therearedozensofus12 Archive

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1	The male Pill is coming - and it's going to change everything. New forms of male contraception are estimated to hit the market in two years and - unlike women's options - most won't contain hormones. The tide is definitely changing. I teach sex ed, and the vast majority of my female 16+ students got an IUD before I even did. Younger women are relying on long acting reversible contraception (LARCs) like nobody's business.	/r/MensRights	19/06/15 08:21 PM
-6	UN Women are endorsing anti-male discrimination Yeah, I don't see a problem with this either. It's not like it's Penguin Books, it's a very small publishing house trying to draw attention to a well known issue.	/r/MensRights	16/06/15 09:34 PM
1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I understand where you're coming from, but as a former librarian, I respect dictionaries. A lot of work goes into creating those bad boys. It's not like they slap in random, antithetical definitions just for giggles or because of some shadowy conspiracy. Trust me, I can support equal rights while not simultaneously declaring that literally every dictionary in the entire world is wrong. http://skeena.net/blog/aziz_ansari_on_feminism_is_equal_men_women_rights.jpg	/r/MensRights	13/06/15 03:50 PM
-1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least Dude, all modern feminists do not say that. I identify as a dictionary-definition feminist (I can be that and an egalitarian), and I think that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. I hate fringe feminists and SJWs just as much as I can only assume you do, but to use them as the standard by which you judge all women is absurd and slightly sexist. Again, that's like me judging the MRM, or al men as a whole, by the MRM fringe ephebophiles who want to do away with age of consent laws. There'…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 07:56 PM
0	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least To say that the "great majority" of women treat all men under 5'10" with "social disdain" is really a bridge too far. Women don't trend towards taller men because they're shallow, they trend towards taller men because men who are insecure about their heights often take that out on women, either by blaming their "shallowness" for their own insecurities, or by direct nastiness. I in no way believe that you genuinely think that any random woman would find "big girl" or "Amazon" a term of endearment…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 07:49 PM
1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I was pointing out that it's pretty silly to say that all women have a distorted view on male height, especially since you're basing it on one off-hand comment and I can assume a "feeling" that you get.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 07:29 PM
1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least What is the statistical female preference for height?	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 07:16 PM
0	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least What are you taking about? To say that the modern feminist movement, as a whole, believes that men are biologically wired to be sexually attracted to morbidly obese women and are brainwashed out of that by "the patriarchy" is like saying that the modern men's rights movement, as a whole, wants to do away with age of consent laws. You keep switching from "feminists" to "women". Just because a few fringe lunatics try to champion "healthy at any size" BS does not mean that all women are shallow hyp…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 07:07 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least Because women who are extremely tall and extremely thin look best in the clothes that the designers send for them to model. They aren't chosen because of their attractiveness to men, but for how attractive other women perceive them in the clothes they're wearing.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 06:35 PM
0	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least We don't have problems dating the men we find most attractive, but thanks for the concern. I see where you're coming from about height, absolutely. But you're making this about more than height now, implying that it's a Men's Rights issue that women find men with symmetrical features or square jawlines to be more attractive than those without. That's not women being discriminatory against men. It sounds like you're saying, "it's a problem for the MRM that women do not find all men equally attrac…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 06:04 PM
1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I think it's pretty telling that there are WAY more hyper-successful short male actors than hyper-successful tall female actresses.. In a field where people are regarded almost solely for their appeal to the opposite sex, short men are clearly winning out over tall women. Christie is an extremely attractive woman, literally a super-model, when she isn't required to look like a body builder and isn't been made up specifically to look more masculine. http://i.models.com/i/db/2013/3/150093/150093-8…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 05:56 PM
1	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least Yeah, maybe. I was really insecure about my height when I was a teenager, so perhaps I just let that dig at me a bit too much. I might just be kind of short-sighted on this issue, maybe. I just find a lot of the discussion here to be so at odds with what I see outside of the internet. Of my three closest female friends and I, three of us are dating men more than half an inch shorter than ourselves. Our boyfriends are charming and secure in their self-images, so I find it hard to believe that ALL…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 05:21 PM
-2	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least Thanks for the novel, but I'm not the one distorting the truth here. Simple fact is that short actors like Tom Cruise and Josh Hutcherson get WAY more attention from the opposite sex than tall actresses like Gwendolyn Christie do. I don't know how you can turn that into me being biased against short men.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 05:17 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I feel like we do get a lot of that already, to some extent. There are a LOT of short actors that women overwhelmingly find attractive (Josh Hutcherson, Tom Cruise), but no obese actresses that are considered attractive by large numbers of men.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 05:13 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least During. One guy insisted on referring to me as "big girl" even when I explained calmly a few times that I didn't like it (and it definitely wasn't about my weight, I'm 5'8" & 120lbs). He stopped only when I started calling him "little buddy" in response. Another guy always called me his "Amazon". The boyfriend who took me to my junior prom was livid when he picked me up to find me in heels (standing a full inch above him), and refused to speak to me the whole night, eventually saying that I'd "m…	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 04:39 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least Heightism affects both men and women. I'm a 5'8" woman, and I've gotten a LOT of nasty comments from similarly-heighted boyfriends about it. The real deal is owning your height, man or woman. If you're short and bitter about it, girlfriends and potential girlfriends will be turned off by your bitter short man syndrome. But if you're short and dgaf about it, women aren't going to be bothered by it, either. One of my exes is a typical short and stocky Eastern European guy, and I always thought it …	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 04:32 PM
0	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I think it's a lot more common with younger men. I don't see it as much now that I'm nearing my mid-twenties, but when I was in my teens, as a 5'8" woman, I got a LOT of nasty comments from men I dated who were around my height, which is an experience I know a lot of women have shared.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 04:13 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least You have some really good points, but I feel like this is a petty issue compared to the other men's rights issues that feminists should be working on, such as circumcision and societal acceptance of female on male domestic violence. How would you prefer to feminist movement to address this issue? I'm assuming you have a lot of ideas on how they could do so already, otherwise you wouldn't be so passionate about the topic.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 04:09 PM
–	Height really does matter in a relationship - for women at least I feel like this is just as much on men as women. Yeah, lots of women prefer a taller guy, but just as many men hate dating women taller than they are, finding it emasculating. I don't see men feeling emasculated by taller women as the fault of feminism.	/r/MensRights	12/06/15 03:48 PM
1	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively Yeah, I understand. But I think it's a little much to accuse Dunham of of lying and covering up inappropriate behavior. If these stories are so analogous on the face, why the need to make things up?	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 04:10 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively I definitely see where you're coming from. The little girl in question easily could have been 23 months old, which would definitely put her in the range. It only said that she was one, and one is a huge range at that age. I agree that it would be a bit young for that development stage, but hardly out of the question. That she did that herself seems infinitely more likely, to me, than that her 7 year old sister did it to her without the little one being bothered enough to yell for mom.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:58 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively When I was nannying for a 1-2 year old (the naked stage), she did stuff like that several times. When I asked my mom for advice as to how to get the little one to stop, she was like, "oh, it's just a thing girls do at that age". It is a fairly common behavior. I can link you some parenting articles about it, if you want.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:44 PM
2	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively It is because of the age range. If you want, I can find the appropriate articles that go into it in detail. Basically, 5-6 years apart in age still falls into the "playing doctor" range, whereas 10-13 does not. I'm not at all trying to defend her, just saying that there are child development and legal lines drawn about this kind of thing.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:34 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively That's actually a relatively common behavior for little girls, to the extent that women evolved to have hymens to prevent things like that from causing a horrible infection. Little kids are curious about their bodies. Have you ever spent a significant amount of time caring for a little girl?	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:31 PM
1	Keanu Reeves stars in a new movie - he is clearly being raped by women in the trailer. I hope this sparks a thoughtful dialogue on male victims of rape. It became a federal crime in 2012. Do you want me to link you to the appropriate .gov websites?	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:28 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively I definitely see the parallels. But in this situation, Grace Dunham has said that she explicitly asked to sleep in her big sister's bed at that time, which is normal for a little sister (I have a sister six years younger, and she always wanted to come sleep in my queen with me when she was a kid). Dunham masturbated in her own bed while her sister was sleeping next to her, which she begged to be allowed to do. Duggar crept into the nursery and molested his 4-12 year old sisters, which they were …	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 05:33 AM
–	Keanu Reeves stars in a new movie - he is clearly being raped by women in the trailer. I hope this sparks a thoughtful dialogue on male victims of rape. Ok haha glad I'm not the only one. Makes me think of how people complain about how being "taught not to rape" is sexist and insulting, but ignore how studies have shown that the way a situation is described defines how someone interprets consent, not the actions themselves. If you ask, "have you ever raped someone?" 1/100 people will say yes. If you ask, "have you ever forced someone to have sex with you, even when you knew they didn't want to?" 10/100 people will say yes. Lots of people don't s…	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 05:08 AM
4	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively It was actually pretty sickening. Someone called me a sicko in another thread for saying that they aren't comparable situations, so when I saw the police report pop up, I read it. I had to close it because it made me so upset. He admitted to groping the genitals of multiple sleeping sisters, some as young as 4-8, when he was 14-17. He never received any treatment for it and is now the father of 2.5 daughters.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 05:00 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively That's definitely true. I guess I just don't see the point in conflating the two because Dunham preyed on a single sibling 5 years younger than she, whereas Duggar preyed on multiple siblings 6-10 years younger. A 17 year old masturbating next to a 12 year old sounds strange and deviant, whereas a 17 year old touching a 4 year old's genitals sounds like it should absolutely result in jail time.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 04:54 AM
1	Mom agrees to son’s circumcision after years-long fight waged with the boy's father, including her kidnapping her son No no, you're not boring me. Honestly, all I really know about phimosis is from a brief scene from 'Scrubs', so I always thought it was something that went away if you masturbated enough. I appreciate the extra info, truly. I actually teach sex ed, so I get asked about circumcision a lot. This is all fantastic information I can give to the teenage boys who come up to me obliquely asking if their penis is a-ok (wow I never thought that was sentence I'd have to type). Thanks for the nice wishes! A…	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 04:49 AM
3	Keanu Reeves stars in a new movie - he is clearly being raped by women in the trailer. I hope this sparks a thoughtful dialogue on male victims of rape. Not sure why you're being downvoted. By modern standards, which is what we're evaluating this from, screaming at a 15 year old to take off her clothes is not considered asking for consent. I work in DV prevention, and we always talk about how the absence of a 'no' does not equal a 'yes'.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 04:32 AM
–	Keanu Reeves stars in a new movie - he is clearly being raped by women in the trailer. I hope this sparks a thoughtful dialogue on male victims of rape. Not true. "Rape by envelopement" is legally the same as rape by penetration.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 04:29 AM
–	Mom agrees to son’s circumcision after years-long fight waged with the boy's father, including her kidnapping her son That's a very interesting perspective. Thanks or taking the time to reply! I know I would never have my (future, hypothetical) son circumcised, but it makes me sad to think that my darling boyfriend is only experiencing 1% of the sexual experience that he could be. I wonder what that 99% would be like.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 03:52 AM
1	Mom agrees to son’s circumcision after years-long fight waged with the boy's father, including her kidnapping her son Thanks for the reply. I guess it just seems crazy to me that sex could be 99 times as good for someone with a foreskin. It seems like cut vs. uncut men would be experiencing radically different experiences. I've been with both, and I haven't noticed any difference, at all, in behavior or expressed experience.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 02:55 AM
1	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively Because what he did is an actual, federal crime. What she did, regardless of how inappropriate it is, isn't. You know that, right? The genders of the offenders have nothing to do with it, only the severity of the crimes and the age range of those involved are taken into account.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 02:52 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively No! He is a pedophile! He admitted to molesting MULTIPLE children, some as young as four. She admitted to doing creepy sexual stuff with her sister and tried to pass it off as playing doctor. NOT the same! At seven, she looked inside her toddler sister's vagina, and at 12-17 admitted to masturbating next to her sleeping sister. Creepy as fuck, but still considered by child psychologists to be within the realm of normal childhood sexuality. At FOURTEEN, he admitted to touching his sisters' vagina…	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 02:25 AM
-1	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively It was explored for Josiah Duggar because it was legally mandated. Someone sent an anonymous tip to Oprah before the Duggars appeared on her show, and because of her level of involvement with some of her charities, she was considered a mandatory reporter and was legally and morally obligated to report a four year old being molested by a family member. Honestly I'm appalled by the way this is being treated on this sub. Lena Dunham obviously behaved really inappropriately with her sister, but by a…	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 02:16 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively Are you serious? These situations are not at all analogous. The genders have nothing to do with it.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 02:10 AM
2	Mad Max: Fury Road-- It seems I'm one of the few who saw Feminism EVERYWHERE Maybe. Overall, I thought it was a great movie. Yes, there were times that it seemed to lean more in the favor of women, but I guess we do need things from time to time to balance out the films in which women are treated as nothing but decorations. It was nice to see a female character who was the respectful equal of her male counterpart.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 12:33 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively She wasn't touching four year olds as a 17 year old, whereas he was. I'm not trying to defend her, I think she's a shitty person, but to say that a self-admitted molester of four year olds is somehow being unfairly targeted by the media just seems beyond the pale.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 12:31 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively I'm sorry, what do you mean by "years"? This just hit the fan. There were rumors after Oprah reported him to the police after being tipped off, but did this get to the media before yesterday?	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 12:29 AM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively Did she not do that as an -5 child? If I'm not mistaken, she was very little, whereas Josiah Duggar was 14-17, old enough to be tried as an adult even at the youngest.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 12:27 AM
–	Mom agrees to son’s circumcision after years-long fight waged with the boy's father, including her kidnapping her son I understand, what I'm asking is why you went from 25-40% of the sexual experience to 99%.	/r/MensRights	23/05/15 12:25 AM
–	Mom agrees to son’s circumcision after years-long fight waged with the boy's father, including her kidnapping her son Why are you going from 25-40% to 99%? I could see circumcision reducing the sexual experience by 25-40%, I guess, but 99%? 99% of the sexual experience is located in the foreskin? I think a lot of urologists would beg to disagree. NOT saying that circumcision isn't barbaric and immoral. Just saying that that's some crazy hyperbole, and it's out of place in this kind of debate.	/r/MensRights	22/05/15 11:00 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively Oh no, of course I don't think you're trying to defend him! I just feel like the stories are different at the core, that's it's not about how they were covered. Getting your sibling to lay on top of you, kiss you, or let you put makeup on them seem, to me, like general kid stuff. But even a 14 year old boy knows that groping a four year old is wrong. I'm not a Dunham fan, at all, but I don't think the difference in coverage has to do with their gender, but the severity of their actions. Duggar h…	/r/MensRights	22/05/15 09:56 PM
–	Prominent feminist on Lena Dunham and Josh Duggar, respectively I don't see how this has anything to do with men's rights, honestly. These situations are completely different. In one, a teenager masturbated while next to a sleeping younger sibling. In the other, a teenager molested multiple siblings, including one as young as four. Now, don't get me wrong, I think Lena Dunham is a sexist hypocrite, but let's not pretend that she's somehow just as bad as someone who goes around fondling four year olds. I can chalk up "masturbating next to sleeping sibling" to…	/r/MensRights	22/05/15 09:05 PM
–	Mad Max: Fury Road-- It seems I'm one of the few who saw Feminism EVERYWHERE I think there were many groups whose suffering went unnoted in the dialogue. I definitely see where you're coming from, though I interpreted that situation rather differently. I inferred that the men had left, much like Max does at the end, looking for greener pastures, so to speak. I got the impression that the older women had hung on out of stubbornness and fear of the unknown, whereas those who were up for a long, tough journey (like tiny Furiosa and her mama) had left willingly.	/r/MensRights	22/05/15 02:29 PM
0	Mad Max: Fury Road-- It seems I'm one of the few who saw Feminism EVERYWHERE In terms of whether or not Furiosa ends up taking over the Citadel?	/r/MensRights	21/05/15 07:21 PM
8	Mad Max: Fury Road-- It seems I'm one of the few who saw Feminism EVERYWHERE I don't see how you could think that the movie was pushing a message of, "matriarchy is unquestionably the solution" when the matriarchal society is shown to have failed. In the 19 years after Furiosa left the green place, the Many Mothers have died off in droves, their once fertile land has been reduced to desert, and there is no one left to continue their society. If anything, that seems to balance out the implication that Furiosa takes over the Citadel.	/r/MensRights	21/05/15 04:07 PM
-2	The BBC is looking for stories from men (especially 18-35) about violent young women Dude, that's not at all what I'm saying. Just that it seems better to profile men who've overcome abuse than women who admit to perpetuating it. That's exactly what they do with women's DV, anyway, and they seem to have made a lot of headway. I know that women are more likely to commit abuse than men, but using examples of female abusers doesn't seem as effective, to me, as using relatable men who've survived abuse. That's just my opinion. I thought that's what this sub was for?	/r/MensRights	19/05/15 12:46 PM
–	The BBC is looking for stories from men (especially 18-35) about violent young women Well, I said pretty specifically that I thought that highlighting success stories would be a better way to go about it. Studies have found that humanizing the victim of a situation provokes a greater response than demonizing the abuser. I understand why you're jaded about the sexism in the industry, I feel that way sometimes, too. But I really do feel like we're making a lot of strides. I teach classes on teen DV in high schools, and I focus on violence against men a bit more than against women,…	/r/MensRights	18/05/15 10:18 PM
–	The BBC is looking for stories from men (especially 18-35) about violent young women This just doesn't seem like a good way to go about spreading awareness. It's basically, "look how horrible women are!", not "look at this under-recognized problem". Why not search for men who've overcome domestic violence and profile their success? It seems like "hey, I survived this shitty thing, and so can you," would be a much better way to teach men to recognize when their wives/girlfriends are perpetuating abuse against them. As someone who works in domestic violence prevention, I was so he…	/r/MensRights	18/05/15 09:00 PM
–	What basic relationship skills are men from "broken homes" most likely to lack? Thanks for taking the time to respond. I'm not worried about my qualifications, I think I just worded this all a little weirdly and...insensitively. May I ask why you feel that the best thing young men need to know about healthy relationships is maintaining a high level of physical fitness? That isn't an idea I usually come across in dating violence literature or conferences.	/r/MensRights	15/05/15 09:35 PM
0	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony Uh...how so? I thought this was a sub for people who supported men's rights. I'm particularly interested in the movement because of my work in domestic violence prevention. The men's rights movement is very vocal about increasing awareness of domestic violence against men, so I browse this sub because I occasionally glean perspectives from it that are very useful for my teaching. Are you suggesting that my understanding of this sub is wrong?	/r/MensRights	15/05/15 03:07 AM
0	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony Evolutionary psychology is an interesting field of study, but it has no place in domestic violence prevention. Besides, it's not really an accepted field of study. It's not like a rapist can go on the stand and say, "well, I know I brutally raped a 14 year old, but it's in my evolutionary best interest to spread my seed, so what I did was fine!" and get away with it. Yes, according to evolutionary psychology, that is an acceptable excuse, but the tenets of evo psych, while interesting, are antit…	/r/MensRights	14/05/15 08:58 PM
3	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony Thanks dude, that's really nice to hear. I absolutely love what I do, honestly. It's amazing to know that I'm helping these kids learn how to have happy relationships.	/r/MensRights	13/05/15 09:21 PM
1	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony I know what study you're speaking about, and I do think it's skewed. The criticism it has gotten from professionals when it was peer-reviewed is that it doesn't differentiate between self-defense and reciprocal violence well, at all. So a lot of the women that are committing "reciprocal violence" are actually using self-defense against a more physically powerful partner. Not trying to absolve anyone of guilt here, just saying that it wasn't methodical enough for a lot of professionals in the fie…	/r/MensRights	13/05/15 07:34 PM
6	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony I am a woman. Out of curiosity (genuinely not trying to be antagonistic), what do you think of when you're talking about "feminist propaganda" in this respect? I ask because I take my job very seriously, and I strive to make my lessons as gender-neutral as possible. I am always looking for weak spots in my lessons, or places where my gender has made me a bit dense to the lived experiences of the other gender.	/r/MensRights	13/05/15 07:27 PM
4	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony Yes. 36% of adult women vs. 21% of adult men report experiencing DV over their lifetimes. But when you factor in socio-cultural norms, experts pin it at roughly 50/50. Source: I teach classes on healthy relationships in high schools.	/r/MensRights	13/05/15 06:06 PM
15	Jeremy Kyle slams audience for LAUGHING at male domestic violence victim who threw himself off a balcony Not true, it's about 50/50.	/r/MensRights	13/05/15 05:16 PM
3	I made a poster on gender symmetry in domestic violence: "A Woman Can Do Anything a Man Can Do" Hey this is slightly unrelated, but I teach classes on healthy relationships to teenagers, and the 50/50 gender split for physical violence is something I touch on constantly. Feel free to PM me if you want any materials/resources about this kind of thing, especially the male physical intimidation factor vs. the female social intimidation factor.	/r/MensRights	07/05/15 03:55 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body Well, if products created by the fast food or alcohol industries got women pregnant, then yes, I suspect these would be vaguely analogous scenarios. Women get pregnant, that is their burden to bear, in the same way that men have to risk handing over some of their genetic material every time that they have sex. Difference in the ability to bear children is the most basic simple difference between men and women. It's the only place where the genders have different rights and responsibilities. Wome…	/r/MensRights	21/04/15 09:09 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body That's not an explanation. Yes, women get pregnant, but men provide 50% of that. We say to women, "if you don't want to get pregnant, use condoms and birth control". So it seems "fair" to you to turn around and say to men, "if you don't want to get someone pregnant, don't worry about it! It's not your responsibility!"? If it's "unfair" that women can chose to abort and men can't, why is is "unfair" to share the burden of pregnancy prevention?	/r/MensRights	21/04/15 08:15 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? Ok, so I get the whole "that's how decisions get made" thing to a T. That's how Mr. Dozens and I do it, I hate making decisions. But for a marriage to be RedPill, does it ALWAYS have to be the man having "the last word on all decision making"? I mean, if you wanted to make a decision, and your completely disagreed and would hate the decision, would you consider your opinion above hers simply because of your gender, or because your the established decision maker? Or would you consider both of you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 11:30 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? That does make a lot of sense. Thanks for taking the time to politely reply. I definitely see what you mean; a reluctance to accept accountability does seem to be an increasingly common root of relationship problems. And yes, Mr. Dozens and I are also atheists (living in the deep south), so I more than agree that "traditional" unfortunately does also mean "Christian". Unrelated, but I love your username. Partially because I saw it in this context, it made me think of Barbara Swell's "The Lost Ar…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 11:24 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body What did I say that sounded like I was playing the victim card? I thought my response was reasoned and polite.	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 10:28 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? Ok, that makes sense. Sorry if my comment sounded overly snarky. I occasionally browse red pill style stuff, and the general vibe I get is "I"m the man, so I make the decisions, and if my wife doesn't like it, I'll just replace her with a younger model, because women are incapable of real love or honor, so they're all the same and totally interchangeable". You answered my question in a very nice and polite way, and I thank you. It sounds like you wouldn't just say, "welp, he's the man, and thus …	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 10:24 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? Sorry I got so snarky, that was uncalled for. You're right, you did give a nice and reasoned response above, and it wasn't fair for me to expect someone to reply to me when you had already given a good response above. Because so much RedPill stuff focuses on how women are "dogs" or "the most responsible teenager in the house", it's hard for me to understand why someone who values a traditional relationship would conflate that with a group that constantly demeans one gender as incapable of true l…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 10:16 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body Dude, what? I'm not trying to speak for you. You said "it should be mandatory for women to take the pill" and that it was unfair for men to wear condoms. I asked you why you thought women should shoulder the entire burden, and men should shoulder none of it. When used together, the condoms and the pill are a nearly fool-proof way to prevent pregnancy. So I think that if you're demanding that women take the pill, men should also wear condoms. That seems pretty equal, to me. Why is that a bad idea…	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 09:51 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body I teach classes on teen dating violence...how could that possibly be something that you object to? I make every possible effort to be gender-neutral in my presentations, and to guide the disussions in a gender neutral way. I don't "think [I] know everything", I use verifiable facts. For example, I cite statistics on how teen girls are just as likely to commit IPV as teen boys, 1 in 5 teen guys admits to being sexually abused by a partner, and myriad others. I work in mental healthcare, how is th…	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 08:47 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? Yeah, I'd love to actually hear from one. I want think that that WOULD be their response, but I think it's more likely that it would be something along the lines of, "I would never let a female dare to presume to tell ME, a MAN what to do. Females are inferior. To prove my point, let me link you to a ton of irate blog posts that wildly misrepresent data to box the complexity of human relationships into a tiny, sexist worldview". That's been my experience on here so far, anyway.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 06:54 PM
1	Male college student silenced by his professor for challenging the bogus "1 in 5 college women are raped" statistic and the idea of "rape culture" The article proves that True is, in fact, an unmitigated shithead. "I won't let you interview me until you agree to call me the n word in your first sentence". Seriously, wtf? I was totally on his side until that. He's proven himself to be an asshole out for attention. I don't see how that's a defensible position...	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 05:40 PM
3	Male college student silenced by his professor for challenging the bogus "1 in 5 college women are raped" statistic and the idea of "rape culture" Thanks for pointing this out. I was totally willing to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, until he proved himself to be an absolute unmitigate shithead.	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 05:38 PM
1	Male college student silenced by his professor for challenging the bogus "1 in 5 college women are raped" statistic and the idea of "rape culture" Thanks for pointing this out. I was totally willing to give this guy the benefit of the doubt, until he proved himself to be an absolute unmitigated shithead.	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 05:38 PM
1	Married Redpill Men - Is your wife your equal? So, I have an honest question for the RPers. What happens if you make a decision that your wife HATES? I mean, I have a pretty "red pill" relationship, in that I do the traditionally feminine things (I'm a ballin cook), and Mr. Dozens does the more traditionally masculine things (nothing would ever get done if I had to make all the decisions). So I get the whole "natural order" thing, and I'm genuinely not trying to be critical. But, does your wife have any control over the big stuff? For exampl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/03/15 03:13 PM
1	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times Legal custody ABSOLUTELY means something! It means that neither parent can make decisions without the other parent approving. For example, when my parents divorced, they had joint legal custody. When I was a teenager, because I get horrible ovarian cysts, my doctor said that I needed to clear them up with hormonal BC, lest one take down 1/2 my reproductive system. Even though my father had refused to speak to me for three years (because I wanted to live 1/2&1/2, not just with him), he had the LE…	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 01:41 PM
1	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body I'm not sure where you're getting this "two months" from, we've been together for a while. I went off the pill and got the IUD for him, because he didn't want to wear condoms, but I think it's pretty reasonable that I'm bothered by the unfairness of the situation. For him to enjoy sex to the fullest, I have to take on medical risks, whereas he has to make no sacrifices at all. So my question is, why should ALL women be making the sacrifice, so that ALL men have to make no sacrifices? I'm also no…	/r/MensRights	20/03/15 01:22 PM
3	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body I'm mad that selfish people like you exist. Why in god's name should the onus to prevent pregnancy be totally on women? Seriously, why? You don't want to have to wear a condom, so your sexual partners should endure all of the discomfort necessary to prevent pregnancy, while you just sit back and enjoy your nut?	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 09:06 PM
1	Real Men Don't Join Fraternities Thanks for this. I had the same experience with the Greek system. I never, ever, experienced anything but support and love from the others in my chapter. Curdles my cream how butthurt geeds are about the Greek system. If you don't like it, why bitch about it? It doesn't affect you.	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 06:54 PM
3	A (hypothetical) Suggestion to Compromise men rights to fatherhood/women rights to her body Dude, wtf? Do you know anything about birth control? It can cause strokes, heart attacks, ovarian cysts, vaginal dryness, vaginismus, extreme uterine cramping...the list goes on and on. I've literally never met a woman who didn't have a single negative BC side-effect. Women are expected to undergo ALL THAT for a 30% chance at having an orgasm during sex, whereas men should be able to do NOTHING and get their 100% chance at an orgasm? Can you explain to me why that particular situation seems righ…	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 06:41 PM
2	Feminists, we need to talk about consent We already do. I teach classes on teen dating violence (which happens in equal numbers, despite genders), consent, and other issues facing teenagers in high schools around my state. As I'm sure you can imagine, people are just throwing money at my program. Lol jk, we're fucking broke, and 81% of parents don't believe that teen dating violence or teaching consent is an issue.	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 06:20 PM
1	Should men have the right to decide when they want to be a father? The idea of financial abortion is fantastic, but it's something that could never, ever work in practice. First of all, there would need to be some kind of government agency overseeing it. Something this fraught with emotion could never operate on the honor system. So then you would have taxpayer dollars going to facilitate abortions (not fund, but facilitate), something which could never be enshrined in law, due to the moral issues that so many Americans have over abortion. I could go on, but I …	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 06:10 PM
1	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times You said that the custodial parent's income is never considered in child support calculations, which I then proved to be wrong. It is considered in most cases, but not ALL cases. In the past year, I have lived in Maryland, Pennsylvania, and Tennessee. All of those states have a presumption of 50/50 custody. Here's some info about it in PA: http://greensteinfamilylaw.com/2013/11/08/child-custody-in-pennsylvania/. It reads, "both parents usually share joint legal custody in recognition that neithe…	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 01:55 PM
1	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times Yeah it's not perfect yet, but progress is definitely being made. Most states have moved to automatic 50/50 custody, child support is getting increasingly easier to navigate, and alimony is steadily shrinking, if given at all. (Though as a fervent supporter of equal gender rights, I'm ashamed at what NOW is doing in Florida...)	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 01:05 PM
1	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times What are you talking about? Of course it does. Literally every state has a child support calculator that you can Google. Here's my state's: https://www.humanservices.state.pa.us/CSWS/CSWS_controller.aspx?SelectionIdBottom=7&PageId=CSWS/faq.ascx#BQ1Link You'll notice that under "how is the amount of child support determined?", it reads, "net incomes and earning capacities of both parties".	/r/MensRights	19/03/15 01:59 AM
0	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times That's not at all true. Amost every US state uses a simple formula that inputs the income of both parents. Why would the woman's income not be relevant there?	/r/MensRights	18/03/15 04:23 PM
0	Study Finds More Reasons to Get and Stay Married: NY Times He's making a legitimate point. It's not automatic, unless you live in SC and your child is a newborn. If you divorce in, say, Pennsylvania, the judge is legally required to present a verifiable case of child abuse if he or she does not award 50/50.	/r/MensRights	18/03/15 04:21 PM
2	Would you act flirty to get free stuff? Love it. Never stop.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/03/15 11:04 PM