thesockgap Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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1	Is PUA for everyone? PUA can serve as a way to get you to recognize your depression and misanthropy and push you to find how to stop them, but it's fundaments don't work if you hate yourself and everyone around you. Being an introvert is different. You can love yourself and what you do and have genuine friends and relationships while needing more time on your own. As one, I think it's helped me overcome the fear of socializing caused by lack of experience. Before I had a ton of trouble socializing, and wouldn't dare…	/r/seduction	10/03/12 01:14 AM
5	How does one proceed after you find out she has a boyfriend? Sounds like you're developing a bit of oneitis. Yes, if you want go for it, but be ready to bail at the second sign that it's not worth it. You already got the first. Trying to play the long game with a girl with a bf will likely put you in the friendzone. I was recently in something like this, and I now think it's better to be upfront, go for broke and if she's not interested move on immediately.	/r/seduction	10/03/12 12:55 AM
1	[Mini FR] Never Have a Cold Approach Last More Than 10 Minutes At night I used to time my approaches to about 3 minutes, it's enough time to open up, tease a bit, learn a few things about her, then #-close. I like it because it reduces the annoyance of trying to talk over loud music, and if you hang around the place and she sees you again she'll be the one to approach back.	/r/seduction	10/03/12 12:44 AM
1	In general - what does it mean if a girl texts you saying she's getting hit on or checked out? I'm thinking of something like "Poor guy, doesn't know what he's in for..."	/r/seduction	04/03/12 08:55 AM
3	What's Wrong With Me? Stop this thought process. Women don't walk around with a spear ready to put it through your heart and laugh like maniacs about it if you dare to talk to them. They're people just like you, they have their own life, mentality, goals, things to do, baggage and issues. If you think about it, the chances that a woman is single, available, the girl of your dreams, looking for someone like you and that both your lives allow for something to happen are pretty slim. So rejection will happen, in fact re…	/r/seduction	04/03/12 08:24 AM
2	Why can't we be friends? I think being real friends and someone being friendzoned are very different things. If you want real girl friends, just use your confidence to build trust between you two and be honest about not wanting anything else. Trying to intentionally get friendzoned is just as bad as the lack of honesty to yourself that would put you in the friendzone for real with a girl you want. Friendzone relationships are dishonest by nature one way or another, why would you want to base a "friendship" on that?	/r/seduction	04/03/12 07:53 AM
1	[FR] First time trying to open girls at a bar Agreed, it's not cool to just stand there. If she doesn't involve you in the convo, leave on your own terms. If the chance presents introduce yorself and/or tease her for not doing so, otherwise just leaving is perfectly fine. When you could have done more is when she approached you to apologize. Think about it, she already knows who you are, is saving you the hardest part by approaching you, and you got the higher ground because she did something wrong and you can tease her endlessly about it i…	/r/seduction	04/03/12 07:21 AM
11	Okay, r/Seduction, when need to clear the air... I know that if a girl is wooed by this she's a keeper http://i.imgur.com/NOYDK.jpg	/r/seduction	03/03/12 04:02 PM
1	Fuck, all the girls I'm into end up hooking up with my friend so far! (Rant) What I was trying to say with cutting her off is that you should stop putting effort into initiating interaction with her. That's what kills you about oneitis, you invest too much energy into getting a single one and get too little in return. You don't have to stop talking to her, just make it so when you do it's in your terms, not out of need for her attention.	/r/seduction	29/02/12 11:39 PM
2	Fuck, all the girls I'm into end up hooking up with my friend so far! (Rant) Man, that sounds too familiar. I'm coming out from real bad oneitis, and just the same, messaging when from fun and exciting to something that just felt painful. My advice is to decidedly stop. If it's anything like my experience, you've realized it just hurts and trying harder just makes it worse. Cut her off your life as much as possible. Don't initiate conversation, and my best FB advice would be to tweak it so you can't see her, because that shit will constantly remind you she's there. Use t…	/r/seduction	29/02/12 05:11 PM
1	Just started uni, having trouble making friends - with girls in particular. Any advice? I think if conversation goes to a boring interview place it's because you let it. You know you can be funny and interesting in a safe environment with people you know, try analyzing what it is you do and why it works so well. Then strike up conversations with new people, and if you pay close attention to what they say and how they behave, more often than not they'll give you enough material to bring out your great conversation skills. It's also a good idea to find quick mental exercises to build…	/r/seduction	29/02/12 04:28 PM
7	[FR] F-Close, Approaches, Being friendly, Best night I've had in a while. I was thinking about something while reading. I've had my most PUAish moments when in my mind I just stop giving a shit and just go for it. I think being able to notice stuff like this is can be really helpful if you have trouble getting over the initial hesitation. Seeing it as a flaw, regardless of her intentions or awareness, will help one see her as just another person which makes approaching her way easier, or even a non issue like in your FR. It's the part I like about learning this stuff,…	/r/seduction	28/02/12 01:11 AM