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Conversationtheseoulplayer/r/seduction11/05/22 06:29 AM
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Resourcestheseoulplayer/r/seduction17/10/22 08:05 PM
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This is pretty fun and does a good job of putting you in the hotseat. My only issue was that it felt more like a typing speed test at times. Might be interesting to remove the time limits entirely, but keep a timer running in the top for each question, then use the timer as a factor for the score at the end? That would encourage people to come up with answers quickly, but also allow them time to think through it a bit if needed, especially as they're practicing and improving their wittiness. I r…
/r/seduction12/02/25 11:00 AM
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Soooo.... Yeah, that negative self-talk and those false beliefs you're carrying around? Those are the real reason you can't approach and might be viewed as unattractive. You'll need to do quite a bit of internal work on your confidence and beliefs before approaching women will be effective. Get your beliefs sorted out and THEN try approaching.
/r/seduction08/03/24 09:53 AM
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Thanks! Always happy to help :)
/r/seduction15/02/24 06:40 AM
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Make your intentions clear from the get go. Everything from the way you talk to her, your choice of venue, what you say, how you respond to her, all of it comes together to show her that you aren't interested in being friends. You want her to feel like you're interested in her and checking her for compatibility, which you are. Don't shy away from making your feelings known, but it's ALWAYS better to show instead of tell. If it's abundantly clear that you're interested romantically, then you will…
/r/seduction14/02/24 10:16 AM
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This is really good advice, especially for beginners. I often forget to explain the basics like this, I will save it and recommend this thread to guys who ask me questions about social circles in the future! Well done, mate!
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:10 AM
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As soon as I saw my bald spot starting to come in, I buzzed the whole thing down. Honestly it feels a lot more comfortable, but more importantly, it's a decision. I'm not trying to hide it, not pretending it's not there, I own it. There are many ways to go about it, but the worst by far is trying to hide it. Even just embracing it and joking about it is better than the combover.
/r/seduction14/09/22 09:49 AM
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I was just about to say this. Never ask her if she has a boyfriend. Shoot your shot, then let HER decide if she's still got a boyfriend.
/r/seduction14/09/22 09:46 AM
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None of the advice here works for everyone, and definitely none of it works if other stuff isn't taken care of. There is a ton of advice about physical and superficial elements of dating on here. Go to the gym, get new clothes, put great pictures on dating apps, etc. What they don't tell you is that you need to actually be fun to talk to. You can be jacked as shit, dressing fly like 213, but if you're a drag to be around, guess what? Nobody will want to be around you. Now, I haven't spoken to yo…
/r/seduction19/08/22 06:18 AM
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But... Why?
/r/seduction22/07/22 06:05 AM
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Ehh... A bit. I coached a girl who was a 4 and wanted to learn how to lock down one of the guys who was pursuing her. She had 4 different guys on the go, from 0 effort on her end, and was trying to lock down the rich(ish) 7. A guy who's a 4 doesn't have 7s thirsting after him. Now of course she had her own, different set of problems to deal with... but scarcity in the dating market was not one of them.
/r/seduction20/07/22 09:05 AM
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What's worked for me is playing up the sillier, playful side of my personality and oscillating back and forth between that and fatherly moments, like giving her disapproving looks when she says or does something dumb. A capricious nature is unpredictable, and thus interesting. A lot of the advice you're going to get here is 'dress well, be in shape, be stable,' and they aren't wrong. But the problem there is that (high quality) guys in their mid-20s are also doing those things. It's good generic…
/r/seduction20/07/22 04:29 AM
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One of the best things you can do to curb this behavior is put your phone on silent, set it down (or charging) and go do something, anything, for a few hours. Go play basketball, play Halo, study Spanish, walk your dog, pretty much anything. This will 'untether' you from your phone and the feeling of urgency that they create. Notifications on your phone have warped your mind into thinking that they need to be addressed immediately, when they really don't. Once you've taken several hours off from…
/r/seduction18/07/22 09:08 AM
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I don't think he's promoting his services.
/r/seduction10/06/22 09:50 AM
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Isn't it a good thing to go where your value is higher and your prospects are better? I'm not shitposting, I'm really asking - What's the reason to not do this? If anyone can get prettier and younger women by going overseas then.... Why not?
/r/seduction10/06/22 04:32 AM
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Might be, might not be, but dismissing entire parts of the world and the people in them out of hand without having experienced them yourself is a major red flag that screams newbie.
/r/seduction08/06/22 02:45 PM
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Bingo. Why would you want to leave a literal paradise for the smoldering ashes of western civilization?
/r/seduction08/06/22 09:19 AM
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Again, if you've never been to these places, you might think guys are just cleaning up. They aren't. But I'm glad you admit that your post is coming from a place of pure speculation and ignorance.
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:35 AM
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I think this poor sap is specifically making this in repsonse to your previous post! It's seriously hard coping. He might as well be saying, "Of course you get women, you're rich and handsome and have muscles, waaahhhh"
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:07 AM
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Do you have experience in these places? I've been to 25 countries, mostly outside of Western Europe / North America. I've never once had a (non-hooker) girl ask me about my financial status. Visas either. I think you highly overestimate how 'desperate' most people are. The vast majority are content in their current situation and not trying to find an out. In fact, I'd wager that more men in the west are unhappy than these girls from the so-called third world. No matter where you go, if you aren'…
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:05 AM
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The weird part is that it really isn't all that hard. It just requires them to actually do something. ANYTHING. Well, anything other than piss and moan.
/r/seduction08/06/22 07:06 AM
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Hah, the incels are brigading your post and comments. How dare you speak the truth?! They just want to be hugged and circle jerk one another!
/r/seduction08/06/22 06:27 AM
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To men, that's basically the same as someone offering free money. Would love it to be real, but tough to believe.
/r/seduction08/06/22 05:07 AM
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Not going to lie, you got me all riled up with the clickbait title... Then you delivered the goods. I agree completely, most people don't show anything special or unique about themselves. That's largely due to fear of being judged, being seen as 'weird', or some other dumb relic of our tribal brains. You don't even have to be that interesting or special to stand out. When the whole world is grey, all it takes is a splash of color to be amazing.
/r/seduction03/06/22 07:29 AM
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Don't try to have meaningful conversations over text, especially not directly in the dating apps. You need to be setting up the date immediately, 72 hours max from when you first met / started talking. Text is only useful for setting logistics up, that's about it.
/r/seduction27/05/22 09:30 AM
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I'm black where it counts. I have terrible credit.
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:53 AM
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First you need to figure out what your goals are, relationship-wise. What types of relationships are you looking for? Why? What types of girls are you interested in? Why? Is it really what you want or is it what you think you "should" want? What traits are you most looking for in women for the types of relationships you want? What do you bring to the table that they might find attractive or interesting? And, no, 'being a nice guy' doesn't count. There are no right or wrong answers to these quest…
/r/seduction27/05/22 05:27 AM
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You didn't chase her away with your openness and vulnerability, you chased her away with insecurity and neediness. You don't need to play mind games, be stoic, or any of that other stuff, you need to become comfortable with yourself. Identify in yourself why you are so insecure, clingy, and needy. Then actually address it and fix your issues without women. Once you do that, you will actually be able to be real and authentic with women because your real self won't chase them away. Or you can igno…
/r/seduction25/05/22 06:24 AM
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The difference between a salesman and a friend recommending a product to you is outcome independence. The salesman needs to make the sale so he can pay rent or bills. Your friend doesn't care one way or the other. If you are coming off like a salesman in your approaches, you will certainly be rebuffed. Of course people are sick of being pitched the new whatever or having someone hit them up like it's real life Tinder. Can you act that way and be successful? Yes, but not nearly as often. Instead …
/r/seduction18/05/22 09:35 AM
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Cold approach is just having a conversation with a stranger. If you are an awkward weirdo when doing that normally, then yes, it's going to be weird when you approach an attractive woman. However, if you can strike up conversations with strangers on a plane, with the bank teller, with the cute barista, with any stranger you normally talk to, then it's not "cold approach." It's just having a conversation with a stranger, which is the most natural and normal thing in the world.
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:53 AM
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I agree entirely. This is why I never teach guys lines - they think it's all they need to do.
/r/seduction18/05/22 08:27 AM
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Ya did good kid. Ya did real good.
/r/seduction13/05/22 05:17 AM
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Accept the fact that you will be bad at it at first. It's okay, you will also improve. You have planted lots of seeds by reading what guys write online, and you may understand some of them conceptually, but going out and talking to women is watering those seeds. You will have a lot of "Ohhhh, so THAT's what they were talking about!" moments. That's a very good thing, and you will likely be a quick study. Give yourself the permission to be bad at it, learn from your mistakes, and get better. Once…
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:44 AM
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The good news for you is that at 15-17, everyone's just a sack of raging hormones. It doesn't take a lot of convincing to get someone to do something that they already want to do.
/r/seduction11/05/22 09:36 AM
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Problem is, it would be relatively long distance. Stopped reading there. You're either planning to marry this girl or you're wasting your time. My bet is the latter. Quit trying to find just anyone who might touch your boner, go out and meet some girls so you have options.
/r/seduction11/05/22 07:32 AM
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If it makes you feel any better, I don't dislike you because you're Asian. I dislike you because you're an excuse-making self-aggrandizing twat. Take responsibility for yourself and your outcomes, stop putting it on other people to make success happen in your life.
/r/seduction11/05/22 04:48 AM
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"Sometimes things work. Also sometimes things don't work. So because things sometimes don't work, they never work. Don't do things." -OP
/r/seduction09/05/22 08:37 AM
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I would like to introduce you to your two new best friends. Speficically, those two little buttons next to the M key on your keyboard.
/r/seduction09/05/22 08:22 AM
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This is exactly true... if you believe it to be true. Just like height, your voice, or that pimple on your nose, they will care about the things that you internalize being important. If you think you can't get girls because of (insert pusillanimous reason here), then you are right.
/r/seduction09/05/22 07:06 AM
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Nicely done. That feeling of embarassment will go away, you're pushing through your comfort zone. It gets better as you become more comfortable with it and realize that all of your restrictions and worries were self-imposed.
/r/seduction02/05/22 06:49 AM
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Everything in your post reeks of desperation. This is exactly the reason you don't get laid. Focus inwardly, not on others.
/r/seduction29/04/22 06:53 AM
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Bruhhh.... Just go talk to her. She's just a person, not some mythical goddess. You're not gonna get smited (smote?) if it doesn't work out. Just have a chat with her.
/r/seduction29/04/22 05:35 AM
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You're getting hate from these armchair alphas, but I can totally see this line working. You've got the setup, the drop, the twist, and thinking past the sale. Good persuasion in this one. There's definitely a 'no lines' school of approaching, but guys who do hundreds or thousands of approaches start making up fun lines because it gets boring out there. Stop ragging on a dude if he found something that works for him and is sharing it with others.
/r/seduction27/04/22 08:15 AM
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If you live in even a somewhat urban or suburban environment, day game is 1000% the way to go. More options, better options, easier to filter for the types you prefer, more iterations so more practice, faster to improve... the reasons are endless. Day game. Every time.
/r/seduction27/04/22 06:53 AM
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That's.... That's WHY they are going back with you. Women aren't nearly as dumb or prudish as you think. Every woman knows that men hit on them because they want to bang. Embrace it, don't try to deny or obfuscate it.
/r/seduction27/04/22 04:45 AM
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If you think girls don't want to go back unless you 'trick' them into sex, then you're doing it all wrong. It's perfectly fine for them to know sex is going to happen, in fact, that's a much better situation.
/r/seduction25/04/22 07:58 AM
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Most are defensive, like "Whaaaaat? It was just a question!" but I sometimes get a full retraction of "Right. Sorry. Anyway!..." By not giving stupid shit tests any room to breathe, it cuts them off and prevents future attempts of it. I'm 35 now, ain't nobody got time for that.
/r/seduction22/04/22 05:06 AM
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I also tend to ignore most of them. It's a perfectly viable way to pass many shit tests, or you can even give her the 'teacher look.' You know, the one when the smartass kid in class would raise his hand and open his mouth to say something dumb, then the teacher would give the look and the kid would just shut down completely? That's the one.
/r/seduction20/04/22 09:06 AM
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Practice. You need to get out there and start talking with women, and honestly anyone at all who you can. Being charismatic and good at socializing is a skill that you can learn and master, very few people are born excellent at it. You get good at socializing, you become interesting to talk to. You're interesting to talk to, then women want to talk to you. Women want to talk to you, then you're good with women. Practice.
/r/seduction20/04/22 04:26 AM
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That's.... part of it. It depends heavily on what your value is. If some of your value is in your social connections and how many people you know, then use social media to demonstrate that. You'll need to do different things to showcase different skills or values. It's not all the same, but most likely you're already doing those things.
/r/seduction18/04/22 09:23 AM
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If you're trying to 'show value,' then you're already behind the 8 ball. You're going to come off as desperate, try-hard, or a show off. None of those are great. Instead of trying to show your value, determine what it is that makes you unique or special, what you bring to the table in a relationship. If they are things that are already important to you, then it will come across in your natural behavior. For example, perhaps the value you bring is in financial stability (having cash). Then you'll…
/r/seduction18/04/22 08:40 AM
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What exactly is it that you're looking for? It sounds to me like you're chasing the ego boost that comes from having nice arm candy - other guys saying your girl is hot. If that's what you're looking for, then look for that. If you're looking for a kind woman to be by your side, love you, and support you, then it sounds like you've already found that. The problem, it seems, is that you've been wandering around aimlessly just taking whatever you find. Nail down exactly what it is that you want an…
/r/seduction18/04/22 06:37 AM
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The most important thing is for it to be natural to you. If you are touching in a way that is perfectly natural to you and congruent with who you are and how you come across, then it will be confident, not creepy. Girls are very good at picking up on cues like that, so if you feel awkward when doing it or unsure about what you're doing, then she will also feel awkward. When it's just the obvious next part of the interaction to you, then it will be to her as well.
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:34 AM
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Practice with yourself, just talking to yourself literally. Practice with friends and family. Try different topics, try telling stories, see if you can keep their attention. Maybe try toastmasters or other speaking practice clubs. And yes, try with strangers, coworkers, servers, baristas, whoever. Pay attention to body language and sicial cues. Look for people opening up physically, keeping eye contact, nodding their heads, gasping, laughing, etc. Its not overnight, but it IS worth it because it…
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:42 AM
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Do you find yourself interesting? Do other people find you interesting? If not, then you need to practice that first. Strangers, especially strangers you're trying to date or sleep with, will be the least likely to find you interesting. It's a relatively high bar that you need to work toward.
/r/seduction15/04/22 07:08 AM
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Have you ever heard of the 3 day rule? That you should wait 3 days to call a girl who gives you her number so you don't seem desperate? Fuck that. New 3 day rule: You have to have her out on a date within 3 days. Make it happen, son.
/r/seduction06/04/22 09:36 AM
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Pretty much, yeah. Levels of rejection can vary from a hard next (fairly rare) to a short conversation and nothing (most common), to a number that ghosts / is uninterested (somewhat common). If we're considering all of these rejections because they don't end in a date or sex, then yes, lots and lots of rejection. The good news is that the last 2 types are a lot softer on the ego, and as you get better at approaching and more congruent, you'll get these more often. The bad news is that once you g…
/r/seduction06/04/22 06:47 AM
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Hopefully my advice can help you to keep the lessons that you learned in the bootcamp. It costs too much to just have an experience and not actually improve.
/r/seduction06/04/22 05:23 AM
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I personally do coaching in Seoul, and as a general rule, your results sound fairly standard. Most guys have a hard time transitioning back to home after a bootcamp. I don't know who coached you or if they were good, but I'll give you a quick breakdown of my observations while coaching and some thing you can do to apply the knowledge you gained while it's still fresh in your head. Observations: Most guys have sets of habits that come out when they approach. These might be good or bad habits, but…
/r/seduction04/04/22 06:01 AM
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Depends on the situation. Hard to read context on Reddit, but being playful or condescending would evoke different responses. Based on OP's post, it read to me as condescension.
/r/seduction30/03/22 06:03 AM
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Still, call it out for what it is. You wouldn't accept thinly veiled racism (I assume), so why accept this?
/r/seduction29/03/22 03:44 AM
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How much of yourself are you putting out there for these girls to connect to? It sounds like you're making some pretty quick moves, which doesn't leave a lot of space for building deeper connections. There also may be something that's driving them away after the initial hookup. A dirty apartment, poor hygiene, who knows? If there's nothing in that field that might be the issue, then you should start leading your relationships toward building more of a connection if you want that. Remember that y…
/r/seduction28/03/22 09:45 AM
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It doesn't have to be. All relationships are some type of seduction, and all seduction is some type of relationship. There's nothing wrong with looking for genuine connections, even if it's fleeting.
/r/seduction28/03/22 09:40 AM
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It sounds suspiciously like you want the universe to just serve everything up to you without any actual effort on your part. Well, let me tell you that is absolutely not going to happen, but the good news is that there is something you can do about it. It will take a bit of work on your part though, and especially some fixing your mindset. The first thing you need to do is try to create a no bullshit, fully objective assessment of yourself. To do this, I'm going to walk you through an exercise t…
/r/seduction28/03/22 07:32 AM
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Do you take yourself seriously? If so, you should shut comments like this down. Not in a rude or angry way, but more like a, "Why would you say something so condescneding to a fellow adult?" type way. You wouldn't accept it if another guy talked to you that way. Why would you accept it from anyone?
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:43 AM
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Most men seem to forget that nothing is also a valid option, and better than many of the women out there. You don't need to settle for dealing with a pill who drains your will to live just to get some fun willy time.
/r/seduction28/03/22 06:00 AM
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Approach like a scammer? My man, are you so scared of talking to strangers that you think only criminals do that?
/r/seduction28/03/22 05:58 AM
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The 'easiest' way to meet girls like you describe is to join hobby groups that cater to that type of girl. It's also going to take the longest. If you want faster but more difficult, cold approaching is your best friend. Places like libraries, book stores, and cafes are great for this type of girl. You can be more indirect and strike up conversations about things around you. I've written up an entire free guide on Shy Girls that you can find here, and even though it's about Korean women specific…
/r/seduction25/03/22 09:49 AM
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So my question is to you, if I am interpreting this correctly? And If I should be low status, how can a poor man still be attractive to women? Or is a poor man doomed to be lonely? I am looking forward to your advice. I lived for about a year as a homeless busker, crashing in some dude's small 4x6 side room. Had a mattress on the floor, a backpack with all my clothes in it, and a guitar. Got laid like a champion that whole year. Status is a perception, not a fact. I played up the bohemian image.…
/r/seduction25/03/22 08:24 AM
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About the same amount as going to a prestigious school, driving a fancy car, or anything else status related. If the girl is a type who cares about it, it will generate some interest at the beginning, which will then begin to wane over time. The amount of interest it generates and how long it takes for the benefit to disappear will be dependent on the status involved and the type of girl, but it will deteriorate over time. The one thing that won't deteriorate over time is personality and convers…
/r/seduction25/03/22 07:08 AM
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Happy to help!
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:49 AM
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Believe me man, there's more than enough poon to go around for everyone.
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:06 AM
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Very good advice. One thing that I do to help me slow down and still sound natural is to act like the person you're speaking to isn't a native English speaker. They speak the language, but it isn't their first language. There's no way you'd launch into some superspeed diatribe in that instance, so treat this the same. Just slow everything down, enunciate better than normal, and focus on making each word count. This is made much easier for me because I live in Korea where most people, amazingly, …
/r/seduction23/03/22 09:05 AM
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Yes, looks matter. Yes, most guys can improve and optimize their looks. Yes, looks make a huge difference in swipe rates on OLD. However, there are plenty of good-looking guys who have no game and still strike out a lot. Not the 9+ crew probably, but 6-7s? All the time. Looks are also wildly subjective, not just from girl to girl, but across cultures and countries. Game and psychology apply much more broadly and can be more easily optimized and altered in most cases.
/r/seduction23/03/22 06:09 AM
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Just remember, practice makes per-... zzz... zzz...
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:59 AM
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As we have learned from literally every celebrity ever, nobody cares if you're crazy as long as you're entertaining. Keep up the good work!
/r/seduction23/03/22 04:58 AM
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Please, ideally in depth advice with examples of what to do/say so I can understand it on a better level and adapt it, that would be amazing! "Personality wise I tend to go for deeper topics and actually trying to get to know the girl, but my experience is fairly limited for numerous reasons. I think I need to make topics more sexual/intimate as opposed to friendly." Pretty sure you answered your own question. Keep things light and fun, make jokes and innuendos, push social boundaries a bit. If …
/r/seduction21/03/22 09:07 AM
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Your best upvote is happily accepted! I realize that it's not a 'hustle money fuck bitches' type message, so probably won't be very popular on here, but I really think this advice can be helpful for a lot of guys out there, especially ones who are introverts naturally. Even just practicing talking to yourself for 15-30 minutes a day can make a big difference in your conversation skills. And you're right that humor is the hardest to do and needs to most practice.
/r/seduction21/03/22 08:37 AM
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Start talking to yourself out loud all the time. Not as much in public, but definitely when you're at home or alone. Try to make yourself laugh. Make jokes at the things around you that you see or experience and actually laugh out loud at your own jokes if you find them funny. Have straight up full conversations with yourself, discuss something you saw on TV, something you read, some experience you had, whatever is on your mind. This might sound like a crazy-person solution, but actually it's pr…
/r/seduction21/03/22 07:31 AM
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There are indeed situations where it can work. Cheetos out the ass is not one of them.
/r/seduction17/03/22 02:42 AM
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I actually just posted up an article about exactly this thing earlier today. I give a 3-step way for introverts to start getting used to approaching people. You have to start off simple, because most introverts have mental conceptions of what will happen if they approach someone who is uninterested, or they're afraid of being considered creepy or something to that effect. I put together some easy steps to start getting used to approaching people and keeping an easy way to leave conversations whe…
/r/seduction16/03/22 08:19 AM
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Whatever you do, you don't want to come off as 'every other guy.' That's the fastest way to get dropped. Now, what do guys who get dropped say? "Yo, you lookin to get the pipe?" "Hey, you DTF?" "I'm gonna **** you six ways from Sunday." That, unbelievably, is not the way to a woman's heart or loins. Instead you'll want to couch what you say in a way that makes her feel like you're actually a normal person who is looking for something, and that something can be left ambiguous, but you're not tota…
/r/seduction16/03/22 06:10 AM
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This is amazing, great examples too. Thank you for your service. :)
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:52 AM
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Frame and humor can make a big difference here. I live in Korea, and a lot of times when a girl asks my age, I just say "When I came here as a teacher, you were in elementary school. In fact, were you in my class?" Of course, this isn't 100% successful, but nothing is. Instead it takes what could be an awkward subject (10-15 year age gap) and makes it a bit sillier. It also subconsciously frames me as mature and her as young. That is an ideal situation for everyone, as girls like being young, an…
/r/seduction14/03/22 09:42 AM
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I realize that a lot of people in this sub like simple one-line answers that don't do anything, but I'm going to try an actual step by step explanation for you of how to improve your confidence. Confidence, and a lack thereof, usually comes down to congruence. Basically, if you're trying to act or talk one way but it's different than what you actually think and feel, it creates a rift in your head. You have a version of yourself that you feel is 'real' and another one that you feel is for others…
/r/seduction11/03/22 09:06 AM
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My man, you have some good ideas here, but your shift and caps lock key must be gunked down with all that porn juice.
/r/seduction09/03/22 09:33 AM
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Hey man, I started writing out a response for you but it ended up being too long, so I posted it up on my blog. I go through 3 specific strategies to get past your mistakes that hopefully will help you to get past them and use them to further improve yourself! You can read all of it here: https://www.theseoulplayer.com/game/how-to-forget-your-mistakes-and-become-better
/r/seduction28/02/22 08:03 AM
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Women who are sexually active and express their sexuality with different partners aren't sluts. What is a slut then? Not trolling, serious question. If the old definition isn't correct, then what is?
/r/seduction25/02/22 07:33 AM
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You know what the happiest animal in the world is? A goldfish. Know why? They have a 10 second memory. Be a goldfish, OP.
/r/seduction25/02/22 05:25 AM
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Oh nice, what's the seed idea? I'm curious what kind of things you're thinking, it might inspire new ideas from me or others as well.
/r/seduction25/02/22 05:10 AM
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This is a tough one. Most women are understandably reticent to bring a stranger back to their place and are much more likely to accept an invite to yours rather than you inviting yourself to her place. Logistically speaking, I understand that it's tough when you live fairly far away, but you should still aim for a pull to yours. Eat the uber fare if you have to, but a better idea would be scheduling the date closer to your spot, even if that leaves fewer choices. You could always use my "I'll co…
/r/seduction23/02/22 09:38 AM
1

You're looking at this the wrong way. Shit tests and mind games and the like aren't as big of a deal as you're making them out to be, and if you're being incongruent then you're going to fail them. The fact is that you're bringing some sort of value proposition to the table whenever you're proposing a relationship with a woman, whether it's a one-night gig or LTR leading to marriage. You need to figure out what that value is and how you can demonstrate that. Maybe you're the fun and entertaining…
/r/seduction23/02/22 07:37 AM
2

Holy shit, has this ever happened on Reddit?! :) Just playing. I completely get your original meaning too, it's a solid point that spinning things the right way is better, but you can make just about anything sound appealing, or at least not unappealing.
/r/seduction23/02/22 06:23 AM
9

Her: "let's just be friends" You: "lol ok"
/r/seduction23/02/22 06:01 AM
2

How you frame something makes all the difference. "I do snow removal," is terrible. "I wage a constant war against the mightiest of foes, nature herself, and her minions of snowmen," is a far more engaging and entertaining description. Similarly, in my life I've held many jobs and always explained them differently. "I'm a teacher." "I get paid to make children cry." "I play trumpet in the local orchestra." "I play shows around town, maybe I can get you a ticket to the next one." "I'm an unemploy…
/r/seduction23/02/22 05:19 AM
1

Never Have I Ever is a good one, but usually best in groups of 3+. My personal go-to is the Question game. 3 Rules - 1. No repeat questions, 2. No 'boring' questions (favorite color, etc), 3. You MUST answer honestly. (No skipping, no passing, no lying or obfuscation) This game is super easy to understand and can be as clean or as dirty as you want. You can learn more about your partner's dreams and aspirations or find out what kind of freaky shit they have in their search history. Remember thou…
/r/seduction21/02/22 08:46 AM
15

There's nothing inherently wrong with the goal of sex, but the problem comes when it becomes an all-encompassing thirst that's never truly sated. Remember that the ego is a monster that only grows when fed, and it will never be convinced that you've had 'enough.' Ask yourself why this is a goal of yours, because that will greatly affect the outcome. If you're doing it because you're horny and enjoy the experiences with different people, cool. If you're trying to fill a hole in your heart that yo…
/r/seduction21/02/22 07:42 AM
7

It depends on what you spent your 20s doing. If you have the maturity, social skills, status, and money that are expected of a 30-something, it will be easier than it was in your 20s.
/r/seduction21/02/22 07:08 AM
1

It really depends on what you mean by effort and success, but no, everything worthwhile requires effort. For success, what do you consider success? Can naturally good-looking men get asked on dates on dates without approaching at all? Sure. Are they the types of girls the same good-looking men want to date? Not really. For this discussion, we can stipulate that high-quality men would be searching for similarly high-quality women and would not be content with banging random 4s. Would they need to…
/r/seduction21/02/22 05:57 AM
2

There are several things you can do to keep a conversation going, but as u/SpecialPowerss said, make sure that it's congruent to your style. 1 - One of the easiest things to do is asking follow-up questions to whatever she's talking about. Create a whole story about it in your head, ask the questions needed to paint the picture. Where was she, who were the other people involved, how did she feel, etc. 2 - Another thing you can do is to follow up with "That must've been (adjective)." or "How did …
/r/seduction18/02/22 09:11 AM
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While I wouldn't generally advise trying to escape the friendzone, and in fact avoiding it from the very beginning, I realize that a lot of guys come here specifically for this issue. If you're going to attempt the nearly impossible, this is solid advice. Moreso, this is good advice about how to avoid the friendzone from the very beginning! Just do this stuff before you get stuck there and you'll be fine. Very good write-up, hope it gets some more attention!
/r/seduction16/02/22 09:35 AM
5

Ghosting is the preferable move when safety or security become a concern. I've had more than a couple of girls make threats that they seemed quite able and willing to follow through with. At that point, the best thing you can do is block them and never respond. Anything you do or say after a threat is made will only work against you. You might call me a bitch, but when it comes to girls threatening to show up with a knife, file frivolous lawsuits, make false police claims, and the like, I person…
/r/seduction09/02/22 09:36 AM
2

Cool buddy, then don't do any approaches. In fact, don't do anything at all, because whatever you do is going to offend someone. So may as well just be a shut in.
/r/seduction24/01/22 05:57 AM
2

If you wave to them and they wave back, that seems like a pretty solid indicator that they're open to having a conversation. And if you go up and they aren't interested, no problem, go on about your day. It's just chatting, not accosting people. Do you really think that the "consensus opinion" is that nobody wants to have a friendly chat?
/r/seduction19/01/22 04:52 AM
1

Most of the principles and ideas are the same across the whole field. The issue isn't what they say, but how they say it. Everyone has a different communication style and everyone has a different learning style. Find someone who is able to communicate the ideas and concepts to you in a way that makes sense to your mind and you can apply in the real world. That's how you find the best dating coach for you.
/r/seduction17/01/22 09:28 AM
6

The other day I made a video with a 3 step process to help shier guys and introverts begin approaching women. The best part is that it's incredibly simple and anyone can do it. Step 1: Start waving at people you see whenever you're out in public. Nothing over the top, just a simple hand wave, maybe even a hi. It also doesn't matter who it is, not just attractive women. The old lady walking her dog? Wave and hi. Old dude drinking out of a paper bag? Sure, give a wave. That's all. Step 2: Once you…
/r/seduction17/01/22 06:57 AM
6

I often use this idea of approach excitement for guys who I coach. It's a really useful reframe that helps a lot of guys. The feeling of anxiety and excitement are identical in the way your body responds to them - butterflies in the stomach, shot of adrenaline, increased heart rate. Whether you view it as anxiety or excitement is purely your decision and you can decide to change your frame of it.
/r/seduction17/01/22 06:47 AM
0

Day, night, time doesn't really matter as much as the attitude you bring to it. But a lot of people call this style Daygame. The thing is that it's the same if you're in a bar as it is on the street, as long as the bar isn't crazy loud. It's all about conversation, presentation, and escalation.
/r/seduction10/01/22 09:29 AM
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Well, it's going to depend heavily on your style and what you enjoy doing. Most importantly though, don't do things or go places that you don't enjoy just because there might be women there. The reality is that if you're not having fun in the place, then it will come across and they won't want to spend time with you. For my time and effort, I find that cold approaches are far better than anything I could do in nightclubs or on dating apps. If you want to learn how to cold approach better, I have…
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:53 AM
1

Personally, I skip night clubs altogether. I tried using them when I was younger, but even back then it always felt miserable to me. Too loud, can't chat, can't get to know one another, drinks are way too expensive, just not my scene. That said, my game and style isn't built for night clubs. I don't have the looks or dance moves to be able to rely on those. Instead, I use conversation, humor, and entertainment to make things interesting for the girls I meet. All 3 of these things are minimal or …
/r/seduction10/01/22 07:35 AM
6

Casanova was famous as a seducer specifically because he could seduce just about anyone. However, don't mistake seduction for gaming or getting one-nighters. By today's standards, he would be breaking every single 'rule' that we normally apply to modern seduction, but that's because we are trying to move at ball-flattening speed compared to him. We are also not creating nearly as deep a connection as he did with his counterparts. Casanova's biggest strength in seduction was that he would complet…
/r/seduction07/01/22 09:45 AM
1

Not related to girls, but I just tend to put my phone away for hours at a time and do whatever it is that I'm doing. If I happen to be at my phone when she messages, I'll answer. If I'm not, she might be waiting a while. Weirdly enough, they can kind of sense whether you're faking business or you just really didn't get around to it for a while. If you want to 'create' anticipation, then just genuinely put your phone away for a while. Maybe check it 5 times a day or so. There's nothing that screa…
/r/seduction07/01/22 06:48 AM
0

Excellent advice, fully agree. I tend to give the newbie version of advice on here, and a lot of guys don't know how to escalate. By saying out loud, "Hey were not friends" you are verbally escalating, which is easier for a lot of people to envision and do.
/r/seduction06/01/22 04:19 AM
1

Only experienced Spain, Germany, and Croatia in Europe. Turkey too, if you count that. Loved Spain and Croatia, Turkey was hit or miss depending on the religiosity but Istanbul was largely successful, Germany.... well, don't make the mistake I did and spend a week in Frankfurt. Berlin is solid, and Munich is an absolute blast. Same rules apply though, even in snobbier parts like Barcelona, they DO speak English and if they're into you, they will do it.
/r/seduction06/01/22 04:15 AM
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The language barrier is all in your mind. I'm gonna tell you a big secret right now, it's a massive change for your game abroad. Her English ability is directly proportionate to her attraction level to you. If she says, "No English," it's 99% not because she doesn't speak English. It's a hard next in a polite way. If she is interested, she will make the effort. Maybe she'll dig back to what she learned in English class, maybe she'll use Google translate, maybe she'll use body language and just g…
/r/seduction05/01/22 07:07 AM
11

While different countries have different levels of openness as part of their culture, there was no 'bad' country. However, it can take a while to break through and understand them well. For example, in Japan, most girls are not very open to being approached by strangers and talking to them, but once you learn how to get past that, they are (on average) more DTF. However there are also countries that are very high in openness, but not at all DTF, like heavily traditional and religious countries. …
/r/seduction05/01/22 06:09 AM
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cold approaches (at least in my country) don't work 99% of the time. As someone who's cold approached in 26 countries on 5 continents, I'd dispute this assertion. They don't work when you do 3 half-assed approaches, get blown out, and say, "Welp, I guess they don't work, back to Reddit!" The fact is that if you're interesting in meeting a lot of women, cold approaching is 100% the best way to do it. Higher volume than social circles, higher quality than dating apps, and higher success rates to g…
/r/seduction05/01/22 05:20 AM
4

One of the easiest ways to get out of the friend zone is to refuse to ever get in it in the first place. I realize this sounds simplistic, but it actually is easy once you get past the initial mental barrier. Here's the strategy: She mentions something about liking you as a friend or you can feel yourself sliding into it. You stop the conversation where it is, and say something to the effect of, "Wait, I just want to clarify, I'm interested in you as a woman, not as a friend. If that's not cool …
/r/seduction05/01/22 05:10 AM
2

Not sure the address, but was right next to Sinbanghwa station on the airport line. Magoknaru, one stop down, is even better.
/r/seduction01/01/22 03:45 PM
1

Lack of confidence in actions and words can make a huge difference. If it feels like you're trying to do / say what they want, then it seems like you have obviously ulterior motives that you don't want them to find out about. Realize that all women know that men want sex, and that isn't a secret or something to pretend doesn't exist, and you'll lose a lot of 'slimy' behavior. Think about it from a girl's point of view: "All men want sex, sure, but this guy feels like he's hiding something or not…
/r/seduction31/12/21 08:11 AM
20

It was, indeed, a glorious year.
/r/seduction31/12/21 06:20 AM
54

I got very lucky on this one. Lived in an apartment building in 2018 near the airport in Seoul, all 1-room efficiencies that the flight attendants rented out to get to/from work quickly, especially if their family home was out of the city. All it took was walking my dog around the building, chatting with them on the elevator, etc. Had no clue what a gold mine that building was when I moved in, but figured it out very quickly.
/r/seduction31/12/21 05:17 AM
10

You can have conversations about anything you want... IF you can help her relate to it. This is the part that most people fail at. Your job during a conversation is to bring, not shove, her into your world. Depending on how much background knowledge is needed for your subject, you may need to lay more groundwork to make it relatable. That's fine, as long as you're keeping it interesting and fun. When you see her eyes start to glaze over or she's just nodding along, that doesn't mean she's not in…
/r/seduction29/12/21 09:57 AM
2

#3 is the biggest issue I have to work on with guys I coach. They always start by asking 'what to say' or how to be the guy she will like, and I help them break that frame. The point isn't to pretend to be someone else so she will like you, the point is to find someone who actually does like you... which is way more people (both men and women) than most guys imagine. Of course, this all leads back to self-esteem and self-acceptance, which fixes most other aspects as well once mastered.
/r/seduction24/12/21 05:06 AM
1

One of the reasons you may not see it often is because you aren't 'tuned in' to it yet. You know how you can hear your name being called out even in a sea of noise? It's similar to that, except that you aren't super tuned in to people doing approaches. Believe me though, they absolutely are, and many of them are succeeding with it too. There's so much stuff going on around us at any time that you only notice 1-5% of it. This is also another reason that AA doesn't make any sense, people just don'…
/r/seduction22/12/21 09:54 AM
1

#9 was one I had to learn the hard way. Multiple times. There were even times when I thought that it worked, we decided to 'stay together' - but all it did was end up compounding the previous problems and extending the pain. Once someone has decided that the relationship is over, it's over.
/r/seduction22/12/21 05:08 AM
1

Glad to hear it :)
/r/seduction18/12/21 08:13 PM
6

If you don't mind, I'll throw a bit more advice in here for you. You're right, probably my biggest issue is that I see courtship as being a performance (because that's essentially what it is) and performances can be nerve wracking and exhausting Yes, this idea of performing and trying to be someone else is exhausting. I tried this for years, and it was a total shitshow. Waste of time and tons of energy. Now, I only advocate for being who you actually are, something I'll go into more depth on lat…
/r/seduction17/12/21 08:56 AM
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You don't need to make an event of going out to meet girls, in fact, I'd avoid that altogether. That puts pressure on you, your friends, and the night to 'deliver' something particular. Instead, work on improving your social skills (if they're not up to par) so that you can simply approach women wherever you go and whatever you're doing. You mentioned swiping in the park? What a perfect place to meet women! Working out? Same. Waiting for a friend? Same. You should get in the habit of approaching…
/r/seduction17/12/21 07:38 AM
3

"You know, after all responses, very few if any guys walked me through an actual process. Most gave generic pickup advice you can read from a magazine, comes to show how many men can be posers." This shows me that you 100% don't get it. You want some silver bullet, some line, some pose, that you can walk up and use to get any girl at any time. You will spend a lot of money on products that advertise exactly that, and you will get nothing for it. THERE IS NO MAGIC WORD. The guys on here saying th…
/r/seduction15/12/21 08:27 AM
1

Sure thing man! Hope it helps you reframe these situations!
/r/seduction01/12/21 06:01 AM
2

Realizing the broad spectrum of human emotions and situations can help alleviate some of this. Understand that just because you're out trying to meet people doesn't mean everyone is. This girl is stressed because her power bill is due and she just overdrafted. Another is thinking about a fight she had with her mom. Another one showed up hungover to work this morning and her boss yelled at her. None of these girls in this example are in the right mindset to have a stimulating conversation with a …
/r/seduction29/11/21 09:55 AM
1

Excellent advice! I fully endorse this mindset shift!
/r/seduction19/11/21 05:26 AM
4

100% this. Avoid social media contacts. To chicks that's like being a business client. They are in the business of getting followers and likes, if you become one of THOSE, then that's it.
/r/seduction08/11/21 07:50 AM
3

Honestly, the best thing you can do is find a friend who is good at it and hang out with him as much as possible. Not as a leech, not as a hanger-on, just as a friend. Try to absorb some of the stuff that he does, pay attention to what he does that works and doesn't, figure out how you can apply the lessons to your own style. You might start by imitating some of his actions, but be cognizant about making it your own style rather than trying to emulate his. What works for him won't necessarily wo…
/r/seduction27/10/21 09:08 AM
20

Actually HAVE FUN everywhere you go. Make your own fun if you need. Find ways to entertain yourself that bring other people in. Make up dumb games if you have to. Being the party doesn't work if you're acting or putting on a show. It only works when it's genuine.
/r/seduction25/10/21 09:39 AM
3

The direction I usually go is into the wild and absurd. EX: "You think these trains are busy? I once got stuck in the Tokyo underground during a Godzilla attack. Man, at first it felt like sardines in a tin, then I realized I actually HAD sardines in a tin in my backpack and they were starting to turn. I was not a very popular person that day.... Anyway, where are you headed today?" WHAT? It's so strange and nonsensical that it grabs their attention, but it's very clearly a lie. It doesn't even …
/r/seduction25/10/21 06:53 AM
2

Honestly, 'have to see' usually means 'I'm waiting to see if I get a better offer.' If she doesn't know what plans her parents have for Saturday, can't she just ask them? If they currently have no plans, then she's free to schedule with you. If they do, she can tell you that and offer another day. This sounds like a blowoff, or at best just a very lukewarm maybe. When getting a response like that, you should instantly prompt her to ask them. "I totally get that, family obligations are important.…
/r/seduction20/10/21 09:32 AM
5

This is what I do too. Keeps it simple, conveys more than words could.
/r/seduction20/10/21 02:12 AM
2

I've bought drinks for girls before, but only when the conversation is already going well and she's already had at least one on her own. It's not a 'heres a drink to stay with me' move, more of a 'keep the party going, next round is you' thing. Never do it to get or keep attraction, only when it's natural, and go together instead of fetching it for her if you're not already at the bar. Make it a game if you want, "I bet I know exactly what you want to drink! Check this out." Then just order 2 of…
/r/seduction18/10/21 07:51 PM
6

Honesty doesn't have to mean being an asshole. If you find that being honest leads to women hating you, try inspecting yourself and what you're saying rather than the honesty part. What are you saying, how is it being received by them, and how could you improve that reception?
/r/seduction11/10/21 08:18 AM
3

I completely agree with the idea here, and I have couple of thoughts to add. First off, being honest doesn't mean being an unfiltered asshole, and it seems to me that you agree with this as well. Basic social skills still apply, and some guys take 'honesty' as an excuse to be dumbasses. This is not attractive at all. The other part that I would add to this is that I sometimes tell silly lies, especially in the opening minutes of an approach. Asking her if she and her friend met while living in a…
/r/seduction11/10/21 08:08 AM
7

Depends on what you mean. If you mean discussing things that are 'beneath' you, like not discussing the moral implications of Tolstoy's formulation of God, then yes. If you mean actually saying dumber things, then no. Unless a girl specifically expresses an interest in things that many would consider boring, then avoid it. That doesn't mean you have to be unintelligent, stop being observant, or speak / write with poor grammar. As in almost all conversations with anyone, you should start more gen…
/r/seduction29/09/21 08:05 AM
1

If you ask for a girl's contact and she offers you a social media profile, she's not into you. She most likely wants followers. Text apps like Whatsapp or Telegram are fine as substitutes for direct phone numbers. As for whether or not they enjoy the one night stands, that's really up to you, isn't it?
/r/seduction27/09/21 07:56 AM
4

Start small, my man. You've never even held a baseball bat, but you're asking for advice on hitting a homerun. Spend more time around women you find attractive. Get comfortable with them and learn how to help them feel more comfortable with you. Find one who you like and ask her to hang out one-on-one. I don't know if kids these days still go to the movies or what, but a picnic in the park is always good. Tell her to bring bread to throw for the ducks. Keep things chill, hold hands, kiss a bit, …
/r/seduction15/09/21 10:32 AM
2

Not very mnemonic, but correct.
/r/seduction06/09/21 08:01 AM
7

This is exactly correct. The only way rejection means anything is when it agrees with your own internal problems and shortcomings. Call Ol' Musky an idiot and he'll probably laugh and agree with you. Call your local yokel at the watering hole an idiot and you've got a fight on your hands. What's the difference? The internal vs. external conflict - congruence. Elon Musk knows that he's smarter than most people and accepts that even he does idiotic things from time to time - pure congruence, confi…
/r/seduction03/09/21 08:20 AM
122

You went the bad boy route because you wanted the confidence and assertiveness that people generally associate with bad boys. You don't have to do it that way, but that's the route many take. The reason 'be yourself' is such bad advice is because what it should really say is 'be better than who you are right now.' You don't need to change your personality to alter aspects of your behavior - Your personality is not equivalent to your behavior. You can be a nice guy who doesn't let people walk all…
/r/seduction03/09/21 05:08 AM
1

His point here is that while it is, in a sense, a numbers game, that's not the point. You need to sort out exactly what is blocking you from succeeding and then start working out how to fix those things. Yes, you'll be working through it publicly and you'll be failing quite a bit with an odd success thrown in here and there. Those successes will feel great, but you can't let them distract you from the fact that the work is not yet done. The work is never done until it no longer feels like game, …
/r/seduction23/08/21 05:23 PM
1

I'll tell you the same thing I tell busted dudes - Don't worry about your looks. The only part of your looks you should worry about is maximizing what you have with fashion, style, and general aura. Other than that, it's all about your social skills and how you deal with other people. It sounds to me like you have some mental blocks that are stopping you from confidence, and they probably stem from your ego. You're going to have to slap those down and get through to come out on the other side ab…
/r/seduction23/08/21 11:15 AM
5

Exactly this. Thanks for saving me the time of typing it.
/r/seduction18/08/21 08:22 AM
2

Sure man. Day game really is the best source for meeting women, but when you're getting started you need someone else there who knows what they're doing to help you fix problems and avoid huge issues like this. Hope you have some friends you can trust to help.
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:36 AM
7

I'm gonna echo the sentiments of a few of the other guys here. This story, assuming 100% validity, is probably caused by one of 2 things. 1) You're actually super creepy in your approach, whether intentional or not. Or 2) You LOOK like a creeper. Whether that's because you're overweight, skinnyfat with a ratty moustache, or you have civil war sideburns like that guy on r/RoastMe. Option 1 isn't something internet people can fix for you, you need a friend who can watch you and give you honest fee…
/r/seduction13/08/21 08:13 AM
5

This supposition is going to rely very heavily on what you consider to be direct. Based on what you've written here, it seems more like you're talking about escalation rather than direct openings. Escalation is a must for anyone, but for openers there are many different levels of direct that will have different results depending on your personality and location. Still though, I will side with you that, no matter your style of direct approach, they all blow indirect apporaches out of the water.
/r/seduction13/08/21 07:40 AM
1

Honestly, most anywhere. If you're working on bodybuilding, meet them at the gym. If you're a swimmer, meet them at the pool. If you're a Trekkie, meet them at conventions. Use your hobbies as a springboard to start off conversations, but you can strike up a conversation with people anywhere you go at all. Don't view any place or situation off-limits, except really obvious exceptions, like funerals I guess.
/r/seduction11/08/21 06:28 AM
9

Slouching. If you have the beta posture of slouched shoulders and turtle head forward, that's a HUGE turn off. Stand up straight with your shoulders back. Fidgeting or playing with things, like a straw in your drink. Hands in your pockets or unsure of what to do with them. Shows deep-seated self consciousness. Inability to make and hold eye contact. When you do break eye contact, looking down is the worst. Your eyes can scan other things happening in the venue, but looking down at a drink or tab…
/r/seduction16/07/21 09:33 AM
2

Depends heavily on your style. Are you smiling because you're generally happy? Or do you look like a slimy salesman? These are general rules, but honestly I break every one of these because of my personal style. It's all about coming off as genuine, not being a try-hard faking it.
/r/seduction16/07/21 09:25 AM
3

It's 100% not worth it if you're doing it for sex, FOMO, or random girls. It 100% IS worth it for improving your overall social skills and charisma in general. The fact is that meeting women, hooking up, dating, even marriage are all just byproducts of this skillset. You learn how to read social cues and respond in interesting and intriguing ways. You learn how to ask deeper and more interesting questions. You learn how to package a situation to make it more fun than it initially seems. You lear…
/r/seduction14/07/21 09:52 AM
1

I can't tell you that, you have to make your own decisions. But I wouldn't spend any more mental energy on her if I were you, and I'd only have meetups on your own terms.
/r/seduction11/07/21 09:39 AM
2

You're making excuses for her man. If a girl likes you enough, you are a higher priority than studying. Having two weeks off and not seeing you is also a massive red flag. You should always take priority over things that aren't time-restricted like studying. If she's in a hurry to get to work, that makes more sense, but rushing home to study? When she lives that far away from you? Makes no sense. Would be easier for her to bring her books and crash at yours. It's just an excuse and you've bought…
/r/seduction10/07/21 05:00 AM
1

Good. Now stop spending your most precious resources on her - time and attention. Unless you're in a relationship, which you clearly aren't, she's a booty call and nothing more. Treat it appropriately. No time, no attention, no worries.
/r/seduction09/07/21 09:52 AM
1

Why was she rushing? Cause she was just throwing you a bone. She wasn't that into it or she would've given you all the time you wanted. Fact is, she's leading the whole interaction between the two of you. It's probably too late to salvage this one, since changing personalities mid-stream is fairly impossible. However, use this and learn from it so you don't make the same mistakes in the future. YOU have to be the leader. YOU have to control the interactions. Everything goes on YOUR schedule and …
/r/seduction09/07/21 05:46 AM
11

My man, hate to break this to you, but she isn't that into you. You're the emotional tampon. "But she calls and texts me every day," right? My guess is most of it is to blow off steam or tell you about some baby mama drama from work. You're just an outlet for her to dump shit out and get some male attention. Sounds to me like she gave it up to you once, and now just teases you to keep you on the hook but she has no intention of banging you again, much less regularly. Is she banging someone else?…
/r/seduction07/07/21 08:54 AM
2

Just like everything in the world, it becomes easier the more you do it.
/r/seduction07/07/21 06:45 AM
5

Just ask her. "Is there anything I should bring over? Some pizza or drinks or something?" Simple enough, not needy, just a genuine offer. Don't overthink things like this. If you're worried about setting a precedent, let the precedent be 'When I offer to bring something, I can bring something.'
/r/seduction02/07/21 05:12 AM
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I will have to do some research to confirm when not at work.
/r/seduction30/06/21 09:22 AM
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RIP op's inbox.
/r/seduction30/06/21 07:51 AM
3

If I create it, it would likely be a short free version like some basics and getting a feel for my style, plus knowing that I'm not full of shit. Then the full course would be paid of course, this is how I pay the bills after all.
/r/seduction26/06/21 06:46 PM
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Well, I tried to send you a PM to talk to you more about it and it seems you have them disabled. If you would be interested in a video course or want to chat more on the subject, send me a message instead.
/r/seduction25/06/21 09:31 AM
3

I think we have located your problem.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:38 AM
20

I've been working as a dating coach for 7 years now and, while all my products are geared toward men, I've also coached several women on their special request. If I were to create a video course of dating advice specific to women, would you or other women you know be interested?
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:27 AM
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The point remains, regardless of the language. If you talk like this in Arabic, you're still going to have a very large barrier to success. Unless you're seducing 5th graders, I suppose.
/r/seduction25/06/21 08:02 AM
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My man, if you talk the way you type, I'd focus on your language skills first. I'm not sure if English is your first language or not, but either way, this was barely legible. Verbal communication and subtext are HUGE in seduction. You can't be bursting into rooms like the Kool-Aid man with walls of words, you'll need to smooth it out.
/r/seduction25/06/21 06:41 AM
1

Imagine the frustration you feel when a child keeps asking the same question again and again. Now imagine that it was a different child coming up to you and asking the same question 15 times every day. That's basically what attractive women go through with guys approaching them all the time. This is exactly why it's important to go through these failures and figure out how to separate yourself from the crowd. You never want to be "just another guy," you should always stand out from the crowd. Av…
/r/seduction18/06/21 06:03 AM
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I had issues with this before as well, but what I realized was that every time a girl was telling me I was husband material, she was telling me I cared too much about what she thought and I was too careful with my words. In essence, she told me I was censoring myself for her benefit, which is what a "good husband" would do. Once I realized that this was as much of an insult as I felt it to be, I changed entirely. I stopped censoring myself. I would be unapologetically sexual, playful, brash, and…
/r/seduction11/06/21 05:23 AM
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The biggest issue most guys I've seen have when asking for a number is that they don't have a reason for asking for it. If you're asking for a number because it's a conquest, it's pointless. If you're asking because 'maybe we can link up some time' or whatever, it's a waste of time. If you're asking because you have a legitimate reason to be contacting her in the future to seal the details of whatever you've spoken about, then she'll give it to you without any problem. You need to create some so…
/r/seduction26/04/21 09:05 AM
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Exactly the same. This is precisely what I coach guys to do as well, and while it's easy enough to understand mentally, it's a very difficult concept to actually implement. Most of the guys who come for coaching are more analytical than emotional and tend to have a tough time going with the flow of something. While I do break things down for them so they can have some sort of game plan, the ultimate reality is that none of it will really matter once it starts and they're going to have to figure …
/r/seduction17/03/21 05:17 AM
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Sure man, my pleasure. I always aim to help people, largely because when I was in a similar position in my life other people helped me through it. We now have the luxury of interweb communications, which is nice, but a lot of the advice is not as helpful as it could be.
/r/seduction15/03/21 06:01 AM
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Short answer: People judge themselves harder than other people, and create a death spiral of only looking at losses rather than wins along the way. That brings down their confidence, and each further loss reinforces that view. I assume that as you're posting here about it though, you're looking for a solution rather than a direct answer to this question, so I'll give some things that have worked for the guys I've coached. The first step to developing any sort of confidence is to, well, find thin…
/r/seduction09/03/21 10:47 AM
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