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:15 AM |
| 2 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.Dude literally everyone in my family is a physician, and there is more than one person who works specifically in this field. I know people who work at Harvard. I know a lot more than you do. Your line about John Hopkins is a lie but nice try lol. Bye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Describe your perfect partnerWoman who likes men: Hair color/s - black (but honestly I don't really care, I'm cool with black, brown, red, blonde) Eye color/s - blue or green or hazel Height/s - 5'10-6'3. I keep ending up with men who are 6'3 so this feels the most familiar but I'm cool with anything in this range Build/s - wide shoulders, lean but fit, muscular but not bulky, athletic basically but more of a swimmer's body or cyclist's body. I like abs and I like a nice butt lol. Earnings equal to, less than, or more than … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Describe your perfect partnerNah I'm here lol. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 01:55 AM |
| 0 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.I'm sorry but someone lied to you. Sperm banks don't even accept sperm from men over 30-something. Men having the capacity to have kids for longer (not even true for all men, just some) doesn't mean those kids are healthy. I won't even get into autism and schizophrenia or any of that. You're obviously committed to your truth so what ever, no point in arguing with you. Looking at online graphs means shit all when I get my info from actual doctors and medical experts. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 01:49 AM |
| 19 | There are no benefits to having kids as a womenI'm a woman and I would agree that having kids is a WAY bigger risk for us than it is for men, and men don't even realize it. It's so much work. Every woman I know who's had kids has eventually suffered some health issue for it, and they generally do more work. Although, my sister is very lucky because she has a very hands-on husband. That said, a lot of men I date/know seem to really want to have a kid with me and it's funny because I joke that they're the ones with that desire more than me... … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 01:40 AM |
| 0 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.I mean I'm literally related to women who had healthy kids in their 50s but that's besides the point. Being able to do something doesn't mean you should, nor does it mean your eggs or sperm are fit for it. Like... we want people to have healthy kids. It's just better for both sexes to do that pre-40, especially with what we know about how sperm and egg quality go down with time. It actually goes down for men really fast in their 30s, but a lot of men don't wanna acknowledge that. ;) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/08/23 01:36 AM |
| 2 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.Listen, men lose virility and can’t have super good healthy babies post 45 either. There’s a cut off for both sexes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 09:31 PM |
| 7 | As women earn higher income, they want an equal or higher earning partner. But as men earn higher, they want a more attractive partner. This will make women more and more single overtime.I feel like more and more men and women are delusional. I do know women who are 40+ who think that more money means they'll attract a more attractive rich dude, but that's just not how it works. They could, in theory, get a guy who's good looking but broke (but the guy is obviously with her for the perks) or an older guy who's established (but I mean a guy who is 50+) but they want the same kind of guy I'd date and I attract (27+, good career, good looking) and we're not on the same level looks-… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | Do women see potential/future earnings in men as part of SMV?Depends on who you get along with better, their body, their goals, who has better resilience, mental health, character, etc. If you want kids in the next 3 years and you want someone to do that with, guy 1 whose personality is your vibe, whose body is your type, etc, is better than guy 2 if guy 2 isn't your type of guy. Height isn't everything and 5'10 is perfectly tall. In my experience, only super tall and super ridiculously short women think 5'10 isn't tall... these women are delusional about… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 03:13 AM |
| 4 | "You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse"Lol I live there too and there are tons of foreigners here. I actually have wondered if all the Asian girls here are foreign girls who moved here with their boyfriends. The foreign women here are actually 10x more entitled than those of us that grew up in less privileged cities... I hear these girls go on about their expensive cars, how they need a rich man, etc. My suggestion to you is find a woman here who grew up in a city that isn't Vancouver or Toronto, or didn't grow up abroad. The women w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 12:21 AM |
| 7 | "You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse"They're not though. Not in the way you think they are. The reality is that most women around the world have access to the internet and see similar things. It's not like how it used to be. If anything, some third world societies have women who have way more to prove in terms of trying to assimilate with American culture. They might dress way more provocatively, sleep around more, etc, as a way to kind of "fit in". I know because I directly know people like this. In my city, the women who moved he… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 12:13 AM |
| 7 | "You have to work 5x as hard as your grandfather for women 20x worse"Right? A lot of them are straight up psycho. I know women who married men who were clearly desperate.. these women are users, they don't love the guy, it doesn't end well. The women also usually show a lot of skin on their IG too, they present themselves in a certain way, often presenting themselves as if they're single. It's different if the woman genuinely moved for school or family or what ever (possibly if she is non-religious in a religious state, for ex), but no sane person is going to lea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/08/23 12:07 AM |
| 1 | Would it be a dealbreaker to you if a man lied about his height by saying he is shorter than he is?I'd mostly wonder if he was being manipulative or if he had that tendency, that's the issue mainly. Otherwise yeah I'd be fine with it. I'd actually be really excited if I was more attracted to him. Men are the exact same, by the way, before anyone tells me this isn't true in reverse. I've had so many guys tell me I'm as good looking or better looking than my photos and they were excited because they already thought my photos were good, and apparently a lot of women catfish. I think it's a bit t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/23 11:53 PM |
| 1 | Nobody owes anyone sex, but it’s a reasonable expectation if there’s commitmentI'm a woman and I wouldn't get into a relationship with a guy I wasn't attracted to in a sexual way... I might not even find the guy the most physically attractive guy but if I'm sexually into him, that's a hugeeeee plus and a reason I might consider marrying him. Ideally it's all there. Something you guys need to understand, though, is that some women are asexual or on the spectrum of that. Also, men need to put in more effort into their looks than they do on average currently. Hate to break it… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 07:17 PM |
| 1 | I may get a lot of hate for it but I legitimately think in the older ages most men look better than womenMost Americans in general don't age well IMO. I also agree re the race thing... that's the elephant in the room. My ex was a year older than me but he's white, everyone thought he was 10 years older than me. I don't think the same would be true if I dated an Asian guy for ex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 06:58 PM |
| 1 | I may get a lot of hate for it but I legitimately think in the older ages most men look better than womenMy boobs are somewhat big lol, they don't sag. I'm in my early 30s though. And they've always been fairly perky for their size. There's no one size fits all... everyone's given a different hand in genetics. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 06:56 PM |
| 1 | I may get a lot of hate for it but I legitimately think in the older ages most men look better than womenDepends on where you live. Here, plenty of women are super fit or even thin in their 30s or 40s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 06:55 PM |
| 1 | I may get a lot of hate for it but I legitimately think in the older ages most men look better than womenFunny. I'm a woman in my early 30s... when I date men in their 30s, everyone remarks how old they look, but they're comparing the guy to me, and I apparently pass as early-mid 20s (men especially think I'm 25 or under). I personally remember what I looked like in my early-mid 20s and I don't think I look that age (just because I looked so young at those ages, but maybe I do currently look 20-something) but it goes to show that men in their 30s generally look older. I don't agree that they look y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 06:53 PM |
| 1 | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?Cool, good for you I guess. Good thing I don't surround myself with men like you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?Sure but not that much older. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:25 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)I don't think a "good man" necessarily waits for sex. He might see it presented from an easy girl he's attracted to/into and go for it. A truly special man would say no, though, and I think those are the guys I personally would go for. But women throwing sex at men early on does change things because it normalizes it. We're all susceptible to normalization. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:19 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?No I wouldn't, actually. I would like to have kids but I don't want kids for another 3 years. A 40 year old man is already past my age limit for kids, I want them when me and my partner are both sub-40. Plus, I look younger, I'm fit, I want someone who's young-appearing. I was actually recently dating a guy who was 37 and everyone around me said he looked really old compared to me (which I didn't care of but yeah) and I wasn't able to picture myself having kids with him in the next 2 years, so t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:17 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?I literally don't know a single woman in her late 20s or early 30s, in various cities or countries, who's in this type of age dynamic. Maybe women in 3rd world countries are though. Because of necessity. We know that exists. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:16 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?We do though lol. I've seen it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?Ok but men have an age limit for this as well though. 30 is not the limit for women. And autism is linked to paternal age, if anything. Men who have kids 40+ are the ones contributing to that. Doesn't matter if your wife is 30. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?That's not true. Older women are into it, at least the healthy ones are. I have friends in their 40s and the insane ones are the ones saying "I want a guy who's 30" (but these guys will never give them a shot lol) and the really cool ones want men their age or a bit older. They aren't looking for a payday (what ever that means) or a baby daddy lol, they just want a partner. I really hope they find their guy. It's the ones who are immature and look for 30 year olds that I hope don't find their gu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:49 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?I'm 32 and no I'm not interested in a guy over 37. Even 37 is pushing it for me, that's the oldest I'd go, and I'd be reluctant to date a guy that age too. I'd rather someone 28-35. I might be rare though because I'm willing to date 4 years younger, no problem, and only 3 years older. My fav range is -2/+1 but I know I have to expand it a bit more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:47 PM |
| – | CMV: Ladies, I think we're doing ourselves a disservice by giving men dating advice (nuanced take)I just want men to be direct and honest. Honestly, while I agree to some extent, I disagree that this is the main problem. The problem is we should really be looking out for decent/genuine/good behavior and reward that. TBH I think a huge problem is how women behave and how they lower the value of sex and all that. When a lot of women just have sex on dates 1-3 and are willing to do anything, it cheapens things for everyone else. And a lot of women do this nowadays... like just zero self-respect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:45 PM |
| – | Q4W: Have you ever rejected a man to test his determination in chasing you?I have this going on right now with a guy lol but it's genuinely because I don't think I see a future with him. It's not really to have him chase me. If anything, if he was overly persistent, I'd get creeped out. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:41 PM |
| 1 | Where does the idea of "men are the gatekeepers of commitment" come from?Ah college is such a young time in life though. in college, I was incredibly introverted/reserved due to a reaaaally over-protective and strict upbringing. It wasn't until near the end that I opened up more. I never went to parties, never drank, etc. I did attract guys but I wasn't even really interacting with tons of them prior to 22, which is when I started to come out my shell more. I'd argue I had an emotionally abusive upbringing from my mom. But when I was interacting with men from our bro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:39 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Have you ever rejected a man to test his determination in chasing you?Honestly yes. But I wasn't doing it consciously. And it was not the date request stage, it was more like kind of not continuing a conversation when he wasn't showing enough overt interest. But considering I've attracted a lot more aggressive guys and I want someone who's respectful, I've started to become conscious of this and start being "easier" in a way (the way looooots of women are lol) so I signal more interest more clearly. I want to attract the right one and I'm dropping my toxic views. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:37 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?I'm in that age range, I'm not dating 40 year old men. Few of us are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:33 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?Dude, 30 is not too old for women. You're giving weird advice. Women can often healthily have kids even past 38. But if he's 40 then I'm not sure why he waited this long. 40+ is dangerous for both genders. Also really stupid that he expects to find someone 10 years younger. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:32 PM |
| – | Should men who haven't managed to find love until their 30s remain single?You guys have an obsession with "being settled for" and the woman being "promiscuous". There's also a chance the woman is being settled for, too. Also, how do you know someone's been promiscuous? That's an assumption you're making. That aside, why would being 30+ mean you should remain single? It just seems... so dumb. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:31 PM |
| 1 | Question for men who say women are overly shallow - If you genuinely believe that all (or essentially all) women only care about looks, why don't you focus on improving your looks?I think men absolutely should put more effort into their looks. Honestly, everyone should. If you aren't naturally very attractive, there's no harm in trying more. Grooming, hygiene, fashion, exercise, etc, go a long way. Start there. As a woman, I get attention without makeup or my hair done and if I'm just in sweats, but that doesn't stop me from taking care of my hygiene, grooming myself, exercising, and wearing nice things when I go out. Sometimes my strategy is to look less good because I m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:19 PM |
| – | Where does the idea of "men are the gatekeepers of commitment" come from?In reality, top young women tend to be in relationships and only tend to be single for brief stints. And no, their boyfriends aren't all cheating on them. These are women with tons of options among top guys who generally don't tolerate that shit. They generally have multiple top guys as commitment options at any time, so they gate keep as well. I think this is only true if you're in settings that provide you those options. You could easily be great but be at home a lot of the time and not meet t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Where does the idea of "men are the gatekeepers of commitment" come from?I don't necessarily agree. I've dated men who had options for sure (for context, these guys were 6'1+, decent looking, in shape, decent income etc) and I was the one to decide the commitment piece. I'm aware there are a lot of women out there who are attractive, etc, so it's not like they didn't have options... but I obviously offered something beyond that, that perhaps a lot of women just don't. It could be the fact that I'm very mentally and emotionally stable, calm, positive, easy to hang wit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Where does the idea of "men are the gatekeepers of commitment" come from?I don't agree with this notion, at least not for all men and women. I think generally-speaking, it's a mutual thing. For example, maybe the guy is the gatekeeper of you becoming his girlfriend, but you're the gatekeeper of him becoming your husband. Does that make sense? And of course, women are the ones who decide who gets to have sex with them. For example, I have no issue getting a boyfriend, but I have yet to meet one I want to be my husband. So while the dating phase is mutual and they deci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Q4M: If “settling” is bad, why should women “lower their standards” and “be less selective/picky”?This is exactly the issue. I have a friend who's not bad looking but she isn't "hot" or very attractive (physically or personality-wise) and she gets mad when I get attention she hopes to get. And it's kind of like... but... we aren't the same. There's no nice way to say that so I don't say anything, but it's kind of annoying as well as a woman to see these women get so angry about it. And honestly, they direct that anger towards us a lot of the time. She's already thrown micro-aggressions my wa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 07:00 PM |
| 1 | I realize women don't like douchebags, they like a guy with self respect.I can pick up on it but I have a 6th sense for stuff like this. Sometimes I figure it out before they even realize why they're doing it... which is pretty irritating. A lot of people don't understand themselves at all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:48 PM |
| – | I realize women don't like douchebags, they like a guy with self respect.We like someone who's assertive, self-respecting, and respecting of us. We want someone who does things because they actually want to, not because they feel obligated to. A people pleaser is a huge turnoff to me, but so is a highly disagreeable dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:46 PM |
| 1 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleI'm the same. I'm pretty direct. Maybe not all the time if it's not necessary, but in a relationship, I will generally be fairly direct and want the guy to be direct, at least in terms of intentions, plans, and future goals, etc. I want someone who's open and I don't have to pry info out of them. It's just too tiring and usually it's not worth it lol, I did years of that dance and trying to figure people out. It's annoying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:43 PM |
| 1 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleI'm not even autistic and I find it confusing sometimes too. I've come to learn that some people would rather have plausible deniability and being a bit vague is what helps them achieve that, just in case. That's what a lot of that is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 05:42 PM |
| – | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menNormally that's what I would see too but here in my big city on the west coast, it's very much the opposite. This is also the first time I ever noticed this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 11:04 PM |
| – | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menWomen are honestly assholes to other women lol. But the thing is, women sometimes have no clue what they look like... like the female gaze is NOT the same as the male gaze. Women will hate on you if your bf is hot if you aren't super tall and model stick-thin and beautiful. They don't realize that men like boobs and ass and curves and don't care if you're 5'10. If anything, a lot of them would rather have the fit curvy 5'5 girl who's cute and pretty and nice. But women don't get that. Although I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 10:56 PM |
| – | Most women are more willing to date other women over menLol opposite for me but my relational trauma from childhood mostly comes from women being controlling/horrible rather than the men. So I'm not the norm probably. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 09:14 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itWell it's true if you're also attractive and interesting. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 09:10 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itWe definitely aren't eager for that lol. But a guy who looks like someone we'd naturally gravitate to, someone similar to us, absolutely. People generally gravitate towards their peers, in all aspects. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menOhhh ok I see, I hear that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menI mean, I don't really "need" makeup. I have natural attributes people wear makeup for (mascara, eyebrow filler, lipstick, clear skin, high cheekbones) so I don't think telling me I look good without makeup is a lie. But the idea was to make it so I wouldn't look as overtly "out there" by wearing makeup, since obviously more makeup signals that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 07:26 PM |
| – | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menProbably because he was better looking than you lol. Why would he sabotage you if you were obviously not the attractive one (no offense)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:56 PM |
| – | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menSame. My ex tried to get me to gain weight and stop wearing makeup. I did wear less makeup and I did gain some weight lol (mostly to my ass though, it worked out), but I did also leave him. Not for someone else, but just to get away from him because he was annoying and consistently put me down in very subtle ways to get me to stay with him. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:55 PM |
| – | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menNah I'm not insecure with all men. The annoying thing is other women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:55 PM |
| 1 | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menI prefer bulk over cut when the guy is thin naturally, but I don't like fat on men. It just isn't attractive at all to me. I think men and women are different though... like men can get away with being a little leaner, whereas I think women can get away with a little more "cushion". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:48 PM |
| 1 | Women are often insecure when dating physically attractive menI only ever got insecure with my attractive exes because other women were very inappropriate around them. I wasn't thinking "he'll leave me for her", but more like I don't want to be constantly reminded that other women desire my partner. It's annoying. And now I understand why men sometimes prefer a more average-looking woman. It's not even really insecurity, it's just straight up annoying when other people aren't respectful. And this sucks for me because I am the type of woman to get attention… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:47 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itI've had men ask me if my boobs were real. :| So I can relate to her. And yes I think men sometimes don't approach if they think someone won't say yes... so we're left with those who are confident enough to approach. Sounds like you're a catch either way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 04:33 PM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?What if you like Middle Eastern girls lol. Or Southern European girls. Or Nordic girls? Not saying those other women aren't attractive, but there are men who prefer other women.. and the ones I mentioned fit universal beauty standards the most, in reality. Brazilian women can be gorgeous and the most diverse but I would argue that Brazilian women aren't like the other South American women. They like Brazilian men a lot of the time, and don't necessarily rely on foreign men in the same way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 06:10 AM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itOh yikes, that's dark. One thing that makes me uncomfortable with that though is having been out with women like that, when the men come to you (me in this case) over them, and it's consistent, it does make these women get ugly with you too. This happened with a "friend" of mine recently. Even the guy she shot her shot with thought I was the one who did it initially and was very excited and then seemed deflated when it was her, and she noticed, and she asked me after if that was the case, and I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 06:00 AM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?Ok so their wealth allots them a beauty premium abroad. Makes sense I guess. $ for men is what beauty is for women. But again, as long as people are aware it's transaction and not love-based. And yeah I guess it does depend on your preferences. I know a lot of men are pretty open and I don't think one race is better than the other, but I do think a lot of men settle for women they'd never go for if they had their local women's mindset, that's for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:57 AM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?Are the women hotter? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:36 AM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?No way, I'm not defending any woman lol. I disagree that they're more pleasant. I'd consider myself to be pleasant and I was western raised (foreign born though), and men I meet tend to agree, I have dating options or even marriage options. The difference is that my parents raised me to be humble and realistic and to value marriage. So I guess some of the eastern mindset spewed in with my upbringing, but I can assure you that the east is turning into the west (has been for a while now from what … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:35 AM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itIt honestly does happen all the time. You think it's intrasexual competition to keep women delusional? Lol. I would have thought it works better if we get more people to understand where they reside. Otherwise, too many of them try with the same guys. I'm always the honest friend and it's so painful because I see other women lieeeeee and of course I'm the bad guy for not also lying. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:33 AM |
| 1 | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itI would agree but these women cause societal problems, just like men who remain single forever do. I'm not saying people should pair up against their will, but it would serve some people to be more realistic. And I disagree with the idea that you can't choose who you're attracted to. If I CAN somewhat choose or consciously lower my expectations, and I am someone who can get who these women want, then it's possible. IMO some people want the status of having someone attractive, or act like it's im… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:30 AM |
| 1 | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Yeah that's what my friend who knows both of us/has seen things tells me... I thought it was just his huge ego or something. :| Well, we'll see how this goes. He told me he's only been "seeing her recently" but says it's not a relationship yet lol. I'm kind of surprised given how his friends are acting like he's not single or she's his girlfriend. You said you have a lot of power in this group. You probably had (have?) the power to excommunicate this guy or at least severely damage his chances o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/08/23 05:28 AM |
| 1 | Are passport bros really a thing?Nice. Welcome bros. I don't know, I do know American women and a lot of them definitely are very masculinized and annoying and narcissistic, but you get that in big cities in Canada too. Less so in my big city but here we have other problems lol. But yeah, America in general is quite narcissistic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:46 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.But the problem is that I'm the same way, or at least if a guy isn't clear enough, I assume he doesn't like me. It's more true for women because we're socialized to believe that when men like us, they try hard or at least are clear about it. We usually hear "mixed signals is a no from a guy". That said, I decided to be direct with him, so we'll see. I'm not chasing a guy who chose another woman over me, even if it's just because she's easier to sleep with. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:44 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.What do you mean by this? Lol please be clearer. Anyway I've decided to take the very direct route by asking him... which is terrifying and might ruin our "friendship" but oh well. It's definitely a bit weird to do but I figure I might as well not regret anything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:41 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.So you mainly want them to make similar efforts after a date? like reach out to you first, etc? Is that because you want to make sure they like you the same way you like them? I get that but we're conditioned as women to believe that men are supposed to pursue us, otherwise they don't like us enough. Regarding the girl at the bar... maybe she's too immature for a relationship. It sounds like she enjoys the fun stuff but isn't consistent. That sounds like a lack of maturity. The other issue, thou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:05 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itI've had men tell me straight up they assumed I was looking for a ridiculous dude (extremely wealthy, good looking, etc)... like just assumed my expectations were really high. It actually made me paranoid for a while - like am I giving off vibes that I'm a gold digger? It's weird because I definitely do not gold dig lol. I have a well paying job, I take care of myself. But then I started getting told some men were too scared to try, and then also some of them directly told me they were worried b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 11:01 PM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?No, my point is that in western countries, women are mainly looking for love. And the country is Canada. It's almost the same thing as the US. lol. If they want real love just come north. You don't need to take yourself to a 3rd world country with a completely different culture, mindset, etc, to find it. In less fortunate countries, women are more money-driven (which actually makes a ton of sense, they need to be more resource-driven in relationships)... so it logically adds up that men going to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 10:15 PM |
| – | Are passport bros really a thing?100% this. Foreign women are even more obvious about this too, lol, like it's a thing in most non-western societies (including South America) for women to primarily look at money... are these guys actually under the impression that these women are into them for love? I'm sure some do fall in love but let's be real guys, it's a transaction. The guys who accept this are fine, but a lot of them seem to think it's an equal relationship scenario. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 09:51 PM |
| 1 | How do we feel about the phrase "men marry up, women settle down"?Marriage benefits men a lot though. Like even more than it benefits women, especially nowadays. Marriage was invented by men. It does benefit us women but it benefits most men more than it benefits most women, if that makes sense. If marriage is no longer a thing, I guarantee you that most men will never have sex again. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 09:45 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itThat isn't true for all women though. I know women who value looks WAAAAAYYY too much. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 09:41 PM |
| – | People should admit that women are just as shallow as men , just better at rationalizing itI'm a woman and I'd agree that I think men are more romantic in general, but that isn't true for all of them. Some of them are really unromantic. I'd agree that both genders are shallow to an extent. As a woman, we're socialized to pretend a man's looks don't matter, though, and that's not true either. It makes men think they have a shot with women who are actually hot and put together (newsflash guys: you are not going to succeed, most likely, unless you're similar to her). That's also not cool… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 09:36 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.I think the fact that it feels like he chose her over me is what makes his "value" lower to me. I've had friends tell me it's just because she was way easier and I was the riskier move for him, but it still feels like a rejection for me. I've actually decided to straight up ask him if he's with her or not, so I get my answer. I'm kind of regretting this lol (I've neeeever done this before) but at the same time, if he says he's with her, then I will 100% move on and take my other dating scenarios… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 09:30 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Yes I've seen a LOT of this where I live. I have a friend who recently got with someone and it's baffling to a lot of us. I actually thought he liked me as he had made some insinuations a few times, seemed nervous, and didn't seem all that into her. My conclusion is she probably realized his interest in me (potentially? even then, I don't 100% assume he liked me) and she's desperate to lock it down (I found out she's been waiting for him for a year, so I guess he wasn't into her before) and on t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 08:23 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.I mean I recently started putting myself out there. I recently approached a guy lol. I'm trying it from the other angle... but generally-speaking, men also seem to derive more satisfaction from making the first move. What is "old" to you anyway? That's subjective. They aren't, woman simply make things easier for them. Yes and no. Women they don't want make it easier for them, but the women they actually want are more of a risk to them. Which route the man takes depends on his self-esteem and con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 08:15 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Yeah I'm in a hobby group where the same 3-5 of us keep getting approached (myself included) and the other girls get ignored. I've literally heard some of these girls complain about it. And honestly I would never date most of the guys who approach me from the group, we just aren't a match and I'm not even sure why they would assume I'd be interested given our differences in many ways (and I don't mean to say that in an arrogant way, it's just a lack of self-awareness on their part). There's been… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 08:13 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Oh I totally agree with social media warping people's views. I also agree re narcissism. But the thing is, maybe men need to have higher standards? If they're falsely inflating a plain girl's ego, it causes issues for everyone. That girl then thinks that's her norm (it is not) and the guy ruins it for himself and other men? Like I have friends who honestly aren't hot and their personalities suck (to be honest... I've even been questioning why I'm friends with them), but they have higher standard… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 08:09 PM |
| 1 | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Running | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 07:56 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Some women do need to be more realistic though. For context - I'm a woman who gets approached by men semi frequently... men in my hobby groups, or even out and about. I'd say I have more options than the average woman does. I tend to do the rejecting, and yet when I really like someone, I'm extra careful and I don't assume they like me, even if it's somewhat obvious they might be interested. I know women who assume all men like them or they put down men who don't like them, or they expect a 6'2 … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:56 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.I'm in an athletic hobby group that has waaaaayyy too many women. Trust me, there are groups out there that are overridden by women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:53 PM |
| – | Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people.Ignore this crap. Just be social, be friendly, be interested, look good and have interesting stuff to say. Approach women you're interested in. I'm a hetero woman and I'm getting really tired of this nonsense. Don't overthink it. We do want to be approached more than you think we do. There are some women who whine about it online but my personal stance and the stance of my friends is we want men to talk to us, we just want them to be in our age range, to be someone who's actually a potential mat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:52 PM |
| – | MEN DESERVE BETTER FILTER OPTIONSI have big boobs (naturally). I'm totally fine with men liking them and being attracted to that. I'm attracted to certain bodily attributes in men and I don't pretend otherwise. It's fine to have your preferences. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 06:56 AM |
| – | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightTaller men pursue me more vigorously and openly. I mean for serious relationships, marriage, having kids with me, that sort of thing. That isn't to say shorter men don't also take me seriously, but their approach is not the same and it's far less obvious. That said, I've had a lot of guys chicken out of pursuing or assuming I wouldn't like them, so maybe this has something to do with taller men having more confidence because they have more social proof that the chances of rejection are a bit low… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 01:29 AM |
| 1 | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightYeah my friend honestly had options his age. It puzzles all of us, but it's happening. It's making me personally consider dating younger too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/08/23 01:26 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone actually seen Pick Me Girls act like “Not Like Other Girls”?I know a girl who gives me the "pick me" vibes. She's anti-feminine, hates on women who have sexual agency, apparently hated the Barbie movie, etc. I know another one like that and the way she presents it is "ugh I hate being friends with women a lot, usually I just get along better with men" meanwhile she just flirts with men and isn't actually building an authentic friendship with them, and hates on women with big boobs because she's insecure about her flat tits. And she's also anti-feminine i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 09:09 PM |
| – | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightImagine being a woman and all your accomplishments, facial looks, personality, etc. is tossed to the side because your boobs are a mere centimeter flatter? I totally get it and I empathize. I know women who are flat chested who are incredibly insecure and put down women with bigger boobs, so it happens on both sides, trust me. There are men out there who put down women with smaller boobs. I didn't believe it until I heard my friends mention it several times. Then I've also had women neg me and w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 09:04 PM |
| – | Men don't care as much about women intelligence in dating, but they do apprecitate itSmart men look for intelligence. The end*. *That isn't to say that other qualities matter... they do, but let's not pretend smart men don't want a smart woman. They do! A woman being smart and being a mean person is not good, but a smart guy would want a woman who's mentally stimulating enough for him and has the other important attributes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:51 PM |
| – | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightAnd then there's me, where basically any dude that's taken me super seriously was like 6'3. Maybe my experience is rare though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:42 PM |
| – | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightI know a guy who's 32 and his new gf is late 30s. And he's tall, attractive, educated... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:39 PM |
| – | The single biggest mistake women make in online-dating is filtering by male heightI'm not single because of my height requirement. I'm single because for most of my 20s, I wasn't emotionally available, I travelled and moved a lot, worked on myself, mostly was celibate, and only because my one real relationship I got into in my late 20s (once I was more ready) did not work out because he turned out to be an unkind person. It's not because of height issues. Also, he was a very tall dude, so are most of my exes, so are most guys who pursue me. So clearly having a height requirem… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/08/23 07:37 PM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?Oh, so men are allowed to forever be shallow, but women must be totally enlightened by age 18? lmfao | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?No, 18 is young. Sorry but I was 18 once. I wasn't even prioritizing hotness (but even so... everyone does that at 18, men too) but I was not the same person I am now in the sense that now I understand what I want out of life. I didn't even date at 18, plenty of women do but they - again - do not know who they are or what they need. Being adult enough to fight doesn't mean your brain is developed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?Ah okay so she's older and wiser aha. I think you know what to do! Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. It might go somewhere but that's more unlikely than likely. I enjoy his company and I generally don't sleep with men but we have that relationship, and I'd rather have that with one man. I've never done this before but I am looking for something serious, but don't want to feel totally deprived anymore either. He is aware and understands and is on board. I think if at any moment … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:13 PM |
| 1 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesFrance is not a religious country. Spain and Portugal have some religiosity and patriarchy but they’re still pretty fluid. Europe (besides eastern, but I’m not as interested in eastern) in general is less religious and more open than North America. Canada isn’t super religious either tbh but Europe has more of a fair mindset in regards to men and women (for better and for worse - if you’re a woman who wants to be paid for, european men sometimes aren’t the best for that, although in my experienc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?Life is nuanced. You have to keep seeing how it unfolds, but put your needs at the forefront too. So give it time and see, but don’t wait a year, is what I’m saying. It’s nice you’re accommodating. I also was recently seeing someone and it was clear he wanted something serious, but I didn’t see it happening with him so I asked us to scale back and so far he seems OK with it but I know in part he wants it to become serious eventually. I’m aware and I am treading carefully so I don’t hurt him. I h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThat's not really true. I've had multiple men immediately cherish me as an option because they thought I'd make a good mom (and they are right about that). Men definitely like nurturing women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:58 PM |
| 2 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadIt's biological. Although honestly, I'm in my early 30s and I was just as horny in my 20s. But a lot of women I know are never horny regardless of age. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadThis is so true. I've started asking myself if I really want kids or if it's just because society makes childless women seem useless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Daily Community Chat MegathreadCyclists have super hot bods, wtf! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:53 PM |
| 2 | Women: What is a high-value man?Have you even met this woman? In this case, it's not really about assertiveness. It's long distance, you likely don't actually know her in person, and she has actual health issues. This isn't as much about you as it is about the circumstance and her needs. Maybe she's avoidant too. People who pursue LDRs on purpose tend to be avoidant. But you were upfront and that at least gave you an answer. That's being assertive. There's nothing wrong with wanting to back off a bit. Just don't get sucked int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:48 PM |
| 1 | MGTOW influence on dating tendsI don't know any men who identify with the movement. But maybe those guys are in hiding. I do know men who are "suspicious" of women but they're rarer. Most men I meet are super into the idea of having a partner. I've dated men who immediately got baby fever once they met me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:35 PM |
| 7 | If sex was saved until marriage, do you think it would stop most of dating issues?Same. I've broken up with guys because I could tell I wouldn't enjoy the sexual part, and sex is a big part of why I would want to be with someone. It's not everything by any means and it shouldn't be more important than certain attributes, but it should be held to the same standard as them being respectful or kind for ex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:33 PM |
| 3 | If sex was saved until marriage, do you think it would stop most of dating issues?It would stop dating issues a bit but not marital ones. It might cause more marital issues because sexual compatibility is important. I think there's a fine line. You need to hold out for real potential relationships generally-speaking (so.. don't sleep around) but also not repress yourself. Religious hangups for ex cause sexual hangups long-term. I had to de-program myself from shame around sex due to my upbringing. Being obsessed with purity and virginity is better than being depraved, but the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Women: What is a high-value man?I will tell you that the "nicest" men I know (in the sense that they were more passive) ended up with the worst women (they ended up with manipulative, mean-behind-closed-doors types of women), so that might incentivize you to work on your assertiveness. You can change your personality. Being easy going is amazing and so is being respectful, but you can be easy going and assertive. Being passive is not the same as being easy going. And you can definitely build a connection via talking while also… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:23 PM |
| 2 | I often hear women say "I have attractive male friends with awesome personalities, but I don't like them that way." If they're attractive, why aren't they attracted to them?Usually it's because we see incompatibilities so we don't go down that road. At least for me personally, it's to maintain a friendship when I feel like it wouldn't work. Other women may be straight up lying though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesAmerican women really are the worst. 🤢 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:09 PM |
| 2 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesYeah I'm a Canadian woman, our way of doing things here is not the way it is for Americans... like for ex, most of us have a university education. We also attract a lot of really educated foreigners every year, so even if men here left, we have other guys coming here all the time. Local men generally don't look to leave as an escape but seem to want to improve themselves. We don't have the same super dysfunctional gender relationships... we also subscribe to strict gender roles a bit less here t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:05 PM |
| 3 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesYeah but that's assuming you find women in those countries attractive. A lot of men just settle for that when they can't get something they actually want. And it sounds like you're after a power dynamic in that case rather than actually being into your partner... so yeah, depends on what you want. I know plenty of men who aren't into Asian women. I'm 5'4/5'5 and I wouldn't want to be shorter than this, and I attract plenty of tall men locally, but I do understand the appeal of those women when y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 11:01 PM |
| 1 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesI hate those posts... social media's making me dislike women and I am a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:54 PM |
| 1 | Women dislike passport bros because they have no equivalent option themselvesWoman here. Europe is definitely the equivalent. Way hotter guys than in North America, at least to me personally. And they have way lower egos in general, and were raised to respect women more. Less religion, less patriarchy, etc. I lived in Europe and I just found the men way more attractive and more pleasant and less egotistical in general. So yeah there is an equivalent lol. That said, European men have high beauty standards (for me, this is a plus though, because I find men in North America… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:53 PM |
| 2 | Women: What is a high-value man?Literally no one knows what they want at 18. That's a ridiculous standard to hold someone to. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?Are you kind or are you "nice"? Your friends are probably assertive. Although yes some women like assholes. I don't personally but I do like a man with a bit of a sarcastic side, and I like assertiveness. Some people view those traits as "assholeish". I do not like a guy who's a legitimate asshole. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:48 PM |
| 1 | Women: What is a high-value man?I don't really like the term "high value man". But for the general idea of someone who's worth committing to - he's a kind person, respectful, considers me, is thoughtful, has good character, ambitious, smart, emotionally and mentally healthy and open, funny (even if it's rare but ideally he's funny more often), healthy, athletic, has long-term goals, is great in bed, attractive, and wants me as his wife lol. He's also disciplined but allows himself to enjoy the moment when it's appropriate. He … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 10:46 PM |
| 1 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingMannn that's so sad. If I was a Chinese girl I'd stay the hell away from white guys. They almost always look down on them. I've gone on dates with men who dated these girls and they NEVER seem to have good things to say. The latest guy I went on a few dates with even told me he wasn't attracted to his Chinese ex, she basically chased him. Like wtf lol. Couldn't be me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 08:02 PM |
| 1 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingObviously! That's why men date down or date certain ethnicities more. It's a superiority thing, or they are worshipped by those girls, it's obvious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 08:00 PM |
| 1 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingThe difference is that most European men don't like Asian women or South American women. lol. So yeah they aren't really going for them the same way these American guys are. European men's foreign tastes are more like Middle Eastern women or African women. So it's different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 07:56 PM |
| 1 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingMeh I'm a woman and I don't feel bad for those women. They usually lower their own standards willingly, do you honestly think they give a shit about western-raised women? They don't lol. They envy us for the most part. I know that sounds harsh but my parents are from an eastern country, I've met these women. They are anything but docile little wallflowers like these guys think, but they're highly manipulative usually and hide it verrrry well... so yeah, I don't envy the men nor the women. I'll j… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 07:53 PM |
| 1 | You have three wishes, what dating behaviors in men/women would you change?I recently asked a guy out for the first time (but it was super vague lol I just said I was open to it and he was the one who really planned it after). It made me feel really good because I felt like... wow, I can just ask? And wow he was very into it, are a lot of guys just hoping I'll ask? The only thing is, as good as it was, he seems kind of self-absorbed and not sure if he expects me to pursue more fervently or if I'm in the wrong, but I won't be chasing after him even though I asked the fi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?Lol your response to curvy was "just called fat"... except it's not. If you have curves (and thus, are built like a woman) of any kind, it doesn't make you fat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 12:15 AM |
| 1 | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?So you like your women built like little boys then? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 11:18 PM |
| – | Female women, how would you feel if most men did not desire you at all?I live in a city where men are just... weird, in the sense that sometimes they seem annoyed/not interested even if they are. Very socially awkward people. This is the first time in my life I do kind of understand what guys must feel, and no of course it doesn't feel great. But as a woman, we're wired a bit differently. As much as women online complain about it, male attention for us is actually nice. We just don't want it to be overtly sexual/gross, especially if we aren't attracted to the guy. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 11:13 PM |
| – | Is there a point being tall starts to become unattractive to most women?You’d be surprised. Really tall guys seem to be into non tall girls. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 01:44 AM |
| 1 | Is there a point being tall starts to become unattractive to most women?I’m also the type to prefer average height with a really good face and bod to a super tall guy who just doesn’t have the face or bod! Height isn’t everything. But maybe it’s because I’ve dated several super tall guys so the novelty wore off a bit. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 01:43 AM |
| 1 | Is there a point being tall starts to become unattractive to most women?I’m 5’4/5’5 and my upper limit is 6’4. Obviously if the right guy was 6’5 I wouldn’t say no but beyond that is way too damn tall for me. I know some clownish little girls at 5’ who are ok dating men who are 6’3 but that’s not my style, and honestly I think a massive height difference looks weird. My exes were mostly 6’3 and that was taaaaaaall lol. I’d honestly be happiest with 5’11-6’2 but can’t be too picky about an inch or so. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Women who had pre marital sex are more likely to get divorced because of lack of religious belief, not because of broken pair boding abilities or whatever RP says.I’m a woman and I’m honestly not extremely emotional. I’m not religious anymore but not promiscuous. I don’t care what guys think. And you’re right lol, men definitely try to lock me down faster than women I know who outwardly project wanting a boyfriend or who are more emotionally turbulent. That said, I think emotional stability is attractive for both genders. Being able to make decisions based on both logic and emotion is so important for marriage. That aside, yeah, compliant women who put up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 01:15 AM |
| 1 | Men aging like fine wine is a myth and women "hitting the wall" is overstatedI don't know, it depends really. I'm 32 and at 22 I had more flawless skin than I do now but if I just got more facials now, I wouldn't be too far off. Besides that, in a lot of ways, my face looks better now... but I may just be an exception. I had a LOT of baby fat on my face in my 20s. Kind of the way Selena Gomez does. Like imagine a thin/lean woman with a fat face. That was me at times in my early-mid 20s, so now it's actually a bit nicer. My features are a bit more visible now. But I have … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 06:05 PM |
| 1 | If you had a son and he asked you how he can become a man, what advice would you give him ?All of this plus surround yourself with positive men and women, reject hookup culture and date more intentionally, marry by 30 if you can but choose wisely, do not marry a mean/narcissistic woman. Also, stay away from alcohol and drugs. If you drink, drink minimally. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Most men catch feelings for their female friends, women rarely for their male buddiesI'm a woman with guy friends. Any guy who is my friend or actively wants to hang out, I'm aware he'd be down if I said I wanted to sleep with him. I'm not naive. I also feel like I have at least a couple of guy friends who'd date me if I wanted to. Again, not naive. I've had guy friends ask me out several times. I've even had guy friends ask me to settle down with them lol. Personally, I used to never stay friends with men I'd potentially like, but I've started to change that. I'm single and loo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 05:28 PM |
| 1 | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Fair enough. Honestly I've often been on the receiving end of the "foreign woman" thing even though I was raised in the west (I was born abroad though). I've had men for sure project this idea onto me that I still have enough traditional values, which is semi true tbh... but I've had foreign men also project the idea of me being western enough to not be like their culture too (which they're trying to also escape). Kind of interesting to see how it happens from both sides. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 09:00 PM |
| 1 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Honestly ya not a bad idea lol. Confusing to see to say the least. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 08:58 PM |
| 1 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?I don’t have white guys on a pedestal. But I also don’t fetishize Asian girls. I see both objectively. Where I am, the girls are generally not attractive in these couples. The most attractive ones are with attractive Asian guys. In the east coast, yes, the women are more attractive… because they’re usually with old white men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 01:08 AM |
| 1 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Lol No. Not in Vancouver. In other cities, yes, I agree. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/07/23 01:07 AM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?We're just not gonna agree so there's no point in continuing this conversation. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Absolutely not shallow at all. I understand the cultural dynamics, the internalized racism that leads SEA women to white men, the way white men who chase them are looking for someone submissive/non-demanding, etc. I've had white men who previously dated Asian girls tell me all the same, and tell me what these girls would do for them. Some of them even admit to not being attracted at all to these women but these women did everything for them. I'm not saying all these couples are problematic, but … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?I don't personally find Slavic women to be that attractive on average but yeah obviously there are beautiful ones. We see the modelling industry propping them up as a beauty standard. But yeah, Russian women are fucking fierce. My mom is part Russian, raised in Russia, and she is savage (IMO), and she's actually considered to be pretty submissive compared to most Russian women. Ohhh! Thats what you mean by a white festish. I totally agree with that actually haha, toons of Filipinas do have that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:52 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?I literally live in one of the most diverse cities in the world but yes sure I have a narrow understanding of mixed couples even though that’s super common here and I know multiple of these couples lol. I didn’t say liking someone of a different background means you have a fetish, but there are obvious patterns here and I actually know a lot about their cultural values based off the people I’ve spoken to. What exactly are your qualifications for participating in this discussion? Just your fetish… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:47 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Oh God. Yes they do. You clearly do not know any of them. Being white is a status symbol in SEA as is being half white. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:46 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Yeah a lot of guys report that they aren't into black women. But take a super attractive girl that's white and one that's of black descent (like.. mixed), I'll likely think the mixed black woman is more attractive. I don't know why but this is just a me thing! But I think Middle Eastern women are the most attractive on average, and Balkans in with that lol no bias. I consider us to be similar people. As for the fetish question, I think the hang up is we might be approaching the definition of tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 10:16 PM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Interesting. That's possible. Maybe it's just that men are more open? IDK. I have an hourglass figure so it's not like my fat distribution is considered typical. I think most women are basically straight up and down and a lot of fat does go to their mid-section first. For me it's boobs, legs, butt etc first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 09:57 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?To be honest, based on your comments, it sounds like you have a fetish, so I won't be continuing this discussion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 09:56 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Yes they absolutely do. And being white is a status thing in SEA. But keep pretending it's not, I guess. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 09:55 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?I don't know because I'm not Asian myself. Filipinos just have more of a desire to be linked to Europe because of colonization, and they definitely have a warmer culture. They're kind of looked down on in Asia, which is funny because I don't get why. I guess something to do with being browner than the other Asians. I don't personally find Asian women generally attractive though I think people of all backgrounds can be appealing. Like I have not personally met a "hot" Chinese woman and I live in … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 09:52 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?That makes sense and is reasonable but they still suffer from internalized racism and fetishization. You can't really argue against that. Filipinos do tend to be quite kind compared to other nationalities (maybe just a cultural trait that's desired) so I have nothing against them really, and I do think the women can be pretty (I find the men more attractive in general). They're definitely "better" in that way than other east and SEA nationalities. Chinese women seem to be the most... into the ta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:27 PM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?I think it's because women have evolved to be standardized sizes more than men have. If we evolved towards taller/bigger built people in general for ex then maybe more men would be "average but attractive" but then the women would be seen as less attractive... kind of like how it is in Germany or the Netherlands or something. But yeah to each their own. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:24 PM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Your comment implies/infers that these couples are mismatched and my guess is these tall ripped blonde men are seen as attractive whereas the short chubby brunettes are not, so... yeah you kind of are saying there is something wrong with it. Being chubby is one thing but being a short brunette is not a bad thing lol. I'm a short brunette (well, not that short) and tall men are basically the ones most drawn to me, even though I don't limit much based on height. I don't know if you're a woman or a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:22 PM |
| 1 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?I already said it. Asian girls with white guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:20 PM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Um they're definitely shallow. Their #1 criteria is that you be white, so yes, that is shallow. And I don't know if you know any Asian girls but they're very into status, much more than western women are. I don't think you guys actually know a lot of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:17 PM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Asian women with white guys. I know it's racist but there are a lot of mediocre or straight up unattractive Asian girls here with white guys. Some of these guys are actually attractive. Sometimes I wanna ask them to blink twice if they need saving, but it seems they're brainwashed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?I don't understand this logic at all. I think natural blondes can be attractive, but it depends on the woman. Being blonde doesn't make you attractive or special on its own. My SIL is a natural blonde and she's gorgeous but I've also been called beautiful many times and I have dark hair. Having dark hair actually puts a focus on your features more... blonde hair acts as a halo for harsher features (hence why so many women go blonde when they aren't naturally attractive). So, if you're hot as a b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Why do conventionally attractive woman almost always date high status men?I don't even know if I'm "conventionally attractive" but I've been told I'm above average attractive. Men always assume I want someone high status so that must mean something. I would never date a pro athlete though I've had one or two approach me before (though I don't know how serious they were, although one did marry someone who doesn't look too different from me lol). I think it's because if we have the option to go for someone who's successful and ambitious, we will go for that. Why not? If… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 07:39 AM |
| 1 | CMV : I have never seen a young woman dissatisfied in a relationship with a traditionally attractive manI personally didn't stay. But I have a low tolerance for bullshit. I've had other women give me the side eye when I left someone attractive, but these women a) don't have these guys as options, so they don't understand what it's like to be with someone who's attractive but still sucks (thus they never learn the lesson that "looks aren't everything"), b) are extremely shallow, c) are not actually relationship-minded, for the long-term. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:57 AM |
| 1 | CMV : I have never seen a young woman dissatisfied in a relationship with a traditionally attractive manI guess I'm the exception then. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:55 AM |
| 1 | Educated Women’s arguments here against dating the working class make no senseI just want someone who's really smart and ambitious. I've tried dating down in terms of education and ambition and it never works, I always end the relationship fairly early. We aren't compatible. I did my education in computer science and I have a masters in it and have done other courses. Someone who hasn't done that is simply trained differently and will often lack the same curiosity needed to be compatible with me. I taught myself a lot of things and looked into those things, and that trans… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:51 AM |
| 1 | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?So true. Although the caveat is that non-white men do worse here than they do in the US. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:47 AM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?It's also the way the women there are taught to be too. Filipina/Asian women in general are pretty white worshipping and that translates to how they treat men. I guess if you're a guy who's comfortable with being fetishized, it's an option. If you want someone who actually desires you as a person, being fetishized isn't a great option. But up to you. Personally, as a woman, I find Asian women cheapen themselves and the market in general. And a lot of us feel that way, hence why they don't have m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:42 AM |
| – | Non-Americans, what country do you live in, and do you think it has a better dating culture than the USA?Balkan girl here. Very accurate for us! I've had people tell me "he isn't good looking enough for you" or "you're not shallow" but the reality is, there's way more to a relationship than looks alone. Of course I do tend to date men who are decently attractive but they aren't the hottest guys necessarily, or have some quirk or flaw. Although honestly they've all been way above average so I say that but also know that. It's just that there's a reason why I didn't stay with them, it was based off t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:37 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?What's wrong with being a short brunette? The chubby part sure I get, but why is being a brunette a bad thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:35 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?It's actually the opposite usually. When couples get together pre-30, the guy is usually better looking. Not always true, the rare ones get super lucky, but I've noticed this. And couples that get together post-30, the woman is generally more attractive. To be 30+ as a woman and to have attractive options, you usually are good looking, more than the average woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:32 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?Straight woman here. A lot of women are average without makeup and stuff. But I think a lot of guys don't really try hard enough in terms of their grooming and getting into shape. If more guys made as much effort as the average woman did, I'd think both are pretty similar looks-wise. The main difference is usually height/build but I've even seen in-shape guys who aren't tall still look good, especially if they're facially good. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:30 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?There's your answer. Moms do more work. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:26 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?That also happens here in Vancouver. I wonder why though. I also see it with Asian girls and white guys. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:25 AM |
| – | How often do you see relationships where the man is significantly more attractive than the woman?I live in Vancouver & this is a regular thing here. I won't explicitly say what it is but anyone who knows Vancouver knows what I'm talking about. It's a particular pairing where you see the confusion happen. I've even seen other people look at these couples like 🤯 . | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/23 06:24 AM |
| – | Single PPD men and women often have very inflated standards as to what an “average” partner looks likeI haven't really seen this in tall women either though lol. If anything, the taller women are less curvy than shorter women? Or they're just larger stock. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 10:05 PM |
| – | Single PPD men and women often have very inflated standards as to what an “average” partner looks likeI'm somewhere between 5'4 and 5'5. So no, not really tall. My proportions are very uncommon though. I have soccer legs, but then have a small waist, big enough glutes, big boobs, generally thin arms, proportionally wide hips (nothing insanely wide but same width as my shoulders) etc. I would definitely say it's not a common body type. I even have visible abs (but faint lines, not protruding huge ones) despite being a DD cup. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 07:58 PM |
| – | Single PPD men and women often have very inflated standards as to what an “average” partner looks likeTrue hourglass bodies are extremely rare. Speaking as a woman who has one, and who does have naturally big boobs, big thighs and big glutes (lol I didn't know having big thighs was considered good but ok). My body type is not common... and a lot of women who have some curves are often pretty large/overweight as well, so if you're curvy and lean/fit, you're actually extremely rare. Most thin or fit girls I meet have no boobs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/23 03:07 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?Wow that’s weird. I’ve never had them do that. I can understand why you’d be wary now! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 05:47 PM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?Umm no it isn’t hard at all actually. My exes all paid and my current partner pays. I don’t just look for that, I look for that on top of kindness and thoughtfulness. And yeah obviously. I’d never go for someone like you but you wouldn’t like me either. That’s fine. Not everyone is the same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 05:47 PM |
| – | Q4M: What lessons are you taking away from the Jonah Hill text leaks?I’m a woman lol, I like men. I like to travel. I sing. I like when a guy is musically gifted but poetry does nothing for me personally. I don’t find it pretentious but it’s not more special than being into adventure, it just depends on your audience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 05:46 PM |
| 1 | About what percentage of women do you think completely do not care about height?I honestly have no idea. I do have a 4'11 friend who's good with a man who's 5'2 even, so she doesn't seem to care. Some women don't care tbh. The most attractive men I've met besides one ex were 5'8 with very handsome faces and physically fit bodies. I need them to be at least 5'8 and be good looking and fit, and I'm 5'4. But tall men like me way more for some reason and they pursue me much much more openly and harder. I'm not entirely sure why that is, but it's made me adjust my preferences to… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:52 AM |
| – | Q4M: What lessons are you taking away from the Jonah Hill text leaks?This is lame. I'm into travel and I'm attractive. I'm not a trophy. I'm looking for a human connection, as are men like me. Just because we seem more attractive than you or your nerdy gf doesn't mean we're shallow or not looking for the same thing. To be frank, you sound really boring and I wouldn't go for someone like you either, but I'm not here pretending you aren't looking for a human connection. Some people are absolute home bodies and are still super shallow or incapable of a real connecti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:42 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?This is how I am too. I will pay for myself if I don't see it going anywhere. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:38 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?I totally agree with this. Though it's never fully 50/50. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:37 AM |
| – | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?Lol them paying for you does not mean you have to give them sex. That's weird logic. Do you expect to be paid to have sex or something? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?I honestly agree. I do offer though and I did once briefly go places (not even really date lol) a guy who didn't pay and it just didn't feel right. I also figured out he didn't want to take care of a woman at all due to his insane mommy issues, he was looking to be taken care of and I had no interest in that dynamic. I also prefer men who have the provider mindset. In an ideal world, I'm home (or at least have a low stress job that pays decently, which I do currently thankfully!), I cook all our… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:32 AM |
| – | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?I mean, what kind of wife do you want? Do you want a career-oriented wife? Are you trying to say you wanna do the more traditionally feminine stuff? It sounds a bit like you're saying you wanna do the more "romantic" stuff. That's not any better than paying, you're not morally superior for choosing to do what you do. People feel love in different ways. Personally, I absolutely would feel insanely appreciative of a man who paid for me on our dates and wanted to front more of the bills - that's a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:26 AM |
| 1 | Would you lose interest if a man didn't pay on the first date?I think I've only ever been on one first date where the guy didn't offer to pay. And yeah, I was not interested after that. That wasn't the only reason though. The funny thing is, I'm pretty sure it's cultural for him to split (he was literally Dutch) but it was still off-putting. I don't expect a guy to always pay every time but it's nice when they pay in the early stages. It's as simple as that. It makes you feel more cherished, just like me cooking for them helps me feel like I add value and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:24 AM |
| 1 | Seeing all the benign and insignificant reasons women say they have gotten "The Ick" makes it hard to believe they care about men's mental healthI've had men express insecurity to me and it was fine. Although I will say, it gets annoying to constantly soothe a guy's insecurities. I have insecurities too but I don't project them onto my partner nor make them my partner's responsibility to fix, you know? There's a difference between confiding in your partner and putting it on them. Like men who will be insecure with me and then project it onto me make me uncomfortable, because now it feels like it's my job to soothe them or dim my light in… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 06:05 AM |
| 1 | Is it true for most guys that there are more dating options in their 30s as pointed out on here?I absolutely have several years, you can pretend 30 is 60 if you want but it’s not. But good luck to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 04:27 AM |
| – | Is it true for most guys that there are more dating options in their 30s as pointed out on here?Weird, I guess I'm supposed to be desperate, but it's the opposite. The older I get, the better the guys I date are. Obviously I don't expect this to be true post-40 but 30s is young, especially pre-late 30s when you're single. Early 30s is prime though. I still look 25 (even younger to some) but I have a financial foundation, know what I'm looking for, and I'm in good shape and overall happier than I was for most of my 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Is it true for most guys that there are more dating options in their 30s as pointed out on here?Exactly this. Even the guys here saying they did better at 30+ were generally unattractive and had to work on it and become wealthier. That's just the reality. Good looking men look good in their 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 12:35 AM |
| – | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sThose guys are delusional for sure. I don’t think they know what 30 year olds even look like. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/07/23 12:20 AM |
| 1 | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sNah they are all gold diggers, or have daddy issues. Or they are insecure and need to have the upper hand in the dynamic, but will lash out in other ways. Trust meeeee. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sThat's not an insane age gap. Saying this as a 32 year old woman. Though I honestly do find it weird when guys my age purposely seek out women in their mid 20s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 09:00 PM |
| – | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sA fetish for older men stems from serious daddy issues/trauma, and that's a lot of baggage as well. Not sure if high quality men want that anyway. High quality men tend to seek women around their age. It's just true and it's what I've observed, based off the (respectful, kind, smart) lawyers, doctors, engineers etc I've known. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 08:57 PM |
| 1 | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sI know women who wanted kids at 23/24 but they wanted guys their age. I never wanted older guys, never did, still don't want them. I don't begrudge 20-something women for wanting men their age. I find it weirder if they're seeking out way older men, usually that's them seeking the upper hand in a power dynamic. As for the 666 thing, I'm dating someone who fits that (and is... big... down there) and I'm in my early 30s. I didn't even seek him out. Literally all my exes fit that, or maybe weren't … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 08:54 PM |
| – | CMV : Even if women are more attractive in their 20’s, the attractive ones don’t want you now and definitely won’t want you in your 30’sThat's dumb. I'm in my early 30s, I'm not dating 50 year old men lol. I'm dating guys from late 20s to late 30s. There's really no need to date men who look like my dad. Also honestly, women who are in their 20s and have options (the most attractive ones) don't need to date men who are older than them, either. I sure as hell never had to, and never wanted to. I was only open to 30+ when I myself was about 28. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/23 08:48 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Oh snap lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 08:45 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I definitely did not considering I don't even usually post in here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 05:17 PM |
| – | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?It depends where you are. American men seem more like that. Canadian men are often quite passive and feminized and want someone to boss them around. I often attract men here who want me to literally tell them what to do, even if they say they don't want a "boss", eventually it's them deferring to me all the time to make sure I'm happy. I do really appreciate when they care about how I feel (that's the good part!) but when they get passive/lazy, that isn't good. So for ex where I live, Asian wome… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 12:40 AM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Verrrry impulsive. Speaks volumes to someone's mental health and how they're willing to potentially put themselves in danger. That's not a quality you want in a wife/mom/husband/dad. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 12:38 AM |
| – | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?But for a relationship, a lot of men will pick someone based off of money at least where I live. I see some seriously unattractive women with good looking guys. It's because these women have money. It's a thing in less traditional places/places where money matters more. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/07/23 12:03 AM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Umm who doesn't fuck for fun though? Even married women do that (with their husband). But by "for cash and prizes" besides actual prostitutes, what do you mean here? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 11:13 PM |
| 1 | If "hypergamy" is women "dating up" when it comes to "masculine" traits in men that she might not have as much as he does, what is it called when men "date up" when it comes to "feminine" traits in women that he might not have as much as she has?Sexual hypergamy refers to women exclusively being sexually attracted to men whom they find something superior about. In that case, I'm definitely hypergamous lol. But maybe it depends where you live. Here in Canada, men definitely seem to prioritize brains and money over looks sometimes, depending on where you live. Where I live, men deeeeefinitely don't seem to prioritize looks. So they are being kinda hypergamous too, because they want that $$ stability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:43 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I mean I like knowing a guy who's into me is desirable. I'll admit that. There's a nice element of "ooh I have a desirable person" but I don't chase men. So just giving you info from women I know who do chase men - they're usually chasing men out of their league (generally what happens) and the guy doesn't like them enough to put effort in, so he's lazy. It's in a guy's nature (if he's healthy) to wanna pursue, so if he doesn't, either he's unhealthy or unsatisfied with the woman. The woman know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:37 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Haha tell me what's the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:33 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Men generally want the hot ones too, they just more often settle for the ones who'll chase them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:31 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I'm a woman and I actually agree. I look almost the same with a bit of it as I do without it. No makeup would actually elevate me lol, and women like me. The ones with naturally good features and genetic advantages. The other girls fill in their eyebrows, add mascara to get something there, have to define their noses or lips or bone structure, things I don't need makeup for. It definitely sucks when you see someone who's actually well below average get praised when she goes out with makeup on. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:29 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Women who are willing to sleep on the first date ruin it for the rest of us too. They basically make these guys think we'll all be willing to do that, when it's actually unhinged to be willing to sleep with someone that early on. Seriously, it's not empowered, it makes you come across as crazy or someone who has no standards. If I was dating women, I would not commit to a woman who slept with me that early on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:26 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?#3 only applies in the sense of being open to them and showing you're open. I still don't think we should pursue them the way men pursue us. It doesn't work long-term. But being like "hey how are you?" first and showing you're friendly and receptive does work. Still, he has to pursue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:24 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Asian and Latina ones do, yes. They're super white worshipping. Other ones not really. Middle Eastern women definitely don't, and they're on average a lot better looking than the other two and attract way more options. I'd say black women also don't put them on a pedestal as much either, they like black men usually. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:18 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?That's not always true. I think it's kind of a coping mechanism sometimes for women to believe that... IMO many men will move mountains for a woman he's really into, doesn't matter the order. But then many men operate more in timing. The lucky ones get both. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:14 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I don't know if I agree with this. I live in a city with a lot of skinny little girls with mediocre faces, no boobs or ass, and they have boyfriends. I won't say what race they are but I think you can guess - they aren't the blonde ones. I fit into the fit curvy exotic brunette look I guess (but I have big boobs and an hourglass body too) and I'd say the only thing I lack naturally is a huge butt, but I go to the gym to build my bum and it doesn't take long. But given the fact that I see women o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:12 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I think it depends. A lot of guys know they can't be picky so they go for whomever, or maybe they're insecure. I've met guys with really unattractive girlfriends but the guys are generally insecure or not super socially adept.. the woman keeps them feeling secure. A guy with options and maturity/self-control is WAY pickier and actually does have a specific type and can be very demanding in what he expects. Also, I find older guys are pickier. They tend to gravitate more towards actually beautifu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?But then those guys shouldn't be bothered if their options are mostly promiscuous women then. Don't be mad that someone with self-respect has to wait a bit longer, and don't trash the women who are as promiscuous as you are. Pick a lane. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:04 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?There's honestly nothing wrong with a bit of shaming. Like when we used to shame women for being homewreckers (by that I mean the ones who would go for married men... the men also need to take responsibility but I'm specifically referring to the women who are attracted to taken men because they have low self-esteem)? That was good. We need women to respect marriages and married women. When we used to shame men for being cheaters? That was good. Now it's "I'm in an ENM relationship" lol, it's a d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:03 PM |
| 1 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?This is how it is though, in nature and with people. I know it's a hard pill to swallow, but it's the males in the animal kingdom who peacock and try to land the best woman... it isn't the other way around. That's how it is with people too when it's done correctly. I think that's why seeing a woman chase a guy seems so unnatural and desperate. It completely goes against nature and sets up a weird dynamic, and it rarely leads to lasting happiness. Men like to win, women like to be won. It's that … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 08:00 PM |
| 5 | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?I 100% agree with this one. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 07:57 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?In my experience, guys who are actually really attractive (but are mature or spiritual or sensitive) can easily get "side chicks" but don't want them. They've experienced what it's like to have a partner and to get attention. It means less to them to get that sort of attention. This is also true for me - when you've gotten attention from the opposite sex for a long time, it just doesn't mean as much. You aren't validated as much, and you seek internal validation more (unless you don't mature/gro… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 06:21 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Yeah I was gonna say, I think men prioritize bodies over faces. I see so many ugly but thin women where I live with attractive men. I personally feel I have a good body and a good face so I'm not even mad about it, just more confused about how these guys can handle having a partner with an unattractive face. That said - these women don't have hourglass bodies (I do personally), they're just super skinny. But I know a lot of guys claim they aren't into super skinny, so I'm extra confused. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 06:18 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Agreed. I don't care if you're 6'2 if your face isn't attractive. I'd take the facially attractive 5'10 guy over you easily. Assuming both are fit and otherwise equal. I don't care about extreme height though, which is ironic because only one ex of mine was under 6'2... but they all had nice faces, and the 5'8 ex looked like a movie star. Guys don't get that we don't all prioritize height over everything. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 06:14 PM |
| 1 | What is an average middle-aged woman, to you?What if your genes mean you'll live til 100? My grandparents have all lasted til about 100/just under that. Then no, 35 is not it... it'd be more like 50-80 for me personally. But then that isn't the case for everyone. I didn't consider my parents middle aged pre-50. Honestly even at 50, they seemed young. It's definitely about 45+ for most people, 50+ for people with good genes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 06:11 PM |
| – | What's your unpopular dating opinion? Something you truly believe, but would get you downvoted if you said it?Meh I'm 5'4 and my ideal height in a guy is probably around 5'10 or 5'11 as long as he isn't small-built and has muscle and a frame. I end up with the super tall ones because they pursue me way harder. So maybe the tall men often like the women who aren't tall too. It isn't one-way usually. But the women who are legitimately petite-petite like 5'1 demanding 6'2 is weird to me as well... but I also think tall women need to be less picky about height too. Neither 5'1 nor 5'9 is "ideal" for a woman… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:27 PM |
| 38 | What is an average middle-aged woman, to you?Let's start with the fact that middle aged definitely isn't 35. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/07/23 05:22 PM |
| 1 | Women are entitled to make men wait for sex, but men are entitled to rule her out because of itI’m entitled to say no when I want to and he’s entitled to go find himself a ho if he needs sex by date 3. What do you care for? Short term gratification, or long term gains? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:44 PM |
| 1 | Do you think strengthening in-person vetting and a better police system can reduce the need for Are We Dating The Same Guy?A lot of the women in these groups are annoying. They’re mad that a guy didn’t pick them, so they slander him. A lot of them are not self aware. I am in one of these groups but it’s often the less attractive women who bash the guys or post, but rarely you will get an informative and helpful post where the guy legitimately sucks and it’s good to know that info. IMO too many women are reckless in dating and meeting men, and are too willing to chase guys. That’s part of the issue. Proper vetting ne… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:43 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingNo, you have it wrong. Men are wired to chase. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:41 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingI totally agree with men needing to get into better shape and working on their careers etc! But then don’t choose the average looking girl please. Choose the naturally beautiful one who’s also smart. A lot of men have low standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:40 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingI think what bugs me though is seeing women way below a guys league. I want those guys available for me lol, those women aren’t on the guy’s level. A guy above my league is rich-rich and male model looking, not just “very attractive” and “makes over 100k”. So when these unattractive women get these guys, it leaves fewer for me, and then I have to be willing to date the rich assholes. I just want an attractive guy who’s income is around mine or a bit higher. I need these guys to have higher stand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:37 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingI’ve seen it. I’m a woman and I’ve seen one friend sort of chase a guy. She’s actually attractive but really insecure, and he has a lot of social clout and is a great guy. The other women I’ve seen do it are not facially beautiful women. And they’re chasing men who are facially and body-wise very attractive… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:32 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingBecause actually beautiful women don’t have to chase. I live in a city with a lot of couples where the woman isn’t as attractive as the guy. It’s obvious these women chase the guys and the guys are insecure and settle to make sure these women won’t leave for someone wealthier (lots of men here are insecure about money). It’s super weird but you can always tell the guy isn’t actually happy about who he got, he’ll even tell you in private. I’ve met more than one who admitted post breakup that he w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:30 PM |
| 1 | Women are more attracted to men when THEY do the chasingNo. I don’t chase. Have yet to do this ever. Women who chase are pathetic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:28 PM |
| 1 | For those women that believe they deserve rich, high value men, where do you go that you think you'll meet them? What are you doing to attract them?I fit all of that but I’m 30. I still think I can attract it considering I do. I don’t think you need to be early 20s to get it, and honestly most people aren’t 8/10 or higher so it’s a very small number of women who’d ever fit this criteria anyway! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:24 PM |
| 1 | For those women that believe they deserve rich, high value men, where do you go that you think you'll meet them? What are you doing to attract them?Yeah this is the best way if you can do it… via university. I see some unattractive women land amazing guys because they went to the right school. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:20 PM |
| 1 | Are men really the only ones that can’t take rejection? Or is that a baseless assumptionAs a woman - no, I’m bad at handling rejection lol. That’s why I’ve only ever asked out one guy ever. I wish I was better at it. I think that’s why I prefer men to pursue me but I try to get good at showing I’m receptive to it, so I attract the one I want without pursuing him obviously. Idk why it just seems different. Men seem resilient and like it doesn’t shake them deeply but it shakes us deeply. Men are stronger than us in that aspect. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 10:17 PM |
| 1 | What dating advice would you give to women?Woman here. I find men I date usually actually rush the commitment phase a bit IMO. I’m seeing someone now and he already wants to lock into being gf/bf and it’s only been maybe 4-5 dates? I’ve had this experience a lot with men. This has to be a red flag, right? He didn’t even know my last name lol. My ex rushed me way too fast and ended up being abusive, so I’m careful now. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 08:52 PM |
| – | What are mens opinions on gym girls?I’d rather age well but you do you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 08:35 PM |
| – | What are mens opinions on gym girls?Very few women have naturally perfect or big asses though. And one you create in the gym looks and moves better lol, and ages way better. It’s not like boobs. Boobs and body shape are genetic and that’s superior but you can easily build an amazing ass if you have good genes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 08:28 PM |
| 1 | Hollywood is a key contributor to the repellent men have towards 'boss babes' or strong female characters, that arent all submissive womenI’m a woman who likes men. I’ve met the “boss babe” women and they honestly annoy me. It comes off as hyper masculine in a bad way, it’s toxic and they’re usually throwing around buzz words and lies to justify why they’re single. I have a career and I’m often considered to be a leader… but I’m not a “boss babe”. Being smart is part of my whole self but it’s not everything. I do need a man for the goals I need in life. I don’t care about climbing the career chain, I want my husband to do more of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 06:18 PM |
| 10 | What are mens opinions on gym girls?Natural butts with no muscle are just fat and they’ll sag over time so this is a weird take. Muscle beats fat every day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Lauren Sanchez proves that having strong , amoral girl-game is more effective at getting a HVM than being demure and submissiveWhat the hell no lol. She’s actually terrifying to look at and she never had a beautiful face either. It’s her body that’s nice plus lots of plastic surgery. My guess is she has a super super charming personality and is manipulative, plus she probably throws sex at men very quickly and can remain detached. She’s smart, I’ll give her that, but she’s not beautiful. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/07/23 06:09 PM |
| – | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?I'm gonna be frank with you. All human beings are worthy and have the same worth, so this has nothing to do with that. A tall man who's rich and muscular is simply superior to an average guy... like there's no way you can sugarcoat that or pretend otherwise. A woman who wants that is aiming up. It's not the same as a guy who goes to a 3rd world country to find a destitute woman to marry because she'll take anything. Two very different scenarios. Men and women have different requirements. Today's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 10:59 PM |
| – | When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places?Yeah or they associate a certain value to you and if you don't play the game of being hard to get according to that projected "value", they think you're nuts lol. In reality, it's understandable to a certain extent, depending on how soon interest in shown. Like I'm seeing a guy right now and he was VERY EAGER on dates 1 and 2 and said he liked me pretty quickly, and my brain was like "huh wait, you barely know me?". So I get it. But I think if a woman shows mutual interest after 2-3 dates, that'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 10:50 PM |
| 1 | Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking.I've never dated a guy who was "above" me but I've been approached by said guys sure. I've definitely dated down many times and the guys always get insecure or self-sabotage if that happens, even though I don't see them as below me. That said, maybe I'm delusional. Almost every guy I've dated was like 6'3 and considered attractive by other people. But where I live, I see so many women that are barely average or are average with actually conventionally attractive dudes, but it tends to be the int… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:48 PM |
| – | Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is.Yeah if I had to pick one, it'd be them having a horrendous dad (just based off experience, plus I think men tend to become their fathers unfortunately/fortunately), having a highly psychopathic mom, or being an only child. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:45 PM |
| – | Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is.Yeah, not to mention, of the remaining 15%, I'm willing to bet a very small amount of those people are really highly desirable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:44 PM |
| – | Coming from a broken or dysfunctional home is the biggest red flag there is.My parents were neglectful and I experienced abuse in my childhood, but it wasn't malignant abuse, it was them carrying on their generational trauma/unhealthy-learned-habits and they have actually since realized what they did and have tried to be better. Does this mean I'm not dateable? That's dumb. Almost no one I know comes from the ideal household. And many of the people who come from ideal households are otherwise undesirable to be honest. If you actually think hard about it, people born to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:41 PM |
| – | How much is too much self traveling / socializing in a committed relationship ?30 times a year for anyone is a lot, especially when you have kids... but as a woman, for me, that'd be way too much if I had kids. If I didn't have kids and my partner was ok with me travelling 2x per month for a day or a weekend or something then fine but even then I'd be exhausted lol. Also honestly, if you have kids as a woman, you wanna devote enough time to your kids... you don't want them developing an unhealthy attachment. Same goes for men as well but let's not make this a gender thing.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:36 PM |
| – | When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places?I don't know. I've met guys who think women are supposed to be "harder to get", so they'll think you're crazy/something is wrong with you if you're too easy. I've literally had a guy or two ask me why I liked them the only times I expressed interest way sooner than I usually do, and they'd go on about their insecurities and implied something must be off about me to like them. Or they expect the chase to be hard or something. This puts off some guys too but generally-speaking a lot of men do not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:32 PM |
| – | Not everyone is capable of being in a healthy and monogamous relationship because of their family background due to being part of a dysfunctional or broken home and that is completely fine.Yeah we tend to be a loooooooot more committed to personal growth/work, but it all varies too. I know some people who are still seriously messed up despite being 40+, but they tend to have massive egos. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:30 PM |
| – | Not everyone is capable of being in a healthy and monogamous relationship because of their family background due to being part of a dysfunctional or broken home and that is completely fine.I come from a dysfunctional family but not a broken home. I definitely have issues with romantic relationships... I didn't get to date growing up, and mostly I've dated the best of the men who've approached me... but I have no idea how to approach a guy I like or lead or show interest besides being super direct or super mysterious, usually the latter. Men say they want the former but it scares them IMO (they often literally ask me why I like them if I show interest too soon, it's like they expec… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:28 PM |
| – | When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places?100%. I'm a woman and one of my new friends jokes about stalking men she's into but she legit means it and I think she's insane for it... but she's open. Also, plenty of women I've spoken to lately got their partner by specifically going after them/eyeing them. It's fucking creepy but it worked for them, makes me wonder if I need to do the same. 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:24 PM |
| – | When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places?Lol I know several women who were the "calculated" ones. Both sides do it. I have a friend who insists she stumbled into her new relationship... she literally wore him down, would show up to things every time, talk to him, impress him, go after him. She even changed certain habits (like not drinking to drinking again) for him. There's no shame in it I guess (though I'm not one to chase someone who insults me in front of others or hits on others, which he does) but it's more her insistence that s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:22 PM |
| – | When was the last time you saw a strange man approaching a random woman in the streets, or public places?I mean it happened to me multiple times last week, just from me walking outside alone in a cute outfit. Literally. That said, that isn't always the case. It happens more in the summer, I guess from me wearing a nice sundress, being in a dense part of the city, etc. I have friends here who never get approached. So I don't know how common it is. I'm Canadian though. American and European men are WAY bolder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 09:17 PM |
| – | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?Exactly this. I love my family but they're dysfunctional and were emotionally abusive/neglectful. I don't want someone who's like that. I've tried, and it always blows up in my face because I'm the healthy one (given the fact that I've put a ton of distance between me and my family) and they seem to wanna repeat patterns. A person who grew up in a similarly dysfunctional home who happens to be healthy is the perfect person to me because they understand things deeply, but those people are rare un… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:50 PM |
| – | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?People are gonna judge you for those things and that's out of your control. Do it or ask yourself if it's weird. I do think big age gaps are dumb, I also think going for a virgin when you aren't one yourself is hypocritical.. I also think men going for overseas women tend to be delusional and are being taken advantage of, but they seem ok with it and that's the direction the world seems to be headed in, with guys seeking out women who aren't great rather than raising their own standards, but you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:30 PM |
| – | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?I've been attracted to men who were 5'8, 5'9, 5'10 (5'10 is tall enough IMO but not tall). I'm 5'5. The issue is more so that women that are 5' seem to desire 6'4 men lol, those people are dumb. Also - don't men like women with bigger-than-average boobs and butts, smaller-than-average waists? I mean, they're cool with less, but they still prefer something that isn't average. I'm a 34DD in chest (but I'm not fat/overweight so it's actually big on me) and I can tell you that most women my size don… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:26 PM |
| 2 | Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking.I don't know, I know some women who make it their sole fixation lol. It really depends on the person is my guess, maybe how they were raised too? My dad basically married my mom because she was beautiful (also smart, but honestly, I'm guessing it was looks and him projecting a fantasy onto her) and he thinks I look identical to my mom so I was raised to be seen primarily as the pretty one (which is bullshit lol), my mom was always hyper critical of my looks and weight and would basically imply m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 08:16 PM |
| – | Everyone that says men who arent virgins are hypocritical for wanting virgin women, should people with an abusive family and background, only date people with similar backgrounds?People can want what they want but whether or not they can attract it or get it is what's important I guess? I understand wanting someone who has conscious sex. I want that too. But a guy wanting a virgin when he isn't one, especially when he's 25 or over, is strange. It generally means he's creepy and controlling and thinks he deserves to do what he wants without lending the same freedom to his partner. That's a lack of respect, IMO. The other things all depend and have more nuance. I had emoti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 07:33 PM |
| – | Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking.I think this isn't the whole truth. IMO, really attractive people generally underrate themselves, and really average or sub-par people overrate themselves... it goes for both genders, based on my observations. Like I get told I'm attractive all the time (by men too, not just women) and garner a certain type of treatment from men who are good looking, and you can just see how the envious sub-par women get, like they think I'm not deserving of it or they are, and I honestly often have a ton of ins… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 07:07 PM |
| – | Women constantly assert that men have inflated self images, yet it is abundantly clear that most men are desperate and have zero standards. Women, on the other hand, consistently feel entitled to men way out of their league and think they are models when they are completely average looking.I'm a woman and I used to think this was BS, but lately... I feel like I keep meeting so many women who definitely 100% are completely deluded about their own appeal. The weird thing is, the prettiest girls I know are the least like this. The prettier girls who are actually pleasant usually are less shallow for some reason! I feel like I fit under that too. I've dated guys under 6' (which sounds silly but you'd be surprised at how many women demand tall) or guys I've heard these women tell me ar… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/07/23 07:04 PM |
| – | Most beauty standards are enforced on women by other womenI'm a woman but I actually agree with this... I've met some really delusional women in my time. I have a friend who's in her 40s, she is pretty but she looks 40+, there's no mistaking that. She was gorgeous in her 20s and early 30s but she aged pretty quickly after that (she drinks a lot and is overweight). She does not attract high calibre guys now but she seems to think she deserves them/is entitled to them the way women my age are. I've met several women 40+ like this. Even if they were good … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 08:07 PM |
| – | Is dating more messed up in the US than other Western countries?Much more narcissistic than most of the world, I agree. That goes for both men and women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 07:28 PM |
| – | Is dating more messed up in the US than other Western countries?American dating seems exhausting, confusing, weird, and also kind of morally strange. I'm Canadian so I don't think it's super different (although as someone from an eastern background with parents who immigrated here, I didn't partake in that type of dating scene the same way), but the idea that you hook up or remain casual or date multiple people even while sleeping with them is so weird... like how are you supposed to build something real when you're doing that? And people getting married for… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 07:28 PM |
| 1 | My theory on east vs west gender relationsWhy do you think Asian culture and women are so different from western women They're often faking it. Your personality is often a mask, and we're socially conditioned to behave in ways that are desirable based on the culture we grew up in, etc. A lot of people aren't really authentic. I love Korean shows for example and the way the women behave sometimes is cutesy but you can tell when it's fake too. Men just don't seem to be able to tell. Like on that show Singles Inferno, Jia pretends to be al… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/06/23 07:19 PM |
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