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Your feeling means something to you, but they don’t mean anything to women. Your feelings are there to tell youwho you are attracted to I took the quoted segment a lot more literally than the other poster – feelings, in general, are only reactions to stimuli. There rarely is ever a need to vocalise them. When you're hungry, you go get food. When you're horny, you fuck or your jerk off. When you're sad, why do you have to talk about it? So she can take notes and throw it back in your face later? …
/r/TheRedPill09/05/18 12:03 PM
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Just clicked on your blog and see that you've Goldmund and CMQ on your sidebar. Were you a poster on the forums? Seems to have vanished.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 04:16 PM
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Yeah, major red flags. GTFO. A non-trivial amount guys do that too. Governed by their narcissistic urges and/or random insecurities, they just want to one-up everyone around them.
/r/TheRedPill08/05/18 03:34 AM
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A big part of TRP is individuality, which makes this a very different place to say, a feminist message board. Group identity, right? If you look at the Masters of whatever field, be it in pimping or cooking, you'll find that they just have different approaches and mindsets to what essentially boils down to the same thing. Which makes sense because their mastery of the subject is coloured by their own unique choices and experiences in life. But that's a bit of a tangent. We're all thinking about …
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 06:58 PM
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Oh I see, makes sense. I do that through writing. For e.g, my comments to other people's situations on TRP are an almost direct reflection of what's been on my mind lately. It's my way of interacting with what I'm learning and drawing connections between things. I do re-watch videos or re-read articles/posts too.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 06:11 PM
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I'll leave the post there for posterity, and I really hope OP doesn't give up, but I don't know. It's not the first time he's gotten advice. Maybe he needs therapy/someone to help him out IRL. No idea who these people are, but were Pook, Zan Perrion and Owen Cook/RSDTyler not posting on these boards?
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 04:49 PM
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Cheers. I probs won't read it soon, but I watched the video /u/1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v linked. The "if you can do it in 2 minutes, do it right away" bit is helpful. Forgot about that one. On the subject of productivity, Cal Newport's blog is great. Personally, my approach is a bit more minimal. I'm adding little habits as I go along/as needed, seeing as trying to overhaul my entire system has always been overwhelming for me. This way, even if it's slow, I'm still doing a bit better than before. I'll re…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 04:45 PM
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No need to watch it several times a day. Guilt can be useful, but don't let it be the only thing that gets you doing things. It's not sustainable, makes you feel bad and then you feel worse when you procrastinate again and then you feel guilty and the cycle perpetuates. Picture a future you that's done the work you want to do today. He's one day closer to being the future-you of 6 months from now and so on. So that's a very clear reason/motivation to do what you want. Doing something is a helluv…
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 04:38 PM
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Spot on. The best time to start is right now. Keeping all of these things in mind is retarded. Write them down and free up your brain. It’s an easy way to build habits. Jordan Peterson has a great video on using a calendar and not letting your schedule tyrannise you.
/r/TheRedPill07/05/18 04:50 AM
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Apparently he is. I took over half an hour typing up a long post trying to help, but then I thought of checking his post history. Apparently /u/Ruggero88 has his head shaved (so none of that funky combover shit), is now in good shape and has done thousands of cold approaches. Those led to 80 numbers and zero dates. He also has friends, so at the very least, he can socialise with people. Rug, are you very nervous when talking to people? Do you get in your head a lot and feel like you're saying th…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/18 05:09 PM
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Yeah it was funny. Next time as in any other similar situation
/r/askTRP06/05/18 03:32 PM
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Perhaps you shouldn't have showed up to the date, seeing as there was no confirmation? However, you've the right attitude. It's easy to let these things get to you, and let them ruin your night. Instead, you said "Alright, this sucks but I'm going to go create more opportunities for myself" and you did it knowing that this could result in more undesirable outcomes, i.e, you not getting laid. And it didn't get you down, and you were able to focus on the positive: you went out to have a good time,…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/18 02:15 PM
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Next time, consider suggesting she make herself a sarnie or an omelette at your's. Or buying one on the way. If she insists on going to a restaurant, you could insist that you really aren't in the mood and was hoping you'd get to spend some time with her alone, while stroking her leg and biting her ear or whatever the fuck it is you do, nomsayin'? Maybe even double down on this and say you just couldn't wait to "see" her today. Is this beta? Only if it's true and you start acting like one. In th…
/r/askTRP06/05/18 02:01 PM
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To add to what the others have said, if you feel guilty about that sort of thing, then consider that you might be sending the wrong signals to that girl and try to avoid doing this with others. Did you give her any reason to think that your arrangement was more than just a casual hook up? You've met her four times and now she wants you to meet her parents? What the fuck?! I'm generally upfront about this. "We get along great and it's fun to kick it with you, but I don't know if I'm available for…
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:49 PM
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Patrice O’Neal once said he shouted at the lady in the car next to his and said sth about her perm being horrible. She got all worked up and then he just laughed and said he was just playin and took it from there. Think the YouTube clip is about getting them emotional first. But if you mean how to actually physically escalate with someone who’s next to you while driving, then I’d say don’t do it and focus on driving, what the hell. Don’t be a danger to ppl on the road.
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:38 PM
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Yep. To add to that: A quick kiss/makeout is fine, and you can also get her away from her friends by going out to “get some air” or for a smoke. And if she’s not super independent, getting her friends to like you can be helpful. If not, then you can always meet up after and just leave to go mack on some other chicks. As for your initial question, /u/primu5d, there’s no way to tell without further context. It could be a hard No, in which case back off completely. People have different thresholds …
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:35 PM
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I’m confused. Do you want her to be emotionally unstable? You could manipulate her into feeling worse and then making her feel better. Push-pull. Fuck another girl and make sure her bra is visible when you skype next. Heck, “accidentally” send her a text like “last nite was gr8 xx”. And then turn around and tell her you love her so much and blablabla. Erratic behaviour — rewarding and punishing them arbitrarily — can get an emotionally unstable person hooked on you, it’s very addictive. Having s…
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:23 PM
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Go talk to other girls and set up dates with them. If you’ve a fuck buddy/plate, hang out with her and have some fun. You’ll find an appropriate response on your own if you’re not operating from a place of neediness or butthurt. I’d go with “sure no worries”, lower case, no comma and period. If she really wants to see you, she’ll make it happen. Some would argue that maybe even zero response is the way to go. Some would for “k” but I find that this could easily come across as sounding butthurt. …
/r/askTRP06/05/18 01:09 PM
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I understand the whole point of holding frame and whatnot and letting things bounce off of you, as I do for the most part. That's good, but keep in mind that your opinion of yourself is all that matters. Your girlfriend's doesn't really matter, because it's governed entirely by how she feels (=/= logic) and that shit changes all the fucking time. Holding frame implies effort. When a child throws a tantrum, you don't hold frame, you know the kid is just acting out. Same shit with your girl when s…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/18 09:40 AM
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That girl feels like she doesn't know you well enough to even go on a date, yet you feel like you love her. Do you see anything strange with that? People much older than you get confused about their feelings. You're 16 and still quite hormonal. Don't spend too much time reading TRP. If you've read the sidebar, you've read a lot already. Go out there and create new experiences for yourself. If you live in or near a big city, go there and do it. You don't want to fuck with your immediate friend gr…
/r/askTRP05/05/18 03:58 PM
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Exactly. That's a casual relationship or a fling. Nothing wrong with that, but some people started using "plate" and "fuck buddy" interchangeably. It's called spinning plates, or soft harem, because these things tend to be quite dynamic. One chick decides she wants more commitment and leaves, or she starts acting out and another one in the roster starts behaving better.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 03:11 PM
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The first time I got one of these texts, it was sth like "god, my legs are still sore" and some smiley. Was one of those milestones, ha.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 02:02 PM
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Short, bald and fat guys still get laid with women who're more physically attractive than they are. Patrice O'Neal was very tall (6'6, I think), but he was also incredibly fat and his head's shaved. Didn't stop him from being a straight up pimp tho. Krauser is bald and quite ugly, yet he pulls bad bitches. You're bald and you're short. Laughing at you is the easiest shit test. They can laugh all they want, it's not going to make you any more bald and short. How are you going to react? Women resp…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 01:23 PM
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Guys. OP pulled a chick with a boyfriend and turned her into a sex slave. And you're concerned not with how he pulled that off, but by the ethics of the situation? Has anyone read "Sexual Strategy is Amoral"? It's in the sidebar. Hot damn, she goes "Yes master" – that's the sign of a good dicking, if nothing else.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 12:59 PM
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Be that as it may...how's it a problem? OP saw an in and he took it. Their relationship is no concern of his. What would you have done? Walked away? Tell her that what she's doing is not right, but you'd still fuck her if she ends things with her boyfriend? She'd already decided she was going to cheat. It might as well have been OP. It's not nice, but again, how's that his problem?
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 12:56 PM
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LOL, tell that to the people crying adulterer over there. I stand by my initial comment. From the sidebar: TRP is "discussion of sexual strategy." Those details make field reports more helpful. A Field Report of an interaction that didn't end with the desired result is to help OP pick apart what went wrong. One that ends in sex, on the other hand, is to hopefully show something new to the reader. You could reduce most RP theory to "hos gonn be hos" if you tried hard enough. But what's the point …
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 12:52 PM
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The world only appears cold because it stands in such sharp contrast to what you previously believed to be true, i.e past blue pill conditioning. The world is indifferent, it just is. It's easy to forget this, because everyone around you is so plugged in that it messes with your world view. It's tough to keep a high signal:noise ratio when people in your day-to-day life are swallow blue pills all day and try to feed you some more at every opportunity, thinking they're helping. It's the same stra…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 10:37 AM
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Hilarious. That poor fucking chump. Is your apartment within walking distance of the bar? Or did you either of you drive? How'd the Tinder interaction go? I imagine you didn't spend too much time messaging, considering how things played out? And how did she get away from the bf to travel? I'm curious as to what kind of excuse she cooked up, or if it was a legit reason for her to travel alone.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 10:26 AM
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It's a field report in so much as you briefly described that you had sex with a hot 18 y/o. Good for you. But how does that help anyone reading it? Take a step back and pretend you're a noob or just anybody else, really. Read your report and see what you can learn from it. It's obvious this girl was into you, but no one knows why. Do you think it was just luck, or was this something you did? Do you usually pull older birds or is it a wide mix? If this is a recent development, what did you do dif…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 10:09 AM
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It was a newish account and I deleted it. I only have this account now.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 09:56 AM
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Fuck's sake. I'm retarded. Posted from the wrong account. Here's the original post. --- Great stuff, man! >I expected to fuck her tonight but my day had been so fulfilling that good ol outcome independence had kicked in and I was golden. That's the biggest takeaway here. If all your wins are coming from getting laid, then your self esteem becomes dependent on that. If you care more about yourself, then everything else falls into place. You've got to be winning at *something* – it could be anythi…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 09:32 AM
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Oh my. When you treat someone well, it's only an invitation for them to return the favour. They have no obligation to. It is possible that they saw you as an opportunity and gave you just enough rope to hang yourself with, and pushed-pull as appropriate, so to speak. It's malevolent, but the world is dangerous and people are all kinds of fucked up. For all the nice you can be, you can be horrible too and it's up to you to figure out how to respond to that. While you may operate on good faith and…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 05:07 AM
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People who score higher on smarts and neuroticism have a real fucking nightmare with this. Recognising that it's counterproductive is the first step in eliminating this behaviour. It might never completely go away, but nearly gone is a lot better than fully present. Girls need to be more cautious than guys and every girl has her own set of hoops that she'll make you jump through before deciding if you're someone who's safe to kick back and shoot the shit with. A lot of it is likely not conscious…
/r/TheRedPill05/05/18 04:53 AM
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I clicked next or sth at the bottom of the page, idk, lols. :p
/r/askTRP19/10/15 01:54 PM
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C'mon mate. Women have a uterus. Men don't. What that means is that 80,000 years ago, which the time your DNA thinks we live in, women control the population far more than men. The death of one woman meant a more severe population loss than the deaths of 50 men. Because of this, women have intrinsic value and men have only extrinsic value. Women earn their keep for the tribe by bringing babies. Men earn their keep by doing labor and taking risk. Because she's intrinsically valuable, you will val…
/r/askTRP19/10/15 12:18 PM
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Do you have this in the original French by any chance?
/r/AlreadyRed06/06/15 05:09 PM
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Holy fucking shit.
/r/AlreadyRed04/06/15 10:29 AM
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Condensed down: "It is what it is" Right the fuck on. hashtag: losingallhopewasfreedom I was listening to some Patrice O'Neal yesterday. I think it was the bit called "Just Be Honest", and he goes on to say: "The only way to win is to not play the game." (I also listened to this again at the right time, as I was talking about it with a friend, and he let me in on something like that) And this speaks about a few things. Don't buy into her frame. To not get stuck into her passive aggressive games …
/r/AlreadyRed28/05/15 10:38 AM
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It's a hook to the ego. That's all. That's why they say to spin plates. Bingo! That's another thing I've been thinking about lately. Maybe I should make a separate thread for this.
/r/AlreadyRed26/05/15 01:14 PM
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A man who just has his girl on the side and his mission as his priority is loved and admired by his girl. He is her priority. I've been in a rather messed up emotional state lately, and I reckon my hormonal levels are all fucked. I couldn't properly work out, wasn't sleeping or eating correctly, got sick, was drinking too much, and all of that fucked with everything. At the same time, the gf was away for a bit, and I was able to see more than ever how little passive aggressive games she'd play w…
/r/AlreadyRed26/05/15 01:07 PM
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Try taking a cheap cruise to get from one place to the other. I booked my own cabin for a weekend return cruise from Stockholm to Estonia for about $40. Met a decent amount of girls up at the club and having my own cabin made things a lot easier. That sounds like something I'd be up for. Can you break it down further? Sounds cool man.
/r/GEOTRP30/04/15 03:09 PM
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Which is all fine and dandy, but what do you do when she gaslights you to the point where the authorities can get involved?
/r/TheRedPill27/12/14 01:59 AM
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Also, if she's withholding on doing certain things with you, it's perhaps because she sees you as a long term partner, and not a casual hook up. And if that's the case, you don't want anything to do with her. Fuck her, and next that bitch. But consider that she also helped you out. She let you know, indirectly, that you're giving off some beta vibez. If she used to do X, and she's not doing X with you, out of fear of looking slutty, then you're her beta bux.
/r/TheRedPill17/12/14 02:26 PM
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Is this a troll? If not, I feel sorry for you. Find new friends? Don't go to a liberal arts college? Just focus on getting good grades, and meet people elsewhere (gym, martial arts, rock climbing, any sports really, music that's not indie)?
/r/TheRedPill08/12/14 10:57 AM
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Harder than it sounds, but stop caring. It becomes easier the more you meet women. If you put yourself in a state where you don't meet women, you end up placing more value to the ones you already have in your life. That "state" can be anything from living somewhere where there aren't many attractive girls, or just sitting in your room all day. There's a girl I kissed on a date a while back. She wantswanted me to come over at her place, in a neighboring town. Then there was a bunch of logistical …
/r/trpGAME01/09/14 03:35 PM
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They have another cool song. It's about anal sex and hamstering. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j8ZF_R_j0OY
/r/TheRedPill08/08/14 03:12 PM
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Nice, makes sense. I think one could say similar things about Bukowski. By most measures, the guy was a loser. But he wrote, and got semi-famous because of that, and had a passive pussy stream. In his books, there's women calling him up asking if he really is in fact the real Hank Chinaski, and then they'd come over and he'd bang them. He had others send him pictures and letters, and in Women (I think), one of them flies from Texas to come see him. He got famous much later in life, and took what…
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 04:28 PM
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Spot on. They'll always keep on piling it up. They just don't respond positively to a supplicating frame. What appears like courtesy is really just weakness in their eyes. Of relevance is Bill Burr's bit on how women argue.
/r/TheRedPill15/07/14 03:58 PM
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Nope, she mumbled that because as it was coming out of her mouth she realized she was letting the truth slip. Wouldn't be surprised if she didn't realize she even believed this until the moment she started saying it.
/r/TheRedPill12/07/14 09:36 AM
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Learn to appreciate women for what they are, and not what you would like them to be. This has been repeated to death, and for good reason. I used to think I'd love quirky/interesting women. Then with time, I saw that most women were kinda stupid. And if they weren't, then odds are they weren't that attractive to me. Besides, odds are higher that I'll find a man who'll fit that description. So why make things harder for myself? Just talk to women I am attracted to. Eventually, I learned that I li…
/r/TheRedPill11/07/14 07:52 PM
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Elliott Hulse has a video where he says that anxiety (I think it was a vid about approach anxiety) is a problem of your mind but it cannot be fixed in the mind. In order to eradicate, or at the very least, mitigate it, you need to take action. My experiences so far lead me to believe that procrastination and a lack of drive are a problem of both mind and body. Identify it. Do the mind work. Eventually you'll find answers. Some good, others not. But you'll still be facing the problem. It's at thi…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 03:39 PM
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With time (it won't just happen, you will need to consciously work toward this), you will learn to assess whether something is right for you or not. It also very important to learn how to become more self aware, and more honest with oneself. Really look at what you are and what you are becoming. And then taking action. One of my biggest flaws is that I am in my head too much. It is important to learn to live in the present. Life is continuous. You exist on that continuum. You do not exist in yet…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 01:54 PM
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Listen up man. Start lifting weights. Or do gymnastics training (apparently /r/bodyweightfitness is good). Also, remember that most people talking about fitness online are completely full of shit. Chris from Good Looking Loser (he also made a post aimed at high schoolers recently - make sure you read it) and Mike from Danger and Play are among the few who'll cut through the bullshit, and tell you what's up. Nattyornot.com is another good site. So is Elliott Hulse. At any rate, don't let that dis…
/r/TheRedPill06/07/14 10:17 AM
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Looks interesting. Care to post more? Have you paraphrased this? It is strange/interesting how he is use PUA lingo (lol), like "higher value" and "peacocking".
/r/TheRedPill30/06/14 03:38 PM
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There's not giving any actual fucks, and then there's acting like you don't. It helps if people don't think negative things about you. Even on semi-conscious levels, people can go to great lengths to fuck up (or at least, make it mildly irritating) your life, with all kinds of drama, among other things. And you never know who can prove to be helpful. That said, it helps if you learn to be completely detached about what people think of you. You'll find that whatever it is, does not truly affect y…
/r/trpGAME20/05/14 04:53 PM
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Private schools can work out being cheaper if they want you bad enough and you're poor enough. As a general rule, the top 50 liberal arts colleges and private Us are where you can get those deals in the form of need based financial aid. I know a guy who got into a few of those, amd his total cost of attendance ranged from 1-2k USD. The way I see it, go where you'll spend the less money while also considering what opportunities the school will provide you. For e.g, going to CU Boulder on a schola…
/r/AlreadyRed18/03/14 09:10 AM
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A good rule of thumb is always default to a self-preserving frame. Step outside your situation and try to see shit through an unbiased lens. I do that, yeah. I don't have enough experience to immediately see my shortcomings properly. I see some, and then see the rest in retrospect. Sometimes, I see them when I read/see (field reports or practical game advice) what other people have done. That's how some routines (Roosh has a few in Bang Poland and Bang) can probably come in handy. What are your …
/r/AlreadyRed03/03/14 07:21 AM
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I read more theory and blue pill example posts than I did practical game advice. I naively dismissed all routines by lumping them with furry hats magic tricks. I figured I knew enough theory to figure shit out for myself when I'd start going out regularly. While this is true on some levels...why should I reinvent the wheel? I need to be more strategic about what I do, and use more tact. I tend to escalate too quickly, and this is usually bad here. The women are more uppity and somewhat "nice".
/r/AlreadyRed03/03/14 06:14 AM
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People are different. Some of us are more messed up than others, and some have even come to terms with it. Living with, and in spite of, oneself...
/r/AlreadyRed25/02/14 07:42 PM
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Game can make you more attractive to a girl whose already attracted. But you can't make a girl attracted to you with teasing and cocky/funny jokes if she wasn't attracted initially. But even then you don't even really need to be smooth if she's already attracted, all you need to do is be physical and be able to take action and lead her to the bedroom. What do you mean by 'game'? The way I see it, it's knowing how sexual dynamics work and using it to your advantage. Being dominant is game. If you…
/r/AlreadyRed24/02/14 11:48 AM
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It's like living with your mom. Drape shopping...jesus.
/r/AlreadyRed22/02/14 09:02 PM
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Sadism is a very sure expression of power. Power corrupts. That's all I want to say about that. Corrupts what? Live on your terms. Be sadistic if that is what you want. But learn to live with yourself for who you are. Being in denial of what you're doing implies lesser degree of control over what you do.
/r/AlreadyRed22/02/14 04:10 PM
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As long as it's legal, I don't see the problem with "immoral sexual strategy" being upvoted. You wanna sleep with your friend's girl, that's on you. It can be done. I don't see how my morals should get in the way. Live and let die.
/r/AlreadyRed12/02/14 04:20 PM
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"Good things happen to those who wait." Yeah, totally.
/r/TheRedPill01/02/14 02:23 PM
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